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 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
69 only
Posted: 6/1/2009 1:31:09 PM
As it's been discussed here on the forums previously, some men sincerely, truly and honestly love to please women. Other men have an agenda when it comes to sex, they simply desire to in fact be pleased themselves.

Communicate your needs as well as your sexual desires with your bf, if an agreement can't be reached then maybe it's time to again go "fishing." Great sex is a terrible thing to waste!
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Ever had a FWB who was a true friend?
Posted: 6/1/2009 1:17:14 PM
Most certainly and it's great! We are talking one FWB that's been a 11 plus year thing, one that is going on 10 years and another for only 6 months.

The great thing about it is the 11 year situation is now married, therefore we get together whenever our schedules allow. She would do most anything for me and I for her....except marry her.

The other is my very best friend. We race, fish, travel, heavily discuss business strategies together as she is in the upper echelon of a large corporation. I would do anything in the world for her......except marry her at least at this time in my life.

The 6 month situation is a friend that is married and has been for 36 years. At first it simply started out as once a week bed buddies, now she is become a true friend. She's not there yet as I make true friends very slowly.

Most all of us have many acquaintances of both genders. Of the opposite gender, some of us possibly may even sleep with an acquaintance on occasion. Here however I think we are talking about true to die for, give them a kidney friend(s) correct?

Into them? No question! Desiring a monogamous relationship? Not at this point. It's certainly not correct for most but for those of us that feels as though it works, it does.

Male friends, true friends? I don't think I have one that I would stake my life on. I don't have the time to cultivate same sex friendships....Gee, I wonder why.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 71 (view)
 
How to you get your man to like giving oral sex
Posted: 5/26/2009 1:45:15 PM
If you keep it clean, (stink free..LOL, a well washed ass is also a big plus) shaved and you're a "must do" or even a "will do" your partner(s) should totally devour your love mound.

Don't cover any scent with perfumes, if it needs adjustment go see a Gyno. Remember, a few men won't eat or appreciate a delicious steak, therefore a few may simply not appreciate your deliciousness. I know I dislike salads.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Hook up advice.. round two!
Posted: 5/26/2009 1:23:39 PM
Sometimes things such as work schedules, client load, etc., can make a difference on how often one plays. I know that when I enjoy a woman for an evening and indicate I would like to get together again I mean that.

However your situation sounds as though something may not have made his socks go all the way up/down. If you're ready to romp again simply call him and ask him over if you desire. It will be Yes, No or a few excuses.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
When eating pu$$y
Posted: 5/26/2009 11:29:12 AM
Most women will provide direction on what they desire. Guys, pay attention to her actions as well as her directions, you'll most often clue in to her desires.

Here is one method to try, I call it the ABC's. On her clitty and with your tongue, start with making the letter A and progress through the letter Z with your tongue. Upper or lower case, makes no difference. See if she can make it all the way through the alphabet before she cums. You'll also discover which letter she enjoys the most.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Sex Buddies
Posted: 5/26/2009 10:36:33 AM
Sex buddies, as one perviously stated, are many things to many people. For some it has to do with their professions with no time to "date," for others it may be that they are in a relationship and simply desire more. There are without a doubt as many definitions as there are those involved.

If only those that desire such situations would simply be up front with their desires in the beginning, more FWB as well as sex buddy situations would certainly be much more fulfilling and possibly more long term for each involved.

I've always thought, per a sex buddy, that it should encompass respect for the other, openness, honesty, cleanliness as well as a strong desire to sexually satisfy the other. Sprinkle in total discretion if that is in fact a requirement.

If honesty as well as openness occurs upfront, then more exact ground rules can be set in place. Who knows, your sex buddy of today could be your significant other or your more of tomorrow.

