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 Author Thread: What is the purpose of the 1st date?
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Msg: 38 (view)
 
What is the purpose of the 1st date?
Posted: 7/2/2016 2:07:54 PM

shaggability op, the first meet is all about assessing their shaggability


Mind over matter?
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How do you reply to 'you are sexy'
Posted: 7/2/2016 1:54:40 PM
Hmm... you know what's on their mind
How to reply? Either play their game & reply or just ignore it.
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Msg: 83 (view)
 
Why Pursue a Hobby If You Don't Meet Anyone?
Posted: 5/21/2016 12:32:47 PM

I've been told it's shallow to pursue a hobby just for the opportunity to meet women

Hmm...
I think that if you are passionate about a hobby, your enthusiasm & a built-up knowledge would definitely strike the chord with like minded ladies, no doubt there. Enjoying and sharing is the way to get to know people and when you least expect, you meet the one.
Ulterior motives never work.
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Msg: 282 (view)
 
Gorgeous Women over 50
Posted: 5/21/2016 12:15:35 PM

Just saying how many good-looking women there are in that age range

Quite right and thank you for the compliment
Some of us got it in their genes and some of us are well "preserved" lol due to healthy, active lifestyle where laughter is a MUST and perhaps some of us don't take life so seriously, hence exuberance ...feeling great on the inside radiating on the outside.. hmmm
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Msg: 141 (view)
 
If a woman admits to 10 lovers, she's probably had 30
Posted: 5/14/2016 2:34:38 PM

And what does it matter??????

Actions speak louder than any words, let alone "numbers"
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Msg: 41 (view)
 
messages from men
Posted: 5/14/2016 2:18:12 PM

no effort = no message

I whole heartedly agree with this statement.
How possibly any kind of conversation could carry on if there is no "food for thought"?!
Just saying ...
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Msg: 38 (view)
 
FIRST DATE, SHOULD THE LADY OFFER TO BUY THE THIRD ROUND?
Posted: 6/23/2013 1:07:50 PM
I would go for two rounds. Two feet, two legs, two rounds to keep balance. I love balance in life in general
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Msg: 247 (view)
 
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 6/23/2013 1:03:07 PM
I would not worry about someone's opinion regarding ladies in their 40's who supposedly ooze sensuality. Afterall, we ladies in 50's know that sensuality does not come out of a manual but within ignited body & mind and that is definitely a two-way-street
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Msg: 26 (view)
 
Do you find online dating easier or harder than real dating?
Posted: 6/23/2013 12:58:14 PM
In my opinion, whatever way you meet the person, still you need to have a dose of luck on hand as there are no guarantees in life. Having said that I'm an optimist and would rather try than to bury head in the sand.
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First-Date Ideas
Posted: 3/2/2013 10:43:21 AM
Hmmm ... my first - preferred - date idea is =>swimming. I find the initial step of a date in water so refreshing, unconventional and butterflies built in tummy are washed away. Exercise definitely builds appetite, makes people relax and make them feel fit, fresh and great ... ready to charter to different - apres swim - territory.
Of course, one has to feel comfortable in own skin and water
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Msg: 51 (view)
 
Does it matter if he lies about his age
Posted: 3/2/2013 10:26:47 AM

Age is just a number. Why are you worried about age?

Fleetwood Mac with their Little Lies ... doesn't leave any different taste in my mouth than just bitter one but hey, there is also a sobering thought of moving on.
Bottom line is that a relationship cannot be built or survive on lies, being it little lies. Why to complicate life with lies?! I have never seen or experienced lies enhancing one's life. But that's just me.
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Msg: 75 (view)
 
