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 Author Thread: Catch Me If You Can
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Catch Me If You Can
Posted: 2/23/2009 7:39:33 PM
Totally disagree with just about every word of this. But Burgundy, loved the movie, bought the soundtrack, brilliant!...stay classy.



This is not a widely known fact but it should be:

If a woman is easy to get and keep, we lose interest and want something else.

If she's harder to get, we want her more. If she makes the relationship challenging but rewarding, we'll be more likely to tough it out.

People deny these facts up and down. They all live in a theoretical world. When you think about it, it's entirely true for both genders.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Catch Me If You Can
Posted: 2/23/2009 7:17:23 PM
I don't know, most of the time I see a lady asserting/asking about men and their love of the chase the predominant response is, "I must have missed that memo because I don't really care for it so much". Personally, I prefer open, honest communication where two people who like each other both express that without one them needing to "chase" the other. Chasing is a pain in the a$$, IMHO.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
My walls are up, is he too needy
Posted: 1/17/2009 11:38:21 PM
Seems to me that you have sort of done the right thing by spelling out your situation. If he is determined not to hear what you've said, however, then maybe it is time to demonstrate where you're coming from. Be less available when he wants to include you in his life perhaps. When he asks you out again just tell him you feel like hanging out with yourself or, if it so happens to be the case, that you're seeing someone else. Maybe you should say the words, "let's just be friends". I know that when a girl I'm interested in romantically says those 4 magic words to me it will probably be the last time we speak, unless we just happen to cross paths accidentally.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 46 (view)
 
What do I do when American men are ...
Posted: 7/28/2008 7:14:44 PM
I suppose you have to assess the individual making the self deprecating remark as to whether it really is a joke that they think is funny or if it's an attempt to disguise self loathing. If it's really meant to be funny I usually go one of two directions. I may respond with a counter claim about how much worse I have it (and therefore I win!). Usually though I will find a way to agree with them. For instance, if someone were to bemoan how fat and stupid they were I might say to them, well, of course that's true but you forgot to add the part about having a small wiener. Hiromi said you had a micro-penis, remember? And then mirthful laughter would ensue.

Now if it's really about insecurity and self loathing, I don't know, maybe you can point out why you think they're being too hard on themselves. Of course if you pretty much agree with the statement you're kind of stuck.

If you're out of all other options just say "your momma" and walk away. It's a classic so even if it's confusing and makes no sense whatsoever, it will garner you a bit of old school respect.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 10:26:46 PM
Ladies, the non-verbal, non-direct approach can work if you are confident enough to be fairly obvious in their application. I once experienced this with a woman who was a colleague of sorts (worked in the same field as I but not with the same organization). When she first came to the area I asked her out, only to be turned down (she said she was in a long distance thing). I didn't know if that was true or if she was just being nice, but the effect was that I never made any move in that direction afterwards.

