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 Author Thread: What is the magic of cumming inside?
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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What is the magic of cumming inside?
Posted: 6/12/2013 11:43:00 PM
While I have had an orgasm from my partner cumming, it wasn't just from the feel of his cum. It was also the build-up from feeling him tense up, hearing him cum, and the satisfaction from it that triggers my release. The actual feel of cum is mainly a warm sensation for me, and not so much of the feeling of him shooting it. Cleaning up after sex will take care of most of the cum. You want to clean up, not try to hold it in. Hope that answers your questions nicegurl.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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In all honesty, how important is oral sex?
Posted: 6/4/2013 9:52:30 PM
Why does a woman who enjoys oral, and wants it regularly, immature? Everyone has sexual preferences. There is no right or wrong. Its important in a relationship that your preferences line up with those of your partner. Knowing that sounds more like maturity than immaturity to me.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Prom Night
Posted: 5/17/2013 10:56:16 AM
3 proms and a formal dance at VMI with my V-card intact.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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women who get creamy during sexual activity
Posted: 5/16/2013 9:14:23 PM
The look, smell, and amount of fluid will vary with each partner. Just because one woman produces more fluid than another doesn't mean she is more turned on. Its about individual body chemistry.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Do divorced people stay friends with their in-laws?
Posted: 5/8/2013 10:10:14 AM
I am still very good friends with my ex sis-in-law. We have vacationed together twice with the children since my marriage ended. She was a part of my life for 22 years, and I don't intend for that relationship to end. And I will always be the aunt to her children, even if not legally.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Guns, guns, guns..
Posted: 5/8/2013 8:04:50 AM
Leave it in. Guns are a part of your life. If a woman has an issue with them, its better to know right off the bat. Personally, I think you have a better chance of finding a partner who will share your hobby with the pic up.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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The Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone (aka the AFE Zone or A-Spot)
Posted: 5/8/2013 7:50:58 AM
While not exactly sure which wall my A-spot is located on, I can say it is around the cervix. Stimulated properly with fingers can cause gushing. Best positions IMO to stimulate it during sex are missionary or doggy - both hard and fast, and I can achieve orgasm from penetration.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Who initiates..............
Posted: 5/8/2013 7:26:58 AM
I usually initiate in my relationship because I am impatient. I never feel undesired because he always responds, and things are good. I have no doubt that he would initiate if I was more patient, but... oh well!
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Using viagra and alcohol together.
Posted: 4/3/2013 9:15:48 AM
Viagra with a little alcohol, and I noticed no difference in ability to perform. Viagra with a lot of alcohol was a waste of a perfectly good Viagra. Whiskey d!ck is whiskey d!ck... with or without the Viagra.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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How to handle these requests...
Posted: 3/27/2013 6:13:06 AM
I think its very sad that you let some creep looking for cheap thrills make you doubt yourself. Seems that your self-esteem has taken quite a hit. I think you need to work on yourself, gain some confidence, and get in a better frame of mind before continuing to look for a mate. I am a big girl myself, but I am very comfortable with my body, and confident in my aattractiveness and self-worth. I have not had any trouble meeting quality men that love the way I look... lumps, bumps, and all. There are plenty of men that will fiind you attractive just the way you are. I suggest you try to figure out the nice guys from the creeps a little quicker. Don't ignore those red flags when you see them. Good luck to you.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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It seems every girl wants the 6 pack?
Posted: 3/26/2013 10:13:26 AM
Personally, i'd prefer a guy with a pony keg to a six-pack. And I look for a guy that treats me right as opposed to taking care of me. But girls your age are probably going to be easier to find offline. There are way more men than women on here, and girls tend to be more particular.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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What You See Is What You Get
Posted: 3/26/2013 9:20:46 AM
I don't see "What you see is what you get" to sound inflexible. Maybe its because I am very much an optimist, but I see it as "this is who I am. I am laying it all out there. I am not hiding or holding anything back."

Picking only one absolute dealbreaker is hard. My biggest is any form of addiction, but drugs being the biggest. My ex put his alcohol and drug addiction before the welfare of our children, and I will never allow that into my family again. But I think most people would find addiction a dealbreaker. And abuse/violence is a given. Been there, done that, never going back.