If you could have the best sex, financial stability, communications, honesty, intellect and a best friend all in one "situation" wouldn't that be great?
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Cash For Sex
Posted: 5/18/2009 8:35:23 AM
The gal that did the 60.00 BJ ..........was his total capitol investment for the day/evening 60.00 total or was he required to wine and dine her also? Hell, you can't go out to dinner unless it's Mickey D's for less then 60.00. If she was in the "Must Do" category he may have received a super deal....LOL

IMO if it's taxed, certified by the health dept. as is the case per the legitimate brothels of Nevada then who the hell cares? I've not heard any word on CNN of lay off's in the Nevada brothels.

With all the stimulus packages available......maybe the brothels have also jumped on the band wagon. Sure, why not bail out the brothels.......Spend those American Dollars, not only by spreading legs but by spreading the wealth as well.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 33 (view)
 
What's your TYPE?
Posted: 4/24/2009 5:17:06 PM
My type.......Brunette, smaller breasts, wet, wild and tasty, with no _ _ _ch like tendencies. Enjoys travels with the flexibility from open wheel racing to fishing for Musky then able to enjoy the symphony, the arts and culture. Financially as well as emotionally stable and secure. She would also possess a very high libido with bi curiosities............If you know her send her this way.

Oh, she must also enjoy a guy with size 13 shoes.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Bi women or Straight women?
Posted: 4/24/2009 4:55:40 PM
I enjoy both depending upon the mood. Let's face it, a bi female can offer a few more possibilities then a straight gal. If it's a threesome type of night, invite a female friend to join you and she or maybe a friend of hers.

Honestly, I have discovered no real difference in bi females/bi curious females then women that are straight. Hell who knows, the gal you think is straight may have indulged at one time ot another. Really, who cares?
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Libido after 50
Posted: 4/24/2009 3:45:02 PM
At the big 50...If the libido here gets any better it's going to be found to be illegal. I have always been a horn dog but in the last few years it's totally increased.

Gee, no wonder that a serious desire for a monogamous relationship is years off.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Burn out effect of online dating
Posted: 4/24/2009 3:34:19 PM
I don't understand, how can it be boring to climb online, hook up and if the "click" is there hit the sheets for an evening of pure 100% hedonistic bliss?

Some concentrate on their professions, their bottom lines, investments, or children if they are still at home, etc., but in the off time what is better then sex? If both involved leave totally satisfied then it was a hell of a night.

Why do so many worry about a lasting long term monogamous relationship. A relationship is like an automobile, it's not if you're going to trade but when. Why not have a few "vehicles" so you don't become bored with the same one.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Burn out effect of online dating
Posted: 4/24/2009 3:31:00 PM
I don't understand, how can it be boring to climb online, hook up and if the "click" is there hit the sheets for an evening of pure 100% hedonistic bliss?

Some concentrate on their professions, their bottom lines, investments, or children if they are still at home, etc., but in the off time what is better then sex? If both involved leave totally satisfied then it was a hell of a night.

Why do so many worry about a lasting long term monogamous relationship. A relationship is like an automobile, it's not if you're going to trade but when. Why not have a few "vehicles" so you don't become bored with the same one.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Burn out effect of online dating
Posted: 4/24/2009 3:20:26 PM
I don't understand, how can it be boring to climb online, hook up and if the "click" is there hit the sheets for an evening of pure 100% hedonistic bliss?

Some concentrate on their professions, their bottom lines, investments, or children if they are still at home, etc., but in the off time what is better then sex? If both involved leave totally satisfied then it was a hell of a rendezvous.

Why do so many worry about a lasting long term monogamous relationship. A relationship is like an automobile, it's not if you're going to trade but when. Why not have a few "vehicles" so you don't become bored with the same one.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 98 (view)
 
bend over.
Posted: 4/24/2009 8:49:35 AM
Ok, once this totally beautiful woman with three of her female friends and I were together. I was laying on this cute little table. I had this little white gown on, she stuck a endoscope up my ass. She didn't call it sexy, she called it a procedure this was of course in a hospital. Wowsa, now ain't that sexy?

Exit only is tattooed on my ass cheek. No animals, no plastic, no bottle rockets!!
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 48 (view)
 
orgasm count, is he lying??
Posted: 4/24/2009 8:30:54 AM
Him being a Cop he undoubtedly attached a highly sophisticated electronic devise call a "Cum Counter" to her big toe. Thus providing him the power, beyond a reasonable doubt, that she did in fact orgasm 21 times in a specific time period.

