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 Author Thread: Most jobs dont want to hire someone over 40
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Most jobs dont want to hire someone over 40
Posted: 3/4/2008 9:03:27 PM
Well here it is a year later that I put my 2 cents worth in to this thread. Last May I quit my job of 8 years (the one that I thought would be my last job until I retire). I sent ONE resume out, and I got called the very next day, and I had an interview 2 days later and I was working for them 2 weeks later. I don't have any fancy letters and numbers behind my name, but I do have plenty of experience and I am dependable and that is what the employer is looking for today. Age really doesn't have anything to do with it. Employers actually prefer mature people. Why...because they have experience, they are reliable, they aren't pregnant and going on mat leave for a year while you hold an opening for them to come back, they don't have little ones in school that if sick then Mom has to take the day off work..... and the list goes on and on. Where I live there is such a shortage of employees ( and that is in all walks of life) employers are giving signing bonuses for new hires. So if you can't find a job....come to Alberta.....it might be a bit cool in the winter but we have lots and lots of sunshine!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Over 50 And NO Fun !
Posted: 3/3/2008 8:39:30 PM
Mae...I know what you mean.....it seems all the clubs are now catering to the younguns! Damn! The Ranchman's used to be a great place, but now it is sooooo loud and soooooo full of 20 somethings! I love to dance and there just isn't really any place to go now for us mature ladies and gents......oh ya....there is the Legion! It seems we're toooooo old or.....toooooo young! I'm not ready for the rockin chair yet!

I wonder why alot of the men say they like to dance.....but...the truth be known they don't even KNOW how to dance! Just like they say they like to go for walks.......like where?????? to the fridge for another beer?????
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Middle aged weight loss spokesperson drop-out OR what happened to Kirstie?
Posted: 2/8/2008 5:11:01 PM
...but....but Mac ...how are we gonna jog on the treadmill and still type on our computers on these forums all at the same time?????? I'm pretty good at multi tasking (after all I am a woman...and it is kinda a woman thing)....but....geez we have to prioitize as well.....???????

All joking aside....2007 was a very stressful year...so I have decided that 2008 is for me...."BUFFY". So having said that...I am taking baby steps in trying to look after myself for ME. I've noticed the weight that I have gained is taking a toll on my knees and hips not to mention my clothes have shrunk! It's always easy to blame someone or something for our gaining weight...and yes genetics does play a role. In all honesty I have to say winter is bad for me to be motivated to do anything physical (see... that's another reason it is wonderful to have a partner....think of all the excercise we'd be getting....lol) Yes...sex is a form of excercise! But...sitting in front of a computer all day at work and then coming home and sitting and eating at a computer all night is not very good! I don't want to be "skinny" I just want to be happy when I look in the mirror not only at my face but also at my body(probably better with clothes on)! And when I go ride my horse...I can step up into the saddle and I don't need a mounting block/step stool. I think she will be happier too!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 340 (view)
 
OVER 50 And Alone....again.
Posted: 1/28/2008 5:55:21 PM
Crazylady50.....good story....don't mind "GRUMP" Schadenfreudian!
 COUNTRYGALATHEART
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 19 (view)
 
another year older & just another day
Posted: 1/27/2008 3:10:13 PM
To me ALL birthdays are very special.......for crying out loud....it's the day we came into this world!!! It calls for at the very minimum at least a phone call to friends and family! I also celebrate other major birthdays..... as in baby Jesus'!

If I was married, then I would also think Anniversaries call for a celebration as well. My father is going to be 95 end of March and mom will be 89 this June. And....they will be (God willing) celebrating their 70 Anniversary in November. You can bet your bottom dollar there will lots of celebrating this year! As we get older.....I think Birthdays are even more precious!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 83 (view)
 
What do you think is an acceptable reason to stand someone up?
Posted: 1/26/2008 1:37:09 PM
Email or call them the next day and apologize profusely that YOU are so sorry that you totally forgot about the date, and hope that they didn't wait too long.

Grandma.....above quote .......good one! Altho.....it would only work if you haven't exchanged pics. Unless......of course, you're going to lie about the picture too!

Sorry folks, but can't seem to put the box around the quote........HELP!

 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 79 (view)
 
What do you think is an acceptable reason to stand someone up?
Posted: 1/26/2008 11:01:21 AM
I have absolutely "zero" tolerance for anyone that says they will meet and then they don't phone or show up! Has only happened to me once! I had his cell #, but never go thru to him and I thought perhaps he had been in an accident. But...never did hear from him, so if he was in an accident, maybe he died......I hope not, but then....he shouda phoned me as soon as he was able. I am very forgiving, but it had better be a good excuse. Like others have said ....use your cell and be honest and respectful, if you decide to chicken out the last minute. I think sometimes what happens is......the other person shows up early and then if they decide they don't like the looks of you, then they slink away or maybe they think you're way too hot for them and they can't handle that either! I just know that if I make plans to meet someone, I will have my cell on me and I will have his cell, so if something does happen....then I can phone him asap rather than leave him waiting and thinking the worst has happened to me or him feeling rejected.
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Speed Dating for Seniors
Posted: 1/20/2008 2:05:25 PM
...good post Desertbro...totally agree with you!

