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 Author Thread: Is it rude to put physical preferences in your profile?
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Is it rude to put physical preferences in your profile?
Posted: 1/24/2013 1:24:35 PM
i don't find it bad form... i tend to get all sorts of messages from guys whom i don't have any preference for, so i post in my profile that i prefer a certain type of guy... hey your profile is there to tell people a bit about yourself.. why not tell them your preference?
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
what are females lookin for?
Posted: 2/4/2012 5:32:16 PM
It all depends on her profile.... i find women who put that they are looking for a relationship, are truely looking for a guy to get to know, and see where it leads. Girls looking for sex only are looking for "intimate encounter" or some guys i know put "hang out" or " wants to date but nothing serious" on the section where it asks what you're looking for. It all depends on the girl, the secret is to try to figure out the right questions to ask that girl and see if you can find a pattern, so any other girl you message with that kind of information you'll know what they are looking for....

Make sense at all? That's what i've done on this site
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
30+ sex drive/lack of followthru?
Posted: 2/4/2012 9:43:20 AM
regardless of age, income or meds, women want their prince charming.... someone who's proud to have them on their arm and want to show the world! I've always found, the more you do for her, and the more kind you are to her outside the bedroom AND MEAN IT! The more she'll do for you inside the bedroom..... if she feels you're not looking for it, that also is a big turn on for some girls.
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Dating sites good or bad for dating self esteem?
Posted: 2/4/2012 9:36:03 AM
if she doesn't take the time to at least respond with 'not interested' then she's either got a ton of messages, or she's just shallow and needs to learn some empathy... to put herself in your shoes and actually have some compasion... don't worry.... there are as many guys who don't respond on this site then there are women...
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Advice on dating someone older.
Posted: 2/3/2012 7:13:54 PM
funny, i find the stories i hear about, are the ones where girls want it all, and want it now! As a woman 36 years old, i prefer younger guys because i find they still have a wild streak and aren't stuck in the same day in, and day out. I'm mature, know what i want, and if i have to wait longer for it, so be it.... i'd rather be a bit alone, then with someone i don't get along with at all.
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Is he Mr. Right..or just Mr. Right Now??
Posted: 2/3/2012 7:09:15 PM
Well from what i've seen of, from women here in the same city, i find a lot of women are only concerned about what they want, not what would be good for her and him as a couple! I'm looking for Mr. Right, but don't feeel he exists so i'll take things slow and see how things go.... granted, i have found that on this site there seems to be more guys on this site looking for Mrs. Right now... oh well, if i ever find him... hopefully i'll know
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 72 (view)
 
EX GF wants to be friends and possibly get back together. What is my best move here?
Posted: 11/25/2011 9:13:10 PM
You can't love anyone unless you love yourself..... she sounds like she's ashamed of you or playing you... like she wants you only if she has no one else or unless you find another girlfriend.... stick up for yourself... be honest with her and if she can't handle it, well then i recommend breaking all ties with her... move on and get over her... that's all i can give as advice...
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Is a single 33 yr old man doomed if he has a 5 yr old and a 1 yr old?
Posted: 11/25/2011 9:08:01 PM
HELL NO! I'm actually looking for a guy who never wants me to have a child or feel the need for children. I can't have any and had surgery to make sure i can't, but i'm good with kids and respect any man or woman who raises their own children.... i think it takes a lot of guts to be a parent and i applaude you.... just my thought
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 476 (view)
 
I am noticing a trend in women over 30
Posted: 10/27/2011 10:30:59 PM
my reason (to answer your point) is simply due to the fact that my brother is 5 years older then me and i find older guys just aren't fun and exciting anymore, no offense to any guy older then me or the same age, but i want some fun, meet new people, someone who is mature and knows how to treat a lady, but likes to have fun and how to do it! i just find mid 20s guys able to have fun, but still planning their life, so i'd like to have fun while i can, and possibly meet someone mature enough that i can teach him a few things about how to treat a lady. I know it'll bite me in the keister at some point because i'll just be teaching and not capturing someone, but oh well i'll have fun while i can, plus i'm a big kid at heart!
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 91 (view)
 
Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 10/13/2011 11:27:45 AM
if you haven't found "the one" you can see yourself growing old with, always having something to talk about, or enjoying spending the day together or apart from each other, then hoping for the one is fine.... some people don't find each other until after 30, so if you have a "perfect mate" in mind, hold onto that, and eventually it may come your way.... happy fishing
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Retraining yourself to date after a long relationship
Posted: 10/13/2011 11:22:29 AM
the best way to retrain yourself.. i find... is to date the way YOU want to date... if that means finding 'THE ONE' then you first have to love yourself, if it means just searching for sex, then do that.... what i'm trying to say is that if you feel you haven't experienced life for yourself, then do it... it doesn't matter if you want to find the one, a a FWB or put your efforts into your job/studies... just find what makes YOU happy...
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Making The First Move On The Second Date
Posted: 10/4/2011 2:58:52 PM
If she is old-fashioned, she may hope that you make the first move. Just keep in mind that if you do make the first move, do it in private, not in front of a big crowd of people who are waiting to see if you score or fail.... make it personal, or put your arm around her in a movie, and if she doesn't pull away, ask if she would mind if you kissed her....

