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Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 133 (view)
as long as they are willing to do two jobs--blow and hand :)
Posted: 10/22/2018 7:15:52 PM
Working in finance....I have learned to never judge a person's "toys" as a sign of wealth or status...
when the majority of those toys are bought on credit...
and they are so over extended that missing just a few weeks of work means not being able to make all those toy payments!!

I have also had the privelage to be in many peoples homes in a previous job...
Being "house poor" is very alive and well...
Live in a $400,000 home....but can't afford to furnish it!!

I will continue to judge my men on "who" they are....and not what they do for a living....or what they own or don't own.
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 119 (view)
Ok so I'm popular but can't get dates. Why??????????
Posted: 10/14/2018 7:23:17 PM

Joe just did to NG....that NG does to everyone else...
and used just as many words too!!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 109 (view)
Ok so I'm popular but can't get dates. Why??????????
Posted: 10/13/2018 6:55:23 PM

It was pretty apparent that it was "ko0l" to say Brad Pitt wasn't good looking.

apparent to who??? I had no idea I was being "kool" to not think Brad Pitt is good looking....when in reality, I am pretty sure I'm the only one in my circle of friends that feels this way! Who knew it was a "trend" to disagree with with my peers- hell, they just called me weird when I said it!!
and you are proving my point for me.....God Forbid you just take a woman's word on how she feels....
Oh hell have to tell her she was just following some damn trend and trying to be kool for thinking differently than the masses, as if you really know our minds better than we do....

I really don't know where this is coming from in this thread.

It's not just this thread.... that is the problem!!
It's each and every thread - you always have to find at least one person and argue some minute detail just to prove them wrong.
Your recent posts to Spot comes to mind....telling her that the marriage proposal wasn't a serious thing to consider...
You knew nothing of her situation but still had to comment...and comment wrong she was.
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
Just What Are Women After?
Posted: 10/13/2018 3:14:56 PM
Thanks for the laugh....needed one today!!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 103 (view)
Ok so I'm popular but can't get dates. Why??????????
Posted: 10/13/2018 11:43:02 AM
Women, on the other hand, seem to really hate it when someone says that “all women are hot for (insert name of movie star or public figure here)”. Yes, just another sign that men and women are indeed different. Who woulda thunk it?

We are not taking offense to his general statements....we are taking offense at the implication that we are lying when we say something that doesn't support his ramblings.

-- I'd get interrupted with "Oh, I don't think he's that good looking." First, this isn't a non-Anglo country thing. Second, I call BS on it, too.

This is just one example....and we women folk are just kind of tired of it!!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 85 (view)
Ok so I'm popular but can't get dates. Why??????????
Posted: 10/12/2018 6:18:19 PM

Agree 100% He's a "pretty boy" AND drinks everyday. Nooooo thank you.

but that's my point....I don't think he's a "pretty boy"

and I'll take Cheesecake!!

and's a point....
he just refuses to take anyone's word as their truth....
always has to argue how we just have to be wrong!!
He might as well call us liars...because he will go on....and on....and on....trying to prove his opinion instead of just
1) either ignoring it or 2) just accepting it!!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 74 (view)
Ok so I'm popular but can't get dates. Why??????????
Posted: 10/12/2018 4:56:22 AM

To be fair here, and this is serious: Almost every time I'd say "Now, if a guy looked like Brad Pitt" or "We're not talking about Brad Pitt here, but..." -- I'd get interrupted with "Oh, I don't think he's that good looking." First, this isn't a non-Anglo country thing. Second, I call BS on it, too. If Brad Pitt (we're talking in early to mid 00s mind you) walked into the bar, they are Not going to be saying "No, sorry. NEXT!" It'd be in the opposite direction, even if other movie stars would get their juices flowing faster. It always seemed to be this "cool" thing to "not like Brad Pitt", because he was always used in an example when he hit his young stardom fame.

I just frikken love it when someone else thinks they know my mind better than I do!!
I have always stated I didn't find Brad Pitt that attractive....simply, he is not my type.
Doesn't matter "who" he is....(I've also never been a celebrity crusher)...he doesn't tickle my fancy.
How dare you...or anyone else....tell me it is BS....or I am just trying to do this "cool" thing.
You really do have an overblown image of your own opinions...hate to tell ya....but you really don't know everything that you think you do!!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 145 (view)
Would you date someone still living with their Ex?
Posted: 10/9/2018 6:28:27 PM

Yeah but, my point was -- one shouldn't think of it on anything remote to a serious level.

