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 Author Thread: A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 162 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/2/2018 11:41:34 PM
She is not a glutten for punishment she is taking a risk with her life and trying to find someone no harm in putting the effort out and learning from the mistakes.

Hemingway actually people need more than a physical or mental as they both have a long list of possibilities to me it would be severe or not severe. Does it actually impair you from doing your daily needs that you have to rely on a caregiver or are you able sustain your own life unaided. That is what it boils down to in the end really.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Ok so I'm popular but can't get dates. Why??????????
Posted: 10/11/2018 2:44:40 PM
You can have your profile hidden and people can still see it even message you, the filters just remove it before it gets to you. As for hidden part you can hide it I can view it here which means I can message you doesn't mean you get the message. Meet function is glitchy anyways at best so your profile will show up since no software is perfect they have their glitches and malfunctions on occasion usually after updates and maintenance.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 8 (view)
 
A love song ~ for all the men & fine women, on the forums ...
Posted: 10/11/2018 12:28:12 PM
Actually it was written by a man not Pat Benatar from a guys point of view, "before I put another notch in your lipstick case" Pat benatar changed the one word from your to my. But it was written by a man named Eddie Schwartz and it was his point of view to how he was treated from women in 70s and 80s. It was about him telling women no matter what you throw at me I can handle it and still play in your league. It wasn't about violence at all until people made it about violence cause you know that is what they do and the way it was turned into the women singing a song written by a man for men.

If your going to comment about a song at least get some actual facts on the song and what it is about before creating your own idea.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 411 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 10/6/2018 12:54:11 PM
So you should be paid for a free country? You know do your duty as a citizen screaming about all those rights of yours that should be followed, then don't want to be part of the justice system that makes sure you have those rights. Yeah pay me for it and make it worth my while? What an interesting thing to run from it probably takes away a from all that important stuff in your life, like you know t.v., riding a motorcycle, having sex. Think about that the next time a pedophile, serial killer, or some other criminal walks free cause just like you maybe the people who would have done the right job decided to bail on their duty as well as they weren't paid enough. Nevermind the child's life they could have saved, or the next victim they could have prevented nice ideology people have.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Why is finding a date a top priority?
Posted: 10/4/2018 12:58:29 PM
Not sure where people get that idea that dual income households are much easier than singly. Only if singly is living in a home for 2.

Look at fact one my rent would cost the same as you buying a home not kidding. However I don't have those extra costs its all inclusive, now you what move a lady in and things don't work out guess who loses that cheap apartment the man. Not going to happen! She says well I am paying double you do for the same size of a apartment how does that work. I have been here a long time rent increases slower for people who continue to rent. So if I was to move in to the same size apartment with a woman my cost is double what it is now what am I saving on that dual income exactly? Nothing cause I not only pay same rent now I throw on those extra costs, and half her bills as well yeah not going to happen ever. Her bills are hers, and her cost remain hers there is no well it would work better for both, she wants to see how her success works for her great she can do it living in her own place.

Guess what 2/3 of the single males I know all say the same thing their not giving up their pad cause are costs are too cheap. The other 1/3 were guys who got into relationships and got screwed for their apartments, or the lady really did a number on them you know like they went on a hunting trip came back she changed locks on doors, sold his stuff, and he has no place to go, ended up paying out the wahzoo for his next pad, and courts don't do nothing about it.

So those golden girls who think they got it all figured out are running into brick walls when men won't leave or allow them to move into those cheap places.

If the guy is single and owns a home he is really careful about what he is doing, guys are not as stupid here in Canada and ladies complain all the time where is that type of guy, well he is not caring for your a$$ obviously must be a reason.

Single males go on trips at one cost their own, travelling the world why they got sick of the statements the lady wants to do hell and all get in relationship with them the only time they want to do anything is with their girlfriends. I mean seriously what is with that shit.

My bills I can work 2 days a week and pay for all my bills and have spending money on 2 days, and a person working 40=60 hrs would say well look at his "job"? I say show me your finances they shut up immediately cause I am spending 25% of my monthly income on bills and 60-70% of their income goes to it get out of my face. Learn to budget first than come talk to me about how I should desire your success when you spend 110% of your income.

That is what us guys look at how are they taking care of their future, why don't they have the money if they are so successful they need to mooch cigarettes and complain about costs. Oh she is a casino junkie, a bingo bunny, scratch an win fanatic, lotto addiction much, list goes on and on. New thing shows up she just has to buy it cause everyone else is actually their not you only believe they are cause that is what the ad says.

2 Family incomers asked to borrow money off me, yeah and both made more than me go figure, how is the dual income working for them that they both need second jobs as well as their good paying ones to make ends meet and get spending cash. Stop spending!!!

They say shit like oh I got to have my new 60k truck really? What for you move things do you? Carrying around a trailer are you nope you wanted it cause Jane Doe has one got match their living. Now you come to me to borrow money cause you out spend what you make not my fvcking problem deal with the circumstance you put yourselves in and stop blaming everyone else.

Your kids come to you cause they know you are the only one who has the ability to even spare money, and your the lowest income earner out of everyone they know? Hello talk about a messed up society and then they say how I would be a good match for this lady she could really use a man like me. What do they tell me how she is barely getting by paycheque to paycheque oh yeah that sounds promising not... A she is so successful sure she is nice degree, nice things, and no one taught her common sense of finances.

You people want to continue on with how that dual income is easier? I am asking for who the one who struggles and wants more things or the person who is content with what they have and doesn't need more to impress other people? Cause the second person is not seeing any benefit in shit your preaching, try again the number you reached is out of service.

You want to know the thoughts of the single male who has his shit together and has things figured out, who can walk in get a loan at any time he choses, buy a car as he feels like it. That has always been my world and I said no thank you cause I don't need it, I bought a car to teach my daughter to drive and get her to college nice reason to buy a car right?

Let's look at the single mother concept here, I have one mouth to feed is that food bill going to equal the same amount I pay for myself when she has 2 or 3 kids not fvcking likely. There is an increase now in food as well, clothing, etc... and somehow this is supposed to be easier for a single person no one in their right mind would believe that shit.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 378 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 10/2/2018 1:03:46 PM
The way I noticed it was a lady says she wants a nice guy and a guy says well I am a nice guy what's wrong with me? <----- Lady looks at it and says thinks that question right there. He is showing insecurity and he is looking for validation that he is nice a guy. Nice guys don't look for validation they just do nice things and are polite and respectful cause it's who they are. They don't whine about what they did or seeking your approval.

