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 Author Thread: 4Aug. Sat. Yucatan Beach Club @Luna Rd/E Beltline Rd. Could YOU be the POF Karaoke Idol Star?
 thel0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
4Aug. Sat. Yucatan Beach Club @Luna Rd/E Beltline Rd. Could YOU be the POF Karaoke Idol Star?
Posted: 8/4/2012 8:05:47 PM
I found the place. It was nice. Couldn't find this group there so I went home.
 thel0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 161 (view)
 
Men 40+ and Childless
Posted: 5/25/2012 8:53:38 PM
I wanted kids but the ex wife didn't. Now I'm in my mid 40s with no options to have any. Oh well.
 thel0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 113 (view)
 
Pornography
Posted: 5/25/2012 8:50:33 PM
For some of us, porn is the closest think to intimacy we will ever know.
 TheL0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 4/28/2012 11:55:49 AM

I suppose the obvious thing to do is just state in my profile that homophobia is my dealbreaker.


Might I recommend that if you do mention this being a deal breaker, that you do it in a dignified manner. I have seen several "If you are a lying piece of !#@^% then don't message me." comments on profiles and well I just see an angry person that has issues getting over the last guy and it makes me want to avoid that line of fire. Just a suggestion. Please take it in the spirit of polite suggestion.
 TheL0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Never Married/Set in thier Ways?
Posted: 4/28/2012 11:46:43 AM
In my experience, the most important thing a man can offer a woman is a template for change. Isn't that a little sad?
 thel0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 200 (view)
 
Destined to be alone:)))
Posted: 3/23/2009 4:51:30 PM

Ever feel like that? That you feel destined to spend eternity by yourself? Why is it that decent people can't find someone special, but the ones that dont care about what their partner thinks stay together. Whats the deal? Am I trying to find something too hard?


Yes I have felt that way briefly but then I remember that I don't believe in "Destiny". I however do see the laws of probability functioning every day. I recognize that there is a finite probability of finding someone that is a perfect fit for "Me" and conversely the figurative "You". Depending what kind of person you are determines the spread of percentages. I have to admit that I myself am a pain to deal with so there is a small thin probability of finding a fit for myself in any widely diverse market segment.
If you suffer from the same, then perhaps you should look at yourself and see if you are the person you want to be. I'm not saying that you are a bad or good person but perhaps you are just not what you wanted to be or even as you see yourself. I have found that the only thing you can truly change in the world is yourself. Just ask my dog.
I believe that if you become who you truly want to be then you won't care if you are alone. I am on the journey to become who I want to be. I become happier each day and no longer seek to complete myself in another but to complete myself in myself. I'm probably more of a pain to deal with today than yesterday but that is OK with me. If I find someone then great if not then great. My only regret is never having kids. But such is life. Change yourself then you won't worry about the rest.

But then again,.... I could be wrong.
 TheL0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
To all the single gals longing for a boyfriend
Posted: 3/22/2009 12:02:43 AM
Wow women do these things? LOL. I couldn't get my ex wife to do these things when we were dating. OP if you can find a woman that does a tenth of what this lovely lady is mentioning you find out who she is and ask her out. Then write about in this forum. I'd like to at least read about someones success.
 thel0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
How Long To Get Over Your Breakup
Posted: 2/20/2009 3:10:11 PM
I do not have a standard that I choose. However, in retrospect it seems that historically speaking I have taken about 4 year per 1 year of relationship to recover where it lasted greater than 6 months. Always round up. For those lasting less than 6 months it looks like 3 months per month in the relationship. Again round up.

As to feelings well … I’d rather not go into details, I will say that I do not get into a relationship with someone unless she and I connect emotionally. Thus, for me, it always seems harder to get over that kind of loss.

These time periods are not an intentional goals or an artificially imposed set of durations. Again they are more a historical evaluation.
 thel0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Favorites List
Posted: 2/18/2009 4:32:42 PM
I have to make a comment here. I have been very guilty of this. I put a lot of women on my fav list for two reasons.

1. I looked briefly at the profile and would like to read in more detail later. It's like a book marking for me.

2. I have looked at a profile in more detail and thought to myself "Self, this is a way cool person. If you had your crap more together you could probably deserve a nice girl like that don't you think? Hmm you maybe right. But I'm just not in the mood to fight to get myself that together just to get rejected by another wonderful person. Ok then keep her bookmarked and if you ever think you can pull your self together perhaps you can try to contact her. You wimp! Look buddy I don't need that crap from you I have enough prob............"

Ok my digression into a self psychology aside I think you can see why some men do this. I think there maybe some women that do this as well though probably without the weird inner dialog.

I have received very rude messages from women demanding that I remove them from my list. I guess they some of the women that do not use favorite lists as bookmarks. I hope this sheds some light on at least the behavior of a few of us men. Ok maybe just me.

Thank for reading
 thel0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
why they rude to the new
Posted: 10/8/2008 12:14:50 PM
Well I haven't read your profile but it seems to have made many of the ladies here angry. I can tell you that I have encountered plenty of hate mail for putting a lady's profile in my fav list. Not messaging them or attempting to contact them in any way, but just for putting them in my fav list.

