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 Author Thread: Can you love someone and cheat on them?
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 144 (view)
 
Can you love someone and cheat on them?
Posted: 5/29/2011 3:19:17 PM
I love my grandma... Yet I've had plenty of girlfriends.
So yes. You can cheat and love someone because love is non-sexual.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 326 (view)
 
short women/tall men
Posted: 4/27/2010 1:23:05 AM

tallness in a man is desirable and shortness is a desirable trait in females. The gene pool of tall men will have lots of short women in it. The gene pool of short men will have lots of tall women in it. This is on average. Undesirable traits flock together.


I do not believe this to be true. Genetics does not understand what is socially desirable.
The men in my family are short. So are the women.

When a tall guy and short women have a kid, the child could end up being short or tall, regardless of sex. In short, an alpha male and alpha female have an equal likely hood of producing an alpha or beta male or female.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
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Thumbnails in inbox
Posted: 4/22/2010 1:08:59 PM
I don't like these thumbnails in the inbox....
I can't see as many email messages.
And my memory isn't that short term, I remember what they look like.

Also, it makes finding messages harder.

Who like's this?
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Is it acceptable to hit on people at the gym?
Posted: 3/22/2010 1:27:28 AM
There are no rules except for the ones you impose on yourself.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Being falsely accused of cheating...How did it make you feel?
Posted: 3/17/2010 9:25:34 PM
If someone accuses me of cheating..
That's when I know they themselves are cheaters.

No one wants to think that they are a bad person.
So when they cheat on someone they all of the sudden realize that,
"Hey, I did this and I am a good person. So that means ANYONE could
cheat... even my boyfriend!"
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 32 (view)
 
LJBF, my ass
Posted: 3/17/2010 9:20:44 PM
Do you really want women friends?
Its great being surrounded by attractive and intelligent women.
But it can also be a downer sometimes when you realize they don't feel the
same way about you.

Though, between being around no women.
And women who think I am cool.
I'll choose to be around women.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 48 (view)
 
perfume or not?
Posted: 10/18/2009 7:15:00 PM
BO can smell good or bad depending on how similiar your body chemistry is to the person you are dating.

If your body chemistry is too similiar to the person you are dating, you won't like the way they smell. And they won't like the way you smell either.

Haven't you ever had like a pillow or t-shirt of your "lovers" and kept it with you because it smelled like them? Thats their BO you are smelling.

You can try to cover it up with perfume... But do you really want to be with someone
you can't stand the smell of?
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
BEING LATE
Posted: 10/18/2009 7:03:45 PM
Never see him again. And don't make it your mission to save everyone from him.

Every individual is responsible for their own saftey.
And if the next woman is smart, she will also quickly learn to stay away from him.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Am I being paranoid?
Posted: 10/18/2009 7:00:44 PM
That is due to your unique social conditioning.
I have an awesome black and white dress shirt that I think looks like a
"Mexican shirt". No one else agrees with me though.

It probably has something to do with the Mexican guy my mom used to go out with when I was little and his fashion sense.

You probably should have been listening for his tone of voice...
Not for the specific words comming from his mouth.

Or... If I dare say... You might already know the answer to your question...
But you are asking us because you are not confident in your own skills of
observation.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
being stalked by bf's co-worker(REAL PROBLEM)
Posted: 10/18/2009 6:57:03 PM
You should probably read this book called "The Gift of Fear." by Gavin De Becker.
Its basically a book on how to avoid becomming a victim of rapists and stalkers.

It seems that, in most cases, taking things to the authorities makes things worse.

They'll slap him on the wrist. Maybe give him a restraining order.
He'll feel humiliated and could potentially become violent.

The best strategy is to ignore the person 100% of the time.
If he calls you 100 times and you answer the 101th time...
He will assume the price of your attention is 101 phone calls.

Using force won't work. The reasoning being that the only way to force him
away would be to lock him away. And he'll have to kill someone first to do that.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Relax. Maybe He'll call and breath on the phone.
Posted: 10/18/2009 6:46:04 PM
Haha.
That reminds me. I haven't done that to anyone in a while...
Lemme just pick a random # out of my phone book...
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
friend zone
Posted: 10/18/2009 6:39:14 PM
The friend zone means we get along, but there is something stopping us from f*cking each other.