My next biggest problem would be a liar. I am honest... all the time, not just when its convenient. Not saying I'm perfect, as I may not be forthcoming with all info, and I may try to dodge questions... but I will always tell you the truth no matter what. I expect the same from a mate. As for my issue of dodging questions and such... I'm a work in progress, but I am working on it!
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Orgasms from penetration alone
Posted: 3/21/2013 11:39:43 AM
Hearton... reading your post, I have to wonder if you don't mentally keep yourself from cumming on some level. You ssaid there are times when you are very close... perhaps its your own fear of not cumming that holds you back. I know that if I am trying to cum and fixated on the outcome, I inadvertantly throw up roadblocks for myself. Only when I let myself go and become lost in the moment do I achieve big orgasms. Earlier I eluded to rough nipple play, but what I didn't say was that sometimes I have bruises and soreness for days because it can get so rough. I often am too lost in the moment to realize how rough my partner is being (at my request BTW.) All that to say, maybe you get scared you won't cum, and therefore rub one out to insure that you do, when if you had just relaxed and let it happen, it would have. And I don't mean every time, but on those occasions when you were very close.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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adult breast feeding relationships
Posted: 3/20/2013 9:53:32 PM
My ex tasted my breast milk with my first out of curiosity, but that was it. The thought of "nursing" a lover creeps me out. Now I'm picturing a man with a baby fetish...
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Orgasms from penetration alone
Posted: 3/20/2013 9:46:43 PM
I guess I should join the ranks of the minority. I do like clitoral stimulation with oral or fingers, but almost never cum that way. With simultaneous finger penetration I am able to cum. During sex, the deeper and harder the penetration; the harder I cum. Then change positions and angle of entry, and I cum again. Missionary and doggie are best positions for me. Clitoral stimulation during sex actually makes it harder for me to cum, so I prefer not to be touched. If he really needs to fiddle with something, nipple stimulation when I am about to orgasm sends me over the moon... the harder the better!
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Love VS Large Penis
Posted: 3/19/2013 8:24:41 PM
Personally, I would choose love. But I think you should go with the large penis. I think the other guy deserves a better lot in life.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Why no progress?
Posted: 3/19/2013 6:02:04 AM
Oh look... OPs picker is broken, and it must be our fault! Its a shame that we drove another "nice guy" into a rant. Sorry OP... we'll try harder in the future.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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About to give up
Posted: 3/18/2013 7:49:24 PM
You've only been on POF for 11 days. Hardly time for a love connection. If you had several conversations, then you are ahead of the curve. Keep working at it... it'll happen.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Profiles still up but in a relationship??
Posted: 3/18/2013 9:15:55 AM
I am currently in a relationship, and have my profile hidden. I have not bothered to update my profile in any way, so forum posters will see it as single and looking, but I don't really care. When I do get the occasional message now, I politely decline.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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What are a woman's emotional sweet spots?
Posted: 3/12/2013 11:37:23 AM
I can only say that my "sweet spots" change with every relationship. Always there are the main things I look for like the same sense of humor, ability to talk about anything, similar family values, etc. But its the little things that make a difference. Last guy would always check my oil and tires when he saw me, wash my windshield when I pumped gas, etc. He always wanted me to call him when I reached my destination when. I traveled. He was trying in his own way to keep me safe. My current guy will bring me leftovers of his homemade meals for my lunch the next day because I work from home and don't go out much. He does little things to show that he is thinking about me constantly, instead of sweeping gestures on occasion. I can't really explain it, and it couldn't be duplicated or faked... its just who he is, and I love him for it.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Discolsing Cold Sores?
Posted: 3/12/2013 11:05:51 AM
^^^ That was my thought exactly. Neither I or my children have ever had cold sores. The only blisters ever were the result of trauma. Could I have it and be unknowingly spreading it... sure I could. That is a risk that can't be avoided. Could I contract it from my partner when he shows no signs of sores... absolutely. Again a risk that I am willing to take. But if there are active signs of a flare-up, and my risk increases exponentially, then I want to know about it so I can protect myself.

If you go into work today contagious with the flu, you can spread it to everyone. If you showed no symptoms, then there was no way you could have prevented exposing everyone. If you are popping Advil and Tamiflu while sucking down over-the-counter meds, then you are knowingly exposing others to an illness they might could have avoided.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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What's the age range women look for in dating?
Posted: 3/11/2013 10:07:34 PM
I generally look for a man anywhere from 2 years younger to 10 years older than my current age. I am open to talking to others, but seriously doubt it would go anywhere because, as Eric stated, life experiences would be too different. I am 41, and my current guy is 48.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Do women take this website seriously?
Posted: 3/11/2013 9:37:13 PM
I am very serious about finding another relationship, and since in my social circles I am surrounded by married couples, this is one of my best chances of finding someone. I have had a couple short relationships that didn't work out. I am currently dating someone who is perfect for me, and am waiting to see what happens. None of these guys would have ever crossed my path without POF.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Discolsing Cold Sores?
Posted: 3/11/2013 8:25:29 AM
From WebMD:
"These blisters break down rapidly and, when seen, appear as tiny, shallow, gray ulcers on a red base... The sores may occur on the lips, the gums, the front of the tongue, the inside of the cheeks, the throat, and the roof of the mouth."

