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 Author Thread: Eau Claire or Menomonie, Wisconsin?
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Eau Claire or Menomonie, Wisconsin?
Posted: 8/29/2011 7:42:35 AM
depending on when and what the activities were, I would consider attending. Always fun to meet some new people.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Is life passing you by?
Posted: 3/28/2010 7:13:37 AM
I've had several people tell me I should be keeping notes to write that book but the kids would be soooo embarrassed. In the last year: drove Daytona and Kansas speedways in a stock car, traveled to a number of states, took out a 21 year old foreign exchange student, led a Mardi Gras pub crawl in costume, went to several rock concerts, and many party nights. I expect in the next few weeks to try parasailing. Things in my near term bucket: combat air flight, drive a road race course, attend a several day rock fest, find a companion, etc....... My goal when I get old and maybe in a nursing home is to be able to say "I tried it and what a blast it was!". Life is to live and then someday you die!
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 3/28/2010 6:47:07 AM
Doesn't matter if it is the man or woman doing this, the marriage contract has been broken and there should be no expectation of marital fidelity. That is not to say that there cannot remain a deep friendship and committment but it is clearly an open marriage situation.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Gulf of Mexico- U.S.
Posted: 3/12/2010 1:43:54 PM
I went to Biloxie a couple of years ago; the hurricane really did some damage and mostly what was there were new casinos. I'd skip that area. Take a look at the Galviston area and south of there towards Freeport. Beaches seem to be decent and not overly populated. If you really want a low budget trip, you can camp on some of the Texas beaches. I can give you some additional info if you would like.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Mature Woman
Posted: 2/24/2010 7:19:08 AM
Is this where the real problem is?? What makes for that physical attraction?


I do speak with other mature women and found them to be not all the different from me. You may feel a physical attraction for 2 out of 50 you meet? Not that this in anyway makes a relationship but it has to be part of the equation..


I can't imagine that only 4% of the older, male population is that ugly or in such decrepit condition that they would not make reasonable physical partners. Are we men that selective of the women we find physically attractive?
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Birth Control
Posted: 2/17/2010 7:58:54 PM

I know a couple that did the same thing after their second child. Their third child came two years after he got snipped...

Vasectomy is not 100%, even after the man has been tested as shooting blanks the vasa deferentia can reattach.


Now they put little metal clips on the ends of the severed tubes. Almost impossible to reattach.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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How important is Fitting?
Posted: 2/17/2010 7:00:02 PM
Hell, my lifestyle doesn't fit that of most of my family and they still love me. I trust that they would accept whomever I brought along into the family no mater what the situation. Just got to love them. Oh, if I had friends and family that had a bunch of hang ups, their problem, not mine!!!
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men in their 60s
Posted: 2/15/2010 1:22:49 PM

Women get much more sexual as they get older! Peak experience for women can go on for hours
I'll have to agree with you to some extent and I think it depends on the individual and where they are in the menopause process and the level of replacement hormone therapy they are on. I would really like to hear from women in their 60s who are no longer on hormone treatment. The few I've met have very little sexual interest. I suspect the peak interest time is between not having a period and a substantial decrease in their hormones. My guess for most the peak is between 50 and 60. That is not to say women older than that aren't capable of having a sexual experience just that their desire and interest is reduced from when they were younger.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 2/15/2010 6:44:43 AM
I don't think it is so much given up as it is the return or gain from the effort. If I have to spend hours on Emails and phone conversations, then be judged as to my suitability just to meet for lunch, it isn't worth it. POF may be worse than real life but not by too much. I see the same thing regularly in society - if they don't already know you or you have a common acquaintance that does the introduction, they have no time for you and are not interested in getting acquainted. It is extremely hard to be a stranger and meet a new woman.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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What in the world did I have to do with your last marriage?
Posted: 2/13/2010 10:24:26 PM
countrygirl and others that believe marriage is important to you. Marriage vows are a very ambiguous set of "I dos" that have very little legal value. Would you be willing to sign an iron clad legal agreement as part of your marriage? One that actually had legal repercussions for a failure to live up to the contract? I think that would change the minds of a few men and make them more receptive to marriage.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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What in the world did I have to do with your last marriage?
Posted: 2/13/2010 8:25:26 AM
In many cases it is not about the woman or man but the legal system.
Just a couple of points:
Most states recognize common law marraige where if you live together for a certain number of years, the state considers you married.
A prenup only has so much value and that varies by state. In some states, you cannot sign away some of what the state considers your "rights".

