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 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
What's going on here?
Posted: 4/11/2012 7:58:44 AM
There are just as many jaded men. I bypass the negative profiles. Most of us have had bad experiences at some point in time, no need to dwell on them...or whine about them. I'm not into people who enjoy playing the victim.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Will she ever love me?
Posted: 8/1/2007 6:16:05 PM
I checked out your profile for the heck of it and was quite surprised to see that you're 27. Reading what you wrote, I honestly thought that you guys must be 19/20. How old is this girl because she certainly doesn't sound like an adult. The only "special connection" I see is that you were both involved in something that was not on the upandup which I guess could be seen as "special." In any case, if she felt what you did, and she's no longer with her bf, I'd assume she'd have met you right away. Like I said though, anyone who does what she did to her bf, will do the same thing to someone else. That's what you really want? Most men your age wouldn't even give this a second thought.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Will she ever love me?
Posted: 8/1/2007 4:06:10 PM
Not to judge, but you didn't find anything wrong with talking to a female who had a bf for 1-3 hours a night? You were both playing with fire. Quite frankly don't you think you're better off? She was talking to you behind her bf's back so if you were to become her new bf, she'd screw you over too. I wonder how many other guys she was texting "I love you" to. Move on kiddo. There are better women out there.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Ladies, You Are To Easy
Posted: 8/1/2007 4:02:59 PM
I hate to put this so bluntly, but then again you were pretty darn cocky, so what the heck. Have you ever stopped to think that the women you speak of may just not see you as being worthy of the challenge?
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
are kids a turnoff?
Posted: 8/1/2007 3:58:49 PM
Personally, a man with kids is not for me. First of all, what happens if you get involved with the kids and then things don't work out. Not a great scenario. Secondly, a lot of times there's an ex attached to those kids...again not always a pleasant scenario. Just not for me.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
a man buying you lingerie?
Posted: 8/1/2007 3:56:02 PM
"How would you like to repay him if he passes the grade on what he buys for you? "

If my boyfriend bought me a gift and expected "repayment" I'd say here....this can be returned! I'm not into giving gifts to get something in return. How tacky.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Women- why can't you be friends with a guy, after you break up ?
Posted: 7/28/2007 9:05:34 PM
"just because you are not 'doing it' anymore should not mean that there is no basis for a friendship"

So you're saying your relationships are solely based on sex. Well if that's all that existed in the "relationship" to begin with, then there wasn't much in the way of friendship now was there.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
I think so but would maybe like a 2nd opinion help please
Posted: 7/28/2007 9:20:54 AM
"i think if she was just being polite to a customer she would not have looked up from her stuff 3 times as i was driving away and smile all three times. I will be going back with flowers in one month (not roses but something exotic i think would be good)"

First of all, everyone is assuming that the line about just being out of a relationship is true. Maybe that was her nice way of trying to scare you off. Recent baggage, could get back with the ex, etc.

Keep in mind this is only my opinion, so I could be wrong...it's rare, but it happens. I'm very much a realist too, so that's where my opinions stem from. I think you're over analyzing some things. Smiling 3 times? I think that could be likened to customer service. I wouldn't read so much into that. Did you expect her to stick her tongue out at you? Give you the evil eye? I should smile less, I didn't realize it could mean so much to a guy. I also agree with another poster, that even if I needed time to get over something, if I saw even the slightest potential in someone new, I'd give him my number and say call me in a month. I certainly wouldn't expect some stranger to come crawling back in a month. Considering she said call her in a month AND didn't actually give you her number to do so, I think that means something.

I'm not that keen on pushiness so the flowers and going back in a month, wouldn't work for me. I don't think going back in exactly a month with flowers will give off the best impression. First of all, you'll seem as though you were waiting around the entire month for some woman you don't even know. If a man did that for me, it would probably set off some red flags. Call me paranoid, but clingy and needy would pop into my head. That's my two cents.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Are you scared of seeing a weiner?
Posted: 7/26/2007 6:43:33 PM
Does seeing a guy...how should I put this cleanly..."entertaining" himself in Central Park count? Freaked me out! Especially since he hopped over a rock to get in our path to do it!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Do Muscles Matter ?
Posted: 7/26/2007 6:40:31 PM
Skinnnny men? Not that appealing. Huge, muscular men where their muscles are so big they walk funny (legs sort of bowlegged and arms looking like a gorilla's hanging by their sides)? No thanks. Just an average guy with a decent build? Perfect.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
When women look at men's profiles ...
Posted: 7/26/2007 6:35:43 PM
If anything, being on a huge number of favourites lists is a turnoff. Since when is a man in a relationship automatically more appealing to women? Where'd you get that little tidbit of info? The only women an attached male would be appealing to are....well, I'll let you figure that one out.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 46 (view)
 
