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 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Stop texting!
Posted: 8/17/2016 3:14:29 PM
Blackwood my G----She did you a HUGE favor.

Aside from you getting to see how rude she is, right outta' the gate. (If you're ever bored, Google: "Aggressive Social Insolence." There is a good article linked, titled, "Talk to The Hand". Anyway, that broad is also pretty FN clueless too. I mean what 30-something female invites a virtual stranger to THEIR house for a first date? That's pretty reckless on her part. Then, on top of that, if I read your post correctly, you drove the both of you to a bar. That's twice that she put herself in the hands of a stranger. Nothing against you. It's just not prudent or intelligent behavior on the part of a female meeting a guy for the first time. Hell, I would NEVER invite a woman I did not know (or feel I 'knew' fairly well........................since 'nobody really 'knows' anybody) to my home. Too many things can happen, and most of them are not good. Some damaged woman, with an ax to grind accuses me of something, and the next thing I know, 5-0 is at my door.

Hell to the nawl. Public meetings for the first few meetings, until I get a feel for the woman's vibe.

Never divulge the secret location of the Bat Cave.

However, I digress; the only suggestion I would offer to you, as it pertains to the texting is............................next time you are planning to meet a woman (that you don't know) for a date, meet, whatever.................When making plans on the phone prior to the date, say something along the lines of, "Unless you have some kind of pending emergency, can we agree that we'll keep our phones put away (on vibrate of course, you never know when important people will receive a call from the POTUS, or perhaps their investment banker might be calling regarding a potentially lucrative IPO), so that we can focus on getting to know each other?"

I think that this is an extremely reasonable request. And, if her dear ol' granny is in the hospital and she NEEEEEEEEEDS her phone to be attached to her hand..............................well then (NikonGuy....................I'm only suggesting what I would do) would insist she postpone any dating activities (with me), until dear ol' granny is 'out of the woods' and made a complete recovery.

Unfortunately, I find nowadays more than ever, you have to be VERY specific and deliberate in your communications with people.

My .02. YMMV
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 188 (view)
 
Why do men act like they are always busy?
Posted: 8/16/2016 4:22:44 PM
Agree 648% with the person who mentioned to add, "for you" whenever someone talks about how busy they are.

Shortly after my last post to this forum 2 years ago, I went through a period of about 4 months, where I was working 35 hours per week (every week) at one job, 25 hours per week (every week....................doing overnights) at another job, taking a 3 hour class once per week, working out 4 days per week, AND studying for a State exam for that class.

I was not dating anyone at the time however, even with ALL of that going on, if someone who rang my bell had crossed my path, I would have "made it happen".

In a dating context, I don't know anything about the frequency that men claim to be "busy", but I personally know at least 5 women who watch a damn lot of TV and/or spend a lot of time staring into their phones, like it contains all the answers to the universe, i.e. "doing nothing", but will swear to anyone who will listen, that they are, "super busy".

Truth be told, I get equally annoyed by hearing how "busy" someone is, regardless or whether it's a man, woman, relative, etc.

Busy doing what? Curing cancer? Brokering peace in the Middle East? Stem cell research? GTFOHwTBS!
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Excuses, excuses
Posted: 8/16/2016 3:52:16 PM
Hey NDM---I don't know how to do the quote thing, but thank you for your kind words.

Yeah, I'm sure what I typed goes equally for both genders, just that I never tried to date a dude. LOL!
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Excuses, excuses
Posted: 8/15/2016 3:59:18 PM
Blackwood my G,

You already know what to do.

Unless a guy got into a relationship with the first female who smiled at him in the 9th grade,
we've all had a dry spell or 5.

People will waste your time..................shamelessly, and not think twice about it.

Waaaaaaaay back in the day, I knew a guy who once said, "When you're in a slump, RAISE your standards" I think most men get into a slump and LOWER their standards. I know that I have.

You look like a young guy of 25 or 30. I don't know your location, but at that age, there are WAY, WAY, WAY too many single, cooperative, women out there, for you to be tolerating the nonsense you have described. Now, if you were 45. 55, 65, etc dealing with all the divorced, separated, and otherwise emotionally damaged women with their "busy" schedules, play dates, grandmotherly duties, and conquering of Corporate America, then, that'd be (somewhat) understandable.

Everyone is different, but I'd rather sit home and listen to music or take a walk alone downtown than waste any more time on a female such as you have described. Every minute that you're focusing on this broad, is a minute that you're not out doing your thing. "Opportunity cost" my G. You can't put a price on "peace of mind".
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 97 (view)
 
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/22/2015 10:19:44 AM
Nobody "knows" anybody.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 170 (view)
 
RANT
Posted: 10/17/2015 1:44:59 PM
Over-packaging.

I'm not an "environmentalist" by any means
but,
why the ^%$# do I need a pair of bolt cutters, a machete, and an acetylene torch to open d@mn near anything sold in a multi-national, big box store.

FN ballistic plastic.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 84 (view)
 
Texting or Calling?
Posted: 10/14/2015 10:17:37 PM
Thank you Eric.

I always read your posts.

