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 Author Thread: First meeting someone from Online
 fun_jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
First meeting someone from Online
Posted: 1/3/2009 1:59:51 PM
by the way, thanks for all the pointers and help it really helped me realize were all in the same boat! xoxo
 fun_jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
First meeting someone from Online
Posted: 1/3/2009 1:58:50 PM
thank you guys, I think that the one woman is right about the social anxiety thing. And its true I havn't really been on a lot of dates and stuff so maybe thats why.
In all honestly I'm nervous because all these people put me on their fav list tell me how pretty I am but no one ever says anything like that in real life....so I don't want them to be dissapointed with me lol. I think thats a big part of it that is why I put I'm a few extra pounds because I am no model body. Ok guys I'm gonna just try it, I hope. Thanks.
 fun_jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
First meeting someone from Online
Posted: 1/2/2009 9:13:09 PM
I have been on this site for over a year now and I've messaged some very nice guys I would definately consider dating. I am very serious about meeting someone from here but I am so scared and I don't know why! I very much want to meet new people from this site but I am so afraid of that first time seeing each other and talking and how to take it from there. I am even more afraid to talk on the phone and this is insane because I am so outgoing off of the computer but thinking about meeting someone off here makes me so nervous about myself, I start getting short of breath and feel like I am going to faint. Does anyone have any pointers on how they got over this! I really like a guy on here now and feel like I am going to lose a good thing if I don't get over this hangup! Don't delete I really need your experiences and or some advice. Thanks a lot!
 fun_jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Living Alone
Posted: 12/31/2008 1:11:58 PM
I don't like living alone either, but I feel like its something I need to do until I'm comfortable by myself, and when I am comfortable by myself, then I can share my space with someone else.
 fun_jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 341 (view)
 
for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor?
Posted: 12/22/2008 1:24:59 PM
I wouldn't exactly say money makes a man more attractive.
I'm dating a poor man right now lol.
But money makes things easier generally all the way around. And if a girl likes to be pampered and knows that one man can fulfill those needs as well as other needs like love, sex whatever then yes a woman may definately be more interested.
 fun_jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
500 hottest people
Posted: 12/22/2008 1:18:25 PM
i've never seen this before lol how do i look???
 fun_jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 106 (view)
 
Why are most guys attracted to pretty...um...b*tches?
Posted: 12/22/2008 1:10:29 PM
same reason girls go for guys who treat them crappy right????

Anyway you sort of implied shes not the nicest to you either so why are YOU STILL HER FRIEND? lol and shes not even laying you lol.
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
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just wanted to get some opinions on a man hitting a women when....
Posted: 8/8/2008 6:34:31 AM
Jennyann
No one has the right to hit anyone. and why are people"s self esteem so low that they think they deserve to be hit....?


I think you missed the point of my comment when I said that if a woman hits a man she deserves to be hit back.

I am not condoning it but I am saying she should really expect it.

If you can do something to someone else you should be prepared to get it back in return. She opened that flood gate.
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
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just wanted to get some opinions on a man hitting a women when....
Posted: 8/7/2008 6:43:03 AM
this post is driving me crazy.

I'm not insane for what I said before you guys are lol.

If a girl hits a guy ONE time he should slap her right back. That would teach her to **** off. It sure taught me good.

Rare violence is bad but not a deal breaker.

Some of my exes were really big and I could still really hurt them if I wanted to and when a girl starts throwing fists, I friggin hope the guy throws them right back! She deserves it lol.
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Why doesn't she understand ambition???
Posted: 8/7/2008 6:30:34 AM
Ambition is the sexiest thing a man can have, regardless if its becoming a painter or accountant.
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
just wanted to get some opinions on a man hitting a women when....
Posted: 8/7/2008 6:26:55 AM
I'm sure I'm going to get hate mail after this but oh well I always say what I think and I'm not about to stop on some taboo subject lol.

I'm not condoning violence by all means. But two guys fight. Siblings fight. Sometimes friends fight. So why is it such a big deal when couples fight? Yeah its aweful but not a deal breaker.

Cheating, Lying, Decieving are deal breakers but getting a smack that I deserve, I can take that.

I may feel this way because I hate to admit it but I've gotten physical with a man before, and I regret it, and men have gotten physical with me. I really don't think its a super big deal unless someone is getting constantly beat on all the time and has strict rules they must abide by.

