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 Author Thread: I always screw up good things because of the same issue
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
I always screw up good things because of the same issue
Posted: 9/20/2012 8:14:48 PM
when we have something
good we tend to want to hold on to it obsession, jealousy,

insecurity. it's an art to enjoy it but to let
it go when we have to.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
China's second coming?
Posted: 6/6/2012 7:25:56 AM
i dont want to defend or attack china...certainly it had

a history of invading naboring countries...but i do feel it's on a more limited basis
than western countries. it's not to say
chinese ppl are better or worse; probably a case of some

countries are by nature more or less introverted than others. as individual
ppl are too. china being more introverted, or isolationist if you prefer. if you look at religion,
what do you see? christianity from the west wants
to proselytize, while taoism and buddhism do not; in many ways they

actually like to keep certain knowledge secret.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 110 (view)
Reincarnation, from a scientific perspective
Posted: 4/12/2012 2:14:29 PM
i like to suggest that so called ' junk dna' may

carry the mechanism that transmit specific consciousness and
life experience to a new body.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 57 (view)
What is the Nature of Reality?
Posted: 9/13/2010 11:47:50 AM
actually in the diamond sutra buddha
said everything and its opposite exist, so i take it to mean reality is

an illusion but also not an illusion at the same time
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 2714 (view)
Does God exist?
Posted: 8/28/2010 4:03:43 PM
to ubiquitous and others...
while something like an atomic matrix seems to be absolutely
real, in fact isn't.
not if reality were also in one way like a hallucination, then a person could

hallucinate atoms.
actually i believe the truth is somewhere in
between...everything is real and unreal at the same time.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
I don't know what going with me.
Posted: 8/10/2010 3:11:29 PM
when faced with possible death, most of
us will look for a lifebuoy to cling to....of course she may actually

be a right person for you. contact her if
you want; just don't be too desperate....always a bad sign.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
Can a guy please help me out with this?
Posted: 12/6/2009 7:45:16 AM
of course i dont know all the
circumstances,but when i was your age many of my friends were into
alternative lifestyles....which is to say not the

usual couples/monogamy/marriage thing. it's natural for younger ppl to go on
this non mainstream path, in a spirit of exploration. if you want something
else just talk to him about it. honest communication
works no matter what the age.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
Do I Write Women Off Too Easy?
Posted: 1/20/2009 5:52:13 AM
i have also written off someone after
getting negative feelings,but after 2 decades of dating, in
retrospect,i also found times where the 'feelings' were my own of fear
of rejection and other hangups.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
Why is Heaven considered more desirable than Earth?
Posted: 4/11/2008 2:09:36 PM
i could imagine some things which are in
heaven and not found as much on earth....creativity...the ability to manifest
a brilliant movie for example.all the souls in heaven would be able

to do this,not just steven spielberg[ sorry steven,youre still special though]. another thing might be to fully experience what someone else might
experience....we could do it to some extent on earth of course,but it would be to a much deeper level....more like telepathy.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
my bestfriend/my only love died almost 4 yrs ago
Posted: 12/5/2007 1:12:52 AM
if you choose to only love him it's your
right; who are we to judge? I do know however many human interactions
dont happen on a conscious level, so when you meet other men
they could sense this fact, and most of them will move on if

only not wishing to intrude.....becus you're giving off the vibe you're not
going to love anyone else.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
What is the reasoning for clothing our nakedness?
Posted: 11/15/2007 3:02:54 AM
clothing evolves pretty much as any other
human technology.....just as our ancestors picked up clubs to hunt,the club
gave them an edge than just hitting the animal with their bare hands. so clothes gave that edge
of surviving better in colder weather. in time being clothed became the
standard rather than luxury like anything dont hear many ppl say
nowadays ' i dont want a car, i prefer to walk to work within a five mile radius, dont want to get that really good job twenty miles from here'.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 106 (view)
Origin of God?
Posted: 11/9/2007 3:21:26 AM
since ppl are talking about logic here, here's
one.....for an atheist who doesnt believe in god, he
would have to BE A GOD....someone who knows for certain god doesnt

exist he would have to know EVERYRTHING in the universe, thus making him a GOD
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 104 (view)
I don't know how to forgive someone and I think it's killing me a little bit day by day...
Posted: 10/28/2007 3:02:00 AM
when we say someone is 'the one' what we
usually mean is this person overstretches ourselves....not necessarily
too good for us but takes all our resources just to survive.

