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 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What do you think...
Posted: 8/3/2008 2:23:34 PM
It depends on whether you are looking to date because you don't like being alone or because you think it will help you recover from your last relationship quicker. Either way, I think you should take some time to reflect on why your last relationship didn't work and to remember who you are. It's not always easy, but helpful in developing relationships in the future. Good luck!!
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Is this wrong of me ?
Posted: 8/2/2008 5:51:26 AM
OP...Are you nuts?? First of all, the guy sounds like a loser...He's out of work, can't afford a place to stay yet he finds money to drink too much AND he has done something that warrants a stay in jail...what does that tell you???

AND he decision to take the stay at Beacon House is HIS DECISION based on what he thinks is best for him...Just because he's been staying with you doesn't give you a voice in his matters.

I keep saying that the best indicator of FUTURE behavior is PAST behavior. Do you want to keep living this way or do you want a better future?? My advice is to walk away. Good Luck.
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Is going back going backwards?
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:22:13 AM
PAST behavior is the best indicator od FUTURE behavior....Do I need to say more??

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
I think it's great...she's not satisfied...what do we do?
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:18:16 AM
I hate to say it, but it sounds like she's got some real SELF-ESTEEM issues AND you will NEVER be able to convince her that her cooking is any good....She won't allow you to. She will have to work that isssue...but she won't! People do what works for them, and for some reason, she feels that that works in some twisted way, for her.

My advise: Walk away.... I promise you that there will be other issues as well....Mark my words.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
People that lie, constantly.
Posted: 7/26/2008 5:12:54 AM
The reason people lie is because they are insecure and don't think that their lives are interesting enough. AND the reason you can almost NEVER catch them at their lies is because they play out all of their stories in their head as if it really DID happen to them and the begin to believe it THEMSELVES. If you notice, they are always one of three people in their stories....The HERO, the VICTIM or the MARTYR...(which really is a VICTIM, but with a purpose.)

Best advise...Keep these people at arms length. They need turmoil constantly in their lives and they RARELY out grow out of the need to lie, it's a way of getting attention.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
The Good Memories vs. the Negative Ones
Posted: 7/20/2008 7:49:50 AM
You ask; "Will he have Good Memories or Negative Ones"?? That is HIS choice....It's called selective recall...We remember events the way we choose to! Give the guy his space or it WILL become a negitive memory for him. Drop him a simple note saying that you regret your last e-mail exchange and that when he is ready, if even, that you are open to talking. Leave it in his court for now and get on with your life...It's the only way it can work...for either of you.
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Do men react negatively when women make the first approach?
Posted: 3/28/2008 7:18:29 PM
Nope....Not at all.
I actually think it shows that a woman has enough confidence to ask!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Talk About Being Impatient
Posted: 2/28/2008 7:54:18 AM
It sounds like he's got way too much growing up to do!!
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Was I the only one he fooled?
Posted: 11/27/2007 6:23:43 AM
I'm sorry that you were fooled...don't beat yourself up over it...BUT from now on, don't fall for anyone, at least until you met them in person....ok? Anyone who makes those kinds of promises, sight unseen, is probably blowing smoke.
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Deleting profile after the first date....
Posted: 11/19/2007 6:50:34 AM
Why can't you sleep??...It was your first date!!! What he did, has nothing to do with you. Did you even stop to think that maybe he was married or in a relationship and deleted his profile because he got caught??

Move on to better fishing....Good Luck.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Dear Beautiful Men, is this is true? Please be honest.
Posted: 11/15/2007 2:05:47 PM
I do think a guy can change his mind from 'casual girl' to the 'girl for me'. People do grow on each other....
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 54 (view)
 
How to dumb myself down?
Posted: 11/15/2007 5:53:58 AM
Don't ever be something that you're not....Even if you get the girl in the short run, you will be very unhappy over the long run. (And then people wonder why their relationship didn't work....hmmmmm)
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
My first blind date or what NOT to do on the first blind date
Posted: 11/13/2007 4:59:17 PM
RELAX and have some confidents in yourself....

Read your own posting and see how you are second guessing who you are....

Good Luck in finding you!!
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 50 (view)
 
CAN MARRIAGE CHANGE A MAN FOR THE BETTER?
Posted: 11/8/2007 10:19:33 AM
Why should a man change because he got married?? If he's not what you want him to be BEFORE marriage, don't expect him to become what you want him to be AFTER he marries you. Some women...and I'm saying SOME; look to find a guy who they consider trainable...and then when the guy doesn't change...It's the guys fault!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 68 (view)
 
best ways to get even with your ex
Posted: 11/3/2007 4:11:38 PM
Move on sweetie.... It's just bad karma to try and get even... You will regret anything bad that you try because it will be unfulfilling. Once again, you will be the one who gets hurt.
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Is this as twisted as I think it is? Or just spectacularly funny!
Posted: 11/3/2007 4:04:07 PM
Maybe he thinks that it's his best feature!!! I DIDN'T say his biggest!!! Reply with a comment something like: "You expect to impress me with that little thing?"
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
what is up with him
Posted: 10/25/2007 5:59:35 PM
I'm not sure what is up with him...but the REAL QUESTION is: What is it that you want and need?? He probably won't change, which leaves you to make a decision...Do you want to continue to live this way or do you want a more loving relationship?? I think you already know the answer...If not, reread your own posting. Good Luck.
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 316 (view)
 