I would argue anything just to try and prove your superiority over others!!
Thing have absolutely no clue how serious this guy was....
Why can't you just take someone's word at face value without trying to prove how "wrong" they are???
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
Looks like I'm being ghosted - by a guy I will 100% see again. Help?
Posted: 10/9/2018 6:06:12 PM
^^^Damn...who pizzed in your Post Toasties?

Glad things are working out for ya OP!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 283 (view)
Not looking for hookups anymore
Posted: 10/9/2018 3:37:52 PM

Why kiss someone I'm not into. Intimacy is only for someone I actually love. It was meant to be just about servicing me yeah, I don't get into fwb situations where I'm not the beneficiary. He wasn't allowed or meant to get off.

I call BS on this one!!
and if by the extremely slight chance it's is damned f*ed up!
But I'm gonna stick with your full of sh*t if you think anyone believes that...
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 114 (view)
Lack of sexual experience. It is a turn off?
Posted: 10/9/2018 6:12:56 AM

Casual sex was negatively associated with well-being and positively associated with psychological distress.

This is mainly due to those girls trying to use sex to get a relationship....
They aren't having sex just for the sake of having sex....
Once they realize they "put out" and didn't get a when the psychological issues come into play.
That is also when the "blame the guy" crap starts getting thrown around....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 266 (view)
Not looking for hookups anymore
Posted: 10/9/2018 6:05:58 AM
didn't kiss or touch your FWB???
so he was there strictly just to "service" you.... kettle!!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 261 (view)
Not looking for hookups anymore
Posted: 10/8/2018 6:45:26 PM

In the research you mentioned the positives of casual sex were listed as; sexual satisfaction, general positive emotions, increased confidence, and clarification of feelings. Those positives seem pretty weak in comparison to correlations with depression, STIs and psychological distress.

Good already have an "opinion"....and nothing will sway it.

Here's some "research" for you....
I did "casual sex" for quite a few years with a FWB...
I was going to school full time, running my own business and taking care of a couple acres of land and home...
I had no desire for a relationship because I didn't have the time or inclination to invest into it...
I was fully capable of loving someone, not emotionally damaged and promise you my "quality" is right up there with the best of them...
I just desired intimacy occassionally....not just the sex, but the physical connection of 2 bodies joined as one....the kissing, the touching, the talking...
So when you go throwing your judgements are dissing me....and many women just like me.
You can stick your so called research right up your childish ass...
because I can throw you a hundred surveys/researches right back at ya that refutes yours...
there is always research that supports....and always research that refutes any topic you care to dig up.
But some good ole' grown up, human experience will always be the "truth" I prefer.
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 247 (view)
Not looking for hookups anymore
Posted: 10/8/2018 7:20:50 AM

I don't get why you think harassing me is gonna somehow help you.

I am pointing out that you have absolutely no right to judge anothers choices.....when you have plenty of your own issues...

It is just the truth that people that do casual sex have more hang ups lol. is your judgemental opinion....

Sometimes.....a person makes a choice to have sex without the strings of a relationship. It is nothing more than meeting a sexual/physical need.
Doesn't mean they are emotionally damaged or unavailable...
just means at that point in time they choose to not be in a relationship....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 238 (view)
Not looking for hookups anymore
Posted: 10/7/2018 7:32:13 PM

Well your "truths" were incorrect since I'm not on meds, so if you are going to point out truths atleast get them right

Just to be sure I "got them right"....I copied your exact words...
this is just 2 of your posts in the last 5 days....

I'll have to get off the quetiapine because even a tiny bit makes me feel drugged and too tired

I don't want to take the pristiq because when I took 1/4 of a tablet I felt like I was in some sort of outer body trance like state.
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 340 (view)
Dating is not an equal opportunity situation.
Posted: 10/7/2018 7:20:42 PM
Why hasn't this POS been banned yet???
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 230 (view)
Not looking for hookups anymore
Posted: 10/6/2018 8:36:14 PM

Spare me the personal attacks.
What I said is true, sometimes the truth hurts.