I see an old lady struggling with her walker in the slush and muck trying to cross the road to go to the store so I help her no thought she needs aide. A lady sees it and watches me I make sure she gets across safely and continue on my way, what does the lady do ask why did you help her? She looked like she needed aide? I am thinking did my good deed for the day, as a boy scout rule of thumb it made her one day that much better I hope. Standing in a lineup waiting to be served at the coffee shop, lady behind is upset saying stuff sounding she has a bad day I buy my coffee say the quarter is for the cashier and have her put the other $3.00 from the $5 towards whatever the next person is getting if she doesn't use it all rest is yours. I turn and leave with my coffee thinking hope that makes her day a little brighter.

Your heading back home and a third lady says hey can I borrow some money off you? No! She is thinking you a$$hole, I just wanted to borrow a few bucks to help myself. I know why she wants to "borrow" the money and chances are she will never pay it back anyways, had she been honest with her statement might have given her a few bucks to aide her but since she is selfish, and full of shit I treat her as such.
The last lady not seeing her own folly would say I am not a nice guy, where as the others would say I was so who really is nice and who isn't is perspective usually defined by who we are and those who look at us and what they see as a person who is nice.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Persistent people,flattering or a turn off?
Posted: 10/2/2018 7:22:16 AM
Sisaa the reason you think it implies nuisance is those guys who use it don't know what their doing.

Your out on a date with a guy, he asks you stick around and continue enjoying the night together instead of just ending the date. You got nothing going on the next day, and sitting at home watching your favorite show or being with someone who wants to be around you, spend time with you and showing it by inviting you to stay and do things. Let me guess your grabbing your bowl of ice cream watching the netflix show thinking God he was a pest, wish he wouldn't call me or ask me again? He won't ever he gave you an opportunity and you don't like a guy who is persistent good call.

No I think since you are into him and he gave you a good pitch with his "persuasive" charm and showing interest in the real you that your happy to oblige since you have an open schedule and damn he is fun to be with. Now how are you liking persistent attitude.

It's not the persistence it's the guys who think they know how to use and when their timing is off, they don't have the ability with communication to increase your attraction so they fail.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 39 (view)
 
How men mathematically sleep with more people than women
Posted: 9/30/2018 12:46:36 PM
Actually Lion I call her promiscuous but so glad you speak for me.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 33 (view)
 
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 9/30/2018 11:43:38 AM

Would you date someone who has a sexual history with a lot of different partners? Do you yourself have a history with a lot of sexual partners?

I don't really care how many women a guy has slept with in the past. What matters more to me is his relationship history. Has he had a long term relationship before and if so how long? And has he ever cheated before?


You want truth to this sexual history is of no consequence it doesn't matter what her numbers are their her past I am looking to be part of her present and future don't dwell on the past. I wouldn't ever answer that question cause it's a none of anyone's damn business, I have a sexual history that's all they need to know.

You mentioned relationship history also have one, well depends is 5 years long-term? No I never cheated on any of my girlfriends ever and never thought to cheat either.

So does the sexually history matter when you get a man who is so focused on you other women are not even in the realm of his thoughts on her attractiveness and doesn't even acknowledge their looks? The reason they are offering him nothing that is worth anything they don't have what I want if they did I would have been with them. Something people don't even understand they don't feel it and never have, their slaves to their urges so am I unfortunately my urges are not sex and women who think their appearance and their looks matter in gaining the right guy it doesn't. He is with his woman for a reason she has something he desires, she is all he thinks about and it is consistent, he spends everyday thinking about her. First thing in the morning to the last thing at night, at work and play she is always on his mind.

He shows how he feels with selflessness all the time because he is thinking of her and he wants her to be happy. People here put a lot of value in the 10% of the relationship being sex way too much if you ask me. If they put 100% effort in the 10% of a something and neglect the other 90% of it you don't have a relationship. You have time with someone you enjoy sex with, I prefer to have the full 90% and enjoy the 10% part of the relationship contributing the 100% equally to all the relationship.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Ok so I'm popular but can't get dates. Why??????????
Posted: 9/30/2018 7:02:28 AM
Okay your popular so what are you looking for validation and approval from someone are you? Obviously you need that feeling in your life and that just told me your clingy, needy, will do things for others to get approval to show how desirable and wanted you are with validation from someone or something.

You just became every PUA target congratulations.

They are what you call PUA and since their stuff isn't working like planned they do one of those 3 things and to get you to respond and act.

Validation your popularity whatever it's garbage pay no attention to it. You need to be sure of yourself 100% in what you're doing in how attractive you are, and your ability to find the man who fits in your life.

Be you nothing but the real you when you try manipulation tactics and stray from who you are it says your nothing more than the female equivalent to the PUA male. Your saying you want sex, validation, acceptance, and power from men even a boost in yourself esteem. It really is unnecessary.

Don't compromise who you are to get the one you seek to fit into your life ever!!! You will end up with the wrong person.

Don't worry about what people think of you worry about what you will think of the guy you chose.

Watch the men you choose and communicate with ask yourself does he fit the mold and idea you have for your life?

It's not that hard to find that what you seek just be the real you, and let nothing stop you from going after that what you want. Fear, anxiety other people their not even existing factors when you set you mind to the person you want and go for it. At least they shouldn't be as you have one opportunity and you need to seize it with guns blazing.

People can think whatever I laugh at them all the time, nothing wrong with a good laugh or a little banter and playfulness when engaged in a conversation with the right person. It's not sexual it's just minor teasing and a little fun to ease the tension relax in a conversation, talking about life the both of yours and there is nothing wrong with it. You should do it as you want to not as they pressure you to do so with manipulation and other tactics. Just saying.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 177 (view)
 
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/29/2018 6:36:34 PM
You called her "dumb, idiot, stupid" constantly attacked her and yes you might have been arguing your point on certain things. Your personal attacks were uncalled for to her. You admit maybe you stepped over the threshold a little on that you should have kept it to the topic at hand. Like saying you didn't agree with the way she talked about her parents especially her mom and that maybe they have some issues that should be discussed rationally in private. Not go off like a some chicken whos hen house has been invaded by a fox but with intent and ability of success in diplomacy. Never said you did anything other than throw insults and demean her. I seen your point, however she did it in reaction to the fuel you threw on the fire which happens when you act aggressively and attack someone. Next time a point to think of all possible outcomes to your statement before acting and think how they might react, and what is the most effective way to get to listen are what you should have been doing.

