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 Author Thread: Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Hot Tub and the First Date - would you?
Posted: 6/9/2008 8:08:57 AM
tradurGurl said
" If a man suggestd that to me ont the first date -- it would definately give me the Wrong Idea!

Check Please!!!!"

This is exactly why I suggest this regularly. Right at the end of a very expensive meal.
As soon as the lady calls for the check I get up and leave.
I don't get very lucky, hardly any second dates, but I eat well.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Other people's kids in profile photos
Posted: 5/9/2008 12:41:50 PM
Hey OP, I would never flame anyone for the fact that I agree it creeps me out when I see pictures of women I have never met with my kids in their photos.
I just don't have an answer for it.

But hey, thanks for asking a guy!
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Pub Night - Ancaster - Saturday June 7- 9pm The Brassie Pub
Posted: 5/9/2008 12:34:31 PM
Is it near a bike path?
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Can We Afford The Bush Wars?
Posted: 7/19/2007 10:04:20 AM
Oh, America.

It seems that American greed knows no bounds. The rich will wage war to steal oil, the poor want to abandon all responsibility, and you clothe your avarice in ignorance.

Human greed has been a millstone wedged against progress since forever, but there is a particular intensity of it in America.

The invention of lies about how others view you (hero worship, envy, jealousy, fear and hate) feed the self satisfaction and justifications of your acts.

Where are the calls for Americas downfall? Where the “we should be like them’? In the imagination of the American media.

Even your obsessive attachment to religion reflects this greed. How many “pray and prosper” sermons have been heard?

The poor are ill lettered and worse fed, but buy into the myth that America is nirvana. They die at third world rates of a combination of third world diseases, environmental poisons, and marketed lifestyles, while refusing to question the conquest of their country by corporate terrorism.

The middle class feels itself under siege and retreats behind gated “communities”. Their intentional ignorance of the rest of the world fuels a smugness and complacency that buys the corporate agenda of their social superiors.

The “pursuit of happiness” is deemed the highest calling, and justifies the pillaging of the planet in the race to consume. Bigger and faster are unquestioned ideals. Now is not soon enough.

And to question the glorification of greed is traitorous. Enemies are everywhere, and only by giving up some freedom now can it be preserved for later. Questioning is weakness, only certainty is strength.

When will you wake up America, and see what you have wrought?
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Sprint Says Buh-Bye to 1000 High-Maintenance Customers
Posted: 7/10/2007 2:50:25 PM
My understanding is that 'Sprint' is a large supplier in the US. I understand they have a "sprint Canada' but I know no one with this service.

I think firing customers is always a good thing to do when those customers are chronically unprofitable.

I do not know that wireless system access is a human right covered by your US constitution. I was under the impression that the free market system has a somewhat holy status in the US. I am surprised people are complaining about an obvious action by a participant in the market.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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DOES SEX RUIN FRIENDSHIPS?
Posted: 7/10/2007 2:20:57 PM
Op has the question all wrong. But she has the answer right so it doesn't matter.

Does sex ruin a productive and collaborative work relationship? One that has become a good, even great, even the status of 'best'- friendship? Well duh yah!

But does it ruin a friendship? Apparently for some women. Many men on a public forum will agree with the feminine point of view. But they are just waiting to get laid.

Fact is sex does not ruin or harm anything for me.

Well it got dinner burned once, but that is another story.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Anyone drive to work naked
Posted: 7/10/2007 2:00:18 PM
Always. As a male stripper it is considered dressed for work.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Have we been here before? Just makes me vomit .
Posted: 6/28/2007 6:43:14 AM

America does business with Vietnam, Germany, and Japan (and many other former "enemies").

Why no anger there ?


Because the Op is British and sees some change of heart in his own governments attitude. This whole thing is business as usual. Arms are a big part of the British economy. It remains to be seen how much improvement Khaddafi has brought to Libya in the last few years.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Who Can Tell Me About Living in Hamilton?
Posted: 6/26/2007 9:39:56 AM
Another idea is to get cozy with an automobile insurer. There can be a BIG difference in the rates for different postal codes which reflect on the neighbourhood.

