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 Author Thread: what would you do? Moral compass question...
 lifesshort03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 37 (view)
 
what would you do? Moral compass question...
Posted: 1/8/2012 4:04:31 PM
According to the CDC, people can get Genital Herpes from either the HSV 1 or HSV 2 virus. However, getting Oral Herpes from the HSV 2 strain is rare.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/STDFact-herpes.htm
 lifesshort03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
what would you do? Moral compass question...
Posted: 1/8/2012 12:01:52 PM
I'm a little confused by your use of the term "victim"? You were going to have sexual relations with a person that had an STD and she told you prior to having sexual relations that she had an STD? Where were you almost victimized? It wasn't like you were in a wrong place at the wrong time situation. And what do you mean by upfront? When do you feel that a person needs to disclose such a condition?

Sorry, but personally, I think there's a little misplaced anger here. There is an appropriate time to disclose and discuss such things and they're not in a personals ad or on a first or second date. If a dating situation gets to the point where intimacy is a possibility, then that's the time to have those candid discussions. I have a feeling that window was missed here. Of course, you could also insist in your personals ad that a potential mate be disease free.

Just my 2 cents........
 lifesshort03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Old pictures ...
Posted: 9/6/2011 9:31:20 PM
If the photo in question is depicting a young attractive lady wearing leg warmers and standing next to a Ford Pinto, I'm guessing she's not now.
 lifesshort03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Too Many People in one Picture
Posted: 9/5/2011 9:29:49 PM
Maybe for the sake of brevity and bandwidth, they declined writing individual profiles and lumped themselves into one generic profile?
 lifesshort03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
How long should I wait to date?
Posted: 9/5/2011 3:19:14 PM
Ultimately you're the only one who can answer the question, although 3 weeks is way too early considering the length of the relationship you were in. Who ended the relationship? If you did, you probably will need less time to jump back in since you probably had emotionally detached from the relationship well before physically leaving. If it was mutual, or she ended it, it will probably take more time to heal before jumping into the dating scene.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
OKLAHOMA SAYS GET OUT TO ILLEGAL ALIENS!!!
Posted: 3/12/2008 6:32:49 PM
Bethany,
Yes, am quite aware of that fact having worked with several tribes while with the National Park Service. The comment was made with a tinge of sarcasm about their land, not their extermination.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
OKLAHOMA SAYS GET OUT TO ILLEGAL ALIENS!!!
Posted: 3/11/2008 8:19:29 PM
"Wow! What a topic!

History certainly repeats itself sometimes....some of these sentiments must have been the same the Aborignal Peoples felt when thier lands were being invaded by those Illegal Aliens about 500 years ago.

Amazing...."

The aboriginals are now being very well compensated for the theft of their land. They built casinos to take the invaders paycheck.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
US marine and Puppy outrage.....
Posted: 3/7/2008 6:20:33 PM
"I wonder how many puppies Colonel Tibbets killed in Hiroshima when his bomb stopped the war and saved millions of human lives? In war there are no morals. That's why we call it war. "

Colonel Tibbets was conducting an act of war. He was given an order by a superior, to fly a B-29 to deliver a bomb on a Japanese target and drop it. He performed his duty as expected and conducted himself like the serviceman he was.

This Marine was walking along, picked up a puppy by the scruff of his neck, asked one of his fellow soldiers to watch what he was about to do, and tossed it over a cliff. When another Marine commented about the act, he responded "I don't care." Correct me if I am wrong here, but I don't believe he was given an order by a superior officer to perform this act. I don't believe this was anything he learned in Basic Training. I don't believe this dog was part of any insurgency. I don't believe this dog had a bomb strapped to it's waist. I don't believe he did this in order to protect himself or his fellow Marines. I don't believe this Marine saved any lives, human or animal, by tossing this puppy over a cliff?

