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 Author Thread: Would relationships be better if the honeymoon hormones never went away?
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Would relationships be better if the honeymoon hormones never went away?
Posted: 12/10/2018 2:02:22 PM
msg#10:
So I imagine what things would be like if the honeymoon hormones were not a temporary thing in most people, what if the brains of most people kept on producing those happy chemicals as long as you were together and only wore off in cases of abuse, death or a long period apart? would relationships much better if that was the case?
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No way.
The thing is, that "everything is wonderful" period only seems that way because of those darn brain chemicals. Essentially, people in the "in love" stage, are HIGH all the time.

And it's no different at all, from being HIGH all the time due to the use of other drugs. Not just because the cost to the human body of being intoxicated all the time is real and problematic. The main problem is, people who are HIGH all the time, make lousy decisions. Over and over again. Not just about how compatible they really are, but about basic life day-to-day actions.


^^^So true. No work would EVER get done~
(Sparks flints to get the fire going...Brrrr)
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Turning someone down for sex
Posted: 12/9/2018 1:37:25 PM
msg#22:
My mother taught me it was the 3 B's..
Beer -- Beef & Blowjobs!!


I wonder if the Dads of the world ever gave similar advice to their sons?
A simplistic slogan to keep their women happy?
Do tell, Men~
(Smile)
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 1892 (view)
 
haiku...
Posted: 12/9/2018 6:06:24 AM
sleeping safe tonight
baseball bat under my bed
doors locked dog is fed
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 1891 (view)
 
haiku...
Posted: 12/6/2018 7:02:30 PM
alone in my bed
pray My Lord I keep my head
sleeping safe tonight
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 110 (view)
 
If looks do matter.
Posted: 12/6/2018 3:01:14 PM
msg#108: in part<<<
men have always had a hard time proving why women do what they do :)


Guess you guys aren't as smart as you think you are...
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Turning someone down for sex
Posted: 12/6/2018 1:59:48 PM
msg#12:
Turning someone down for sex
Message: if one wants it 3 times a day and the other is fine once a month, somebody is getting rejected a lot!


I suspect that two such different individuals would not even get together in the first place. I could be wrong.
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Would relationships be better if the honeymoon hormones never went away?
Posted: 12/6/2018 10:49:47 AM
msg#5:
Would relationships be better if the honeymoon hormones never went away?
Message: I had a relationship where the honeymoon phase lasted 3 years. Now I just have to figure out how to make it last forever.


In my longest relationship, it was eight years before we ran out of 'things to talk about'~
Good Times
(Smile)
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 99 (view)
 
If looks do matter.
Posted: 12/5/2018 12:19:00 PM
msg#97:

Baldwin, you and July should meet one another. There are some commonalities in your personalities. I think you two could have a mutually beneficial relationship.


A match made in Heaven! He's only a few years older than her so the ages are 'right'~
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 4 (view)
 
How to Know If Your Partner Is Financially ‘Cheating’ in Your Relationship
Posted: 12/3/2018 4:50:51 PM
msg#2:
Men should give their money to their wives - she can't cheat if she already has it all! If it's not enough, get a better job or business! Read it and weep

If she's a good girl and you keep her in love, you'll have no problem. It's called giving, responsible, and loyalty


My kind of guy<<<
(Smile)
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 1890 (view)
 
haiku...
Posted: 12/3/2018 2:18:45 PM
Throw in some sweet dreams
When you bid me fond farewell
Alone in my bed
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 5997 (view)
 
Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 12/3/2018 1:57:12 PM
Bring you to your knees
Pray for your immortal soul
Your life or the tree
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 1583 (view)
 
Haikuerotic
Posted: 12/3/2018 1:53:06 PM
Look within my sweet
Find your inner glazed donut
Lick your fingers clean
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 51 (view)
 
If looks do matter.
Posted: 12/1/2018 10:55:42 AM
msg#44:
I have always said that FWB is to females what The FriendZone is to men.
In both cases you are getting one aspect of a romantic relationship without the others, In the case of Friend-Zoning you are getting all the responsibilities of a romantic relationship without any of the benefits or exclusivity(She want to do everything with you that she would want to do with a boyfriend except have sex with you) and in the case of FWB you are getting the sex but not the commitment


+1

This is brilliant. Never really thought about it before but you are exactly right IMO~
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 461 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 12/1/2018 9:24:08 AM
^^^
THIS ^ ^ ^ ^ just reminded me of something. LOL.
When I was a child, going to church, one of the songs we sang, was about what a child could be when they grew up. There are 4 options. A doctor, a nurse, a teacher and a missionary.


