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 Author Thread: john's thoughts page. every one share a thought
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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john's thoughts page. every one share a thought
Posted: 9/26/2010 5:12:42 PM
this is somthing that I have kicking around in the back of my mind so I thought I would share it, I know its short but thought it was neat. I would like to read some others that P.O.F users have thoought.

I am not a mind, looking out at the world threw a set of eyes; but a soul looking out of a dirty window into a beautiful world.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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juust a memory
Posted: 12/17/2009 7:42:44 PM
Jasper Avenue is one of Edmonton’s party areas. It has many trendy restaurants’ and night clubs as well as bars. On the west end of Jasper were it hooks into 124thst are many unique shops and businesses such as comic book stores, bakeries, antiquity dealers, and erotic shops not so much pornography shops but more tasteful specializing in lingerie, catering to couples rather than singles looking for visual stimuli I live on this side of Jasper. In the middle of Jasper are night clubs bars and ethnic restaurants’, they usually bring along the crowds and rowdy drinkers this is were panhandlers’ hang out hoping for spare change, and the pusher’s are selling illegal smiles to partiers and bums alike. The bars and clubs usually have hoards of people in front smoking, because it is illegal to smoke inside. Though I don’t mind all the women outside, while I shuffle threw the crowds I wonder if it is busier inside of a club or the outside. Rarely do I visit or go in a club; crowds and noise pollution just is not my thing. This is usually were fights break out. Now every weekend many clubs have almost a permanent police presence and at the end of the night the streets smell like vomit. At the far East is the bad end of the neighbor hood with many nicknames it has been called the boonies, skid row, and recent times the hood. Don’t get me wrong this area does have charm it is one of the few areas that have historical buildings left in this modern city. For the east end of Jasper ave the 25 cent Peeps is the marker of the bad part and popular spot for prostitutes. I once went into the peeps; in the front, a selection of porn, a few toys and you can buy tokens to operate the peep booths in the back, and in the basement. The booths are in darkened areas in the back; lit up by black lights with glowing paint to help navigate threw the maze of porn stalls almost like rows of closets lined up in sort of a maze of cubicles all attached to each other, and all have glory holes. The peeps them selves are coin operated televisions that let you select threw porn channels a minute a token. The halls all have rooming gay men some are most probably homeless asking to give a blow job; very unsettling I pretty much about faced and left the store as the clerk was smirking at the obvious disgust on my face when I left. This is the usual rout I walk from my place on the west to the east end when I am going threw bouts of insomnia. Though there is a back story to the peeps area when I was a teen during the summer I use to work for office movers, usually they would work in after hours; so that an office or business could be set up and be ready for the next business day. Usually I would get off work after the busses stopped running in that area or they would be running at long time intervals so if I had missed a bus I would just walk home, which was directly across this area of town with no shortcuts to bypass. From time to time I would walk by the peeps usually being propositioned by hookers. After a while they recognized me and it became a game of witty pick up line and witty turn down. We even developed a repore and we would chat and talk about work and the night but usually I would tell them be safe and go on my way. From time to time they would grab me and rub against me or grab my crotch to get me horny enough to buy some company; I suspect they were just kidding with me because I never had a vehicle and I was a kid well I wasn’t the only one who was just a kid. They would have a chuckle though if I had said yes I wouldn’t put it past them to take the opportunity. But never did we belittle each other or have any disrespect toward each other, they had seemed to appreciate that; and once even told me that was what they liked about me, that I was courteous and treated them with dignity and I come to learn that some don’t really deserve to be ridiculed or treated sub human. Don’t think anyone does. Suppose every one just wants some dignity. But some of those people are in my thoughts and I hope they managed to be alright.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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what in a name
Posted: 12/8/2009 1:15:16 AM
The only thing I know of love is that inside I know; I am not whole without it.

My empty inside aches as a wonder about aimlessly.

Long to feel it and I fear losing it

Strong as I am, I am a weaker man to not have had it
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Why do we still shake hands ?
Posted: 10/26/2009 12:45:53 AM
Personally I feel that a hand shake is important. When a hand shake is offered it is more than a mere greeting it is also a way to help get a read on someone. personaly I have used a hand shake to guage how I will approach or deal with another.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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travel stores
Posted: 8/9/2009 7:01:26 PM
Thought it would be fun to share travelling stories.