In short, this Marines actions had nothing to do with war.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 83 (view)
 
single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/6/2008 9:40:39 PM
Christ, I'm 44 and live alone with a dog that thinks it's human. I'll probably be hanging from the shower curtain by morning.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
US marine and Puppy outrage.....
Posted: 3/5/2008 8:18:35 PM
"I agree but we must remember this is a travesty and war is ugly!!

This war is nothing more than an OIL GRAB and as far as I am concerned our men are protecting corporate interest not mine!!

You don't invade a sovereign nation and start building military bases unless you intend to stay awhile....Sad!! A nation that had absolutely nothing to do with what happened on 911 either. No WMD, no al’queda until we arrived…..Sad!

Building an Empire while destroying our nation from within.....Ugly business we are involved in and it will only get worse for us and them!

They will even tell you this if asked......I served 6 years in the armed forces, I know whom protects whom or what."

I though the topic was about the U. S. Marine who tossed a puppy over a cliff and the concern over it. Not about WMD's and Oil Grabs and al'queda and destroying empires. I believe these topics have been covered in other threads. You might want to find one and post in there.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
US marine and Puppy outrage.....
Posted: 3/5/2008 7:20:16 PM
"What concerns me about the video is that people seem more concerned about the death of this one puppy while forgetting the many innocent children that have died at the hands of these military men."

People are not concerned that this puppy died. People are concerned at the way in which this puppy was killed, the person responsible for it, and the reaction of the perpetrator after doing so. And if a Marine were simply to toss an innocent child over a cliff in much the same way and proclaim he did not care, people would not only be concerned, they would be outraged.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
First meeting behavior
Posted: 1/11/2008 7:59:17 PM
A quick knee thrust to the package would probably get his hands off you and respect your boundaries.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Man Cuts off and Microwaves Hand...
Posted: 1/11/2008 7:55:00 PM
There was a very similar incident 4-5 years ago here in So Cal where a man did the same thing for the same reason..............except he didn't nuke his hand.

When he was rushed to the hospital, administrators needed a signature in order to perform surgery to re-attach it(not sure if it was his writing hand or not). He refused. The hospital then called a judge and asked what to do. The judge said that if he didn't want his hand re-attached, don't re-attach it.

Well, you know what happen next. Not sure what ever became of the case.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 89 (view)
 
Speaking Intelligently on the Matter of the SF Zoo Killing
Posted: 1/7/2008 8:08:37 PM
COTTONblossom,
Would enj0y seeing how ignorant I really am.......but the link you so conveniently provided doesn't exist.

You were saying?
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Speaking Intelligently on the Matter of the SF Zoo Killing
Posted: 1/6/2008 5:11:50 PM
Orangeblossom,
So it was mismanagement at the zoo that compelled the tiger to jump the enclosure? Gee, thanks for clearing that up.

As for the vodka bottle, the following is a quote reported by AP.
"Meanwhile, police spokesman Sgt. Steve Mannina said Wednesday that investigators found an empty vodka bottle on the front seat of the car the trio drove to the zoo, which would be a violation of California's open container laws,"http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=%2Fn%2Fa%2F2007%2F12%2F30%2Fstate%2Fn091309S35.DTL

Are there any other facts you want me to verify for you?
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Speaking Intelligently on the Matter of the SF Zoo Killing
Posted: 1/6/2008 1:26:38 PM
"hacksalot03..When toxicology reports show the allegations being leveled against Carlos Sousa are released IF it proves Carlos Sousa was drinking..how does that become a FACT that he teased Tatiana?..because he was a young man that drank that day??"