Which you didn't do instead you went right after her yelling, screaming carrying on like a I don't know what but it sure was laughable to say the least. When you could have been respectful backed her attitude off with diplomacy you fueled rage is that what is normal to you is it? That's your idea of showing something is it? How you speak and say things can make a difference on who you get to notice what you say yelling just screams out I want and need your attention and everyone else needs to hear what I am saying. I ignored your yelling and screaming cause it reminded me of a child not getting what they want.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 365 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 9/28/2018 9:56:21 PM
Henry I think it's where the standard of appeal is set not sure though. You work in a particular field that gives you access to possibly intelligent men who say and do stupid things like complain about a their password not working. Nothing servicing those types and them saying can you fix the damn machine I have to have these in by end of weekend. Get right on it sir thinking " All that intelligence and can't remember a damn password". Oh my favorite the damn printer is not working walk over look down someone unplugged it oh let's have fun with this guy. Yeah this is a mess back here it's going to take me a little while to fix it you can go get a drink or something, plug it in and think that's what you get for wasting my time next time no green light means no power.

Who is she trying to kid about them in their high intelligence and miss the simplest of things. Oh right their above common sense bahahahaha.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 9/28/2018 9:31:00 PM
Relationship wise men 7 women 4 on average.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 175 (view)
 
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/28/2018 8:58:16 PM
I understood why you did it wasn't saying you shouldn't do give your opinion on the stuff it was more on how you did it. You can voice an opinion and not hit their character or them personally that is perfectly acceptable. You know it's okay to voice opinion but to be rude to a person and hurtful that is not right.

My stepfather is Muslim so believe it I know how people view them and he is very respectful actually gave me his opinion on what he thought about me not having decorations up celebrating my heritage, actually I wasn't going to be home so saw no point in it but he said to discredit my heritage and not celebrate it accordingly is disrespecting my ancestors not to let him see it again. The man is outstanding I was sad when him and my mother divorced I said okay I take his side cause well he was nicer. His words was my dad is a man among man cause any man who could stay with that woman for 20 yrs should be praised. He lasted 7 I was impressed with him and enjoyed our conversations.

You knew you didn't need to attack her you retaliated with emotion on how she made you feel with her comments, and you went the same direction you shouldn't have that gives justification to that behaviour. You rise above those attacks tell them you don't appreciate that type attitude cause it's uncalled for. Never lower yourself to that level not if you are confident in who you are you won't like yourself after it and you know it.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 173 (view)
 
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/28/2018 6:59:20 PM
You want to see what is not wrong with a single dad you want to talk here, no judgment by me I can give sound parenting advice if I am wrong let me know what's bothering you get it out there. I am a parent first and foremost and yes I maybe a guy but don't under estimate my parenting skills and knowledge I been doing it since I was 13 with my nephew and niece then my own kids. As my some ladies say you may not make the best boyfriend in the world not putting us as a priority but a father your only second to my dad and that is cause I am bias.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 172 (view)
 
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/28/2018 6:50:03 PM
Lion yes those types of statements work a lot better than you know throwing insults at a persons character and attacking them as humans now you are addressing the actual topic on hand without attacking their self-esteem. That works wonders cause it makes them look at what they were venting and not feel like a personal attack.

When has any woman ever kept their word on never talking to a man again? They like that attention when a man gives it you can't be that naive. She is venting about how she is feeling she has a reason to feel that way as I seen that behaviour before it comes with seeing what is under her statements read further the what she is saying see the damage underneath and who the cause is. She needs to deal with it however she knows how venting whatever to get it out or she swallows it and for her that is not good.

That is totally different then you throwing verbal insults at a lady who I think has that emotional intelligence and street smarts of a teenage girl here due to living a sheltered life. Who is probably terrified of moving out on her own where just the thought of it is very scary for her cause her parents sheltered her and never let her grow. You can tell it in the way she acts it was the same as my daughter at 17 she spent an extra year home to prepare for a life at college and did a victory lap at school slowly but surely spending more and more time being home a lone taking care of herself. I bet you Sienna never did that she has jealousy towards her sister and her sisters child she is the baby and now she feels what is her due is gone thanks to that baby she never got the same attention as the older child. When she was supposed and now that baby is there she never will she feels unseen, unwanted. That is not the case but no matter how much her parents could tell her she won't ever believe it.

I apologize Sienna but I read what you are saying what you need to do is talk to your parents themselves tell them everything, and I mean everything your feelings on how you feel and why. You can vent on here all you like but I know exactly how you feel I watched my youngest go through it. Which causes my anger toward her mother and it's not right and maybe your parents are actually unaware of how you really feel. Let's see if I can guess it they always talked about your sister this and that, after she moved out you thought it was your time to shine, instead you got pushed aside for oh the baby this and that. They claim they love you but you feel like they don't show you and you feel like why don't they love me like my older sister, why does the baby take precedence over me now. Leading to a mess load of other resentment, fighting, arguing, complaining feel like your voice is not heard and ignored sound familiar?

You instead went out got what you thought would be love you were seeking with who ever would give it to you however. Things didn't work out the way you planned cause well you like them and they used you and that made it worse. The next guy seems to care lots but now there are issues with your parents not liking him or something. You can't do anything right that sort of thought process?

You need to focus on you understand your parents love you, and always will they just aren't aware of what they are doing and need to have a nice discussion not yelling screaming, or anything just a calm discussion and tell them why you feel the way you do.

You see this lion explain to her how you in all that parenting skill might even think this is happening, you couldn't even fathom the idea you see without seeing, read without reading. You only see words on the surface respond to those words I look at possibilities and possible causes and she has resentment to a baby, and her sister fighting with her parents the only thing that ties it all together is her own desire and wanting to be loved like the oldest was.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 129 (view)
 
Would you date someone still living with their Ex?
Posted: 9/28/2018 2:45:02 PM
Yes have and they moved out before the second date!
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Best friend is also his ex fiance?
Posted: 9/28/2018 7:11:36 AM
Well since you are only dating does it really matter? If it's not exclusive really who he dates is not really your concern until you are. Personal opinion might not be shared but you give the idea your only dating.

I talk with my ex-fiancee talk with her and do things with her even get invited on occasion to dinner, Christmas breakfast bacon and eggs maybe sausages yummm. Her husband doesn't find me a threat wonder why that is?