I personally have not tried it, but the few times I did see it advertized it was for the young uns.....mid thirty's. But I think I would give it a shot if I had the opportunity....what the heck...it is just another means of meeting new people. Actually it sounds like fun. If you like someone great and if you don't .....hey you only wasted 3 minutes!

I know someone in my neighborhood, that went to one and the first guy she met, they clicked and they are now happily married. They just redid their vows in Mexico with family and friends. I think this is their 3rd anniversary, and they lived together for a year. Good on them! They took the chance and it worked in their favour.

So.....people don't be "old scardey cats" go try something new, but of course have an open mind and who knows...ya just might like it!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Animal Cruelty
Posted: 1/19/2008 12:49:17 PM
Animals in zoos and rodeos are not starved and left without water!!!
Those animals have a great life!

This poor lil bunny was left without food and water over the weekend......hell of a big difference!

OP you are a kind person for looking after lil bunny.....and that's a good thing! If you can....talk to the teacher and maybe she can leave the food and ask you to feed it over the weekend....if that doesn't work then go to her supervisor and if that doesn't work then go to SPCA. Do the "right" thing!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 23 (view)
 
The magic age of 50?
Posted: 1/13/2008 10:09:52 AM
[B--two women tried to pick you up and couldn't? Sounds like it is time for the treadmill....... ]

You crack me up.....

Broward.....maybe they're on POF too and they've been reading your posts about "bad sex" and they were just going to help you out!!!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Too young to be getting old
Posted: 1/11/2008 6:19:15 PM
Starline ....what are you going to do when you hit 60????

I never really noticed this problem until these last 2 years! I live in a city with 1 million people....very fast growing, but everybody seems to be in their 80's or they are 20 - 30 yrs olds. These young uns have taken over all the decent dance spots. It's almost unbearable to go ....the music is usually sooooooo loud and then if there are any decent looking guys around my age, their hitting on the gals with next to nothing on their hot little bodies and young enough to be their daughters (yup I'm jealous).

I ask myself where are the guys in their 50's - 60's????? I think I have the answer.......they're on POF addicted to the forums!
I really don't seem to find them walking (although alot of them claim to love going for walks). And they sure the heck are not at Walmart or the grocery stores!

Oh well...I'm lucky that I have a horse and can go riding and it would be great to have a partner to come with me, but .....I'm not ready for the rocking chair or the "bone yard" yet....so I will continue doing things with my friends or by myself.........and continue fishing. Who know's spring is coming and they may start biting!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
At our age, what is acceptable for contacting the guys?
Posted: 1/5/2008 3:30:38 PM
I visit alot of profiles, mainly because something has caught my eye or tweeked some interest. Having said that, that doesn't mean that just 'cause I looked at your profile....that I like you! DUH!!!! I rarely, rarely look at anyone that does not have a picture. And for the ones that have only pics of animals, sunsets, etc......but none of themselves......well I just think "what are you afraid of that you can't even put a pic of yourself on your profile"!

If someone mails me....I always message them back.....it's only being respectful! I have not been very good with being the first to contact someone.....again that age where the guy made the first move!!! But...I think now I am going to look at a couple of profiles that did interest me and make the move to contact them! Like someone said "nothing ventured...nothing gained"!

I have also decided that the guys that put me on their "favorite list" I am going to contact the ones that I think we may have something in common. What the heck....2008 is all about "ME"...yahoo!!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Can you be too picky?
Posted: 12/30/2007 6:17:13 PM
[I think for me being allmost 50 time is running out]



Cojo5.....you say "almost 50 time is running out"!!!! Time is running out of what??????? You are only turning 50 for heavens sake, do you not plan on living to at least 51????? Not sure what you really mean.

I think we all have certain standards in our profiles stating what we want and don't want. I love horses and I haven't really had a lot of cowboys knockin on my door so does that mean I am too picky 'cause I'm looking for the cowboy type???? No....it means that I am looking for someone that also has interests in horses, rodeos, country living. So.......should I go for the golf aholics or the sports fanatic????? I am not a golfer.....total waste of time ...sorry, but.... I know that doesn't mean that the "cowboy type" shouln't be a golfer. I want someone to have SOME of the same interests that I do, so if that makes me too picky then I guess I am. But I'd rather be riding into the sunset by myself than having a couch potato sitting there holding down the couch and being a vegetable! I guess what I am really trying to say is that if we lower our standards and not be so picky then what are we setting ourselves up for????? I sure the heck do not want to get into a relationship and find that it's not working because I lowered my standards and tried to compromise and not be so picky. I want someone to be riding with me holding hands ('cause he wants too) not because I'm making him!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 112 (view)
 