Cottonblossom,
No, one does not explicitly imply the other. However, when people hit the corn squeezing's a little too hard, then they tend to do things they would not otherwise do. They are not with all their faculties. Otherwise, they're be no point in running toxicology studies on dead people, requiring drug screens on prospective employees or when accidents happen, and why we have laws against drinking and driving and public intoxication. This would give more credibility to the argument that they were doing something that was not very smart, namely, teasing the tiger. Otherwise, why would it be reported that an empty vodka bottle was found in the car they went to the zoo in?
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Speaking Intelligently on the Matter of the SF Zoo Killing
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:23:12 PM
One thing that I'm staying tuned for is the toxicology reports on Mr. Sousa. They are probably another couple weeks away, but this would shed intense light on how much sympathy we ought to be giving him. If alcohol and/or drugs are found in his system, and I would be willing to bet a small sum of money they will, all the more proof that these 3 gentlemen are responsible for this entire incident and criminal charges brought against the brothers.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Vigil for...tiger at SF ZOO that killed a man.WTF?
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:58:25 AM
Sorry gang, gotta applaud the actions of the tiger here. The tiger was doing what a tiger normally does, and liquored up, stupid human beings were doing what liquored up, stupid human beings normally do. They played with fire and they got burned! Defective genetic material removed from gene pool. Score one for Darwin!

Then, these 2 MENSA brothers hire Mark Geragos, a slimy DEFENSE attorney to represent them? Why do they need to be defended? I thought THEY were the ones wronged here? What do they need to be defended from..........their incredibly stupid behavior? The fact that they decided that they would like to have a "predator-prey" type relationship with a wild animal? Gee, maybe it was part of a Biology experiment? Maybe they had high aspirations of becoming Animal Behaviorist? Maybe they saw an episode of "Mutual of Omahas Wild Kingdom". Would you not hire a Personal Injury attorney for this particular situation?????

If I were the zoo, I would be hiring an attorney to recover the fair market value of the tiger that they were responsible for having shot and killed at the hands of San Francisco's finest!
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Anybody here gone Speed Dating?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:37:17 PM
"Does this cost $ to go to? And where are these things normally held at (type of establishment)?"

To answer your questions, yes it cost. I paid $30.......if I remember correctly. Each time, it was held at a local bar. Was it fun..................not really.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 70 (view)
 
anti up the panties
Posted: 12/26/2007 8:06:10 AM
Don't we miss the good ole days when guys just asked for a phone number and a second date.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 119 (view)
 
asking to borrow money on first date
Posted: 12/24/2007 11:48:44 AM
I would have respectfully given her the money..................then told her about cousin Vinny and all the knees he's busted and a$$es he's capped because of unpaid debt..........allegedly.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Is it just me or was this odd?
Posted: 10/14/2007 8:58:53 PM
I'm thinking that if she plays her cards right, she'll score a bar of soap, deodorant, and mint toothpaste.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date?
Posted: 10/11/2007 8:39:25 PM
I used to. A couple weeks ago, I contacted a lady just to let her know she had a very beautiful smile. She proceeded to tear apart my profile.

So, no, I don't do it anymore and delete all e-mails. If I wanted to be berated, I would have stayed with the ex.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Bathroom Blunder.....'Manly' Lesbian sues for ejection
Posted: 10/10/2007 9:04:14 PM
Amusing anecdote #2:
When I worked for the National Park Service, the other person I lived with was a dyke. Hate to say it but she looked more like a man than I did, and had the hairiest legs to prove it, and on more than one occasion, she was called "sir." I also kid her that we had a brother sister relationship, just could not figure out who that brother was.

Honest mistake? You think the bouncer could have utilized that pile of mush between his ears and theorized that maybe this person wondered in from the Gay Pride Event down the street? Or maybe he just has this intense hatred of "Manly Lesbians." You would think he would establish that this person was indeed a man before going off at he/she/it and not jump to conclusions? Brilliant piece of detective work on his part.

Then again, I'm wondering if the woman who reported it to the bouncer has an intense hatred of "Manly Lesbians."
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
What Do I Say?
Posted: 10/10/2007 8:42:09 PM
Personally, would never put a lady on the spot like that at the end of a date and ask if they wanted to go out again. Usually let them sleep on it, and will e-mail them the next day and let them know I had a good time and if they would like to go out again, great. If not, no hard feelings.

With that said, I annoys me to no end when a lady says "yeah, had a great time, lets do it again," then you call and never hear from them again. Just be up front and let them know, I had a great time, but did not feel there was a connection.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Right wing smears a 12 year old.
Posted: 10/10/2007 8:30:45 PM
"Actually, it was covered in the Original Post. Bush wanted to cut the program that covered this boy."