Fast forward a few years and we had developed a really good chemistry together, unmistakably flirtatious, but still I'm not gonna go there. One day, though, she took matters into her own hands. We were out with a group of people at an event she had arranged and I was there mostly to support her effort. As it was breaking up I was delayed getting back to my truck as a few of her co-sponsors wanted to speak with me a bit. By the time I did get back to the truck it was just the two of us left and as I was driving by her car she stepped across the road and motioned for me to roll down the window. I figured we were just going to chat about the days events and then I'd be on my way. Well, we did just that but the conversation was being conducted on two entirely different levels all at once. On the surface everything was matter-of-fact, almost mundane. However beneath the surface, non-verbally, she was being quite intense. As I rolled down the window she leaned in close to my face (uncomfortably close), and smiled (a beautiful, seductive smile) as we talked about the days presentation. The pace of her words was slow and her cadence was almost lyrical. The pitch of her voice seemed just a little higher than usual. I could feel the warmth of her words on my face, she was so close. As we spoke to one another she held my gaze steady and unblinking. It was hypnotic. The contrast between the words we were saying to each other and the physical manner in which they were being said was shocking and the effect was riveting, to say the least. Not one word passed between us regarding attraction but I would have felt perfectly justified in kissing her on the spot (the only reason I didn't is because I was involved with someone else at the time). I have to say though, she was no beginner, the girl had serious communication skills.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Never been hit on by women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:09:57 PM
Well you asked for comments from guys who've never been hit on and I don't qualify, but I will tell you of an approach that, cheesy as it sounds, worked a charm on me. I was sitting at a bar in Vegas just playing video poker and enjoying the lounge act when a cokctail waitress walks up to me, smiles, points across the room to a table of ladies, singles out one of them and tells me that the lady would like to buy me a round of whatever I'm having. Female attention and free booze, VERY effective! Later on she had her wanton way with me and I felt cheapened, but I got over it.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
I'm working at my bf's restaurant.. Is this a mistake?
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:57:11 PM
I bet this would be better than 90% of the reality TV out there. Call FOX now!
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
`Hi` Needs more?
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:56:50 PM
heh...it is kind of funny that you're meeting these pretty girls while, I assume, you are on the job as a paramedic. Maybe say something like, "hi, my name is Drew, APPLY STEADY PRESSURE HERE TO STOP MY HEART FROM BREAKING!!!, (point to lips). That'll either work or it won't.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
why ?
Posted: 6/23/2008 4:57:43 PM
Dude, from your description of things it looks like you opened your heart up to a stone cold biatch and she just stepped all over it. Obviously you're hurt by that but you should also be royally pissed. Use that anger, not for destructive purposes but for steel in your resolve to move past this woman and on to a better woman (after all, isn't that something to look forward too?). Emotionally she's removed you from her life and there is no sentimentality about it. Time to do the same to her. Find happiness with someone new, and better. It's the best thing you can do for yourself and for your kids.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/18/2008 9:58:17 AM
Ahh...this topic reminds me of that old TV show I used to watch as a kid. Does anybody else remember that show, Hee-Hoe? Good old Corn Cob County with all of it's pickin' and grinnin' residents like Roy Clark, Buck Owens, The Hager Twins, Missy, Granpa Jones, and cousin Minnie Pearl...memories. Life was simpler in Corn Cob County.

But back to the post, it's simple too. It's called self respect and self worth. Getcha some and this won't be a puzzler at all.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 122 (view)
 
Workable pickup lines to use on a guy
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:35:56 PM
I once witnessed a sort of pick up line and a counter offer, with only two words spoken. It went like this....girl gives the whistle (you know, the wheeet wooo whistle) as a guy walks by. He turns in mid stride and says, "want some?". But she must have been a little shocked with the speed and directness of his response because by the time she picked her jaw up off the ground he had strode out of range. Pretty efficient communication though.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Kissing the hand, etc. ...
Posted: 4/28/2008 5:59:11 PM
He knelt? um...gosh, that's not your everyday sort of move. Was there a cape and a hat sporting a large plumage of brightly colored feathers anywhere nearby? Cause if there was I'm guessing musketeer. Yep, they are rare, true. But there have been books written about them so, they did exist and perhaps, m'lady, they still do.

As for the "beautiful lady" comment, what's he suppose to say, "Hey there homely"? That would not be chivalrous and thus contrary to his code. Why, any man so cretinous as to say such a thing, even were it true, should be run through with a rapier!!!...sorry, got carried away there.

Maybe you are an attractive woman and modesty does not permit you to acknowledge so? I dunno...say hi to Dartanian though.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Spitzer is he another Victum?
Posted: 3/11/2008 11:13:06 PM
Yes, a well known side effect of Viagra is an uncontrollable urge to launder money through offshore accounts under various aliases, including using the name of one of your most generous campaign donors, in order to buy first class air fare for $4000 hookers to fly to Washington DC to do you in the Mayflower Hotel. In fact, I think the surgeon general has mandated that a warning label be added to all bottles of Viagra advising extreme caution.

Poor #9, he just didn't listen.