That asking crap has worked on many tv shows, so why not try it for real???
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
on dating past 30
Posted: 10/4/2011 2:51:48 PM
Personally i think personality goes with your attitude towards others, as well as yourself....you have to love yourself in order for someone else to love you.

Everything in a good relationship has a balance... they compliment your activities, your drinking habits, your party or relaxation habits... everything! They make you laugh, or you make them laugh...you know your manners, and she knows hers, and if not, they want to learn from you! So if you're looking for a relationship, try taking what i said into consideration....

Happy Fishing!
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Hoodie?
Posted: 10/4/2011 2:46:54 PM
ok, I'm assuming the comment about a hoodie wasn't about your age, but because it doesn't show a clear shot of your face and hair.... they usually want clear shots of your head, and if you smile it improves the chances... as far as i've been told...

Happy Fishing!
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
about ex on the first date?
Posted: 10/4/2011 2:44:11 PM
ok, first of all, you really need to make your question more clear.... to answer what i think the question is, i will say, most girls looking for a relationship, want to know what happened in past relationships... did you break up because something YOU did, like cheat, or couldn't commit..... I don't think if you change the subject they'll think it was because of you, most guys don't want to know and don't care about what other guys you've gone out with... when you send a message look below, it shows the kinds of subjects guys like talking about, so keep that in mind.....



Happy Fishing!
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Which of the following would put you off the most?
Posted: 8/27/2011 1:07:27 PM
i have an order for all of those:

1) someone only after that "one thing"
2) Someone always talking about themselves
3) Someone who is always better
4) the nicey nice person
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
THERE ARE WORSE THINGS IN LIFE THAN BEING SINGLE...
Posted: 8/27/2011 1:01:51 PM
of course there are worse things then being single.... but sometimes finding someone to even get to know is hard enough! I've been on here for a looooooooong time and still haven't found who i'm looking for, or i have, and they haven't given me the time.... their loss, but in the mean time, waiting is frustrating!
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Texting and then GONE!
Posted: 8/27/2011 12:58:56 PM
well, it's either what you said, and so they don't want to bother with you anymore, or they're just head cases and need some serious help!
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 171 (view)
 
Is alot of make-up sexy or the natural look better,what do all of you think?????
Posted: 8/27/2011 12:53:11 PM
i personally think it all depends on where you are going... normally less is more, and more makes you look like a hooker, so if it looks like you don't have any on, but accentuates your features, then good for you... if you want to look glamourous and make an impression, sometimes more is good, but don't put so much on that it looks like you put your make up on with a spatula!
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 128 (view)
 
mature women with lust based profiles
Posted: 7/19/2011 6:18:19 PM
i find those women are just looking for "play toys"... as in you guys! they're looking for a guy they can play with and who will (in their mind) take them to the moon and make their head spin with pleasure... whatever... i try to be myself and just need to do a bit more work to weed through the bad ones
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 197 (view)
 
can a guy 30 or older get away with wearing a hat backwards?
Posted: 7/17/2011 9:59:08 PM
sweetie, i think if a guy wears a hat backwards they look hot! i don't know maybe it's just a weird fettish of mine but i love it when a guy wears one backwards


happy fishing
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
girls who say yes to wanting kids, guys say no
Posted: 7/17/2011 9:56:44 PM
hey try to find a guy who has already had kids but doesn't want anymore and doesn't live with their kids 24/7! i don't personally want kids because i don't have the energy to chase them around and keep up with them, and don't worry about finding someneo who doesn't want kids at our age, try to find any guy who wants a chick with no legs and kidney failure... if that in any way makes you feel better... toodles and happy fishing
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 840 (view)
 
what is everyones opin on tattoos?
Posted: 12/6/2009 11:01:21 PM
hey, in my opinion, i LOVE tats! I have one my tat is NOT a cutsie one, i have 2 scorpions on my lower back, because i'm a scorpio... anyways, to each his ownm