Come on, a Cop, a Rocket Scientist or a Derelict may be able to get a woman off numerous times with the correct techniques.....or could it simply be a "fish" story? That it truly the question.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Why would you want to remain friends with an ex
Posted: 4/24/2009 8:00:22 AM
It's not good to "burn bridges," you did them once upon a time....Hell, maybe you'll want to do em again in the future. You know, there just may be the proverbial..."slow time."
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
3somes
Posted: 4/22/2009 1:05:04 AM
If in fact you are bi or bi curious that would make it easier to find a woman to join you two. Don't worry about him wanting her more then what he wants you. If he has even a little threesome experience with two women he will know that each requires equal time.

In all honesty a threesome or moresome will either enhance your relationship of it will destroy it. If you're in a relationship with good communications and you desire a threesome as something you both desire then you're on the correct track.

It's much better if the women are "into" each other as in being at least bi curious and there is no competition. There are those of us that have experienced much more then our fair share of threesomes for many many years......Gee, and we're still alive to enjoy many more.

If he is hedonistic and you and he together choose to "swing," you may be in a very long term situation. Most men do desire as well as prefer a hedonistic partner...provided they are secure with themselves sexually.

How to find a woman to join you? Simply ask! You may be surprised at the number of women that do enjoy an occasional threesome with a couple. Good luck, relax and enjoy the sexsational adventure.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Is this Bad to Ask?
Posted: 4/22/2009 12:44:08 AM
For many a shower before sex is only the polite as well as the courteous thing to do. Who the hell enjoys "Rotch Crotch even if it's served upon a "clean plate".

If it's a first date...hit the shower and then the Hot Tub. You may shower separately before Hot Tubing but it's a good bet you won't be showering alone afterwards!
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
College & Dating over 45
Posted: 4/18/2009 3:08:23 PM
Time is often about Quality Vs. Quantity. To in fact "date" a woman that has a corporate career and that is attending a University/collage has not been an issue for me. I've done it and it works. It's not like she will be in school for 10 years.

I can't see the difference in your situation. If a woman is into partying hard nightly or all weekend, hell you probably wouldn't be interested in her anyway.

IMO, the women that would be interested on the surface would seem to be the goal oriented women that may have "been there done that" or that are currently in the same boat.

Congratulations on returning to school, I wish you great success!
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 4/18/2009 2:47:57 PM
It seems to me that women that feel as though "all" men are seeking only a one night stand may want to reconsider. Of course there are exceptions to the rule but most men are seeking something lasting. Now, that maybe only a few months or a few years but nevertheless something more then a one time romp.

The reason is that to actually discover a woman that is compatible both in bed as well as out of bed is something of a phenomena all itself. To in fact enjoy a woman that is fun, bubbly, out going and in the same sense great in bed is a find far and few between.

Therefore to develop a true friend with benefits takes much longer then hitting the sheets one time.

I have always contended that if a relationship is not great between the sheets then it's simply not going to work. Why the hell would anyone stay in a situation (relationship) with a less then enjoyable and fulfilling sex partner?

No matter if both are seeking a truly monogamous situation or a situation where one or both are seeking other to join them, become involved in swinging, doing threesomes or moresome, it most often can't be discovered in one play session unless both are widely and immediately open with the other, which happens about as often as a blue moon.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Davenport, And The Quad Cities
Posted: 4/18/2009 2:29:16 PM
It's party time again in the Quad Cities area on Saturday night April 25th. If you're a single you might want to check it out, only 12.50 and if you're a couple for only 25.00 you won't want to miss it. The Dance Blast gets underway at 7:30, orientation begins at 5:30 for new couples and singles.