THIS^^^^reminds 'me' of the movie The African Queen starring among others Katharine Hepburn and Humphrey Bogart---when Rose mutters breathlessly to Charlie---'oohhhhh Mister Alnut' as he strips off his shirt...

hahahaha

(maybe include it in the 'missionary sex scene' in the book we're conjuring?)
(Smile)
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 2790 (view)
 
Pick a line, any line, from the poem above (props to W)
Posted: 11/30/2018 1:34:42 PM
Listen quietly, standing still
Feel the earth beneath your feet
Feel the rhythm feel the beat
Feel the heart of nature's beasts
Bugs and rocks and plants and things
That walk on four legs, fly or sing
Listen quiet, you will hear
All you need to know, no fear
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 4987 (view)
 
First Line, Last Line (Part Deux)
Posted: 11/29/2018 2:33:20 PM
reconfigure balance
to master the riddle
the conundrum that comes
at the three o'clock
that morning hour
awake and thinking of the power
of the mind the body finds
relief with meditations hour
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 988 (view)
 
crayons dipped in phoenix fire
Posted: 11/27/2018 2:34:54 PM
those small things we fight for
each and every day
to wake up in our own warm bed
to feel our breath and feel our legs
to get up pee and face the day
to let the cat in and feel him say
kibbles bits I like your ankles
coffee brewing toasting bagels
paper thrown at the front door
headlines disasters snowstorms Oh!
just the normal morning routine
I fight for all these small things
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 31 (view)
 
What is the latest name-calling Buzz Word you have heard?
Posted: 11/27/2018 2:24:44 PM
msg#7:
What is the latest name-calling Buzz Word you have heard?
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Ugh nasty energy in this thread, getting the hell out.


I agree. We 'need' another thread to get more creative in calling other people nasty names?
Really?
Don't think so.
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 404 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/25/2018 5:23:23 AM
msg#403;
^^ Never understood that concept personally....

If I don't like "who" a man is to start with....I'm not going to get into a relationship with him.
Why would anyong become involved with someone that needs "fixed" into being their perfect partner???
Men aren't puppies to be trained to act a certain way!


+1

I might buy my guy a shirt that I think would look nice on him, that's about the extent of my 'fixing' compulsion.

Seems rather narcissistic (as long as we're throwing this word around will-nilly) to me, to think that you know better than the person themselves, who they should be, how they should act, what they should think and feel, etc.

Who died and made you god to mold someone else's clay?
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 26 (view)
 
choosing-between casual dating and intimate monogamy
Posted: 11/25/2018 4:40:56 AM
msg#25:
You could try a estrogen birth control pill, they really kill sex drives lol.
For some reason my sex drive is not insanely high but it's probably because I gorge on soy products.
It was annoying when it was too high


When you're young it seems the sex drive is just this free floating thing that isn't really attached to 'you' in particular or aimed at 'anyone' in particular---its sort of a miasma of hormones and drives that people of a certain age group share that keeps the babies coming.
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 4737 (view)
 
Cinquain on the Membrane
Posted: 11/24/2018 6:18:04 AM
Back then
There were cinch bugs
And butterflies by the
Thousands flittering , fluttering
Here there
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 5996 (view)
 
Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 11/24/2018 6:11:27 AM
Beg for God's mercy
See if he will heed your cry
Bring you to your knees
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 1582 (view)
 
Haikuerotic
Posted: 11/24/2018 6:09:17 AM
This is all you need
She said, this is what it means
Look within my sweet
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 1889 (view)
 
haiku...
Posted: 11/24/2018 6:04:26 AM
Stock up for winter
Sacks of rice, beans and jerky
Throw in some sweet dreams
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What is the latest name-calling Buzz Word you have heard?
Posted: 11/23/2018 3:49:14 PM
OP asked:
What is the latest name-calling Buzz Word you have heard?