The north end west of James St is going through a great revitalization - prices are rising. Great place if you are going to get a boat. West of gage park and south of King has some great areas too. The mountain is over rated, boring and isolated.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Someone else massaging your neck feels better than doing it yourself. Why?
Posted: 6/25/2007 11:50:49 AM
OP, you almost ask too many questions for one thread.

I don't agree that these questions are "a bit on the metaphysical side" so it should stay in the relationship forums.

1) It is so much less satsfying when we do it ourselves because we get tired. Ever given one and got tired? Ever get one and say 'stop'?

2) It is sometimes more than a tactile sensation, in fact usually so. And the 'more' can involve many things.

3) What is the relationship between the physical act and the human contact? For the answer see your "it doesn't seem to matter whether it's a lover, friend, parent or sibling..." Notice how the relationship changes depending on who it is?

4) If a robot could convince me it was human then I would enjoy it as much. If I knew it was a robot I would not enjoy it as much, but I'd probably leave it on all the time.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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The right to hate
Posted: 6/22/2007 10:01:12 AM
I am curious how this thread morphed from a discussion of the misrepresentation made (for fundraising purposes) by some church leaders, into a discussion of which is better or worse at name calling, the left or the right.

The media is not always responsible or accurate when telling stories about hate crimes, or the legislation on it. We should go deeper, and look at the sources.


Bob#, a great detailed list of Limbaughisms. (except for Feminazi, that predates Rush by a bit) Just a question. Why do you listen to that twit?
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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ARE U A SCREAMER :devil:
Posted: 6/22/2007 9:44:49 AM
Hard to say, since I'm usually bound and gagged.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Canada's No-Fly List
Posted: 6/22/2007 9:40:51 AM

Regardless of the appeal process for being removed from the list in Canada the people erroneously identified won't have a process for being removed from the list as it was distributed to other countries...


So is this just pandering to the paranoia and fear of others?
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Is meeting more than one on the same day acceptable behavior?
Posted: 6/22/2007 9:32:02 AM
too funny godess.


go for it its only a date not a wedding


but if they bring their wedding planner, is it okay to head for the second one early?
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Yellow ribbon vote was unanimous
Posted: 6/21/2007 5:55:23 PM
Frankly I am sick and tired of the yellow ribbon/remembrance day/memorial day. unthinking and repetitive drivel. It consists of pc group think of the worst kind.

I particularly detest these emotional tugs, like

[i[It is the soldier, not the reporter, who has given us the freedom of the press. Wrong. It is our charter of rights in this country, upheld by our courts that give us this right.

It is the soldier, not the poet, who has given us freedom of speech. Wrong. It is our charter of rights, once again.

It is the soldier, not the agitator, who has given us the freedom to protest. Wrong. It is our charter of rights, once again.

It is the soldier who salutes the flag, serves beneath the flag, whose coffin is draped by the flag, who gives that protester the freedom to abuse and burn that flag Wrong. It is our charter of rights, once again.

I support the troop that have so long supported us!! Sigh. The troops do not support us. They serve us, or more properly, they serve as our government commands them.

We can get all romantic about our magnificent martial past all we want, but 'supporting our troops' is a meaningless term unless one says a little more. I for one am not prepared to be unquestioning about what we are doing militarily, and why we are doing it. Nor am I prepared to denigrate the deaths of so many lives claimed in war, by glorifying it.

If anyone thinks that less than this ra ra american uber patriotic madness is going to harm in any way our men and women overseas then they are unaware of the fine and comprehensive training our military is provided. Wearing or displaying a ribbon is in no way beneficial to our troops. Being opposed to these silly ribbons will not harm them.

The cold hard facts are that most recruits are in it for the adventure and the education. Soldiers fight in wars because they are ordered to. The reasons for war are political and venal. War is both sometimes necesary and always a failure.

