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 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 3 (view)
 
What do you think of this text?
Posted: 4/10/2013 11:18:05 AM
I thought it was absolutely clever and if she doesnt agree, shes nuts. Sounds like you were determined to get the girl. Wish there were more like you out there.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 145 (view)
 
Dancing
Posted: 4/9/2013 11:28:43 AM
I love to dance and for years compromised my passioin by giving it up because the men in my life dint like too. I'm tired of compromising and think its time I find someone with the same interests. A couple that plays together, stays together I say. Care to dance?? :)
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Can't see who viewed me
Posted: 3/5/2013 8:30:49 AM
Its now a pd feature, which I am not paying for. Another ploy to get money for a free site. Shame on them.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Admin Fixing Inbox Problem?
Posted: 2/26/2013 5:21:04 AM
Or, how about at least answering our questions or a reason we are having this problem would be nice.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Communicating by phone before meeting Personally
Posted: 2/20/2013 2:07:00 PM
Always go with your gut. If he is no willing to communicate over the phone than I am glad you ended it. What other secrets might he have. Not worth anymore of your time. Next! hehe
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 162 (view)
 
Question for Ladies 50+
Posted: 2/14/2013 2:17:17 PM
{I've pretty much come to the conclusion that short of a miracle, I'm going to be single for the remainder of my life. And I'm really OK with that. I'm happy. I have a good job and a great family and friends. And I've had 3 husbands ... maybe it's 3 strikes and I'm out }

I totally agree with the above quoted by Phoenix_55. I too have been married 3 times and at this stage in my life I am not willing to settle like I used too. Its time for me to require more for myself so if I am lucky enough to find someone that is my equal and doesnt require me to conform to suit their needs, I will be happy. I am more than willing to wait for as long as it takes me.

When I meet a potential mate for a drink etc, I just act natural like we are friends sharing a good time. If we click and if there is chemistry, thats great. However we all have to ask questions to get a feel for what we are about so if that makes you feel like you are being interagated that thats an issue you have to deal with. The rules in life have changed so giving anyone the benefit of the doubt is no longer the rule.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Phone calls and honesty
Posted: 1/19/2013 6:46:35 AM
Wow, stop taking it so personally. Maybe she changed her mind and didnt want to hurt your feelings. This sometimes happens with both men and women. If I were you, I would just move on and let it go.
 deborahc56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 73 (view)
 
The dreaded 50
Posted: 12/1/2012 7:07:13 AM
I'm 56, soon to be 57 in a few months and have to say that no matter what age I turned it never bothered me a bit. If you have a postivie attitude and accept that there isnt much you can do about getting older than life isnt so bad. Im enjoying the ride with or without a man in my life.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Change pictures help
Posted: 9/25/2012 5:33:07 AM
Same here. I'm trying to change the description on a pic but all it says is "downloading" but it never brings up the pic. Been this way for a week now.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 93 (view)
 
Health and dating over 50.
Posted: 9/21/2012 6:15:44 AM
Depends on how extreme the habits are. If you are an alcoholic, drug addict, bad hygiene, have rotten teeth then you are on your own. It doesnt take much to take pride in your appearance and take reasonable care of yourself.
 deborahc56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Questions to Ask on a First Date
Posted: 9/21/2012 6:07:33 AM
At 45 and over I doubt that these questions really matter, however if I was younger I wouldn't ask these types of questions anyway. I would rather ask questions like; do you even have a job or have any outstanding warrants. LOL Just kidding but you the get the picture. At this stage of my life I just want to know if you are respectful, a good father (if they have kids) doens't have a drinking or drug problem and has a careing heart. I don't ask these questions directly but I due listen to what they say, pay attention and ask suttle questions to see how they answer.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 139 (view)
 
angry profiles..would you date them?
Posted: 9/18/2012 2:32:48 PM
I actually emailed a guy who had an angry profile and believe it or not he thanked me and deleted most of it and revised it. A month later he ask me out. Of course I had to decline but it was an interesting experience anyway.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 28 (view)
 
I wonder at this prime age
Posted: 6/17/2012 5:46:30 PM
For me I will never marry again, however I have no problem with a long term relationship with one significant other. Finding the right one is hard the older you get though so if I should not find him and end up alone, I am o.k. with that too as I like my own company.

You are greiving a loss. The loss of your marriage that you spent many years in. Give yourself time to greive, breathe and move forward one step at a time.

All the best..
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Contact from EX Flame - do I engage convo with him?
Posted: 6/4/2012 3:10:01 PM
The answer would obviously be a big fat NO! Are you serious?... and if you had married him the abuse would triple for sure.. Were you abused in some fashion when you were younger? This sometimes occurs when women have low self esteem issues due to the some type of abuse at a young age. If so, you need to seek counsel or you will keep attracting the same type of guy. Good Luck...
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
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Ex tries to keep contact with me
Posted: 6/4/2012 11:37:31 AM
You have no obligation whatsoever to reply to him... End of discussion, literally.