Now since you are here asking for advice and you seem to have doubts and lack of trust in him, if your in a relationship you don't have one that simple. You know relationships are based on trust if you can't why are you with him? You have doubts thinking he is lying to you and want people to confirm your suspicions and give a sound voice to help justify your feelings, and maybe your actions so you can say these people agree with me. You don't get to use that as your reasoning cause guess what your on a dating site I can see your profile therefore you are available to receive messages as such your not to be trusted anyways in his eyes. Cause why are you here really? To look for advice your going to go with that are you?

Here's something for you my girlfriend, spouse ever came to a dating site while we are together we wouldn't be together. She can claim well I am there for the forums all she likes, but here's the thing she is taking away that part of discussions she should be having with me giving it to other males. I am supposed to be her best friend talking to me if she has concerns or other friends working things out and she goes somewhere else see you later. Because if she can't come to me with her concerns and feelings now she never will in the future, so what am I to her someone she sleeps with nothing more.

Then these women say well I don't believe he is being honest with me, they are actually giving credence to why they shouldn't with them as they don't believe them, there for they think they are lying so no trust and you think their lying to you? You think you have a relationship now do you? You just eliminated 2 things needed for a relationship with one action! These married women/men here think just being here is nothing wrong with it, I am showing you otherwise.

You want relationship advice see a relationship therapist not put yourself at risk of causing problems when there might not be any.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 10 (view)
 
ghosted again, but never expected it 'this time'
Posted: 9/27/2018 1:16:37 PM
^Boo you know as well as anyone if a person believes that much in rumor and heresy they already decided and looking for reasons not to be with someone, rather than looking forward to the future with that person they are interested in. As it comes to play why would a friend talk bad about another? Think about that statement for second if they make him undesirable 2 things one their not his friend, and the other is they have ulterior motives cause you don't do that too a friend. She puts weight in that person what are they saying about her behind her back she should have enough intelligence to think that.

Person who is a mutual friend is spewing about them to one person you honestly believe it's not going the other way as well causing a rift? You really put weight in their opinions now? It's like a lady I loved did she really care what her friends said about me? No if she did she really wouldn't have thought I need time to sort out my feelings cause her friends were saying how much they liked me and so was her family not great influencers for positive but carry great weight when it comes to negative give that friends saying things crap a rest already.

It's like a woman leaving a man cause he is a gamer like seriously, if she left over a hobby she was going to leave anyways. She is using it as an excuse but really anything she chose could work really. He works too much, not enough time with me, he cancelled our date she could use loads of crap anything she chose and made it stick.

Something that turned her off here is one self doubt it works, she second guessing does she deserve happiness? It can play a factor how she really views herself just as much as what someone else says to her. So say they boost him up speak nothing but positive things about him and she knows what he is offering she thinks I can't match that we are incompatible together she can't maintain the image she gave. That is a thing matching your mate you know it I know if you can't self doubt enters not living up to an expectation thought and you leave before things get serious. Yeah had that happen she then went out with drug addicts, and alcoholics took that abuse and still does thinking she was unworthy of my affection.

In life we are our own worst critics and we put pressure on ourselves for more than anyone else ever could. If we feel we are on worthy of someone we will self-sabotage that potential relationship to stop ourselves from feeling more pain later.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 165 (view)
 
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/27/2018 12:34:26 PM
Well lion that explains your problem first of all you have such a low self-esteem you think insulting someone makes you more superior to them news flash it shows how low of self-esteem you really have. Oh you can put on a good image but you know what people who are sure of who they are and what they do don't need to insult others to make themselves seem better. Poor unintelligent behaviour shows how much knowledge you really have in the world.

Next she has a right to speak bad about her mother cause she knows her mother you have no weight to credit her mother or discredit so you shouldn't say shit at all. You want facts you have no idea on how mean or abusive a mother can be, you have never seen a woman kill her 2 kids out of spite you know nothing of what dwells in the mind of others or who and what they can do if you don't know them personally.

Like seriously the best words you can come up with is stupid and dummy, what are you a teen with a limited vocabulary come on seriously your highlight is coming on forums insulting people? Sounds to me like you need something more in your life rather than to insult single parents, and kids who are just learning about life. In that supposed intelligence you have think you might give some words of wisdom some actual pointers to help them. Not you as you are so filled with rage and your over inflated ego of self surety and rather weak presentation really does show your inability to actually be an adult that someone can respect.

I wonder how any women would feel about you insulting women you don't know you must really get a lot of women with that ideology their lining up so much you spend every waken hour on line forum insulting them and anyone else. Not cool dude not even in the realm of civil liberty, you sir have lack of respect them which tells me you don't even respect yourself. Wonder who was responsible for that Sienna? No your angry cause ladies don't want you and they don't want you cause well, despite appearance you have nothing worthwhile they find appealing enough to say yes I want that in my life.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 7 (view)
 
ghosted again, but never expected it 'this time'
Posted: 9/27/2018 10:06:03 AM
Ghosting is more on the person not having the ability to tell someone their attraction is not the same as yours. They don't want to say to you sorry we are incompatible, no sexual attraction as in this day and age people have hard time accepting those types of statements. She took you for the wrong type of male maybe she says those things and you start pleading and begging maybe. The other thing is facing her ownself and how she will feel telling you she doesn't see it working out, it can be just as much a gut retching feeling as a person being rejected to some people cause they sympathize to much and care to much about others. Hurting someone else's feelings actually makes them feel real guilty and upset about doing it.

That is not something you should take as a thing against you, just the fact she has issues with telling people she doesn't want to be with them. IMO that is why ghosters do ghost they can't handle the thought of getting someone interested in them and taking that away, responsibility of owning up to things you do is hard.

You ever break up with someone and watch them cry, gut retching feeling isn't it? You think ladies enjoy that feeling? They don't they try to make it less painful on you and themselves. It's just another way to avoid their own growth, and facing up to things in life another thing they can run from. People like to run from things that cause them pain it's just another thing for them to avoid don't let it bother you be you and move forward looking for the lady who's expectation you do meet.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Guilty of overthinking or something else..?
Posted: 9/27/2018 8:43:06 AM
Just a few things did you ask her those types of questions that would result in those statements?


"it was a good laugh... super fun... you didn't disappoint... you were the perfect gent... it definitely flowed... a really fun evening".


If you did it seems like you might have been doubting, showing insecurity about the date and yourself. Not necessarily so if you didn't ask but anything that would make her realize you were unsure can cause serious backlash.