Sign’s He’s Just Not That Into You
Posted: 12/20/2007 9:13:10 PM
Daisy....tks and good advice. I am learning from all these posts that some men really are players and of course some are just plain too old, too homely, too damned nice.....but who wants one like that???? Hell no....I always fall for the tall, handsome, sweet/smooth talker! Oh well...back to 'cause I know one day, some day, I'm gonna meet my handsome cowboy and were gonna ride off in the sunset together! Hey I can dream can't I?????
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 42 (view)
 
has free porn on the net become the middle-aged post-divorced person's new & safe partner?
Posted: 12/19/2007 6:46:32 PM
I haven't done the internet porno sites......I am sure just lots of moaning and groaning and fake boobs and blah, blah blah. I don't think it has changed that much probably just more fake bodies and fake noises! Give me the real thing any day and I'll make your day!

I have a girl friend that had a boyfriend that watched pornos ALL the time. He could not get into the mood and out of the mood without watching pornos. Now how much fun is that????? For her that is??? He was totally addicted to it. Needless to say he is now an exboyfriend. LOL I know of another family that has now split up because her husband was also addicted to pornos!

I guess, each to their own and what you do behind closed doors is your business as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. I could probably understand men getting off on adult pornos, but don't even get me started on child pornography!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
An Email or Two?
Posted: 12/18/2007 7:51:05 PM
I agree with msg 23 - Herodius and msg 42 - Broward....

I finally met a fellow from another site after emailing for about 6 weeks. He sounded like a great guy, had lots in common. He lived about 1 1/h hrs out of town, so this one day I was going past the town he lived so I messaged him that we should meet. He gave me his cell # and we agreed to meet at a certain time and I called him when I was leaving home. He sounded out of breath when he answered the phone and then he said "oh I should tell you I had a horse accident and I have a hard time breathing when I get excited"! Well...we met....and he musta been real excited when he met me becausse he could hardly talk, his breathing was so bad. Apparently, his diaphram was damaged. I really felt empathy for him, but.....I could hardly finish my coffee, it was so hard to watch and hear him talk. don't get me wrong.....if we were married and that happened to my husband, that is one thing, but to met someone that is in tht condition, it is really hard to deal with. Maybe had he been honest from the start I would have been more tolerant. Then......the picture that he had on site was a good 10 - 15 years old. I didn't have a pic to put on site, so when I discribed myself, I joked about my hair and a few other things, trying to keep things light. Well, when I got home from my trip there was 7 emails from him accusing me of playing with him! He then continued to accuse me of lying and on and on. Well.....I emailed him back and told him his pic wasn't very recent and continued to argue that it was. I think he was upset with me because he knew that I wasn't interested in him. So.....from that I have learned that if you feel comfortable after a few emails and a few calls, then go ahead and meet. After all I'm not a teenager with a whole life ahead of me. When we get to our age, if it feels right...go for it! There is no sense wasting a ton of precious time and then find out that you are so disappointed when you finally meet. Just gotta keep on fishin, eh?
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 56 (view)
 
No Sex Tonight
Posted: 12/17/2007 9:27:00 PM
Now Golconda why would you say "it seems like a lot of women prefer sudoku over sex"??? There are many, many, many women that have replied to this post, but only ONE said the she loves sex , but also loves Sudoku but a lot less work to play Sudoku tonight. So...........please don't put ALL women in that catagory. Perhaps she has every reason to prefer (as you put it) Sudoku to sex.... maybe because SHE had to do ALL the work! Anyways, I know I love to make love and have someone make love to me, and it can be every night, maybe even 3 times a day, if it is with the right person. I don't need the one night stands, been there and done that! Like some of the other women have said it's more about "quality" than "quantity". In fact....if we were to take a poll, I would bet that there are MORE women than men that want sex (and that is satisfying sex by the way) not just alittle poke for all of 5 seconds!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 98 (view)
 
Sign’s He’s Just Not That Into You
Posted: 12/16/2007 4:56:34 PM
Desi....I just never called him again! So I would think that it is pretty well over....since I haven't talked to him for about 5 months now. I would think that if he was in the least bit interested he would give me a quick call just to say "Hi"!

