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 Author Thread: Adjusting to being a Grandparent dating
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Adjusting to being a Grandparent dating
Posted: 11/29/2009 2:09:18 PM
Who cares? I have been a grandma (Nana) for almost 12 years now and it has never affected my dating. I even have been married and divorced in that time and it had nothing to do with my grandchildren. And I raised mine until about 2 years ago.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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A question about economics for the ladies.
Posted: 11/29/2009 2:03:54 PM
I , for one, am not looking for hardship right from date one...when unemployed and/or unable to care for myself, the last thing I feel I should do is hunt someone down to date and share this misfortune.

In a marriage, it is agreed that for better for worse - richer or poorer...in finding a date - that has NOT been agreed upon and should NOT be a given. I am not looking for someone to take care of finacially. For that, I have children.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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how long does it take
Posted: 11/21/2009 1:48:20 AM
As soon as the next one comes, or you learn to love and respect yourself and don't need anyone to validate you.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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silicon vs. carbon
Posted: 11/21/2009 1:45:52 AM
So now what - are we voting on who gets to invade/visit us? Never thought we'd have a choice. I vote for nice little cute kittens to invade/visit us.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Please help
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:09:20 PM
Your messages may be a bit 'off''. NEVER ask for contact right off the bat. Make a comment on their profile that you found amusing, interesting or whatever, then ask an impersonal question that you feel she would be interested in answering.

A real turn off for a lot of these gals is - wanna talk? wanna chat? I'd like to get to know you - (duh). Don't ask. Your answer will be in the next reply - if you get one. No reply = no interest. Do not take it personal. They do not know you nor you them.

See if they have posted on a forum or answered one and comment on that.

Good luck.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Love,Quality of life and who pays
Posted: 11/1/2009 4:44:04 PM
I would like a guy who can pull his weight and take on half the burden at least. I don't need another child to cater to, nor a 'master' to serve. I pull my weight and would expect nothing less from a fellow human in a relationship with me. It can go both ways, I am proof a gal can pull her own weight. If later something happens that the other cannot assist financially in the home, they could do other things or at leeast try to regain from what they lost. In case of illness, again the relationship would have to have been established before hand. I am sure most people are seeking as little burden to their life as possible and the actual goal is to improve it with someone to share life with, not have it taken from them. I am sure I have more, don't want to over tax the reader.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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How am I supposed to act on a first date?
Posted: 10/29/2009 4:31:39 AM
Behave as if you are you but out with a friend, a good friend that you respect. Relax, remember you both are on a date, she will have her anxieties as well. Maybe follow her lead until you can calm down inside enough to see that she is actually just a human being - like you.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Am I missing something here
Posted: 10/29/2009 4:26:42 AM
Everyone sees relationships differently. A lot of younger gals believe if a guy sleeps with them then they are a 'couple'. Those desparate enough will see a relationship where there is yet one. Live and learn.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Why do women chase involved men so much?
Posted: 10/26/2009 11:52:47 PM
Not this one.

Never have, never will.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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older men and younger women best chance for successful marriage?
Posted: 10/26/2009 11:48:51 PM
My grandfather was 3 years younger than my grandmother and they were married almost 60 years!!! I lady I work with is 10 years older than her husband of 32 years! It is the people, not the age.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Is it too late?
Posted: 10/26/2009 11:47:16 PM
When you are a great guy, age doesn't matter. It is not your age when they want someone different. It is you. I happen to enjoy men around my own age. I am 47.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Oral anal play?
Posted: 10/26/2009 11:39:14 PM
Yeah, it comes as a surprise to some. And the doofus who asked about your 'health...all sex parts are bacteria ridden...duh - they are very close. Fun is fun. Men could use a bit of encouragement n many areas ... just communicate.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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not getting replies?
Posted: 10/24/2009 1:26:08 AM
Well done, if a bit long. I actually do not have "outgoing" in my profile so the generalization was uncalled for...but common.

You never mentioned that they should not take things so personal...example a gentleman e-mailed me, I answered. I then logged off for whatever reason and he jumped to the conclusion that I left because of him - that I was 'scared' off. Of course I had no idea as I just got off to lead my regular life and not chained to a computer.

Maybe in your next post.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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date a girl who got out of a serious relationship?
Posted: 10/13/2009 7:57:55 AM
Oh, Sweetie, you are so young. She can't be much older. Just about all gals that age are in and out of relationships, it's a learning experience. Don't analize so increduously. Are you still with your 1st or 2nd girlfriend? Give her a break. Why judge when you don't know? She can't be ultra mature and stable at that age, who she is now is not who she will be when she grows up - neither will you be. Take a chance if you both have the desire and chemistry. Enjoy.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Common to feel a little depressed even if Dissolution your Idea?
Posted: 10/11/2009 12:49:38 AM
Any relationship that has failed is hard. Even ones that it is for sure in your best interest to get out of. You get over it - you really do. I have been divorced twice, and broke up God knows how many times. How does that make me sound? I don't care - a sucky relationship needs to end. One day we will find what we need.