Men.. Do you have to have the chase?
Posted: 10/12/2007 5:37:10 AM
I personally don't like to chase... In fact, if I find that I'm having to chase a woman, I feel as if she isn't interested and I stop. Also, I guess I never felt as is I was "hunting" a woman....she's got to be a willing partner!

I would however have to agree about your aunt's FOUR DAY RULE though. Unless he is having some kind of family or physical problems.
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 104 (view)
 
Take back my cheating wife and restore the marriage???
Posted: 10/4/2007 6:31:23 AM
The best indicator of future behavior is PAST BEHAVIOR!!! It sounds to me that she will hang on to you until she finds yet another guy.... Sorry!!
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
ex just contacted me
Posted: 9/27/2007 6:34:36 AM
I thinkt hat your best choice is to 'NOT RESPOND' at all.... Walk away and chaulk it up to experience!!
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Unintended Experiment - the importance of photos
Posted: 8/29/2007 2:40:32 PM
The picture may be part of it, BUT... Some sites have actually HIRED people to contact people like you who have stopped paying for their service. They try to entice you back by having some women write to you and want you to write back...

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Breast Reduction
Posted: 8/29/2007 6:09:22 AM
The size of a woman's breast should have NOTHING to do with a relationship. If size or scarring are enough to turn a guy away, he and the relationship, are both too shallow and you should consider yourself LUCKY that he's gone!

DO what YOU feel is right for YOURSELF and you will attract the right kind of guy for you.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 267 (view)
 
Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/16/2007 10:43:47 AM
I am one of those with a high IQ (156), but I don't think that it makes that much difference in dating... We just seem to catch on to things quicker than some.

Also; what some lack in brain power, they make up in other ways. Everyone is good at something!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
what should i do?
Posted: 8/7/2007 1:33:00 PM
It sounds like is a CONTROL ISSUE with her...She wants to see if she can get back in your life just to see if she CAN...It's all about POWER and CONTROL with her... She's got big, big problems...... RUN AWAY!!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
I have been in a situation and would really like some honest opinions
Posted: 7/2/2007 7:36:58 AM
Walk away and don't look back.... You are attractive and seem to be a good person.... Go fishing...I'm sure that there are a lot of nice guys out there who are willing to treat you right.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 62 (view)
 
since when does no reply equal racist?
Posted: 6/30/2007 6:58:48 AM
I think some people like to use that excuse because they don't want to admit that SOMETHING can be THEIR fault. The actor who lost his job on the show GREY'S ANATOMY used the same excuse....He kindda forgot that he started the whole thing by calling another actor a "FAG0T".

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 93 (view)
 
she has 2 kids 2 dif dads
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:30:56 AM
I dated a woman who had FOUR kids by two different dads.... The kids were great...She turned out not to be!! Don't judge her before you know what she's really like.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
reading between the lines
Posted: 6/27/2007 6:41:02 AM
I've learned not to chase.... If a woman is interested, she'll let you know....

Save yourself some heartache... Don't try to force a square peg in a round hole!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Why do I push all men away???
Posted: 6/27/2007 6:35:42 AM
The more choices a person has, the more problem they have in making any decision.

There are a lot of potential boyfriends out there for you and maybe you're worried that you are going to 'settle' for a guy and then find out that there is an even 'better' guy still out there....

Quit looking for a 'guy' , spend some time finding out who 'you' are, and trust me..... the rest will fall into place for you.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
I'm losing my man help
Posted: 6/27/2007 6:23:00 AM
My advice.... I know that you won't listen, but the best thing you can do for yourself is to WALK AWAY! I don't think anyone should jump from one relationship into another without taking time to be alone and sort through the things in their life. He doesn't know what he wants because he hasn't had that time alone. You, along with the other women that he wants to have "drinks" are just distractions for him so he doesn't have to face his life.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
I never thought of HER doing what she did
Posted: 6/24/2007 9:54:28 AM
By any chance, was her name Melanie? She sounds just like the girl I used to date....I caught her doing the same thing.... I think she just liked having a variety of men because it gave her power!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 46 (view)
 
q for the guys--Tattoos on women--yes or no?
Posted: 6/22/2007 7:01:12 AM
What centry is this guy living in?? The Dark Ages?? As if women don't experience pain, especialy childbirth!!