A while back I had decided to cycle across British Coulumbia. When I arrived in kamloops after a praticulary grueling ride. I immediatly sought a backpackers hostel. After asking some of the locals and going the way their fingers pointed eventually I found the hostel. the hostel was a church; so I thought it was a converted building and entered. Despite obviously being in a bad neighborhood. When I had enterered the building a big strong ape of a man had greeted and introduced himself as the administrater. I asked if this was a backpackers hostel "no" he replied then he explained it was the church hostel for the homeless. I had went to excusse myself and find a hotel but the administrater insisted that I stay the night and had a bed made up. which was a plastic mat sprayed with disinfectent. pluse I had to shower in open area amongst the homeless. Before all that I was asked to turn in all possible weapons. so to the amazement of the people around us; they had witnessed me hand over a can of bear spray, cutlery, bowie knife, hatchet, and pocket knife. Once I got to the pocket knife their was quite a crowed. Every one thought I was a psycho. I never did have any problems that knight. In fact I had a good time, we were swaping travling stories, and talking about all sorts of things plus their was a free breakfast in the morning
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Why is everyone so afraid to think for themselves?
Posted: 7/12/2009 2:59:48 AM
I think the diffrence is on how creative people are. Being unique is some what of a paradox. After all it takes a uniqe mind to think of a new fashion, music genre, hairstyle etc. the problem is others want to be uniqe and borrow from another individual, to the point of what makes a person uniqe becomes ordanary.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Thoughts on truth
Posted: 6/4/2009 10:09:35 PM
i think that the truth is past what happens, happens. the things that stop us from seeing what is true are our own psyches. people add things to the truth, we can be deceptive, add morality, view events from diffrent perspectives, or be down right delusional. so when you add a human element to the way an event affects us it can be subjective when you take that away it is certin.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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yep
Posted: 4/18/2009 1:23:01 AM
it depends if sex is ll you are after sure, and besides sometimes it just happens but it would probaly leave the wrong impreasion in normal cicumstances
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Was This man telling me lies?
Posted: 4/18/2009 1:17:49 AM
okay so eleven years is a long time to break things cold turky add kids then it gets complex. after all he may want to be their for his kids and want to be able to have a good friendship with his ex so the kids dont have to live in an awkward situation growing up, as for the texts their probaly innocent but their is not much he can do if his ex wants to reminess over their past relation ship. besides haveing an ex with kids can be a little like walking on egg shells trust me if she wants to cause him grief she can be extreamly disruptive so maybe he is only being diplomatic. as for not answearing calls maybe he felt you were jealouse and just did not want to deal with it or set off a powder keg of emotions from his ex jelousy can persist long after a relationship as well.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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What is Owed?
Posted: 4/17/2009 8:17:18 PM
i think that in a society the the lowest standered of living is how we should be judged. i do not have a problem with community shelters, community soup kitchens were people are able to obtain the fundamental and basic needs to life. i understand that every one can make an error a bad judgment or just run into misfortune i have no problems giving these people they help that is needed to their specific situation after all i can find myself in need of help one day.i feel that ultimatly along with the help it is up to the helped to put forth the effort to use the help and make the extra effort to become self supportive. i do not support enabling negitive cycles of social degradation nor do i support those who do not want to put forth at least the minnimum amount of effort to live in socity these slackers are where they are because that is where they belong nothing venture means nothing gained they should consider them selves lucky they do not live in a forest like primitive man would you think they would survive long if they decided to just not forage for food, make shelter, etc socity needs all members to contribute what they can those who do not should be sent to the woods to fend for them selves.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Does God exist?
Posted: 4/16/2009 7:10:51 PM
nope we are all dellusional
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Can God be challenged conversationally?
Posted: 4/16/2009 6:33:30 PM
i think he would be bored. after all conversationally their would be no conflict because what would one debate with god its worse than debating with a woman exeped he would actually be corrected because as far as i understand he would be correct because he is god and according to religion god sets the moral standard where as a woman may always win the argument it usally threw stubbern refusal to aknowledg defeat...lol god arguing with a chick now that would be intresting.(no nookie for me tonight). anyways imagin haveing nothing to discover, no surprises,knowing everything like the outcome of all your faverite sports games i think the only conversation with god would either be advice or dictation. he would be bored so thats why he invented us so he could play practical jokes with us for all eternity after all god cant interfere with free choice so their for people are unpredictable thus entertaining to god.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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the key to being happy
Posted: 4/16/2009 4:11:52 PM
Okay so I have a friend who I talk to on occasion and every time I talk to him there is always a problem of some sort in his life. He tells me that he is trying to smile and make himself happy with the use off will power he believes if he goes threw the motions of pretending to be happy that at some point happiness will manifest in his psyche sort of the power of positive thinking type thing. I feel his problems, usually a recurring drama should be addressed and that if one is unhappy actually doing things that make yourself happy or are enjoyable is far more effective than just wishing for it or pretending I do not dispute that thinking can alter a state of mind or a mood but I would not think it is the cure all solution so I guess what I am asking is your thoughts on