Our overly intelligent lawmakers seem to think they can fix all the problems for society; they just aren't intelligent enough to see the damage they do also. Unintended consequences!!
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men in their 60s
Posted: 2/12/2010 10:01:54 PM
ScentOfClove,
Thank you for your response. That alone helps us older men realize that there are women in our age group that are still alive and vibrant - not all is lost as we age.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men in their 60s
Posted: 2/11/2010 7:36:57 PM
tryncatchme,
You may be right in a few cases where it is the number of years that is the important thing to them; strokes their ego or gives bragging rights at the club I guess. I don't think for most of us it is the number of years as much as the attitude and physical condition. I've met ladies in their 70s who were 10+ and some in their 30s that had a hard time making a 2.

Ladies and gentlemen, throw away your year count and look at your lifestyle and physical appearance. Are your clothes stylish or something that best belongs on the Goodwill rack? Is getting your hair trimmed or styled just too much bother? Can you even remember what makeup is? Is your idea of exercise walking from the parking lot to the bingo hall? It is all about choices - we live or die by those choices. Those choices also either contribute to or detract from the image we present to the opposite sex. Make yours the most positive you can.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Online relationships and the Unsuspecting and Innocent True Wife
Posted: 2/10/2010 9:04:53 PM
OP, you will meet more married men posing as single in your future. Believe me when I say there are very few "Unsuspecting and Innocent True Wives". Most know there is something wrong in their relationship and are just not willing or capable of dealing with it. Some are even comfortable or happy with the situation where someone else is "taking care of" hubby.

I believe part of this problem is the unintended consquences of a code among women to not get involved with another woman's man. I certainly can understand and respect that attitude if you are looking for a LTR or possible future marriage. It is not right to step into such a situation where you are either destroying someone's marriage for your gain or getting hurt because you got dumped. The problem comes when we are talking about casual dating / relationships that would include a sexual element. If women convey to married men that they would share a casual sexual relationship with a single man but not a married one, the obvious action will be for them to hide the fact they are married in the future. That is part of how innocent women get misled. If only we could all be honest, life would be so much better for all.......
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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He wears Victoria's Secret panties??
Posted: 2/10/2010 4:36:23 PM
I just gotta weigh in on this one . Start with the boxers - very uncomfortable - I hate just flopping around with NO support - sometimes even hurts!!! Now for VS, just not the best thing for a man - a little short on space for the contents they are supposed to hold. There are a number of places that specialize in mens briefs including thongs and other very sensual undergarments. I would suggest you do a web search for men's silk briefs or mens bikinis. I did use a place in California; I now use suppliers from Ebay, much cheaper and a better selection. Definitly mens with plenty of room for all the important parts. Do the Ebay search and send the results to your friend!!
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Is she one of the guys?
Posted: 2/9/2010 5:47:20 PM
And I would want approval from your pond why????
Of coarse she knows I'm married.
My wife and I have separate homes - does that mean married or separated in your mind?

Now if all you good ladies don't mind, could we get back on the topic of platonic friends and what the physical interaction limits should be to keep it platonic. I know some people are more huggy and physical than others; also southerners tend to use a lot of endearment terms regularly - everyone seems to be hun or dear. To cuddle or hold just seems over the top too me.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Is she one of the guys?
Posted: 2/9/2010 9:23:01 AM
FriendlyFreeSpirit,
It is so nice to know that there are people on POF who can "see" through their computer about the relationships of others when very little has been stated about those relationships. I sure wish I had your insight into people you have never met and and what their reality is. With that ability, I could resolve most everyone's problems on POF.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Is she one of the guys?
Posted: 2/8/2010 6:20:24 PM
SassySky
Nowhere is there anything about me looking for more in this thread. Sorry that you think married shouldn't have friends of a different gender. I didn't think it was relevant to a discussion on platonic relationships.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Is she one of the guys?
Posted: 2/8/2010 6:12:43 PM
*just jim*
I do not participate in personal attacks and maybe you shouldn't either.
FYI :
AK = Alaska
The queens actually made the playoffs and lost to the Super Bowl champs - Queens must have been the 2nd best team in the NFL.
Prostitution is illegal in most of the US
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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search results
Posted: 2/8/2010 5:59:20 PM
When I do a search, I often find I'm not able to contact the person in the resulting list. Why would I want to see people listed that I cannot contact? The results are based on my mail restrictions but should be based on theirs.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men in their 60s
Posted: 2/8/2010 6:25:19 AM
Did I hear the wind blowing in one ear and out the other again????
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Is she one of the guys?
Posted: 2/8/2010 6:14:09 AM
Thanks for the insight so far. I have several platonic female friends (mostly married or in relationships) and what has been described mostly matches those friendships. Physical intereaction is about the same as with my sister or daughter and makes sense to me.

