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 Author Thread: Help - what do you think happened?
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Help - what do you think happened?
Posted: 2/10/2013 10:30:53 PM
i'm sure he's ok, probably just ran out of things to say. sounds like maybe you talked too much on the phone and texted too much. not sure who has the time for that?
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Should I keep seeing this guy?
Posted: 2/8/2013 4:53:04 PM
Sounds like someone I was seeing. I think the one I was seeing was depressed as he had been married for 24 years and was divorced for about a year when I met him. He didn't talk to his kids. Also he had been seeing a psychiatrist and was on some meds. He also never took me anywhere but was an excellent cook and did make me some wonderful meals. He would cancel on me too. He was very unreliable and wishy washy, seemed like he didn't know what he wanted and was very unstable. It only lasted about 3 months I broke up with him because I just wasn't happy and didn't have fun with him. It sounds like your bf might also be depressed.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Meet a girl, inches away from her being my girl....but...
Posted: 9/19/2012 9:12:53 PM
what is she doing on a dating site if she has a boyfriend?? also why did she agree to a date with you if she has a boyfriend? none of that makes any sense to me. sounds like she's a big liar and also a potential cheater. i'm sure you really don't want someone like that do you??
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 13 (view)
 
When you block someone do they stay blocked?
Posted: 9/17/2012 4:49:26 PM
I've blocked several people and they have stayed blockd as I have not heard from them again. Some were from 2-3 years ago.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Why do guys lose interest in me so quickly?
Posted: 9/8/2012 9:08:04 AM
I think you need to work on your profile a little. It doesn't say much about you and is on the short side. Oh and you might want to get rid of that line about you being 24 but looking much younger because that is just silly!! You are young and you don't need to look younger lol. I see older people who use the same line and it always seems a bit sad to me. I mean obviously they are self-conscious about their age and almost apologize about it. Also when you are done with your profile, it's a good idea to get it reviewed.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 40 (view)
 
flatmate intimacy
Posted: 9/8/2012 8:09:50 AM
What I want to know is why is your profile the words from a song???
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 24 (view)
 
feelings
Posted: 9/7/2012 3:03:03 PM
If you were in a great relationship already and happy you would have no interest in other men. It's wrong to flirt with other men and I'm sure some people would even consider this cheating. I'm not saying you shouldn't have men friends but it has to be platonic. I doubt you would like it very much if your bf was flirting with other women, would you?
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 8 (view)
 
phone calls and texting not for me.
Posted: 9/5/2012 7:17:43 PM
i don't understand why you are too nervous to talk on the phone but not too nervous to meet in person? i'd think you'd be more nervous meeting a complete stranger. i love texting and talking on the phone.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 48 (view)
 
would this be a dealbreaker?
Posted: 9/4/2012 8:37:29 PM
Considering the fact that you are looking for an intimate encounter, I'm not sure why a woman's past would concern you? I mean isn't that similar to a one night stand? Which probably means you'd never see her again so your question is rather odd and strange.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 28 (view)
 
He wants me to meet his parents - they're nudists
Posted: 9/1/2012 9:59:02 PM
If it's not serious and you are only casually dating, then why does he want you to meet his parents? Isn't it too early for that? Just tell him it's too early for you and that you wouldn't feel comfortable meeting his parents so soon.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Look different in person than photos
Posted: 9/1/2012 3:17:56 PM
I agree with the others who said you need better pics. You look a little plain and washed out. You need a few glamour shots. How about wearing some lipstick? Most pics tend to make you look pale which is why you need extra makeup. At least that's what I always do in my pics.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 19 (view)
 
friends daughter going out with married boss
Posted: 9/1/2012 9:38:54 AM
I'm trying to figure out why any of this is your business? You should stay out of it, NOT your daughter and NOT your concern!!
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 26 (view)
 
What is a healthy process? To date or not to date others?
Posted: 8/29/2012 4:26:33 PM
I don't get it. He wants to know what it's like to date other women but still wants to be exclusive with you? I see on your profile that you're 47 so I'm assuming he is around the same age so obviously he has dated many many women in his life. Is he bored with you after only a mere 3 months? If so then that's not a good sign. I guess I'm not understanding what he wants?
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 16 (view)
 
He won't talk about the date?
Posted: 8/29/2012 4:15:30 PM
Why on earth would you be interested in a man who took advantage of you and practically raped you? I'm sorry but I think you have some huge issues and probably should seek psychiatric help. Sounds like you suffer from very low, if nonexistent self-esteem. Not sure what advice you think the forums can give you.

p.s. I hope you were using some type of contraception or you might have even bigger problems soon!!
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 19 (view)
 
had a date off here last night but not sure what to think...
Posted: 8/29/2012 2:51:27 PM
So what if he texted her at 6 am? Is that a sin ? Big deal!! At least he made an effort to contact her twice. I would be very flattered if my date did that. I turn my phone off for the night and if someone texted me at 6 am it wouldnt wake me up. I'd get the text when I turn my phone on around 7:30. Now if he called her at 6 am that's another story. Maybe she went back to the midget? Lmao
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Attracting the wrong women
Posted: 8/28/2012 8:11:22 PM
So maybe you should stick to average women then. The beautiful ones are out of your league.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 20 (view)
 