How to make someone fall in love with you?
Posted: 7/26/2007 6:29:33 PM
Would you really want to be in a "relationship" where you had to make the person fall in love with you? And, in all reality, is that even possible? Speaking for myself, there is NOBODY on earth that could "make" me fall in love with them. What's with the make someone fall in love with you fast thing? You're in quite the hurry, aren't ya? The whole concept of making anyone do anything seems a bit manipulative to me. Have you tried casting a spell on the woman? How about Love Potion #9? Or was it 99??
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 93 (view)
 
Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 7/3/2007 5:14:34 PM
I really don't consider testamonials at all. I prefer to form my opinions. Most of the ones I have read are from women making it seem as though it's some type of competition for the guy anyway. Not my thing.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
If a women had to choice a man a funny man or sexy
Posted: 7/3/2007 5:04:02 PM
Who says funny men aren't sexy??? I think a funny man IS sexy! You make it seem as though only ugly men are funny. I don't get it.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 103 (view)
 
Why do women look down on men....
Posted: 6/22/2007 1:59:22 PM
"oh please, are you kidding? Calling someone "pathetic" is not meant to be a personal? hey don't dish it out if you can't take it in."

Where did I call you or anyone else pathetic? I said the ACTION of doing what I described in a previous post was pathetic. I didn't "dish" anything out, other than my opinion. Whether or not anyone agrees with it, doesn't really affect me.

To the other person that asked about birth defects. First of all, you may have interpreted my "lowly ones" comment to mean what you described which is not what I meant by lowly. Maybe you didn't, but just to clarify by "lowly" I was being sarcastic to the previous person's post saying that the average joe could land on top. Anyway, there are plenty of people in this world that have birth defects, personality defects, you name it, and many of them are happily married/in a relationship/living the single life...having sex for free! In other words, my opinion of paying for sex, would not change. LOL.

Anyway, I'm off for a week!!!! Don't miss me too much!!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 100 (view)
 
Why do women look down on men....
Posted: 6/22/2007 10:46:47 AM
How is responding to a post "taking it too personal"? So because I disagree with you, I must be taking it personally? LOL. I have not said I look down on anyone. I stated that I don't respect the act, and I am more than entitled to that opinion. So because I state an opinion that you don't like, I'm now seen as taking it personally. I already stated that I don't even know of anyone who has ever used a prostitute, so how could this possibly be personal to me? I'm simply stating that in my world, it would not be something I look at with great respect. Hey, if you have no issues dating a woman who sleeps with male escorts and pays for sex, that's your thing.

"They look at it as spending hundreds of dollars on a an escort that's drop dead gorgeous and most average men would never have a chance with her under normal circumstances."

And the only reason they had a "chance" was because they had to fork out money for it. How pathetic. Oh, and even the lowly ones get a" chance" now too. It's about time the underdogs landed on top.

"Alot of these upper class types are not only extremely attractive. they probably make more money then you do."

You and I have a completley different interpretation of "upper class." If making more money means doing something like that, don't sign me up.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 99 (view)
 
Why do women look down on men....
Posted: 6/22/2007 9:48:05 AM
"Most women don’t like men who think about or use prostitutes, got it, get it."

This thread was not about "thinking" about using prostitutes...it was about actually using them.

"Here’s my concern if that’s the case I think you have just eliminated a fairly large percentage of men from your dating pool. "

I think your use of "fairly large percentage" is a bit of an embellishment. I don't see eliminating the ones that wouldn't measure up anyway as a negative.

"Yes yours standards are important and all but if your standards are not at least loosely based on reality then you may have a problem. "

How are they not based on reality? I know of no men in my circle of friends who would even think of being with a prostitute. And you may be content lowering your standards, but I'm not.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 93 (view)
 
Why do women look down on men....
Posted: 6/21/2007 5:51:39 PM
"you call them excuses but its why people cheat its why brothels used to be set up everywhere you hold your self righteous so called moral high ground and let the puny humans do what humans do because people are not perfect and are flawed creatures and you are holding feminist propaganda against your grandfather."

