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 Author Thread: Is there anyone genuine in the UK?
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Is there anyone genuine in the UK?
Posted: 3/29/2015 5:15:27 PM
It seems like the same debate over and and over again , this site served its purpose for me when I was feeling sad and rejected by real life. I know its difficult to meet people to date in the real world if like me you dont socialise very much. But with online dating it is easy to belieive that maybe Mr or Mrs Right can find you on here and for some it happens but for most it doesn't . On reflection, I joined this site at probably the worst time when I was in the state of mind that I didn't want to be on my own forever.
But there is nothing wrong or sad or scary with being on your own. I have (and always have done) much more with my life as a single person than in any relationship.
I beleive the only way to find true happiness is to log off here, stop looking for another person to fill a void on here, spend time with yourself, embrace being alone with all the freedom that it brings . Once you actually enjoy being on your own you will enjoy relationships with other people better in the real world and will become strong enough to put " being in a relationship" to the back of your mind , if it happens it happens . But that it just my opinion on things .

This is only aimed at geniune singles on here that want a lasting relationship of course not if your just looking for a leg over in which case this with read like a crock of shite...good luck .
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
55 miles
Posted: 5/16/2013 11:25:33 AM
^^^^^ I am "they" .... Love conquers all!

Met my partner on here, I live on the west coast he lives in a similar seaside town 180 miles away on the east coast. Neither of us would have initially considered dating somebody within say half an hour away , but we met after many months of general chatting / telephoning / texting then met up in a group last September and have been a couple ever since. To date he has done all the travelling back and too ( lucky me ! ) and hopefully he will be able to relocate here .... but the main thing is we have good communication, trust, and know we want to be together. So never say never because you just never know ....
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 99 (view)
 
Do we judge our 'date' on his/her car?
Posted: 3/30/2013 10:28:53 AM
Dont you find that some second hand cars look quite nice on the outside sat on the forecourt on a sunny day and you read the service history and think, yeah, this car seems OK .

Then you sit in it for a while to get a feel for it and start to notice that there are some scuff marks on the interior and the floor mats look a bit crummy then you pop the bonnet to see the heart of the car and it is all black and oily and not very attractive at all ......

I find some people are just like that ... excuse me Im just waffling
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Do we judge our 'date' on his/her car?
Posted: 3/28/2013 3:58:54 PM
Personally I wouldn't judge anyone by what car they did or didn't own or drive ,

But I could judge a few peoples personalities just by their opinions on this post from the comfort of my home and that is without ever meeting them in person ...
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Is your brain male or female?
Posted: 3/8/2013 3:09:53 PM
I cant multitask at all ! I can park a car perfectly in the smallest of spaces and Im super at .... look at that on tele... what? Oh yeah I cannot multitask at all ..
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Two People
Posted: 3/8/2013 2:57:03 PM
...There are two types of people in the world.

Those who are schizophrenic :/
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 79 (view)
 
Friends with extras - Can it work?
Posted: 3/2/2013 2:34:24 PM
I think it all depends on timing ... and where you are both emotionally in life and what you are both looking for in the future .

As long as both parties know exactly what it is from the start , and they both know what they want , what they are doing and more importantly know it will never be anything more than FWB , then yeah I believe an arrangement like this can work between two friends, if only in the short term, and still stay friends afterwards, but again I really do think it is all about the timing being right !
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Way of meating British citizens ?
Posted: 2/24/2013 5:40:26 AM
If you obey all of the rules ..... you miss all the fun :)
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Way of meating British citizens ?
Posted: 2/24/2013 5:24:10 AM
I thought this thread was going to be about Horse Meat again !!!!! Ha !
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Do we/you discuss dating too much..?
Posted: 2/24/2013 5:15:43 AM
I understand what you are saying Jo Van, I dont come on here as often as I used to and dont use the dating side anymore myself, but when I first joined this site I felt a common connection with people on the Forums .. being single and not wanting to actively go out looking for dates in my real life ( that was just how I felt )

The Forums became my place to escape to and learn other perspectives about the ups and downs of cyber dating with a good few other subject debates thrown in.
I would look forward to hearing different view points on topics and eventually became to know how some of the regular posters would tick and how their personalities came across . I made quite a lot of online friends from here and since have met up with a lot of them in real life from all over the UK. Common denominator has always been most of us were single and looking for love/company/partner/a quick leg over or whatever .

