Notice: Forums will be shutdown by June 2019

To focus on better serving our members, we've decided to shut down the POF forums.

While regular posting is now disabled, you can continue to view all threads until the end of June 2019. Event Hosts can still create and promote events while we work on a new and improved event creation service for you.

Thank you!

          

Show ALL Forums
Posted In Forum:

Home   login   MyForums  
 
 Author Thread: Dating moms with young children
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Dating moms with young children
Posted: 5/24/2012 6:53:26 AM
She could make time if she really wanted to.

I'm not saying that being a single parent isn't difficult and exhausting work.

I'm just saying that if it meant anything to her then she would figure out something, some way , somehow.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 37 (view)
 
How do you protect your child from a monster??
Posted: 5/22/2012 4:46:36 PM
I'm sure that i will be attacked and ridiculed for this but...

Have youi ever considered the possibility that she is experiencing some type of paranormal activity?

Just sayin'... Ghosts are real.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Ladies, do you even like...
Posted: 5/22/2012 12:30:51 PM
I agree that most chick neglect the balls but at the same time alot of chicks really don't know how to treat them.

Balls are not to be man-handled. They must be treated like something really expensive in a store. Something that you could not afford to pay for if you dropped it.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Looking for someone :)
Posted: 1/9/2012 5:44:47 PM
You may not know the very second that you meet the guy... But you'll figure it out.

There is no science to this thing.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Looking for someone :)
Posted: 1/9/2012 5:33:42 PM
You'll be fine.

Some people are going to write you off immediately because you have kids. It's just their personal preference and there is nothing that you can do, short of putting your kid up for adoption, to change that.

IMO the odds of you finding somebody who will love you and your son are prettty darn good.

That's not to say that you will find him soon or find him here but i'm willing to bet that you WILL find him.

Just don't settle because you are lonely. That's bad for you and bad for your son.

I agree with Siks that you have to learn to love yourself before you can expect someone else to love you.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 13 (view)
 
HELP ME!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/3/2012 11:23:27 AM
Make him feel like he's kittens mittens.

Do the things that you would want him to do for you.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 6 (view)
 
When is too soon?
Posted: 1/3/2012 11:19:48 AM
It cannot... I repeat CANNOT be before you guys have sex.

I'd say 3-6 months of dating.

Preferably closer to the 6 month mark.

You can think and act "exclusive"... Just don't have the "talk" too soon.

Commitment is scary.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 4 (view)
 
What should i do?
Posted: 1/3/2012 11:13:28 AM
You are going to waste alot of time and energy on someone who has told you that he doesn't want to be with you.

The end result will be the same whether you fight like hell to get him back or not.

Might as well save yourself the time and energy.

He doesn't want you and there are POF in the sea.

On to the next one.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Do I have a right to know who my has stopping over When my son is there
Posted: 1/3/2012 11:03:01 AM
I feel that you absolutely have the right to know who is around your son.

If she is bringing some dude over late at night, while your son is bed asleep, to rail her brains out and he leaves before your son is up in the morning then that's different.

Not only is it your right to meet this guy but it's your responsibility and obligation to look him right in the eye and say "Alright now Goddamnit. This is my son. MY SON. If you ever, ever, evereverever EVER in your life (insert your concerns here) . I will hunt you down and when i find you i will (insert your threats of violence here) . Understand?"

I told my daughters mother that once she starts to date someone seriously then i will sit this guy down so we can have "the talk".

It's your manright... Yes, your manright.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Is there any point?
Posted: 12/30/2011 6:06:59 AM
I'm not going to lie... I's going to be tough.

Never say never.

Women, in general, are less superficial than guys and more able to look past external imperfections.

Good luck.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/29/2011 9:53:15 AM
The guy asked for some advice and 3 guys on this thread told him the same thing.

You don't "snag" the chick with "hi". You present her with an oppurtunity to see your profile and show if she is interested.

Isn't "Hi" the way that most conversations begin in the real world?

He could sit there and spend 15 minutes crafting the perfect message for one chick who, 97% of the time, is not even going to read the entire message.

Or he can spend 15 minutes messaging 30 girls and get a few good leads out of it.