I am proud of the calibre of our military, and proud of the lives they have saved. I feel sorry for any they face in battle. But I will not leave the purpose of their mission unquestioned. If that purpose does not serve Canadian values, and yes, Canadian interests, I will demand their withdrawl. I most certainly will not do them the disservice of slavish "support"
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Piracy vs Privacy
Posted: 6/21/2007 5:18:23 PM
Well put rubydave, with
[qute]I'm guilty too, but don't try to 'justify' it. Do you steal milk from the supermarket because, 'hey, I've bought lots of milk from here before'. ?
but that has what I was saying backwards.
I buy 'milk' to use your great analogy, precisely [i[because I have stolen it. After two decades of thirsting for 'milk', and the 'supermarket' selling me some now, we are both ahead. And the cow didn't have to do any extra work either.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Mac or PC
Posted: 6/21/2007 5:12:41 PM
Hey rubydave, you have made my point for me, as only a computer expert can.

I am only a user.

When I was using a windows box I called the help desk at my work at the same rate as every one else when it scre... I mean when I messed up.

Since I switched to apple, even an idiot like me can't make anything go wrong.

And I have had one crash in two years vs weekly.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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YOU KNOW YOUR GETTING OLD WHEN... fill in the blank
Posted: 6/21/2007 4:55:34 PM
I am sorry, but after 102 posts I don't remember the question.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Racing on the 400 401 427 and the other big Hyways
Posted: 6/21/2007 4:33:16 PM
Would I phone 911? If I had hands free.

Are fines stiff enough?
Its too easy to say yes, because we are all outraged and saddened by this, but I have no idea if that will help. While it may seem obvious to some that high fines reduce racing I worry that high fines only make officers use discretion if they don't think they can get a conviction for racing. Even speeding is hard to actually prove, and harder to prove when the fine is higher because people fight against both the fine and points harder when these are higher. So that might result in little prevention.

It is hard to fathom the torment that family members must be going through now.

Since it is usually young males that indulge in racing, I can only wish they would realize, that while they may be indestructible, their mothers heart is not.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Mac or PC
Posted: 6/21/2007 2:25:04 PM
What janet said needs repeating.



Once you go Mac, you never go back


Sorry OP but you are in tech support. Support for windows based pc's?

If the business world switched to mac they could probably cut their IT departments if half.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Piracy vs Privacy
Posted: 6/21/2007 2:19:56 PM
So where is the "privacy" to vs the "piracy?

Here I though I would find out about Billy Gates checking my computer to find an illegal copy of powerpoint or something.

I justify my 'piracy' (which I limit to mp3 music files) by the fact that I have bought more music since napster came out than in the previous 20 years.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 33 (view)
 
The elusive key exchange
Posted: 6/21/2007 1:15:44 PM
^^^^^^^^^^Because when we do it it is.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Hypothetical question
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:49:20 PM
Hypohetical answer.
Make sure you both don't feel this way precisely because you can. Just because of the improbability of it all working out you are free to let things go to that "I am on vacation" "summer holiday" place where the intensity is bolstered by the "liquid courage" of distance.
Hypothetically.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 49 (view)
 
how much do you women like a man with great sexual stamina?
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:45:23 PM
If there is a prize for "Best burn in a thread" I vote for my new hero, banjoboy or somethings.


thank you for the self promotion thread
I will forward your stamina stats to my mom
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Which is much worse?
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:41:15 PM
Jo I think your gonna get flamed and I don't wanna do that. I don't have to come close to agreeing with someone half my age to sympathize with the convoluted way that you are required to look at it. It looks amazingly sexist from my old heter guy point of view, but ehh, what do I know?
I am curious about your self described hypocrytical, though. What if you got involved with a bi guy from the get go, that evolves into a couple thing, and you caught him out? Would there be a difference then?
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Drug Makers/dealers
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:31:59 PM
Good catch rk####9

There is a great similarity to this story and the ones that were allegedly passed around at the turn of the century, that led to the "intifada" against that other "mexican", marijuhana.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Canada's No-Fly List
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:29:03 PM
You can spell it like that stuff that goes around the window and the server won't *********** it.

caulked. As in half.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Padded bras
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:39:38 PM
Understand this, and understand it now. No man is going to see one come off, and complain.