Excuse me? This thread asked for OPINIONS. I gave mine. You don't like it? Then ignore it. Nothing you say will get me to change my opinion, so I'm not exactly sure why you're trying. The bottom line is, I would not respect someone who paid for sex, nor would I date someone who did. Nowhere did I say I was "morally above" anyone or "perfect." I can't help it if you feel inferior because of my comments. And, it is not "feminist propaganda." If my mother/grandmother did the same thing, I'd have the same opinion!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Why do women look down on men....
Posted: 6/19/2007 6:47:15 PM
Yes, if I found out my grandfather paid to have sex I would look down upon it. Excuses don't work for me. I don't care what your wives/gfs won't do sexually, the excuses don't fly!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Looks like I need some expert advice.
Posted: 6/19/2007 6:40:59 PM
Honesty is a virtue so average??

There really wasn't a lot to your profile, and splashed between all the others on here, it's not going to stand out. Spice it up a little!

This line caught my eye:
"It is very hard to describe me, and to get a better feeling about who I am you need to me."

Slow down cowboy!! Nobody "needs" to do anything. If anything, you need to prove that you're worthy of meeting and that profile doesn't really do that.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
This is an odd one..
Posted: 6/19/2007 6:35:18 PM
You say that you are looking for talk/email, but then go on to describe a first date. Men might be confused by this. If you are looking for just talk/email, that may limit the men who contact you.

Honestly, your profile is ALL about you. After I read it, I was thinking "Wow. Could she have talked anymore about herself?!" Have you heard the saying, "leave a little to the imagination"? I think it could apply to your profile. Some things are nice for people to figure out on their own. What's worse is....what if you don't live up to all the hype? The "no social fear and societal rules and constraints don't apply/hold me" might frighten a few men. Sounds like it'd be a risk to go out in public with you. Not that that's how it is, it's just what that statement could imply.

"I have a fantastic sense of humour and while I can make most people laugh, I often laugh at what might be perceived as the wrong time."

This does not come across in your profile. You come across as firing off all your characteristics/personality traits and that's about it.

My advice is to not talk about yourself so much and let someone discover some things on his own. There's no excitement if it's all laid out there before anything's even begun. You're also quite demanding about what you want someone to "teach" you when all you're looking for is talk/email. Men might see this as a lot of pressure, way too serious and a little too much in the way of expectations and run for the hills.

Good luck!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Why do women look down on men....
Posted: 6/19/2007 6:07:15 PM
It's not necessarily the people that are worthless, but the "act" or "union" (as you like to put it) is pretty worthless. I'm curious to know what women you find that look down upon it? Women you are interested in? Because heck yea, if I were going to date a guy and I found out that he paid for services? It'd be ciao!!! There's something dirty about it that doesn't make it very appealing. Personally, I do look down on the men who use those services and I really can't explain why. Maybe it's because of disgust?

I noticed quite a few people wrote that they don't judge, don't care etc., but I think a different tune would be playing if the guy/woman was someone they knew personally.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Why do women want smart, funny guys?? (small rant will be included)
Posted: 6/19/2007 6:01:36 PM
They're smart and funny themselves, and want someone who will be able to keep up with them. I don't think most women who want that are looking to be "entertained." There's plenty a woman can do to find entertainment. I haven't attended a lecture in quite some time, but I don't recall my profs EVER being funny or entertaining; I don't believe a "great time" could be had in a lecture hall.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Sexy American/Canadian Accent????
Posted: 6/19/2007 5:57:20 PM
I don't think you can lump the accents in the US into an "American" accent because there are quite a few. And, NOPE, I don't find many of them attractive. The Detroit accent drives me nuts!!!!!! The whole pronouncing "o" like "a" is like nails on a blackboard to me. An Australian accent? Now that's sexy!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 691 (view)
 
Go Sens Go...
Posted: 6/7/2007 5:41:50 PM
"But, my heart still belongs to Toronto...as the saying goes...maybe next year will be ours! "

Maybe next year??? Maybe, MAYBE, the next millenium for the Leafs!