In my opinion, you are the POF forum's "voice of reason".
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 198 (view)
 
What are men in their 40's looking for
Posted: 10/13/2015 2:51:09 PM
I was VERY careful
to start out my answer with the words, "FOR ME".

To my knowledge, I have never been cheated on by a woman.

No woman that I have been in a "relationship" with, has ever initiated a break up with me.

A LOT of dates have said, "Kick FN rocks NikonGuy (and fall on something sharp while you're at it).
But,
NOT an ex-wife or girlfriend.

I come on here and type a lot of &$#^, but IRL, any woman who gives me one, more often than not, get's two (or more) in return.

C'mon, can't we be 'real' here for a minute?

We're all friends, right?

At least on the surface, where it counts.

Oh YES, let there be absolutely NO DOUBT, I most definitely, "Keep score".

Almost everybody does. You do at school, at work, and in your relationships.

That's what all the, "I emptied the dishwasher the last 3 times.", "You brought the car back with no gas.", "I do ALL the housework." "I get up EVERY night to feed the baby." stuff is about.

And the reality is........................it causes resentment.

"Resentment" is like cancer to a relationship; doesn't matter whether it's a business partner, a colleague, your boss, or your S/O.

Anybody who doesn't "keep score" is lying, naive, or a Saint.

The "cosmic ledger" is very real.

Yes, as an earlier poster wrote, (something to the effect), 'The demise of most relationships comes down to one party feeling like they're doing the 'heavy lifting.'

I concur.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 193 (view)
 
This your opinion and stating this doesn't increase your value, IMHO.
Posted: 10/13/2015 6:18:07 AM
For me,

Sex will NOT get or keep me.

The way I see it, for A LOT of women, that's pretty much all they have to offer. And, that is precisely why they mention it so much, ("He's only after one thing.", "Not here for a one night stand.", Woo, woo.) They're one trick ponies. Once they play their "sex" card, there is NOTHING else.

If I had to boil it down to a single thing, it would be that I better not ever get the thought, feeling, or impression that I am working harder at the relationship than you are, because if I do, "That's ballgame."

I like an attractive woman as much, or more than the next man, but the operative question which would perplex the hell out of a woman (in real-time), not on the Internet where she would have time to formulate an answer is, "Aside from your appearance (sex), why should a man (that you're interested in), want to get to know YOU?"

Female Ralph Kramden: "Well, I uh, I'm a good person, I can cook, uh, ummm, uh. Humina, humina, humina.............................."
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 125 (view)
 
'Stayover relationships' -- Would they work for over 45s?
Posted: 10/11/2015 3:20:43 PM
@Dee,

I agree with you. I think it would be 'normal' (or at least disappointing, if it's not the preference), that a majority of 20 & 30-somethings WOULD want to live together.

But, this topic was specifically directed at the +45 crowd.

One hypothetical example (for me), as to why I am not likely to ever voluntarily live with a woman:

I am NOT a "people person". I do not know, or speak to my neighbors beyond, "Good morning", however, I love living in a city. I like the energy and convenience of living in a city. I dislike everything about the suburbs. I REALLY dislike any type of yard work (mowing, raking leaves, planting flowers, weeding, etc). If I lived with a woman, I could envision a scenario where she says something like, "Those weeds are really growing around the patio." (which is often womanese for, "You see those weeds, when the hell are YOU going to do something about it?")

I purposely do not have a yard. However, if she does not live there, then she would not particularly care one way or the other about the weeds.

My point is.......................there are certain expectations that people (tend to) have when they live together, that they (tend not) to have, when living apart. Most people are more 'flexible' at 28 years of age, than they are at 48 or 58 years of age.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 123 (view)
 
'Stayover relationships' -- Would they work for over 45s?
Posted: 10/11/2015 12:21:07 PM
There are A LOT of things not to like about America
however,
we are so incredibly fortunate that so many Americans have this option.

I have read how in a lot of countries, (Italy & Japan) come to mind, even adults who want to, cannot afford to move out of their parents homes.

I was NEVER enthusiastic about living with anyone else. Not in kolledge and not even when I was married.

At this stage of the game, barring some type of unforseen medical situation, I cannot see living with anyone.

Hell, if I had to, I'd rather work 3 jobs just to live alone, versus 1 job and living with someone else.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 192 (view)
 
Would you use a prostitute/escort? What do u think of people who use them?
Posted: 10/11/2015 12:09:19 PM
I have never done it
but,
I am not against it.

Never even thought about it, until years ago, an older, married guy (very high-level guy in the pharmaceutical industry), brought it up and how much he enjoyed it. Aside from him just not seeming like the "type" to use a hooker (high end or not), it was surprising because he was a good-looking guy, WITH money.

I have seen some, strolling around casinos, hanging on the arm of some dude who looks old enough to be her father, that damn near looked like models.

You can catch a whole host of diseases from a random broad at church, your night class, your job, or your local watering hole.

If anything, I would guess that a high-end prostitute is ultra careful, because it's her livelihood.

