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 Author Thread: What do 50+ men want?
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 300 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 4/12/2015 12:26:15 AM
^^^^^
I changed profile pics, one taken on our recent trip to China ( walked on the great wall) ...we were dusting off the passport for our trip to Greece next month and before anyone starts , she's a Canadian citizen and has been since early childhood

I've done ok, at least to this point ...I'm leaving my legacy to my children , minus whatever me/she need
but feel the timing of when they get it is critical
additional children are not an option for us ,.. and as I said earlier , nothing is certain in life , ...but the odds are in my favor ...and that's about the best you can do
best wishes for all ..!
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 290 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 4/11/2015 12:32:17 PM
Just to clarify some things , There's NOTHING Wrong with the women my age ,
the most fun and best sex I've had , were with women my age , (thank you) wrinkles, saggy boobs and cellulite ,
play no significant role here , No man I know , would marry JUST for a fresher face , that's beyond foolish

But if your planning your legacy , or the end of life situation your family would be left in ,
(and if your over 55 you need to be) A younger women holds many of the answers,
I feel, highly driven to be the best Father I can be and always have , even in death

I understand that ,to a lot of men this isn't that important , but to some it is
I have see some of my old g/fs and others , that seemed wounded , ( came out of the woodwork!)
because , I didn't marry them , but instead chose a younger women ... I had only wanted a chance to explain



edit Thanks Stormy ..!
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 279 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 4/11/2015 7:47:56 AM
I tell her everyday , why I'm marrying her ..I love her . There is love ,and it alone is the basis for the relationship
but , my post was .. what caused me , after so long ...to take that big step to marriage .It is possible that at an older age , love alone is not enough.

As for the rest , I wouldn't marry someone I didn't or couldn't trust , I do not foresee any problems here and if necessary , legal arrangements can be made
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 277 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 4/11/2015 7:21:16 AM

People, yes, even young and healthy people get sick and die every day, people also get divorced every day, too....I'm thinking that should that happen your 'plans' will all have been for naught....You know what they say about the best laid plans....


Yes, plans don't always work out. Life doesn't always happen as we expected , The only thing I've learned in life
is to stack the odds in your favor and hope for the best

A nursemaid ? first , I have no desire to live , should I become a burden , second I have two grown children
(their mother's deceased), who will provide any special care that I need

AS for my POF profile ..?, I found someone special , I'm not looking .. and she's not worried
but you do need a profile to post in the forums

yes , I think most of what I posted is self-serving ...but isn't that the definition of a benefit.?
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 270 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 4/10/2015 9:28:20 PM
^^^ LOL , it does sound that way , but 56 is NOT to young to plan out end of life scenarios
I think everyone should have it done , by the time they retire .
despite my excellent health ,if you truly love someone , children, spouse, don't you plan for them , when your
gone...?
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 268 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 4/10/2015 8:30:13 PM
As a 56 year old man , who has been single for 16 years , Since my wedding day is set and draws near .
I 'll openly share some of the things , that caused me to take that step

1.yes ,my fiancé is younger almost 13 years , I like the youthfulness she brings to the relationship
2. yes , a pretty young thing does rev up the sex life
3. I feel at ease knowing that I should pass in death before her , and never have to experience hers
4. also, she can continue to work for more than a decade after I retire , and that can a big plus if there is a crisis
5. after my death , she can keep stability in my children's lives ..
6. she will carry out my will and execute it the way I intend it
7. she is better able to care for me ..should I become very sick or disabled
8. her eyesight is perfect ..lol ,ok it helps
9. her youthful looks makes me work harder to stay fit and look my best , sounds weird , but I like how it keeps me on my toes.
10. she'll draw my ss, when I die and should be able to draw the max amount, and with other securities,, she will be well cared for in her final years .....and I can't explain the comfort it brings me , knowing that my family still has a part of me, a place for thanksgiving dinner , the lights still on in the old homeplace , yes a mother late into the lives of my children ,these things give me peace and in the end , allow me to R.I.P

To the women my age , I'm sorry ....it's not just the youthfulness and sex .your wonderful in your own way ...but there are many benefits to marring younger ...Please don't hate me .
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 90 (view)
 
Would you agree that dating gets harder as you get older?
Posted: 12/13/2014 3:13:59 PM
I met someone, while on a trip to Hong Kong in June,
I just bought the ring and on Christmas day, I will know.., but I feel
Confident ,as many have said, its easy to see you two are in love.

