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 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 26 (view)
 
DIabetes and dating
Posted: 12/27/2018 8:31:00 PM
Diabetics giving themselves injections doesn't bother me. Now pulling out a bag of heroin or a crack pipe....that WOULD be a problem.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Looking to date thin petite cute sweet women in Kamloops
Posted: 12/27/2018 8:23:00 PM
I guess I should go for the 80 year old who wants to take me out on a date, because to him, I'm a much younger woman?
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 130 (view)
 
No kids,never married, what kinda midlife crisis they go through?
Posted: 10/24/2018 8:55:58 PM
Anyone can have a mid-life crisis....it's not about not having kids, or never being married. It's about where one has been, and if one will ever get to where they (think) they ought to be. As for Meramec's comment on no one will hire a white male American over 40......that's true. But it's also true for mostly ANY American over age 40....one need not be white or male. I actually have great empathy for white males in a jobless situation, simply because they, for the most part, aren't accustomed to being treated like "second class citizens", and it can be a rather painful, eye-opening experience. Minorities and women on the other hand (well, I'm a "three-fer": black, female, over 40) -- we are accustomed to it, and have to keep on rolling.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 225 (view)
 
What's the Worst Date You Ever Had ?
Posted: 10/15/2018 7:07:50 PM
I had almost forgotten about the man whom I met for coffee at Starbucks. He pulled a pair of size 0 jeans out of his backpack and was waving them around, loudly proclaiming that I "could never fit into those." He was right.....I haven't weighed 75 pounds in over 50 years....nor do I want to.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 202 (view)
 
Who Is Too Young or Too Old for You to Date?
Posted: 10/15/2018 7:05:02 PM
You are correct, New Yorker...partially. My daughter is 41 and has some gray hair (her father's side grays early). But she has a "baby face", so most people guess her to be late 20's or early 30's.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Older gentleman with kids
Posted: 10/7/2018 7:49:10 AM
Maybe we couldn't go out dancing together, but there's always "cuddle time."
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 23 (view)
 
is it normal if he wants to meet you once a week?
Posted: 10/2/2018 8:40:00 PM
I was in a long distance relationship where we only saw each other once a week -- and that relationship lasted for three years. He had obligations in his hometown, and I had obligations in my hometown. It worked for us for the time, but such a relationship doesn't work for everybody. He lived alone and so did I; and we were kind of used to having our own "space" during the week.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 277 (view)
 
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 9/26/2018 7:56:00 PM
Grover, if you don't have any luck, with your handsome self, the rest of the guys can give it up!
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Big killers of prospects once you're having regular involvement with someone
Posted: 9/21/2018 8:29:40 PM
Racism, sexism, homophobia, and poor hygiene.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 270 (view)
 
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 9/21/2018 8:28:02 PM
Please.....NO "WIFE BEATER UNDERSHIRTS." No photos of drinking beer while wearing the wife beater undershirt. No baseball caps to hide the receding hairline. Many of us ladies really don't care about that....what we care about is you hiding things that should be shown, and showing things that should remain hidden.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 257 (view)
 
'Younger' older women. Why?
Posted: 9/21/2018 8:22:43 PM
Growing up in an African American household, we were taught to never put water on our skin without moisturizing it afterward. Cocoa butter, cold cream, baby oil, etc. I hated it as a child, but my grandmother said that when I was "old", I would thank her.

Now, I use coconut oil -- not the stuff bought at the cosmetic counter, but plain coconut oil that is used for cooking -- no chemicals no perfume scent. It's wonderful to shower and use the coconut oil. I wake up with nice, smooth, non-dry skin.

I have been using Queen Helene's Mint Julep Facial Mask since I was 15, and lavender toner on my face. And I use 50 SPF sunscreen, too. Those things seem to help.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Chronic Illness? A deal breaker or not?
Posted: 9/21/2018 8:12:21 PM
Moraima -- You are right on. A lovely lady I worked with in the past weighed about 100 pounds (maybe), and had an insulin pump implanted to control her diabetes. She (lives) a very active life, has been married for decades, retired from her career, and has children and grandchildren. Diabetes runs on both sides of her family, and none of her relatives are overweight.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Forum people
Posted: 9/21/2018 8:06:55 PM
I'm sorry that happened to you, Strawberry Jello. If we're lucky, we will all live to get beyond age 60, and our needs are really no different than those of people who are 40, or 50. Respect and companionship....that's not too much to ask at any age.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Living at home.
Posted: 9/16/2018 6:25:22 PM
We must clone this man.....right now! What a catch he is for the right woman!
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 244 (view)
 
