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Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 34 (view)
Absent fathers To Lose Passports & Driving Licences !!
Posted: 1/25/2009 5:20:34 PM
This system will not work.

Im all for an absent parent paying his/her dues, but the system at present, and this proposed one really needs to be re-written from scratch based on current economic and political standards..

i cannot answer as i have little personal experience with the CSA as i have no children of my own, but i do know a horror story about the CSA whitch ended badly for all parties involved.

Im not sure on precise details as its not something they are eager to discuss, but..
My eldest sisters husband is a civil engineer, and he was hit by the CSA out of the blue for 6 years back payments for a child he knew nothing about. He denied it, but his name was put on the birth certificate, and as the kind of person who does everything by the book, he crossed all the T's and dotted all the I's and ended up paying an extorsionate ammount for nearly 3 years, he even had to re-mortgage his and my sis's home.
He eventually was able to force the claimant into DNA testing his supposed daughter and it turns out the child wasnt his. it turns out it was an act of Spite by an Ex.
Where the story goes real bad however is, he brought some form of legal proccedings against the claimant to get all his money back, and now, she is being finnancially crippled.
From an objective viewpoint, Justice has been done. But what about that poor child who is now living in a state of near poverty???
I cant help but feel a little sorry for her..
Justice isnt always fair...
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
Fiddling whilst Rome burns
Posted: 1/25/2009 4:55:14 PM

ou know, I reckon we'd have exactly this post, asking the same question if the Conservatives had been in power for this long.

.... or the Liberal Party, or communists, or the Rolling Stones!

It is sad to say...
But your right....

Bottom line is that brittish voters seem to buy into the same old bullsh*t again and again every 4 years..
In many respects, we only have ourselves to blame...
My biggest concern is the slow, but gradual reduction of Civil liberties, and freedoms that are slowly being erroded from our society.
There are soo many things that you can get into trouble for saying openly these days.

If this "big brother" dictatorship we live in is left to continue.
Pretty soon threads like this will get posters charged with Sedition.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
Has America made a big mistake...??? What if Obama is not an American...?
Posted: 1/25/2009 4:41:02 PM

lol @ these stupid people

seen any UFOs lately ??

Oh dear!!! Theres always one.. isnt there??
Would you like some dip for that chip on your shoulder mate??

Im sure back in "the year of our lord 1492" people said simmilar things about christopher columbus's theorys of the world being round.

Your "lol @ these stupid people" simply goes to show your pig headed, narrow minded and somewhat ignorant/arrogant (take your pick buddy) view of the world and fellow members of the community.

You do reallise, this is a Forum, and Forums thrive on Debate?? And, in fact, have done so by definition since Roman times??

Just because others may wish to debate such issues and do not accept the issue as fact in plain black and white, does not make them stupid. It makes them certainly more enlightened than yourself.
Quite frankly i feel sorry for myself and all the others that were compelled to reply to your un-witting and dry wasted sarcasm and crude attempt at humour.
And im sure i speak for us all when i wish we could have those 90 seconds of our life back that we wasted on such an individual as yourself and your shallow comments.
I really think the best thing you can bring to this discussion is silence..

Back on topic, I dont think it matters where he came from. As long as he can deliver on what he promises.
Its about time the UK had such a charismatic and motivated leader rather than the usual beurocratic suits who promise us the world and expect no-one to notice when they fail to deliver on 80% of their claims. I still find it shocking that the brittish public are duped into giving them a second term.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
Seeing attractive people when out and about during the day......
Posted: 12/14/2008 8:33:33 PM
First things first...

I am genuinely surprised at how many people cannot see the diference between approaching someone in a supermarket and sending a message here...

On here, almost everyone is here for the same thing... its much easier asking someone for a phone number when you know their actively looking themselves, as at worst, you know youl get a polite "thanks, but no thanks"

Same in a Bar or Club, People go there to have a few drinks and socialise, the atmosphere is generally social and flirting and random conversations with a member of the opposite sex on their own is expected.

In a supermarket isle, you could get any sort of Reply though.
The person could be happily married and not welcome the attention, they could have just left a damaging and painfull relationship and hold mistrust for the opposite sex, not to mention a million and one other possibilities, so a little more caution, and indeed a lot more balls is required...