If it can happen to me....it can happen to you. Dont give up ...!
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 88 (view)
 
Would you agree that dating gets harder as you get older?
Posted: 12/13/2014 2:54:13 PM
Speaking only for myself. Dating has Never been easier..!
Just today, i went to an optical store for new lens, and the sales lady
Asked me out..!!. Even went so far as to reach accross the counter and hold my hand

But while securing a date is easy, finding someone that you really WANT to
Date ,..has never been harder.The dating pool seems tainted with radioactivity
But if you fish in the deep waters,you can find what makes your heart happy
This will probably be my last post as a single man, Fortunate for me, I looked outside
The box, and outside the border (USA) and found her there. I encourage all,who are not finding
What you seek, to expand your search
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 405 (view)
 
Over 60, what do you men think about marriage?
Posted: 8/23/2014 6:39:20 PM
@beckyht


. It sure seems like some posting here, are more concerned about their own agenda. "Me first" in everything

If your single, older, and constructing your retirement plans "me first" might be the appropriate attitude



Most of us do have dreams (of all sorts), and they are worth chasing.


Your right , at an older age we place more priority on just that, but everyone's dreams are different .
I do believe there is an age incurred unwillingness to compromise, as in ,where and how we want to spend our remaining years.
we now have to "fit" into each other's lives very concisely



everything takes an effort, you have to give more then you receive, and it usually is very rewarding


rewarding ..if you love giving , otherwise I fail to see the reward in your statement

I stated previously that I have nothing against marriage. and would do it again ..
Can't find the "fit" and there's an abundance of excuses to cover my failure to do so and allow a continuum of the status quo
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Bald women
Posted: 8/22/2014 10:19:48 PM
Sorry , like my women with hair , I have found some bald women attractive .....just love the feel of her hair on my shoulder
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 400 (view)
 
Over 60, what do you men think about marriage?
Posted: 8/22/2014 9:58:57 PM
I thought my thread was asking men what they thought about marriage, not women


Not against marriage , but its not likely to happen ..it would take a special woman for me to relinquish the life I have.


Anything long term aspirations are usually derailed by.....

My goals dreams , and things I want to accomplish , before I retire. I'm currently upgrading my lakefront home, that's in a state, different from the one I currently live in... A LT companion would know that at some point it would require her to move out of state, I find few women who want to be even a mile from the grandkids , out of state would be unthinkable.
I think things are as they should be ..her ,with her grandchildren, cats and dogs , me with a jeep, travel trailer, a passport with only 4 empty pages ...and no shortage of fun and pretty women to share the good times with.
but, with that said ...I often feel in limbo ...just waiting on that special lady

I agree with dragonbits , on the statement that most of the women I meet ...are NOT looking to marry
just my personal experience
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 128 (view)
 
Is it harder to date now?
Posted: 8/2/2014 11:44:47 AM
Speaking only for myself ,
Its easier to get a date , than at any previous time , however , with seperate careers, houses , lifestyles , and all the things that surround a relationship ..indeed it is much harder to find a "fit"
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Men acting weird on dates?
Posted: 2/6/2014 2:26:29 PM
He asked for a hug which then turn in to a .....in (his words) sooo lush.

He should have spanked his monkey ..before going on his date ..!lol
watch "there's something about Mary "


You choke the chicken before any big date, don't you? Tell me you spank the monkey before any big date. Oh my God, he doesn't flog the dolphin before a big date. Are you crazy? That's like going out there with a loaded gun! Of course that's why you're nervous. Oh my dear friend, please sit, please. Look, um, after you've had sex with a girl, and you're lying in bed with her, are you nervous? No, you're not, why?

Ted Stroehmann: Cause I'm tired...