It's marketing 101. Get your product in front of as many potential consumers as you possibly can.

It won't work every time but whatever he is doing now is not working either.

Let him judge the "quality" of these people.

And is it really necessary to get on here and insult people? Really? And he's the immature one?
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/29/2011 9:26:17 AM
It's just one method.

It helps save time and lets you know where to concentrate your efforts.

It helps you learn quickly if she has any interest in you at all.

It's not perfect by any stretch.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Am I doing something wrong?
Posted: 12/29/2011 9:12:26 AM
It's a numbers game.

It's all about volume.

Most chicks on here are not going to interested in you, or me or the next guy. You have to "carpet bomb".

Send out 20 or 30 "Hi" messages. Maybe you might get 6 or 7 responses if you are lucky.

Then you use your "precision guided bombs" (personalized e-mails aimed at the individual) and go from there.

It's like Sex Panther cologne... 60% of the time it works every time!
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 8 (view)
 
bikini pic in profile? Do or dont?
Posted: 12/29/2011 8:56:55 AM
Kinda...

It's just a little bit too up front for my tastes.

Just my opinion on what i like or don't like to see when i look at POF profiles.

If the rest of the profile was awesome and the pic wasn't overly skanky then it wouldn't be a deal breaker.

Note: I'm not calling anybody skanky and I haven't seen the OP's profile. I am merely answering the question posed.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Rebound sex...
Posted: 12/29/2011 8:27:34 AM
Rebound sex does not make you a slut.

Try to keep your numbers as low as possible. Some guys, like me, prefer a chick with "low miles".

You have to think of your "resale value".
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Hang out or not?
Posted: 11/28/2011 2:03:58 PM
A Mexican restaraunt in Thailand?

Can you say nausea, heart burn, indigestion, upset stomach, diarrhea.

Stock up on Pepto Bismol.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 9 (view)
 
I docnt understand men.
Posted: 11/24/2011 8:19:45 PM
They turned down your money??

Wow...
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Too Forward
Posted: 11/24/2011 8:09:07 PM
Using metaphors is like having sex.

Everyone can do it.

It's usually not that good the first time but gets better the more you try.

Sometimes you do it with someone on POF whom you don't even know.

And sometimes it's over really quickly and you are embarrassed because that's not how it usually goes...

Maybe, with some luck, you will be awesome at "having sex".
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
I docnt understand men.
Posted: 11/24/2011 7:53:28 PM
This site is free.

I think a person who spends $39.95 of their hard earned money every month trying to find a soul mate is more likely to be serious about the endeavor.

There are a million ways for a horny perv to spend 40 bucks online. He is less likely to end up on one of those paid dating sites.

There is no cover or "dress code" here so it's a free resource for anyone looking to get sex. But that's also why there are so many people to choose from on here.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Too Forward
Posted: 11/24/2011 7:42:30 PM
POF is like a GPS.

Sometimes people know where they are going and just need a liitle guidance.

Sometimes they are completely lost and run into "dead end after dead end".

Sometimes the GPS (POF) is to blame and that's why they end up "back down that road".

Sometimes they have a poor signal and will just have to find their own way.

Maybe, with some luck, in 400 feet you will turn left and arrive at your destination.

I can do this all night!
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Too Forward
Posted: 11/24/2011 7:19:43 PM
POF is like a buffet.

People are eyeing up several "meals" at once.

Sometimes you won't get a second look.

Sometimes you will end up on the plate but not get eaten.

Sometimes you will get tasted and spit out.

Maybe, with some luck, you will end up being somebody's entree.

What does this mean? I don't know. Did anything i just said make any sense at all? Probably not. Did i impress myself with this culinary metaphor? Absolutely.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 3 (view)
 
I docnt understand men.
Posted: 11/24/2011 7:02:23 PM
For some it is all about getting laid.

For others it's a test. They want to see how quick you will give it up. Some guys feel that if you are "easy" you are more likely to cheat. You could be perfect in every other way but if you give it up too quick it's a huge red flag.

Honestly, i do think this is the wrong place to find love. It's not impossible just very unlikely IMO.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 16 (view)
 
KIDS - What is good/bad/ugly to show in a profile
Posted: 11/24/2011 6:25:06 PM
Just because someone has a picture of their kid on some form of internet social media it doesn't mean that they are an irresponsible parent.