underneath what ppl look for are 'peak' experiences......
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
The other place
Posted: 9/5/2007 4:29:39 PM
after years of working on myself i realized
paradise is more than just a place...our minds[ or at least the intellectual
part of it] could

set a very small boundary on what we're able to experience. when the
mind is free endless horizons start to zoom in.....
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 38 (view)
Not Single/Not Looking
Posted: 8/26/2007 2:39:01 AM
u might've seen the woody
allen movie where he asks a woman what she's doing on sat
nite. 'commiting suicide' she says. 'what about friday nite?' he asks....a lof of men

are aggressive....biology/cosmology. dont be offended, maybe one day
our race will evolve out of the cavemen stage. women have
their biological quirks too........
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
self fulfilling prophecy
Posted: 8/17/2007 2:49:33 PM
i know plenty of men and women who use
this prophecy but still keep getting dates....its becuz a] as realist stated they
want the ones they couldnt get, b] they're measuring

themselves against ppl who get a different date every night.....and maybe many other
reasons as well. we shouldnt forget no rule is 100% accurate[ including
this one i'm saying]; the world is made of pairs of opposites. for
every rule we could come up we cuold probably also come up with an opposite one.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 62 (view)
Feelings turned off
Posted: 8/7/2007 7:30:07 AM
when u say 'turning off' feelings unfortunately
what most ppl do is to push them down into the subconscious, where
they fester over the years.....hence the word ' baggage '.

and as u know the pile under the rug gets bigger. i like to take a more spiritual
view and see everyone who came into my life
has taught me something positive, even tho some of it was negative. of course
when the feeling for someone is so intense that it interferes with
my life i will set some of it aside...but in moderation....i'm watching

that pile under the rug.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
Should I call her after a year?
Posted: 8/4/2007 2:34:25 PM
......too much water
under that ole bridge
i'm for second chances, and 104th her
be ready to accept it may not work though. i talked to a girlfriend
i knew in college; for the moment we dont seem
to have enough in common anymore.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
Animals euthanised when they kill humans
Posted: 7/23/2007 7:31:56 AM
does anyone know if they
try to find out if they're euthanising the right animal? you always
hear on the news some bear went into a house and they went out and

killed it. do they test for dna or just find the
next bear they see in the woods?
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 88 (view)
Where did you meet your last boyfriend/girlfriend?
Posted: 7/19/2007 1:44:58 PM
i was jogging in a park; her dog suddenly broke
free of her leash and lunged at me. my ex girlfriend jumped on the leash with
her body, like a baseball player sliding home. i was impressed with her
we started talking probably from seemed like a random
meeting,but it was my longest relationship
.....maybe a lot of things arent accidental huh?
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 67 (view)
A simple question with most likely NO answer....
Posted: 7/17/2007 4:47:04 AM
its a problem right there....when u said he accused u of
being needy when u feel he's the neediest person u ever
saw. many times when a person meets someone with a quality he really has

a big dose himself its like a mirror for him...he couldnt stand neediness
in u cuz he has it himself. may not even be conscious of it of course........
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 67 (view)
do we attract a certain type
Posted: 7/13/2007 1:52:45 AM
actually we do have an upside
to this life we're meant to learn certain lessons, so the
drama[ a movie of our own making, if u will] gets
repeated over and over until we do it right.