'Younger' older women. Why?
Posted: 9/16/2018 6:18:24 PM
I work part time at a prison, and I cannot believe how haggard some of the youngsters who were born in the late 1980's and early 1990's look. As another poster said, a lot of it comes from drugs, drinking, and poor nutrition. And it's a shame....so many pretty girls all messed up. A lady came in as an inmate who is my age. Used to play with her and her sister when I was in the 6th grade. If I hadn't recognized her name, I would not have recognized her. It was sad; her mom was gorgeous.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Forum people
Posted: 9/15/2018 6:48:15 PM
I think that people are just mean in general, but when you find good, decent people, it's like winning the lottery. And those people are everywhere; they're just more difficult to spot.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Chronic Illness? A deal breaker or not?
Posted: 9/15/2018 6:42:25 PM
I agree, Sienna. Let HIV+ folks date those who are also HIV+. This is not a judgment on them, it's just that it would not be my dating choice. What is really said is that innocent babies can be born HIV+ through no fault of their own, and have to live with that diagnosis for a life time.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Chronic Illness? A deal breaker or not?
Posted: 9/7/2018 10:57:24 PM
I agree with cooldog.....I could not deal with a partner who had drug or alcohol addictions or mental illness. I was in a marriage where the mother in law was schizophrenic, and God bless my dearly departed father in law -- how he dealt with that for 50 years while working full time and raising four sons.....just no. And I worked part time in direct care MH for 14 years.....that eventually burned me out, and that was only two nights a week.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Older gentleman with kids
Posted: 9/7/2018 10:48:16 PM
Some older men are actually raising grandchildren. I like kids, and I think I would date a good man who was raising a grandchild, since I don't have any grandchildren.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 367 (view)
 
DATING OVER 60
Posted: 7/17/2018 10:36:53 PM
Some older men DO play games. I have no time for that....
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 136 (view)
 
Who Is Too Young or Too Old for You to Date?
Posted: 7/4/2018 6:18:28 PM
If I could have changed their diaper, or my daughter says they are "too young" for her....then they are way, way too young for me. On the other hand, an 80 year old asked me out, and I kindly said "no." Can't do that, either.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 28 (view)
 
School re-unions as a dating plaform - are they?
Posted: 6/29/2018 1:05:42 AM
I didn't recognize many of the people at my 45th high school reunion (especially the guys) ....although they ALL recognized me. My high school was only 8% (maybe less) African American, so we stuck out like the proverbial "sore thumb."
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 258 (view)
 
Older men's expectations
Posted: 6/21/2018 7:13:24 PM
No, fullmoon. All of this did not happen on day one.....these things started after we had been together for a year....and the behavior escalated.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Mirror, mirror on the wall...
Posted: 6/7/2018 8:21:29 PM
I see someone who has lived life with all it's joys and adversities, who wanted to be taller....but it is what it is. And if I'm not "happy" with what I see at this late date.....oh, well.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 85 (view)
 
You know you are getting OLD when...
Posted: 6/7/2018 8:06:50 PM
It's 10:00 pm and in your younger days, you were just waking up to go out......but now, you're making a mad dash to go "beddy-bye."
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 43 (view)
 
The feminist man-hating agenda undertone is most women's profiles
Posted: 5/21/2018 7:02:23 PM
Excellent replies, Qura!
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Who Is Too Young or Too Old for You to Date?
Posted: 3/9/2018 9:05:32 PM
If he was young enough that I could have changed his diapers or babysat him -- too young.
If he is old enough that he could have changed my diapers or babysat me -- too old.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 22 (view)
 
OVER 60 SCAMMER?????
Posted: 3/9/2018 9:00:59 PM
Haven't heard from the scammer......just as I suspected.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Long-Timers Who Live On the Forums
Posted: 1/30/2018 6:53:53 PM
Hi Blonde Angel! Great seeing you! How goes it?
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 260 (view)
 
How horrible are you?
Posted: 1/24/2018 3:46:29 AM
Men in Pennsylvania aren't much better. Now, that's not all men, of course. And the younger ones who say they, "love older women".....well I tell them to just go give your mom or your grandmother a big hug.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 97 (view)
 
Older men's expectations
Posted: 1/24/2018 3:42:38 AM
Dated a quiet one once and he was crazy. Quiet, polite, "gentlemanly" to all outward appearances, and "gaslighting" me in private. Did crazy things like hack into my computer and sent porn to everyone on my email list. Took meat out of my freezer and "hid" it in the apartment, and I had a hell of a time trying to find out where the horrible stench was coming from. Accused me of changing clothes in the middle of the day because at lunchtime I was out having sex with other men -- but get this....we worked in the same complex -- I had a parking space -- he didn't. So I let him use mine, and we drove to work together -- but he swore he saw my car in the area. One night, my "inside kitty cat" was downstairs (I lived in a 2nd floor apartment), crying to get inside -- after I arrived home from an evening out with my daughter. He said the cat jumped off the 2nd floor balcony -- the cat who would not even go out on the balcony unless she was in her carrier. I think his family (who lived on the other side of the state) knew he was crazy, too, because in 20 years (at that time), they had never been to his house because they said it was "too far" to drive. Yet they literally drove past our city on their way to visit other family in New York and South Carolina.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 306 (view)
 