Could be that we go to school together and need to keep things professional.
Could be that we are too genetically similiar and thus smell bad to each other.
Or could be that one or both of us do not find the other attractive.

If you step outside the friend zone and they are not attracted to you...
It will make things very akward.

To exaggerate it... Imagine you have a friend of the same sex who tells you they are attracted to you and they want a relationship with you. That same akwardness can happen with opposite sex friends.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Filing Taxes... never married
Posted: 8/20/2009 7:05:09 PM

If you live with someone for a year or more, for "taxation purposes" you are considered "married".


What if I live with TWO women?
What if I live with another MAN?

Anyways, I know you are not the lawmaker. I just find it halarious.
Though maybe not so halarious if I end up in Jail because I've had the
same two female roommates for too long and am considered a polygamist.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
non-religious? catch all for everthing?
Posted: 8/20/2009 6:52:33 PM
I use non-religious because to be atheist is to claim to know.
No one can know. Because the concept of god is something that, if it were to exist
would be so great that it would be beyond our comprehension.

I wouldn't call it a catch all.
There are people out there that think I am the devil incarnate for my beliefes.
To catch all would be to say something that will allow everyone to get along with you.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I am just dating!
Posted: 8/20/2009 6:43:17 PM
Hah. Like any guy on here is only talking to one lady.

It's probably the same psychology behind the reason why people who are "cheaters" are also the first ones to say "I hate cheaters!".
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
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Define maturity
Posted: 8/20/2009 6:23:17 PM
Someone can dress up in a suit and look important and you assume they are mature. But the only true way to tell how mature someone is is to have a serious conversation with them.

On the flip side of this.
I sat with all the nerds in highschool. We were the most intelligent, yet we
acted the most immature out of everyone in school.

So I guess... The ones trying too hard to come off as mature may in reality be the least mature. Of course, there are always those mature and boring types that will look and act the part.

Someone is going to hate me for this....
But when dealing with relationships... Its not about WHO you are.
Its about "Who they THINK you are."

If they want someone mature, but you don't look mature. (Eventhough you are.)
Well, tough luck.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 112 (view)
 
Do you do drugs???
Posted: 8/12/2009 2:14:43 PM
If marijuana is so great and harmless why:
-do we teach our children to avoid drugs like the plague?
1. Because marijuana can mess up your math scores.
-do employers avoid weed users?
2. Because employers like people who follow orders.
Abiding the law is part of following orders.
-is almost all street crime related to drug use (weed included)?
3. The birth of organized crime was during prohibition when alcohol
was made illegal. Legalize drugs and those drug empires will crumble.
-do people still feel the need to conceal their habit?
4. Because you can get arrested, and thrown in jail.
All for putting a substance in your body. It might be mind altering...
But don't we have the freedom to control what we think?

I don't smoke marijuana. But I am not against it.
I am not against drugs. The mind works on chemicals.
The mind itself is ALWAYS on drugs.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
moving in with a ex
Posted: 8/12/2009 1:56:41 PM
Go masterbate.
Then think about this.
If you are seriously considering someone this messed up, she must f*ck really well.

(I speak from experience)
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
not too sure how to take this....
Posted: 8/12/2009 1:55:04 PM
The whole situation depends on if he finds you physically attractive or not.
I don't think women should be limited to only female friends.

Yet at the same time, I see friends as "The people that really like me but don't want to have sex with me for some reason."
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Need Guys Perspective
Posted: 8/12/2009 1:31:21 PM
jackal123, she looks athletic to me.
I've seen female gymnasts built like that.
Just a stalky build.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Fear
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:55:48 PM
Persistance!
Also realize that... Soul mates don't exist.
In fact... Soul mates are a horrible idea.

When someone commits suicide... Does that mean someone is now without a soul mate?

Then again, from a mathematical perspective, soul mates would explain why all the cool people live really far away from me. Right? If we took 500 PAIRS of marbles and put them in a can, and then shook that can.... What is the likelyhood that any of the marble pairs will be close to each other?