Live DJ, with a knock out light show playing music from the 60's Thu today's top dance hits. This is always a BYOB to the ballroom. The location is held in a top rated motel with a secure and private ballroom. After the dance it's the Hospitality and GS Suites with Hot Tub. Party concludes a 3:00 am. Meet like minded couples and singles that want to meet you. E-mail for additional information.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Is Sex the BE all or END all of a relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2009 8:35:40 AM
To be involved in a long term situation with a female that isn't really truly into sex for me would not be a happening deal. Now, to be an acquaintance as in an occasion get together?.....certainly.

I don't understand why anyone would in fact fall in love with someone that they didn't know after many romps were 99% totally sexually compatible.

We can get into what is love........I know that I love many women in many different ways or maybe the emotions are more of a strong likable desire, as in I "love" being with them. Love enough to cohabitate or become monogamous? No way!

There are many women that are great lovers that are lacking in other areas. There are many that aren't great lovers that are 99% in most all other areas. Either way, it's a no head over heels love affair......just an affair which is OK.

Good sex to me are with women that are sexually open to exploring their sexuality, with great sexual enthusiasm etc. Then again what is performance? It's almost like a chief justice that once stated per pornography that "he would know it when he sees it." With great sex, you know it when you have it. To explain it is difficult to describe.

I know I wouldn't "fall in love" with a woman that wasn't 99% sexually desirable. To me to deeply, madly, truly "fall in love" would require 99% sexual compatibility in conjunction with attitude, attraction, intellect, security, goals, etc., etc. Gee, must be why I have chosen to remain divorced for 20 years. Some have came damn close but no cigar.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Is it possible to love someone with differing political views?
Posted: 3/17/2009 8:00:39 AM
Most certainly it is. I'm a left wing liberal, a few very long term female "friends" are right wing conservatives. Once in bed it seems all the political differences disappear. Actually I think they enjoy my liberal views, at least the liberalism when it pertains to sex.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
what is an open relationship
Posted: 3/13/2009 7:46:42 AM
An "open relationship" is a heading which many sub headings could certainly fall under. Most often and to most the open relationship is just that an open as well as honest relationship where totally open as well as honest communications is paramount.

Communications for many couples is one major key component that is missing. Many couples are in "open relationships," the problem is only one of the individuals within the couple knows and understands it.

As in business, site down and actually discuss what you and well as your partner desires out of the relationship per an "open Relationship." If it's simply sex with others, or sex where one always invites the other to join in as in "swinging," etc., then discuss that. If it's "you go your way and I'll go mine" once a week, then discuss that.

After all, for some, the idea of a true open relationship maybe to them a totally new concept. New concepts of any type for some is a difficult thing to grasp, some are dead set in their ways. Open relationship are not correct for everyone. If that's the case then simply move on once it's been relayed that it's not for you. They as well as you will appreciate it so they as well as you in fact won't waste time, money or energy.

Only creativity limits an open relationship, you never know what may end up being within the mutually acceptable agreement. It just may open up a multitude of new adventures as well as enjoyments.

It's much better to discover upfront what someone is into as well as what they are all about then to waste time and be unhappy in a situation or relationship. Hell, if you're totally happy with yourself possess great health are financially secure and are really truly enjoying the hell out of life then why settle for less then what you honestly desire in a partner.

Kick the stress, drama as well as the crap to the curb don't worry or sweat the small things and enjoy life to the fullest. Enjoy life and all the adventures and pleasures life has to offer with a 100% like minded person(s), why settle for less?
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 67 (view)
 
What do you bring to the table!!
Posted: 3/5/2009 4:06:06 PM

This is what I bring to the table in a relationship:
Financial stablitliy
Employed
I like Sex (actually I love it with the right guy!!!)
Can mow my own lawn...if you've seen my yard you know that is a chore
I like sports
I'm NOT a former drug user or alcoholic
No criminal history......well, maybe a few speeding tickets
I can hold my own in a conversation
have a house
have a car
I can fix a toliet
Not afraid to get dirty
I like to tickle and be tickled
Affectionate
Playful
Mischievous
Drama is strictly in my professional life (no I'm not a hooker, madam or drug dealer)
Adventurous
I can cook
Can clean.......don't like to but will do it
Oh, I shower daily and use deoderant