This isn't the movie "Shocker" where the monster can come through the TV and hurt people.

My daughter's health, saftey and well being are my top priorities. It doesn't matter who can see her online because they can't get to her. She is here, safe, with me and my AK-47.

The lone wolf predator is the exception rather than the rule. The probability of someone seeing my daughter on FB and tracking her down based soley on a picture is so low that it's almost ridiculous.

The people you need to worry about with your kids are the people who you think you can trust. Teachers, coaches, clergy, family/friends etc...
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Our date was great, he keeps calling, but.....
Posted: 11/24/2011 6:57:16 AM
Go with the flow.

Maybe you are just moving too fast for this guy.

Sometimes when you chase something, that's when it starts to run.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 4 (view)
 
so happy!!! wow what a week
Posted: 11/24/2011 6:48:57 AM
Good for you! I wouldn't take a gift though. This person might find it a little strange or it may make them feel awkward if they didn't bring a gift for you. Congratulations on yor new gig!
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 8 (view)
 
KIDS - What is good/bad/ugly to show in a profile
Posted: 11/24/2011 6:42:34 AM
To most parents, including myself, our child(ren) are a huge part of our identity. Being a parent is the most important thing to us. So i can understand why some people include pics of their kids on their profile.

I can't put a pic of my daughter on my profile. It just don't seem like the appropriate place... FOR ME. IDK, it just weirds me out. Most of my pics on FB are pics of her, though, including my profile pic.

I make it very clear on my POF profile that i have a kid and IMO that's as far as it needs to go... FOR ME. I don't think there is anything wrong with others having pics of their kids on here if that's what they choose to do.

Happy Thanksgiving
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Questions about oral sex on guys
Posted: 11/12/2011 5:47:42 PM
Alot of chicks try to give "porn star head" or give the "inside the mouth hand-job".

"Porn star head" is just an overly aggresive attack upon the wang. It involves way too much head movement and that thing where she takes the wang out of her mouth and spits on it (not hot at all).

The 'inside the mouth hand-job" is self explanatory. She puts your wang in her mouth and then gives you a hand job. It's more hand-job than it is blow job and it's not that great.

Other things that can contribute to a bad BJ is the involvement of teeth or neglecting the balls. The penis and scrotum are referred to as the "package" for a reason. Also the more saliva the better...
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Womens advice.. She Says.. Dont Give up on Me
Posted: 11/11/2011 7:11:02 PM
I'd keep bangin' her and weigh my options. You are getting the milk so you have plenty of time to decide if you want to buy the cow. If she wasn't giving it up then i would tell you that it's a waste of time.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
I love my daughter... BUT...
Posted: 11/3/2011 7:09:26 AM
Thank you guys for reassuring me. I appreciate the advice.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 1 (view)
 
I love my daughter... BUT...
Posted: 10/31/2011 9:45:18 PM
I love my daughter. She is beautiful and amazing and every time i see her innocent smile i feel a little happier. She reminds me that God is good.

But, i can't help but feel that life would be easier if i would've had a son. That sounds horrible, i know.

I just feel that i'm going to be so overly protective and paranoid about her safety. You see all this crap on TV about what people do to kids , girls in particular. She is still a baby but i find myself thinking about when she gets to be dating age and i can't help but think that, one day, i'm going to be sentenced to a long prison term! She is probably going to hate me for being so strict but i don't know any other way to keep her safe.

I don't think i would be so worried if she would have been a boy.

