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 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 104 (view)
 
avoiding controlling men
Posted: 12/26/2013 1:19:43 PM
Just to add to the mix, how many times do we read the whining from some women that a lot of men DON'T take "control" of the situation(dating)????
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Walts,
You nailed that on point. I hate the complaining from some women that get resentful when the man does not take control and start questioning him manhood and complaining about or them females feel that they can do a better job themselves. If you want the man to take the lead, Trust him and let him lead, Let the man be a man. Don't complain
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 97 (view)
 
avoiding controlling men
Posted: 12/25/2013 2:45:52 PM

A man does not "take the lead", he is given it by his partner

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Yes leadership as a husband is given by her, because she wants him to lead. Not just any man that just runs up and starts telling her what to do. And Leadership roll starts off by being the servant. Meeting the needs of your mate. Being the Head does not mean master as in a master-slave relationship, nor does it mean a relationship like a general to a private in the army. It is more like a partnership where one is the leader, guide, director. Now consider this. Can you think of any decision that a husband should make WITHOUT consulting or considering his wife and her wishes? I cannot!
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 167 (view)
 
Loves Me But Not Sexually Attracted To Me
Posted: 12/25/2013 8:49:13 AM
I'd abandon ship on this one. He's not attracted to you and you want someone that is attracted to you. You deserve better.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 36 (view)
 
insecurity and jealousy....
Posted: 12/24/2013 7:43:27 PM
My girlfriend and I have control problems with control. I don't like her driving my car because I like being in control of my car and she doesn't like it when I'm driving her car because she does not have control. We are both learning to trust each other when it comes to the whole control thing.

Insecurities just need reassurance and trust and that's what we are working on with each other.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 94 (view)
 
avoiding controlling men
Posted: 12/24/2013 7:13:11 PM
yup some females want to be the boss and they will fight a man to prove that they are a boss. Like a lot of posters said Control is when you allow it. My gf and I got into a discussion about control and and always being in control has to do with some trust issues. We both notice that we love being in control and sometimes we need to back off being in control all the time and just trust in each other.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 11 (view)
 
A man that cannot finish the deed??
Posted: 12/17/2013 8:54:05 PM
So what, the dude is just going bang her in till she's in pain?? Both people need to communicate.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Canceled date plans
Posted: 12/17/2013 7:13:56 PM
?? OP have you made plans to see this dude? if you made plans with him keep your word and go see him.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Has anyone ever been in a relationship with a Hoarder?
Posted: 12/9/2013 4:37:47 PM
Hoarders need a LOT of counseling and them counselors need to learn to have patience with them. It's not easy dealing with Hoarders. Like one poster said is it affecting you or is it an embarrassment to your fam and friends? If it affects you get out of that relationship or work it out with the Hoarder.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Update: Pregnant and Hurting
Posted: 12/9/2013 4:03:41 PM
Good that the dude is getting his act together. Bringing a child into the world requires stepping up to the plate and handling them responsibilities.
 archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 139 (view)
 
Is it ok to show up at my mans house unannounced??
Posted: 10/12/2013 8:13:31 AM
Nope it is not okay to show up unannounced. He could have family over or personal issues to handle. Don't know but coming unannounced not okay.
 archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 164 (view)
 
What if you were being tracked by your cell phone?
Posted: 10/12/2013 7:59:49 AM
Big time control freak. Yes there are apps on phone that can track you down.
 archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Going dutch for engagement ring???
Posted: 10/12/2013 7:40:37 AM
I'd rather put that money on a down payment towards a house, than on a ring
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Children: Undecided/Open
Posted: 9/7/2013 9:06:53 AM
I put prefer not to say. Cuz I'd rather talk about children when I'm ready to talk about it.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Friend zone
Posted: 9/2/2013 8:57:53 PM
ask her again and if she gives you the same answer, dude you're always going to be friend zone and that's not changing.

Women dont put men in the friendzone - men put themselves in the friendzone.
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Both genders put each other in friend zone. Females have put me in the friend zone and I have done it to some women too. It goes both ways.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Girlfriend of 2 years went out with another guy dont know if she cheated
Posted: 9/2/2013 8:53:47 PM
you're really going to let all this slide OP? she lied to you several times and is still talking to the dude. Do yourself a favor, cut off from her and tell her never to contact you again.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 107 (view)
 
Is he a racist or just sarcastic and rude?
Posted: 9/2/2013 8:44:08 PM
lolamac that dude is an ***hole
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 42 (view)
 
need opinions before i ask her to go steady
Posted: 9/1/2013 6:30:16 PM
Don't catch feelings so quick man. Take your time, get to know her. Until you both agree to be in a relationship, just continue things as normal and see what happens.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Must have car - but she doesn't have one.
Posted: 9/1/2013 7:24:59 AM
A lot of people would make a vehicle ownership a deal breaker and it does sound stupid, but it happens... that's why I don't date demanding double standard people anymore. Don't go demanding from others, when you yourself can't bring what you want from others to the table.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 88 (view)
 