What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???
Posted: 1/23/2018 7:06:07 PM
If he has worked all his life, and she has worked all her life....when it's time to draw Social Security....married couples get cheated royally. I know a couple in their 80's "living in sin" with much consternation by their adult children. But when they showed me how, if they were married, they would lose income, I understood. They've bee together for 15 years, and are as "married in spirit" as any "legally" married couple. So, I get it.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Never been married suddenly at 50 you wanna marry someone REALLY
Posted: 1/23/2018 7:01:11 PM
There could be perfectly "legitimate" and not so "legitimate" reasons someone hasn't been married. Both genders get this "sudden urge." I had several men tell me outright that they wanted to get married to have a stable home, and good health insurance. I laughed. At least they were honest.
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 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 34 (view)
 
smothering/clingy man
Posted: 1/22/2018 6:18:02 PM
If Mr. "Clingyman" is very into politics, why not have him contact the local club of his political affiliation? There he would meet "like-minded" folks, and maybe even become active in local politics by volunteering on a campaign. That would take up a lot of his time.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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OVER 60 SCAMMER?????
Posted: 1/22/2018 6:14:50 PM
I was emailing someone who contacted me from another site, who said he was 60 years old, and an airline pilot. Said he was of "Italian" descent, but gave me a German last name. The "kicker" was that after several days, he contacted me and said that he had to fly to "Sidney" Australia. Except, it's "Sydney", and one would think that if he had flown for 30 years, as he stated, he would have spelled the city's name correctly. His entire "story" sounds suspect to me. Any thoughts?
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 22 (view)
 
My Cats are C*ck-Blocking Me
Posted: 1/10/2018 8:29:47 PM
I agree....there are "normal" ladies who love cats. Find one.

I'd love to date a man who had cats. Tells me something "good" about his character.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Older men's expectations
Posted: 1/10/2018 8:26:42 PM
Yes...crazy requests for all manner of things.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 176 (view)
 
Weird questions
Posted: 11/25/2017 9:00:03 AM
Ohenryx -- Actually, there is a database that costs less than $50.00 a year that anyone can subscribe to and get almost any information on a person. And you can cross reference that info with other databases, and come up with almost everything about a person except what they ate for breakfast that morning.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 184 (view)
 
DATING OVER 60
Posted: 11/25/2017 8:53:20 AM
It's a headache....too many mean, unhappy people who want to take their wrath out on their dates. I'm not the one.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 81 (view)
 
DATING OVER 60
Posted: 11/9/2017 7:54:03 PM
Some very interesting men have contacted me....but they live too far away. Boo...Hiss...
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 91 (view)
 
Men Over 70
Posted: 10/22/2017 7:59:43 PM
I am with you Newyorker 58. I get tested every year, even though I have had no sexual partners. I figure that if a man does not care about his own sexual health, he certainly will not give a damn about mine.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 163 (view)
 
Weird questions
Posted: 10/22/2017 7:53:38 PM
I get this from white men: "Are all black men's penises huge?" I always answer, "I don't know, because I've never inspected all black (or white) men from the waist down." I am actually more interested in what they have going on from the neck up.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 432 (view)
 
Smoke this
Posted: 9/28/2017 8:46:58 PM
"Quality of Life" as opposed to "Quantity of Life."
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Article about when seniors should get married
Posted: 9/22/2017 9:01:04 PM
Why marry? I don't see the benefit in it.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 251 (view)
 
Why do older Men think like they are teenagers. Wanting to know about Sex first?
Posted: 9/17/2017 8:03:28 PM
Browneyes boo: Your comments were perfect. I couldn't have said it better.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Men Over 70
Posted: 8/13/2017 8:43:53 PM
Yeah....what's that "lets go to bed TODAY thing" about? I think that before people sleep together they should be tested for STD's...just saying. My thought is, if you don't care about your own sexual health, you couldn't possibly care about mine.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 243 (view)
 
Do you hide your political affiliation on dates?
Posted: 8/13/2017 8:34:31 PM
Agreed that we do not do enough for our veterans, but I am not blaming "illegals." Veterans have been getting the short end of the stick for years. Our leaders talk a good game about how we honor our enlisted men and women, but where the rubber meets the road.....lots of road....little rubber.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 42 (view)
 
DATING OVER 60
Posted: 8/13/2017 8:30:57 PM
At least some of you are meeting people....I meet no one......
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Sleeping habits/needs
Posted: 8/13/2017 8:29:50 PM
There could many reasons he sleeps as he does...or it could be quite "normal" for him. A medical evaluation is the only way to know precisely what is going on.
 blacklady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 344 (view)
 
Use it or lose it
Posted: 8/13/2017 8:25:37 PM
Yes. Keep it moving.
 
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