So endless threads on here discussing "dating " will always be , as this is not a general topic board it is a dating site Forum and new people will always join this forum and will be interested in ...... "a place to escape to and learn other perspectives about the ups and downs of cyber dating with a good few other subject debates thrown in".

The circle continues.... that is how I see it :)
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 26 (view)
 
After nearly two years............
Posted: 2/22/2013 11:34:40 AM
Welcome to the Forums glad you finally found the best reason to log onto POF :)

I have been on here for three years on and off and still find the forums entertaining, surprising , fun sad or sometimes annoying. In that time I have been lucky to have made some fabulous on and off line friends through here and the Forums have kept me sane .. yes SANE for those that know me ;) .. on many a lonely night ! Have fun Kath and I hope you enjoy it here as much as I have ! x
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Continue posting after your dead ??
Posted: 2/20/2013 2:06:31 PM
I haven't seen Black Mirror so I have no idea what the program is about , but I had seen a few references to the program in the replies in the article I posted ......

I may catch up with it online and see how they deal with it .
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Continue posting after your dead ??
Posted: 2/20/2013 12:42:48 PM
Lushipher you would be too busy down there ruling your domain I suppose !

But I can imagine a lot of people signing up for this App , and it causing a lot of distress for quite a few loved ones left behind ...
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
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Continue posting after your dead ??
Posted: 2/20/2013 12:34:14 PM
Funnily enough Holy Crap ! is what I first thought too !!

Here is the one of the links I read
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2281603/When-heart-stops-beating-youll-tweeting-The-app-updates-Twitter-feed-grave.html
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Continue posting after your dead ??
Posted: 2/20/2013 12:26:55 PM
I was just reading about a some new Apps that can continue posting after your dead on certain Social sites , LiveOn, DeadSocial and If I Die .

LivesOn uses artificial intelligence algorithms to analyse users' online behaviour and their style of writing.
This allows it to scour the internet to post the kinds of links its users like, as well as mimic their manner of communicating and favourite appropriate tweets to create a personal digital afterlife.
An early post on the LivesOn Twitter feed pronounces: 'God doesn't exist, servers do. Sign up to the real after life.'

Would love to hear some views on this ? Good idea ? Weird ?

I wonder how long before POF offers this App? Carry on looking for eternal love in the afterlife ! :)
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 28 (view)
 
why are blondes never attracted to grey haired guys?
Posted: 2/9/2013 6:40:31 AM
Lets face it, some people are fifty in their twenties!!!
That is so true Pandora !!

Serious1y Msg 34 ^^^ .. No your not the only one ! ???
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
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Within two messages...
Posted: 1/16/2013 4:20:17 PM
Within a few messages with one guy off here , he asked what I did for a living, so I told him and ended my messages with my first name, like you do. Just from that information he turned up at my work premises ( where I also lived at that time) out of the blue delighted that he had found me on Google! Scary stuff ! Obviously I was less delighted and from then on I lied about what my occupation was ... Blind dates are OK as long as you both agree to meet in a place you both feel comfortable with but I would have never had a first date at their or my own address ..too scary !!
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Topless men
Posted: 1/10/2013 2:15:29 PM
I take "exception" to topless men in photos ......