Dom Woganowski: Wrong! It's 'cause you ain't got the baby batter on the brain anymore! Jesus, that stuff will phuck you're head up! Look, the most honest moment in a man's life are the few minutes after he's blown his load - now that is a medical fact. And the reason for it is that you're no longer trying to get laid, you're actually... you're thinking like a girl, and girls love that
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 51 (view)
 
46 still single and getting nowhere!!
Posted: 2/6/2014 1:57:59 PM

Nothing turns most woman off more than a man seeking women much younger than himself.


While I agree with this , I think it needs to be clarified that we are ONLY talking about women the male's
age and older
I have met younger ladies , who may have only dated me ....to piss off the older women ...!

They loved ,loved, loved.. the attention and loved the fact that ...you couldn't take me away from her ...!
too bizarre for me , but there's a lot of it out there
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Was I wrong?
Posted: 1/29/2014 2:36:15 PM
OP... The tragic death of her husband and her children's father is not something she will get over in a few weeks ....!
Many never do , and those that can usually need years to work thru it . the fact that they were about to divorce , means nothing ....she wasn't ready to lose him .

I'm afraid your patience has been wasted. Pray for her....and Go on with your life and live it ...!
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
A 10/10 with a language barrier, very strange date, stranger day after
Posted: 12/24/2013 11:18:59 AM
Ever watched monkeys swinging thru the trees ..?
they never turn loose of one branch ..until they have a hold on another ....!
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 36 (view)
 
My friend's boyfriend
Posted: 12/23/2013 9:41:14 PM

Simply relaying information observed in a publicly accessible medium does not equate to "getting involved in another's private relationship."

Dear lord ... your going to drop a bomb like that , then try to blow it off as nothing ..?


That's not the OP's responsibility--to know ALL the information.

It IS the OP's responsibility to be informed and know what he's talking about ..!


It doesn't bother you to be responsible for someone's potential exposure to HIV/AIDS?


Oh for the love of god , quit being so melodramatic ..! Everyone has a potential risk of exposure to HIV
and you have NO proof that his behavior is increasing the risks ..!

I think it's obivious that the OP would like to break this couple up for his own self interest
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Is it because we are older/more forgetful or are people really not paying attention?
Posted: 12/22/2013 5:09:16 PM
Are we not allowed to be hopeful..?
I mean, few women actually agree to go out with me the first time I ask
but after a few conversations and a little eye contact ...they often change their minds

I would hope most men .. wouldn't email the same line to you over and over ..?
thats just mass mailing
But I often repeatedly target certain women that I want to date
maybe just an email once a month ...hoping each time that the email may contain something ..!
that will make her stop and take a look !!
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 217 (view)
 
sugar mommy?
Posted: 12/8/2013 11:21:36 AM
One Should discuss.. how much sex ,one gets for room and board ??

I supported my ex for 10 years , and there wasn't enough sex to cover the cost of the first two...!!
There should be "rules for sugar mommy:s "
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Are we really who we think we are?
Posted: 9/29/2013 7:50:55 AM

in a group of people I know I'm fine and am funny and talkative. But if I'm in a group of people I don't know...I want to melt into the background


OP.. I would have thought at your age , you would have had this figured out.
I only attend venvues in which I'm reasonably comfortable. Occassionally I"ll feel like branching out
but I don't put pressure on myself to meet a certain participation standard or personality. I'm there to simply experience whatever's there ... I'm happy with who I am
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Accents
Posted: 8/1/2013 4:15:53 PM
I have have a small midwestern accent , But I asked this question because,
I have a close friend with a strong british accent , surrounded by cajun and texas accents and recently dating a nice asian lady , who is still struggling with english.
I'm realizing that as I age ... good english ..can like feel a friend
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Accents
Posted: 7/31/2013 7:26:57 PM
An accent is a manner of pronunciation peculiar to a particular individual, location, or nation. An accent may identify the locality in which its speakers reside (a geographical or regional accent), the socio-economic status of its speakers, their ethnicity, their caste or social class, and so on.

I'm just would like to know , for how many people on POF , is an accent a dealbreaker .. and why
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Managing Political Views in Couples/Relationships
Posted: 7/31/2013 4:50:14 PM

He refused to drive my car because of my Obama sticker, lol.