Do You Believe in Karma?
Posted: 6/11/2013 8:11:36 PM
Yup I believe in Karma. The same way you treat others, people are going to give it right back to ya.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 176 (view)
 
Told me to get rid of my pets
Posted: 5/27/2013 9:34:46 PM
you need to get rid of your cats. It's a deal breaker."
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This statement right here is a controlling movement. When someone is telling you what you need to do, instead of you thinking for yourself about what you want to do. That's a control issue, I advise you to cut dating this dude.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Marriage or nothing? What do I do?
Posted: 5/27/2013 9:24:31 PM
Wow, so very full of shit. When people profess to not do what someone wants because they are being selfless it is really their way of avoiding taking responsibility for their choices.

The reason for marrying someone is that they are your best friend, you love them deeply, and you do not want to live the rest of your life without them. It isn't because if I don't they'll leave.

If you really care about her walk away clean, or marry her and get it over with.
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Packagedealx3,
explained it better. That's a real talk that.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 141 (view)
 
Just looking for friends
Posted: 5/11/2013 7:40:24 AM
Depends on what people are looking for. People are not going to bend down for ya. What are you looking for? relationship or friends? some people want a friendship for there own reasons and others want a relationship.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 139 (view)
 
Is Texting Cheating?
Posted: 5/10/2013 10:03:53 PM
yeah that's out of bounds, dude has a girlfriend and texting, flirting and talking to you. It's not cheating, but it's disrespectful.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Text?
Posted: 5/5/2013 9:10:45 PM
take your time no rush
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 35 (view)
 
I don't want to be the jealous type.
Posted: 5/5/2013 8:33:47 PM
^^
depends... sometimes Jealousy is not healthy, if it is about being in control, shadiness and being possessive.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 187 (view)
 
Whats it like being single over 30?
Posted: 5/5/2013 7:26:52 PM
drama free, handling my priorities and responsibilities. Keeping busy. It's good when things are not being rushed.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 12 (view)
 
going on 10 months, should I love her or leave her?
Posted: 5/4/2013 12:03:24 PM
Let her go and stay single
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 79 (view)
 
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 4/29/2013 8:58:43 PM
Why do men act like they are always busy?
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because some of them dudes are not into you
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 735 (view)
 
u can't have a platonic friendship with opposite sex
Posted: 4/29/2013 2:18:14 PM
It is up to a girl to decide if it is going to to be platonic friendship or not. for it is hard for a guy to refuse sex.
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I don't agree with you. There were times I friend zoned females and it goes both ways regardless of gender.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
It's been a year, he won't give me oral!
Posted: 4/17/2013 8:24:43 PM
OP,
do you want to settle for that? in the past I went thru this and dumped a female because of the double standard. No more double standard crap for me, and you should do the same.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 14 (view)
 
My guy is showing as being logged on, but he says he hasn't
Posted: 4/14/2013 6:15:03 AM
OP,
both of you should never have to spy on each other,this is games. I was once in this kind of dating situation and both people end up messing up. Unless both of you are in a agreed relationship, don't expect anything from anyone.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Facebook and Women
Posted: 4/9/2013 11:26:28 PM
well then OP,
if she has you on fb and she's not talking to you. You could always delete her off your facebook because she's got nothing to offer. Why waste your time with someone that doesn't want to talk to you?
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Bacon Hater! Worst/funniest date evah!
Posted: 4/7/2013 10:16:24 AM
- Takes the cheese, smells it and says, "this smells like sh*t"
- Hands the cheese to me and said, "try it"
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??? o_0 that's creepy. There are some people out there that don't like bacon but rude manners is just downright nasty. Or what the dude could have done was just simply take off the bacon and just eat the burger.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 51 (view)
 
If you were the other woman - would you want to know?
Posted: 4/7/2013 10:11:57 AM
yes you do have the right to know
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Is this true:basically men want a sexy woman/women want a successful man?
Posted: 4/7/2013 5:32:57 AM
I want a sexy female that can contribute equally to the relationship and dating, thank you.
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Most women will not date, or marry a man, who is beneath them financially. As an old gf of mine once said "water seeks it's own level."
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yup because some people date within them spending income.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 85 (view)
 
I can hear my roommate and his gf have sex, what should I do?
Posted: 4/7/2013 5:29:47 AM
Kick down the door and give them pizza in the middle of the act
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Be wary of recently divorced train wrecks
Posted: 4/6/2013 5:24:33 AM
nonmedicated,
kudos. Divorce is straight up messy, even when I was a child growing up in a divorced environment, depressing. It's not something children should have to go thru. People going thru Divorce are definitely not ready to date and need A LOT of time to heal and raise their children. Or just heal and get help.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 59 (view)
 
I can hear my roommate and his gf have sex, what should I do?
Posted: 4/4/2013 7:47:22 PM
Lool Sweet_Daniamal,
That is hilarious. My roommate used to bring his girlfriend over to our place but when I had friends over, he also had his girl over and he heard my friends and I laughing our asses off on in the kitchen. He stopped bringing her over when I'm around, instead he goes over and visits her. Guess he learned his lesson. I don't bring dates over to the apartment, unless. The date and I are in a relationship, then I let my roommate know what's up.