Sorry but thats my two cents.
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
 
How has dating become what it has????
Posted: 7/31/2008 6:30:56 AM
michaela-
One Afternoon, according to an old Sufi tale, a man named Nasruddin was sitting in a cafe, drinking tea with a friend and talking about life and love. "How come you never got married, Nasruddin?" asked his friend at one point."Well," said Nasruddin, "to tell you the truth, I spent my youth looking for the perfect woman. In Cairo, I met a beautiful and intelligent woman, with eyes like dark olives, but she was unkind. Then in Baghdad, I met a woman who was a wonderful and generous soul, but we had no interests in common. One woman after another would seem just right, but there would be always something missing. The one day, I met her. She was beautiful, intelligent, generous and kind. We had everything in common. In fact, she was perfect.""Well," said Nasruddin's friend, "what happened? Why didn't you marry her?"Nasruddin sipped his tea reflectively. "Well," he replied. "It's a sad thing; seems she was looking for the perfect man."
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 55 (view)
 
How many people have actually went on a date using this site?
Posted: 7/30/2008 6:27:10 AM
I havn't been on any yet..........but I'm willing.............and its not scary unless you do it in a creepy way lol
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
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Favorites List?????
Posted: 7/30/2008 6:20:44 AM
lol yeah I have alot of people on mine and I have not even met anyone on here yet, and I don't think half have even messaged me.........maybe they are getting around to it eventually lol
 fun_jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
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Are we done??
Posted: 7/9/2008 5:20:02 AM
Me doing that I will regret it the rest of my life, I lost the one person I've ever cared about at all because of my behavior fate brought him in to my life and i ruined it, how do i live with that?
 fun_jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
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Are we done??
Posted: 7/9/2008 5:18:15 AM
UPDATE: WERE DONE BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE.

so he begged for my forgivness after I did all this I said no but eventually gave in, he stayed at my house, wanted to stay over more but I said it wasn't a good idea, we had plans to go to algonquin park i had my things ready, he told me how much he loved me and then left, were were supposed to go to wonderland the next day, he told me he had to work, i found out and saw pictures of him with girls, then he never even called for algonqin park and i saw pictures of them together very very close. Its my fault ok? My ****ing heart is broken and I did it to myself. I'm normally more agressive but I don't even care anymore if he wants to be with others as long as I have a small part of him. I have never even loved anyone in my life. I've never felt like this before I did not know your heart actually hurts. He has not bothered calling or anything. I don't know what to do I'm feeling unstable. its hard to wake up in the morning
 fun_jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
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Are we done??
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:31:15 AM
I feel sort of silly but go easy on me.
I ended up hooking up with one of my first loves in college. I was scared the first time because of all the emotion and stopped seeing him. Six year later we run into each other and were spending every weekend together, he wants to take me to meet his family. I don't fall for lines normally but he said after a month he already loved me and to tell you the truth I felt stronger for this guy then I did for a guy I was with for over three years so for the first time in my life I beleived him. Well this is my fist time dealing with crazy feelings making me go crazy and we went up to cobourg got in a fight I slept in my car because a girl he told me about before that he really liked was there and he forgot to mention it was his best friends sister. She was supposed to sleep in the room with us. I got upset. I slept in my car. He came apologizing to me and i forgave him till i noticed all of his texts were deleted except on from that damn girl saying sorry i fell asleep ad him saying its okay maybe next time. Well am so ashamed I hit him and cried because that day he was telling me how we were meant to be together and in the first time in my life I believed it. I broke his phone too and i have never done anything like that before, after all that he begged me to take him back and i did he came to my house we made up he wanted to sleep over but my roomate was coming home so we made plans for canadas wonderland the next day. He texts me says jesse wants him to do some work. I find out hes with a bunch of girls partying it up i just found out right now so i didn't confront him because he stopped calling the last thing he said was that he had to think about things and would call me when he got back from his camping trip, he didn't go he went on a double date to toronto island while i sat here so sick thinking of him. Normally I would flip out and be done with it but I love this guy so much and i feel that when i hit him and broke his phone maybe that was it in his mind but i was so done and he begged me to come back just to never talk to me again. I am in so much agony, this is the first time i've ever gone through anything like this and i feel like i deserve it for going postal but i was so hurt that he lied. I don't know what to do. I feel more strongly for this guy then I did with a guy for 3 years. He hasn't even called all week and he has cute pics with these girls. What should I do how do I move on??? I dont even have friends anymore. This is affecting every area of my life. I feel like I'm going crazy and i'm really scared. Please help me.
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Christmas Break Up ?
Posted: 12/31/2007 1:42:17 PM
i'm so sorry, not as bad but the guy i was dating broke plans with me after buggin me and buggine me to do something with him, now i have nothing to do for new years.
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
New Years eve is around that corner and......no plans what about you??
Posted: 12/29/2007 8:42:57 AM
awwwww thanks guys for all the nice reply's because you feel sorry for me........lol....no it really is nice tho,