In this new situation, there seems to be a desire for a more physical aspect yet be a platonic relationship. The hand holding, hugs, cuddle time, etc; I told her I can't do platonic with that kind of physical contact. I can't do something half way between friends and FWB. I've known her for several years as a casual acquaintance and the physical contact has been a hug now and then on greeting or leaving. Is this some new game I'm getting drawn into? I don't play games well - went through too much of that SH*T when I was younger. Maybe she is just totally confused on what she wants and doesn't want?
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Dumped in Minnesota - Why Do Things Happen This Way?
Posted: 2/7/2010 8:46:12 PM
I'm sorry that some man did this to you - no, it is not right. Unfortunatly, this is not a man's or a woman's issue, there are terrible people in both genders - those who don't know how to treat their fellow human beings in a caring manner. I'm glad to hear your employer is coming through for you and that you will be able to succeed.

Now for your question. I'm sure their are people out there for you to meet. Look at yourself and the image you are projecting. If you are projecting a negative image, people are going to avoid you. Smile, hold your head up, be the self confident woman that you are and your meeting people will improve.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Is she one of the guys?
Posted: 2/7/2010 8:32:58 PM
When a woman decides she wants only a platonic relationship (non sexual) with you, should she be treated in the same way as you would one of the guys or as you would a woman you were dating or having a relationship with?
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Incredibly alive people
Posted: 2/7/2010 9:23:10 AM
On an individual basis, it is attitude and self confidence. The real multiplyer is having 2 or more people together with similar attitudes - they tend to inspire each other to greater heights. Watch couples who do a little flirt, tease each other, enjoy some spontaneous laughter - they light up the room and make others feel good about themselves. Throw your hang-ups out the window and enjoy life.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men in their 60s
Posted: 2/7/2010 9:00:54 AM
I think those geographic differences just kicked in again as far as that age spread is concerned. Sometimes I think the cultures in certain parts of the country have a lot to do with it. In those areas where there is a larger older population and society caters to their interests, you will find more older people in better shape who lead a very active lifestyle. In other parts of the country, senior activities consist of the more mundane activities. I think this happens because when only 1 or 2 local individuals share that (perceived younger) lifestyle (whatever that may be), the are looked down upon by others - a form of senior peer pressure. I'll bet somewhere in Florida there are a few rock and roll bands whose members are all 60+ but very seldom in the more rural areas of the country. Same thing is true for other activities that have a smaller following. Plenty of casino trips but few things for physically active people. Also, the non-physical lifestyle is self-propagating in that once someone decides to be a couch potatoe they will probably never change. Another interesting related statistic is to look at the obesity rates and senior health needs in different parts of the country. It is easy to figure out where the active and inactive older population is.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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NW Arkansas Get togethers?
Posted: 2/5/2010 10:39:22 AM
Eureka Springs is a really neat place to visit and would make a nice place for a meet and greet. There are plenty of inexpensive accomodations in town for those who aren't from the area and there is usually something going on in town regularly. As for a lake outing, there are several nice Corp of Engineers parks and campgrounds in the area although I think they are closed this time of the year. I'm sure I could find one of the local night spots that would love to host a POF gathering. I do think there are a number of POFers close to ES.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men in their 60s
Posted: 2/5/2010 6:53:38 AM
Sorry that my commets stirred the pot and obviously upset a couple of ladies. Let me explain both from my personal experience and that of others. You may also want to review the thread on menopause.

When I speak of older women, I speak of those who are well through menopause (not just stopped their monthly). Usually this occurs somewhere between 55 and 65. It seems that their physical interest in sex is much diminshed. That is not to say that they won't have a sexual relationship with a partner but their primary purpose is the intimacy and making their partner happy. That is different than the woman who has a sexual drive to satisfy herself and enjoys her orgasim. I know this is a generalization and some women come through the whole experience with their hormones and sexuality intact but many do not. It is not their fault, it is just mother nature dealing a very cruel blow to the older generation. I have discussed this with several older women and countless men; my conclusions seem to reflect their feelings also.