So it's okay for you to slam a whole group of people with your personal opinions....
but not ok for me to point out YOUR truths...
Grow up...
and realize some people make different choices than you....and it doesn't make them any more emotionally damaged than you.
You do nothing but **** and moan about all your emotional and psychological issues....all the pills you take....
how your family treats you.... and have the audicity to say someone else has "hangups"......frikken laughable....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 100 (view)
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 10/6/2018 8:29:27 PM

There is such a thing as vaginal prolapse.

which has absolutely nothing to do with how loose...or tight a woman is....or anything to do with the size of penis or toy being used.

For grown adults...ya'll don't know your vaginas very well!!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 225 (view)
Not looking for hookups anymore
Posted: 10/5/2018 7:14:05 PM

People who don't want hookups are better quality than those who do.
People who want hookups usually have some sort of hang ups or are emotionally unavailable.

Back yourself right up there girly....
You have no idea of the "quality", emotional availability or psychological status of another person just because of their sexual choices...

You....who consumes more chemicals in a day than I do in a year...shouldn't throw judgements around about other's psyche...when you are in a far more psychological mess than the average "hook up" girl/guy.
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 90 (view)
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 10/5/2018 6:59:19 PM

because the more sex you have the looser things get, which brings down the value.

and just where exactly did you learn this load of bullhockey??
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 381 (view)
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 10/2/2018 5:11:08 PM

or get jealous and believe THEY can be better for him than the gal he is chatting with

I have absolutely never in my life had that thought...
if a man is with another woman....I don't think about him at all...

he truth of the matter is you need 2 out 3. You need 2 out of physically attractive, good job/money and good personality.

might be your truth....might be SOME women's truth....but it is definitely not every woman's truth...
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 413 (view)
Posted: 10/2/2018 6:43:42 AM
There are a few reasons a married woman quits having sex with her husband...
* she just doesn't like him anymore for whatever reason
* the sex was never that good to start with and has gotten worse
* hormones

if she enjoys sex after the marriage....refer back to the first 2 reasons!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
Is contacting current partner's ex taboo to find out why the marriage ended?
Posted: 10/1/2018 1:10:58 PM
Who cares what he did in the past when how he treats you in the here and now is enough reason to dump his old, fat, useless ass....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 173 (view)
Not looking for hookups anymore
Posted: 10/1/2018 12:04:21 PM's time we all just ignored him...
Don't reply to him anymore...
report him over and over again...
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 158 (view)
Not looking for hookups anymore
Posted: 9/30/2018 3:44:28 PM
Merriam-Webster Dictionary: Definition of Adultery
voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than that person's current spouse or partner

You are free to believe as you wish....
You are not free to shove your religous views down our throats...
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
is it normal if he wants to meet you once a week?
Posted: 9/30/2018 2:32:53 PM

He is treating your relationship/dating scenario as something very casual. Not a good sign in my opinion.

and you know this... how?

you are projecting your own feelings onto this man...
we have no clue what his thoughts are...

some of us don't feel the need to spend all our free time dating...once a week suits my...and many others, needs perfectly.
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 156 (view)
Not looking for hookups anymore
Posted: 9/30/2018 2:29:19 PM
You highlighted "You shall not commit adultery"

What has that got to do with this thread....
we aren't discussing married people that are cheating...
we are discussing single, adults deciding when and with who..they have sex with.

as for the "We".....that would be the majority of us Americans....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 154 (view)
Not looking for hookups anymore
Posted: 9/30/2018 1:50:46 PM
There in lies the problem.....Your religion rules you...

We, in the States, no matter what our Religion... don't feel we have to live our lives with a guide book telling us our every move...
Land of the Free....means free to make our own choices...
and knowing that Our God is a forgiving God...even when we make mistakes...

We don't allow anothers Religion to tell us how we should live....
and it's actually our First Amendment.....Freedom of Religion.

Since you have chose to live in this Land of The Free....
you might want to learn a few things about it....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 38 (view)
How men mathematically sleep with more people than women
Posted: 9/30/2018 12:13:56 PM
Henry....he is pulling quotes from another thread he is all over Sienna in...
I truly don't understand how he is not banned at this point...doing nothing but basically calling every woman here a whore who dared to have sex outside of a marriage...
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 53 (view)
Learning how to be happy alone
Posted: 9/30/2018 11:33:16 AM

My dad is a complicated person................