I don't see making a "cold call" to one
but,
if I were out somewhere, she was attractive, and her conversation game was on-point, then, there is a good chance I'd give it a shot.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 145 (view)
 
Men happier married vs Women happier single - according to research
Posted: 10/11/2015 11:51:51 AM
Yeah, I tend to believe that, in the over 35 crowd, "More often than not, men are happier when they're married, and women are happier when they're single."

In general, (among the +35 crowd), I think men tend to be more needy than women.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Opinions on Car Doors
Posted: 10/11/2015 11:43:40 AM
I still do it (for her to get IN the car, but not out of the car). Women seem to appreciate it.

For me, it is a very practical thing.

If we are out somewhere, and someone where to approach her (panhandler, purse snatcher, whatever), it is better for me to be THERE, versus sitting in the car looking stupid.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 125 (view)
 
At Our Age Do You Date to Date or Find a Mate?
Posted: 10/11/2015 9:59:11 AM
I know that it sounds much "cooler" to say/write, "Oh, I just go out to enjoy the moment and 'see what happens.'"

But, the reality (for me), is that I have found precious few (like 1 or 2) women in my life, where I didn't find it a d*mn chore, just to go meet them. Where I truly enjoyed their company, just for the sake of it.

It's "1 in a million" rare to meet someone where there is attraction AND reciprocal, interesting conversation where the time just flies.

I think Walts put it best, a while ago, in a similar thread, "At our age, who the hell enjoys dating?"

My sentiments exactly.

ENOUGH with all the..............................."What kind of food do you like?", "What do you do for fun?", "What's your favorite color?" Woo, woo.

only to have to do it ALL over again in 6 months, 2 years, etc.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 204 (view)
 
Do you feel the need to live with somebody at our age
Posted: 10/11/2015 9:46:56 AM
Most definitely NOT a "need" or even a want.

I would LOVE to meet, "the one"
but,
unless we hit the Lotto, and could afford a HUGE (like 7,000 square foot place, where we could each retreat to our separate wings when we want to be left the hell alone) place (with servants),
I do not think I am capable of living with ANYBODY. The only possible exception MIGHT be, a woman who works A LOT of hours, like 60+. Very often, I like nothing more than to sit somewhere in TOTAL silence and reading or surfing the Internet.

Not to mention, MOST women in my age range tend to aspire to live in the suburbs, with the picket fences and all that.
That will not work for me. I am a loft-living city guy. I 'could' do VERY rural, way, way, WAY out, with no neighbors in site. But, HELL NAWL to the suburbs.

And, for ME, as someone wrote earlier, the problem is........................."the longer you live alone, the more difficult it becomes to incorporate someone else into your routine."

I really ENJOY coming home to an empty house. Not having anyone questioning me, asking me to fix something, or asking me banal questions like, "How was your day?"

Really? How the hell are you supposed to answer that question? It is the epitome of just talking just to talk.

A married friend of mine once asked me the most interesting question I have ever been asked, "NikonGuy, do you think you've been single too long?"

Probably, but I even had a difficult time with roommates in college. I have been used to my own stuff, my own way, and my own routines. Call it spoiled, lucky, or whatever.

As crazy as it sounds, in theory, I could even see marrying again, but we would have to maintain separate households (like the Hollywood crowd does it). Not that they have the best track record, but, just sayin'....................................
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 211 (view)
 
sexiest outfits ?
Posted: 10/11/2015 4:18:22 AM
For me, it would be a tie between her wearing:

1) Matching bra & panties (with garter belt and thigh high stockings) and open-toe high heels.

or

2) One of my dress shirts (buttoned up), sleeves rolled up to her elbows (nothing underneath), bare feet, wearing only a chunky men's wrist watch.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 194 (view)
 
What do people think of a girl at a bar alone?
Posted: 10/11/2015 3:54:53 AM
Just thinking of the broads I know. They're all timid, and scared of their own shadow.

I am not, nor have ever been a "bar"/"nightclub" type of guy however, the few times I have been, I have never seen a woman there alone.

If I did, and she was even semi-attractive, I would think that she is incredibly confident. Kinda' like the Linda Fiorintino character from the movie, "The Last Seduction".

For those unfamiliar, the movie is about 15 or 20 years old. I won't ruin the plot, but in one scene, she's in a bar alone. This guy comes up to her, thinking he's going to "pick her up". In the middle of his canned speech, he starts talking about, "how well-endowed" he is. She doesn't even let him finish..........................she's like, "Let's see it." He starts stuttering, "Uh, you mean right here?"

She says, "Yeah, whip it out."

He does, under the table, right in the bar.

She says, "Shut up", grabs him, takes him out back, and F___s the shyt out of him, up against a fence.

When done, she has no interest in any further interaction with him.

He's like, "Wa.........wait. When can I see you again?"

THIS is what would come to mind, if I ever saw an attractive woman out at a bar alone.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 81 (view)
 
Texting or Calling?
Posted: 10/10/2015 7:06:31 PM
I'm not a woman
but,
I play one on T.V.

Be original.

Get her home address
and
only send letters.

It's eccentric and original.

"My dearest Linda, my heart has been on fire with pangs of love since our meeting a fortnight ago. I am writing to inquire as to your availability. May I come a calling at sunset on Saturday, October 30th. We can sit in the parlor and hold hands........................................"