I was approached once by a cute girl in a library and given her number. it kind of caught me off guard, (and as hindsight is a wonderfull thing.. yeah.. right...) i didnt say much to her as i was pleasantly surprised and a little shocked, i didnt even get her name, and as such, that combined with loking back at my near mute shocked self, i never mustered the courage to actually ring her... Who knows what i missed out on then..
Over the years, I actually did it myself Twice, once with a girl i saw often at a bus stop on the way home from work, and once with a checkout girl i often saw at my local supermarket..
The bus stop girl looked at me like i was some sort of perv and made it clear in no uncertain terms that she never wanted to speak to me ever again...
The checkout girl was nice enough in her "letting me down" gently while explaining that she was involved with someone, but i could see the "how sweet, but embarresing" look on her face..
Both times sort of knocked my confidence a little, but at the end of the day, you never know....

And to reply to ShaneyP:-
I Too have met women i am a little intimidated by, they seem to ooze too much confidence.. I tend to find it harder to interact with such women as its hard to really know what to say to them, and its sometimes just as hard to know how to take what they say whitch can lead to uncomfortable silences or hesitations from me..
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 48 (view)
How long chatting before a date
Posted: 12/14/2008 7:56:30 PM
i think Foxymoon has said it all really.
If the conversation flows well and you seem to get on really well,
If you chat too long (say over a month) you tend to build up a list of preconceptions based on your own fantasys of an ideal world that the other person will more than likely not live up to.

On the other foot, if you meet too early, it can be a long, embarresing, and unenjoyable experience when you do meet and struggle for conversation and common ground...

Its something you just have to take a chance on.... Its different with different people, and generally, you will have a rough idea when its time to ask... Patience is a virtue however and rushing is never a good idea..

As the OP stated however, i dont know if women suffer the same thing from guys, but ive found often many women are pretty ambiguous and dont give a lot away, yet can be quite flirty and forward but then take a dim view of you and accuse you of having another agenda when you ask them on a date or if they want to meet up with you too soon. .
Some have been quite offensive in their replys...
I just remind them that this is, after all, a dating site, and i move on as there not worth my effort..
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
would like some profile reviews please :)
Posted: 12/14/2008 6:15:41 PM
i have to admit.
Ive came across your profile several times as you are very local to me.
And for many of the reasons mentioned above, ive moved along quickly as your profile came across as very self absorbed and attention seeking.

I must say however, its now looking a lot better and shows a lot more positive aspects about your personality.

Also, your now choice of first photo is a really good one as it is obvious your an attractive girl, but the main photo now certainly compliments your natural beauty and really is the one that stood out for me as it shows you have a very sweet smile and amazing gorgeous eyes and naturally pretty features without looking forced or over the top like some other photos did.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
How much influence do we have on raising children right?
Posted: 12/2/2008 1:59:18 PM
That truely is an interesting question...
Sadly, its one thats hard to answer as it takes litterally Decades to know for sure,
And with other factors like the changing social values in society over the years, it really is hard to say what really affects their psyche as soo much happens and changes as they grow up...
Bottom line, its all guesswork...

I Do have one or two theorys however....

My bussiness partner is in his mid 40's and has 5 Children..
Oldest is nearly my age..
Hes not subtle, hes loud, can come across as offensive even, hes your average working class plumber, but is very family minded.
With all of his children, hes invested a fantastic ammount of Time, and money finding hobbys and interests for his children throughout their lives and it certainly appears to have paid off in bucketloads!!!!!

They are all prospering and none of them have ever really went through a Bad Phase..
The oldest is a well known proffesional rugby player..
next is a pro photographer and travels the globe..
next is a professional Dancer...
Youngest 2 both have time intensive interests that will probably lead to promising careers unless they somehow go off the rails.

Ive always had an inquisitive mind and had hobbys and interests that kept me out of trouble, but i certainly wish my parents had taken half as much an interest in my development as he does with his kids..
He says his effort has paid off, i certainly cant argue with the evidence...
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
Budgies that die
Posted: 12/2/2008 1:43:27 PM

how cruel to keep a bird in a cage.....just as well cut his wings off

ok then.....

Next youl be saying its cruel to keep goldfish in a tank...

If you didnt keep them in cages, odds are theyd die some horrible death...
(Like Gravy Girls..)
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
2008...How will you look back on it?
Posted: 11/28/2008 9:52:06 AM
2005, 2006, and 2007 were good years to me financially, socially and in my homelife, Exept i had terrible luck with relationships... Dated some weirdos and thiefs..

ive spent 2008 with a girl i met here and love very much... Am gratefull for that...
But apart from my love life, 2008 has been perhaps the single most depressing year of my life...

Endless finacial and employment problems...
Been conned or stolen from by soo many people (ie, bussinessmen and landlords.) this year surprised i havent snapped and murdered someone. seriously...
Had to work away in some crappy places to keep my roof over my head.
More deaths in family and friends than i can shake a stick at...
2008 has really tested my resolve, been in tears many times, i like to think ive come through it stronger, my girlfriend has really been my rock..