Positive thinking vs. positive action which is the most effective at achieving a happy state of mind?

I feel action is best though I do not dismiss the idea that thought is essential to the mood a person is in I think it is more of a short term thing. personally when I am in a bad mood I think about jokes performed by my favourite comedians. But my over all state I usually try to manage things in my life so they are not as cataclysmic or detrimental to my overall state of being. What do you think ?
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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a thought
Posted: 4/13/2009 1:52:49 PM
wow very insightful ideas on the subject
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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a thought
Posted: 4/7/2009 11:39:38 PM
not just in stuff but spiritually, emotionaly and physically i suppose on all levels of humanity as well as consumerisim
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Does God exist?
Posted: 4/7/2009 11:10:09 PM
I believe in nature and that it does its best to change to its present cicumstances and that it is always balancing itself out and is always reuseing its energy and matter in diffrent ways to recycles itself it doesent act threw thought or emotion it is automatic and simply balances itself out threw action and reaction favering the most adapted to changing circumstance. I do not believe in god because i think the concept is made up. originally the idea of gods was to explain events that seemed supernatral and as we grew as a socity we have changed the image and the role god plays in our lives adding morlity, ethics, as well as explanations of who we are. i feel that god is something we made up for our own comfort. i do not have a problem with religious people if they find comfort in god then so be it maybe they simply understand somthing i do not. just as long as no one is trying to push their belieafs onto me i do not mind. after all said and done every one is speculating albeit some use beter data to make a thery more plausable we wont actually know for sure unless god himself actually makes himself clear. The only problem with religion for me is that relgion is always trying to please god mostly guessing at what he wants threww vauge scripture no one can be definate consider the literal vs metphor bebate amongst believers of a single religion let alon the diffrent ideas of who and what god is threw various relgions from present day to times past.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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a thought
Posted: 4/7/2009 10:22:25 PM
If we can be happy having met your needs, then we can appreciate what we have. Then the things that we want are never quite so unattainable. If what we want is what makes us happy then misery will always be a constant because what we want is always something we do not have.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Morality and Faith
Posted: 4/4/2009 3:26:05 AM
the fact that their are many religions that try to deal with absolut moral systems yet differ so widely spiratuly, cultraly, and politically let alone the many variant points of view that branch out in any given religion to try and interpit scripture to either suit thier own means or please an unproven or invisable diaty shows that morals systems are faulty.

It is not to say that i do not have my own list of do and donts but i do not subject my personal morals to absalute thinking after all our character is truly defined by our actions so it is not until we are faced with a delima that we know what we are made of i would also note that morals are subject to point of views things like wealth, education, experiance, etc may cause us to have diffrent opinions about any subject.

for example
abortion, a single woman who is impovershed, has no family or any family member willing to assist and no reliable father to help with support may choose an abortion. while a well to do person who has family support may choose to keep a child but shun the other woman.

you are in a bomb shelter with limited supplies and your neighbor is knocking on the door?

you invent a time machine do you go back and kill hitler knowing that you may alter the future?