You can also see this play out in most retirement communities and many senior social events. There will be a few women that most of the men flock around while many women receive little or no attention from the men in the community. You can guess which women came through menopause with their sexuality intact.

Would one of you ladies please start a thread about women in their 60s? I think it could be very informative for most of us.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men in their 60s
Posted: 2/4/2010 7:42:48 PM
Fluffy, I don't know about the men in your part of the world or your experience but you really do need to meet some older men who still have it together. No, we don't all have 6 pack abs but we are not as out of shape as you describe. Hell, my 75 year old buddy is in better shape than that!! I hope you are disgusted now and it comes home to roost when you get to be 60 or 70. Me, I'm thinking a woman in her 40s is almost at her end - then comes menopause and she becomes a non-sexual person while men in their 70s and 80s are still looking to get laid. Sad reality but true.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men in their 60s
Posted: 2/4/2010 10:20:25 AM
Yes, both quantity and quality are a problem. I did a search this morning within 25 miles of where I am and found 5 who had been on line in the last 30 days and I'm in an area with many more people than where you are. They (people to meet) are out there, we just don't have a way of finding them and then actually getting them to meet us. I would be willing to bet there are at least several hundred within 15 miles of where I'm at but I don't know any of them. Your quantity may be less but I'm sure there are more than 2.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men in their 60s
Posted: 2/4/2010 8:03:55 AM
Another sad thread about older men. I don't think we really want that much. Maybe a date on Saturday night; someone to take on a trip; someone to share a bed with now and then. It seems that so many women think they have to be in some phase of a "relationship" just to go out on a date. What a sad state of affairs!! What happened to just going out and having fun??? I guess most of the women who post on POF are more interested in the "social gab fest" of the forums than actually going on a date anyway.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 370 (view)
 
What if Prostitution was Legal?
Posted: 1/21/2010 7:12:39 PM
Hey, I might just have a decent sex life again!!!
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 247 (view)
 
Men over 55!
Posted: 1/21/2010 6:43:16 PM
Nuthin2lus,
Those few of us who do dance and ask women to dance on a regular basis are just tired of the FU attitude we hear and see so often. I sure wish there was a way to find those who would be willing to dance and enjoy the fun.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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First Contact: Generic emails vs. Creative Writing
Posted: 1/21/2010 6:57:15 AM
CynthiaMw , Thanks for the info - I'll assume that people actually look at my profile even if it doesn't show. It doesn't make sense to me why someone who is actually looking for someone would set their message restrictions that way but that is just my opinion.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 105 (view)
 
First Contact: Generic emails vs. Creative Writing
Posted: 1/20/2010 3:58:46 PM
How do you view a profile without the profile owner knowing that? I believe that is what the tab "viewed me" is all about. I didn't question the marriage issue only the lack of opening Emails sent to people. For all you know, those 7 Emails were to married women so that my being married wouldn't be an issue!
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men over 55!
Posted: 1/20/2010 7:02:00 AM
Dance, being married doesn't guarantee those warm arms or beds either. But yes, life is not all bad and there are some great times to be had; just have to be willing to reach out and take life as you find it. If I could do it over, I would avoid the marriage trap and the pain that goes with it.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 101 (view)
 
First Contact: Generic emails vs. Creative Writing
Posted: 1/20/2010 6:49:51 AM
Ahhhh yes, POF and the women on here. So far for January: Emails to active members - 7; number read - 3; number reviewed profile - 1. WTF with the 4 who won't even read their Email? Why would you have an active account if your not even willing to read someone's Email? I can understand someone reading my Email, looking at my profile and deciding "No Thanks". I sure can't understand the rest; I guess sending out first contact Emails on POF is a waste of a man's time!!
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men over 55!
Posted: 1/18/2010 12:39:30 PM
wooby, that 20% was just based on physical shape and attire for the evening; about the same as someone you would meet walking down the street. I'm sure a short conversation would have decreased that quantity substantially. I do have to agree with you about who is looking; all a matter of personal taste. I can't speak for others but it is hard to know our marketability; I don't think most of us see ourselves as others do and we are not willing to accept those limitations on who we look for. Now, where is Miss January??
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men over 55!
Posted: 1/17/2010 7:51:31 AM
As I read through 9 pages of this topic and many other pages of posts, I try to remember that the opinions and experiences discussed reflect our own personal observations. That those feelings are the culmination of the experiences we have had or observed and reflect our circle of acquaintences and our geographic area. With that in mind, let me tell you about last night's experience:

We went to a company Christmas party of around 200 people. Social hour, sit down dinner, the usual gifts/drawings, and band for the evening. Of that group, there were maybe 20 men and 20 women that presented an image that was of any interest. The vast majority of those in the 50 - 60 range where significantly overweight. One guy looked like he was going to birth triplets at any moment; women who couldn't really walk but had to waddle from side to side as there more than adequate postiers jiggled. Typical attire for young men: old jeans and a Tshirt; for women: sweat pants or elastic waist pants with a smock type top. Three young men at our table wore there baseball caps all evening.