What would you do?
Posted: 8/28/2012 2:51:33 PM
If you don't enjoy being with him then why do you want to continue being friends with him? That really doesn't make much sense. When I don't like someone and don't enjoy their company, I avoid them like the plague!! Maybe you should do the sme.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 4 (view)
 
nervous about meeting
Posted: 8/27/2012 8:43:58 PM
Well if he lives so far away that he has to take a plane to meet you then I would advise against meeting him. Long distance relationships rarely work. Try to find someone local to you.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Is it Love ?
Posted: 8/25/2012 10:32:45 AM
Nope it's definitely NOT love, it's lust!! She sounds very immature and how long do you think it will last if you have nothing in common? Lust dies after a while, then what are you left with?
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Daily communication..
Posted: 8/23/2012 7:02:51 PM
It depends on the people involved. In my present relationship, he calls me every day and we text throughout the day. In my last relationship, he only called once a week. Didn't really like it but he wasn't much of a talker and didn't have a lot to say. We did email twice a day.

If you really liked her a lot and cared for her then I don't think you would have a problem with calling her every day. As a matter of fact you would want to and would enjoy it.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 19 (view)
 
House sitting for the EX wife/husband....strange???
Posted: 8/22/2012 7:48:47 PM
Actually I find your profile quite *strange*. Your profession is natural medicine/wellness consultant yet you smoke regularly? That's kind of dumb isn't it? Are you actually successful in your profession?
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Secretary moved in
Posted: 8/20/2012 1:31:58 PM
Trying to figure out why any of this is your concern or business? You and your cousin certainly are close if he discusses his sex life with you. I find that a bit odd. I really have no desire to hear about anyone's sex life. I mean some things should just be kept private and not discussed.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 41 (view)
 
This is really freaking me out here... :S
Posted: 8/19/2012 10:30:53 PM
Hell all the Walmarts where I live close at 11:00. Not sure if this is a good thing or not? Lol
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 26 (view)
 
To Toupee/Wig or not to Toupee/Wig?
Posted: 8/18/2012 10:17:16 AM
Truthfully I would prefer it as I cannot stand baldness. And why on earth would you rip it off in a moment of passion? That's just odd. Plenty of woman also wear wigs and have weaves. If it makes a person feel better about themselves, then why not?
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 8/14/2012 7:01:28 PM
If I'm not that into a guy, I could care less about spending most of my spare time with them... However if I am into the guy, then yes! Every day! :)


Umm...if you're not into a guy, why are you even with him? Why waste your time? That doesn't even make sense.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 8/14/2012 6:45:35 PM
It sounds kind of needy to me. But then I'm the kind of person who tends to get sick of someone if I see them too often. I think if you want to see them every day eventually you might consider moving in together.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 172 (view)
 
Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 8/14/2012 4:14:36 PM
Meowkatt, I was wondering too and had some of the same questions especially wondering if he can have sex? If he is paralyzed then I'd think that he probably couldn't.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 28 (view)
 
No Affection
Posted: 8/14/2012 3:56:35 PM
That's nothing I met a guy from this site a while back and we dated for about three months. In all that time he NEVER touched me!! How bizarre is that? It's actually the reason I broke up with him. He must have liked me as he continued to ask me out but I cannot be in a dating relationship with a man and have no affection. Just not gonna happen. Doesn't work for me.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 57 (view)
 
sugar mamas
Posted: 8/13/2012 9:10:41 PM
just curious is their woman out there that are sugar mamas to young guys like men are to woman


Umm just curious if you went to school? What you should have said is this "Are there women out there"? WTF?
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 169 (view)
 
Why dont women go for guys in Wheelchairs?
Posted: 8/13/2012 9:07:10 PM
You should date someone else who is in a wheelchair or is disabled. I'm sure you would have more in common with a disabled person. I actually had a guy from this site who wrote me once. He was in a wheelchair and lived in a nursing home. He said he would understand if I wasn't interested and that perhaps we could be friends. I honestly only felt pity for him. Told him I wasn't interested in dating him but would like to be friends. Never heard from him again so whatever. I'm neither a nurse nor a caregiver.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Is snort laughing a dealbreaker?
Posted: 8/13/2012 8:58:44 PM
Why would it be? It's no big deal so not sure why it would be a deal breaker. If that bothers you, you've got some major issues and are extremely picky.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Need Advice
Posted: 8/11/2012 6:24:06 PM
I think you should take an English and grammar class because most of what you wrote is poorly written. Then maybe you should see a psychiatrist because if you've been pining and obsessing over a woman for five long years, then you definitely need some help!! There are plenty of fish in the ocean so why not find someone else? Also what makes you think she would take you back or have anything to do with you after you cheated and lied to her? Unless she's nuts or desperate not sure why she would be interested. She probably moved on a long time ago which is what you should have done.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 41 (view)
 