which end of a gun would you choose the one that shoots or the person being shot?
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Are real naked women just bad porn?
Posted: 4/2/2009 7:37:41 PM
I think people who have a pornographic fetish may find it difficult to have normal relations with average woman i think if youth are overtly exposed to pornography it could lead to unhealthy expectations in their adult sex life possibly even feeling sexually inadaquit when they think all other men are suppose to have a huge penis and they are in fact about average size. but then again it has been argued the use of sex especially in the main stream advertising and media world have done simular things to woman own perception of them selves. i feel pornography has opened the doors to sexual diversity which i think is healthy but i also feel that if not distributed proper that it can have a negative impact on. however for me porn is a good way to obtain a state of arousel for masturbation but can never replace the real thing as for the question of subdued or not subdued woman i think that is a resault of woman being more equel to men.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Cops and FireFighters
Posted: 4/2/2009 7:10:46 PM
I understand that the law can make policing difficult at times it is important so police are unable to abuse the powers the public bestows on them on the same note it is up to the public to understand their rights when encountering the police to make sure they are kept in check. even if it makes it harder to enforce the law some of the redundant crap on the street is enuf to make any one jaded. like any profession their are people who are good at their job and others who perform poorly i feel cops who make it an effort to become part of the commmunity they are patrolling and use some discretion with the power they are trusted with are cool and have my full support the guys who see the public as mere civillians our worse yet the enemy and get a kick out fining, or pushing people around, abusing their authority and yes even commiting crimes themselves and using a badg to cover it up or protect other officers are useless and build lots of public distrust.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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damm theifs..
Posted: 4/2/2009 6:46:22 PM
as long as the kid is not permatly damaged it is okay in my experiance for small crimes all that is done is a report and when these punks do get caught they go back to what they are doing after all said and done. beside police are useless and sometimes power less when all my stuff was stolen by a cleaning lady who my father had hired and left alone. we found out were she lived, gave the police her name, and they refused to intervine and i was just a kid who was moving out on his own with very little to begine with maybe what this person did might not have been legal maybe he didnt change the punks life but at least he got some revenge it is not justice but at least it made him feel better
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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If you were sick and unable to be around to parent your child what sort of message would you leave t
Posted: 4/2/2009 6:29:20 PM
If you were sick and unable to be around to parent your child what sort of message would you leave them?


Me I would tell them that I wish I was around and that I love them unconditionally. Then I would tell them that at times life is unfair and it is okay to be angry at some of the unfair circumstances and life throws at you but it is important not to dwell on the miserable facts of life and that if you allow it life can be wonderful and that they should find a way to rejoice in the beauty life has to offer as well. Oh and I would leave a map of all the buried treasure.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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does the rythem of the universe help us along in life
Posted: 1/3/2009 11:00:57 PM
i guess i am dabling in luck, but rather why do others tend to be luckier than others.not so much gambling but just generally tend to get that unexpected break without any cause or effect
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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does the rythem of the universe help us along in life
Posted: 1/3/2009 10:50:50 PM
maybe not so much help people along(wrong way to describe what i am saying) but rather responsive to how people perceive thier surrondings. sometimes the unexpected result of an expected outcome.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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does the rythem of the universe help us along in life
Posted: 1/3/2009 6:36:06 PM
I am starting to think that the universe has a comical sense of humour. I have not been into the spirituality thing nor do I believe in pre determined destiny; however sometimes I get the feeling that the universe is helping me along threw life. Not to say that the universe is giving me lotto numbers or speaking to me directly but I think it helps those who are perceptive to it. though it dose not seem to run life; it seems to act as a guide in some sense. our free will still determines the outcome of our lives. however somtimes it feels like it helps out a bit . Or opens a door when facing a cross road of sorts but usually in some unexpected fashion often without relizing the help is needed. for example your car breaks down in the middle of nowhere someone stops and happens to be a professional mechanic. I think travellers may understand what I am talking about best it is hard for me to describe. I just want your thoughts on this
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
Msg: 26 (view)
 
An inspired thread from Welfare
Posted: 12/20/2008 7:32:56 PM
Every one is diffrent and every case would have diffrent reasons for happening to that individual. I don't mind paying into these programs myself, because it is always possible for circumstances to change for anyone. these programs are their to help people get back on their feet; so they can get back to work and support them selves. However i do feel that the programs should be tailored more specifically to getting people the help they need to remain productive citizens. It is stupid to give addicts cash very very dumb however rehab and access to support groups and possibly communal shelters may get people what they need ro be productive people again. Anyways i do agree that any one who uses this system as their primary way of income with little intension of keeping and holding a job for as long as needed to be back on welfare should be delt with like the boy who called wolf these people take money out of programs that help the truely needy. Many of these programs are good for socity for other resons as well they help reduce crime by giving desperate people a means of supporting themselves. they also show a community effort in society in where people are not just about self. abd they are available to you if you have sudden family, finacial crisis.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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your worst day (can you remember?)
Posted: 12/14/2008 1:39:16 AM
My worst day would be when i was younger and had decided that i would never see my mother again, i choose to live with dad at the time. Mom was insane so after awhile of obssesive calling and visits to the house which were almost always end with cops being called and other things i decided to give up on mom. after six months of not acknowledging her my father had finally talked me in to visting her. but i still remeber that feeling when i decided i didnt need a mom worst feeling of all
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Adult children who don't leave
Posted: 11/15/2008 5:58:08 PM
hi sometimes it is mutual neccesity for people to live at home for instance a parent has poor health and such. however i think it is important to push the bird out of the tree at some point so that they can finally apply the things their parent has tought them over the course of their lives to be socialy responsible etc etc. at some point in time we need to learn how to budget, survive, and mentaly deal with the set backs that happen. aswell as hold a job to pay for it all even in tuff times. praternal; instinct may be powerful their is no harm aiding advising or helping. but young adults need to learn threw experiance this sharpens their independance and life skills. after all if the parents kick the bucket whats going to happen to the adult child if he hasent learned how to fend for them selves