It's a tad hard to keep the momentum going after a 9 day rest just so NBC can cover what? Their second hockey game of the season?!

 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
critic my profile, no shame
Posted: 5/24/2007 4:17:41 PM
Hmmm. I feel the need to point this out. Having "more of an education" does not mean that you are smarter than the next guy. You know that right? A person who repeated grade 12 three times, and then went on to college has more education than you. That makes him smarter than you? It's 2007 by the way. University degrees have been around for a while hun, and you are not the first one to get one. Actually, you don't have one yet, do you? OK. Enough about that.

"As far as the no pic..a few reasons to this. 1. i want to be discreet as i dont want my entire school to find out i am on this and what i am looking for. 2. they dont upload too well and 3. i am NOT photogenic and my pics dont reveal what i really am or look like. "

LOL!!!!!!!!! Are you kidding? You're looking for "other relationship," whatever the heck that is. I'm assuming it involves sex, and you think a woman's not going to want to know what you look like???????? All the excuses in the book for not having a picture, but guess what? It's not gonna fly with a decent-looking woman.

"well its my preference over the ****y younger girls that are hard to keep for more than 2 hrs, sometimes hard to please too. To be of value to older women on my terms means that i know they are at their sexual peak (at least most of them) and so am i, so it works both ways.

If you can't please a younger woman, there's NO way you're going to please an older one.

Anyway, good luck in finding what you're looking for.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Can u tell me if my profile is duff or not?
Posted: 5/24/2007 4:05:16 PM
I saw nothing wrong with your profile. It was easy to read and, as rare as this is, I liked it.

"I would say I was a decent lad who likes to enjoy himself and love to have fun."

So you WERE a decent lad, but you aren't anymore?

Good Luck!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Men, please. I re-did mine...
Posted: 5/24/2007 4:01:02 PM
I'm here to add my two cents...mostly because you only wanted a man's point-of-view, and well, guess what? That's not allowed so here goes.............

It's wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too long. I didn't read a single word. Let me clarify, I'm FEMALE and I didn't read a single word. More clarification...I have a pretty darn good attention span, and I STILL didn't read it. There are a few men that might take the time, but in general, I doubt it. My advice? Shorten it.

Good luck sistah!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
The ladies no like. Review please
Posted: 5/24/2007 3:55:54 PM
First two paragraphs were pointless. Your last paragraph described you so why not try a little more of that?
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Need Some Help With My Profile Please!!
Posted: 5/24/2007 3:43:18 PM
Okie dokie. Call me naive, but I honestly don't even know what "activity partner" means on here. Do you? Why not explain exactly what it is you're looking for? Considering you put "sex" as an interest (personal pet peeve when I read that in a man's profile, but I'm guessing not so bad when men read it in a woman's?), I'm assuming you're searching for a sex partner. If not, you might want to clarify some things. Also, under profession you listed actress/model??? Is this lucrative? Obviously, you do drugs as well. Again, not always appealing to people.

"I'm looking to meet a nice, down to earth guy."

Not so sure how appealing "nice, down to earth guys" are going to find your profile. Nice, down to earth guys may not be drawn to the whole activity partner thing....if it means sex, that is. For many nice, down to earth guys, drug use is probably not at the top of their list of what they look for in a friend/partner/whatever.

"Someone to hang out with and do things with. I like flea markets, malls, movies, dining out, staying in when it's cold."

Let's say that by "activity partner" you actually did mean activities, I don't think most men will find your list of things to do very entertaining. How about sports? Traveling?

Good luck.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
My profile
Posted: 5/21/2007 7:14:59 PM
My opinion's not gonna count for much as I didn't read the "poem." Caught your profession..."world observer"? Does that mean you don't work? I didn't read your "first date" because I didn't get any info about you from the rest of your profile so I just couldn't be bothered to put in the effort.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
updated to see what you all think
Posted: 5/21/2007 7:03:52 PM
"Nice guys do exist" as your headline? I know I'm not Ms. Creativity, but even I could come up with something a little wittier than that. That's the first thing I saw and all it did was cause me to roll my eyes. Of course nice guys exist, but they don't have to go around telling people they are.

As for the rest of your profile...what the heck was that? Was it a quiz? I don't know what your previous format was, but I can't see this as being an improvement. Try to be a little more natural, ditch all the questions and be yourself.