My bf won't stop talking about his ex...
Posted: 8/11/2012 8:36:57 AM
Ummm.... If his ex was so horrible then why is he constantly bringing her up and always talking about her? Something doesn't make any sense. He seems obsessed with her.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 28 (view)
 
My bf won't stop talking about his ex...
Posted: 8/10/2012 8:26:41 PM
Trust me when someone is ALWAYS talking about their ex, they are NOT over them!! Obviously he still carries a torch for her and shouldn't be dating anyone until he gets over her and comes to terms with his feelings. I'd move on if I were you.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 21 (view)
 
AM I being dishonest?
Posted: 8/6/2012 4:38:01 PM
Wait a minute, he said he was unable to sit on the same side of the booth? WTF? See that I don't understand because who sits on the same side? If you want to talk to someone and have eye contact then you need to sit across from them on the opposite side. He sounds rather odd.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Too full on?
Posted: 8/4/2012 10:05:47 AM
I love texting so I don't understand why it's such a problem for you. Would you rather they ignore you and not keep in touch? And what do you mean by sometimes you are "too cool"?
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 442 (view)
 
Justifying Cheating?
Posted: 8/3/2012 6:54:50 PM
So are you saying it's the woman's fault that there is no intimacy in the marriage? Because that's what it sounded like to me. It takes two so you can't blame it on the woman.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Why is it so hard to find a single woman in a social setting.
Posted: 8/3/2012 6:35:25 PM
Maybe they don't like you. Maybe they don't find you attractive. I notice you are only 5'6" and most women prefer tall men. These are just a few things that might be happening. Of course I realize you can't change your height.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Should I be cool with this?
Posted: 8/2/2012 6:23:14 PM
let me get this straight, you're dating a 39 year old and you call her a *girl*? WTF? a 39 year old is a *woman*, not a girl!!!
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Why is she afraid
Posted: 8/2/2012 5:51:09 PM
maybe it's because she found out you have an active profile on POF.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Living with Jack Spratt!
Posted: 8/1/2012 4:51:19 PM
Wow I think I hate your boyfriend lol. Actually I go to Weight Watchers and some of their recipes are pretty good. My bf also needs to lose some weight but is not dieting. When I stay with him on the weekends, I usually make a WW recipe but I don't tell him it's "diet food" because then he won't eat it. So far he has liked everything I have made and I haven't had any complaints. I also make sure to buy plenty of fruits and vegetables for snacks.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Let him go?
Posted: 7/31/2012 8:44:38 PM
He sounds like a douchebag who doesn't know what he wants. How the hell do you have a *connection* with someone you never met? That is idiotic and impossible. You are better off without someone so fickle. Doesn't seem to be playing with a full deck.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Please help, advise needed............
Posted: 7/30/2012 9:15:35 AM
To be honest, I find the whole thing bizarre. I've had several relationships with men whom I met online. We always delete our profiles and communicate offline via email, texting and phone. I don't understand why you didn't do the same? I can't imagine IMing my bf on here anymore. So much easier and faster to pick up the phone.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 26 (view)
 
why is he doing this?
Posted: 7/29/2012 8:37:20 PM
The question is why are you still friends with your ex?? I'm not friends with any of mine, therefore they can't annoy me.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 15 (view)
 
pics
Posted: 7/29/2012 4:39:13 PM
Why didn't he just look at the pics on your profile? Why did he want you to send him one from your cell phone? That's kind of weird.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Please help, advise needed............
Posted: 7/29/2012 9:55:41 AM
Wow I'm surprised you're 43, thought you were in your 20's. I usually make it a rule to either delete my profile or hide it when I'm dating someone and he usually does the same. Wondering why you and the bf haven't discussed this and done this? Thought that's what most people do.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 24 (view)
 
What you want?
Posted: 7/28/2012 10:00:12 AM
I've seen men's profiles that say the same thing so why pick on women? If you don't tell people what you want and what you are looking for, how will they know? You don't want to waste your time with someone who is incompatible.
 Mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Explanation required ?
Posted: 7/24/2012 8:28:15 PM
Well she's either unreliable or has a bad memory.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 47 (view)
 
From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status.
Posted: 7/23/2012 8:53:24 AM
I think it means they want to get laid with no strings attached. That's always been my interpretation.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Six Months Later
Posted: 7/21/2012 10:10:31 AM
If you weren't "ready" for marriage after NINE long years, then what is the point of the relationship? I doubt she wants to come back and waste another 9 years on someone who only wants to play house. I think if someone isn't ready for marriage after a year or two, you should dump them. Like I said before, she just might want to have kids and unlike ou she doesn't have the luxury of time. Her biological clock is ticking.
 
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