however if they move back for some practical reason they should be able to equaly contribute to the house hold as if they were living indipendantly with roomates
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Would you Canadians move to the U.S,Would you Americans move to Canada if you met someone on here?
Posted: 11/11/2008 7:47:51 PM
i like canada its people diversity and the fact that most problems that canadians complain about are actually quit trivial compareded to many other nations around the globe it has been rated as a top nation to live in by the united nations for several years. though ccanadians and americans share simularities canadians differ greatly when it comes to political social responsibilities than the states; we are often bombarded with u.s media such as cnn, fox, nbc, spokan news, tbs, etc more so than our own news so u.s politics sort of overshadow our own for instance the campaighns for obama. had more coverage than our recent election for stephan harper. so i think canadians cant help but get offended by some policies in the states and i think may share some of the same grievences as many other nations about some foreign policies.made in the last eight or so years however politics aside i feel amaricans come off as average ordinary people who are making it in the world the best they can and based on the few i had met maybe their is a bit to much demonization of u.s citizens
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Sick of evil
Posted: 11/11/2008 3:03:05 PM
src in our darkest houres our best is shown when their is disaster we aid each other even when the risk threatens the lives of those who aid. when facist fight though many die people stand.when people make walls between us their will always be people who will knock them down. and when all is dark the shinning light of hope will guid us all though great people will catalyst change it will be everyday people who will make change become a part of our normal reality.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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what is the best complement you have ever recived.
Posted: 11/11/2008 2:30:02 PM
well im wondering what are some of the best compliments you have recived i will start with mine.

when i first went on a cycling trip a co worker offered me advice on travelling, he had told me that i should keep open minded but cautious as i met people along my journey. though he looked like he had a bad past so to speak; often cusermers would avoid this person or be skeptical when he handled their thingst this person had dealt with obvious prejeduce on a daily baisis. before i had left on my last day of work he had confided to me that he liked that i exhibited a quality of treating people how i like to be treated and that i had treated him fairly on a social baises.and showed that he genuanly apreciated this aspect about my personality. to me that is probably the best compliment i have recived.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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socio-economic class and personality
Posted: 11/8/2008 9:47:53 PM
i think it is quit releitive, each class has its own set of challenges and rules to live by. in a certin class structure some one can be considerered upstanding amongst their peers. yet be considerd ignorant by another group of people. i have noticed however typically though not always it dependes on how people can relate to each other .if you were in poverty and are now middle class you may be more sypathetic to a person who is in poverty and may not rely on misconceptions same as middle to higher etc
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Would you Canadians move to the U.S,Would you Americans move to Canada if you met someone on here?
Posted: 11/3/2008 8:18:34 PM
hi single dad in florida i think their is really no place like home, even though our cultures are errily simular i think my decision to live at home would be motivated politicaly.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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If You Could Give ONE Piece of Advice to the Opp Sex.....
Posted: 11/1/2008 2:51:01 PM
woman stop with the because i am a woman thing be confidant to try things that guys do. i dont mean to be rude but sometimes women will refuse to atemped things because they lack assertiveness or feel they are not genderly capable.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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personal responsibilities
Posted: 11/1/2008 2:37:20 PM
I find it interesting how individuals pick and choose the things they are responsible for. However I do some times see a grey area where responsibility can hang in limbo. a person may feel they can’t be held responsible for a logical reaction for instance in a traffic dilemma where you must choose between hitting a vehicle that probably will suffer more damage and have greater risk to the occupants or a hitting a vehicle that is less likely to have any damage with less injury to the occupant even if injury occurs. Though the choice may have been made deliberately how accountable should said person be.