Change the "guy" to gal per sex, add two boats a plane, add live theatre and the symphony and a sprint car..... we could be twins. Of course you live in a state other then Iowa.......That is the way the cookie always seems to crumbles, damn!
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 261 (view)
 
having sex with 2 guys at the same time!!
Posted: 3/3/2009 11:17:47 AM
It certainly seems as though more then a few women enjoy two men pleasing them at the same time. Imagine that.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 165 (view)
 
why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/3/2009 11:07:29 AM
Even while in a "relationship"......One never knows when that special "trophy" may come swimming along. Therefore many will keep their bait in the water.

It maybe the "I hate being single" syndrome or it maybe the "I love being single and plan on staying that way" syndrome. In any event.....happy fishing, enjoy and good luck to everyone!
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 79 (view)
 
How do you feel about relocation?
Posted: 3/3/2009 10:56:36 AM
Me relocate to another city, state or country for a "relationship"? Hell No! I own my home as well as a practice here and involvement's with other entities are many. To relocate as in retirement? Certainly, when I'm ready and that will be where I desire that to be.

Simply haphazardly throwing a dart at a map, pack a "Polish" suitcase and move for lust or "love" ahhh, no thanks, not a happening deal.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Hi Everyone - Any good luck?
Posted: 3/3/2009 10:32:16 AM
POF is an excellent online media to in fact meet others in person. Yes, it does work and yes, "luck" has been very good. In the last year (March 08-March 3,09 I've met 9 women in person from POF.

Of the 9, 3 where "No way's-this is NOT going to happen," great gals, happy I had the opportunity to meet them however, they just didn't make the socks go up and down.

2 were from well out of the area that were simply visiting Cedar Rapids, certainly wonderful, fun and exciting women, mutually fun for a few days. We stay in touch on occasion via e-mail and calling.

1 is waiting for a guy to move to Iowa later in March to start a LT "relationship," until then, we are very good weekly friends.

3 were totally "must do's" and of the 3, 1 desired a committed monogamous relationship after a few weeks which meant I had to say "bye bye now." She is now married and seeking a divorce, we remain simply friends.

Of those 3, 2 continue to be very good friends, we get together whenever our schedules fit. Luck is what you make it.

If you actually get out there and meet others, the fun times will most certainly follow! Be respectful, open and honest, most importantly simply be yourself.

No matter what you're seeking, a long term monogamous relationship, an occasional "date" or anything in between, the best people online are here at POF! Thank you POF!
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Were Best Friends recently intimate - She wants to date Others
Posted: 3/2/2009 12:08:28 PM
Buddy...a suggestion, don't give her an ultimatum! Let her go as it seems this is what she desires. If you're best friends then don't allow her "dating" others to ruin that. A true friend is a true friend, something very rare and precious. Much different the a simple acquaintance.

Get out there yourself and mingle even horizontally if you desire. Maybe you've discovered a true "Friend With Benefits" with her that may grow into something extremely special.

Let her run her dating course, be supportive and get busy doing something other then dwelling on what in your opinion should be. Good Luck to you!
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Bikini Waxing
Posted: 3/2/2009 11:54:33 AM
Hygienically it's cleaner and much easier to perform cunnilingus with a "clean plate" to work with. If she is totally waxed all the better.

Those of us the prefer true brunettes, I'm sure have discovered that their bush can get out of control quickly, thus impairing the proper performance of certain tongue-alingus activities.

I know that I have shaved my balls for 10 years and the surrounding areas. It's cooler in the summer, more sensitive year round, in addition it makes Mr. Happy appear larger.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Paraphilias: Which Ones Set Off Your Ick Meter?
Posted: 3/2/2009 11:21:14 AM
In brief, out of all the OP's listings Voyeurism is the only one that does NOT set off a "no thanks" response here and then only in certain circumstances.