"except" Fredforties .....pwhoaarrrrrrr !!! ;)

....think he is out of posts for today too ..lol
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Advantages Of The Opposite Sex
Posted: 1/5/2013 5:45:55 PM
I prefer the icing stuck to the bag , I much prefer an Iced bun without the Icing and besides that, a box is more difficult to carry around when you have got your handbag , mirror, purse and phone in your hands !
The Advantages Of The Opposite Sex is men dont have the burden of carrying handbags around with them ;)
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Is it ok to chat you up in a supermarket?
Posted: 12/29/2012 2:35:03 PM
Well it was fun for a few posts! :)

Question . Is it ok to chat you up in a supermarket?
Answer . Yes
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Is it ok to chat you up in a supermarket?
Posted: 12/29/2012 1:00:18 PM
I think most would rather be chatted up in a Supermarket rather than on here to be honest ! Unless your opening words were " Hi Sexy ! " Lol
I thought there used to be a singles shopping night at one of the big Supermarket chains ? Asda I think ? what happened to them I wonder ? But personally I would have been flattered when I was single to be asked out in a Supermarket or to be given a random phone number , the problem is how would you know who was single unless their trolley were full of TV dinners for one ! Ha
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Would you still be on POF if it wasn't for the Forums???
Posted: 12/15/2012 12:22:18 PM
[ Hi Tilly. I live long distance, but would still chase you round half the world. ]

Awww Thank you Allan Anger ^^^ If I wasn't already in one I might have let you !! :)

And that is why the forums are so great ! (Even though I couldn't post a reply in here for three days !! ) At least most of the people in here seem normal and down to earth and enjoy a good debate without being sleazy or scary ... It is nice to know I can log on here anytime and find something that interest's me , unlike the other side ..

^^^^Waves at Matt ...Hi !!
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Would you still be on POF if it wasn't for the Forums???
Posted: 12/9/2012 1:46:17 PM
Thanks .... I met him through the Forums though , so the Dating side has always been redundant to me, I was always more content reading on here everybody else's dating experiences/horror stories than actually date myself ! lol
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Would you still be on POF if it wasn't for the Forums???
Posted: 12/9/2012 4:07:36 AM
So from the majority of replies more posters are of the opinion that without the Forums they wouldn't still log on here ......
Personally I think this feature is POF 's biggest success :) I know without it I wouldn't have stayed just on the dating side for very long at all , or met my many hopefully life time great friends! I can honestly say that finding the Forums for me was better than any therepy money could buy ! Ha ha

And MsSunshine :) ....could you imagine the rabble that would turn up ! LOL !! ;)

^^ Cinders XXX lol ^^ I meant hypothetically !
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Would you still be on POF if it wasn't for the Forums???
Posted: 12/8/2012 3:39:58 PM
Thank you Gemini Lady :)

I agree if the Forums become a pay only feature then I wouldn't bother logging on any more either.
It's nice to know that in your unlikely event of meeting your own man thingy, you would still be on here to share your thoughts ! lol ........ Merry Christmas :O)
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Would you still be on POF if it wasn't for the Forums???
Posted: 12/8/2012 12:10:20 PM
I joined POF when I was in a dark and lonely place two years ago, I joined because I was then recently single and was recommend to join here by a friend. I had always thought internet dating sites were for weird saddo's ( that's was me! ) Anyway I never really had any intention of dating strangers I thought the idea of meeting somebody on a blind date off here quite terrifying, so for the first few weeks I was what I now know to be a "time waster" on here, I would reply and chat to messages but didn't want to meet. Then I found the forums and found the topics really interesting, funny ...sometimes depressing ... sometimes repetitive... but better than the dating side of POF .