Do for yourself, your family - keep busy. This too shall pass.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Where to meet?
Posted: 10/11/2009 12:42:00 AM
I would meet nearby at a public place - one never knows. I would NEVER go to his place on a first or blind date...maybe after a few weeks...I also would not give my address or let him to my place unless I knew him VERY well.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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I gotta get out of this place ...
Posted: 10/11/2009 12:39:02 AM
Never had to do that. Never had it happen to me, either. I thought that only happened on TV...
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Perfumes, my boyfriend bought it and now there's an issue
Posted: 10/11/2009 12:36:09 AM
I agree with the person who said - put it where I doesn't lick - at least tell him not to go for the areas that the perfume is on. What is the name of the perfume - I want some now...

Try putting it in your hair.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Happy to be out of a bad relationship.
Posted: 10/11/2009 12:32:58 AM
yeah
The relief of getting out of a stressful relationship is AWESOME...you feel so FREE!!!

I can soooo relate.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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pre-nups
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:28:38 PM
Without a doubt.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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silicon vs. carbon
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:26:57 PM
If we get 'visited' it will be beyond our control to decide what or who comes...why judge the rhetorical? Whatever happens, happens.

Carbon may be subjected to or carry viruses that are unsustainable to them or us...now I got to thinking...thanks.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Living in the same town
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:19:29 PM
Most of my ex's live nearby, never been an issue. Of course you will run into ex's who live in town, if that is where you were a couple together. If she lived in another state, would you just never go to THAT state? Most people date locally, ex's tend to be local.

Not going somewhere is letting her control you like that one fella said...move on - let it go.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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freinds with the ex
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:16:07 PM
I am friends with all my ex's...I can forgive and forget...remembering not to get involved again- of course. I cannot hold a grudge. Why should I be destroyed by negative emotion?
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Men wearing jewelry
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:09:57 PM
Anything in excess is bad, jewelry, cologne, layered clothes...

I don't mind none or some...big bling is a turn off.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Dating outside of one's race
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:01:56 PM
I turn down any race that is using sexually explicit verbage, rude or disrespectful e-mails or doesn't fit what I may be looking for in general, race never mattered to me, that is one thing that has no bearing.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Meeting a girl for the first time in real life...
Posted: 10/9/2009 10:59:20 PM
I love hugs...but ya' gotta smell decent. Bathe. Not that you don't...just in case someone out there reads this and doesn't think I mean them...I do.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Communicating every day
Posted: 10/9/2009 10:53:41 PM
Some use communication as a control tool. Beware of those who will text you ALL DAY, EVERY DAY. 'Specially if they get angry when you don't answer or don't answer quick enough.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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the eyes have it? or not ........
Posted: 8/24/2009 2:01:35 AM
I love nice eyes. Never had a creepy look. I smile at anyone who looks at me and sometimes talk - if appropriate.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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I want to be honest, but should I be a bit less sappy and/or dorky?
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:04:46 PM
Oh - length is another thing - yours is VERRRRYYYY long.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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I want to be honest, but should I be a bit less sappy and/or dorky?
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:03:52 PM
Be yourself, that is what I did. I never asked for a review because I really did not care, I figured if someone did not like what they saw - they were not for me. If you read mine - you will see right off that I like humor. If you are a goof - let it show. They will find out eventually.

P.S. Goof is good
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Please help
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:01:29 PM
I love your profile. I wish I lived in Canada now. I can find nothing wrong with it. You sold me...if you were closer, I'd have messaged you right off. Good luck.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:49:06 PM
I don't expect anything except a chance to meet someone, if it can be made to be a fun outing at the same time - that is a perk.

There are a lot of fella's who get on these sites just to get a piece...not all mind you but there ya are.

Everyone is different, enjoy the diversity.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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online
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:46:04 PM
Jealousy is a very selfish emotion. Seeking reasons to be jealous is also self destructive. One good thing to know is that usually the first to accuse is actually the one first guilty.