When I was intimate with my Ex, we locked the doors and cranked up that RMB music up. After we just cuddled with each other and chilled.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 3 (view)
 
She is not satisfied with what I make. Should I continue this relationship?
Posted: 4/2/2013 8:10:16 PM
Well that's on her she has 2 choices, continue things with you or she can move on with someone that makes more money. Or you can cut things off and move on for yourself OP.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Question for Men! Help...
Posted: 4/1/2013 6:05:02 PM
Talk to him and tell him. You call him and communicate. When you talk to him let him know this, exactly what you just told us.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 73 (view)
 
For women: Why is it so important that the man drive a car?
Posted: 4/1/2013 2:59:16 PM
Import,
Guess I did miss all them opinions, I also drive and I do not mind nor would mind driving people within my local area. Just as you said and others said about people sharing driving responsibility, I'm down for that as long as them others are willing to contribute back like I said and don't demand it.

I made my choice with my car situation and yes I'm sticking to it. I don't know about the OP. But I tend on saving my money for a better car and me without a car for that time being is just temporarily and if the dating pool gets smaller cuz of it so be it.

And Femaleconnection is on point.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 49 (view)
 
For women: Why is it so important that the man drive a car?
Posted: 3/31/2013 10:21:31 PM
I've been in situations where past cars I had and the car that I have right now, have broken down. And it's not easy getting the money to pay for repairs right away. I had to save money and take bus until I had the money to pay for repairs.

I wonder how females are going to handle a man if his car breaks down and he doesn't have the money to fix it right away. What, is she going to break up with him because the car broke down? I would like to picture a marriage. Some women braking up with dudes because their cars break down and don't have the money to easily pay for it. But yet want the princess entitlement of demanding for rides when they themselves are not contributing Sh!t. Ladies the same way you want a man to contribute for you, you better damn well contribute the same for him.

I know I'm taking really negative right now but this kinda crap really pisses me off, Done ranting.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 30 (view)
 
For women: Why is it so important that the man drive a car?
Posted: 3/31/2013 3:24:01 PM
Mordecai,
toss those females in the trash that don't like you for you. They're not mean't for you. A real female that really likes you will make the effort to be with you.

I only have my car for about a year before I have to scrap it, so I'm making the best of it and saving up some cash for another car later. But first I'm moving into the city ( Mississauga ) so I really don't need to depend on a car to get me around and insurance is more expensive in the city so in a sense it's not worth it. I'd rather use the metro pass and save the $100 bucks that I would pay for insurance rather than pay more for repairs plus monthly insurance. If females don't like that, too bad. A few less to worry about.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 84 (view)
 
Guys that shaved their arms and back...what do you think?
Posted: 3/31/2013 10:43:51 AM
I would shave my back but not my arms. Kinda weird to shave arms
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 98 (view)
 
Why is this so offensive
Posted: 3/29/2013 2:17:15 PM
If your having fun send time with the person if not, then just tell them you that you have to go early.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 37 (view)
 
why do men block you ?
Posted: 3/29/2013 1:24:42 PM
More like why do people block you? people who block you choose not to talk to you. It's their own choice.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Can I ask him out?
Posted: 3/26/2013 8:05:27 PM
Of course you can ask him out, go on. Sometimes you just gotta go get it.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 111 (view)
 
Dealing with cigarette smoke
Posted: 3/26/2013 3:36:36 PM
I cannot handle being with someone that smokes. Cant handle cancer stix breath
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Mommy issues
Posted: 3/25/2013 10:06:29 PM
^^^
I like your post. I refuse to date a female that cannot stand up to her parents or let her parents run her life. I can understand a child that's not fully grown up to be run by parents because child is still young. But a grown adult from 19 and up, that says volumes. Exactly like you said there comes a point where a parent has to let go and let their children make their own decisions. Yes parents will always love you but them also have to realize when to let a child fly out the nest for the sake of their mentality and independence.

Just like how some females refuse to date a man that lives with their parents, but that's for another thread, for another time. Ironic
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Insensitive or just trying to help?
Posted: 3/25/2013 9:41:42 PM
Not trying to help, he's rude as ****, Dash this ***hole. Anyone that comes off as disrespectful is not someone that I would want to date or have a relationship with.
 
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