Welcome to the world.....where the majority of people had either 1 or both of their parents that were "complicated"...
and most of them have taken responsibility for their own lives, their own choices and the consequences and didn't put one ounce
of blame on a parent....because they figured out once they turned 18, they were responsible for their own actions at that point...
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 31 (view)
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 9/30/2018 10:25:42 AM
Any man that asks....gets put in the "insecure" category....
so no matter what number I throw out there....he's already dug his own grave w/ a relationship with me.
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 49 (view)
Learning how to be happy alone
Posted: 9/30/2018 7:26:34 AM
You do realize that moving into your own place is not going to change the feelings of lonliness...or the fact that you will be broke....or still dealing with your ex and his girlfriend... and still not getting regular sex.
You will will have more responsibilites when it comes to your children because you won't have a built in babysitter...making it even harder to date.

It is only "a mess" because of your frame of mind....
most women that get out of an abusive relationship are happy to be away from it...
Where you seem to just want to waller in the misery you "think" you are in...

I love this quote...."Sometimes when you are in a dark place you think you have been buried - but actually you have been planted"
Learn to "Bloom where you are planted"....just like that dandelion you see growing in the crack in a road...
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 183 (view)
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/29/2018 6:47:28 PM
give it up Tom....
he has personally attacked every woman in this thread....
Sienna just keeps coming back for more!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 46 (view)
Learning how to be happy alone
Posted: 9/29/2018 5:38:38 PM
The fact you even entertain the notion that a bad relationship is better than being single....
shows not only that you need far more counseling...
but you are only concerned with yourself and not your children ...
SOS was right in this case.....It's all about YOU....
and that is a frikken shame for your children.

I highly suggest you speak to your physician and let them get you set up with a therapist....
You are on a direct path to self destruction...and dragging your kids right down with you.
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 9/28/2018 7:32:37 PM
How many partners is too much?

Well I had 2 at once a very long time ago in a different life...
think it would be too much for me these days...

Now where is that cake?
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
How men mathematically sleep with more people than women
Posted: 9/26/2018 8:15:22 PM

Tech you were the one saying women have orgies and 1NS and get used up. Fact is, it's men likely doing those things not women. So might wanna rethink that one mate.

You can't prove a point by throwing BS comments around Sienna...

When men are having orgies.... they are doing it with women and men...
When men are having a one night stand....they are having them with a woman that is also having a one night stand...

Yes....I do agree that men tend to have more partners than women...
but making crap up to prove it isn't helping you....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 141 (view)
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/26/2018 5:20:18 AM

I am surprised you are following my writing and reading my profile. Do not you see your question is personal and has nothing to do with the main topic?

You just picked apart my profile and posted content from it in this forum....
why is it ok for you to do it and not someone else??
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
Together for 10+ years and still no cohabitation...cause for concern?
Posted: 9/25/2018 7:48:13 PM a 55 year old woman that is in an over 3 year relationship with a 61 year old man....
we have no desire to take our relationship to the "living together" stage...
A bit different as we both own our own homes outright...and neither of us have any issues financially....

For me....I still work a lot of hours....and just have no desire to be sociable every night of the week...
and even though he is retired....he feels the same way...
we both really.....really....enjoy our alone time to be willing to give it up ...... yet.
I know myself too well....I can't live with a man and not feel the need to "take care" of him...
and I just don't have the time or energy to want to do that right now...
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
Significant Others / Fathers & Mothers
Posted: 9/25/2018 7:39:39 PM
Thank you friend

My man and I dance every weekend....mostly to 70's love songs....
but we have danced to that song...and a few other 50's belly rubbers!
And I am beyond lucky....because I don't have to INSIST on his attention....he gives it freely and with passion every time
we are together....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
Significant Others / Fathers & Mothers
Posted: 9/25/2018 6:05:41 PM
I, also, was one that chose to not have children of my own.
I helped raise a step child....helped raise my niece and took legal custody of her when she was 13...
fostered a couple girls...
I have never felt that my not birthing children made me any less of a relationship partner...

but I will admit to judging men on their "parental personality"....
I could never be with a man that wasn't a good I wouldn't respect him enough to spend time with him
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 136 (view)
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/25/2018 4:10:58 PM
and people wonder why we need better imigration control....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 127 (view)
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/25/2018 11:47:44 AM

A woman in her 50s, with no husband, and thinks marriage is a bad experience that must not be repeated.

where did I say it was a bad experience.....I thoroughly enjoyed being married. Doesn't matter how it ended....
I just choose to not do the marriage thing again.
and other than burying my man almost 4 years ago.....Yes, I have had a wonderful life. And continue to have a wonderful life.
But my wonderful life has nothing to do with a man making it wonderful....and everything to do with me being extremely comfortable with who I am....where I am in life....and where my future is taking me.