What we think, in general, is a matter of guess work for you. We will never tell the truth about this, not even in general.

I may say I hate padded but love the padee. You know, hate the sin but love the sinner, kind of thing.
But tell you the truth? About this?


Okay it is false advertising, but so what?
We are just happy to have the truth revealled. So to speak.
Just remember. The truth will set you free.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Being on the Defensive
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:16:25 PM
JUSTWHATTHEHELLAREYOU accussing me of???!!!
I am notdefensive.
I am not now nor have I EVER BEEN DEFENSIVE!!!!!!!!!

SHEESH.

nor do I over-react. See I can't even spell it.

Actually, as clear as your post is, I need specifics to comment, never mind answer.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
He looks nothing like his picture. Help!
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:06:50 PM
I don't get the problem.
Most women take a look at me and sight in relief.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Which is much worse?
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:04:47 PM
okay kiddo, for this you owe me a new, spit free, computer screen.
but I'm not turned on to see my man gettin rode!
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
question re: the male crotch grab
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:01:24 PM
It must be unconsious a lot of the time.

I am assuming this because I refuse to believe women are "signalling something" when they reach up, both arms simultaneously, with elbows extended at 180 degrees away from their body, and, pinky extended (no doubt to look more "lady-like"), pinch at the 5th rib, sometimes up, sometimes down, adjusting the bra.

If I see this once, I see is several dozen times a day. No doubt these women feel alone and unobserved (I fail to see how, walking on a street, or standing on a bus) but I refuse to see it as a signal that says anything other than 'MY TITS ARE UNCOMFORTABLE'.

With guys, it might be the same thing, only simpler.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/19/2007 12:51:18 PM
Hey charlie



When ever something like that surfaces, Health Canada has to jump all over it, yet again, to tell people it's BS.


Considering what a joke health care is in Canada, Health Canada is hardly a credible authority.


confuses me.

Are you saying drinking daily is good, or that its bad?

I realize that most people in Jersey know more about health care in Canada than the rest of the world (probably because Jersey is so close to the PR firms in New Yack that shill for big pharma), but Health Canada does tend to be pretty conservative it its pronouncements.

I think the poster was referring to Health Canada responding to disreputable sources claiming that health guidlines promote regular consumption of alcohol (which in fact they do not do).

But you tell us. Apparently you are the expert.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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secret ballot's
Posted: 6/19/2007 9:40:04 AM
Love the title. "Employee Free Choice Act of 2007,"
No doubt thought up by the same marketing firm that came up with "Patriot Act"
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 46 (view)
 
The cause of homeless-ness
Posted: 6/18/2007 7:26:27 PM
Homelessness is a problem everywhere, to a lesser or greater degree. Socialist countries like Sweeden have very little, mixed economies like India can't even count the extent of it accurately.

If you want a few facts with an interesting point of view read the new yorker article by Malcolm Gladwell at http://malcolmgladwell.com/2006/2006_02_13_a_murray.html
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Alternative physical activities
Posted: 6/18/2007 7:06:15 PM
I have a left hand a forearm like Popeye!
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
ratio?
Posted: 6/18/2007 6:55:20 PM
What is your ratio, would be a better question.


If I only included people under 40, the ratio was 2.8 to 1.
shows the difference between a total search and a narrow one.

Do a search where you look for both sexes, within a couple of years of your age. That is the only ratio that really matters (since most people end up with someone close to their own age).

This gives you a sex ratio, but remember, it says nothing about the quality, either of the "competition" or the "target audience".
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Is there such a thing as the Alpha Female?
Posted: 6/18/2007 6:29:56 PM
I beta there is.





oooh. bad pun. bad.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Canada's No-Fly List
Posted: 6/18/2007 6:21:14 PM
The Federal Government announced today a no fly list of about 1.000 names. Security and aviation experts are already poo-pooing it.