2009 will be a welcome year..
Am still with the girl i love..
am starting my own bussiness..
One of the people who abused my trust and stole a lot of money from me is now dying painfully of cancer..
I will be watching with a big grin when his time comes to buy the farm...
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
Posted: 11/28/2008 9:40:14 AM
Doormen have changed alot in recent years...

I tend to find there far more professional now than they were in the past...

In the past they were just hired thugs who liked to throw their weight around...
Now, their organised and efficient and generally decent blokes..
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
Good/bad experiences with the police.
Posted: 11/28/2008 9:24:32 AM
It all comes down to the individual officer really...

I Was assaulted outside a bar and when i won said "fight" i was arrested..
However, the police dealt with me fairly and honestly until video evidence and witnesses proved i was simply defending myself from a violent attacker who in fact hit me with a poolball in a sock! i didnt see that...
But they were fair towards me until evidence presented itself..

Had a couple of VERY bad experiences however a few years back..

First one, was when i caught a child breaking into my car, i grabbed and restrained him for 15 minutes while the police came...
I wasnt violent, all i did was restrain him...
When they arrived, they were more interested in charging me with assaulting a minor and even hinted at kidnapping, they treated me like scum, rough handled me, and made several comments about me..
The parents of the child wanted to throw the book at me, and the police were eager to entertain...
In the end, i had to resort to getting heavies to intimidate the family into dropping the charges. Its not something im proud of, and i hate having to admit resorting to such tactics, but im not about to let some alcholic benifit scum family screw me over for doing nothing wrong.

Second bad experience was in 2006 on some grassland loosely described as a public park..
Myself and a mate were using a nitro powered RC car one day on a quiet piece of grassland when some fat, middle aged pig came up ranting about us using it threatening to confiscate it and telling us to "dissapear" in a very nasty way.
As we were packing up.
I politely told him that an RC model doesnt come under the same class of motor vehicle as a scramber for example and that i in fact had done my research into the laws and had written permission from both the Police and local council to use an RC vehicle on the land.
He took that as me arguing and decided that was enough to arrest me under a section 21.
As he was about to cuff me he made a rude remark so my mate slugged him out cold...
We made a sharp exit, i was kinda shocked by his actions, but in retrospect, the git deserved it...

I also witnessed a guy getting slapped about by the police in some town near brighton, and was told to Eff Off or id be next...

Personally, The law, in general is scum.. never used to feel this way, but i generally hear or experience more bad things about them than i do good..
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
moving my brother in
Posted: 11/20/2008 8:25:41 AM
As already mentioned, Ground rules are a must...

Family are always much harder to deal with when their in your "back yard" so to speak.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
Age discrimination and nosey job interview questions.HELP
Posted: 11/20/2008 7:47:00 AM

This can be a Damned if i Do, Damned if i dont situation...

For example.

In Certain Niche areas of the construction industry, Employee Age can be directly proportional to your Liability insurance, especially for small employers, say a 2 or 3 man band.

For example, If i interviewed a 20 Yr old and a 30 Yr old who were both equally qualified.
Officially, id take the 30 Yr old based on likely greater experience on site.
But an un-official reason foir this would be theres a big difference on what id pay for their insurence.
So, as such, i feel justified in asking their age.

There are other such areas where age is an important factor in work.
Although the Age Discrimination Act is Black and White, Sadly life is much more colourfull..
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
am i being paranoid?
Posted: 11/19/2008 3:58:04 PM
Am glad i read this topic through before Replying...

Some very interesting, but conflicting points of View here..

Unfortunately all we can offer are oppinions,
You are really the only one who can second guess his motives and intentions.

As some have said, you have an active profile as well, he could, in fact be checking up on you much in the same way you are checking up on him...
In fact, if he is starting to develop serious feelings about you then i wouldnt be at all surprised if he did just a little checking up on you so he can feel secure about these feelings for you...
For Example :-
Online dating seems to fall under the same pretenses as "people in bars and clubs"
for example...
"Find a girl in a bar, sooner or later you will lose her in a bar."
And from what ive often read, Internet dating certainly lives up to this reputation somewhat.
Perhaps hes just trying to quietly re-assure himself that your not a, shall we say, "Player"

For Example, i still use POF Forums on occasion, and i occasionally IM a friend or two i made here. My profile is, by definition, Active as i use it at least once a fortnight.
However, i am in a relationship with a girl i met here over a year ago and we are very happy together (Thanks P.O.F) and that by no means brands me a player because i still use my account..