Nor would I have

I have tried to date people with very different political views , it just didn't work
I could not not maintain respect for a person knowing they who so easily give up their freedoms
for false promises of security
and respect is an essential part of a relationship. I never found a way to make it work
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
The drama never ends, need advice
Posted: 7/28/2013 2:59:59 PM
Op In most states you do not have to be legally married to be on someone's policy ...

But don't fret ... There's always Obummercare ... you can sign up for that now ...!
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
What's the REAL reason we're single?
Posted: 7/27/2013 4:06:54 PM
I haven't found one , I can afford ...!!!
Checking the sale rack now!
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 12 (view)
 
The boyfriend..
Posted: 7/27/2013 4:03:05 PM
OP.... my experience , If she feels the same way you do ....she'll break up with him !!!
no need to do anything except show interest
But since she hasn't broke up with her boyfriend ... I think your setting yourself up for rejection
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 26 (view)
 
meds when u r older & side effects
Posted: 7/23/2013 7:59:36 PM
A lady that I dated multiply times , took medication that caused frequent urination(very).
I soon found myself , planning activities according to how convenient they were to a restroom.

I truly feel for people affected by meds .. But wasn't ready to give up so much of my life , to make it work
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Finding love when your older, is it possible? Really?
Posted: 7/21/2013 7:00:47 PM

Finding love when your older, is it possible? Really?


Can I get back to you on this ..?
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 84 (view)
 
Getting more rigid the older you get?
Posted: 7/21/2013 11:41:42 AM
The answer would have to be YES !

My personality or demeanor really hasn't changed much, but
With time , I 've become more invested in my career, home and
securities, and this makes me less flexible and limits options

I really hope that when I retire , it opens up new doors
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 105 (view)
 
What steps are you taking to manage/slow your aging?
Posted: 6/21/2013 6:45:32 PM

The only time I have heard that the extra weight is beneficial is if you are suddenly facing cancer


Must not have given this much thought

examples:
Playing football with the grandkids, breaking that big tree branch into small pieces, your the last one sucked away in a tornado ,able to withstand hurricane force , the only one who can get the door unstuck ...

oh this is just too easy
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 92 (view)
 
What steps are you taking to manage/slow your aging?
Posted: 6/19/2013 7:37:48 PM

For instance, if cocaine is what makes you happy, then Goverment won't care about your personal pursuit of happiness, and good luck ignoring them when in jail


Cocaine is not my thing , but the libertian party supports legalizing drugs
but what does make me happy , is the freewill to participate in the society of my choosing , or not ..! and that would not include the one your describing ,

And any goverment that FORCES me to contribuite to a society or lifestyle I disagree with ..is NO different than a dictatorship ,regardless of what they call it

And those who wish to take away my free will (socialist) are indeed children of Adolph Hitler


But to address the OP's question

I'm not doing anything special, I try to use a little common sense
But I mostly concentrate , on living my live , in the way that makes me the happiest
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 88 (view)
 
What steps are you taking to manage/slow your aging?
Posted: 6/19/2013 4:22:28 PM

I don't think we are supposed to have freedom to make personal choices nor do I see why you think that? Maybe back in the caveman days that might have been true.


Your kidding ...right ?
You must think nazi germany is etopia ..! No free will, ..is not evolving ... its regression , Back to your cave man


The bottom line is it is better for the Government and society if most people are reasonably healthy.


I could care less about goverment , because you cannot have goverment without corruption and power,... they are inseparable , Society has existed for centuries before me and will continue on after me
I have only one life and what's best for goverment and society does NOT override my personal pursuit of happiness
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Will he change?
Posted: 6/18/2013 6:04:44 PM



Will he change?


OP... you like so many women .... have this completely WRONG .!

Don't not ask him to change , and do not assume ,that because his behavior is not what you would like..
that HE needs to change ..!
He has the right to live his life , in a manner that makes him happy .... If you don't like it
find someone else , adapt or compromise.

Forget the idiotic ideal , that men should conform to some preconceived ideal in your mind and
learn to enjoy the individuality in men.
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Any advice would be appreciated...
Posted: 5/10/2013 6:53:09 PM


He already KNEW he did not want to pay for another man's child.