Bush proposed increasing spending for SCHIP by 5 billion, a 20% increase, over 5 years. Congress gave him a bill for 35-50 billion increased funding over 5 years, which he vetoed.

So, would the boy have been cut from the program under Bush's proposed increases?
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Interesting Tidbits About Online dating
Posted: 10/10/2007 6:00:35 PM
Some other tidbits;
57% of men who post an online ad don't get a single e-mail, 23% of women.

Men who say they want a long term relationship do better than those that say they want an occasional lover. Women looking for an occasional lover do much better than those looking for a long term relationship.

For women, a man's income is of great importance. The higher his income, the more e-mails he receives. For men, a womans looks are most important (nothing shocking there).

And finally..................a headful of blonde hair on a woman is worth about the same as a college degree.

Taken from Freakonomics by Levitt and Dubner.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 10/9/2007 5:47:23 PM
"lots of people have dumped their landlines and use only a cell phone (i'm one of those people) so i don't think anything of it"

I'm another one. Why pay the money for something I never use.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 35 (view)
 
First time meeting - bad experience
Posted: 10/8/2007 7:50:44 PM
This guy is GENUS! OP'ie, how can you not keep a straight face? Christ, I wish all the ladies that have stood me up had his sense of humor!

The wonderful world of online dating.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Girl @ work...
Posted: 10/8/2007 7:21:15 PM
Last night I had this woman that told me if I got one step closer, she was going to mace me!

So..............do you think she likes me? I'm not sure how to read this? Do you think next time I should take that extra step?
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 42 (view)
 
where did the social skills go to?
Posted: 10/8/2007 7:08:02 PM
"Question fella POFers: Are you grumpier and do you cut people down more in the forum when you're not getting "it" regular?"

Yes, but I do it in a socially skillful way.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 40 (view)
 
where did the social skills go to?
Posted: 10/8/2007 5:59:20 PM
"After it's been up your bum!!! God no! I don't know what else has been up there ."

Was protection being used when it was placed up the bum?
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
My date told me he was nervous
Posted: 10/7/2007 7:17:48 PM
"you coulda put your hand on his junk.."

"That always relaxes me."

She might have enjoyed the company of the little fella.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Why do men copy/paste
Posted: 10/6/2007 5:19:06 PM
"Hi Chitown, I wish more guys were like you, willing to take the time to write a personal note."

I wish more women were like him too!
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
21.7 million pounds of beef recalled
Posted: 10/6/2007 2:00:07 PM
"Tainted meat, Foot & Mouth Disease, Avian flue, Mercury in fish... Are these not warning signs that "we're" doing something wrong?"

Actually, despite all these reports of outbreaks, were actually getting better at preventing and controlling these types of things. All this media reporting comes out of the fact that were better able to identify these outbreaks, where the point source is, and the nasty little critters responsible than 20-30 years ago.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Dem Ohio Legislater and porn.
Posted: 10/4/2007 6:07:29 PM
Cotter,
A million pardons! And I read the OP looking for it to.

My brain is mush!
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Dem Ohio Legislater and porn.
Posted: 10/3/2007 7:32:33 PM
Hate to say it but I can think of a lot of elected officials who's time would be better spent downloading porn than running this country.

I'm curious, the article did not mention what kind of a civics lesson it was.......censorship maybe? Legalizing prostitution?
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
A new type of dating site...
Posted: 10/2/2007 8:51:25 PM
"Maybe it would thin out the superficial population in here, lol..."

I think that would be the vast majority!
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Jena Six - Compaired to Emily Elizabeth Haddock
Posted: 10/2/2007 8:35:23 PM
"I think the possibility of serving 22 years for a fight at school was ridiculuous to begin with"

Ahem, sorry, but it wasn't a school yard fight. This was NOT a words were exchanged, fist drawn, and punches thrown. According to court testimony and eyewitness accounts, the victim was broadsided and knocked unconsciences while going to class and beaten and sat on while he lay there helpless. At no time was the victim able to defend himself. The beating was broken up by another student who stepped in to help.