I guess i'm asking if i'm crazy. Or is this just parenthood?
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Be honest but try to be nice!
Posted: 8/15/2011 7:56:56 PM
You don't even know me! I'm not selling anything. Everything in my profile is the truth. I didn't read your profile but i'm sure it's the epitome of testosterone laden sincerity. WTF? Now i'm a liar too bro?? C'mon man!
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Be honest but try to be nice!
Posted: 8/15/2011 7:48:16 PM
You're a funny dude man! The chicks dig the honesty and respect the vulnerability. The tough guy thing doesn't work. Chicks get that all day everyday. They want a man who they can connect with on an intellectual and emotional level. Trust me when i tell you i don't have a problem getting laid. I got a contact list full of booty calls in my phone. I want something better than that.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Be honest but try to be nice!
Posted: 8/15/2011 7:38:39 PM
I respect your opinion. I just don't feel it is necessary to be rude and insulting to other people is all. that's what i meant by "be nice". I will accept and carry out any constructive and helpful advice. Thanks for your help.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Be honest but try to be nice!
Posted: 8/15/2011 7:25:45 PM
thanks soulm8... will do.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Be honest but try to be nice!
Posted: 8/15/2011 7:24:55 PM
Yeah i understand it. I also understand that no matter what i post in any forum there will be a knowitall, such as yourself, who takes time out of his day to try to put others down because he needs to make himself feel smarter or more superior to those he chooses to judge. I guess wanting someone to be nice is feminine or gay huh? GTFOH!
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Be honest but try to be nice!
Posted: 8/15/2011 7:19:10 PM
K. Good start. Thank u.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Be honest but try to be nice!
Posted: 8/15/2011 6:37:11 PM
Ok, this is my original profile. it has changed very little since i signed up. I'm a little tipsy tonight and am willing to accept all honest critiques of my profile. I know some of the pics are a little blurry... I intend to post some more pics soon. And yes the profile is LOOOOOOONG! Thanks in advance!
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Is this your profile?
Posted: 8/15/2011 11:38:00 AM
Damn... It's like that?!! I need some back up!
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Is this your profile?
Posted: 8/15/2011 11:30:07 AM
Wow! You guys are brutal!!
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Is this your profile?
Posted: 8/15/2011 11:28:25 AM
@Beachgirltoo.... Are you serious?!! There are alot of guys with those pics or are you just busting my balls?! If that is true then it's pretty hilarious! To me anyways...
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Is this your profile?
Posted: 8/15/2011 11:10:48 AM
there is no memo Rosie. Just making an observation.
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Is this your profile?
Posted: 8/15/2011 10:42:25 AM
Who knew chicks loved riding quads so much!!?

I've noticed some common themes while browsing profiles... Girls does this look like your profile?

You love your kid(s) more than anything and they are the most important thing in your life. If i am unable to accept your kids and/or i do not like kids then i should "move on".

You "love the outdoors" and riding quads.

You are the "sweetest person" i will ever meet unless i cross you.

You are "not here looking for sex". You don't want a FWB and no you won't send me naked pics.

Looks are "not imporatant' to you.

You can go to the bar or club (but you don't go all the time) and you would be just as content "sitting on the couch watching a movie". Side note: Scary movies are your favorite.

You "hate cheaters and liars":.

You love your job (most likely in the medical field). Or if you don't have a job you are in nursing school.

You believe that "family is important". It should be important to me too.

You are "very busy" and you "don't get on here alot" so if i don't hear back from you it doesn't mean that you are ignoring me.

Summary of your profile pics:

1: the driving in your car pic
2:the standing in the mirror with your cell phone pic
3: the you wearing a professional sports team jersey pic
4:the this is just my good male friend hugging me pic
5:the you and your girlfriends at the bar pic
6:the you with your kids pic
7:the you in your fancy dress going to a wedding or graduation pic
8:the raised eybrow pic

Is this your profile? 90% of you should say yes!
 halfnhalf79
Joined: 5/18/2010
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Blue balls... It's real and it hurts like a mofo!
Posted: 8/15/2011 9:25:53 AM
I don't think this guy is necessarily upset that you made him wait. I think the way you went about it was kinda insensitive. You knew you weren't ready. You knew he was ready. So what do you do? You invite the guy into your bedroom, have this hot make out session and kick him out in the cold. He probably had to drive home with a raging boner and his stones aching like a summamo****! I think you acted selfishly. Not because you didn't give it up, which is your absolute right. No means no end of story. But you led the guy on and possibly caused him extreme and intense physical pain knowing full well that you had no intent to follow through. You could've just kicked the guy in the balls and saved him some time. He probably would've been less upset. Now, i know i may be attacked on here for expressing this opinion but it is something to consider.
 
Show ALL Forums