Of course the other possibility is he's just a douche bag...
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Will dating get better after the election?
Posted: 3/6/2008 9:16:53 PM
What the frig would the election have to do with dating? The only person who's dating life is going to get better after the election is Bubba's. If Hillary loses he's probably gonna be single and if she wins, hey, a fresh batch of 18 year old interns. And this time they all probably expect to put out so it's a sure thing.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
What is up with the mind games??
Posted: 12/3/2007 7:41:10 PM
OP, are you saying that you have a male friend who you are attracted to, have sent what to you are obvious signals, and he's acting as if nothing has happened? If so there could be a couple of things going on. One, maybe he just didn't get the clue. Guys are famous for that, you know? Maybe he is not attracted to you in that way and just doesn't want to tell you so because he thinks it would be hurtful to you. He cares about your feelings so he figures the easiest solution is to play dumb, no rejection of you then. Maybe he has other girls he's trying to romance and he doesn't want to string you along in the meantime. Of course, he could be a manipulative prick too. But you would be in a better position to decide which is the case than anyone in this forum, don't you think?
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 78 (view)
 
He doesn't see me as his girlfriend, don't know what to do now
Posted: 10/26/2007 8:36:55 PM
Is there any chance you could convince this guy to write a book detailing his technique?

Seriously, your options are walk away and never look back (you may run into your self respect just over the hill), or stick around for more of the same, along with a continued decline in your emotional well being. Good luck OP.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
The Man of My Dreams until he heard my voice.....
Posted: 9/27/2007 7:43:03 PM
Hey OP, sorry to hear of your pitfall on the road to romance. Unless your voice is just sonicly painful to the guys ears, I don't understand why a mere preference would stop him from meeting someone he clicked with otherwise. It makes no sense to me.

I never really used to have an opinion on the raspy-voiced-woman thing until I got to work with one. She's very attractive and, I have to say, her voice just adds to her appeal. I think the rasp in her voice actually causes her speak more softly in a way, maybe to avoid sounding harsh or something. It's sweet.

As for your dilemma, maybe there's nothing to be done with this guy. After all, he's probably now even more resolved than before that your voice is a problem area for him. For the other fellas you might get to know online I would suggest that maybe you mention in your profile that you have a sexy wisp of a rasp to your voice. At least there will be no shock to it when you finally do speak with them.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
He calls only when he wants
Posted: 9/24/2007 10:13:14 PM
You're being manipulated. It's a way of asserting control over you and, at the same time, conditioning you to accept this behavior. My vote would be to toss the stupidfish back into the pond. Though some fisherman consider it a common courtesy to gut the stupidfish and leave it's carcass on the banks of the pond, so that others may avoid their own pointless encounters with it....metaphorically speaking of course. You probably shouldn't REALLY gut the guy, that might be taking things a bit far. :-)
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Amish Frogiveness
Posted: 9/14/2007 6:18:51 PM
We forgive way too much, way too easily. The goodness of forgiveness is more cliché than real, in my opinion. Hate is a totally natural emotion and it is totally appropriate in a case like this. Hatred is bad only when taken to irrational extremes and you begin to hate that which you have no logical reason to. Forgiveness may be justified when the harm can be repaired and the offender is truly contrite. It may be justified when the greater good is served by letting a grudge go by the wayside. And perhaps when the cost of holding on to hate is emotionally perilous to the righteous possessor of it, it becomes necessary to, at least to some extent, let it go. But these should be rational, well thought out, choices and not simply axiomatic, dogmatic, reflexive impulses wrought by religiosity or just "feel good" slogans, IMHO. Yes hate can destroy you, if you let it, but it can also compel you to make good, rational choices about how to move your life forward, and how to shape the kind of society you wish to live in.

Having said all of that however, I don't believe in guilt by association. I don't think it would be right to condemn the low-life's wife and kids because the of horrific acts he committed, provided that they were in no way complicit with them. Donating money to them is an incredibly generous act, to be sure. But, if I read the story correctly, they bundled the cash with forgiveness for the murder as well. I totally disagree with this.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Are women impressed by feats of strength?
Posted: 9/9/2007 9:09:40 AM
To Frau Blücher - technically this did constitute an airing of the grievances so, let's face it, feats of strength are also bound to occur. And, given the urgency of the matter and the non-holiday setting, foregoing the Festivus pole is, I think, a forgivable faux paux. Had the incident occurred in ones home, where a Festivus pole would, of course, be at hand or in a strip club or firehouse where makeshift poles are available, it's true, this display would be terribly uncouth. But in this somewhat unusual circumstance, perhaps the lady was being just a bit strict in her devotion to tradition. And if the lady's objection was to the timing of the event, really, shouldn't we be open to celebrating the spirit of Festivus 365 days a year?