That goes with freak accidents as well at what point is some one responsible if there is no reason to be alarmed or ability to predict an event that may change someone’s life ?
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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personal responsibilities
Posted: 10/31/2008 10:35:21 PM
i think i may have gone too indeph with my example partly because of witnessing a few distubing policies maintnace has regarding family and kids how ever i suppose i am a little more curios about how far some individuals will acepted responsibility and at what points they should not be responsible like when an excusse is actually pluasible and is deserving of forgiveness or sympathy and such i jst wanna see what peoples thought and philosophys are regarding responsibility
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
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personal responsibilities
Posted: 10/31/2008 10:11:23 PM
Personal responsibility?. I have noticed that many people often have problems dealing with their own responsibilities. For example a colleague at work was talking about how the judicial system is often biased against men; when it comes to child custody. an issue that I personally feel is a valid point. This colleague was talking about how difficult it was to visit his kids, and the restrictions enforcement placed on his life. he was talking about how they make him take drug tests or how child support payments were being determined at the highest level of incomes but do not adjust during the lowest, lets say having a new job that doesn’t pay as well, but still being forced to pay on a percentage of the old job that had a larger salary. he had seemed angry that his ex had a degree of flexibility to adjust to changing economics and that she could spend the support payments on what she deemed fit; he did not have much say on the matter. I feel he made a good point because it proves very difficult for many men to be able to place themselves in a better position in life that may be beneficial to themselves as well as to a child and the fact that support payments sometimes don’t go directly to the child’s needs makes paying the payment difficult. Then he mentioned that he had a criminal record and because of this criminal record harsher restrictions were placed on his rights to his children. After talking for awhile he places blame on the person who had rated him out and caused him to go to jail. This got me thinking about cause and effect; after all he knew that the crime he committed was illegal and that their would be a chance that he could be rated out especially when some one was involved or knowing of his activities, the possibilities of being rated out were possible if not probable. I am sympathetic to his plight . However I wonder if he understands that his choice to be a criminal has placed him in this situation, regardless of the actions of the other individual, I assume my friend was aware that what he was doing could have possible reproductions with the law whether or not someone rated him out; and if he should accepted his plight, and deal with the penance as a result. maybe if he could admit to himself that he may have been in error he could focus more energy. earning and gaining the trust needed to have less restrictions on visits. I find that self awareness is key to personal responsibility. Others actions may play a role in the choices, we make and may often be a variable, that must be dealt with on the personal level; the variable may be confronted, and its effects on whoever’s personal life; Which may have a different set of consequences as a result. However the affected person should be responsible for how their choices affected themselves or others and so on. Sometimes we may find our selves in a catch twenty two position though either choice may be undesirable. shouldn’t individuals just have to find a way to deal with the matter and make the best choice on the subject with whatever information present at the time?. Thank you for reading I hope this made sense I would like to here your thoughts and opinions on this subject.
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Homeless woman's mental illness cured after police kill her with stun-gun..
Posted: 5/30/2007 6:29:47 PM
the streets can be chotic for every one including police officers many of them have to deal with some crazy s..t that often times dosent make sense or no amount of training can prepare them for any one who deals with some of the problem thay face may take stuff a little to far once in a while.

crack heads can be irrational and violent,mixed with mental illness though unfortanate can cause a wider gap on the reality of the situation. though the use of a tazer may be harsh especially when their are other ways of subdueing people and i dout that it may actually work that well on some one not in their right mind. i think its better than clubbing or any action that may cause permanant damage. as well as think about how often a tazer has been used instead of leathal force such as guns. it could have been an o.d or a tazer though unlikly or a combination of the two
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
Msg: 228 (view)
 
How do guys really feel about being approached by women?
Posted: 4/7/2007 5:11:43 PM
i think it is okay because it sort of takes a lot of pressuure of of us guys once in a while because when a guy is intreasted and asked a woman out he kinda leaves himself valnrable and that for some can be a verry awkward feeling
 johnzzz
Joined: 4/1/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Professionnal Dominant
Posted: 4/7/2007 5:03:41 PM
i do not think so many clint have preferances that are some what out of the sexual average and if some one hires a person to help fulfil a fanatasy it may be in someway a theraputic relife aswell as their may be more than a sexual exprince for a bottom though id agree that once itercourse is involved that it is prostiution
 
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