I think I am going out with a bunch of my friends to the liuna station now......I think, but don't worry, I won't be home alone, its just I always have big expectations and then they are always let down,
I hate new years there is too much hype about it! I hope you all have a great one!!!!
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
New Years eve is around that corner and......no plans what about you??
Posted: 12/26/2007 3:31:58 PM
that sounds like a great idea but i don't think my friends would be into it, and most of them are taken, and plus I'm 24 I turn 25 in january one month off lol, just gets worse and worse lol, weird to generally im optomistic. Thanks you.
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
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New Years eve is around that corner and......no plans what about you??
Posted: 12/26/2007 1:48:15 PM
wow what a taboo subject........pretty girl sits home alone on new years.......geez confess!!! what should i do and what are you doing?
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
New Years eve is around that corner and......no plans what about you??
Posted: 12/26/2007 1:41:11 PM
I have no plans for New Years eve, all my friends have mates and well I'm just beginning to relize how much New Years sucks if you have no plans or are spending it alone? Anyone else combating this as well? Do you go out by yourself??? Why do they have to put so much pressure on this night!!! Then it makes you feel like a loser when you get into this position lol.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Ladies... Sex with your hand or with a man?
Posted: 9/3/2007 1:22:21 AM
ummmmmm me, i hate to say.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 156 (view)
 
Sex with minors
Posted: 9/3/2007 1:18:04 AM
OP-
I think i know the post your talking about!!!!

I read it a wrote how it was disgusting and he should be ahshamed and most people said all this wishy washy crap! i was in shock!!!! i'm glad someone else agrees, it is unnacceptable and that man whose post i read should seek help!
I think he started seeing her when she was 15 or something and then saw her a couple years later?
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
The local boozer
Posted: 9/1/2007 4:48:09 AM
i would feel special if my man took me to his "single boy bar"
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Do You Judge People By How many People they Have Slept With??
Posted: 9/1/2007 4:45:35 AM
its a bit of a paradox because everyone will say it doesn't matter yet you will be judged!
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 179 (view)
 
Why is there a lot of good looking women looking to find love single?
Posted: 8/25/2007 4:29:46 PM
maybe because they are emotionally scared or crazy. j/k sort of
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 102 (view)
 
If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 3:01:21 PM
I could live without it, theres worse.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Best places to Watch UFc?
Posted: 8/25/2007 2:37:46 PM
I was wondering for UFC fans around Hamilton area where are the best places to watch? I went to endzone, it was too busy but fun, and fool and flagon was too quiet for that particular sport. any suggestions?
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Masturbation while in strong relationships.
Posted: 8/23/2007 7:13:08 PM
your partner will always see something wrong with it, mine do. It just can't be helped, oh well.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Disability fetishists & devotees- another serious issue to think about
Posted: 8/23/2007 7:12:07 PM
i think its a really touchy and sort of sick topic that everyone is afraid to touch and its not really fun to think about.

But i thought about it now,
ummm on the one hand although it sounds so wrong isn't it sort of like a guy liking a girl because she has big boobs, or prefers brown hair or something?

but for a woman not to know or someone dating someone purely for something physical is always wrong. And someone not knowing that their disability is the reason and they don't know they are being filmed or taken advantage of, that just makes me want to puke its so sick.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
psycho date
Posted: 8/23/2007 7:04:59 PM
bikeman

i think you missed the point

and gnome

are you his friend or something? everything you said does not make sense at all, she did not contridict herself the way you said, all you have to do is reread........

OP-I THINK THE CRAZIES ARE SORT OF POINTING THEMSELVES OUT THANKS TO YOUR THREAD.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Do men think women women wearing glasses are sexy?
Posted: 8/23/2007 6:56:15 PM
i never wear my glasses outside and my last 2 boyfriends tried to tell me they found it so hot but i never remember anyone hitting on me with glasses,
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
A porn question from an old man
Posted: 8/23/2007 6:47:40 PM
whats wrong with 24 year olds and pigtails???????????????

so you know its just very easy for us long haired womean to wear it like that, its very low maitenence, i'm not trying to be twelve!!!!
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Stranngest sex talk
Posted: 8/23/2007 6:43:52 PM
I'm can't wait till I kick your ass in Nfl 2k6 after this
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 111 (view)
 
Dating a women you're not physically attracted to
Posted: 8/15/2007 12:05:09 AM
Thats it you guys are on my mean and judgemental list. Like you guys are any better.

OP I APPLAUD YOU FOR YOUR HONESTY!

Calm down guys, he didn't say, I may have to date an ugly girl he said someone he is not attracted to and asked how other people do it! If anything you just prove his point more by insulting him.