Given the circumstances surrounding the attack, and Mychael Bell's criminal history, the charges were not necessarily out of line. Just because the appeals court threw out the conviction does not mean a higher court would not have reinstated it.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Ordering food
Posted: 10/2/2007 8:16:54 PM
I personally dig it when a lady orders my 49 cent value meal for me!
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Blatant references to sex in profiles
Posted: 10/2/2007 6:01:45 PM
It's been so long that I really don't remember what sex is...................so no, would not bother me at all.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Had a date today,he thought it was a great date i did not..
Posted: 10/1/2007 9:32:20 PM
"What become interessting with this thread then?It is all attacs on me for not wanting that man!"

Uh, no Op'ie. The attacks are for your ****ing about a situation you created. Your the one in the OP that said that we should read each other like animals. Did you think this guy was Cesar Millan?
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Other Dating Sites/ Scams ?
Posted: 9/30/2007 9:52:16 PM
"Can someone find my personal email address through POF? Tonight, I received an email--directly into my BULK email folder--from some guy who said he found my profile on POF. "

I have received several e-mails from ladies that claim to have gotten my e-mail addy from POF. They got it somewhere else and it directs me to another site. Total scam!
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Had a date today,he thought it was a great date I did not..
Posted: 9/30/2007 8:27:56 PM
Op, I'm curious, was he a nice guy? An interesting person? Was he humorous, good personality? Would the date have been any better if he was a jerk, but good looking?

First off, guys don't get hints like girls, so your gonna have to spell it out.

Secondly, I have gone out with ladies that I knew right away, they was not going to be a physical spark, but had great times with them anyway, and a couple I have become terrific friends with. I just look at online dating for what it is..........a way to meet people, nothing more, nothing less.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Patience........They will show their true self
Posted: 9/29/2007 7:19:43 AM
"I'm still trying to translate what she 'wrote'."

She said he's a gay face looser who doesn't like fat women. Come on.........isn't it obvious from reading his profile?
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Does a woman/man have the right to ask this of a potential partner?
Posted: 9/29/2007 7:11:47 AM
The ultimatum was "take down all the wedding pictures or I'll seize your country?"
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
The illusion of online dating
Posted: 9/27/2007 8:11:45 PM
"However, most of the men she likes most likely have 30 other women to meet as well."

I wish that were the case. Most of the guys I have talked to that have done the online dating gig are lucky if they get 30 women to even e-mail them telling them they are not interested. Most agreed that they get about 1 response per 25-30 contacts. And about 1 date per 100 they contact.

With that said, I agree with your assessment that we are probably forcing things here.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Does a woman/man have the right to ask this of a potential partner?
Posted: 9/26/2007 5:58:51 PM
"So it wouldn't bother you guys to be dating a woman who has pics of her ex husband on her wall or on display?"

It would if it was on the nightstand next to the bed!
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Does a woman/man have the right to ask this of a potential partner?
Posted: 9/26/2007 5:46:12 PM
OP, I am curious, is he divorced or widowed? Does he have any kids? Maybe the kids asked that they be displayed, if in fact this memorabilia is displayed. If he is widowed, it would not bother me that much. Maybe she was a great lady and is respecting her and her memory??? Maybe he and his ex are fantastic friends and have great respect for each other, they just can live together, hence why the stuff is up and/or saved??? It was a great time in his life and he wants to save the memorabilia. If that's the case, and this other woman can't live with that, then she needs to find another guy. Then again, maybe the stuff is up because he is not over his ex, in which case it does not matter if it's up or not, she needs to move on, it's not the right time for a relationship with this guy.

I 'm reserving judgment here till I hear more.
 hacksalot03
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Good grief ! my date turned out to be a tranny !
Posted: 9/23/2007 5:49:52 PM
And how exactly did you come to find that she was a he?
 
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