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 Author Thread: women hate short men
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
women hate short men
Posted: 7/19/2012 2:36:57 PM
Justin - Yes, it's harder to get dates being shorter. That said, the same could be said for bald, spongy middled aged blokes like myself. Fact is, you just have to build on your other qualities and present yourself as a bloke who is essentially happy with himself and recognises his own worth.

Your profile basically says 'im short...it's awful...'.

When you should be saying 'im a great bloke because ....oh, and im a bit short and if that's a problem to you f. off'.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
first signs of domestic violence in both male and female
Posted: 7/17/2012 2:40:03 PM
Abusive men/woman will often try and rush through the courtship stages because they're unable to maintain the 'nice' persona for very long.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
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Im 50 but act 25
Posted: 7/8/2012 3:17:00 AM
Off topic, I do recall trying the line 'an older broom knows all the corners...' in my bestest barry white voice - failed misserably.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Why do you want a partner
Posted: 7/8/2012 3:14:20 AM
I think the key is to 'want' a ptr to compliment an established and happish life rather than 'needing' a ptr to find that happiness.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Im 50 but act 25
Posted: 7/8/2012 3:09:22 AM
Sounds to me like Benny Hill syndrome - good look to the old codger I say, he'll catch one eventually.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Rubbish at Sex... Any Suggestions?
Posted: 6/24/2012 1:11:25 PM
Mr Bear - would buying viagra off the net sort things out? Simple solutions are often the best.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
medical intervention
Posted: 6/24/2012 12:55:49 PM
Operating on a child with a genetic defect means they now live and pass the defect on. Result - more defective children in the next generation


It might just be me but this struck me as having a rather bracing, national socialist air about it. If you extend the logic of denying treatment to those you deem unfit or unworthy where do you end up?
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
the idea of controlling ...
Posted: 6/24/2012 12:44:46 PM
awwwshucks - your post struck a chord with me. I was in a similar sort of relationship many moons ago. At the time I thought I was a knight in shining armour. But on reflection, I think any relationship where one party has to be perpertually 'greatful' to the other is a form of control. Gratitude turns to resentment, on both sides.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
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The wonders of the job creation myth
Posted: 6/14/2012 12:48:15 PM
I work in social work; a couple of years ago anyone with a pulse and the qualification could get a job...now there's perhaps 80 odd qualified candidates for each post and the once lucrative locum (temp) work has more or less dried up. That's not necessarily a bad thing, there's only so much public sector one economy can maintain. I think the UK needs an expanded private sector and it's there where the future jobs are to be found.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Would guys have a relationship with a girl who has a disability?
Posted: 6/8/2012 3:35:17 AM
I think I wouldn't knowingly start a relationship with a disabled woman but if one grew naturally, say falling for someone at work or a loved one becoming disabled, then it wouldn't be a barrier (some questions can't be answered hypothetically, we always imagine that given harsh circumstances we'll act honourably).
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 3 (view)
 
What words should be banned from profiles?
Posted: 6/5/2012 4:28:34 AM
woman should cease expressing a liking for '...the finer things in life'
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Do women actually WANT a nice guy, or do they just say they do?
Posted: 6/4/2012 1:39:51 PM

I want a man that worships the ground I walk on, is rich beyond my wildest dreams and is so good in bed I constantly have what the French call little deaths


Fair enough, yet when I put my wish list to woman '...twin sister, brewery owner, goes like Romel...' I get immeidiately blocked. There's no justice.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Time taken up by Masters Degree
Posted: 6/4/2012 1:13:30 PM
A lot depends on the subject, some MA's will have placments that you'd have to complete.

Z.
BA (Hons)
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Do women actually WANT a nice guy, or do they just say they do?
Posted: 6/4/2012 12:38:01 PM
Cruse - Being 'nice' is not the same as making a woman feel 'special' or unique - which I think is closer to what they actually want. Perhaps use 'niceness' as a means to focus on qualities about the woman that you find appealing?
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
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When is a joke not a joke?
Posted: 5/27/2012 11:43:40 AM
Perhaps the question is, why do you tolerate such behavior. Perhaps the answer is that you need to appreciate your own worth and value?
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
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When is a joke not a joke?
Posted: 5/27/2012 11:26:51 AM
Sounds to me like your 'friend' is center stage with you, plantonic guy, and new male man revolving around her. Why bother with it? You don't want to have a walk on part in someone else's drama, life's too short. Spend your time with people who will value your feelings and as you yourself should.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 64 (view)
 
My son/daughter will always come first.
Posted: 5/23/2012 11:01:29 AM

I have kids but i dont mention them on my profile as frankly i dont see what they have to do with me dating.