I have been really lucky now 2 years later, to have made and met some brilliant friends off here and a fabulous man, but I still come back to catch up with the goings on ...still sometimes boring .. still sometimes repetitive .. ....but still additive ! I wonder if I will ever permanently delete my profile and not be a member any more ?
So would you still be on POF if it wasn't for the Forums???
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 34 (view)
 
which first, meet or speak?
Posted: 11/16/2012 11:19:21 PM
Ha ha!!!! I am so sorry Cinders ! We know you were my first love on here and you will always hold a special place in my heart, but this is where chatting on the phone comes into play , you wouldn't give me your number so Aggers got in there first , even though I did eventually meet up with you ( pwhoarrrr! ) ;)

Personally I found chatting on the phone first is very important, it is a great way of knowing whether you would want to sit with a virtual stranger for an random meet up before hand and if you cannot hold a conversation over the phone you can always end the call by pretending your battery went flat! Thats better for me than getting ready to go and meet an unknown person ( scary! ) not knowing whether I would have to make a quick exit out of the Ladies window !

So yeah speak before meet for me everytime !

^^^ By the way it's Skyfall luv ! ^^^ Gosh she cant even remember the film she is taking me too ! tut!

( luv ya Cinders xx )
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
which first, meet or speak?
Posted: 10/24/2012 1:54:12 PM
Everyone is different but I found my man on here after two years
...we messaged on here for about 4 months then via text and chatting on the phone and through another website for about 6 months ... then finally met face to face the end of September ... and now we are a couple and very happy ... so dont give up hope no matter how you initially meet :)
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Badoo - People Shown As Online When There Not
Posted: 10/16/2012 4:47:15 PM
........"so she is obviously using the app to access the site"....... There is your answer ....


......."so i rejoined just to keep an eye on her activity"......... That might be why .....
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 44 (view)
 
POF v Real Life
Posted: 9/24/2012 2:33:00 PM
Yeah and sometimes you can set eyes on someone after chatting on here and think ...OH Yes !!! he he
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 42 (view)
 
POF v Real Life
Posted: 9/24/2012 1:37:11 PM
Aww Cinders .... it isnt doomed to fail , its just an basic introduction to somebody you wouldn't normally bump into in the real world and it works !!! :)
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Musical guilty pleasures
Posted: 8/25/2012 11:54:49 AM
I like listening to all sorts of music mainly when I am doing house work ....
but I always end up putting my Bowie Albums on !
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Worried I've blown it with a phone call!
Posted: 8/13/2012 3:33:33 PM
^^^ Ditto to what tartanterry said ^^
So often I read through posts like this and never get to know the outcome, and I love a Happy Ending !
I hope everything works out for you both in the long term :)
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
The Distance Thing
Posted: 8/5/2012 6:15:55 AM
I think it is hard enough as it is to find somebody to connect with either local or at a distance .... either way would not bother me, if I thought he was right for me I would put the effort in no matter how far it was to travel .. you just never know, and the alternative would be to keep looking locally for a heck of a lot longer and maybe miss someone who you could both be happy with forever.

As andaloosa stated " he's worth it " wishing you all the best by the way, and I hope it all works out for you both :)
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
How do you cahnge someone's mind??
Posted: 8/4/2012 2:19:25 PM
Ha! ha! OP.... For a while there I thought I had been transported back in time to reading the problem pages of Jackie magazine !
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 4 (view)
 
first signs of domestic violence in both male and female
Posted: 7/26/2012 4:32:58 PM
Good for you Roxy ^^ I would have done the same luckily I have never been involved with any domestic violence but it would only take one small sign , like in Roxy's case and I would have been out of there .

It does seem it is quite common though from posts on here , people knowing the signs , which is awful !
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Can you have strong feelings for someone just by messaging etc
Posted: 7/25/2012 11:17:46 AM
I agree with all Jonny Viper has said ... but I also think that yeah your feelings are real for now, because you are feeling something when he text, and so he is too ..... but those feelings will probably change when you meet, I hope for the better for both of you, and I wish you both all the best :)

Interesting post !
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
not sure legally how i stand anyone maybe have a clue..???
Posted: 7/25/2012 6:47:22 AM
Thanks OP for writing the conclusion to your dilemma....

And as posted before happy mowing !
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Wanting Christian Grey.....
Posted: 7/24/2012 3:31:57 PM
I totally agree ^^^ But

" Jeez. Why don't they get a life and try something different with their partner."