The other thing she is seeing how you might react to her behaviour, if that is the case it's a test on you if you seem over eager she'll turn tail and run the other way. Keep yourself relaxed don't look over eager she says she is going out with her best mate be cool about it, find something else don't even call until the next day as you don't want to disturb time with her and her bestie. She calls you it's no big deal give a little chat and quickly let her go on the night in question.

Ladies like to see how needy you are if they are unsure about it based on you giving you these little side things as you are walking a line and they never got one way or the other so they test to see your reaction. It can be a move to test your confidence, security in your own ability, things like that, if you start to doubt and act showing a clingy or needy type behaviour your done. But they also want you to show interest so follow up the cool relaxed attitude with a call Sunday or Monday check back in and we will see about setting up a date next week then. Showing her it doesn't bother you that she spends time with her friends and your not going to smother her to death with wrong behaviour.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 5 (view)
 
ghosted again, but never expected it 'this time'
Posted: 9/27/2018 8:13:09 AM
Shouldn't let that kind of behaviour better now than when you are actually more seriously involved, some people are just like that who knows what happened, off-hand comment, she saw mr.right now, her clothes and yours don't line up. People will give the oddest reasons or rediculous at times you just think oh okay you go with that good luck and move on.

You can only be who you are move forward knowing you gave it a shot she decided another direction looking for one that is on the same path you are, don't worry about those who are not.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Significant Others / Fathers & Mothers
Posted: 9/27/2018 12:08:02 AM
Thank you backcreek7 it's greatly appreciated. I did my best as a father the rest you just hope you did enough for them to learn to grow and take care of themselves.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What is an after-date?
Posted: 9/26/2018 10:09:28 PM
It falls really on type of guy, I go out with a woman enjoyed her company so much was a persistent enough to try to get her to spend more time with me instead of rushing home to sleep in the next day. No sex just each others company and enjoyable conversation seeing where it goes.

Seen guys use it as term to get laid won't deny that either but it's relative to what people are looking for rather and circumstances involved. An after date special is returning to the home you can bet they are meaning sex 90% or more of the time.

Whereas a guy saying come on stay out a little longer nights still young lets hit the club or what not coffee shop whatever doesn't seem like their ready to lose your presence just yet.

One is actually persistence if perfected right can be very persuasive and effective means to have a woman want to be with him, he can see how interested in him she really is. The other is selfish behaviour looking for a fix and a sex thing.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 360 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 9/25/2018 4:28:39 PM
Actually Julystorm choosing the right person has nothing to do with it, you could choose the right person at the wrong time in life. Say your 18 wanting that family life, building your life together they aren't ready to settle down and sow those wild oats just yet. Well it don't work as your not compatible to things you want at that time. You end up breaking up they go one way you go the other have a family, things don't work out for either why cause they had something so special at such a young age they weren't ready to have yet.

Too young to fall in love ------ Motley Crue


I had 2 in my life due too bad timing cared for them both deeply and would have married them, the first didn't want it well neither did the second cause her past, which was fine a long-term relationship from now to doomsday I could have been happy with no paper. As it turned out severe baggage, my disease shit in her life I couldn't expect her to deal with her problems in her life and aiding her when I was having serious problems of my own and can expect her to do both. That is not equal relationship I weighed pros and cons of the situation and decided it was best to remove myself so she could focus on that. I could have been wrong we might have survived the shit and had a strong relationship. The odds were against that outcome drastically and the chance was so minimal there was no point in risking.

There is an old saying if you love something set it free, if it doesn't come back to you it was never meant to be.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Date with someone your not into or go solo?
Posted: 9/25/2018 6:19:49 AM
That seat across from me was empty even when I was with someone they didn't go anyways, you kind of get used to it and people think your single even when your not. It was what it was a guy who couldn't get his lady to join him in leaving the happy abode for a few hours c'est la vie.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Significant Others / Fathers & Mothers
Posted: 9/24/2018 5:49:00 AM
Observation 1. Who cares their not your kids it's not your job to punish or even comment on how someone raises their children you don't like it don't be there.

Observation 2. A good decent parent does what is in the best interest of their children, a revolving door of sexual partners is not in their interest it doesn't say stable home so choose. Either partnering, or children you don't get both without causing damage and confusion to the child use your damn head. I kept my shit so secret from my kids their mother didn't even know I had a relationship for 6 months after it was a relationship. I didn't want to confuse my kids until I was sure it was going to be a permanent thing that simple, ladies didn't like how they had to wait until kids went to their mothers before we could go out, too damn bad there's the door if you don't like it. Until I am ready all my kids see was us being friends that was it.

Observation 3. Well yeah cause the courts still believe mothers are better caregivers until they can actually get a fair shake in the courtroom there will never be equality for either gender.

How do I relate to my kids well I learn what they learn matching them in their chosen fields to pursue career. Provide opinion not do their work give them facts on where to go to find information they need to do an assignment, project, whatever not do it for them. Never built anything or did anything for them except guide them unlike other parents who did the work. So when it came to for them to prove their knowledge they didn't say my dad did it, they only say my dad gave me pointers and advice. I supported them in whatever they chose to do not bock at it or say you should be this or that, I asked them what do you want to do? They would tell me I say then do it if that's what will make you happy. I am proud and support your wants whether you want to work at MacDonald's or on Broadway I will come and show my support to your choice encouraging you.

My oldest daughter wanted to writer then it changed to nurse her choice no discouragement in either one just go for it what do you need lets research the stuff you need to learn and we went and got it. Same thing with my youngest who does music theory and performing arts, right now she is in college for performing arts since I guess you can't take both at sametime she probably could. We learned different instruments together she had one in school I bought her another for at home. You know how annoying recorders, clarinets, violins, harmonicas, trumpets, guitar and keyboard can clutter a home and make it real noisy? Try listening to that night after night add singing, dancing, and acting to it. She was surprised I knew all the stuff she was learning cause well it was mine in school. Oh you want to sing and dance here's a karaoke machine I didn't ask her if she wanted the stuff just got it for her. She achieved her dream at 17 can you people say the same, what makes a decent parent who cares to me it's just show your child compassion, understanding, support and encouragement teaching them right from wrong and helping them grow to be their best selves.

I have heard I am the best dad ever from their friends yet from her the worst dad ever cause well she only got one hour of computer time a night the rest was family, and school work.