u could look at it in a negative light; i prefer to see it
as more opportunities to set things straight....
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
Is America the New Rome or Mystery Babylon
Posted: 7/8/2007 4:03:10 AM
i'm not picking on rome, america or anybody else; china was
once an empire too,but almost anyone who becomes prosperous will go
the same route to decline......
its not even wealth is all bad,but when we get comfortable
and have lots of spare time it should be used to better ourselves spiritually and

not to just indulge in every sensory pleasure][ moderation is ok ]; but
we havent learned that lesson yet
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
4th of July
Posted: 6/30/2007 6:16:11 AM
instead of just focusing on food, maybe you
could have a get together with friends where ppl talk about what they
know about democracy and american history......we had many

good ideas when this country was founded but now many of the ideals
are slipping by the wayside.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 165 (view)
The touching of SOULS..........
Posted: 6/22/2007 3:40:03 AM
at the deepest level two souls could touch without
having it to be sexual necessarily....any two souls could touch regardless of
to have both sexual and soulful touching would probably
be as rare as vigin birth....

but i do believe many of us have momentary glimpses of this
exquisite union
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 97 (view)
A strange situation..Can someone makes sense of this PLEASE? MY DATE FOR TONIGHT THAT ISN'T!
Posted: 6/21/2007 5:32:35 AM
the red flag isnt the doctor thing, it's him being
nonchalant about a definite could be for reasons other posters
mentioned, also sometimes its a power game...the
person who seems less interested has more power in a relationship

not saying we should play this game, but lotsa people do
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 43 (view)
How is your INNER CHILD?
Posted: 6/18/2007 5:52:45 AM
when my inner child starts
to get hurt, my inner adult kisses it and
makes it well
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
How do be confident with women
Posted: 6/10/2007 5:47:48 AM
a] practise, b] have REAL CONFIDENCE
many ppl talk about it as if it were something you could buy
and put on like a cologne....its only part of it; the other part is we must

find out what we're good at in the world. and everyone has something to offer....
do some self discovery....take a self improvement course
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
Turning 30
Posted: 6/8/2007 1:46:42 AM
i dreaded turning 30 but was surprised to
find when i turned 40 understood so many more things.....and
had feelings i never had before
the trick is not to assume what's going to happen, let
life's mystery unfold....
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
Help please!
Posted: 6/5/2007 2:13:40 AM
love is a strong energy ...and energy has to go
somewhere; i suggest doing some volunteer charity work, it'll take
your mind off her. you could also help friends. or study up on spirituality [not necessarily in a religious sense

if it werent your thing....]
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 139 (view)
Whats your town/city famous for?
Posted: 6/4/2007 3:31:02 AM
new brunswick new jersey was where george
washington almost got captured by the british; i believe he was only ten
minutes ahead of redcoat you chaps in the uk

should know, but for a twist of fate i would be
speaking proper english
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
Holy Sh!t first date and he tells me I'm ignorant.
Posted: 6/4/2007 2:54:58 AM
i do psychological and spiritual counseling, and your experience
is becoming more common nowadays....i attribute it

to the fact letting out one's feelings is more acceptable now, but ppl should realize
honesty doesnt have to mean no control. i see more ppl
going from 0 to full fury in no time flat....
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
Fun Word origins
Posted: 6/2/2007 3:34:40 PM
i sometimes wonder about the expression ' cakewalk' used
in the us....does anyone know if it were a combination
of 'easy as eating cake' and ' a walk in the park '?
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
Is it possible to not know?
Posted: 6/2/2007 4:25:14 AM
of course we do have truly caring people in the
world....but you said you only knew him for a couple of months. are you basing
it on what he told you or what u saw and felt about him?
i would take more time before forming an opinion about someone......
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
i need help please help i need it from a guys point
Posted: 5/24/2007 11:01:36 AM
depression could be mild or not so said
at some points you dont wanna do anything. it could be very hard
to deal with--its why ppl go to therapists

who are strangers....when you're emotionally involved with someone its hard
to help her. men are all different; we dont have one point of
view on just have to feel out if this guy were patient and caring enough
to go thru it with you. good luck....
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
Help with Profile
Posted: 5/20/2007 3:06:30 AM
when you say you dont know if you've put
some touch of death in your profile, you sound as if you're very concerned
about offending anyone....some person somewhere will
be offended by something any one of us say. i certainly dont feel ppl should be