She may like it. She may not. But, either way, she WILL always remember you.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Getting ditched by text - opinions
Posted: 10/10/2015 6:54:29 PM
You were justified
but,
you let her "get" to you.

DAMN IT!

I wish you had posted this BEFORE you sent your 'double barreled' reply.

"Back in the day", when "Seinfeld" was still on TV (not as reruns),
he had an episode where a woman invited him to the restaurant where they all used to hang out.

She wanted to break up with him. She gave him this long speech, "It's not you, it's me..............................woo, woo."

Seinfeld is a comedic GENIUS! His reply (Which would have been PERFECT for you to have replied by text):

"O.K."

If you were so inclined, you could YouTube "Seinfeld breakup".

It's the BEST way to handle anyone who breaks up with you.

"O.K." Takes ALL the wind out of their sails.

LMAO!
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 40 (view)
 
RANT
Posted: 10/10/2015 6:43:22 PM
Bamagirl-----The toilet paper is supposed to go OVER. It even says so in the bible.

I have heard that thing about germs flying through the air from toilet flushing
and,
it may be true
but,
with these low water, energy efficient toilets, it's difficult to believe. They barely get all your business down the hole.

Now,
the old school toilets from "back in the day"?

Yes, those things had power. I can believe the germs flying through the air as mist.

Oh, I have ANOTHER rant. Maybe I have just had the misfortune of living around particularly lazy, slovenly, reprobates
but,
in the last two places I have lived,
the neighbors will sit out garbage bags, gaping WIDE open.

WTF?

"Uh, would it be too strenuous for you to subject yourself to the tyranny of actually TYING the bag the F up?"

Like the f'ing handles/drawstrings are there just for decoration.

People!

Who does this?

Nothing like a bag of garbage spilling out and cooking on a hot street in the summer.

Just the fact that (the downsides) of this would need to be explained to an adult (homeowner), tells me all I need to know about human nature.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 33 (view)
 
RANT
Posted: 10/10/2015 1:30:22 PM
Oh I LOVE to rant. It's a hobby. Some people like to shop. Others like to fish. I like to rant.

The plus is that several employers have commented, "NikonGuy is always coming up with ways to improve things." (Yeah, we should mow the lawns THIS way, as opposed to THAT").

Off the top........................

1) People who park || <---------------- that close to you. Granted, I am a misanthrope, but regardless of whether you give a sh_t about your car or not, who wants to come out and find that they need a f__kin' can opener to get into their car? And, with as much as cars cost, who wants to pay $30, $40, $50k for a car, only to have it dinged the hell up before it's a year old?

Yeah, I tried parking in the back of the lot. Front, back, or middle; doesn't matter.

They like to brag about how much they "work out" Zumba, pilates, Crossfit, and whatnot, but they'll be DAMNED if they have to suffer the indignity of walking 500 feet to the front door.

1.5) Same thing with the F-tards who parallel park on an empty block, but pull up to a half a centimeter from your bumper. "Hey @$$hole, now YOU have to struggle to get yourself out when the block fills up, because you can bet another rocket surgeon will pull up a half a centimeter from your back bumper."

2) People who stand in line and don't have their FN money out. "Oh, you mean I have to pay for this? Give me a minute and let me dig out my post dated, 3-party starter check and 234 pennies."

3) People who pay for a pack of chewing gum with a credit/debit card.

4) The adult geniuses who are too busy studying their cell phones like the Talmud, while mindlessly walking across 34th & Broadway at rush hour. When I become King of America, if you get run over because YOU had better things to do than pay attention to your surroundings, "Oh well."

5) People who speak LOUDLY on their cell phones in public. Because they have to be so FN impressed with themselves. I know I'm always impressed when the person answers the phone and says, "Oh, nothing." (because someone called and asked them what they are doing). Or being forced to overhear the compelling trials and tribulations of Samantha going up and down the aisles of the grocery store. "YEAH, I'M IN WEGMANS RIGHT NOW. DAN AND THE KIDS WANT CHICKEN FOR DINNER. PASTA IS ON SALE. BUY ONE GET ONE FREE."

Lifestyles of the Rich & Famous.

6) Retail salespeople. Thank goodness for online shopping. My head hurts just talking to these people.

NikonGuy: "How much is this? (because there's NO F/N price tag on it OR on the shelf)."

Retail drone: "I dunno. I believe it's $79.99."

NikonGuy: "You BELIEVE, hunh?"
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Not sure what to say
Posted: 10/9/2015 1:04:58 PM
This is ALL in love.

Because we're all friends here
on the surface
where it counts.

But,

To no one in particular (because it happens very often). It's just that .....................well, I'm HERE now.

I quit school in the 3rd grade
so,
EVERYONE on POF is smarter than me.

However, when I read through profiles, every other person touts that they're "educated".

Master's degrees, Ph.D's, six figure incomes McMansions. World travel. Big Willy style (and whatnot).

Would someone.......................anyone be so kind as to enlighten me
what do people have against paragraphs?

Have paragraphs done something to them, and thereby, forgoing them is some kind of "payback"?