I am sorry, I am ranting.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Why Asian?
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:50:14 PM
There is something to be said for being different.
I went to Japan back in highschool and all the Japanese girls
thought I was really cute. It was bizzare.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
as reported by king 5
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:48:34 PM
AHAH!
This proves my theory!
Seattle IS full of trophy wives.
Thats why all the women as so beautiful.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Houdini acts
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:45:44 PM
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If attraction was based on a coin toss of two coins...
There would be a 33% chance that both coins land "heads up".
heads = that person is attracted. (Person represented by a coin)

So... 1 out of 3 people you find attractive will have MUTUAL attraction for you.

I know its not THAT simple. But it really is a numbers game.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
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if someone scared you by seeming too eager. . .
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:24:50 PM
It can sometimes be hard to tell if someone is psycho.
In fact, my favorite personality is the kind where I initially think they are
psycho till I get to know them better.
This is because there is a fine line between "fun and crazy" and "obsessed and psycho".
Though I would also say that...

We live in a society where we are not allowed to be ourselves upon first meeting people. There are certain rules of engagement. And though they are ridiculous and somewhat impersonal....

A sane person will know they need to be followed in the beginning.

Example 1:
Someone I don't know asks me what I like to do. I say "blow stuff up".
They get scared and run away.

Example 2:
I am with a group of friends from school talking about what we did
over the summer. I tell them I "Blew some stuff up."
No one gets scared, because they know me well enough to know
I am not a serial killer.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Does your ex still calls you?
Posted: 8/12/2009 12:17:38 PM
She thinks you are fun, but for some reason doesn't want to f*ck you.
You know how women have gay (male homosexual) friend?
You are basically that to her.

Sounds harsh. But thats how I take it when this happens to me.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
The no-chemistry conversation
Posted: 8/8/2009 5:51:45 PM
Sometimes I meet girls that really like me and are very entertained by me...
But the feeling is not mutual. Because, they just visit me so I can entertain them.
But they are unable to entertain me.

Like... If I have a crazy story, or a crazy idea...
I like someone who can bounce those ideas back and fourth letting them snowball out of controll.

But, you don't seem like someone at a lack for words.
He could just be hung up over his ex and doesn't want to settle for anything less beautiful than his ex. Because to him, he is capable of attaining such beauty and does not want to settle for anything less.

Its a horrible way to see it. But a realistic one.
Women priorotize power. Men priorotize physicalness.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Pornography... How prevalent is it's usage?
Posted: 8/8/2009 5:41:36 PM
Sex is dangerous. Porn is safe.
Most guys need to get off at least once a week.
Me, at least once a day.
But I am not a women. When I get dumped I don't end up right back into a relationship.
I average about 1 girlfriend a year.
So I am single most of the time. Thus, pornography most of the time for me.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
It must be a regional thing
Posted: 8/8/2009 5:28:01 PM
So, assuming what you say is true...
The reason for it would be aspirations and education.
Better educated and driven women, those who want a career, are more likely to hold-off having children.

In any place where women have better education and more rights, they have less children.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Background checks??
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:51:06 AM
Being cautious is never a bad idea.
Just make sure you get your information from a credible source.
I searched my initials "JMIM" on myspace and found a fake profile of a guy in an orange jail garb and a really disturbing profile. (Which I got myspace to DELETE)
Got me wondering if thats the profile women ran into when I gave them my myspace.
Then again, they should have been smart enough to see he looked nothing like me.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 172 (view)
 
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:46:34 AM
This is why people should go to dates naked.
That way they can't be judged for what they wear.

On a serious note, yes... It is very superficial.
But... Dating is all about physical attraction.
And physical attraction is... superficial.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Have you ever dated someone that killed your pet?
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:40:33 AM
With stuff like this happening its no wonder everyone has their gaurd up all the time.
I punched a friend of mine once because he chased my cats.
But I've never had anyone even try to kill my pets.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
left out small details...
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:33:02 AM
I could see a meth addict being intelligent. As one could be insane and wreckless yet intelligent. Though I could not see how a meth addict would be... attractive...
As they tend to be very skinny. I like curves.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Has the Economy affected you?
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:26:46 AM
If a man tells you you don't make enough money because of the car you drive....
You just might have more money than him.

Its called fiscal responsibility.
Unless you are a millionaire, you shouldn't be driving a fancy car.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
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Follow Through
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:23:57 AM
I am pretty sure the problem is not entirely quantity.
Its the ladder theory in effect.
A lot of people only date someone until they can "Find something better."