I think the lady should have picked up the phopne on that 30th call to say...all is forgiven. After all, isn't that what Fesitvus is all about?

TF
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
When to say it...
Posted: 9/6/2007 7:33:56 PM
If you could actually tell me things about 'the visitor' that were accurate, specific, and lacking in vagueness, and there is no reasonable way to know these things other than being in touch with the "other side", then I'd be impressed. I guess that would be a way to prove your bonafides. Otherwise I'd feel I was being made privy to your nightclub act, or your delusions. Either way, option 2 is not good.

To be honest though, the only reason I'd even be that open to it is because I had a friend in college who claimed to have the same ability and he told me things about a departed loved one that, while not being 100 percent accurate, were so close to the truth, and very specific, that I was left shaken and wondering about it all. For instance, he described this persons pet, including an accurate physical description, and came with one letter of speaking the animal's not-very-common name. This was information I'd never discussed with anyone so it creeped me out some.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 33 (view)
 
What moves you from buddy to girlfriend?
Posted: 8/9/2007 8:15:06 PM
Umm, me Ogg. Ogg like chase things. Ogg like chase shiny things. Ogg see shiny earring. Ogg chase now. Ogg find out shiny earring attached to **** on wheels (wheel just invented recently, btw). Seriously, Ogg no have time for great big pile of brontosaurus poop like this. Ogg leave now.

If Ogg live in Carolina Ogg much rather find nice, warm hearted tall girl who bear striking resemblance to Mimi Rogers. Maybe she be nice to Ogg. NICE leave **** sucking down southbound fumes of northbound dinosaur any day of week!

Ogg out...
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Can you pinpoint.......
Posted: 7/25/2007 8:29:42 PM
Years ago, when I was a deckhand on a salmon fishing boat, the skipper invited one of his old friends to join us for the day. He was a cool guy, a genuine "Old Salt" of a sea captain who had piloted huge vessels, including supertankers, all over the world. Must have been about 80 years old at the time, he was, and he had seen a lot of changes in a lot of places. Well we got to talking about the good old days in San Fransisco. He told me about how when he was young sailor he'd pull into port there and party like mad, drink 10 cent shots of whiskey, and buy a few tokens for a 2 bucks a each to purchase, as he put it, "a fine piece of ass". It was all perfectly legal, above board, and operated in a businesslike fashion. The girls made a respectable living and he had, literally, the time of his life. But over the years things changed and all the great times he'd had were regulated, taxed, or outright criminalized out of existence.

I remember standing at the bow of our boat as we headed back into port, the modern city itself in plain view, listening to his wistful tale of this wonderland of freedom and fun from a bygone era until finally he fell silent. We just stood there listening to the deep rumble of the twin diesel engines shoving us ever forward and gazing, glassy eyed, at the near endless ocean before us, thinking. Finally he broke the silence and uttered something profound, words that have shaped my life ever since. "It was the politicians", he said, "they f-u-c-k-e-d it all up!" And that, my dear, is the answer to y0ur question and, as I have found throughout life, so many others as well.

Thanks Captain O'Brien, wherever you are...
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Is my son normal??
Posted: 6/9/2007 7:47:47 PM

I found him butt naked d1ck in hand. I kept my composure, pointed the mommy finger in face and continued with eye contact.


If at this moment he went stopped the activity and went limp, maybe pulled the sheets up over the area in question, he's normal. If, on the other hand, he continued to stroke it while also maintaining direct eye contact, I'd say not so normal.