On the other hand, he may be a complete player, or simply trying to keep his options open. You may want to discuss with him exactly where your budding relationship stands as perhaps his perceptions are different.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
Family Assets - to girlfriend or kids ?
Posted: 6/2/2008 4:12:31 PM
in an ideal world, they all need to sit down and discuss the issue alltogether as it certainly concerns them all.

In reality however, such issues are normally talked about on the quiet whitch just leads to the forming of factions and other difficultys.

From my personal views however, Its really up to him.
Sure, its nice to sort your kids out when you pass on, but its by no means mandatory,
One of My ex's siblings used to often talk about wills and inheritance, and other such things on a regular basis, kind of annoyed me really, as it seemed that that was the only contact they were interested in with their parents, in my oppinion, the parents owe their children nothing. Wills are purely a courtesy.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
Father shops son
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:56:31 PM
Id shop my son too...

Id probably give him the chance to turn himself in. Or perhaps hand the weapon into the police anonymously if he wasnt generally into the street culture. As after all,
such actions would get some leaniancy from the law, but if not, id do it.
If hes got a firearm, theres a real chance he intends to use it..

OK, no one wants to drop their own child into a possible prison enviroment.
But if i covered for him, and he ended up shooting some 13 year old kid in the
face, i dont know if i could live with myself knowing my own selfish intentions stopped me from preventing it.

Also, if i "threw it into a Canal" theres nothing stopping him getting another one.

And at 19, son or not, old enough to do the crime, old enough to do the time.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
42 day detention without charge.
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:47:50 PM

I really am torn with this one..

On the "no" side, the "innocent till proven guilty" is a thing of the past, with the modern day movement of information, wrongfull charges and improsonment can destroy peoples lives!! They may be aqquitted, or never charged, but the longer an incarceration fiasco continues, the more damage is done..
If people can be locked up for 42 days on a whim, reguardless of the outcoime, chances are their lives will be in ruins..
Lots of innocent people will be hurt along the way.
False rape allegations are a great example of how peoples lives can be destoryed and that usually doesnt even involve long detentions.

On the "Yes" side, One thing that people should never forget, is that Freedom isnt free, They do say, that the price of freedom is eternal vigilance. In certain circumstances, People need to be locked up if there is enough suspicion that they can be real dangers to the community, However, Deciding who makes these decisions, and what sort of potential threat warrents such actions needs to be clearly established, otherwise, like all powers, will be open to abuse..

Im a firm believer that the death sentance should be re-instated for truely evil crimes..
It would certainly act as a detterant to the likes of our growing "Gansta Wannabe" youth who think its cool to carry guns.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
Death of the masculine man?
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:38:13 PM
I Think the lack of heavy industry these days is a contributing Factor, We do, after all, live in a service economy with ever increasing consultancy and ever decreasing manufacturing.

As a previous poster pointed out, more and more men are being brought up by single parents, in particular, Women, and as such, grow up with a more femanine attitude.
Not so long ago, i was discussing something simmilar with my teenage nephews and niece, and it seems in some younger social circles, its reguarded as cool for boys to be a bit femanine.. This did surprise me.

However, while im still on that train of thought, i spent most of my childhood with just my mother, and it didnt do me any harm, i was always into tinkering, and taking things apart, building air powered spud guns and all that.. perhaps im just lucky.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
Is It Time The UK Pulled Out Of The Euro Song Con?....
Posted: 5/26/2008 5:42:25 PM
The Eurovision song contest is a joke these days.

Im the first to admit that the UK entry this year was well below the standard of most of the entrants.
To be honest, i thought the greek entry was far superior to the russian, but hey ho..

But in the not so distant past, weve made some valiant efforts and recieved squat for it.

Western Europe isnt so bad for its political voting, Sure, They vote for their neighbours too, but if someone makes a exceptional entry, generally the western European countrys throw them some substantial votes.

Eastern Europe however, I just dont know where to begin!!!
There voting is Predictable, purely based on Geographic neighbours, You can tell whos going to vote for who. They clearly have a different mindset over there, narrow minded and biggoted if im being bold.

The UK (and several other western European countrys) should stop embarresing themselves by entering this Telivised Farce of a competition.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 19 (view)
Sign of the times?
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:29:57 AM
[Quote] Isn't "stoll" that German cake they sell in Lidl's at Christmas?? [/Quote]

It certainly is Cargy!!

Its nice to see judges getting a bit more 'Real' with such things.
Despite any whimsical retorts the judge may get for such comments.
It sounds pretty close to the truth.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
Sad loser women beating men
Posted: 5/13/2008 2:46:56 AM
MacForty, i dont disagree with you on a moral basis, violence against anyone is wrong..
It is refreshing to see such chivelry still exists.