I guess my ex's idea of better is an abusive alcoholic.
My ego is still recovering from that one.
 JMim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Elitists.
Posted: 8/1/2009 5:09:35 PM
My grandma says my industrial music is atonal and repetitive.
I disagree. Much less repetitive than her folk and country music.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
are times of economic downturn.. times when the greatest creativity occurs?
Posted: 7/19/2009 3:45:08 AM
Historically, in economic downturns the entertainment industry flourishes.
Because, people want to get away from their troubles.
Artists are needed in the entertainment industry.
And art itself is a form of entertainment.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Are we being programmed for future shock?
Posted: 7/19/2009 3:34:58 AM
I am still waiting on my moving sidewalk....
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
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Pandora Radio
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:50:29 PM
Well, sometimes I am at school for 12 hours.
Maybe you just havent been on it long enough?

I also think that maybe it assumes I like certain types of music because I made a station for them. I sometimes create a station for a certain band when someone mentions them and I don't know of them. Its an easy way to figure out what people are talking about.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:41:47 PM
Speaking of the world being a better place if people were honest.
I have heard that transparency in government is an effective deterent against corruption. The second they do things we can't know about is the second they do things they shouldn't be doing.

Hmm... This looks like its going to end up our own conversation thread.
I hear there are rules agains that.

But anyways, speaking of being too honest...
Once I was at the store looking at lamp oil.
A guy asks, "Do you own a lamp too?"
I say, "No, I just like to light stuff on fire."
::End of conversation::

Or I guess that is a case of "Too Open."
As "No" is an honest answer, "No, because _____" is an open answer.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Psychological Trickery
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:32:03 PM
Because how you mess with people's heads. That is what makes up personality.
Its also called overcompensation.
Ugly people are nicer, because they have to be.
Shorter people are funnier, because they have to be.

an_earthling,
That is quite obvious.
But very entertaining as well.
Have you heard of xkcd by any chance?
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
TVs in bedrooms
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:58:02 PM
I don't own a TV.
I used to have one in my bedroom at my dad's house.
Bad idea. It really hurts good sleep.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Art Versus Commerce in Pop Culture
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:48:53 PM
As an animator I see this a lot. People will call something good "animation" when what they really mean is "Cool idea" or "Good staging". Animation being the actual timing of the characters movements.

As to art. People say its good art when they like it.
But to me, good art is anything professionally executed.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Pandora Radio
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:45:49 PM
I am listening to pandora right now.
But sometimes it P*sses me off when it decides to play
hip-hop on my goth-rock station.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Art vs. Craft
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:44:05 PM
Craft is when artistic technique is applied without underlying knowledge of the principles that make the technique effective.

Craft leads to replication, while art leads to innovation.

In an analogy to dancing.
Art is, telling someone, "Just feel the music and mess around and see what you get."
Craft is, "Copy what I do exactly."
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Do Men Really Want Honesty?
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:13:45 PM
Once upon a time I was in a store looking at lamp oil.
A guy asks me, "So you have a lamp too?"
I say, "No, I just like lighting stuff on fire."

End of conversation.

A completely honest answer would have been, "No, I don't have a lamp."
My answer was too "Open". This is the difference between openness and honesty.

Most people are not Open with people they do not know well. Therefor, if you are you will be assumed to have some serious mental issues. In fact, do anything out of the norm and people will assume you are on drugs.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Psychological Trickery
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:15:52 PM
Thats the point. Its an explanation that makes no sense.
But the meer fact that they gave an explanation, no matter how ridiculous, made them more successful cutting in line.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 169 (view)
 
why do people commit suicide in general?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:09:58 PM
What if, you're purpose in life has been fufilled and there is nothing more for you to do? What if the entire world has become like a boring movie you've seen way too many times? Why do we cling to life so strongly, even on the most boring of days?
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
 
If you could genetically engineer a mate would you?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:05:53 PM
gettingmygrove said:

If they are programmed to be with me, it is not a choice


I think the people who are with you are programmed to be with you. Only difference is we have to find out who they are.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Are we THAT busy???
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:00:25 PM
I've driven a girl in a wheelchair home a few times.
Only problem is when you are that nice to people they start to like you.
 
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