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 Author Thread: April Singles Mixer at Time Out Sports Bar! 4/20 9pm
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
April Singles Mixer at Time Out Sports Bar! 4/20 9pm
Posted: 4/10/2013 7:31:18 PM
I'll do my best to attend! Sounds like fun
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Northern Californians
Posted: 8/7/2006 11:45:08 AM
Santa Cruz area here. Lots of campouts and camp fires at Sunny cove beach area.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
finding someone
Posted: 8/3/2006 10:02:50 PM
Well Darren you might have to say hi to a lot of women in your area before you get some to say hi back from this site or any other site. Then you have to chat a short while and get them to give you their phone number and get them to agree to coffee or lunch or breakfast or a movie or whatever and then you have to take it from there. But since you're the guy, you'll probably have to take the initiative and just do it. Expect a lot of "no's" and be happy with those victorious "yes's." You only need one woman who's a great one to be the right one for you. It just takes lots of effort just like anything else of value in life.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 95 (view)
 
Does a woman withholding sex in a RELATIONSHIP cause you to find it elsewhere?
Posted: 8/3/2006 9:03:17 PM
Well it's a very painful and trying experience, having been a woman who experienced having a husband who withheld sex in a relationship. We had a passionate marriage for 22 years but when his financial disaster hit, that was the beginning of the end, and he had no more interest in sex with me or any other woman. Nothing. Zada. And he was an every night kind of lover. And no, I didn't go out looking for someone else, I just waited patiently, hoping he'd change back, but he didn't, and eventually he just wanted the divorce and that was it. Even now, three years later, he still has no interest in sex. And this, from someone who was an every night player. So it's not just women who withhold sex, men do it too. But there's usually a cause, a reason, and it should be treated seriously, with lots of communication and love, if you want to try to help your partner or save the marriage. You certainly shouldn't just immedately go out and find someone else, until you've at least tried all avenues to save the relationship.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
What makes you respond to an email?
Posted: 7/30/2006 11:49:44 PM
Well I figure if a guy doesn't respond to my email it's just his way of saying he's not interested and that's ok. I don't respond to rude or strange emails but otherwise I try to respond to most emails, at least say hi, anyway.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 85 (view)
 
gold diggers in orange county/south california!! any good ones left??
Posted: 7/29/2006 8:44:50 PM
You know, Aces, I would respond to your profile since I also play poker, but I'm three years older than your short sighted criteria, lol. Now regarding gold diggers. We women get hit on all the time by men, too, so don't feel alone. It's ridiculous, but if your "older" they think you must have money just for them and since they're younger, you must want to spend it on them. I view money as very important for both sexes, but I could care less about labels. Youth and beauty can be fleeting,as can your life's fortune, and love that you thought would be everlasting can also disappear, so you'd better learn to depend and love yourself first and hope one day someone loves you as well. Meanwhile, after hearing those statistics, I"m seriously thinking about moving to San Diego, lol.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 101 (view)
 
Name one good thing about yourself.
Posted: 7/25/2006 11:56:12 PM
My breasts, and i can really sing and dance.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 360 (view)
 
Introduce Yourself Here
Posted: 7/25/2006 7:25:49 PM
Hi I'm JD and I returned to the Bay Area and hope to meet new people, hang out, and maybe meet someone special. I love the beach, swimming, animals, card games, dancing, singing, fun of all kinds, and guys of all ages. I hope you'll read my profile, keep an open mind, and look me up!
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 317 (view)
 
age difference
Posted: 7/24/2006 10:33:05 PM
i read a lot of comments saying, "well if you were a female of 17 and dating an older guy it would be horrible," etc. When I was 17, long ago, I did date LOTS of older men and lots of guys my own age. I was living on my own and going to college and frankly didn't think much about it. I even dated guys in their forties and (gasp) fifties. Nowadays, as an older woman I've turned down guys under 21 who've approached me on the internet (and yes, that has happened) because I just don't know what age they really are and have told them to quit bothering women since we don't want to get involved with jailbait, but there are 16 year olds out there, throwing themselves at women like me, and one simply has to throw the spicot off, lol. But I do date younger men (over the age of 21) who have a mature attitude and I have a great time doing it. I just try to make sure they're of drinking age, lol.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
One has to try really hard to get a date...
Posted: 7/24/2006 9:35:16 PM
Some people are really good writers, some people are really good phone talkers (audio), some people are really good face to face. Give the person you meet a chance. Your profile is kind of "goth" or "dark" or a tad bit "negative" so maybe it could be lightened up a bit to show your brighter side, but also really make a point when you talk to these women online to meet them face to face. Do it as soon as possible so you know whether there's a connection or not. And don't get discouraged. You will have to meet lots of women before you meet someone who fills your specific needs, but it will all be worth it in the end, right? Nobody said meeting the love of your life would be easy.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
need advice plz help..
Posted: 7/24/2006 9:18:05 PM
oh for heavens sakes go meet him at a neutural place like a coffee shop or something, echange pleasantries, and decide if there's something deeper to go on. Put your fears aside and just do it in a safe and proper way. That way you'll never wonder, 'what if," no regrets, just outcomes to possibilities. You'll never know otherwise.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 119 (view)
 