Would I make a decent significant other gee I don't know I have no clue to tell you truth can only be me, what comes with that is encouragement and interest in her things learning and researching them. Supporting her choices to succeed in whatever she wants achieves or not I encourage her and will be proud of her no matter how it turns out as she tried. I wouldn't treat her any less than I treat my kids or myself as she is a human being and more so my partner. If I support and encourage friends and family she is equal to that she gets it unconditionally. I appreciate my kids buying them things without saying do you want this spouse would be no different, my kids and I worked together keep the home presentable what am I just going to magically stop for a woman no both my kids are women it's still equal shares.

When has anyone ever addressed what a person does and their character all they care about is a stupid picture, or something they might have typed on forums. That has got to be the most unintelligent thing they could possible say to someone like me really.... You say this on forums well here you go something I do in real life how you liking me now and who do you think witnesses this behaviour a person here on forums or looking on my profile news flash I don't show this on a profile or on a forum cause no one ever cared to ask what defines you or separates you from other men really.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 337 (view)
 
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 9/23/2018 5:24:20 AM
Bret it's not that there aren't real women here, their actually hiding in those cloaked profiles it's the only place safe for them. I get ladies give me their pictures and meeting cause I message those profiles with only a name and few generics on it. Try it after about 4-5 friendly messages maybe a bit of humor you'll see. Oh and you can't message less than 14 yrs as far as I know, so you might want to fix age range but I could be wrong since I only message 5 yrs younger and max 3 yrs older.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Leaving POF for eharmony
Posted: 9/21/2018 9:06:14 AM
Too each their have fun on eharmony.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 194 (view)
 
Tattoos or No Tattoos?
Posted: 9/19/2018 4:12:04 PM
No tattoos for me nor do I find them appealing in any sort of way.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Chronic Illness? A deal breaker or not?
Posted: 9/18/2018 4:20:23 AM
No it's not a deal breaker for some others it is they think their going to live perfectly happy lives their entire life. Was that way once before I was 15 then reality struck, if it was a deal breaker I wouldn't have 2 kids so chalk it up to personal experience.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 103 (view)
 
What is holding you back
Posted: 9/15/2018 12:34:17 PM
You know kinda sorry about not getting back to here on a discussion about shit I might have said on forums cause well I was too busy you know a dating. Nice one real interesting to walk through downtown, saw a little of the filming of IT 2, continued to walk along the waterfront, went to fall fair for rides games and lots of junk food. All and all spent about $200 funny she didn't ask me anything to do with what I might have said on a forum, she did however ask if my disability affects my sex life. Don't sound like she was worried about some shit on a forums to me, I could be wrong though cause she wasn't here when I awoke at 1pm. She did leave a note had to work call me later.

So as your opinion goes towards others what are the chances someone is going to read what they post here exactly, slim to none you bring in the concept I am always walking around having fun kidding around enjoying life, underneath beyond anyone's real understanding I am thinking lots of shit. My daughter why has she called me back or text me in over a day better rehash that with her when I get home, why the fvck does the mother of my kids keep trying me to date women she knows fvck that shit, screening on Tuesday decides if I return to employment at previous job or not hope that shit goes well, what's in their screening process nowadays anyways. Doctors following Tuesday hope he lifts that modifications on my work cause damn that is annoying.

On here what you see is a thought not the disguise with body language, smiling, and ability to keep those things hidden from people they don't need to know that shit. You want to make a comment how something on here plays into my life the only way that ever happens is if they read it here. In real life they never hear or see me doing it.

That is the real difference know what you are doing and where you do it. I won't talk about my exes with my dates in a relationship only if she asks about one.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Getting Back In the Game
Posted: 9/13/2018 10:21:43 AM
Look buddy don't hate dating it can be a lot of fun, just makes sure to realize certain things your interest might not be interested in you attraction works 2 ways. If they don't feel the that attraction back accept you are hurt by it, allow those emotions to happen with you don't vent on them take it do something constructive. Think things through learn about yourself you haven't dated in awhile so it's hard I realize that and you only really need to show you and believe you can do this and find someone. It doesn't matter if you get one not interested or hundred the next one always has a chance of willing to give it a shot.

Think of how all your experiences in life contributed to defining that man show that man your wife fell in love with that is what they want to see not a pretend image, or a bunch of lies the real you.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 88 (view)
 
What is holding you back
Posted: 9/12/2018 9:56:55 PM
The fact a person hides and pretends shit wouldn't hold them back you know at all. As for Mr.Trebek at he keeps things in a real perspective not complaining a dose of my reality lady. Other women in real life thought it was just me complaining, they saw her outside their work and they mention to me. We thought you were just complaining her talking that way to her adult daughter causing a scene in middle of walmart they never seen it before. Their statement you lived that for 5 yrs I wouldn't have lasted a week, live with it? Here's my cell phone look at the messages be my guest, here's her voice mails it's all me telling people this shit is happening now is not complaining it's you are so fvcking screwed you try to date.

So all knowing person with no kids, and no ex who has kids with anyone give us your wisdom on experience on knowledge on how to get out of a situation you have no control over being in except to eliminate the ex spouse out of your life kids or not. I know Julystorms predicament cause I live it everyday my only advantage I been through her problems already. The mother is refusing to accept reality which is get your remaining shit out of my home so I can delete and block your a$$.

That's not complaining that's reality and she won't get so much as a second thought from me. Cause this shit will be over the second that door closes. You want to see ability to cut of all connection to another human being after them being in your life for over 20 yrs with no regret and no remorse no feeling whatsoever. That is what my ability is she gets to come here, and bring her shit to me for the sake of kids their not here no more she is no longer welcome.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Forum people
Posted: 9/12/2018 1:15:31 PM
What did you think was going happen Julystorm? Face reality of it on here you get to see them as they really are, wait or is it how they dreamed of being, or maybe it's a role play fantasy aww shit I give up maybe it's just something or other to pass the time.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 95 (view)
 
Middle-aged Tardy Dates
Posted: 9/12/2018 12:46:23 PM
So your mother teaches you how to be respectable and you hated? You do realize when you are not punctual when you make arrangements with someone and decide not to call, or show up until way late you are saying fvck you cause you don't matter... You have no consideration for other people's time and how valuable it is to them. That is what you say on a first date really? These "guys" who accept that and allow it to happen in other words he just wants to bang you.