To answer your question, HE can't move on. He doesnt want you to forget him and needs to still be connected whether it be a good connection or bad. He wants you to be jealous that he has moved on - although he really hasn't.. My ex husband does the same thing. He's an alcoholic, bored, retired and can't let go so occasionally he sends me emails giving me weather updates or dumb joke emails. Very sad.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Love at first sight
Posted: 6/4/2012 11:28:36 AM
No way do I beleive in love at first sight. Love comes with time to find out how true a person they are. We all show our very best when we first meet. There are so many other dimentions to a person than the initial attraction.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Single old male - I must therefore be a predator
Posted: 5/30/2012 2:33:06 PM
Do you say hi to the parents when you see them to try to get to know them first? The better they know you the more relaxed they will be. I have to say, I would do the same thing. Better to be overcareful even if it hurts your feelings than not careful enough. My daughter is grown now. I was careful then and surmise that now a days its even worse. Your age has nothing to do with it either. Any guy approaching a child is a red flag for any parent. Try not to take it personal.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 176 (view)
 
Am I narrowing my chances?
Posted: 5/14/2012 11:23:07 AM
I am with you on most of what you said, however we ALL have some sort of emotional baggage on some level. I just want someone who is not addicted to drugs or alcohol, is not abusive, has a decent job along with a brain. I am pretty sure thats what most of us want.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 10 (view)
 
just need some advice =)
Posted: 5/14/2012 10:53:35 AM
I actually took the Dale Carnegie course many yrs ago. Wow, if it werent for my job requiring me to go and paying for it, I would have walked out the first night. Glad I stayed though. Really helped me overcome being in large groups. I am more outgoing to this day because of it so YES buy this book or any others for that matter.

Deb
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Letting someone down?
Posted: 5/8/2012 2:10:32 PM
Quite a few men write that they hate it when women dont answer back. Some also thank me stating that I am one of a few who do respond. For me, if you don't respond it means you are not interested. I wont feel insulted at all if I dont get a reply back. None of us want to hurt anyones feelings but being honest is best. If you so incline to answer, simply say "it was nice of you to write, however I'm just not feeling the same connection" and follow by, "wishing you the best in your search". Just an example.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Definition of FWB,FB,Good Friend
Posted: 5/3/2012 2:35:46 PM
I agree with blondeangel.... If he wanted more time, would you be willing to compromise and give him more time? Maybe he does but knows you are too busy or he thinks you like things just the way they are and accepts it. Could you be giving him mixed signals? Do you even want more time with him? Your email is vague. My advise, sit down and ask him if he forsees more than what you have right now. I would never go 15 mos in a relationship having just one night a week to spend unless it was agreed too by both of you right from get.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Resigned to being single or determined to change that?
Posted: 5/2/2012 4:56:46 PM
I enjoy my own company. Some of my friends who are single say they are lonely and hate being alone. I don't mind being by myself and don't feel the same as they do. However, if I found the right person to add something special to my life, of course I would welcome it. If it happens, it happens. If not, I'm o.k. with it.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 21 (view)
 
How do you react when you aren't allowed in a church-sponsored singles event because of your age?
Posted: 5/2/2012 2:27:05 PM
Wow, I guess us ladies over 45 might as well just pack it in. LOL

On a more serious note... I find it appauling coming from a church but then again, I have my own views on churchs in general that I will keep to myself.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Preferring to be rejected bluntly rather than candy-coated
Posted: 5/1/2012 11:24:53 AM
I kinda see his point of view. She gave him mixed signals the entire date. So instead she leads him on to believe otherwise with her long makeout session? She then said she may or may not still be still interested.? I usually know a short time after the first meeting if there is a spark or not , therefore I don't go ingaging in any kind of lip locking, period . OMO.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 4/30/2012 3:08:36 PM
msg 26, there is a time when some things are just better left unsaid. Further insult to the op is not necessary or nice.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
On an initial meetup......should the guy..?
Posted: 4/30/2012 11:37:11 AM
I usually send an email the day before and say… looking forward to seeing you tomorrow
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Potential dates or are they wasting your time?
Posted: 4/30/2012 11:15:54 AM
After the 2nd cancellation, that would be it for me and would be the last communication via phone or otherwise. You did the right thing. NEXT!
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Do You Ever Size Up the Competition?
Posted: 4/23/2012 3:28:46 PM
You cant be all things to everyone, but you just might be something special to one someone.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Is love necessary in marriage?
Posted: 4/23/2012 11:29:39 AM
OK, heres my opinion... If there is no love than there is no way Im jumping in the sack with anyone yet alone marry .. Period! :)
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
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Do we need MENS LIB?
Posted: 4/23/2012 11:23:36 AM
What an interesting converstion...

If a man wants to open my door or move out my chair at a restaurant or whatever forms of kindness he wants to perform, I will embrace it. It shows hes a kind person. However I would never expect it or require these forms of gestures.

I also agree with the other poster... If I guy commits suicide due to divorce or loss of a job, it has nothing to do with a shift in change of any movement.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 96 (view)
 
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 4/19/2012 11:24:12 AM
I've had my share of compliments and don't dissect what they say or pick it apart. A compliment is a complment. I simply say...THANK YOU. If they write back with some lude comments, than I just don't respond.