What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread?
Posted: 7/24/2006 8:51:02 PM
He Credy,
You seem very spontaneious, just like your profile, but it's hard to see you with the hat and all. Still, it does fit your wacky personality. Good luck!
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Love at first or second glance??Who believes in it?
Posted: 7/22/2006 4:54:45 PM
Well I don't know if you'd call it love at first sight, or a special connection, or just knowing that that one special person is about to enter your life, but when my eyes first met my husband's eyes we both knew something special would happen. And he helped chop down my Christmas tree and never left. And we had a very happy marriage that lasted for 22 years. Yes it did end, for a very real reason, but I will treasure the time we had. So was it love at first sight or did it blossom into love while we lived together and then got married? I don't know. I just know it happened.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Attraction online DOES NOT mean attraction in person
Posted: 7/22/2006 4:34:18 PM
I've been very excited about someone I met online and on the phone and really anticipated the meet, only to have my hopes dashed after meeting that person face to face and it happens all the time which is why I think you should meet as soon as possible and, no guts no glory, just do it. You really won't know until you see the person face to face, which is why the long distance meets are so difficult, athough I have heard of some sucess stories with them. For me, though, I want to meet a guy as soon as possible.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Will You Leave?
Posted: 7/22/2006 3:55:09 PM
Well we all have dates from hell. The important thing is to keep them as brief as possible and not to make a weekender out of a blind date you don't want in your life. Perhaps you should write in your profile that you don't want anyone who's a BBW or anyone with a few extra pounds. That should help.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 37 (view)
 
internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 3:27:49 PM
You know if a guy is nearly date raping you and his profile is on here, you can get him banned from this site. Just contact the webmaster with your story. Especially if he's using more than one profile or is out there, unstable. I do know of someone who's been banned from here for a whole lot less.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
When should one stop the search and give someone special a chance???
Posted: 7/22/2006 2:36:08 PM
If you really love someone there is no 'trading up." That person is the one for you and that's it. You might look at other people, but you will always feel you're in the superior happy relationship you were meant to be in. But until that happens, keep looking and don't settle for less.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Why do women think we only want sex?
Posted: 7/22/2006 1:07:58 PM
I would guess because they can, but the wrestling matches do get tiresome. I say pretty emphatically that I like to date a few times first to get to know the person, but I guess some guys like the challenge (lol). Still I love sex as much as the next person, I just like to know a little bit about the guy....
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Worrying about what others think of you on here..
Posted: 7/21/2006 7:48:01 PM
Im new to this but it seems to me that I'm seeing many of the same names appear on the forums which are people from all over the country who are "regulars" on the forums, not necessarily people from my geographic area who i am likely to meet, so what difference does it make? That being said, I do get a little queasy when I see under my bio some of the "hot" topics I've voiced my opinion on, lol. Like maybe I should tone it down a little bit, lol.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 259 (view)
 
what is everyones thought on phonesex?
Posted: 7/21/2006 5:50:43 PM
Have done cyber sex and phone sex, no substitute for the real thing, but did phone sex with one guy I was never able to meet for over a year. We just really had the hots for each other, until we lost each others' numbers (lol). Oh, well, life goes on, ring a ding ding. The old fashioned big phones are better, by the way (lol).
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
what the hell just happened?
Posted: 7/21/2006 5:21:06 PM
A lot of men like to have their prostrate stimulated, it can bring intense pleasure It all depends upon the guy.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 119 (view)
 
Hostile men on here
Posted: 7/21/2006 4:46:36 PM
Gee I've noticed more siliness than hostility and if the computer characters worked on my computer I"d add one (grins).
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
porno tapes
Posted: 7/21/2006 4:23:17 PM
Geez, I don't know but you're all sounding awfully prudish about this. I was married for 22 years, loved my ex, but we used porn and vibrators and all kinds of stuff just to keep things interesting every day. Kept the marriage happy. I loved him with all my heart, but loved watching the porn too for starters. Hmmm.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
does pot make you horny?
Posted: 7/20/2006 11:37:39 PM
Yes, it's definitely an aphrodisiac, you betcha, especially for women, lol.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Is Chemistry a myth?
Posted: 7/20/2006 11:10:05 PM
Well it takes me longer than 10 seconds, but it is important to meet someone face to face I think. I really can't tell online by a photo or a profile. I really do have to meet the person face to face. By the way griffin's profile is hilarious, lol. JD
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:29:39 PM
Look, we all make mistakes and have bad judgement at times. After going to a movie with a guy I'd met on the internet when i lived in Southern CA I agreed to talk in his car for awhile before going to my car w hich was in the same parking lot. After awhile he started his car, saying he was going to drive to my car. Instead, he started drving up to another parking lot and out it came. And he wanted me to do more than play with him. In fact, he was trying to force me into it. He wasn't driving fast, and I literally, opened the car door and rolled out of a moving car. I don't advise doing that, but he was a big, strong guy and i didn't know what would happen next. He shot away. I was bruised, but walked to my car. He wasn't on the internet anymore and his phone was disconnected. So that is my scariest experience and I'm still dating and still optomistic. So scary stuff can happen. You just have to have faith and move on.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 38 (view)
 