How would the OP know that ...?....Until he had some ideal of the behaviour , cost and things associated with raising the children
The fact is.... what he said was ... for the right women he WOULD !!!






No one said he was evil(he was nice about being an insincere opportunist who was slumming)

nice... really mature






Actually "the women" never suggested he stay, but to leave and never date a single mom again,

calling the OP names and insults for wanting to leave ...is NOT encouraging him to leave
it can also have the effect of brow-beating and guilting him into staying


Oh Yes ..! She put it right out there for him and he REJECTED HER

and thats where some posters are replying from... the point of rejection
Gawd ..women just hate it . !! How dare you have sex , then later reject me ..!
Sex is sex ... its not a lock or an agreement of future behavior ....but ...
Most women have at one time felt the sting of rejection and some ...
can't resist projecting onto ANY male who rejects a woman after he's had sex with her .
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Any advice would be appreciated...
Posted: 5/10/2013 2:04:11 PM
YAY!!! He grew a pair and broke it off with the lady with multiple kids that he initiated a 'relationship' with knowing beforehand she had multiple kids...nice!!! :)


This is radically wrong .!!

Men do not instinctively know , what its like to raise another man's children, or to enter into a relationship where one has kids , and even then , every situation is different, and sometimes the right woman , makes it worth it .

It is often a case of not knowing if the shoe fits , until you tried it on

But this understanding fails some women , all they can see is , You stole her sex, (BTW did she orgasm too?) and then didn't obligate yourself to her , and in their minds... that makes you evil and a user

Its best the OP ended it .! And not listen to the women , who would brow-beat and guilt him into a situation ... where he'll be miserable !
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Any advice would be appreciated...
Posted: 5/9/2013 8:05:13 PM

seen as an insincere opportunist who wants to keep the sex and dump the rest.


Why is the "rest" attached to sex anyway ..?
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Dont know what to do
Posted: 5/9/2013 7:18:04 PM
OP .. I bet during the 2 week break, She was with this guy again, and again
Your still her backup plan , until she sees if its going to work out with the other guy
I'm sorry , but have a spine and don't be her doormat
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Any advice would be appreciated...
Posted: 5/9/2013 3:47:48 PM
OP.. I think you already know , you need to get out .. and just enlisted the forums , to help you find appropriate wording for her . No easy way out , man up and tell her, that this is not what you were looking for

Next time you post , leave out all references of sexual activities , as some of the females in the forums actually believe , that sex totally erases a women's faults, families, and situation. and by having sex you agreed to unconditionally accept her
in all her entirety and completeness (or incompleteness )
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 4 (view)
 
When you have broken nearly every rule in the book.
Posted: 5/8/2013 6:55:14 PM

i will NOT be getting intimate until he initiates 'the talk' or the male equivalent.


Thats right hun , use that thing for a bargaining chip, while your trying to figure out
why you can't get past 2.5 on your relationships
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 281 (view)
 
Dancing
Posted: 5/8/2013 6:43:12 PM

I doubt that very few women 'demand' their SO dance. I can't picture anyone pulling a guy up by his earlobe to the dance floor. Now their may be repurcussions later...



mjinict , I've had women , insist thatI dance this/that particular song with them.
I did ..,but I wouldn't had ... had they stretched my earlobe.
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
How frequenty should a couple be having sex for my age 39?
Posted: 5/6/2013 3:36:49 PM
OP... She may be having sex 30 times a month ... but just 6 of those with you.
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
How frequenty should a couple be having sex for my age 39?
Posted: 5/5/2013 8:08:14 PM
What's normal is different for different people

Speaking only for myself ...at 39 I was married , in love with my wife
and had sex at least once a day ... with few exceptions
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Do married people flirt with you more than single?
Posted: 5/5/2013 4:23:13 PM
For me ..Single women flirt...married women are usually more cautious and will
drop subtle little clues , like hanging around a little longer than usual, certain postures
or expressions

Both may want the same thing, but married women don't want to be perceived
as, or think that, they initiated it
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
..He's 59...but doesn't act like it
Posted: 5/5/2013 3:20:22 PM
I'm sure he won't have any problems finding a sympathic audience , as people
will believe this kind behavior from a woman.
I disagree with the above poster suggesting not to engage, and subscribe more to
those who won't defend their honor ...have none.
Write him an email asking why he telling people this ..and correct those who have made judgements
without all the facts

BTW ... this behavior has nothing to do with age , so you ARE trying to smear him

He's 59...but doesn't act like it
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 38 (view)
 
He acted like he was doing me a favour by dating me.
Posted: 4/25/2013 5:30:19 PM

when the cheque came he decided to "take a stand" and insisted on paying.