Unfortunately, I am not "educated"
so, I struggle to read 75 lines of verbage.

O.K., it's just me? Well, O.K. It's just that I find it easier to read 50 lines (with paragraphs), than 20 without.

Paragraphs are thoughtful.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 141 (view)
 
Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 10/9/2015 12:40:47 PM
HELL TO THE NAWL!
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Would you date someone still living with their Ex?
Posted: 10/8/2015 3:38:21 PM
HELL TO THE NAWL!
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Women in there thirties & baggage?
Posted: 10/8/2015 3:33:30 PM
Do people even attempt to think before they type or speak?

All these stupid, overly simplistic, pithy cliches.

"Nobody's perfect." No sh*t Sherlock.

Nobody is perfect
but,
NOT "Everybody has baggage".

10,000% FALSE!

The way I see it, "Baggage" is something from your PAST (physical, sexual, emotional abuse, betrayal in a marriage, illegal substance abuse, financial disasters, children that you cannot afford, etc.) that prevents you from "moving on" or functioning fully TODAY.

And, NOT all baggage is created equal.

There is no way in hell that someone who is selfish and lacking self-esteem

is the equivalent to someone who has a 550 FICO score, 3 kids by 3 different dudes, and is an alcoholic.

I have known my best friend for 27 years. I know his family. Solid work history, family, and marriage. Perfect credit, raised a child that is not his, does not drink or smoke. No addictions. In great shape, etc. etc. etc. Just a "stand up" guy.

No baggage. I ain't sayin' he's perfect; but "baggage"?........................NO.

I have a sister. Solid work history, family, generous to a fault. Perfect credit, intelligent, book and street smart, low-key. She is a cigarette smoker. Is she perfect? No. But she doesn't have "baggage" either.

So, since "everybody has baggage", I suppose she's in the same boat as a chronically unemployed, alcoholic who has 3 kids by 3 guys, and who smokes crack on the weekends?

...........................and I have never dated a woman in my life that wasn't hung up on some half-@$$ed dude from her past, to some degree or other. Some have been able to "get over it", most have not.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 99 (view)
 
Would you go back to an Ex you really cared about?
Posted: 10/6/2015 5:27:38 PM
Typically, I don't "miss" anyone.

Once you're gone, so long.

However, there is one woman that I would like to see (and rekindle old flames).

Never gonna' happen due to geography, but I will never forget her.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 211 (view)
 
submissive women
Posted: 10/6/2015 5:12:53 PM
Yes, I prefer submissive women.

She should not speak. She should wear a burkha whenever she is out of the house, and keep 7 paces behind me at all times.

I kid. I kid.

She can walk 4 paces behind me.

I'll be here all week. Tip your servers.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 160 (view)
 
Why is it so wrong to not want to date a person with kids in your 30's?
Posted: 10/6/2015 5:06:15 PM
It is NOT wrong.

However, unless you're upper middle class to downright, affluent (the crowd that announces their weddings in the Sunday NY Times), and are dating in that same socio-economic class, you will catch hell trying to find any quantity of "regular" people in their 30's with no children. Obviously, they exist, but they're few and far between.

While I would prefer to date a woman without children (and who does NOT want any), those are very few and far between in the 35 and up age group. And, the bad news is..........................my coworkers tell me, that the women are even more obnoxious as grandmothers than they were as mothers. Women in their 50's & 60's who now want to pick up and move halfway across the country......................so they can be closer to Lil Johnny.

Hell, nowadays depending on your demographic, it's damned difficult to find if you're over 25.

Back in my 20's, I was adamant about not dating women with children. It was DAMNED hard to find them even then, but I was extremely fortunate.

C'mon, the reasons are quite obvious and plentiful. Mainly, I didn't need the drama of some guy who was giving his 'baby momma' $100/week (if that), in MY life. He breaks her off with some chump change and thinks he has say so.

Secondly, if I decided I wanted to go somewhere or do something on the spur of the moment (with her), that was pretty much out of the question, unless she had really liberal parents.

Thirdly, I just did not want to hear about, "Baby daddy did, or did NOT do such and such." and/or "Lil Johnny is a genius because he drew a circle in his 9th grade class."

Sounds harsh, but I just did not care, and at that time, I had many more options than I do now.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 118 (view)
 
Woman pumps the gas while boyfriend sits in car
Posted: 10/6/2015 4:26:31 PM
As a matter of fact, whenever I mention it to people I know, they just stand there with an empty look on their faces, like they're trying to figure out the square root of pi.

Virtually every time I pull up to a convenience store, I will see some dumb young (they appear to be between 17 and 30 year's old) chick drive up, she gets out, and the smart guy who is banging her sits in the passenger seat looking stupid.

Good for him.

You gotta feel like a real Prince, if the place gets robbed (especially while she's in there buying Skittles for YOU), or she's inside getting harassed or in some type of altercation, and you're sitting in the passenger seat in your flip flops, playing with yourself (or your phone), like a 13 year-old girl.