To get to this party, we had to walk through a stinky, smoke infested casino. Many people sitting there with their cig in the left hand, pushing buttons with the right. The majority: women, overweight, in their 50s and 60s.

While I understand this observation only reflects part of the population, the image it presents is not positive. I do realize there are both older men and women in this world that are in good health and not significantly overweight, but I believe they are a small minority. Add in the attitudes many have and the result is a significant older population that is of little interest to some of us. Maybe this is why a certain group of older men and women are looking for much younger companions.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men of a certain age...women too..
Posted: 1/15/2010 7:38:02 AM
When I look in the mirror, I see a guy that has aged physically. Muscle not as defined as it once was, a little more stomach, some grey in the hair and moustache. I can work on the physical and make it better by putting more effort into an exercise program but can't undo the years. I think the important realization is that there are a limited number of years ahead to do the things we enjoy. I figure that somewhere between 70 and 80, life will have to change significantly or I may already be dead.

The real changes have come in my beliefs and attitudes. I finished the supporting the family and raising the children; the endless hours of work. My responsibilities are now to myself. Am I a shadow of my former self? I don't think a shadow but definitly a different person. I want to live life and enjoy all the things I couldn't during my career. My limits are to avoid the ER and stay out of jail, anything else is fair game. I think the older we get, the less responsibility we have thus the riskier are lives can be.

As for the dating: I use to always want to be a "fixer". I've totally given up on that other than to offer a little advice now and then. "Fixing" isn't my job. First priority is physical attractivness; can I see her as a sex partner or not. Second is her open attitude and self confidence. Then we can start to figure out if we enjoy similar activities and lifestyles.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men over 55!
Posted: 1/15/2010 6:42:02 AM
It is not about sports or outdoorsy activities but the physical exercise of the body which keeps it in good shape and increase the chance you will have a long, healthy life. Some prefer to hike, play golf, dance, or go to the gym. All provide that exercise the body needs. Believe me, it gets harder and harder with each year we age.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men over 55!
Posted: 1/14/2010 7:11:14 AM
thecatsmeoww,
Let me point out a few things for you and Daffie:

No, I'm not your old friend - I think he went by Gadfly. Yes, I'm married but when I travel and meet people they have no way of knowing that so it is irrelevant. I don't know where all these older "fit" people are that you refer to but where I go, they aren't. Most times I'm the oldest by many years other than my buddy. Could it have something to do with the difference in lifestyles we enjoy? I missed the Kiss tour, did you get to go? I don't recall meeting any of you older ladies when I was in Daytona Beach either - must have just missed you. Had a really fun time despite your absence. Maybe I'll meet some of you in Galveston this spring - and then, maybe not!
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men over 55!
Posted: 1/14/2010 6:48:40 AM
fluffybrain,

Obviously you are not familiar with what 50 and 60 year old men look like. We are not all fat and out of shape from being a couch potatoe. You also assume that all we are interested is "a quick roll in the hay". You might consider that some of us enjoy a social life and lifestyle that is more associated with a younger crowd. I imagine I could change my lifestyle and be compatible with older folks but that would be sooooo boring. As for ruining my chance at having a sex life with some of the finest overwight ladies on POF, no loss.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Men over 55!
Posted: 1/13/2010 8:59:06 PM
I think I'm old enough to speak to the subject (55+). Yes, there may be some fantasy but sometimes there is a little bit of reality there also. A few other posters have talked about the difference between the different female age groups and how they react to us older guys.