Seriously there ma, I applaud your sense of discipline, if not your sense of timing. :-)
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Am I too ugly for a gf?
Posted: 6/3/2007 11:56:03 PM
Hey Moose, I'm not a girl and so I can't answer your question. Perhaps, though, my experiences here and in the 'real world' could help a bit. I would feel bad for you, or anyone else, who thought of themselves as ugly. Even though I am not a religious person I still see miracles all around me, every day, when I see my fellow human beings. Flawed miracles to be sure, but life, on some level, is astounding and amazing. Likewise, I consider myself to be a miracle, though I try to be humble about it. Once you have that sense of yourself and others there will be times when the petty details of getting through another day fade and you see people on a deeper level. That's when they may get a glimpse of you on a deeper level as well. How can that not be impressive, even beautiful in some way? I realize that all sounds a tad metaphysical but, I believe, it is a real part of the equation of attraction.

And when women say they appreciate intelligence and humor, they're not lying. They are also elements of attractiveness. If you have those qualities within you, use 'em wherever you can.

That's my approach at least, Moose. Not everyone can see my miracle but some do, believe me. And some of those, both here and elsewhere, just happen to be very, very attractive women.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Guy is over 35 and he still rents.
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:07:57 PM
Holy crap! A thread with well reasoned debate, useful information, relatively mild amounts of juvenille name calling, and a surprising lack of cynisism or bitterness? I'm stunned... Oh yah, I'm also throwing in with those who rent, don't pay property taxes or interest on massive loans, and instead invest in stocks and bonds. It's a choice I'm happy with.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Are you still thinking Chinese women are submissive?
Posted: 5/29/2007 11:57:17 PM
I imagine that Chinese women would also think he's a loser and similarly treat him like crap.

Just a thoery.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
stop dating now!
Posted: 5/27/2007 8:57:09 PM
Screw work!!!







.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Lets Get Racial!
Posted: 5/23/2007 11:06:09 PM
Hey PBjellyTIME, your little girl looks like a sweetheart. The innocence of a child is one of the most beautiful things in the world and it has nothing to do with race. Any person who sees color before that doesn't deserve the privilege of getting to know either of you.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Older gentlemen please??
Posted: 5/20/2007 7:30:12 PM

Yeah um thanks for that TF - NOT - I'm trying to make it better and somehow I don't think that would do the trick. A little bitter?



Nope SD, just being a smart ass. Not particularly helpful, I admit, but at leas I made myself chuckle...
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Older gentlemen please??
Posted: 5/19/2007 8:54:54 PM
Well obviously something has gone wrong if this happens. I think the proper thing to do in a situation like this is to, very loudly, exclaim "Oh my god! What has happened to you? What is wrong with you?". Repeat this several times, raising both the volume and pitch of your voice with each repetition. This will serve to bring him back to focus and motivate him to perform like a champion. Try that, you can thank me later.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
men... do you consider your woman the better half?
Posted: 5/15/2007 1:19:54 PM
Well sexii_hunnii87, I think the "better half" idea springs from the romantic side of men. It's not a rationalized balance sheet conclusion. It's a measure of adoration that men have for the women they love. If he loves you, respects you, and is proud of you he'd want to announce that to others. Saying you're his better half is a way to do that.

Now to look at it another way, your way sexii_hunnii87, as a balance sheet statement, I'd have to point out the fact that, on average, men die at an earlier age than women. I wonder what could be the cause of that? hmmm? What could it be? Could it be some mysterious, as yet unidentified, force that just sucks the life out of men???? sexii_hunnii87???
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 40 (view)
 
The most attractive thing about a girl is...?
Posted: 5/8/2007 11:21:12 PM
Gluteus maximus, darlin'.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
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Please help me understand
Posted: 4/29/2007 7:37:41 PM
I think you should go with whatever style you feel compliments you best. Some of the most beautiful women I've known kept their hair short. And there was nothing masculine about them either. In fact, they were the essence of feminine beauty.

This notion that women with short hair look manly makes no sense to me. And the further notion that feeling attraction for a woman with short hair somehow reveals homosexual tendencies is one of the most idiotic things I can think of.