"Back in the dizzle", when dinosaurs roamed the earth, getting sex took a modicum of skill (the girls weren't just falling over with their legs in the air), and the world still had pointy edges, it was NOT seen as masculine to be chauffeured around by some broad. Young men WANTED to be in the driver's seat. Everyone in my crew had driver's licenses at 17 (even the guys who didn't have their own cars). Nowadays, it is not uncommon for guys well into their 20's not to have licenses (they're suspended, revoked, etc.)

Hey, they get exactly what they deserve. This is what happens when there's no father in the house. No way in HELL my daughter is driving some slacker around.

And, I would love to see that robbery, especially if it can go down riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight as I'm pulling my 1995 Ford Taurus into the parking lot.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 92 (view)
 
What is the point of stating friends first in a profile????
Posted: 10/5/2015 9:08:11 PM
I prefer to start out as enemies first.

Nothing better than angry sex.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
What should i do about this persistant guy...?
Posted: 10/5/2015 8:47:53 PM
Have him killed.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Confidence issues....
Posted: 10/4/2015 12:41:40 PM
Take up a hobby or develop an area of expertise. Get great at it.

Real confidence comes from within, not external validation.

Go take a walk around the biggest mall in your area on a Saturday afternoon.

Depending on the area you live in (Chicago will have better results than Cheyenne, Wyoming),
but,
you will notice attractive 20-something women. Most will be there with guys.

Few of these guys will look like Idris Elba or Brad Pitt and fewer will win any style awards.

28 is a GREAT age to be single and looking to mingle. Still a lot single women. Not too many have been seriously "wounded", they're often physically fit, but you will run into a lot of single mothers, which may not be ideal for a childless guy.

Meeting women is largely....................... confidence, proximity, dumb luck, and timing.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
When you say you travel a lot, do you have a full time job?
Posted: 10/4/2015 12:23:14 PM
More often than not, it's bullsh*t.

I work with a majority of people who were born in other countries.

I'm not impressed that you go to Colombia twice a year. Your whole family is there. You didn't have any hotel expenses (which is where the real cost of travel is), you didn't have to rent a car, and you barely bought any food.

It would cost me more to go to Chicago for the weekend.

A few years ago, I went to California for a week to engage in a hobby. I had a great time, but between the hotels, airfare, car, gas, food, and incidentals, I could have gone to France.

Travel is expensive as hell, especially if you have to come out of pocket for a hotel.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 89 (view)
 
I'm not much for writing about myself....
Posted: 10/3/2015 6:46:08 PM
Lazy, entitled, illiterate, boring, and very likely she got dumped three days prior OR is dissatisfied with her current, half-@$$ed relationship
and
created a POF profile because it's free and feeds her ego.

Most men know that dating/meeting women is a, "numbers game", so attractive women who create profiles like this, WILL receive a ton of e-mails. This style of profile must generate interest, because far too many female dating profiles are set up this way.

I pass.

Not riding on anyone's bandwagon.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Have you ever met someone at the grocery store?
Posted: 10/3/2015 6:21:46 PM
Awwwwwww.

Hey Sunshine Girl. I see you.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 80 (view)
 
What do you think about flirting when in a primary relationship?
Posted: 10/3/2015 3:59:10 PM
"national pastime"
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 79 (view)
 
What do you think about flirting when in a primary relationship?
Posted: 10/3/2015 3:58:38 PM
In a lot of Hispanic cultures, flirting is the natural pastime.

In North America, not so much.

I do not flirt with other women if I am in a relationship
and
she should not flirt with other men if she is in a relationship
with me.

I do not play with people's feelings.

Exactly how does flirting enhance YOUR relationship?
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Cats or dogs in relationship? CAn they sleep in bed?
Posted: 10/3/2015 3:43:43 PM
Nothing that cannot wipe its own @$$ is getting in or on my bed.

Would not have a cat in my house under any circumstances.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Were newspaper personals better than online personals?
Posted: 10/3/2015 3:29:50 PM
Back in the early 1990's, I was in my 20's and worked retail (every weekend, 2 irons----10am to 10pm, and 3 nights per week). Add to that, even as a young pup, I was never into the nightclub/bar scene; so, being the risk-taker that I am, I placed and answered personal ads.

I had very good experiences and met much better looking women than I have online. Could be that there were no appearance based expectations. I met 6 women. 2 were gorgeous. 2 were average. 2 were unfortunate looking. I ended up dating one of the gorgeous ones off and on for 8 years. As a matter of fact, we still talk on the phone once every Blue moon.

Very good chance that I could have dated the other gorgeous one as well, except I was in the process of a divorce when I met her, and she wasn't having that.

In theory, one could use online personal ads in the same way (only replying to people with no photo), but I think it just would not be the same: 1) because you're more likely to take risks when younger, 2) because it is just a different time (people want instant gratification & media has conditioned us to expect higher levels of attractiveness..........................think about it, virtually everyone you see on TV or in movies is 'hawt'), and 3) if I recall correctly, BOTH parties had to pay (the writer had to pay by the word or by the line and the responder had to dial a 1-900 number to answer the ad), and therefore BOTH parties had 'skin in the game' and were invested; as compared to online today, where A LOT of women get dumped on a Thursday, snap a fish-faced selfie in their bathroom mirror, next to the toilet on Saturday, and write, "Ask me". And, because it cost them little or nothing, they are not serious and have no intent on meeting anyone. It's largely just an ego boost and/or response to their emotions of the breakup.