But your purely "Black and white~" approach to the issue just doesnt work.

To refer you to my first post on this topic, of course i tried to restrain said woman, but i simply couldnt, firstly, she was a bit bigger than me, secondly, unlike the police and said restraining methods, i havent been taught them like the police, as im sure most people havent.

Im not saying its right, but im saying it can be neccessary.
And in my opopinion, self preservation is far more important than how the incident looks in the eyes of the law.
Especially when you dont know the extent at whitch the other party, male or female is willing and intending to hurt you.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
Sad loser women beating men
Posted: 5/13/2008 2:02:22 AM
i agree with Cargy on this one.
"simply walking away" is like communism, Looks great on paper, but in practice, doesnt work!

Also, turning your back on a complete stranger who intends to do you harm is a really bad idea.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
Hi-tech Tool Spots Child Drinkers !!
Posted: 5/13/2008 2:00:12 AM
Personally, such a scheme sounds like a great idea, If you could build up a networked database of such ofenders it may help with the issue.
But a large majority of underage drinkers get someone older to buy it for them.
Greater penaltys need to be given to people who buy for underage people.
Or perhaps add them to such databases.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
Was Car Owner Right To Saw It In Half?!.......
Posted: 5/13/2008 1:45:13 AM

After all, an inner smile is the best type is it not?
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
Was Car Owner Right To Saw It In Half?!.......
Posted: 5/13/2008 1:40:21 AM
indeed, im with xDiamondxGirlx on this one..

At first it sounded a little "cutting your nose off to spite your face" but after carefull considderation, good on him for making a point to the DVLA for being pedantic, and if he made a scrap profit in the proccess, Good on him!!
(whitch is certainly believable as scraps worth a lot these days.)

I wonder how long it took him to cut a car in half with an angle grinder however??
The mind boggles at that one.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 19 (view)
Minding Your Own Business....
Posted: 5/13/2008 1:34:34 AM
heh, id probably listen in, Public rows can be quite amusing, apart from that though, id pretend that nothing was happening..

One thing i read however, apparently in such situations, making eye contact with the rowing parties is a big no no.
Apparently this can lead to both parties picking on an innocent by-stander, ie, you!!
(Personally i cant see this being true, but never hurts to mention it.)
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 51 (view)
would you break the law to uphold the law?
Posted: 5/13/2008 1:27:19 AM

You took the words right out of my mouth. I couldnt have said it better myself!
Id intervene for the exact same reason.

Oh, and as for the "Reasonable force" im unsure on that one. but id bet that is, indeed incorrect.

However, UK law really is corrupt and biased against the law abiding citizen.
As a result i have no respect for the police, legal system, or any other part of the justice system.
I am not a Cynical person, but experience has taught me otherwise.

Im sure i mentioned this in a previous thread on a simmilar note,
However, once apon a time, i caught a teenager breaking into my car. i restrained him, didnt hit him at all, i just held him on the floor till the police could arrive, he did struggle a lot and as a result, gave himself some minor cuts and grazes.
When the police arrived, they were more interested in charging me for some variation of assault!!! Nothing happened to the teenager.
The Teens family did indeed try to press charges on me, and things looked pretty bad for me.

Fortunately for me some unscrupulous aquaintances i had were able to track them down and use intimidation and subtle threats of violence to convince them to drop any charges against me.
But i just loathe the fact that i had to resort to such measures to ensure my name wasnt blackened by something that wasnt my fault, when i did nothing wrong, and that i was a victim of our corrupt and absurd law system!
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
Sad loser women beating men
Posted: 5/13/2008 1:04:44 AM
i too was brought up, and am from the train of thought that a man should never hit a woman.

And for the most part, i agree with this statement, as a general rule, men are much more capable of doing damage than women.

However, every rule has its exeptions, i learned this the hard way about 7 years ago, i once had a woman start a fight on me as i stepped on her toes outside a night club, after a few slaps when she realised i wouldnt rise to it or retaliate, she laid into me, by the time i realised i was in real serious trouble, it was too late, i woke up in an ambulance with a concussion, a fractured rib, and i was blind in my left eye for over a month.
In all seriousness however, she could have killed me if she wanted too.

That being said, for the most part, i still would never hit a woman who attacked me, if she was petite, or considerably smaller frame than myself, id try and restrain her, however, if she was a simmilar stature and build as myself, although id do everything possible to avoid violence, i now wouldnt hesitate to fight back with everything i had if she looked capable of hurting me, i learned that lesson once, never again.