OP, there are those who will disagree with me on this but, as always in such instances, they're wrong.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Predicament....
Posted: 4/27/2007 6:16:53 PM
Experimentation with bondage and pain are easy to bail out of if you don't like it. Suffocation, obviously, can kill you and playing around with it has put many people in the ground. It's putting yourself in an incredibly vulnerable position with someone who is into pushing things to the extreme. I'd say this guy is a little too kinked to play safe with.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Feminism and relationships
Posted: 4/22/2007 9:46:50 PM
In response to charmingsecret: I hate to break it to you but boys are girls, and men and women are different at a level deeper than the anatomical. The fact that societies the world over, through all of time recognize this and structure themselves accordingly is not the product of a fantastically disciplined conspiracy by the boys to hold down the girls. It's just a product of the acceptance of the facts of life.

Now, the expression of those differences in the structure of a society can vary widely, radically, for the good or bad of both sexes. That's where we all need to work together, to make a world where, despite our differences, we all get fair treatment (perhaps we agree on that last part). We don't need to pretend, though, that there are no real differences between the sexes other than those secured by the "patriarch".

As for not liking to be objectified, you have a major problem, as do we all, I suspect. Because, once again, you are objecting to human nature. Men are objectified too, by the way. I guess I don't speak for all men but, as for me, I ignore it, to the point that it really doesn't even register. I don't, however, demand that the rest of the world stop doing what comes natural.

I make no apologies to anyone for my manhood. I am not, despite feminist dogma insinuating otherwise, a rapist, or even a potential rapist. I am not an abuser or exploiter of women and no amount of feminist brow-beating will alter that reality. In truth, I love women. I don't apologize for that either.

And charmingsecret...you're hot!
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What could it mean if...
Posted: 4/22/2007 6:57:40 PM
OP, what it would probably mean if it were me is that I like you and I like spending time with you but I'm not feeling the same thing coming back my way from you. Telling you he wants to hang out again is a way of putting the ball in your court. If he was wrong and you are interested he's invited you to invite him out. If he was right and you don't want to pursue something with him you can just choose not to make the call.

But I bet he's hoping you make the next move.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Please explain why guys who cannot spell intelligent are looking for 'intelegent' girls
Posted: 4/21/2007 10:51:37 PM
HaHa...you misspelled able!

I think our education system does a pretty sucky job at teaching spelling and grammar. One thing I hated in high school, but grow ever more appreciative of since, is all the Greek and Latin roots I had to memorize in AP English. It really gives you a greater understanding of the english language and how to use it well.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Why me?
Posted: 4/21/2007 10:30:57 PM
mmm...could be he's a**** OP, I hope you establish paternity in a court and then sue for support. Make the dude be at least half a man.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Are GOOD hearted women a bad catch????
Posted: 4/19/2007 5:49:31 PM

Can a man really change if he has hurt you??


Just a theory OP, but maybe you get burned a lot because your good heart gets in the way of your "F this guy, he's a loser" brain. Do you have a hard time turning away screwed up people because you refuse to accept that there are plenty of your fellow human beings who have little, if any, redeeming value?

I see so many shallow, petty reasons that people exclude others as possible partners it's ridiculous. But there are some who go too far in the other direction and let low-life users move on in and do their thing. The results should not be surprising.

And now to totally confuse the message OP, I will tell you that a woman with a big heart is absolutely magical, beautiful to me. hehe...you just need a hard ass like me in your life to deliver the boot to all the weasels that come around.
 Terrible Flirt
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Why is it so hard to get men to talk about their work?
Posted: 4/19/2007 5:30:23 PM
Hmm...Didn't know this was really a problem. I think my work is interesting but it is pretty technical and I guess, unless you have a similar background, the nuts and bolts of it might come off as boring. I guess I wouldn't really think to talk a lot about it unless someone expressed an interest (or at least did a good job of faking it) . Then I would have no problem doing so.
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Msg: 14 (view)
 
do you support women in the military?
Posted: 4/7/2007 12:06:58 PM
It's a complicated question OP. I don't think it is wise to have women in combat units, regardless of their ability to serve well in them. I think, as terrible as it is, we are more accustomed to men fighting and dieing in combat. If a large amount of women were killed in combat or taken prisoner, which may be even worse when you think about what could happen next, I think it could weaken our nations resolve to press on and continue the sacrifice to win a war.