See her tardiness tells me she is late on bills so there's some bounced cheques great relationship material let me tell you, she is late with her kids or someone else's time she only think she matters. She is inconsiderate to others feelings and has no respect for them you say all and then she refuses to accept an sort of responsibility for it like all so it's everyone else's fault she can't be on time when leaving a half hr earlier would have fixed everything. I had a woman show 15 minutes late once and she acted like it was nothing I said okay have a good time are date started 15 mins ago not my problem you weren't here good luck getting a table cause they don't wait.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 107 (view)
 
Profiles that Turn the Ladies on ???
Posted: 9/8/2018 11:28:34 AM
I don't think I am picky, more of minor things that were off setting. It was minor things but just seemed off, like what are we doing tomorrow somehow that just seemed like we are in a relationship already. Or calling 4 times the next day before I even get up it just made me cringe. A lady said no expectations lets see what happens was more laid back about it not rushing things was more reciprocated to for some reason.

The worst feeling in the world I found was having the hype of being into a lady one day, and the next day feeling disappointed on how things are going. How would say that to woman exactly I am sorry I put so much effort into being with you to find out you are not what I am looking for? It doesn't go over well saying it face to face believe me it doesn't a lot of the times. Not to bother making that effort would be a smart decision to begin with. Has nothing to do with confidence has to do with second guessing if things don't work out how angry is she going to be. If feeling is not more than sexual how is she going to react are those consequences worth the pursuit, you ever felt retching pain when someone is emotionally hurt? Not a pleasant feeling and your looking at them knowing your the cause you think it's not bothersome you be wrong.

That's the image a person gets to walk away with implanted in their brain, your facial expression your pain, hurt, sadness and they carry it feeling like shit. They also know it had to be done, and that it wasn't something they intended on it just is what it is not what he might be searching for. Made a mistake here let me undo you can't wish I knew after before it happened cause it would never have happened to begin.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 42 (view)
 
What is holding you back
Posted: 9/8/2018 1:24:07 AM
Well I might have my shit together then again I might not everyone's shit seems to be viewed differently when it comes to that terminology so it can be kind of confusing. I just do let them determine if I got it together or they will anyways.

I don't sweat finding a significant other?
I say no a lot when I don't like something or don't want to do it?
My finances are order expecting theirs to be too?
I make my bed in the morning when I get up whether a lady is in it or not?
They hate my lists and determination and dedication to get it done?
I do a lot of shit alone? Cause well I can take care of myself no need for mother thanks been managing since I was a teen but thanks for the offer.
I support my family in their decisions and they me ?
I am prepared, and always on time?
Most importantly and the real deal breaker I have 2 cats!!!!

I am dealing with a lot of shit holding me back here.

Am I supposed to provide pictures of all please let me know I can do it in a flash.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 15 (view)
 
What to do?
Posted: 9/7/2018 11:44:57 PM
Walk a way classify yourself as a winner? If you stay with him your prize is not going to be enjoyable that is for sure.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 392 (view)
 
Sneated
Posted: 9/7/2018 11:18:50 PM
Was pretty sure I said it happens so often surprised they don't have a name for it yet, well they went and started one they could have called it something else instead they take somewhat of a term we use in golf or referring to that is awesome and killed the word.

Sweet-neat = sneat Yours was sneat by mine was sneater bragging rights sort of thing now it's a going to be cringe feeling if they say it. SMH
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Middle-aged Tardy Dates -- they're banging somebody from another site
Posted: 9/7/2018 5:07:52 PM
^I don't think he had really considered her after what happen months ago personally, that to me sounds like a razz I will believe you when I see you type thing. He did something like I would do sure there's the gas station fill up on my way home grab a bite all good, and idle chit chat messing around with a lady who really has no intention on meeting anyways if she shows bonus if not it's all good.

Give away him coming home from work and her looking for an outfit? Clearly she does not listen to anything he is really saying to her, he told her come as you are it won't make a difference I am in work clothes.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 77 (view)
 
Middle-aged Tardy Dates -- they're banging somebody from another site
Posted: 9/7/2018 11:32:01 AM
OP if they don't call to tell me their running late I don't stick around not 5 minutes. If I am there still it's coincidence nothing more maybe it was another person was there talking to me, maybe I used can decided on another drink but they were done when they didn't inform me. Flakey behaviour will never change it's who they are if they don't respect you enough to call and inform you they might be late, what makes you think they won't do it again. Your time is valuable their lack of consideration in how their actions speaks volumes.

Miscommunication what part of 6pm Tuesday is miscommunicated to them or whatever day and time. You mean did they find something else to do waste your time now want forgiveness for their lack of consideration hmmm let me think I will respond to you after I think it over for awhile......

Few days they message you............

Few more days they message you.....

Yeah you magically lose their number paying them in kind.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 651 (view)
 
Women making the first move...
Posted: 9/7/2018 11:14:06 AM
Don't worry about the conditions he will probably have a few things to do like that evaluation their nasty for doing them at least here. A long with employment assessments. It's a pretty straightforward conditions he don't do it he has no access to the kids and courts will enforce that.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 648 (view)
 
Women making the first move...
Posted: 9/7/2018 7:12:48 AM
Whether the court adheres to the federal guidelines or the provincial guidelines depends on the residency of the parents.

An Ontario family court can include an additional amount of support above the basic amount in order to cover any extraordinary expenses, such as child care. The court can also reduce the amount of support at its discretion.

The Guidelines do not say exactly how to calculate support in a shared custody situation. They say that child support should consider several things. Usually, this means first looking at the table amount for each parent based on their gross annual income. The smaller table amount is subtracted from the larger table amount. The remaining amount is called the set off. The parent who would pay more in child support pays the set off to the parent who would pay less in child support.

But the set off amount might be more or less depending on:

the added costs of a shared custody plan, such as if both parents have extra housing or food costs
each parent's situation, such as if they live with a new partner who shares expenses, or have other dependents to support

There are a lot of different discrepancies on how it will be decided not just those guidelines in her situation here and shared custody she pays the money not him even though she has kids majority of time. I counter act that with shared expenses as well since she has kids most of time he should have to pay shared expenses which lowers her amount because she pays while in their care and she takes them those have to be taken into consideration. So a judge would see that figure the cost of the programs reducing huge support amounts, based on cost time and effort.

Shared custody with all shared expenses on balance to incomes makes the cost of child support zero.