Good luck!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I guess I don't understand any of this
Posted: 4/25/2007 3:05:30 PM
I noticed you took out the whole Mensa reference. Kudos! I'm somewhat surprised that someone of your intelligence didn't pick up on the condescending tones of your original profile. I guess you normally just speak to people that way? Yikes!

Upon reading your profile again, I noticed this:
" I am seriously a reality check for most people."

Huh? Do you really think people sign up on here for a "reality check"? What potential dates are going to want/need a "reality check" from you? Maybe when they were 13 year old girls they may have needed one from a father, but you're not out here looking to date a teen I hope. Do you honestly think that sounds inviting to grown adult women? Seems to me you highly underestimate women and overestimate yourself. Women have minds of their own. Women do NOT need reality checks from men such as yourself. Your paragraph goes on to say that basically you'll tell a woman she's fat if she's fat. How kind and helpful of you. Do you honestly think that's going to earn you brownie points with the ladies? I think at some point you were trying to attempt humour, but it just didn't work for you.

"I want to have FUN with somebody who gets it."

Ahhhh. Someone who gets it (rolls eyes). Why didn't you say that at the beginning?! Most people couldn't possibly get it, right? We just couldn't possibly measure up! We're soooooooooooo beneath you!

I won't charge you for this "reality check." This time!



 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
I guess I don't understand any of this
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:10:55 PM
["I am a member of Mensa and I need somebody who is intelligent and can understand the subtle nuances of irony, sarcasm, and farce. Oh and if you need Mensa explained to you, don't worry about it, I can and will do much better. I just won't respond to one line mails, you have to make me think there's actually somebody in there. "]

This comes across as condescending. One does not have to be a member of Mensa to be intelligent, and understand irony and sarcasm. I'm not quite sure why you even included that in your profile. Offering to explain what Mensa is was also condescending. Up until then your profile was alright. When I got to that point, I was thinking, "Who does this guy think he is?" You won't respond to one-line emails? But, here you are, not "understanding any of this." Maybe you might consider taking a step down, and at least contemplate responding to a couple of the one-liners. What do you have to lose? Heck, they may end up being even smarter than you! What a shocker that would be, eh?
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
help me pleas
Posted: 4/23/2007 6:25:07 PM
Hmm. Where do I start? I guess we'll start simple...the little faces plastered all over your profile did nothing for me.

"I am a perfect man, compassanate, cuddlable, sweethearted
but most of a nice guy.?

Come on. You might be a nice guy, but nobody's perfect. Don't try so hard.

"I don't drive or don't have a house yet, but live with my sister and her husband for now."

If I remember correctly, you're almost 40. Some women may wonder about the living with your sister thing. You create music, but how well is that going for you?

" I'm already excepting contracts from major song writters and producers for games and movies to."

I dunno. Something's sounding a bit fishy to me, but then again, I'm not the most trusting person on earth.

"Everybody is all about having sex not me, i'm all about money and producing money and making money for myself and others."

What?! You do see how living with your sister might contradict this?

(ARE THEIR ANY SWEET BEATIFUL ENTELLIGENT LADIES OUT THEIR OR WHAT )!!!!"

It's INTELLIGENT.

The whole "player" rant is extremely immature.

Your rant about gay men is also pointless/unneeded.

I don't know how many women out there would consider a "movie theatre" a "special" place for your first date.

Your profile needs some work. Did you reread what you typed? Is "cuddlable" a word you actually say out loud? If not, change it. Maybe try spellcheck?
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Media's role in school shootings
Posted: 4/22/2007 6:22:23 PM
"It may come down to a which came first scenario: The public's requirement of graphic details to keep them interested in a story or the media's use of graphic details to make the public interested in a story. "

I don't think the public requires "graphic details" to be kept interested in a story. I think the media likes to make it SEEM that way, but I don't believe it to be true. In fact, the public outcry at NBC's (and other networks) playing Cho's videos proves, at least to some degree, that this is NOT want the public wants. In my opinion, the media uses the ole "this is what the public wants," to justify putting such material in their newscasts and in newspapers.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Media's role in school shootings
Posted: 4/22/2007 4:34:12 PM
Speaking for only myself in my own little world, I was quite desensitized to the whole event last week, at least in the beginning. CNN played the cellphone clip of the gunshots so often, that it took me a few days until it actually sank in that those gunshots were killing people. THAT'S where the judgement did not come into play. Seeing Cho's face didn't affect me. Hearing those gunshots did. Imagining the family members and friends of the victims having to hear those shots on TV disgusted me. Hearing news anchors talk nonchalantly while those gunshots played in the background, made me sick.