The list will be "dynamic", with a means of complaining if you are on it unfarily, but it will also be accessible to other nations, with no guarantee that your name can be removed from their list.

The list is "secret" so you don't find out you are on it until you try to board a plane.

There are reports that the U.S. list does not contain the names of some terrorists so they can be caught!

What do you think?
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Prior To The Universe
Posted: 6/17/2007 6:42:29 PM

what existed just one second before?


This seems like a logical question, but its really equivelant to asking "If you are standing on the north pole, which way is north?"
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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When to mention s*x in letters..?
Posted: 6/16/2007 5:10:26 AM
After you have had it.
Yup, definately hot to mention it in letters, after you have had it.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 133 (view)
 
Hottest Movie Scenes
Posted: 6/15/2007 3:04:20 PM
I dont want to go into details but it involved Olive Oil in the Popeye cartoons.....
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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~ BRAVO TO COPS!!!!!! ~
Posted: 6/13/2007 4:12:23 PM
This is good news, but....
How many will get out on bail? Most of them.
How many will show up for their court appearances? Not all of them.
How long before their trials? Too long.
How many will be picked up when they violate bail conditions? Not enough.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Fear & Anger/Hurt: Mans worst enemies
Posted: 6/13/2007 3:22:18 PM


Sad. That comment would make me consider changing it but hey, can't please everybody.

Aw, c'mon. You had to know that burn was going to come up sooner or later!
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Huge ego and too much pride, do they have any place in dating?
Posted: 6/13/2007 3:11:32 PM
Your Subject line asks if a huge ego and too much pride have any place in dating, and obviously they do not.

Huge egos make one selfish. Healthy egos do not. Too much pride is simply that - excessive, something that gets in the way. Sometimes it is false pride - unearned or just pretend, also another impediment.

The question at the end of your original post asks if ego and pride are huge roadblocks in most dating situations, and to this I must object. Ego is healthy and necessary. Pride is essential.

You seem to have a good grasp that the difficulty with this woman were more about you being able to deal with it than any issue that can be laid on her. You seem to understand that your particular circumstances made this a long shot at best, with too many potential pitfalls.

You also seem to recognize that you can't change some things about yourself. Good that you are not beating yourself up over it.

You seem like an honourable man. So I was a bit perplexed that you broke it off with her by claiming it was a lie she told you that caused it. It seems to me you owe it to the both of you to admit to her it was down to you, and not her.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Faith politics
Posted: 6/13/2007 2:28:24 PM
It has always been important in United States politics for candidates to appear as church going "God fearing" people. This is not new.

What is new is that the Democratic Party candidates are trying to appeal to the base of the Republican Party - conservative christians.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Religious right suddenly wants religion out of school.
Posted: 6/13/2007 2:06:20 PM
Of course they do. Since most of the religious right are pretty navel gazing it has come as a surprise to them that there are other views. And it is very hard for them to tolerate these other views being expressed in a public institution, so they are opposed to this.
Just wait until they can twist their view of history around to "prove" that teaching their view in the public school system (to the exclusion of others) is required by the U.S. constitution. Then they will be singing this old tune again.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Quebec to collect nation's 1st carbon tax
Posted: 6/13/2007 1:45:20 PM
You are right OP, about this tax being passed on to the consumer. That does not mean it will not have any of the intended consequences, however. If people consume less, as can be expected with a price hike, then there will be less carbon emitted to the atmosphere.
But this is probably just
a tax grab sold as a benefit to the environment. If Quebec is serious about making this a benefit to the environment it would commit to spending what is raised by this tax on measures that reduce carbon emission.

If it was serious that would be specified in the legislation. I bet it is not.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
What do you think of London's 2012 Olympic logo?
Posted: 6/13/2007 1:31:10 PM
I looked at it.
I want to be open minded and give it a chance.
Does anybody have any good acid?
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Telling versus Hinting with Men
Posted: 6/13/2007 1:19:50 PM
There are lots of men who can take a hint from a woman about what she wants.
Unfortunately, most of them already have boyfriends.
 
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