Men,Tools and thier obsessions. How much is too much?!
Posted: 7/16/2011 10:33:01 AM
Hey *sometimes-miss*, don't get harsh on lady in question's perspective. Thanks goodness we men and women are different and have survived upheavals of starting all-over-again the way we were capable of.
I have met a man who still cherishes his workshop he had to leave behind due to divorce and selling their family house. I am glad we - both genders - are differently wired but when it comes to blending lives together, isn't it just about finding a compromise that suits both parties?! Surely, time will be spent more together rather than potter around scattered tools or keeping house in top-notch crystal clean state ... And only those two people in question can find that compromise based on "where is the will there is a way". Good luck to lady in question and cheers to *sometimes-miss*!
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why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 6/24/2011 11:26:13 AM
I, for one, am a prime example of still staying on PoF even though I have met a wonderful man on here and living reality is much better than virtual functioning. Ole!
Why do I log in now & then on here? Well, I check my mail at least once a week but how my friends on PoF doing - I find via their responses on forums. It gives me an insight in to their stage of life and if I have time on hands and find some topic interesting, I do join debate.

P.S.
Staying on here has nothing to do with insecurity.
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Msg: 38 (view)
 
How important is sex and what good it can do?
Posted: 3/16/2011 2:16:42 PM
Relishing "newly found rain", yes it feels like rain to the Sahara desert ... and in other words it is a wonderful bind to already existing bond
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Msg: 48 (view)
 
How would you feel if people you know found your profile on here?
Posted: 12/22/2010 12:13:03 PM
It would make no difference to me. Some of my colleagues and close friends actually know about my PoF membership and we share thanks to this site is priceless. Long live PoF!
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would you rather post your best pics or just regular downplayed ones?
Posted: 12/22/2010 12:10:11 PM

and she told me the pic doesn't do me justice as i look way better in person.

I can relate to this statement too as I have also said to one exactly the same thing when I met him in person several weeks ago.

Upload a picture(s) that makes you feel good about yourself. Who is there to please and who cares? BTW, misterdynomite, your pic was a nice one, a very easy on eye.

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Msg: 113 (view)
 
Sex: A want or a need?
Posted: 12/22/2010 11:58:51 AM
I think + is a desire that can be seen and felt as burning, yearning, silently making you weak at knees ... keeping you fit and warm on long long nights and in check on days. How about that?
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Msg: 242 (view)
 
Why do men copy/paste
Posted: 12/19/2010 12:46:26 PM
Men tend to move fast and bless them for their innovative ways. But when they slow down then it is worth to keep eye on their pace
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Msg: 75 (view)
 
What Should a Man Smell Like ?
Posted: 12/19/2010 12:43:05 PM
I find truly irresistible to smell cleanliness mixed with fresh excitment
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Msg: 101 (view)
 
Why Don’t Women Ask Men Out ?
Posted: 12/19/2010 12:39:05 PM
I like a man to take initiative in first instance. Old-fashioned? Hmm ...
Once ingredients are right, you bet the fire will fire away and I will be more than happy to fan the fire
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Msg: 31 (view)
 
Is it possible to train a bad kisser?
Posted: 12/16/2010 12:38:52 PM
I would never attempt to t r a i n a bad kisser as such but to guide him, tempt him with lingering lips and let him see that there is more to a kiss than just planting a kiss on lips.
Lips can explore ~ sample ~ light the fire ~ seal
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Msg: 72 (view)
 
Looking at the clock during sex.
Posted: 11/12/2010 1:24:40 PM
Ahhh ... OP, if ever my eyes got set on something while getting hotted up it definitely would be not the needles on the clock.

Keeping eye on time would indicate something seriously amiss IMO.
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Msg: 179 (view)
 
45+ men and fashion
Posted: 11/9/2010 9:36:56 AM
Whether a man is 25+ or 45+ I don't like to see on him any tight clothes for variety of reasons. Long live imagination and closeness to Mother Nature!
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Msg: 71 (view)
 
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 11/5/2010 2:50:58 PM
That would not be my assumption, OP. But to get her to bed is like creating icing on the cake: right ingredients ~ good dexterity ~ passion in creating (product) ~ sprinkled with TLC ... and the icing feels just so natural to top-up the whole experience.
Would the lover be lousy once lovingly pu$$yfooted and stirred? I doubt it.
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Msg: 28 (view)
 
keywords
Posted: 10/28/2010 2:59:02 AM
What strikes the chord with me when reading their profile is the confidence and sunny disposition they exude, happy with their stage in life; also finding humourous side is a plus and their photos confirming active side to their life is definitely a bonus.
Having said that it is not only the words they choose but the way they put them together
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Msg: 20 (view)
 