Go visit any political thread in Off Topic and you'll find latest buzz word slurs, repeated endlessly.
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 241 (view)
 
migrant caravan
Posted: 11/21/2018 3:43:37 PM

she gets off

what's this 'she' crap<<<
Don't ya know the PC pronoun is 'they'
we are now a genderless society dude/dudette/do what?
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 307 (view)
 
Random thoughts at play......
Posted: 11/21/2018 3:05:45 PM
scars from one rusty December
still raised on the tender
flesh left after that thing that
happened on that day
or that night
I don't really don't remember
cuz I lost my light
my faith in you that night
when you told me that
the wounds that were tendered
would taunt me
remember
what happened that night
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 392 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/21/2018 12:56:58 PM
Anybody see the clip of Snoop Dogg getting his star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame?

After thanking the usual suspects, he thanked himself for all the hard work, etc he put in to get to where he is today.
No false modesty there. Love it. It was perfect. You go, Snoop Dogg!

;-)
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 109 (view)
 
My Cats are C*ck-Blocking Me
Posted: 11/20/2018 12:04:24 PM
msg#108:
Real men love cats.

I'd be really happy to find a man who is a cat lover.
________________________________________


too late, mine died on Halloween.

My heart goes out to you johnfromzelie<<<
Always sad to lose a little fur-face buddy.
;-(
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Do you like horses?
Posted: 11/20/2018 7:14:41 AM
msg#11:
If you find this "annoying" taking note of it will only propagate it, you know that, right?

Please, remain annoyed


Annoyed I will remain.
Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar~
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 58 (view)
 
What would you expect from a partner?
Posted: 11/18/2018 11:10:00 AM
msg#57:
I fell in lust with each and every one of my math teachers. Philosophy professors did it for me too.
(Smile)


Come closer so I can whisper in your ear.

2+2 = 4

4+4 = 8


...polynomial, quadratic equation, A squared plus B squared equals C squared~
(Sigh)

;-)
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Do you like horses?
Posted: 11/18/2018 4:59:17 AM
msg#9:

Even in a horse thread we feel the need to mention Trump. This country has gotten very, very bizarre


I've noticed that as well. I can be reading an article in some magazine like the NYer or NYRB that has nothing to do with the politics and somewhere in there the author of the article slips in some slam about Trump.It's like a tic or something.Very annoying~
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 333 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/18/2018 4:47:55 AM
msg#330:

When people say they are fine being alone.....they mean that the desire to have a mate doesn't consume them in the way it does Ms July.
They are content....they don't feel the need to chase love....they don't go crazy searching and researching every aspect of dating.
They are completely at peace with coming home and spending time alone....and don't need a partner to validate who they are as a person.
That doesn't mean that they wouldn't be happy finding love again...it just means if it doesn't happen....it will not affect their happiness.
__________________________________________


This is where I'm pretty much at right now. Being alone was tough at first, but it got easier as I've gotten older.

I spent too many years hopping from lily pad to lily pad and always lost myself.


+1

CoolDog< I always 'lost myself', too. Not sure why since I recognized that 'I do that' from early on. And was always very unhappy about it and somewhat horrified that I'd do i t again and again, even after being aware of my propensities in that direction. Much better off psychologically living alone---keeps me feeling 'whole' albeit a bit lonely at times~
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 55 (view)
 
What would you expect from a partner?
Posted: 11/17/2018 1:56:57 PM
msg#54:
I once fell in lust with a man I'd known for some time and originally found unattractive simply because he showed me how to make calculus beautiful.


I fell in lust with each and every one of my math teachers. Philosophy professors did it for me too.
(Smile)
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Do you like horses?
Posted: 11/17/2018 12:14:23 PM
OP:
Do you like horses?
I see many women in my area like horses. Some even own them.