I have never been jealous, gal friends could say whatever they wanted even hug him...so what? It was me who got him in the end and I never doubted his fidelity. How can you care for anyone you do not trust? Cheating happens...if it is true, you will know without any doubt. In those cases, I just left and never looked back. When I give my heart to someone - I can't give it to another, it is no longer mine to give until it is given back.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Is this common?
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:35:37 PM
My nephew has 2 children with the same gal. Never married each other. They have 'broken up' at least a dozen times but seem to always get back together. He NEVER spends time with his kids. He also parties every chance and even sports 4 DUI's on his record thus no license...he has also lost a very well paying job due to his behaviors. Common...sadly yes. I do see fathers that actually BE fathers. I work with 3 that take parenting very serious even though not with their spouse.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Las Vegas
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:23:24 AM
Oh - I forgot...it does get cold there - specially at night - take a sweater (in the winter or fall).
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Las Vegas
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:22:29 AM
There are sites on the internet that will tell you exactly where the best deals are. Just google Las Vegas and have fun looking. If you like coins instead of paper when you win at slots - Slots of Fun next to Circus Circus is like the only place left that does coins. Do sign up for the game card - lots of deals from those.

Go to ATM's off the strip a bit to avoid large charges for getting your money out. Inside the casino's it can be over $16.00, depends.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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if you could be anywhere on this world where would it be and who would it be with
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:19:17 AM
I'd like to be on my own private island with my family and never have to work again...but I would settle for a trip to Daytona Beach to be with my son.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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how long does it take
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:17:41 AM
live and learn - men have done the same. Jerks come is both genders.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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First emails on a dating site...
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:08:14 AM
See if she has posted a reply in the forums - then comment to her on it. Agreeing works best. Ice breaker kinda' thing.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Female Orgasms...The greatest joy on Earth....
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:03:09 AM
Ya think maybe her 'fetish' may be seeing you pleased ? Every person is different. In most cases like you imply, it suggests a control issue you may have in the bed, or she just sees it that way.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Why do we women do this to ourselves?
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:00:21 AM
I don't. At times it has been hard to get rid of them though.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Planets in morning sky
Posted: 6/26/2009 5:06:46 AM
Cool. Ever think maybe a telescope may work better than binoculars? I love looking at the stars. I live in the country so I get to see a lot of stars...on a clear night.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Pychotic interactions.
Posted: 6/26/2009 5:04:37 AM
You may be a bit too analytical. Just answer a question as it is given without thinking it is in another language and may mean something else. Should someone have asked me that question, I would answer...this site is pretty cool, with all the forums and stuff or not really getting what I expected...blah blah blah. It did not seem a hard question to me.

She may be the odd one out, but obviously you need to move on and just enjoy - it is what it is...nothing more, nothing less. See? You could have said that! Not rocket science, sweetie.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 6/26/2009 4:52:14 AM
write time is right, one may go along with the 'idea' hoping it will blossom into something more. But nevertheless many will have their own judgement there are those who judge as you say and others who do not. It is not a gender specific situation, both genders have people that can and do. Forget what others think, it is what YOU think that matters.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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does breaking up with him mean I broke up with his family?
Posted: 4/29/2008 9:38:25 PM
My son and his girl broke up, she and I are still very good friends. Depends on the relationship to begin with I suppose.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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do u understand why people looking for sex bother with a site like this?
Posted: 4/29/2008 9:36:25 PM
My first guess would be because it has worked for them in the past at least once, or else they figure once they can talk someone into meeting them, they will have a better chance at 'gettin'some'.

There are different reasons for joining these sites, I like the forums, no big hurry to find someone.

Jill
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Friends, Romans, Temple Guards, Lend Me Your Ears
Posted: 12/21/2007 12:32:55 AM
Maybe the guy had really big ears and kinda small head.....
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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As 2007 draws to a close, what benefits did you achieve from simplifying your life and letting go ?
Posted: 12/21/2007 12:23:54 AM
I really down sized. I sold my house, moved to the country to be with my parents (while I still have them). Very nice for a while...then my daughter had issues with her husband and needs me as badly as my folks (my Mom has MS and my Dad just had a triple bypass last Fri and got home today.

PS AVOID THE CLEVELAND CLINIC AT ALL COSTS - GO SOMEWHERE ELSE THAT ACTUALLY IS A GOOD HOSPITAL
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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any mechanics wanna answer a Q?
Posted: 12/21/2007 12:11:01 AM
When my thermostat went out, I got water INSIDE my car. But find from where the water comes, that will be the best bet in fixing it. Hose, seals, etc...that water goes many places as it keeps the engine cool.
 jr52052
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Ladies please help! Am I a loser?
Posted: 12/20/2007 11:58:20 PM
It could mean that she is just making sure she is not the 1st of you two that shows their heart. Don't read more into it than it is. Try telling her how you really feel and may hap she will tell you how she really feels.
 
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