OP- In this instance, the media actually did make an effort to present to the public the victims - who they were, what they had done in their lives, etc. I noticed that every time a family member was interviewed, they were asked what they would like the public to know about their child/friend, etc. From my watching of the coverage, I noticed a big improvement in this area. If I had to compare the coverage of this story to other similar ones in the past, the coverage (24/7) was not as extreme as in the past, nor did they give Cho that much attention after the initial day. Sure, they still present information on him, but not to the extreme that they would have in the past.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Current generation of Cdn kids to live shorter lives than parents
Posted: 4/15/2007 2:01:55 PM
I think the problem is not just with eating habits, but lack of exercise. I teach first grade, and I have students out of breath after doing simple non-strenuous warm-ups. It's pretty sad that in order to get kids to MOVE, "exercise" is being incorporated into video games. What ever happened to the good ole fashioned "go outside and play"?
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Profile Feedback Appreciated.
Posted: 4/15/2007 1:54:02 PM
"Are you seeking a a guy who loves to laugh, honest, trustworthy, loving, understanding, generally easy going."

While you're at it....why not include a question mark?
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
What do you think of my profile?
Posted: 4/15/2007 11:11:55 AM
Call me prissy, but a 39 year old quoting Napolean Dynamite?

"I don't need alcohol or drugs to enjoy myself, as a matter of fact have never done an illegal drug, been drunk or smoked."

You've never even been drunk?? Hmmm. Even I've puffed a cigarette and I'm about as "good girl" as they come.

"That being said, my ideal match would not base her self-worth on how much she drinks or how often she gets high."

Most grown adult females don't base their self-worth on that either. Have you only been dating younguns?

"I consider myself intelligent, but am not smart enough to put aside principles for professional/monetary/social gain."

Up to this point, your profile makes you come across as though you think you're holier than thou. This line seemed sort of a dig at someone, who the heck knows who.

"I'm health conscious, not a health nut, but try to eat right, exercise and limit the bad things. Have added respect for those who put a priority on a healthy lifestyle and can resist the temptations."

And it is females you want to date correct? What happens if your woman can't resist a chip every once in a while, or worse, a slice of pizza?!!

"I put my age in the range that people guess"

What the heck? That's just weird. Actually, when I saw your pictures it was not 39 I guessed. All I thought was who is this guy trying to kid? Not a great first impression.

Overall, you come across as though you're marketing yourself as Mr. Perfect. Do you ever have fun? Do you ever just let loose? The only thing that came to my mind after reading your profile is that you are one uptight guy trying way too hard to impress. You seem like the type that would "police" your partner. Not a good thing in my eyes.

Where does the line start for people to bow down to you?
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Profile Feedback Appreciated.
Posted: 4/15/2007 10:54:20 AM
Separated but looking for long term? Might confuse some women.

"Are you seeking a a guy who loves to laugh, honest, trustworthy, loving, understanding, generally easy going. Then I'm the guy for you! Just check out the following... "

Caused me to roll my eyes.

I think you wanted only positive responses, right? How about honest instead? I found your profile, for lack of a better word, corny. I also felt when reading it that you had written down everything you thought a woman would want to hear. What's the "romantic affirmations" supposed to mean? Made me think that you need to give women a little more credit. Then again, I'm just one big skeptic so what do I know!

Good luck!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
help with profile please ladys
Posted: 4/10/2007 4:36:02 PM
First things first. Your headline made the song "Cry Me a River" pop into my head.

I know a lot of people say that spelling/grammar shouldn't really matter, but to some "ladys," they do. Maybe it's because I had 4 days off and had to get up early this morning, and I'm feeling somewhat grumpy....but your spelling mistakes annoyed me. Chances are....they'd annoy me on the weekend when I'm a whole lot more relaxed too. Do you realize that in your profile review request you wanted your profile to make a "goof" first impression? The only impression I got was either that you can't spell worth youknowwhat or you just didn't care/bother to reread what you wrote. In any case, not a fantastic first impression.