Oh and I'm NOT dumb, I have a good job, and a strong education
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Anyone else here not planning to have kids?
Posted: 10/14/2009 8:47:28 PM
i don't want to 'breed' either, mostly because i'm just not into kids. And i don't want to pay for them, feed them, take them on vacations, watch the teletubbies! Or listen to their backtalk, change diapers etc! now don't get me wrong here, i don't mind if someone has a kid, i just don't want any of my own
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How Do Women Feel About Men and Their Safety?
Posted: 10/2/2009 11:09:15 PM
i thought it was a good question.. ok, here is my point of view... i would like a guy to stick up for me, but not start fights. And i would appreciate if he took my point of view into consideration. just me i guess
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
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Should I refrain from complimening a woman's appearance in a first message?
Posted: 9/25/2009 7:24:16 PM
from someone who doesn't get many compliments, don't ever stop, it's nice to hear compliments.
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
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male virgins viewed as weak?
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:08:41 PM
i was overlooked for a long time by guys during gradeschool and high school, but most women, at least me, would like a guy who knows what to do, come the occasion. i don't see it as a weakness, in fact you see it as someone who admires the sanctity of marriage and waiting for the right person. Don't worry what other people think, only care about what is important to YOU
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Does my handicap affect how they think of me?
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:00:55 PM
i know all about it. let the conversation happen naturally. let her like you first then tell her about your disability. trust me, people see my prosthetics and sometimes just pass me by. people judge first by your photos so let her be entriced by your personality, then she can't resist but to get to know you better! and anyone who can't accept you for what you have to offer, then they aren't worth the time. happy fishing
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Does my handicap affect how they think of me?
Posted: 9/22/2009 4:55:45 PM
i know all about it. let the conversation happen naturally. let her like you first then tell her about your disability. trust me, people see my prosthetics and sometimes just pass me by. people judge first by your photos so let her be entriced by your personality, then she can't resist but to get to know you better! happy fishing
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How to respond to a profile with no information about a person?
Posted: 9/15/2009 8:50:02 AM
not everyone is good with their words. if you are interested start the questioning. as where the person was born, what kind of music do they like. basically if you like their picture, or vice versa, ask questions that respond to YOUR desires. maybe they just aren't good with words, and at the very least accept the compliment!
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
What does it mean when a women says she occasionally smokes?
Posted: 9/14/2009 6:21:45 PM
i quit over 2 years ago, but if i have a drink, i like a smoke... so no it doesn't apply only to people who like one while drinking
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
taking her to pub/restaurant
Posted: 9/10/2009 6:35:32 PM
i say ask HER. See if there is anywhere she would like to go. and tell her you don't want to be around a bunch of drunks... somewhere nice that is not too expensive and where you can both talk and get to know each other. that's my answer
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Do women want to have kids after 33-35ish?
Posted: 9/6/2009 8:37:11 PM
i never wanted children since i was like 10 years old.. i don't have the energy to properly raise a child, so i just spoil my nieces .., it works
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
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A question about style of dress....
Posted: 8/22/2009 7:01:19 PM
i like all sorts of clothes, and if a guy has a funny shirt i think it says a lot about his personality... especially his sense of humour. i like a guy who is playful, funny, and can be playful and who can just have fun with life!!!
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
When should I tell someone about a handicap?
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:16:12 PM
Hey, i'm trying to figure out the same thing... mine isn't visible though, but unfortunately i have yet to find the right formula for breaking it to someone that i have some health issues. It really depends on the person, they are either accepting and truely "open minded" like they say on their profile, or they are ignorant and scared of the unknown and will run like a coward at the first sign of a flaw. You are beautiful and i'm sure you are beautiful inside. People with disabilities learn to appreciate the little things more i find. But to answer your question, since your handicap is visible, i would make it known fairly early, maybe not post a picture of you in your wheelchair, but before you meet the person face to face.
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
his ankle
Posted: 3/22/2008 4:28:16 PM
i like some jewelry on a man, but even the simplest of pieces can look wrong on some guys. If it is the only thing you can focus on, like some huge bling bling.. then it's not cool... if it accentuates him, then great.
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 35 (view)
 
How A Guy Dresses?
Posted: 3/22/2008 4:20:18 PM
Depending on the restaurant

I would hope the guy would dress accordingly, and the way he dresses to go out to dinner with me reflects his respect for me.. if he makes the effort to look good.. that's nice

so.. casual.. jeans and a clean shirt
Mid-road fancy.. dress shirt and pressed slacks
fancy: dress shirt, dressy pants (in the summer chinos are pretty sexy), and even a tie

2) night club... jeans, nice shirt with a colar, or even rugby style shirt
3) cinema or lets go one further.. rented movie at home.. comfort, as long as the clothes are clean and not what he wore to work.