Horses Make a Landscape Look More Beautiful: Poems by Alice Walker

She's right~
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 311 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/16/2018 4:27:46 PM
^^^and believe it or not, now her father has a dread disease.
The woman's got a lot on her plate!
Lord have Mercy.
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 5995 (view)
 
Haiku Connection - Part IV
Posted: 11/16/2018 2:53:10 PM
Into hiccuped glee
Toddlers laugh until they cry
Beg for God's mercy
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 1581 (view)
 
Haikuerotic
Posted: 11/16/2018 2:49:54 PM
No luggage required
Wear your shoes your coat your hat
This is all you need
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 1888 (view)
 
haiku...
Posted: 11/16/2018 2:47:30 PM
spins another web
while the first one captures flies
stock up for winter
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 2788 (view)
 
Pick a line, any line, from the poem above (props to W)
Posted: 11/16/2018 1:58:22 PM
Our past will never rewind
But what would you change
Anyway even if you could
Rewind to the day to the hour
You thought was the place
Was the time was the case
That lead to your fall
Your fall from grace
Your finest downfall, total loss of face
That thing you thought
Finally crushed you
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 300 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/15/2018 2:17:03 PM
OP:
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails


If you believe this, you are lost.
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 112 (view)
 
Are You Always Barefoot?
Posted: 11/13/2018 2:47:18 PM
msg#111:
Are You Always Barefoot?
Message: Oh...alright then.
Usually a little shy...haha


I always suspected there was something different about you, Ms Rumours!

hahahaha
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Is art attractive?
Posted: 11/13/2018 1:34:10 PM
msg#6:
:
hemingway234
I'm an artist (writer, inventor).

Say what? That does not compute.

To me, an inventor is a scientist, which is close to being the opposite of an artist. Thomas Edison, often described as “America’s greatest inventor” would never, in a million years, have referred to himself as an artist. Now as to writer, Hemingway would have probably punched you out if you called him an artist. Robert Heinlein would have laughed at the very idea. I expect Stephen King would also laugh at the idea.

Now before you bring it up, I will grant you Leonardo Da Vinci, the quintessential “Renaissance Man”. But he lived and died 600 years ago, so I’m going to discount that one.


Do not agree with you at all OHenryx.
Not only did you write the above,but you also claim that artistic types are viewed as weak and effeminate, and probably do not like math~
Where do you get this stuff?

Most artistic types I know are curious about the world in general and have wide ranging interests. And abilities. Math is a basic part of writing and playing music, setting up a painting, composing poetry. Syllables, beats, intervals, proportions, perspective, etc.

Lots of people who make their living doing art, also do other types of art to relax and recharge their creative muscles, ya know just for fun. Being an artist is a mind set,not just a job. And given that artists look at the world in their own inimitable way, it stands to reason that they might invent things as well. I don't believe the two are mutually exclusive.

I doubt Hemingway would punch you out for calling him an 'artist' but I'd bet money he would have punched you out if you'd referred to him as 'weak and effeminate'
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 1887 (view)
 
haiku...
Posted: 11/12/2018 3:47:55 PM
Hanging by a thread
Spider dangles looks askance
Spins another web
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 1580 (view)
 
Haikuerotic
Posted: 11/12/2018 2:41:54 PM
To your own Pole Star
Look see believe and travel
No luggage required
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 164 (view)
 
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 11/11/2018 2:55:00 PM
I hope I can enjoy one more~
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 68 (view)
 
How Long Should You Date Someone Before Moving In Together?
Posted: 11/11/2018 9:29:30 AM
msg#67:
^^^ That sounds really bad. Did you read that and think about what you were saying before you hit the POST button?


This part in particular. It makes you sound very, very "material", to quote Madonna.

jerseynative7
an actual ring on my finger


Really Ohenry?
I did not take it that way at all.
I think she meant (I may be wrong) that she wanted a very serious commitment before cohabiting. As in it leading to actual marriage, as signified by the giving of a ring. (does not have to be the Hope Diamond!)
(Smile)
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 413 (view)
 
On dating a cheapskate.
Posted: 11/11/2018 5:58:16 AM
msg#414:
Too many women want Ken when they are not Barbie and vice versa....


You're so funny. Have you ever actually SEEEN a 'Ken Doll'?
Not much there that a woman would want~

hahahaha
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 986 (view)
 
crayons dipped in phoenix fire
Posted: 11/11/2018 5:49:29 AM
Be still in winter
Be the quiet be the hush
Be that which you are
Soul in darkness shines still bright
Soft white radiance blooms
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
Msg: 1579 (view)
 
Haikuerotic
Posted: 11/10/2018 8:51:11 AM
Constellations bright
Little Dipper's diamonds point
To our own Pole Star
 
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