Can you wait for love? (Your opinion needed)
Posted: 10/19/2010 12:03:56 PM
OP, just as few replies suggested, go and see her. One weekend spend together could give plenty of answers. You have nothing to lose.
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Msg: 41 (view)
 
Awesome Sex
Posted: 10/19/2010 11:49:36 AM
Crappy sex is worse than none.
Yep, it was just an one-way avenue and dead end followed shortly and for good.

As for awesome hanky-panky ... my suitcase of memories is still keeping me warm on cold nights
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Msg: 47 (view)
 
Over fifty ~~ best sex in or out of a relationship?
Posted: 10/10/2010 1:40:06 PM
What works for me is a pace in a committed relationship. Nourishing mind in daylight and body speaking its tunes in dim-light ; exceptions to the rules are wholeheartidly granted lol.
There just has to be a link of knowing that although we might find ourselves apart now & then, yet our inner radars get us together ...
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Msg: 80 (view)
 
Have you ever asked out a guy? How often do you do that?
Posted: 10/7/2010 1:38:17 PM
Yes, I did.
If something catches my eye in his profile and pics support my inner feelings then I would like to know more. Face to face. Spontaneity takes first seat ...
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Msg: 29 (view)
 
Hairy backs - are they an issue?
Posted: 9/30/2010 1:32:19 PM
Hairy monkey? Send HIM my way any time!
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Msg: 37 (view)
 
guys!!where do you like to be kissed??
Posted: 9/27/2010 1:51:10 PM
Some tell... some don't... but guiding is definitely their forte
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Msg: 36 (view)
 
Help me gain confidence in the bedroom
Posted: 9/11/2010 1:10:19 PM
^^^^^ I agree with 4ums.

Regardless the place where mind gets enticed it is always a two way street and a wonderful chain of action vs reaction.
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Msg: 454 (view)
 
Why would anyone want to date you?
Posted: 9/11/2010 12:58:48 PM
Hoping to find a real connection.
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Msg: 34 (view)
 
Why would someone not want to meet in person??
Posted: 9/7/2010 1:20:51 PM
Hmmm ... perhaps because they are not seriously interested. Their other agenda?
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Msg: 31 (view)
 
Girl calls me before date to talk about her problems?
Posted: 8/31/2010 1:26:08 PM
Male perspective on solving problems I find always refreshing
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Msg: 18 (view)
 
Let's talk about romance
Posted: 8/30/2010 3:48:38 AM
Hmmm...
... what comes to my mind - thinking about romance - is a *b u d d i n g* period of mysterious joyful and happy expression on their faces
and *s p r i n g* in their paces
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Msg: 49 (view)
 
men in lingerie
Posted: 8/28/2010 2:39:50 PM
As long as it flows your boat - behind your closed doors - all is fair ...

Squeezing my man in lingerie is definitely NOT on my cards. Freedom is my gusto
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Msg: 183 (view)
 
A lot of women don't like sex?
Posted: 8/28/2010 4:59:46 AM
Do you find sex degrading?

Au contraire, OP. Love making is soooo uplifting, body & mind nourishing and most of all feels n a t u r a l.

*It sometimes takes time and caring from the man to get her to 'open up'... *
Well said! I think that we ladies are like flowers that turn to the sun for its warm touch, cheering and inspiring effects. Their fragrance when opening petals is irresistible :wink:
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Msg: 31 (view)
 
What would you do with a modest inheritance?
Posted: 8/27/2010 1:59:50 PM
It's not enough to pay off my debts.

Ooops, sorry, I didn't read all OP's opening post. Thank you verticallydeclined to pointing out to this OP's predicament.