The next time someone wants to do something nice for you ....Don't let them..!!
Oh ..wait ! you didn't
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 77 (view)
 
Ain't Going to Happen.... now what?
Posted: 4/18/2013 6:38:46 PM

I think this may be more a matter of individual situation/perception, than "proof" of any over-arching mindset.

No proof , just a 20 year observation

I have dated women(over 40) from houston , dallas, ok city , tulsa , overland park , Lincoln ,davenport, Chicago, springfield, springdale , little rock , memphis ,baton rouge and new orlean ... and many back road places too

I have observed great differences in economics , personality , culture , politics, family values, and expectations of men ......But I've noticed little difference in their attitude toward marriage.....it has to be just right..!

The need to marry a man , any man .. just to have a man . is an attitude , I've not be exposed to..!
I'm not saying it doesn't exist , just that , the numbers that do exist , are as high in metro areas, as they are in backwoods arkansas
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Ain't Going to Happen.... now what?
Posted: 4/17/2013 6:36:03 PM

The women in these places ,do not feel……
Gawd! it irks me when men try to tell women how they feel.

Thanks, for making my day .!




wow, how did being born and raised in the south turn into such a bad thing?

Its not , so many T.V. shows (louisanna), depicting gators , swamp logging, pawn shops etc, and I have watched some of all of them,
Neither me, nor anyone else I know ... know's anyone ,like the people their depicting in the shows
But yet its the image , that hollywood whats to give to the gallable. I 'm continually surprised at the number of people who's only opinion of the south comes from something they 've seen on T.V.
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Ain't Going to Happen.... now what?
Posted: 4/17/2013 5:23:16 PM

some of them work and support the family and the guy lives off of them if they say anything he will just move in with another women who will support him and when she says something he goes back to the first one...and these are very beautiful women.


I have never observed this happen ... with a very beautiful woman ..! never
I see it all the time with , overweight , unattractive women...



I can believe you have difficulty in finding a woman.

no, .. you don't believe that .. you just wish it were true
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Ain't Going to Happen.... now what?
Posted: 4/17/2013 4:26:44 PM
OMG .. ^^^ people in the south , are uneducated hicks , just looking to marry and have babies to get a
bigger welfare cheque. What garbage from the mouth ..of the "elitists"



I live in the South, and this is the third southern town I have seen this attitude from women about men, don't matter what he is as long as you have one.


Really ,..? I've been single for 12 years , I have found this attitude does not exist in any larger quanities in Mid-south,.. than in major metro area's.
I have lived in several mid-south states , and familiar with , all southern states in the central time zone .
The women in these places ,do not feel trapped, and I do not see women , just trying to get a man , any man, in fact its damm hard to find a woman , who wants to marry period ... And I'm living in Louisanna..!!!





In my opinion the sad thing is these are by their own merits awesome women, they are good mothers, good friends, hard working, loyal, dependable


I haven't found their merits or attitudes , to be much different than women who live in the suburbs.
Their not stepford wives or aliens ... I 've checked !
And yes, their awesome women and No, The men are not walking all over them ......good grief !

I have dated women from the largest cities in 20 states ... what I have found , is that while individuals
are different , they all share the same basic ideal , of how they want to be treated and demand just that
 deere_rancher
Joined: 4/4/2012
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Ain't Going to Happen.... now what?
Posted: 4/15/2013 7:43:48 PM
but somehow men justify continuing the relationship even knowing she wants the whole deal and he does not


What she/he wants, or is willing accept, can and often does change with time
Its not necessarily a reason to end it , just because their may be conflicts in the future ..
 
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