I also cant help but wonder if the OP was maybe fishing for compliments from us to affirm that she's hot ? Hmmm
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 41 (view)
 
why not put more emphasis on women messaging men?
Posted: 4/11/2012 11:26:14 AM
"gftlimes" Sorry you feel that way. :-(
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 39 (view)
 
why not put more emphasis on women messaging men?
Posted: 4/10/2012 3:48:54 PM
I quite enjoyed reading this post and agree with the last post.

I don't want to HAVE to email someone, especially just because its a new change in shift. I also agree that there are alot of profiles that I have seen which are terrible. No thought put into a description, pics are with sunglasses on, sloppy cloths, workout wear, blurry pics, muscle pics, etc,. Out of courtesy I do write back to say that I'm not interested however sometimes I feel its just not worth a response. I'm here to find someone at my own pace and not to feel pressured to do so. You just may lose some people here in the process.

I hear what you're saying but I have to disagree with your suggestion.

D
 deborahc56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Post Meopause: Vaginal Atrophy & Hormone Replacement Therapy [HRT]
Posted: 4/6/2012 12:11:22 PM
This was so informative . Thanks for starting this post.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 115 (view)
 
Does sexual desire really decline with advancing age?
Posted: 4/6/2012 11:26:10 AM
For me I don't think the desire changes. If you find someone that excites you, than the feelings of desire will return. I also think a lot has to due with what happens to a womens body with age. You lose estrogen as you get older, which makes it painful to have and enjoy sex.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 140 (view)
 
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 4/5/2012 4:29:20 AM
To comment on your post ---luv lyfe--- I certaintly do not consider anyone in there 50's "that old" or even "old" for that matter.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 135 (view)
 
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 4/2/2012 2:29:51 PM
I think a 6 year range in either direction is fair for my age .
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 133 (view)
 
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 3/31/2012 7:11:44 AM
Getting back to the mans question. I thing age is just a number. From my observation of your profile, you are in great shape and still attractive, therefore, you should have no problems finding a women... I do get that you may not get as many women contacting you and most women in their 50's are looking for someone younger or a bit older but that does not mean that you are out of the running. I'm in my 50's and having the same problem you are. Most men my age are looking for much younger. Just hang in there.

Also, there are other venues to meet women.. Ever try Meetup.com? Its not a dating site perse but a venue to get involved with other people that share the same interests. Check it out. Good luck to you..
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
My profile
Posted: 3/30/2012 4:15:35 AM
Thanks for the tips, I appreciate the feedback
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 1 (view)
 
My profile
Posted: 3/29/2012 2:33:28 PM
I don't think that Im the best looking wome for my age on this site but, however I feel I am attractive enough to get some attention. My profile is written well so why am I not getting any emails???
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Not A Happy Camper!
Posted: 3/29/2012 2:21:17 PM
I bet it was deleted because he was a scammer and someone else reported him. I was chatting with someone that was a scammer and I reported him. All incoming and outgoing messages were then delete when they removed his account. Just saying its a possibility.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
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Inbox Icon?
Posted: 3/27/2012 1:55:02 PM
In a word... annoying.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 1446 (view)
 
Viewed Me Now a Paid Feature: Please post comments here
Posted: 3/18/2012 6:52:34 AM
I agree with the last post. I no longer linger on POF anymore. If I receive a message I check it than get off. I am now on Match and OK Cupid. No more POF.. Not paying one dime for any feature on this site. With the state of the economy as it is now, I value every penny I spend. Shame of POF for taking advantage of us especially when times are tough.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 732 (view)
 
Viewed Me Now a Paid Feature: Please post comments here
Posted: 3/13/2012 3:42:01 PM
Im with everyone else.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 105 (view)
 
POF Soon To Introduce Fees...
Posted: 3/12/2012 2:05:46 PM
I don't buy the reasoning behind this...not for a minute. Its all to line the good ole pocket. I WILL NOT pay just to see who viewed me. I would rather pay full price for Match.com etc before you nickel and dime me for a few views. I am not alone in my feelings on the subject..
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Losing users buy the minute... brilliant move
Posted: 3/12/2012 1:55:26 PM
Give it time. I wont be free for long.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Markus the Fraud
Posted: 3/12/2012 11:11:06 AM
I am not paying a dime on this site. I just found a 20% off discount online for Match.com... so thats where I'm headed.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Losing users buy the minute... brilliant move
Posted: 3/12/2012 11:02:12 AM
I totally agree. I might as well pay match.com the full price. At least its for everything. Im not paying just to see who views me.. I mean who cares who views me anyway.
 deborahc56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 63 (view)
 
At what age did you start aging & did you accept it?
Posted: 2/18/2012 5:42:09 AM
I started noticing it about 5 yrs ago. I am mostly wrinkle free for 55 but I have 2 deep lines around eacg side of my mouth, which I HATE. However, it is what it is and I don't spend my days thinking/stressing about it. All in all, I have aged gracefully due to my genes and taking care of my skin.
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 66 (view)
 
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 11/28/2011 4:18:52 PM
I retract my statement. I dont get emails of men without pics, I get the pop up windows of men with no pics asking me to chat.
 
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