Set off the "ick meter"? No, but understandably the other listings are simply part of life and a quasi part of sexuality.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
When does a couple stop getting to know each other after sex?
Posted: 3/2/2009 10:51:36 AM
After sex "the get to know you begins." After all, often times the most difficult and one of the most important and awkward aspect for some is out of the way.

If you desire sex and friendship then never should the great times and communications stop. Maybe it has much to do with maturity. Some mature at 20 others never really seem to get there.

The most important thing is respect for yourself as well as total respect for your partner. Don't sweat the small stuff!
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 33 (view)
 
how soon should you have sex
Posted: 2/28/2009 10:47:35 PM
At least until your finished with your first glass of iced tea and know each others first name.

In all honesty, what better way to get to "know" someone then indulging in a pleasure for both few hours of intimacy.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Hey....I really need help
Posted: 2/28/2009 9:58:51 PM
Just like the OP.....I am in total shock when women send me nude pictures. They must want only one thing, they must be a player! They are not seeking a white picket fence with 2.5 children and a dog...............This is of course typed in pure satire thicker then Peanut Butter. Keep those cards and letters cumin.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Your favorite time and place to start sex by giving a mind blowing blow job?
Posted: 2/28/2009 9:49:44 PM
As in on the phone with his "girlfriend"?
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
The girl I'm seeing wants to....
Posted: 2/28/2009 9:47:34 PM
Buddy, if the club is couples only she just may be your "ticket" in! If you do attend simply be yourself, watch how much you drink and be respectful. Go with absolutely no expectations and you may do all right.

Do you have any clue how many single males or married males for that matter would give their right nut to have a female say to them they desire to go to a swing club? If she is bi or bi curious you may end up with a threesome or a more some if as you indicated it's couples and single females only night at the club.

Relax, enjoy and don't over analyze it.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 33 (view)
 
is ths too fast
Posted: 2/28/2009 9:35:22 PM
Hard to tell he wasn't me......If the sex was good and you enjoyed his companionship I suppose anything is possible. Let me consult the crystal ball.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Help convince Wife?
Posted: 2/26/2009 5:25:54 PM
If she enjoys reading and you are serious, the following books are great reads. Don't push her into the Bi thing. If she's Bi curious...cool and maybe down the road she will be but until if she isn't and you push, you maybe shooting yourself in the foot.

Remember "swinging" is as much about your partner enjoying herself as you enjoy yourself. It's interesting how often the male of the couple is the one that suggests swinging but once it actually occurs it's the female of the couple that keeps it going.

Be careful what you wish for, it may just happen.....Good luck and enjoy!


Recreational Sex : An Insider's Guide to the Swinging Lifestyle by Patti Thomas

Swinging: Real Stories by Real Swingers by Terry O'Day

Happy Swinging by Sue Gould
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
What does it take for a woman to suck in bed?
Posted: 2/21/2009 9:51:02 AM
Bad Hygiene!!! That would by far be number 1. If the hygiene is bad, sex certainly won't happen. The next would be a the "I would rather be anywhere but here" attitude, followed by enthusiasm. If she is not at least somewhat aggressive and possesses some form of sexual imagination and creativity why bother.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 31 (view)
 
what if you prefer both?
Posted: 2/21/2009 9:40:41 AM
A number of men do desire bi females. I know when a females indicated to me she is bi or bi curious it opens up a world of great possibilities as well as sexsational adventures. I think many males "date" a women only to discover down the road that the woman they are "dating" is bi or again, bi curious.

I don't know if women desire bi males or not but you are who you are. Be honest and open. It may lead to endless roads of adventure.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 47 (view)
 
TOO MUCH TOO FAST
Posted: 2/21/2009 9:31:16 AM
Some "date" a long while before getting serious, then they get serious and still enjoy the spice of life which is variety. Other jump right in, it's different strokes for different folks. Enjoy life to the fullest, if you and he make a pac and desire to be monogamous and live happily ever after then do it. It's all about what each of us truly desires.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 48 (view)
 
30 day Abstinence
Posted: 1/30/2009 8:13:11 AM
OP if you're choking your Chicken everyday for 30 days, you may want to check the Dollar store to see if they have any Nair. Soon your palms will grow hair.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Why Not Admit You're Just Looking for Sex?
Posted: 1/29/2009 12:27:54 PM
For some there is not necessary an ulterior motive for sex. Why can't sex be simply an enjoyable adventure between two consenting adults? As in Intimate encounters.........then list the will do as well as the won't do's. Think the e-mails would pour in?