I'm VERY glad that I came up in the pre-Internet/pre-cellphone/pre-Social Media era. Wouldn't trade my experiences for all the money in China.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Have you ever met someone at the grocery store?
Posted: 10/3/2015 10:27:04 AM
No, but (in theory), it seems like a good place to meet a woman.

"In theory" because, as much as women like to say and think they're great multi-taskers; just reading POF, the consensus seems to be the, "I'm at the store focused on shopping............................." (much too challenging to buy broccoli AND converse at the same time...........................................unless, of course, it's on a cell phone).

For whatever reason, I do not consistently grocery shop at the same store. Would be smarter for me to be a 'regular' at the same grocery store.

With the exception of Whole Foods, I almost never see a female who I would be motivated to approach..............................and, with the exception of Whole Foods, the small handful that I would approach, are always yakking away on cell phones. For some reason, I rarely see the broads in WF on phones.

Note to self: Go to Whole Foods late in the evening...................consistently.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 288 (view)
 
The older the man the more critical and judgmental he is....
Posted: 10/3/2015 8:12:25 AM
Yeah, because women (young, old, and in-between) rarely nag, criticize, b*tch, or complain.

He wrote, with much sarcasm.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Do you have to be busy to be happy?
Posted: 10/3/2015 8:07:05 AM
Mark me down as one who is a proud introvert. I can be perfectly content not leaving my house, seeing, or talking to another human being for days, or even weeks at a time. When single, I often look forward to locking myself in the house Friday afternoon, and not stepping foot outside until Monday morning.

Even as a child, I loved libraries and museums, because they were quiet and relatively few people went there.

I "get it", that there are a lot of people who find enjoyment in being involved with a lot of different things and whatnot. GREAT! But, too often they come off with this attitude of self-importance which I find obnoxious.

I feel sorry for the harried, rushing sheeple I see darting in and out of traffic lanes and driving like maniacs on the roads. The sheeple who cluelessly walk through urban intersections with a phone attached to the side of their heads, and oblivious to traffic. Everyone seeming so very "busy" and impressed with themselves.

I guess I can understand the "busyness" of rich people, but I tell my "busy" co-workers and acquaintances all the time, "Broke people have no business advertising how "busy" they are." If you want to brag about how "busy" you are (I can't............................, I'll be busy.", at least have a bank account consistent with your hectic schedule.

I have an acquaintance who is always "busy", but he owns a very successful business, employing dozens of people and he earns a great living at it. His "busy'ness" makes perfect sense to me.

There have been times in my life where I have worked 3 (two full-time; one part-time) jobs. During two of those times I had girlfriends. Never once stopped me from doing something they wanted to do or going someplace they wanted to go.

Now, my absolute favorite things to do are: Surfing the Internet on my sofa, while coming up with cures for the common cold, taking long drives to nowhere, and walking around a new city with no itinerary or destination.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Calling - what's too much?
Posted: 10/1/2015 8:39:26 PM
Unfortunately, I have yet to meet the female sparkling conversationalist that I would even want to talk to consistently 3 times per week, much less every single day.

Once or twice a week on the phone, and I'm good.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 308 (view)
 
Why do some guys write they want friends first?
Posted: 10/1/2015 8:24:48 PM
I have NEVER in my life personally seen, heard, or known of a man uttering the words, "friends first".

If I did, I would think the guy was homosexual.

I don't like deluding myself and I don't want somebody p___ing in my face and telling me that it's rain. A woman is NOT going to help you change the brakes on your car. She is NOT going to help you move your sofa. She is NOT going to hire a babysitter, to go out to the bar with you while you cry in your beer over the last broad who dumped you. She is NOT going to drive you to the airport for your 4am flight.

This is what I expect from my "friends".

I used to work with a woman, we hit it off from jump. There was no attraction on either of our parts, but we were about as close as two people can be. I would say she knew me better than my own mother or sisters. She moved to another state. The distance grew. She met a guy. I spoke to her two times in two years (both calls initiated by me). Haven't heard from her since. This is the stereotypical view (A LOT) of women have of a "friendship".

"Friends first" is stupid. It's one of a million ways that men and women communicate differently.

You want to tell me that, "Hey, I would like to take things slow and really get to know you." Now THAT, I can overstand.

You want to tell me, "I've been burned before by getting intimate too soon with men and being disappointed." THAT I can overstand.

But don't come at me the "f" word. Women really cheapen what a "friend" is, when they toss the word around, with little to no concept of what a real "friend" is. A real "friend" is NOT someone who fills a void in your life when you're single. It's a FULL-TIME, 24/7 job.

Come to think of it, I have NEVER been in a relationship with a woman who had a "real" male friend. NEVER, EVER. The guy was either gay OR waiting in the wings (hoping to have sex with her at some point).

212,511 women will disagree. Tell you what, call one of your so-called single, hetero male "friends" up, and offer him sex. Tell him you just need a release, and since you trust him (he's your "friend" right?).........................Ask him if he will come over and "take care of you". See how many of your so-called, single, hetero, male "friends" turn you down.