obnoxious and anti social, but many times when we're
over concerned about others' opinion we wind up with average lives....
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
Ozone Layer - A closer look at public fraud
Posted: 5/13/2007 2:48:55 AM
whats ur point? that no technology has any
impact on the environment? even if what u say were doesnt mean
other chemicals and agents arent drastically

affecting everything. get a job handling asbestos....maybe
it wont affect ur lungs
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
family patterns emerging?
Posted: 5/13/2007 2:12:34 AM
its a little like
saying since ppl die, why live at all? even if relationships
dont last forever, i wont stop looking to connect with someone...
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
Is It Normal To Not Feel Like Dating?
Posted: 5/11/2007 5:39:22 AM
it could be normal or a number of other things.....when we have
emotions we dont like to deal with often we just push them could be
getting over someone, or are afraid of failure[ to succeed in dating],
and many other possiblities
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 105 (view)
Online Relationship Gone Bad
Posted: 5/9/2007 5:09:18 AM
a good way to go about this would'v been to have him live
with you in fla for awhile,and you'd take a turn living where he is.
this way you both get to find out if you had any skeletons in the closet......
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
Figure it out.
Posted: 5/9/2007 3:19:29 AM
good point....its the story of most of us....becus of
our desire for love career etc we're willing to do things which go
against what we believe is right
most of us start out with good intentions and on the road to you know
where these intentions get left on the side of the road......
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
How did I get suckered by a married man?
Posted: 5/9/2007 2:29:15 AM
"if i talked to him i'd get suckered right back in..."......sometimes
we have to treat it like an addiction. love is great but also dangerous....its a cosmic
law,what is desirable also has a dark side, at least on the physical plane
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 57 (view)
The Irish
Posted: 5/5/2007 2:58:56 AM
i had two girlfriends who are
irish...i dont have too many complaints
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 42 (view)
The Secret to Finding The Perfect Guy?
Posted: 5/5/2007 2:13:36 AM
you're assuming married ppl are happier,which just
isnt true. not all single men are afraid of commitment.
all in all,you're looking at it from a too materialistic point of view and
not from the spiritual...
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 52 (view)
Causes of Moral Decline?
Posted: 5/1/2007 2:39:18 AM
for all we know god is playing a joke on us all and
everything always stays the same...or not....exactly how do we quantify
how much has declined how much has inclined? thru eternity?

for every incident of moral decline we could always come up with
something which has improved....lets say we're wailing about school shootings,
at the same time we could also say at least in this
country we could walk down the street on any given day and have a good chance
of making it home without being hurt or killed by marauding bands
of soldiers/bandits as in the middle ages....

GWENDOLYN AND CHAZABOY, you guys seem to be having
a feud about who's more corrupt america or britain...i would say corruption is a
human condition,no country could claim top prize. as soon as we move
which country leads moral decline we could at least say we made one little
improvement in human evolution....
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 33 (view)
OK help me understand this...
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:44:40 AM
its more than just overanalyzing, its also over-investing, emotionally.
it you already slept with her early in the relationship, and then you wonder
what level of commitment it is for her, you're setting up
to be hurt.
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
I had a dream...
Posted: 4/24/2007 2:27:57 AM
scarves are worn around the neck where we talk from...brickwall
suggests you didnt have good communicatiion with this woman?
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
having a problem with my 'SNAG'
Posted: 4/20/2007 6:01:05 AM
i feel moderation is probably dont like
the mushy stuff because you lived without it for awhile and now
you're mistrusting and resenting it. on the other hand, if this guy is TOO
mushy it may be he's too clingy so you have to be careful...
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
Why do pretty women make you so flustered.
Posted: 4/19/2007 4:30:07 AM
its fear...facing the possibility of meeting that person...if
it doesnt happen then we LOST the opportunity
but...if we dont put so much importance on physical beauty its less
of a compelling force
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
Posted: 4/15/2007 4:05:25 AM
you didnt say why he left....
in general ppl sometimes have ambivalent feelings; he might
feel some part of your relationship he's not able to live yet other parts
are very appealing to him.
....a very important question is...could you live with this situation?
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