Buffy
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Sign’s He’s Just Not That Into You
Posted: 12/16/2007 8:54:49 AM
Desi....You're right.......HE wasn't being honest. I guess I didn't continue to explain the "HONESTY" thing. But....what I mean, is why can't we ALL be HONEST?? Why do we have to try to be the nice guy "cause I don't want to hurt her/his feelings"? Why can't we just say it the way it is and then everyone knows where they stand! And of course....we have to be HONEST with ourselves. When I am doing all the phone calling (or most of it) then I have to be HONEST with myself and admit that "hey, maybe this guy is just trying to be gentle/nice with me but he's really not that interested otherwise he would be phoning me! I finally got it and now I'm back to being shy about contacting a guy first. I guess it blew my confidence abit. Oh well....his loss! Hee Hee!
Buffy
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 91 (view)
 
Sign’s He’s Just Not That Into You
Posted: 12/15/2007 8:42:11 PM
PEOPLE....PEOPLE.....PEOPLE

It' ALL about "Honesty". Let's really be "Honest" now! Sometimes we are in denial....maybe we know damn well he's not into us, but....that would be accepting rejection and that would really hurt! So...we continue to place blame on the other person for "not calling, bla, bla, bla...but really...he was really telling us "that he just wasn't that into us", but.....we weren't listenting and letting go! For instance....I met a real nice fella...I I initiated the first contact. He called a couple of times, called me "luv" and said he was very interested in me! Great! He lived about 11/2 hrs away. A couple weeks went by, no call from him, so I thought I'd call him. He was really happy to hear from me and again we met, went for nice drive, had great dinner and had a great kiss good night! I point blank asked him if he was interested in a relationship. He said yes, he was very interested in me from the very start. Well....needless to say....again I didn't hear from him for a week, so again I thought I would call. (I don't normally do the calling, but he assured me that he liked it if I called). Again.. he seemed happy to hear from me, but I haven't talked to him since. Too bad because we did have so much in common. But......I was not going to call him again. I was not going to set myself up for high hopes of something great happening and then end up being rejected and disappointed. I still think of him and what we could have had, but I have to be honest.....he just wasn't that into me, otherwise he would have been phoning me! Buffy
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Being single over the holidays
Posted: 12/15/2007 1:57:09 PM
I agree BamaBob....I also would give anything to have a good old fashioned Christmas with lots of people, etc, etc. I will spend some time with family, but it's not the same as having someone to wake up to Christmas morning. Oh I forgot, I have my 2 cats to wake up too, or should I say, they wake me up! LOL I am spending Christmas Eve and Christmas day with my folks. they live 2 1/2 hours away and Dad is 94 and Mom is 88. I am grateful that they are still here, so on one hand it is nice that I am free to go and spend time with them, rather than have a cranky husband say he doesn't want to go visit them. I love to people watch, so I go to the malls and I love to watch people. I get a nice cup of coffee and just watch the faces. Yes.....some of them are smiling and holding hands, but then when I see the one running around "like chickens with their heads cut off" and crying, tired little ones in tow......I think......hmmmmm I am soooooooo glad that is not me! I am tryng to be Thankful and Grateful for what I so take for granted....health, a job, roof over my head. .....and I have to keep thinking of people that are less fortunate than me and I soon stop feeling sorry for myself! May you all have a wonderful Christmas! Buffy
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Impotence
Posted: 12/8/2007 7:39:07 PM
Iagree.....there are many reasons for impotence.......drinking (alcohol) can also cause impotence.
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 139 (view)
 
Over 45 and being a fraidy cat to be in a relationship?
Posted: 11/25/2007 5:22:43 PM
wow.........this has been very amusing ...reading all the posts!

I have to say that I am not a "fraidy cat" to get involved with someone. I think we all have one way or another been in a relationship and been hurt, but.....it's kinda like falling off a horse. Just bloody well get up, brush yourself off and get back on! Life is short as it is....without wallowing in bitterness and blame. I've been hurt, very hurt, but I've tried to learn from those experiences and hopefully be more cautious next time. I am willing to love and trust again. I've put my "big girl panities on" and put "the suitcase with baggage" in the trunk of my car, and the next time I go to the dump, I'm going to dump it!!!!!!
 countrygalatheart
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Most jobs dont want to hire someone over 40
Posted: 2/17/2007 1:36:28 PM
I agree with Wildlander.....I live in Canada and I have been with the same company for over 8 yrs....but...the company was bought out by Americans a year ago and now we are considered to be part of the "corporate world". They have been getting "rid" of long time employees left and right... employees that are over 50 and have many years of experience...and yes the young ones are the ones that they seem to want on their team. They are eager and moldable and come cheap for the first few months anyways. But...they are also the ones that come in late, work for 6 months and then off to another job, sick alot even while still on probation. Do I feel I may be next to be given the axe????? Maybe....but what the heck I was looking for a job when I got this one and I am not ready to retire yet so I will get another job! I want to work for someone that will treat me with respect and value my experience. I've never kissed ass and I sure the hell am not about to start now. Although it seems that is one way to get ahead and get some job security. But that is not my style. One thing that is in our favour, is that alot of "baby boomers" are retiring and there is starting to be a tremendous shortage of experienced employees. So...some employers are aware of this and are holding onto the "seniors" and also willing to pay them well.
 
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