I think it's fair to anyone that would want to date you to know in advance you have children. It's going to put some people off, which is fair enough. I parent my kids most weekends and says so on profile (which adds to my general undatability, but hey ho), I wouldn't want to meet anyone that didnt understand from the start the commitments I had.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Divorce?
Posted: 5/22/2012 1:37:30 PM
quote]There are genuine reasons why contact hasnt progressed and my daughters welfare is at the centre of those. My ex has been advised on many occasions on how contact can progress and has consistently ignored and advice given (by solicitor, not me - and contrary to his beliefs my solicitor isnt as one sided as he'd like to believe). We dont have, and havent had a working relationship for the past 18 months. It has taken a very long time for my daughter to adjust to her new situation and gain some of her confidence back and i strive to keep her away from any disagreements. The same cant be said for her father.

The fact is that your ex does not have a legal duty to tell you where his dtr is during his parenting time, likewise you don't need to inform him of where your taking her. It would be nice if you both would, but there you go. If your ex is not looking after his dtr properly that's terrible, but is it possible he's on a learning curve? If he is never given the opportunity to build his experience/confidence how will things ever progress?
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Divorce?
Posted: 5/22/2012 1:09:51 PM
Why not try the family mediation service? Maybe work together on a parenting plan, something that allows him the prospect of parenting his dtr in the future and gives you the peace of mind you need. If you start developing a good working relationship who knows, maybe he would gladly pay over and above the odds as well?
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 4 (view)
 
The north south divide on poverty
Posted: 5/22/2012 1:06:28 PM

clever ploy, defend the immigrants and slag off the Brits before anyone says anything negative about foreigners


Not at all, love my British brethern. All im saying is a child growing up to be poor will have more to do with the expectations of his parents than the comparative poverty of the area he grew up in.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
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The north south divide on poverty
Posted: 5/22/2012 12:48:45 PM
I think what keeps people poor in not so much lack of money, but a poverty of expectations. I've come across people who are immigrants to the UK, dirt poor, yet battle against huge odds to ensure their children lead sucessful lives. Conversely, some born n bred folk will ignore the opportunities in front of them and just accept a seconday status is their lot.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
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Divorce?
Posted: 5/22/2012 12:41:59 PM

He has been vocal since the split that he wants my daughter to stay overnight


He wants his kid to stay over some nights and your saying no? Am sure you could make it a 'long drawn out process' if you put your mind to it but unless there are real child welfare reasons to prevent it, he will eventually get a contact order. By which time any hope of a maintaing a working relationship between you both would have turned to dust and your kid will be caught in the middle of two waring parents.

My advice would be to offer sensible contact proposals now.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Dating superior/inferior careers to your own
Posted: 5/14/2012 12:04:09 PM
I reckon if there is a power imballance in the relationship... by money, level of attractiveness, emotional commitment...then your going to have problems. Dating someone with a better carear is fine I think, so long as the feels feels sufficiently good about themselves that won't be made to feel second best.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Intelligence and Politics
Posted: 5/10/2012 2:19:45 PM
I work in an environment where being left wing is the default position - politically everything to the right of, say, Frank Field is beyond the pale. In such a place it takes a strong willed person willing to argue with intellectual rigour to advocate a Conservative position. No matter if your tory or labour, the test of your political intelligence is surely a willingness to think outside your tribal politics and argue your own independent thoughts.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Degrees or not
Posted: 5/8/2012 1:26:03 PM
Can't help feeling that within a dating context saying 'I have a degree' is the same as admitting to being a bit up yourself. Sure men and woman are going to hint at occupations and interests that define who they are and what they're looking for...but I certainly wouldn't want to assume a position of superiority over people who may not have had the same opportunities.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
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Pleas explain like I'm an idiot how to do the quote boxes.
Posted: 5/8/2012 4:58:55 AM
..if you edit a comment that has lots of quotes within it, the formatting sometimes goes 'screwy' so then....
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Pleas explain like I'm an idiot how to do the quote boxes.
Posted: 5/8/2012 4:56:48 AM
"this is a test"

test
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Degrees or not
Posted: 5/8/2012 4:46:42 AM
I have a degree, but it's worthless

I think as a parent being able to tell my son I have a degree now you go get one has been important.
On the dating front...i can count the times a woman has looked into my eyes and whispered softely her admiration for my 2.1......on zero fingers.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
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Degrees or not
Posted: 5/8/2012 4:27:08 AM
My experince of doing a BA is that there is little relation between how hard you work and what you actually achive. Some students can coast along and hit a decent grade, others will transribe every lecture as if it's the word of god and still fail. Also, some students will live on campus and do nothing but study; others will balance parenting and work and still manage to come up on top. Someone with a pass mark may have worked harder than someone getting a 1st.
 zonked123
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Degrees or not
Posted: 5/8/2012 3:54:49 AM
I've learnt on this site is that when woman list what attributes they're seeking 'inelligence' is always up there - along with sense of humour. Maybe that links in with accademic qualifications? If your after a Hugh Grant clone I guess it's a starting point.
Now I know some realy intelligent people who are complete scombags and coversely some of the nicest decent people I've come across have been down to earth to corry watching folk. Bottom line is horses for courses.
 
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