Every other woman's profile on this site, spouts the EXACT same drivel........................."Looking to meet a guy who will be my bestest friend. Woo, woo." "Make me laugh" ***as she claps her hands*** (Dance you court jester monkey. The Queeeeeeeeen wants to be entertained."

Get a life. You're 35 years old, and you don't already have a best friend? Hell, a woman SHOULD be suspect if a grown man does not already have a best "friend".

My best friend is a guy I have known for damn near 30 years.

This guy also moved to another state, 25 years ago. Got married. We talk EVERY week.

Smell the difference? It's not just anecdotal.

No woman is going to be my "best" friend. I already have one. That spot is taken. I have another guy I have known for less time, but fills a lot of "best friend" characteristics. If my "best friend" were to pass away, the other guy would move up to his spot, NOT some woman I met 3 years ago where we talked on the phone a few times.

Most people that I know, have spent any time with, or work with, have no "real" friends, but it's too painful for them to face that fact.

Women tend not to have male 'friends'. They have guys that they do NOT want to have sex with, that play the role of emotional tampon. Guys that did not have the balls to state what they REALLY wanted upon initial meeting.

I don't know what I'm talking about?

Read the 1,001 posts RIGHT here, on POF, from women writing about these guys that they THOUGHT were their "friends", then the guy catches feelings, and the woman, "doesn't want to ruin the friendship".

I do not want anymore friends (of either gender). I am full up with friends. I could use a few more enemies though.

Wake the F up............................If a woman (99%) of the time gives a man that "friend" B.S., you can best believe, that once she meets a guy that she actually WANTS to bang, you (her purse holding, shoe shopping, male eunoch), will get her time crumbs, and she will fade from your life faster than the cops responding to a burglary call in a white neighborhood.

I cannot even recall a time in my life where a man that I have known, been related to, or worked with, has had a female "friend", in the true sense of the word.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Babytalk - turnon or turnoff?
Posted: 9/30/2015 3:24:38 PM
I HATE women who do that baby talk sh*t, who speak with a sing-songy cadence, AND women with high-pitched, whiny, or nasally voices.

A woman who smokes is not a turn-off to me for several reasons; not the least of which is that they typically have deep (for a female) voices.

I work with 3 women like that (high-pitched, whiny, nasally voices) and 1 of the 3 speaks with that insipid sing songy cadence and I fantasize about stabbing all 3 of them

repeatedly
until
my
arm
gets
tired.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 143 (view)
 
Should A POF member approach you in public?
Posted: 9/29/2015 4:19:58 PM
If she fits with the type of woman that I indicated (on my profile) that I am interested in meeting, then HELL YEAH!

No shame in my game. I'm on the site. I'm not embarrassed about it.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 201 (view)
 
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 9/29/2015 4:00:28 PM
I would MUCH prefer to date one woman at a time
however,
too many women are flakey, game players. And, I've learned the hard way, if you put all your eggs in their basket, they will disappoint every single time.

Better to have 2 (or more if you can do it), going at the same time.

My experience with women has been, "Two is one. And one is none." Unfortunately, for a lot of women, if they don't think you have any other options, they will act a fool.

Very difficult for me to do now, as an old codger, but, "back in the day", if a woman acted up, I was "on to the next".

This one time, at band camp...............................a woman I was into, pulled a "disappearing act" on me for a few months........................turned out she was pregnant with (another) kid from her baby daddy.

She resurfaced months later. By that time, I had met a much more attractive (childless) woman. I had the most gigantic s-eating grin on my face when she called me talking about, "Sorry I disappeared but..........................."

I was like, "No problem. I am seeing someone else." She was like, "Well........................ can't you date two women at the same time?"

"Sure I can, but I don't want to."

Bye.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Why ask for a number if you're not going to call?
Posted: 9/29/2015 3:38:17 PM
"Huh? Sorry but that is just dumb."

Says the f-tard who can't read.

It was an initial telephone conversation.

And, guess what?

I'm still not gonna' tell anybody that I am on the telephone with for 10 minutes what I do for a living.

She doesn't like it.

Oh well.

Find somebody to read the forums to you genius.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Why ask for a number if you're not going to call?
Posted: 9/28/2015 3:05:34 PM
@Browneyes,

Absolutely no problem with being asked, "What do you do for a living?"

I think there are more interesting, creative, and fun things to talk about during an initial conversation, but human nature is people are lazy and will choose the path of least resistance. I get it.

My issue was that when she asked me, I told her, "I work for the government."

She wasn't satisfied with that, and seemed to be irritated that I would not be more specific.

What more does anyone need to know within the first 10 minutes of having a conversation?

If I ask a woman (and I never do in the first couple of conversations), "What do you do for a living?"

and she says, "I work in transportation."

That is enough info for me. Eventually, if things develop and unfold, I will learn more.

It just reeks of the "interview" methods that so many single people claim to hate, when it comes to dating.

Also, my eyes glaze over with the question, because it's the same exact lazy question that 99% of people ask when they first meet a prospective date.
 
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