There is a lot of anger here. If you are here for dating you might want to cheer up your profile. If you are looking for “friends” or “hanging out” then, were I you, I would let the ladies know your intentions upfront. I wouldn't try to pass yourself off as a nice guy though that will just get you ignored.

Who know maybe what you are doing is the way to play their game. It at least is getting you responses. Perhaps a rude reaction is better than nothing.

Just thinking out loud ladies. Please don't flame me over this. There are much better reasons to attack me.

TheL0grus
 TheL0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Does anyone know the laws on Single Men adopting?
Posted: 8/27/2008 7:57:06 PM
That's great info. Thank you so much.
 TheL0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Does anyone know the laws on Single Men adopting?
Posted: 8/26/2008 4:50:13 PM
It has become abundantly clear that I'm not going to get a chance to have a kid of my own. I'd like to have one but it looks like adoption is the only route for me. I contacted an agency but once they found out that I'm a single guy they won't return my emails or calls. It's like they assume I'm some kind of perv or something. I have an uncle that is a priest in Korea in a church that has ties to an orphanage. I am going to see him in the spring but I really don't think that is going to pan out.
So, my question is... Does anyone know what the laws are about adopting as a single man. Should I just give an just enjoy my God children?

What do you think?
 TheL0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 91 (view)
 
What if your sex life was made into a movie?
Posted: 8/26/2008 4:42:24 PM
Much Ado About Nothing. 5min including credits.
 thel0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Do you date interracially?
Posted: 8/26/2008 3:06:42 PM
I don't really have a choice. I'm mixed Korean, Italian, Polish and German. Anyone I date would be considered interracial from a sociopolitical stand point.
 TheL0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Whatever happened to morals, respect and old fashion?
Posted: 8/26/2008 11:09:00 AM
Please don't consider this an attack or any kind of judgment. I don't know what kind of men you are going out with but it sounds to me like you are going for what most women go for. The “Bad Boy”. If this is not the case then please ignore the rest of what I have to say.
There are nice guys falling out of trees everywhere and it seems that the only ones the ladies go for are the few bad boys (rotten apples) laying around. When they get a “Bad Boy” they are unhappy with the way they are treated. Well of course they are treated poorly they went for a bad boy.
This leaves all the guys that were raised to be respectful, kind, caring and generous on the sidelines. Some become bitter and angry. They morph into “Bad Boys” and they finally get dates. The rest of us,.. well we die on the vine. This provides examples to the younger generations not to be a nice guy or they to will die on the vine.
The problem with the arguments against this perspective is that there is a fallacy that men get to choose. They don't. They can pursue and even be persistent but in the end it is the womans choice. Men don't get the ability to decide what kind of relationships they can participate with women. They either get chosen or choose not to play woman controlled dating game.
My advice is to choose wisely. Maybe even look at the cornucopia of “Nice Guys” around you that you have been shunning for years.

Just one mans thoughts take it for what its worth.
 TheL0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 152 (view)
 
Cleavage, wonderful beautiful cleavage
Posted: 8/22/2008 6:49:24 PM
I'm sure someone else mentioned this but,.... What I want to know is when women wear something specifically to show off their cleavage, why do they get mad at men for glancing at it. Not staring mind you, just a passing glance.
I have caught a barrage of insults that would make a sailor blush (and I know because I am one and I did) briefly noticing. In fact I did the whole,.. when she looks away,... glance,... blink,... and right back up to the eyes thing. Wow I was impressed by both the view and the insults. They were quite imaginative. I almost had to laugh and applaud the creative use of adjectives in a sentence. A run on mind you but still a sentence.
Needless to say I didn't make a friend that night. So, ladies why? Are you laying a trap to find an excuse for yelling at a polite man that has good peripheral vision?
I try not to look at all anymore. In fact if there is a beautiful woman around I try to head the other way. To many traps, pitfalls and yelling.

Anyway I was just curious. Please don't attack me for this question. I am seriously just curious.

TheL0grus
 TheL0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 90 (view)
 
Why do guys start dating so soon after breaking up?
Posted: 8/12/2008 9:31:36 PM
I found your story interesting. I was actually wondering the same about women. Why is it that the men I know including myself take a longer period of time to recover than the women that they and have been with?
After 9 years of marriage I'm still recovering two years later and she is getting married to the third or forth guy she has been with since we separated. I'm kind of glad that she is because she kept my last name and she really didn't deserve to keep it. I'm glad she is going to change it again. The may sound petty and it probably is but that's just the way I feel.

So, I guess if you can tell me why it is that women start dating again so fast after a break up then I think you'll find the answer why men do it.
 TheL0grus
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 208 (view)
 
POF RETRO PARTY @ Reflections Club inside the Admiral Hotel; Saturday, February 23, 2008
Posted: 2/23/2008 9:19:54 PM
Hey,
I got there late. The line was crazy. I got tired of waiting to get in. I hope everyone had fun. I'll try to be early for the next one.
 
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