What??? There are many couples that chose to not have children....

No sane woman wants your end.

Please explain why you think my life is so miserable....
I am financially independant, my home is paid for, my cars are paid for, I have a great career, I have time to vounteer, I have time to go and do as I please, I have a great man in my life, wonderful family and friends...what is so wrong with a young girl wanting to grow up and have the same carefree, drama free life???
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 122 (view)
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/25/2018 5:42:05 AM

So, you want young girls, to ended up in their 50s divorced
I want young girls to be whatever they want to be....

without kids
if they, like me, don't want kids of their own - I totally support it...

do not want to get married
I think you will find marriage isn't the "end all- be all" it used to be for many people...

and spend the rest of their lives on a dating website looking for ponies to ride
Who said I'm here looking for anything??
My profile clearly states I am only here for the forums....I happen to have a wonderful non-judgemental, compassionate man in my life!!

Another question, did you go beyond giving a head? Because it seems you ended up without kids.

Are you really so ignorant to think a woman can be married for a lot of years and not spit out babies??
Remember that birth control you were spouting about? Some of us actually use it!!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 119 (view)
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/24/2018 9:58:58 PM
Nope.....not waiting on a proposal....
already did the marriage thing....don't need to do it again!!
perfectly content giving good head with no marriage proposal...

and yes....I highly condone that young girls learn that there are pricks out there that "use sugar words" to get head...
and tell them to go to hell!!
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 116 (view)
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/24/2018 9:27:11 PM
Not a virgin??
Oh mean you have went against the teachings of your coveted religion and had sexual relations outside of marriage....
or is that rule only for women???

and you are right....I an no 55 year old virgin!! I haven't rode any ponies....but I have done a cowboy or two!!
and contrary to your derogatory image of women...I am educated, self supported, not on Welfare, have no STD's and haven't popped out any kids.....and have never had to "sugar words" to get sexual satisfaction!!
There is no shame in my game....and one can only hope the younger female generation looks up to me more than you and your extremely unhealthy views....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 113 (view)
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/24/2018 3:17:05 PM
I don't claim to be anything....
nor do I need anyone to "support" my choices....
and I sure as hell don't need some damn antiquated beliefs to teach me I am less of a person because of my gender....

But it's good to know you are still a virgin....
maybe some lucky suicide bomber will get you as a reward.....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 108 (view)
what is so wrong with a single dad?
Posted: 9/24/2018 2:06:10 PM
The language of marriage.....what a frikken joke!!
This same Quran spouts such nonsense as being able to marry numerous women...and teaches to "hit them"...

The Quran in Sura 4:3 says:

And if you be apprehensive that you will not be able to do justice to the orphans, you may marry two or three or four women whom you choose. But if you apprehend that you might not be able to do justice to them, then marry only one wife, or marry those who have fallen in your possession. (Maududi, vol. 1, p. 305)

The Quran in Sura 4:34 says:

4:34 . . . If you fear highhandedness from your wives, remind them [of the teaching of God], then ignore them when you go to bed, then hit them

take your Quran and barbaric mentality back to your own country.....
it's not needed here....
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 80 (view)
Lack of sexual experience. It is a turn off?
Posted: 9/24/2018 1:53:45 PM
doesn't matter if the ratio is 1:1....
there is absolutely no proof to show that the average number of sexual partners for both genders is equal..
Not when every survey/study shows men have higher numbers than women...
yes.....these are just a small sample of the population....
but the trend is the same in every study....

You can spout your 1:1 ratio all day doesn't mean squat....and...
it will never undo the actual proven numbers that have been gathered in hundreds upon hundreds of studies....
and that is men have more sexual partners than women.

You want to say our "emotions" are leading us....
I will say.....your one sided focus on the number of each gender in the world is misleading you...
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 76 (view)
Lack of sexual experience. It is a turn off?
Posted: 9/24/2018 4:39:30 AM
Emotions have nothing to do with my beliefs.....
but reality does...
and like I said before.....until we have a true and accurate count of exactly how many sexual partners every person has had....
it is still just a guess on what the average is.
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 340 (view)
Do nice guys finish last?
Posted: 9/23/2018 10:39:18 AM

I have been looking for years!

you have been looking for a slob?
or you have been looking for someone that is looking for a slob? LOL
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