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 Author Thread: Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 183 (view)
Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 2/5/2016 7:49:19 AM
Had mine when I was 27,now over forty years ago.
Have never regretted it ,in fact ,I found it to be very freeing in my sex life .No worries about anymore kids.
Why did I have it done,well, my wife had put up with pills,the coil etc. it really felt like it was my turn to
Take some of the responsibility.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 25 (view)
I don't think you should be thinking about love when you first date someone
Posted: 9/22/2013 8:44:31 AM
You over analyze.
Date to have fun,the rest will become obvious.
You set yourself up for failure by focusing on the distant future and not living in the here and now.
It's like looking up at the stars and tripping over a stump.
All in good time,be patient.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 25 (view)
What does she want exactly?
Posted: 9/22/2013 8:37:32 AM
She doesn't know what she wants.
How can you or anyone on this board know?
Stop wasting your time.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 197 (view)
READ MESSAGE# 257 - he shared his name / treats her nicely
Posted: 8/28/2013 7:55:28 AM
Okay,it worked out this time. Could have taken a much different turn.
To me it would be a big red flag if someone wants to keep their name a secret and I would just move on.
Also kids on a profile are not a good idea,not because of any recognition factor but from the stand point of some weirdo dating you to get to the kids.
Safety and common sense seem to be taking a back seat nowadays.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 107 (view)
Will a non smoker date a smoker ?
Posted: 7/4/2013 1:17:58 PM
I Realize active Melanie is no longer with us,believe she discovered the error of her ways and eloped with a smoker.
Exactly what does smoking have to do with character? I can see the connection to discipline but not to character.
Perhaps FDR, JFK,and more recently Pres Obama as smokers all lack character.
Find another reason for your bias.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 13 (view)
Marrying during the Retirement Years
Posted: 7/3/2013 5:20:33 AM
Circumstances and thus beliefs are different for everyone.
Marriage has its pluses and minuses. For those that have an aversion to marriage can find that nearly all rights and benefits of marriage can be covered by legal documents. You just have to have the attorney draw up the documentation. Don't assume that because you are in a long term un married relationship that you are covered.
This presumes you want to preserve your estate for your blood relatives and still want to provide in some degree for your significant other.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 73 (view)
Do all women over 50 cringe when they hear the word SEX !!
Posted: 6/29/2013 10:35:51 AM
Of course woman over fifty or even 60 don't cringe when the subject of sex is brought up.
It's all in the approach,you sound like a guy trying to kill a fly with a sledge hammer.
Some women I have contacted are actually the first to bring up the subject.
A common question seems to be " does everything still work?" Just what do you think they are referring to when they ask that question and what do you think might be on their mind?
I don't think they are cringing when they ask.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 23 (view)
Life is less and less worthwhile
Posted: 6/29/2013 10:04:11 AM
Attitude,attitude and attitude.
These are the three most important things in life.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 21 (view)
Ultra match feature
Posted: 4/20/2013 10:46:08 AM
Ultra match is just another screening tool. Click on my matches and ultra match is on that page. The forums can be reached as per an earlier poster said. Look at events and there is a place to click on all forums. Both features are still with us. POF has done this before,not sure if it is an oversight but the forums disappeared for months at one point unless you looked for it.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 30 (view)
7-Day contact rule?!?
Posted: 4/20/2013 10:31:05 AM
There are no rules,we are all adults here.Common sense needs to prevail.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 68 (view)
Do men really care if a woman has an orgasm????
Posted: 2/2/2013 5:00:36 AM
Sex is about two not one.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 12 (view)
He still loves his wife.....
Posted: 1/14/2013 8:42:26 AM
Cut your losses,don't wait for something that may take years or maybe never takes place.
Not fair to either of you.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
Why does Society look down there nose and people who remain single
Posted: 7/1/2012 7:37:08 AM
My opinion is that it is rude to ask such a personal question as when are you getting married or when are you having a baby.
Since ,in my opinion,80 to 85% of the general population are idiots, I guess it is to be expected.
OP's answer is a good one, it deflects the obvious opinion of the asker without being rude oneself by saying "it really is none of your business".
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 40 (view)
How to break up with Mr. Won't Work Out
Posted: 6/23/2012 11:17:10 AM
OP states in her profile she has never met anyone off POF.
I can understand why.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 18 (view)
We're exclusive - does the POF account need to be hidden?
Posted: 6/22/2012 7:16:33 PM
Since no one else seems to want to say it----DUMP HIM.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 44 (view)
Posted: 6/17/2012 5:46:38 PM
Dump her and get your picker fixed.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 48 (view)
Without marriage
Posted: 6/16/2012 9:22:17 AM
Cindy O
You better simplify this a little more,as a man I'm still having trouble grasping what you are saying.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
Posted: 6/13/2012 9:04:36 AM
Your interests mean I have to like dogs,horses,bowling and be a handy man.
Good luck with that,you have narrowed the field perhaps by too much.
But you'll find the one for you,just keep looking.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 40 (view)
Girl denied me online, we meet offline (has no clue who I am) and wants to date me.
Posted: 6/9/2012 9:05:24 AM
I vote that she's attempting to use you.
Don't be suckered.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 44 (view)
What are realistic expectations when it comes to dating?
Posted: 5/8/2012 8:25:40 PM
My expectation when dating is to have a good time.
To expect more is to court disaster with false expections.
I never really thought I would find the one on a first date.
One step at a time.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 19 (view)
Bringing adult children to a meet?
Posted: 5/8/2012 8:14:16 PM
Bad news.
No second date in sight for someone doing that to me.
Don't walk away,RUN.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 17 (view)
Grandma's With a Package Deal!
Posted: 5/8/2012 7:51:42 PM
I understand exactly where you are coming from as I feel the same way.
If they have kids or grandkids with them all the time you will never be first in their heart.
This can be discovered before either party has put their heart at risk,in fact before you even meet.
They are welcome to their lifestyle,and I don't criticise their choice,just it's not my choice.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 62 (view)
Are there ever any happy ever afters on POF with over 45's?
Posted: 5/8/2012 7:25:51 PM
I have found my significant other on this site.
I never had a problem getting dates ,my success ratio may not have been 100% but what part of life is?

The biggest problem most people have on this site is having a laundry list, an arm long ,of all their wishes for a perfect partner.
Without getting into how dumb it is to conduct a search that way,suffice it to ask: So you found the perfect male/or female,why would they be interested in you?

I am BTW,65 soon to be 66.Age doesn't have anything to do with it,stick to those that are close to you in age,interests and have something interesting to say on their profile and you will do just fine.

Love is there for everyone with an open mind and an open heart.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 65 (view)
Is taking things slow really necessary after the age of 45???
Posted: 5/4/2012 6:47:12 AM
Our society has changed since we have been in High school and our societies view on dating has also changed.
Our personal views on dating and expectations have also changed,that is if we are in touch with reality.
I'm not saying you should jump right into the bed,but surely you have learned some life lessons by now.
Most important is to be comfortable with your actions and to strive for happiness.
Life is too short to believe otherwise.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 57 (view)
A Thank you after sex? Women chime in/ men: experience?
Posted: 12/5/2011 2:06:02 PM
I've said thank you many times and heard it many times as well,normally followed by "that was wonderful".
That's a special time and needs to be treated as such.
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
'Stayover relationships' -- Would they work for over 45s?
Posted: 8/1/2011 11:36:16 AM
There's a blues tune that expresses this sentiment.
Basically it says I can't live with you all the time, but live close by and visit often.
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