I'm saying that my health is my call. Period. I sincerely hope that someone I am seeing is honest enough to disclose, and let me assume the risk for myself. OP asked if it should be disclosed. My OPINION is yes. You're welcome to yours, but I will not be argued out of mine.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Discolsing Cold Sores?
Posted: 3/11/2013 7:54:14 AM
^^ That's well and good if the sore is visible, but what if it is inside the cheek or in the healing stages? If a partner isn't honest (or knowledgable) then it can be transmitted. And BTW OP... that is the point that makes my original post valid. Disclosure is needed because it is your partners choice to take the risk, not yours. If you have a flare-up, then disclosure is necessary. And accordig to WebMD, oral-to-genital herpes is possible, but not common.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Different types of women that good guys have to deal with
Posted: 3/11/2013 12:53:43 AM
I think the OP (and the article) left off quite a few boxes to put us in. What about the Needy Woman, the Lover, the Giver, the Nurturer, theParty Girl, and the Soccer Mom to name a few? And what about the 75% of women that don't fit nicely into one of your boxes? Maybe start looking for a balanced woman instead of trying to pigeon-hole everyone you meet?
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Why do women think I am Married?
Posted: 3/11/2013 12:30:15 AM
It must be something in your messages. From your profile I would never suspect that you were lying.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Money vs Size, should men enlarge too!
Posted: 3/11/2013 12:09:30 AM
I'm not sure where you came by the 30% figure for breast augmentation... seems a bit high to me. In that percentage you would also need to discount the number that had reconstructive breast surgery, as well. As for the penis size thread... how many of those replies were women, or even relevant? Personally, size of your penis has very little to do with your skill as a lover. Quit worrying about your size, and improve your technique.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Discolsing Cold Sores?
Posted: 3/10/2013 11:58:37 PM
Isn't it contagious when the sores are flared. If so, you should be very careful when they are, avoiding oral sex.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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She says sex isn't important. What does that mean?
Posted: 3/7/2013 12:44:02 PM
I went almost 4 years without having sex when my marriage went south. Sex with my ex, where it had been incredible for 17 years, was about as appealing as a root canal. Now that I am in a good relationship again, I can't imagine going without. Its more about the emotional connection than the orgasm, even though I have NO issues with orgasms.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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What's your best irl dating experience through pof?
Posted: 3/7/2013 11:56:59 AM
I've had a couple good, short relationships. Guys were great, but just not right for me. Current guy I've been with for 4 months. I wouldn't have met any of them without POF because we are not in the same social circles. IRL for me is a dating desert. Almost 100% married couples in my daily life.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Women in their 30s: do you notice balding?
Posted: 3/7/2013 6:40:06 AM
Yes, I notice thinning hair. Whether or not I find it attractive depends on how the man deals with it. Yours... not attractive. Clean it up and trim the beard. Many guys on here rock the bald look, and its very sexy. And BTW, graying hair is more common than you realize is your age group. As someone who started going gray before I started driving, I am entirely thankful for hair coloring. Its not about the hand you were dealt, but how you deal with it.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Personality: animal lover
Posted: 3/7/2013 6:19:57 AM
I would describe myself as an animal lover in that I volunteer in dog rescue. I have a steady stream of dogs in and out of my house. If I saw "animal lover" on a guys profile, I see that as positive. Through my rescue I know quite a few men that are true animal lovers... very manly men who would be quite offended by your views. Loving animals is not a gender-biased thing.

Suppose I described myself as a sports lover. Would you assume I only did that to attract a man? Truth is I watch Redskins football anytime I can, and during the spring and summer I am an avid supporter of our minor-league baseball team.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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The surprise me date
Posted: 3/7/2013 5:52:00 AM
Women putting that don't want some spectacular first date. They want you to know that they are oopen to almost anything. By the time a date comes around, you will have been talking long enough to get a general idea of what someone wants, and the date is usually well discussed. If in talking you find her too high maintenance, move on. You may be missing out on fantastic women because of a misunderstanding. I swear with all the "red flags" people see out of nowhere, I feel like I'm at a bullfight!
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Do girls like big guys?
Posted: 3/4/2013 9:00:19 AM
You need to post a full body pic. Yes, you may get less responses, but the ones you do get will be more likely to get to a first date.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Just Curious
Posted: 3/4/2013 8:46:04 AM
I agree with Mark... you took too long to advance. Everytime she is online to talk to you, she is getting messages and chat requests from other users. You moved too slowly and someone else came along. Next time get a number, move to talking or texting, and set up a meet.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Open Sexually vs. Closed Sexually
Posted: 3/1/2013 2:11:18 PM
OP... you are 40 yrs old. Why do you allow yourself to be coerced into sexual encounters with men that you don't know? If a guy tries to make you touch his junk, you pull back and leave. And when you "date" boys 1/2 your age, don't act so surprised that they only want to hit it and quit it. You need to mature and get a backbone if you want a real relationship.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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I got blocked, not sure why?
Posted: 2/28/2013 8:01:42 PM
She sounds irrational. You dodged a bullet with that one. Be glad and move on.