I like a guy who pays attention to his fashion, but not obsessed with it.. a guy can be sexy if he's Metrosexual, or even just jeans a flannel shirt and workboots.. rrrrraooowwwwrrrr

The turn off is when a guy looks sloppy and frumpy. My ex couldn't even dress up for a wedding..
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Just Curious
Posted: 3/22/2008 11:30:38 AM
What alien dead weight did you date? It's the creative guy who attracts any girl i know... what turns me off and why i'm still looking is i can't seem to find that guy who can think outside the box... (other than the guy who wants to replicate a porn movie)... even then... get an idea of your own.
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Just Curious
Posted: 3/22/2008 10:53:58 AM
I'm not really understanding the question, but I think you need to define creative. I think i'm creative with food, with radom acts of kindness, romance and spicing things up.. and i'm looking for someone who is equally as creative. My ex was extremely uncreative, bordering on boring. I had to give him the ideas on how to be romantic, and he was very VANILLA.. It turned out to be discouraging after a while.. wasn't that he didn't like my creative side.. he just didn't care if i was creative or ordinary.
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Confident But Ugly Men
Posted: 3/22/2008 10:32:03 AM
No matter what a person says... maybe you don't have to be a model, but if you don't have some kind of physical attraction the relationship it will never get past the friendship stage. JMO

And what's wrong with having more friends? That sounds really self-centred that if you don't meet the love of your life there is no room for someone you enjoy talking to? I never understood that on here. If you don't have room for more friends.. how can you have room in your life for a relationship?
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
How honest is too honest?
Posted: 3/22/2008 10:12:32 AM
It's easy to say that if the girl can't handle the whole you.. she's not worth it, but it's different when you are the one being shunned for a condition you can't conrol. I have Kidney failure and the ignorance is defening on this site. Guys who want to talk with a real woman, then don't even read your message and delete you after reading your profile.

I've tried both approaches, putting it on my profile and not disclosing it and watiting until the person gets to know me. Personally I think not disclosing it makes the rejection worse. The question should be, how to properly word it so people understand that you work your illness into your life, not your life around your illness. When my friends find out about my illness they are shocked to know because I don't show it.

As for appologizing for making someone cry.. to me it only shows your sensitive side. I too don't like making someone cry from a compliment or a voice of reason. I don't like anyone hurting.. even if it is a happy tear, i just want to make a point... don't change.. accept who you are.
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
ex is back... friends?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:41:50 PM
Sorry, i agree with the answer above me.. I don't have her side of it, but simply from what you said, i'd say that she doesn't see you as good enough to go out with, but she likes how you treat her so she's having her cake and eating it too. she's holding onto you as her "security blanket". her fall-back on.. but hey.. like i said, i don't know her, so i cold be wrong.
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
How To Find Out About Sexual Preferences?
Posted: 2/1/2008 3:10:51 PM
The point is that you ARE looking for sex... a long term relationship is all about compromise as well as compatibility. If you love someone, you make your differences work, and if you truely love someone you feel not only comfortable to discuss fantasies and needs, but also to explore them... Basically what you are saying is that you could care less who you end up with as long as they can satisfy YOU... relationships are about give and take and finding that perfect balance.... not just being with the one you can live with, but the person you can't live without. When you find someone, you will want to please that person, not EXPECT them to be able to keep up with you.

I post this response as MY opinion, MY experience and MY thought for you to do what you will with them
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Why say make me laugh, entertain me, etc.
Posted: 12/10/2007 5:32:50 PM
So, are you saying that the romance dies after you hook up? Are you saying that people are only entertaining and fun if they are in the beginning of a relationship?

I continuously enjoy pleasing my man, but i do it because i want to, not because i have to. I'm happy if i can make him smile.. even if it's something small like a call in the middle of the day for no reason, or an elaborate dinner and movie, or something as simple as grabbing a beavertail on the canal...
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Do any WOMEN over 30 like house/techno/jungle/etc?
Posted: 10/31/2007 1:41:47 PM
It depends on my mood. I like just about ANY kind of music. From Top 40's to Acid Rock, and yes, even house/techno/jungle/etc...
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Do any WOMEN over 30 like house/techno/jungle/etc?
Posted: 10/31/2007 1:41:39 PM
It depends on my mood. I like just about ANY kind of music. From Top 40's to Acid Rock, and yes, even house/techno/jungle/etc...
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Lack of respect for chosen categories
Posted: 10/31/2007 1:39:36 PM
Get used to it... it's a recurring trend.. i find most guys DO want to find Ms Right, but if they don't see you as Ms Right, you are seen as Ms Right Now... I even talked to a younger guy who wanted me to teach him to be a good lover and boyfriend so he'd be ready when the real thing came along. Unfortunately when it's free.. you are fishing in the shallow end of the Gene pool
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
When is the best time to disclose.... ?
Posted: 10/1/2007 9:41:37 AM
realityhastoofewoptions... sometimes it doesn't even get to a date.. and the last one was after the first date...
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
When is the best time to disclose.... ?
Posted: 9/29/2007 7:28:10 PM
yah.. not really understanding what you just said.. but ok...
 ticka
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
When is the best time to disclose.... ?
Posted: 9/29/2007 2:52:51 PM
^^^^^^^^^^ just to add... the worst part is that I would have been fine as friends.. and I actually miss him.. we got along well.. and had a lot in common
 
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