Besides.... Getting a tattoo ISN'T painful... It's more of an irritation; like sandpaper on your skin.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Why Don't You Call Us!?
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:32:11 AM
I think I can speak for the majority of men when I say.......What a load of bull$hit!! Men put as much thought into psychology of calling a woman as they do matching their socks to their underwear.

If you really got this explaination from a psychologists.....check to see where they got there degree....I'm guessing mail-order!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Can a guy/girl be too good looking that it intimidates potential dates?
Posted: 6/7/2007 8:32:13 AM
Sometime looks can be intimidating, BUT people are people and if someone is that intimidated by someone elses looks, well then it would never work anyway because they would never feel worthy!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
What should I do now?
Posted: 6/7/2007 8:26:59 AM
Don't get Selective Recall and remember only the good times you had with him. I guarantee that if you don't asnwer the phone, he will quit calling real quick!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
redating your ex
Posted: 6/6/2007 4:40:59 AM
You are haveing what is called SELECTIVE MEMORY...You want to remeber all of the good times that you had with your EX and forget about why you broke up. The best indicator of FUTURE behavior is PAST behavior....There is a reason you broke up last time. Things won't change!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Broken up 4 times now
Posted: 6/6/2007 4:35:41 AM
Should you walk away???....

Ask yourself this question: Do I want to live the rest of my life this way??

Unless you want to continue breaking-up with this guy the rest of you life....you bet you should!!



 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Does a woman sending nude pictures or getting naked on a webcam before meeting means sex on the first date?
Posted: 6/4/2007 3:41:29 PM
Assume what you want. What two people decide to do on the first date is up to them. I'm more interested in finding a woman who fits in all aspects of life.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Best places to meet someone...
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:54:06 AM
Try any sport that you are interested in such as, motorcycle groups, scuba diving, sky diving, racing.... You will meet people who have the same interests as you.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
How do I cancel a date?
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:26:42 AM
Tell her about your fear. Going TO a dance doesn't mean that you HAVE TO dance. Go and have fun and watch everyone else twirl around the floor.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
why is he still calling?
Posted: 5/26/2007 6:03:14 AM
He is either still interested OR he's feeling guilty for hurting you. If you truly want him to stop calling.... STOP picking up the phone and talking to him.... If you DON'T answer, he will stop calling.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Should I date him again ?
Posted: 5/24/2007 5:30:28 AM
The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior.

ALSO....What you are experiencing is called SELECTIVE RECALL... You are remembering ONLY the good times you've had with him in the past.

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Lets Get Racial!
Posted: 5/23/2007 5:12:06 PM
Personally, I wouldn't care if a child I'm with don't look like me....I'd actually be relieved!! LOL

Don't worry about the little things...The right guy won't care.
EXAMPLE: Brad Pitt!! Gives you something to look forward to, now doesn't it??



Hi verygreeneyez!!
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What happens next
Posted: 5/21/2007 6:21:43 AM
Not much I can add to Corten1295 Msg #3 comment.....He said it best!!
Go and see if all of the pieces fit

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Delete my profile and we havent met yet. ??? Am I wrong???
Posted: 5/21/2007 5:58:29 AM
CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY... If this guy was expecting you to delete your profile before you even met him....he's got some SERIOUS self-esteem and control ISSUES!! He is the type that tries to control EVERY aspect of your life because he it makes him feel better about himself. Do yourself a favor...pull up anchor and find a better fishing hole!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Did i just set back the women's movement?
Posted: 4/15/2007 6:35:50 AM
It sounds like you are looking for approval....from your father AND from men in general. RELAX - you'll get a lot of men who will comfirm your beauty in the future...Trust me!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Would you want your hot girlfriend to put a picture up on here?
Posted: 4/11/2007 7:28:12 AM
Would I post my HOT GIRLFRIENDs picture on a website??.... I guess, if I had the mentality of a 12 year old or if I were pimping her. You only want to do it so you can bragg.... Get over yourself!! LOSER!! Why don't you also bragg about how many times you've "DONE" her too!!
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Who is The Picker
Posted: 4/10/2007 5:58:24 AM
It should be a mutual decision... But something to keep in mind; when it comes to hitting-the-sheets...... That is ALWAYS the womans choice!
You can do cartwheels and/or handstands... if she's not interested...It ain't gonna happen.
 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
I need advice please!!
Posted: 4/10/2007 5:53:09 AM
Nothing ventured - nothing gained. Go to the bar this weekend and see where it goes, BUT don't expect to become his girlfriend over night.... Let it start as a friendship and if it leads to more great for you!!

 69cobra
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
This is a Whopper, Is this right ?
Posted: 4/8/2007 10:31:39 AM
You really have NO CLUE as to how stupid you are sounding....Don't try to back pedal...It's just making you look worse!!
 
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