Also, to the poster who said, "No one has the right to retaliate" Do you mean that in the context its written?? As surely every man, woman and child on this earth has the right to defend him/herself if subject to physical danger?
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 67 (view)
Guys who play Videogames... big turn off?
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:31:59 AM
Shelone, your post of :-
"These games are for children, and to see 'grown' men playing them makes me despair."
Frankly reeks of Ignorance and speaks of a narrow mind. No offence intended.

Lets compare the Computer Game to the classic TV.
In many cases, its deemed acceptable for someone to veg out in front of the TV, but if they go near a Computer or Console, then its Taboo.
Computer Games are aimed at people of all ages, Young and Old, for some examples,
Unlike veging in front of the TV, Computer games are interactive and are proven to stimulate reflexes, logical reasoning, and numeric ability.
TV Certainly Doesnt do any of the above. Of Course, like any passtime or hobby, its has to be done in moderation and kept in check, but seeing such a blatent statement of Stereotypical ignorance is comical.

My Disabled Dad spends a lot of time on the PC as hes unfit to do most physical activitys, including walking. He also doesnt appreciate modern TV much as he sees a lot of it as shallow and "untrue to life"
On the PC he can choose his own passtime, and keep his senses alert.
And keep himself up to date with news, technology, and keep his mind otherwise active.
Now.. Do you really want to tell me that hes just passed GI Joe??
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
Self Esteem and Shallow Men
Posted: 2/20/2008 11:11:18 AM


Youve accomplished something that many people in this world wouldnt have the willpower to do..

Be proud of yourself.
Dont let some selfish loser ruin your pride and sense of achievement.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
Your teeneger tells you she is pregnant, what do you do.
Posted: 2/20/2008 10:49:16 AM
Without being a parent myself, i cant give an emotional answer,
So i appoligise if my answer will be Somewhat Generic..

However, in my oppinion, the worst thing you can do is lose your head,
shout at your daughter, and keep on at her about how stupid shes been.
(Like surprisingly many parents have done in my experience.)

Parents seem to forget.
:- What sort of emotional distress their daughter is going through.
:- How much courage it took for them to come forward.
:- The sort of impact a bollocking will have on there already distressed minds.
:- The absolute fear thy will be feeling at being pregnant at that age and what others & family will think of them.

I think sitting down, talking it through, being there to support them, and most importantly, not patronising, talking down to, or putting them down in any way.
After all, theyve undoubtedly given it a lot of thought before coming out with it to you.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
Driving Standards
Posted: 2/20/2008 10:39:50 AM
I think more of us have bad habbits than we care to admit...

Everyone here seems to think there excellent drivers...
I bet everyone here has at least one bad habbit...
i myself am no exeption to that rule.

The people that have multiple bad habbits and are downright aggresive, selfish, and dangerous drivers however, seem to be increasing on our roads.

I think this is largely down to overcrowding of our roads.
I actually agree with the guy who said
"bring back police patrols"
Never thought id hear myself say that either..
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
Just what is wrong with a good old fashioned game of British Bull dog
Posted: 2/20/2008 10:26:48 AM
i distinctly remember reading about a council that
banned playing conkers as it was dangerous..

i think when it comes to PC gone mad, there are dozens of examples most people could think of in a flash..
One day im sure it will all come back and nip society in the butt..
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
Posted: 2/20/2008 10:19:18 AM
Unless your using them on your PC, as far as movie performance goes,
BlueRay and HD-DVD both perform as good as the other.
(For PC applications, the theory is BlueRay is supperior..)

Sadly, i backed the wrong side and got a HD-DVD..

Gutted... Oh well...
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
Draconian drugs laws - Radio1 DJ gets 4 years jail in Dubai
Posted: 2/20/2008 10:09:45 AM
I have to admit.
Four years for that is a little harsh!!!

However, i cant help but think that we could learn a thing or two from such strict laws.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
The Justice System
Posted: 2/20/2008 9:55:43 AM

I reckon the justice system needs to be strickter...

As someone else said, corporal and capital punishment need to be re-introduced.

With capital punishment however, i think different degrees of "guilty" need to be introduced, so people convicted on circunstantial evidence for example, are not executed in case they are in fact, innocent.

However, its like nuclear weapons.
They make an excellent detterant.

Some 19 year old ganster wannabe wil think twice before knifing someone to death if he knows he could face the chair if caught.

Personally, i think the Human rights bill is the worst thing to ever happen.
It seems more concerned about the rights of the criminals...
Not about the victims whose rights were violated by such criminals.

Personally, i think we live in a society gone mad.
With counter sueing, compensation culture ect.

I may sound a little bitter, but i have no faith in our legal system.
And rightly so...
3 years ago, i caught some teenager red handed breaking into my car
and stealing my tools.