Women get blocked over stupid crap, too. Had one guy messaging me and asking tons of questions about my ex. I answered and changed the subject, but each time he circled back around to my ex. After about 15 messages he tells me that all I do is b!tch about my ex, and I must still be hung up on him. Then he blocked me before I could tell him what I thought of him! Oh well...
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Profile changes/experimentation = making fools of men?
Posted: 2/28/2013 11:27:00 AM
I wrote my profile as honestly as I could when I joined POF. It has worked very well for me so far. I have met many honest, genuine men, which I attribute to that. I have been on POF for a year now, and have yet to run into the first date horror stories that I see posted here. Right now my profile is hidden, but should I need to repost, I will only update my photos and change my marital status to divorced.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Taking it slow - Both peoples perspectives
Posted: 2/27/2013 8:42:47 PM
Just push the envelope a little further next time you're kissing her... slowly move towards hot and heavy. She'll either respond and allow it to continue, or she'll stop you. Either way, she knows you are ready to move forward.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Do you ever mistake behavior?
Posted: 2/27/2013 8:23:17 PM
Polite and civil usually implies an aloofness, and lack of genuine emotion. Someone being polite and civil will keep you at arms length, and more of an aquaintance instead of a friend. Truly being nice is a warmer reaction, and backed up with genuine emotion. Yes, I think guys sometimes try to fake being nice, but it is generally a facade they can not keep up for an extended period of time.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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making plans
Posted: 2/27/2013 6:08:02 PM
I'm not real sure how you could squeeze out more time together unless you are willing to spend time at his home during the week. You could do the whole dinner/family thing if your relationship is there yet (although seems rushed for 2 months) or you could hang out after the kids are in bed for the night.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Profile Truths/deceptions
Posted: 2/27/2013 9:52:29 AM
LOL at MainelyThere... 2 posts b!tchin about other forum posters, and he didn't even bother to answer the question!

People lie because they don't recognize or want to admit the truth. They are hoping that on the first meet you will be so enanmoured of their sparkling personality that you won't notice their lies.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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The way women react to a good gesture
Posted: 2/27/2013 8:51:30 AM
QueenSara's point (as I read it) is that it isn't gifts that mean the most, regardless of the price tag attached. Its the little, everyday things that you do that quietly show your love. I would be happy to go the rest of my life without another expensive gift if my guy did the little things consistently.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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How many replies you ladies dealing with?
Posted: 2/27/2013 5:33:55 AM
With my profile hidden, I receive about 5 messages a month. If I unhide it, I will get 15-20 new messages per day for a weeks or so, and then it will slow down to 3-5 new messages per day. I would guess I get 25% highly sexual messages, 25% good messages, and 50% "hey beautiful". I always reply to the nice messages, and barely bother with the rest. I do have quite a few email restrictions in place.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Do numbers matter?
Posted: 2/26/2013 7:14:51 PM
Boredlurker... you still have your V-card then? Otherwise, you're someone else's trash as well.

What number is too many for those that said it would bother them?
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Would You Be Open To A Swinging Relationship?
Posted: 2/26/2013 5:40:39 AM
Nope, not for me. What's mine is mine. I don't share. End of story.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Dating a dog owner
Posted: 2/25/2013 7:17:07 PM
I had to LOL that owning a dog indicates that a woman is dominant. That is quite the opposite in my case. Despite the fact that I own a black lab and a pit bull, I seek out and date alpha males.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Taking no for an answer?
Posted: 2/25/2013 2:58:06 PM
It did work once with me. The guy was someone I was very attracted to, but turned him down because of how far away he lived. We did continue to talk on here, and the chemistry was there. After a couple months I did give in and go out with him, and we dated several months. In the end, the distance was our problem, and we went back to being friends.
 garnergirl71
Joined: 2/10/2012
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Are You Jaded
Posted: 2/25/2013 2:42:04 PM
I agree that its the men who become jaded. This whole "women are only here to inflate their ego" theory is a good example. Just because you (in general) write a perfectly nice message that isn't responded to does not mean the women only wanted the ego boost. Most often she picked some other perfectly nice man and is responding to him instead. Women are used to being hit on by less than desirable guys both online and IRL. We have learned long ago how to handle it, and not let it affect us the way you assume.
 
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