Fly now pay later...
unless it is a sarcastic comment I have to say that I have not heard of such an "offer". But should I live a too shelted life on these shores I can imagine that there would be plenty of *one way tickets* sold.
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Msg: 28 (view)
 
What would you do with a modest inheritance?
Posted: 8/27/2010 4:38:24 AM

but I don't know what to do with the rest to make the most of it.

Dear OP, I have just looked at your interests and combining together some i.e. yoga, fitness, beach, flip-flops, friends, spirituality ... book your holiday to some destinations to fit your interests in the Far East or the islands in the Indian Ocean and enjoy! Flashback ~ warm nights ~ almost left behind ~ suitcase of memories ...
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Msg: 6 (view)
 
Has Internet Dating created more barriers?
Posted: 8/27/2010 4:18:52 AM

Profiles and being on the forums gives you a tiny insight into what someone is like offline.

Yep, I like to "feel" this tiny insight of someone. Pics are one thing and their way of thinking another. Add them together and whether to *meet and greet* is the easy answer to find.
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Injuries During Sex
Posted: 8/26/2010 5:18:02 AM
Oh yes, I can re-call one. At the best momentum we burst into laughter (cannot remember what brought it up). What a passion killer and an "injury" to the body & mind that craved for much much more ?!
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Msg: 92 (view)
 
Do you find it more pleasurable when your man takes control?
Posted: 8/24/2010 1:48:04 PM
I love to feel his steam fading away and ... momentum ... even more to
re-charge his batteries And moi? Cherish every moment
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Msg: 25 (view)
 
men do you like it when women take control in bed?
Posted: 8/24/2010 1:27:19 PM
His wish doesn't have to be her command.

If spontainety rules his p-u-r-r-i-n-g says it all
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Msg: 21 (view)
 
Good Date, Good Company but when i tried to kiss her...
Posted: 8/23/2010 7:46:20 AM
I would think that she reflected on the *farewell* moment and felt that in some way she either ruined the date or let you feel that she was not on the same page - now you know because of her few wounds needed to heal.

I agree with deborah815 - get in touch and face-to-face discuss "the hiccup". Good luck!
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Msg: 495 (view)
 
Sleeping naked
Posted: 8/23/2010 7:15:24 AM
Sleeping naked feels the best way I can imagine or remember. It brings the ultimate freedom and closeness to Mother Nature . Hmmm ... skin to skin ~ bare skin ... I love it too!
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Msg: 32 (view)
 
guy or girls-why didnt u date them anymore-reasons
Posted: 8/19/2010 10:08:31 AM
Hmm ... it wasn't that long time ago and yes, he was a local guy, we spoke the night before on phone for quite some time as he sensed that I was upset about something, so I told him the experience and we debated it. The next day I sent him an e-mail - on here. It was a very positive message that carried a successful resolution to the shared problem. He r e a d and promptly d e l e t e d it. I felt gutted, least to say.
Silence was to follow ... and so be it.

Life is full of turns and twist and if two people are not able to share ups & downs what else is there to share? Oh yeah, some might have a suggestion but in my books that is p u d d i n g after a full course meal
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Msg: 7 (view)
 
Sexy VS Sensual
Posted: 8/18/2010 8:55:29 AM

Sexiness is a state of mind but sensuality is a state of being.

Ahhh ... what a wonderful interpretation .

Mix them together, more than just fireworks on horizon
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Msg: 6 (view)
 
It is all in the timing..
Posted: 8/16/2010 9:26:34 AM
I think that with the man I married it was a gradual fall in love. To start with there were just too many unanswered questions we both wanted to know about each other, about each other's professions and the interests we seemed to share on 90% basis.
I suppose, introducing and sharing hobbies, seeing in each other's eyes *joie de vivre*, hand-in-hand feeling the heartbeat by pursuing adventures ... and yes the distance/absence made the hearts grow fonder ... hmmm ... we stretched timing
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Msg: 21 (view)
 
Women: After sex
Posted: 8/15/2010 12:55:44 PM
I have to say OP that I had to check your age regarding your query.
pandusvenator took words out of my mouth by saying:

All over me and her? I guess I don't care much about it.
 
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