Believing in the fairytale that is a "Citizens arrest"
I forcefully restrained him until the police arrived, he was struggling like hell
so i really had to hold him on the ground to the point where i was sitting on him.
I gave him bruises to his wrists, arms, one on his shoulder, and he cut his face on the ground while struggling.

When the police arrived, they were more interested in arresting me than him.
I was detained longer than him.
I was told any charges i laid on him wouldnt carry well as i "physically hurt him".
The police (and his parents) were all up for throwing 3 assorted charges at me!!!

For what?? Defending my property.

The only silver lining of all this was i checked his wallet and found out his details.
Im not proud of this, but as my line of work at the time required a clean criminal record, i got some rather shady aquaintances of mine to use threats of violence and other intimidation methods to persuade his family to drop the charges.
They did before it went too far.

Still.. Its sad when people have to resort to such low, and demeaning tactics to achieve
It really is...
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
Do Your Parents Know You Smoke?
Posted: 1/2/2008 3:36:14 PM
i didnt start till i was in my mid twenties...
(god knows why i started, id survived through the rough "peer preasure" stages of my teens)
but by the time my parents found out, there wasnt much they could say really.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
The NHS condemn fat people and smokers to a life of ill health
Posted: 1/2/2008 3:33:55 PM

Maybe if the NHS stopped treating every illegal immigrant in the world they might save a few quid!!

Theres a certain degree of truth there.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
Foolproof Online Dating Tips for Desperate Guys
Posted: 1/2/2008 3:29:40 PM

Online gaming=immaturity

Some women may like an immature man once in a while. Not forever, I would guess.

No offence intended, but.
a comment like that shows me truely how narrow minded and biggoted you really are.

Assuming that playing an online game makes one immature??
Please.. Explain this one for me.
Personally, id view Gaming as better than a session in front of the telly.
At least gaming is good for the reflexes and is interactive.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
The NHS condemn fat people and smokers to a life of ill health
Posted: 1/2/2008 3:24:22 PM

If you were asked to manage the health of the nation and given finite resources to do it how would you balance the books?

Good question.
One i admit i cannot answer.
This is something that does need to be adressed.

In a perfect world, the ammount of neccessary "finite" resources would increase and be available with the massive increses of Tax we have had on everything from loans to fuel in the last few years.
(Whitch does make me wonder where the moneys going.)
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 161 (view)
Posted: 1/2/2008 3:20:29 PM


the first ever suicide bomber was a Christian, in Russia around the start of the 20th century. Also the worst-ever death toll from a suicide bomber prior to Sep 11th was caused by a deranged Christian in America sometime around 1940 - drove a truck full of explosives into a school.. (sorry, cant remember the exact details of either and too lazy to google)

Good point. well mentioned.

However, its not really an everyday occurance in christianity these days now.. is it?
Can you say the same about our "immigrant population?"
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
The NHS condemn fat people and smokers to a life of ill health
Posted: 1/2/2008 3:09:42 PM

How many people do you know of that have had extensive treatment due to an activity that for the most part is controlled, safe and done by people with enough experience to not get hurt very often if at all compared to those that have had lung cancer, throat cancer, heart disease, liver and kidney failure etc, etc due to their own choice to put excessive poisons into their own body?. I don't really think there is a comparison.

Who are you to make that judgement?
The point is, where does the discrimination stop??
Many foods we eat, (weather your obese or not) contain poisons and additives that are not exactly good for you.
Certain occupations carry certain risks of contamination and other health issues.
Even spicey food can have adverse reactions on certain organs within the body.

Granted, a heavy smoker or drinker not willing to deal with there habbit to aid treatment and recovery could be an exception, but more and more cases are slipping into the media about refusal of treatment.
For example, an ex workmate of mine was refused to have catterax (spelling?)
removed on the basis he smoked. Now that is just ludricous in my oppinion.

"medical discrimination" based on "lifestyle" is a dangerous can of worms to open, as once it starts, it will keep going..
Also, who gets to "play god" and make these decissions??
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
Excuse me, can you stop hitting the children please?
Posted: 1/2/2008 2:46:29 PM
Again this question is glass half empty/half full situation.

A slight discaplining slap is fine in my book, never did me any harm.
However, "beating shades outa them" No one should do that to their kids.
Id say something if i thought a child was being physically abused.