Now Julystorm it is not in your best interest to have shared custody, which I am positive your lawyer told you he didn't tell you the reason. You make 47k he makes nothing but they put it at 25k you pay the difference between your 1k to his 500 even if he only has them 44% of the time. That is $500 out of your pocket and that is not fair to you, the kids, it causes more of financial burden on you, so have to go for full custody not for you and not for the lawyers but for the kids.

You acting with shared custody in the judges discretion he/she is not going to change anything as he/she has no reason, the father makes no effort, he does not try to contribute, he shows no initiative to be involved other than for his own benefit. The judge is not going to agree to shared custody I wouldn't even agree in your situation he is not trying. His employment history how he acts don't be surprised if the courts order an evaluation on him they will I want one done he has nothing to do with me.

Truth is he does need help your statements on his behaviour he has mental issue, he's narcissistic for one above any job he has a high self opinion of himself where his abilities don't match his job. He lies to get a job is in over his head and either gets fired or quits before they find out. He doesn't have a grade 12 which says he doesn't have qualifications to get most jobs anyways, the courts will fix that if they have to for him ordering him to get a GED they can make it mandatory. Next you have the dependency, betting he has substance abuse, or alcohol abuse just a guess mind you but that would all be signs of failed caregiving towards him in childhood he would need to see a therapist if I am right he has serious deep seeded issues and a personality disorder. Might just be ADD could be worse I am not a psychologist or therapist but some of the signs you give he is undiagnosed and probably refuses to seek help I am betting balks at it.

It's not pride it's fear of finding out he has a disorder, or an issue people don't like to confront their real problems so they avoid them with extreme efforts. You have a notice of assessment? If it pertains to kids in your care court documents or is there no real documentation on you actually having custody? Not even a temporary one where you file at the court office that works as well kids are in your care you have birth certificates school their in should be enough to get temporary custody order until court date if you don't have one.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 637 (view)
 
Women making the first move...
Posted: 9/6/2018 2:00:53 PM
Sorry it's a matter of fact nothing more really if he hasn't worked in an extended period of time it's actually mandatory for evaluations, if has no income than he must be on social assistance and therefore they want to know why he is not working. If he is supported by someone else that is between the 2 of them and although this is all hypothetical cause you julystorm aint telling everything.

As for you doing anything I was working when you made the comment the first time towards people on disability. You really have a things against disabled it's a me thing just hope one of your kids or grandkids don't end up with some sort of disease maybe they you will really see the whole picture. Nah probably not!!!

Insult you really you do that enough all by yourself.

Your not a victim custody should be 50% each and no money doesn't exchange hands regardless of who makes more when each parent has the kids 50% of the time because it goes to primary care giver and both have same time. I know cause that is what I requested since she owed me 7k in support payments might as well just give half the time the courts wont ever get that from her.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 635 (view)
 
Women making the first move...
Posted: 9/6/2018 12:29:44 PM
^You truly are ignorant I been posting pictures of me a work here for months you know that right? Foreign concept really? I have in my past made more than 100k in a yr. Again you show your ignorance twice in one little paragraph. Yes a lot of people do have to get off their a$$ and work no one said they don't but a government does have a right to base a number by imagination and potential without knowing the issues of the man mentally or physical capabilities first. So he would need an actual psych evaluation smart one, and a work assessment aptitude test and possibly and standard testing as well to make sure it's nothing more serious.

You think you know something about me here's what I did came back from near paralyzation, no feeling in my legs now we all know you believe everyone on disability has lived a life of not working cause well your ignorant to even the remotest possibility people might had you know jobs for you know a very long time. I am sure you heard of davidson rubber, textron, Collins&Aikman you should have their in your town I worked there for over 7 yrs in quality control back 13 yrs ago after that school board, after that hospitals. Would like to see that documentation certificates in the field awards for performance on the job, how about pay checks maybe you might want to see court appointed guidelines and support according to your words I am sure you have the documentation backing your claims up right. Along with your birth certificate and photo identification to your bullshit claim on age yeah right probably your daughters age definitely not yours.

You were saying would you like to see the other job offers waiting for me to get medical clearance completely lifted where I am okay to do more than just be part-time there is not much out there in the way of good jobs on part-time bases that I know of but at $14/hr I can manage 32 hours a week and pay my bills thank you.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 23 (view)
 
SCAMMERS
Posted: 9/6/2018 11:29:20 AM
^Common their the best ones I see lots of those think umm when did you move into town cause well I am sure almost every single guy would have known you were here the minute you were.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 633 (view)
 
Women making the first move...
Posted: 9/6/2018 11:23:56 AM
Cause doctors kid is living with mommy and dr daddy only gets to see them every other week give doctor daddy 50% of the time oh that's right ladies will lose all child support with that. Nope can't share parenting that in itself should be the law equal rights sound about right to you? Equality lets make it a law see how many women want that equality I know a lot of women who will say fvck you. Simply because it's their meal ticket.

Second point of fact you are dropping children from 2 family income to one and saying daddy has to cover all and no a child is not entitled to luxury and no doctor is not paying child support highly doubt any doctor is rejecting paying that and bill and risking his child's future.

So don't change how you meant some shit cause it was said the guy didn't even have a job so those kids should be accustomed to his no income so if the guy wasn't working at all based on your own words she is not entitled to anything. Yet the courts make child support based on possible future in that case? Do it for a doctor possible future he has parkinson's diagnosis guess he won't be working she gets nothing same ideology for every time you can put it in a woman's potential future there is always a backlash coming the other way.

Law should be each parent has kids 50% of the time, no money exchanges hands but the contribute equally to said child's life. Real fvcking hard problem to solve but then all kinds of women would have real serious problems with that too wouldn't they.

Her ex doesn't have a job according to her don't know where you think 517 is alright when he is not working.
 TomásIasan
Joined: 5/17/2018
Msg: 627 (view)
 
Women making the first move...
Posted: 9/5/2018 10:42:40 PM
So kids get 20k I am off by 6k due the fact he was put as 25k not 47k wow huge difference the kids would actually make more money a year than their father does after deductions and that is somehow supposed to be right and just.

Explain in what world a child needs even close to that a year?

Here in lies the problem a woman on social assistance gets her social assistance with all that exempt for it. Meaning she gets 1400 for social assistance, say 500 month for child support, max 587 times 3 or something for child tax benefit on 3 kids. She says 500 is not enough what the heck?

Here is the best due to lack of knowledge on her part and the guys ability he buys a house, new vehicle she is immediately upset he hasn't violated any laws now she really wants more thinking there is.
 
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