Life in itself is a challenge. We go through challenges on a daily basis with or professions, careers, traffic, children etc. Many prefer to leave sex as simply enjoyable not a "hunt to conquer" venture.

To "win"? That could and maybe should be reserved for the race track, bowling alley, football field or tennis court.

Human nature, religion and the "main stream" has made the pursuit of open and upfront sex a taboo particularly for women. This is not only unequal it's unfair. Threads that contain info per a woman having recreational sex, where other women judge and basically screw the gal into the ground.

Maybe those that truly desire to open a "date" with sex should openly indicate such. Why don't they? For the reason that it doesn't receive hits. For a male to place an add where he is seeking matrimonia and a long monogamous relationship their e-mail box in all probability would in fact be flooded.

It's the old cliché...sell the sizzle, not the steak. If only PT Barnum could write ads for POF, the man would be busy.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Why Not Admit You're Just Looking for Sex?
Posted: 1/29/2009 11:27:27 AM

Dating to me means actually doing something and getting to know someone


What better way to do something then to have sex? Get the sex out of the way and you'll then know if it's worth spending additional time cultivating.

Many can deal with many things inadequate in a relationship but talking for weeks or months to get to know someone then the sex is less then mutually fulfilling? That can be a deal breaker for some. Bad sex is almost impossible to change or deal with.

Sex is sex, most often extremely enjoyable, romantic, exciting and of course fulfilling. If the sex is good a relationship may follow even a long term situation.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Which one do you prefer???
Posted: 1/29/2009 11:09:53 AM
Absolutely a self-made millionaire. She has been a very smart "worker" working hard is not always the answer. She is truly a sweety, diligent per her income as well as her expenses, managed not to take a hit per investments over the last year. She even pays for her own airline ticket(s) and half of the lodging when we travel together, now that is refreshing!

"There is nothing wrong with being poor, sometimes it's simply inconvenient."
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Can't orgasim from oral
Posted: 1/29/2009 10:50:40 AM

I've received very good ones too...


Is there such a thing as a bad BJ? I have found all BJ's are good, some are simply in the great category.

There are some males that would like to be in your situation where they don't cum per receiving a BJ.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 198 (view)
 
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/29/2009 8:34:50 AM
I haven't read each and every postings here however but don't most men perform oral on a woman to provide her pleasure as well as for the simply reason it's enjoyable to them?

We are talking here of course about women that have in fact passed the "sniff test." To expect a particular thing to be performed during sex in return for this that or the other is at best disrespectful. Just as a few males dislike providing oral there are women that are probably on the same page.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Spanking Your Monkey in Public
Posted: 1/29/2009 8:19:54 AM
OK, so who is going to begin a thread about women petting their Kitty's in public? Sure as hell not me...........
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS SURVEY
Posted: 1/28/2009 6:24:35 PM
I know that it is certainly possible even probable to begin as FWB and end up with emotional feelings for the person(s). This is not to say that a monogamous relationship will ever occur, it simply is an indication that long term "relationships" have been and can be developed from a beginning of FWB. We are talking 10 year situations.

Some of us have no desire what so ever to remarry or even cohabit. To truly enjoy an individuals company and companionship when schedules mesh is within the realm of enjoyment for many.

In the beginning of an "intimate encounter" rules should be set in place, both must be mature enough to openly as well as honestly discuss and communicate with the other their expectations, desires as well as ramifications should the situation become other then what was agreed upon.

If done correctly FWB can be a very enjoyable as well as a long term situation or it can simply be a stop gap. Playing openly as well as honestly is always the best policy.
 
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