Another problem is that women in the military will inevitably cause stupid political interference with the most efficient operation of our military. It's not your fault OP but it will happen because of your presence. I don't think there is any real debate over the fact that the military has been forced to lower certain physical strength/endurance standards for soldiers so that more women can meet them. Now the standards weren't established in the first place in order to exclude women. They were established to assure that difficult, physically demanding tasks could be reliably performed. Lowering those standards for political reasons will get people killed. That's a hard reality to accept but this doesn't make it any less real.

As for the attitudes of the people you serve with, that's an issue too. I guess if we all behaved as consummate professionals then personal opinions would not have an effect on how we perform our duties. Unfortunately, as your experiences have demonstrated, the reality is not so ideal. I suppose strict enforcement of discipline could help quash overt displays of disagreement with your presence but a level of resentment could still silently impair your unit’s military effectiveness.

I don't know the best way for the military to best utilize the amazing talents and brave hearts of the tens of thousands of women who step forward to serve our country. I admire you very much OP for wanting to defend your country and fight for good and right. I also don't think that there is any real debate as to the vital importance of the contributions made by our women warriors. Even in the absence of political carping the leaders of our military openly state that our military could not function on the same level without the contributions of our female soldiers.

My solution would be to ban politicians from the military! Better answers would follow.
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Msg: 14 (view)
 
How do I get over a guy I know is no good for me.
Posted: 4/6/2007 12:21:25 AM
I think the best thing you can do is to realize that you are an individual just as he is. It may be difficult not to generalize and project all the negative characteristics of this relationship onto all future relationships but you will learn nothing from it if you do. You may learn a lot by forcing yourself to examine his negative qualities, as you appear to have done, but understand that he was only half of the equation. You played a part in it as well. Perhaps you saw his flaws early on but looked passed them for reasons that speak to a flaw in your own judgment or character. It's hard to accept that responsibility but you won't grow from this if you don't.

Is this making any sense OP? It's late and I am tired so maybe I'm babbling a bit. The bottom line is that you as an individual can learn from this and make better choices about other individuals , male or female, that come into your life.
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Msg: 42 (view)
 
Guys crude question!
Posted: 4/5/2007 5:54:36 PM
It's all good. Just remember though, to let the guy come up for air once in a while. Otherwise you could kill a man.
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Msg: 17 (view)
 
The Cookie
Posted: 4/5/2007 5:46:14 PM
I like Richard Pryor's line on the subject..."There is no such thing as bad pu$$y. Any of you ladies out there in the audience think you have bad pu$$y, meet me after the show and let me give you a Second Opinion."
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Msg: 10 (view)
 
About the Body Type field...
Posted: 4/3/2007 10:27:43 PM
I chose "A Few Extra Pounds" because "King Of The Beasts" wasn't one of the options offered. I also listed my height and weight you so you could reach that conclusion yourself.

If you want to know more than that you're gonna have to perform your own physical examination....which I'm not opposed to, by the way.
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Msg: 26 (view)
 
Why don't men ...
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:58:35 PM

Why are we expected to wear pretty but sometimes uncomfortable underwear (sexy bras, stockings), outerwear and footwear when men wear flat shoes/trainers, jeans, t-shirts or jumpers.


Cuz you're a girl, silly. How's a guy going to look in all that stuff.
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Msg: 8 (view)
 
Caviar : over-hyped and over-priced ?
Posted: 3/30/2007 12:14:49 AM
Well, here in the wilds of Idaho, one trys to not eat the bait, doesn't one?
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Msg: 4 (view)
 
Writing a letter to a Guy... Advice please!
Posted: 3/29/2007 7:21:40 PM
Letters! We don't need no stinking Letters!

geez lady, just hand the guy the condom and lick your lips for a sec. If he doesn't get the message send him home to mommy.
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Msg: 8 (view)
 
smokers
Posted: 3/29/2007 7:05:03 PM

Hmmmmm. So, would you feel the same way about dating someone who was overweight? Same devistating effects on their health.


Yes, it's very analogous. And if you are pointing a finger at me when you mention this, as I said, I have my struggles in life as do we all. But if you are engaged in the struggle to better yourself, well, you have my best wishes and a measure of respect.
 
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