I'm going to be damn truthful here no matter how much trouble I get into.

Op-I'm not good with meeting men, so almost all the men I have been with I have not really found attrative at first, they were okay but in my eyes not all that and a bag of chips lol.

More then one I learned to love, when you meet someone with a beautiful personality, and you just click, their beauty shines through! I'm serious, they really become more and more beautiful in your eyes everyday, and physically sexy.
One guy our relationship did not grow, and I wasn't really attracted to him, and I feel bad for that but he did mean things to me, I'm sure I have my own problems for being with him then and I can admit that but I stayed with him for a long time because we had fun together and I've always just loved more with my head then my eyes or heart. But I wouldn't reccomend it.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 156 (view)
 
Very long hair on a woman is very femine and sexy, but few women have long hair
Posted: 8/12/2007 12:19:54 PM
This is easy.

1. Because sometimes in the style such as 'the jen cut' way back when and now the 'posh' cut lol. Ladies follow style.
2. Because it is more realistic and is less time consuming.
3. Because it looks sexy.

I would have cut off all my hair right now but its too thick! the only reason i would look like an idiot and i have a big head lol.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Horrible kisser = deal breaker????
Posted: 8/9/2007 9:09:23 PM
omg no way! not that big of a deal!!!!!!!!!!!
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
In-home dates early in the dating process
Posted: 8/9/2007 9:07:24 PM
I think its weird, one guy i went out with asked me on our second date, I said no and told him I thought it was weird........then a week later he asked me again! Geez!!!!!! I really liked him so I said okay. I wasn't afraid at all truthfully, I just think of it as a turnoff that he would maybe be that quick with all women in his personal life if that makes sense?
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 210 (view)
 
How many dates are people actually going on from this site?
Posted: 8/9/2007 6:49:32 PM
lets seeeeeeee hmmmmmmmm big fat friggin ZERO!
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 128 (view)
 
Weight and Sex
Posted: 8/9/2007 6:42:52 PM
I am so embarassed, but I think most women are right?
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Getting Her Off May Be A Challenge
Posted: 8/5/2007 9:10:58 PM
actually i sort of have this problem too and if your looking for a why answer me and her would probably both like to know.

Maybe its medicine, maybe its not being able to fully let go in front of someone else?
But I can help you with WHAT to do from a girl who knows this problem too well.

Try lots of foreplay and oral just because she thinks she can't orgasm with you she still really really enjoys it and if there is any chance she is going to orgasm its through you giving her oral, specifically oral especially since you said she likes her clit being stimulated lol.
Plus don't keep reminding her of it just do what you do because when a guy makes me feel like hes really waiting on my every move and wants me to orgasm i start trying to hard and worrying and well it doesn't go good at all from there. I hope this comes in handy.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Is this inappropriate or am I being a prude
Posted: 7/30/2007 8:49:52 PM
oh my do not doubt yourself here! I cannot believe you were nice enough to send him a shot of your legs! He is so rude, thank the heavens you did not waste anymore of your time.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 52 (view)
 
The majority of women wants a man with a sense of humor
Posted: 7/30/2007 1:35:43 AM
hmmmm i like a funny guy......but i like a serious guy too because everyone needs a balance and I prefer being the funny one and there cannot be 2!!!!
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 97 (view)
 
How many dates are people actually going on from this site?
Posted: 7/30/2007 1:22:58 AM
kjay,

you are so right and it seems that everyone agrees so hmmmmmm where do we go from here?
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 136 (view)
 
Was I a jerk?
Posted: 7/29/2007 10:09:39 PM
this doesn't even make sense, this whole situation is gross.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Heck with dating
Posted: 7/24/2007 3:59:51 PM
omg, i have just realized, its not even on here i just have a problem with, i have only met one guy and gone on a date with him my whole life,
the rest of the guys i already knew and they became my boyfriends for a long time. I really want to, maybe i should see a doc.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 44 (view)
 
People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/23/2007 1:34:51 AM
free bird your right, i get alot of messages saying "hey whatsup" or "hey what are you up to" or "lookin good" and thats it...........

I am bad enough at this thing and those make it even harder, or when a guy types in the subject line 69 or hottie, no thanks lol.
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 47 (view)
 
shot dowwwwwn in a blaaaaaaze of glory
Posted: 7/21/2007 10:33:25 AM
pulp fiction your thread titile it reminded me of
 dollandahalf
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 59 (view)
 
I thought I'd heard it all...scam!
Posted: 7/18/2007 5:14:55 PM
Well that's one way to handle it. Or perhaps you could explain you were just about to ask her for money to pay for YOUR kids babysitter.

FRIGGIN HILLARIOUS!!!!!!!!!!
 
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