In the bulk of your profile, you separated your "sentences" with commas, not periods, which again annoyed me.

All in all, you seem like a decent guy. My only suggestion is to clean it up a bit. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!

 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
just wondering
Posted: 12/18/2006 5:33:25 PM
Your headline = Are you someone I can be honest with?

Ummm. What are you saying here exactly? You're generally a liar until you can tell whether or not a person is worthy of the truth? So yea, that headline? It scares me!

"My ideal of a real date is a day with no set plans do at least one planed thing and the rest will fall into place. and dont worry no matter what we do it will turn out to be a fairytale!"I PROMISE"

Ohmy! K...first of all, I give you credit for having only 2 "sentences" (and I use this term loosely) in your profile and being able to mastermind a contradiction. Your "ideal of a real date" is one in which there are "no set plans." And yet you hope to do at least one "planed" thing...see the contradiction??

As for the pic...everyone's made their comments and I agree. Only thing I have to add is ummm, you were 19 when? 1985? That pic looks old!!!!!!

Good Luck and Merry Christmas!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Sure, why not?
Posted: 11/29/2006 6:44:07 PM
You're a journalist and a teacher and that's all you came up with for your profile? What is it exactly you wanted us to review? Your profile consisted of 4 sentences, 2 of which could have been put into the same sentence.

"I find that I get along best with people who are or have been in the media business. We seem to click better than those who haven't."

You seem to click better with journalists? Sounds like you're telling any man out there who is not a journalist not to bother messaging you. Something about that line that comes across as snobbish. Just my interpretation.

Good Luck!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Was wondering something
Posted: 11/29/2006 2:55:40 PM
You changed your profile and started it with this line:
"Nice guy who keeps turning up last here."

Come on! Waaawaawaaaaaa. Enough.

You complain about EVERYTHING. Guess what? There are people in this world that are worse off than you so quit crying yourself a river. You keep whining about living in a "small town"? Well what's preventing you from moving to a bigger city. You're 28, it's time you start taking charge.

"I am looking for someone to spend time with and give me a reason to get up in the morning."

Wowzers! No pressure, right?! Not only does she have to "listen," but give you a reason for getting up in the morning? Jeesh.

I don't know what to tell you. Like someone above said...if you're not happy with yourself and your life, how on earth do you expect someone else to be?
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Was wondering something
Posted: 11/28/2006 2:07:10 PM
The name "lonely" isn't too inviting. To me it says NEEDY which isn't all that appealing.

"I am looking for someone who will be understanding of how I am and doesn't mind how I really am."

What?? What do you mean how you "really" are? Made me think you're some nutcase/weirdo. In any case, it wasn't a good thing!

"Lately I have been feeling very lonely with the holidays coming soon and don't know if there really is someone out there for me."

I bet you're gonna catch a lot of happy holiday people with that line. Nobody wants to hang around a downer. Cheer up!!!!

"What is bad is that I can't even get a first date or a write back. I have changed somethings in my profile just hope it helps."

If you come across this depressing in your emails, that's most likely why you don't get a response.
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
OK.. What is wrong with my profile!!
Posted: 11/22/2006 1:53:52 PM
In all honesty, your full body pic is blinding and not all that flattering. Don't get much sun, eh?

The rest of your profile consisted of choppy, hard-to-read sentences. I suggest rereading it and typing your sentences so that they make. some sense and. don't just stop with. a period in the middle. of the sentence. Get my drift?

Good Luck!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
What do you think about my profile?
Posted: 11/21/2006 3:09:13 PM
I think you broke the Guiness record for most mistakes in one itty bitty paragraph. Congrats!!!!!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
scottish women review my profile
Posted: 11/21/2006 3:06:25 PM
I'm not Scottish, but I'm going to review your profile anyway....because I can!!!

First off....36, eh??? Hmmm.

Your first paragraph can be seen in many, many others on here.

As for your date options...Drive somewhere out of town? This day in age a woman be nuts to do that with someone she doesn't even know. I found it funny that you want a woman to drive out of town with you and THEN exchange numbers? LOL. Call me paranoid, but Option b is a no-go in my books.

Good Luck in your search!
 zuzus_petals
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Please review my profile
Posted: 11/19/2006 5:25:14 PM

It's like hundreds of others out there.
 
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