When I go out, I rarely see any attractive women in there 50s or 60s. Many women in there 30s and 40s won't take the time to acknowledge that we exist. So what is left are the much younger ones who do seem to show some interest in us even if it is only platonic. I have more female friends in their 20s than any other age group. It is more enjoyable to have a bunch of hugs and a few kisses from an attractive 25 year old that is your friend than have sex with an overweight 60 year old. Besides, the 25 year olds make excellent fantasy material!!!! Maybe that fantasy will turn into reality some day; I'll just have some fun while I wait.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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New sex robot - Bye bye POF !!
Posted: 1/12/2010 8:04:20 AM
Hmmmmm...
a permanent prostitute that you pay for only once except for maintenance
not illegal so you can't get arrested
no chance of a nasty STD
doesn't get a headache
doesn't talk back

Sounds like a perfect sex toy but a little lacking on the intimate part of the relationship. Who knows where this concept will be 10 - 20 years from now. We have artificial body parts and artificial intelligence now so why not a bot? I'm sure they will create bots to do the work around the home as well as sexual satisfaction. I hope she has a heater built in to warm the bed before I get there. Just have to remember to get her recharged during the day.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Where do we go from here?
Posted: 12/18/2009 7:31:31 AM
Wll OP, I'll weigh in on the subject eventhough I know it will get some barbs thrown my way.

Been in a situation similar to yours for years only my marriage is almost 25 years - too late for major changes. The best advice I can give you is to communicate a lot with your husband; if there are things you 2 cannot talk about get a counsler that can act as an intermediary. You have to make him realize where your marriage is at and that you will consider someone else to meet your needs. Understand that this is a very emotionally charged subject and he might just revolt and show you where the door is. If you can get to where you both understand what the other is providing and find ways to improve those areas that are short you will have it made. Try to work on the problems as a team instead of looking for someone on the side. The "on the side" is difficult to maintain and less fullfilling when it has to be kept in the dark

You are young enough to start over if that is what you think is best but remember that the grass may turn very brown on the other side of the fence. You both need to give a lot of thought to what you each bring to the table that appeals to the other. Then decide if there is enough there to try and find solutions for those things that are missing. If you try to find solutions to the short comings, throw societys opinion book out the window and find the solutions that work for you 2. Despite what a few posters have already said, I know that just accepting what is missing from your partner doesn't work - in time it will overwhelm you and be the sole focus of your life.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Friday nights, happy to be alone at our age
Posted: 12/11/2009 7:32:34 PM
Not by any means!!!! For a retiree, this is the first night in a week when people will be out enjoying what life has to offer. I'm home tonight because I'm still getting over a head cold and the weather has turned miserably cold. Sure hope tomorrow is better.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 82 (view)
 
no sex for 15 months
Posted: 12/8/2009 5:49:08 PM
Any resonable looking woman can have a sex partner at least 7 days a week. An ugle, old, overwieght one may have to settle for once a week. I'm also sure you could have the same man for an extended period of time if that is what you want. Men have it much harder because they have to find a willing partner as the OP has pointed out. For you ladies, it is by your choice not ours!
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Gamers aged 45+?
Posted: 12/8/2009 10:26:20 AM
Most everyone is a "gamer" to some extent. Anytime you misrepresent who or what you are, you play the game. Most people only tell the "little white lie" with the intent of the other person getting to know them better and not dumping them over an issue they consider small. I'm sure if you went through a lot of the profiles on POF, you would see opposing statements on the same issue in the same profile or their forum posts. We tend to misrepresent ourselves until well after the catch is made, then the truth surfaces. Has nothing to do with age.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 129 (view)
 
marriage on the way out?? if not why are there so many divorces?
Posted: 12/6/2009 6:35:20 PM
GoodGirl100
I think we can agree that those feelings of respect and value were there at the time of the marriage - the act of marriage shows those feelings. The problem comes later in the marriage when one or both of the partners figure out that their expectations are not being met. Excessive weight gain, PMS, child rearing, and menopause are some things that destroy many marriages from a man's prespective. I would assume that man's lack of concern for children, work compulsion, and emotional support do the same thing from a woman's perspective.


"all that SHE does for the marriage".
While her and you may see this as good, is she doing things for the home and family or her husband? What does "for the marriage" mean? A workaholic could say that and the spouse would totally disagree. Both spouses need to be doing things for the other at a personal level.

Men and women both have difficulty with the needs/wants problem. Sometimes because they require more effort than they are willing to put out, sometimes because they don't see them as important. I agree that communication (- the emotion) would solve many of these issues but it just doesn't happen - too many emotionally charged issues on both sides. Take the sex/affection comment you made; often times these are more connected together in the woman's mind than the man's. Affection being the emotional connection while sex is the physical.

A new thought: maybe the prevelance of emotional problems in society today is a major contributor to divorce? Why can't couples openly discuss any topic without the emotionally charged environment? Obviously a major problem because it doesn't even happen in these forums.
 
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