is inteligence a turn off?
Posted: 7/20/2006 7:52:10 PM
I love intelligence or smarts. I fell in love with my ex because he was so smart, because he was so passionate ab about what he was always learning, because I knew he would never stop learning. With every date, I ask a guy, what are your goals, what do you want to do with your life, because I want to see what he wants to achieve, whether he's 21 or 61. If he's "comfortable" that's not for me.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
A Dating Dilemma - Just between friends
Posted: 7/19/2006 6:06:03 PM
It seems to me that an ex is an ex and everyone should feel free to get on with their life and have some happiness, but it's probably a good idea to ask or inform the other person if at all possible.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Attraction online DOES NOT mean attraction in person
Posted: 7/19/2006 2:35:59 PM
There are so many things that attract me to another person besides the visual, a picture and a profile of someone. There is his voice, his smell, his laughter, all the senses that capture me on on a first meet and make me want to get to know the guy even more or let me know that here is a nice man, but maybe he's just not right for me or maybe he feels the same way about me. After all, it takes two people to be capitivated enough to continue the relationship. But from what I've seen, it's a waste of time to have any long romantic buildup. Meet as soon as possible, because the person is always somewhat different from the profile and picture and so much more can be felt when you're actually together.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 98 (view)
 
How many women suck their own nipples?
Posted: 7/19/2006 2:11:20 PM
Yes I can, it's lots of fun, but not the third one it's too small and hidden.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Ladies, There are a lot of decent guys on this site. Am I wrong?
Posted: 7/19/2006 1:39:51 PM
Well I posted yesterday for the first time and have a date tonight so I'm a happy camper. I've had dates at other sites but not so fast, that's for sure.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/18/2006 8:00:29 PM
I had sex on a first date once in my life, too. We'd talked on the phone for hours, felt we knew each other, spent hours together, and there was an instant chemestry, an instant attraction, where, when we looked in each others eyes for the first time we knew something great and special was about to happen between us. We had no plans to make love that night. But it was very late. He had miles to drive home. And it just happened. And he never left. He became my husband for 22 years until financial disaster hit and then he didn't want to stay married anymore. The marriage ended 3 years ago. I doubt I'll ever go to bed with a guy again on a first date, but I have no regrets. Sometime the chemestry, the bond can be so powerful it can happen and the sex and feelings can be that sizzling and yes, you can have oral sex, date, love and even marry afterwards. So don't crucify yourself over it. But save yourself for those really special events in life. They are truly rare.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 77 (view)
 
why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/18/2006 5:58:13 PM
Reasons why I don't respond to IMs: Sometimes if a guy is way out of my geographic area, if he's married, if his message seems way too sexual.
But sometimes my computer is just too slow and the IM disappears before I have time to reply! So maybe you shouldn't take it personally and send an email just in case. You never know. I'm surely not the only one still working with dialup, or not quick enough to get to the IM before it disappears, so blame technology instead of thinking it's a rejection and write a nice email note as a backup. You never know. She just might be frustrated that she missed your IM. That has happened to me before. Good luck.
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Would you consider a relationship with someone that your aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 7/18/2006 5:28:04 PM
Since my physical attraction for a man could be from his scent, or his laughter, or his personality, or his ambition, or the way he smiles, or his character, or the way he looks at me, or the feel of his skin against mine, well...it certainly doesn't necessarily have to do with physical attractiveness, does it??? So, yes, of course I have to be attracted to him to have a relationship with him, but my attraction may be based on many elusive characteristics that have nothing to do with Hollywood glamour and everything to do with my chemestry and his chemestry interacting, right?
 jdtallfem
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:46:51 PM
I think people who date online especially can become too picky, because they use a profile and a picture as an excuse not to get to know someone. In St Louis I actually worked for a dating service and watched as people eliminated people right and left who had many valuable qualities, only to "fall for them" later at a party or other singles function. Don't dismiss someone just because they don't seem your type when you see someone online. You're really only getting a snapshot. What's the effort to go get a cup of coffee and make a friend? If nothing else it can expand your social network and you never know. The person you might dismiss might become the love of your life.
 
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