Some of us has to find a Partner first ;)
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
I have found the answer !
Posted: 7/24/2012 2:17:35 PM
I have just replied to somebody 14 years older and I replied
Hi thanks for the message , but I am looking for somebody of a similar age , I wish you all the best on here :)

The poor chap sent me a message back that gobsmacked thanking me that I had replied at all .... isnt that a little sad! It only took me two seconds of my time !



VVVVV Ha ha ... Oh well back to the drawing board !

It's a funny ol thing this POF ...lol
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Wanting Christian Grey.....
Posted: 7/24/2012 10:29:33 AM
I havent read it nor do I have any inclination to read it either ...

But I think the tides are turning from what a woman wants from a man ( or maybe they have always been this way ? )... from what I understand from my frinds that have read it, forgetting about his personal issues for a moment. Most women I know still would like a manly man who in charge without being a bully... a cross between John Wayne , Rhett Butler and Bruce Willis fighting for his woman in Die hard , ....oh and ending with the scene from Yanks where Richard Gere strides into her workplace and carries her off into the sunset ....

Swoon.... yep a manly man that is in control but not a control freak

The thing is he only exists in the mind of most women.............Houston I think we have a problem !
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Profile Ideal?
Posted: 7/24/2012 10:00:09 AM
I like your profile , better than some I have read on here , and plenty of pics which is always good .

My only comment is your line .... I'm slim (I can fit into size 12 jeans - just) ... Isn't that a womens size? And also there is nothing wrong with going out and buying a Harley if the mood takes you, whatever your age ! :)
 tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Men and Gardening
Posted: 7/23/2012 2:35:20 PM
I wouldn't do it if I were you Tom Tom ...it looks great for a couple of weeks then dead leaves, debris and all sorts of flying bits get stuck in it and then you have to keep raking it to look like new again, you cant beat slabs !!! With a few nice pots here and there :)
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Blank Description ?
Posted: 7/22/2012 4:14:18 PM
LOL Cinders :) .................

............................................
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
I have found the answer !
Posted: 7/22/2012 12:18:08 PM
I used to reply with something similar Gail ... but the following week I would get follow up messages asking how it was going... but like you said it is lying and I hated feeling guilty that I had had to lie, why should I , I want to enjoy this site without feeling bad or start getting down about it.

So I am honest now and my reply above seems to stop conversation dead ... its working :)
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
I have found the answer !
Posted: 7/22/2012 11:45:39 AM
Well that would depend on who was asking Hams !
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Men and Gadening
Posted: 7/22/2012 8:41:32 AM
Nige you are so fickle ...LOL

Previous post " being a boob man they looked good.( Boob tube) "

Maybe you are just a woman man after all ... psml

Yeah I dont like gardening ..on topic!
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
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Men and Gadening
Posted: 7/22/2012 8:31:28 AM
I have fazes of attacking my garden, I love to see other peoples lovely well trimmed and pruned gardens , but I get too distracted with other things to spend hours pottering around mine on a regular basis .

Employing a gardener is a thought I have never had ...ermm interesting thought !
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
I have found the answer !
Posted: 7/22/2012 7:26:25 AM
That is just it... I dont ignore messages but I am always stuck for a nice short ..no..reply

And when the messages stop, I will stop logging on .... Oh and call me a Bad girl again ;)
 Tillybud1
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 1 (view)
 
I have found the answer !
Posted: 7/22/2012 7:11:02 AM
I have found the answer !

The last three messages I have received from guys that I know instantly I am never going to be attracted too ( sorry but age, looks and spelling does count with me ) instead of me replying sorry thanks but no thanks or similar, when they have asked " hi how are you ? "
Each time I have replied " fine thanks I am just logged on reading the forums "

Each time they have just replied ..ok x

I dont feel bad anymore and I am not ignoring them ... and no further questions !

If you are not interested what is your reply ?
 
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