However, different people have different views on what "acceptable discapline"
You can get yourself into all sorts of trouble both physical, mental and legal by sticking your nose in where it isnt wanted, no matter how good your intentions are.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 158 (view)
Posted: 1/2/2008 2:37:14 PM
[Quote]Yes because foreign homeless people are so much more horrible and evil than British ones. I hope your ignorance and bigotry wins you many dates on here with like-minded women.[/Quote]

Hmm.. im sure there not.. just curious..
When was the last time you heard about a White, Protestant/Catholic Radical Suicide Bomber Preaching about killing people by blowing himself up in the streets?

I think the point is there not all bad, but there Violent minority are sure worse than the
brittish native thugs.

As for homeless, i ignore them..
I never used to...
Sure, i feel sorry for the genuine article, but theres too many fakes and addicts doing it these days, also, the "aggressive" begging as its known, thats all too common too.
I was also spat on once by a not so nice beggar.
Frankly, as long as there not physically in my way, im quite happy to let them get on with there own existence.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 41 (view)
that's it!
Posted: 12/24/2007 4:13:06 AM
I made the solemn mistake of doing a rather large chunk of my Xmas shopping of the net.
I seemed to momentarily forget that the brittish postal service seems to grind to a rather abrupt halt near the festive season.
Xmas eve morning was my last hope for such deliveries,
but an article on the news about people complaining that mail order services are a bad idea this time of year did little to inspire me with confidence.
Lo-and behold, im still several pressies down and ill be lucky to get them by new year..
Not the end of the world..
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
Lonely Hearts Ads
Posted: 12/24/2007 4:05:33 AM

Some people prefer the "local-ness" of lonely heart pages.
Its sometimes quite surprising the ammount of people who
would never consider internet dating due to the usual
stigmata it recieves with "my friends friend got stalked by a weirdo from the net" ect ect. so from that perspective alone, good old fashioned paper
opens up a new avenue of possibilitys for meeting people who arnt quite in the 21st Century yet.

Also, from personal experience, i tended to find the majority of people i was talking to while actively looking to
meet people were too far away from me to realisticly consider anything more than a casual chat and maybey a day out sometime if we really got on.
Id imagine this would be less of a problem through a local paper, but lets face it, your advertising to a much smaller audience.
Still.. never hurts to try.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
If guy gets out of a relationship 2 months ago, is he ready for a girlfriend?
Posted: 9/2/2007 8:05:12 AM
A couple of Possibilitys.

As Mr Farenheit said, He sounds like e will treat a relationship like a bussiness. It really may be worth getting to know him more before having such fast-paced discussuions with him as this will give you time to judge his personallity and attitude towards home life.

Again, he could be looking to get back into a "Familiar Pattern" if his previous relationship was intense. You could be his, for lack of a better explanation, security blanket. Some people really dont deal well with change or loneliness..

Also, he could view you as a easy way to move away from his Parents if hes that frustrated at home.

Bottom line is, its likely theres an ulterior motive to his "pushing for your relationship to advance."

EDIT :- Also, VirgilCane. Not true.. I have been back with my parents several times in the last 10 years or so. Not because i fell the need to be dependant on my parents.
But simply because i had little other choice. Property is expensive in my Area, and im going to further my education around work, it was a money thing..
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
If guy gets out of a relationship 2 months ago, is he ready for a girlfriend?
Posted: 9/2/2007 7:56:30 AM
This does sound all verry "Rushed"

It certainly isnt beyond the realm of possibility hes trying to get you into bed, however, Saying he wants to get married and have kids isnt usually a great way to do that.

The fact he is with his parents and frustrated at it sounds a little like he may be using you as a means to an end.
For example, he left an intense relationship not long ago, its entirely possible hes pushing for intamacy because he misses the familliarity of such a relationship.
Hence the pushing for physical love.

My two cents worth, you and this guy really need to slow it down a bit. As im betting theres more to his sudden heavy interest than simple atrraction and chemistry.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
When a woman writes I'm a good girl
Posted: 9/2/2007 7:49:14 AM
This is a phrase that can be interpreted in many ways,
It can also mean a great many things.
Its easy to get your wires crossed with this one.

It all comes down to what else is in the profile.
My gut instinct is why did the person feel the need to write "im a good girl"
As a result, im always weary of that statement in a profile, but if i had to choose, id much rather message someone who seemed to mean it as it is written rather than someone whos profile sugests that they'll spread like warm butter after a $20 bottle of wine.
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
Help how do you know if a guy just sees you as a lay
Posted: 9/2/2007 7:39:38 AM
To be honest.
I agree with 'C Deacon' in this one..
If you want to have sex, then have sex.
Witholding it to see if he will stick around wont really help.
Look at it this way.. Wont it hurt a lot more if eventually he is just after the one thing ? as the longer your with him, the more it will hurt.
Youl have to go with your gut feeling on this one i think, as no matter how much advice people give you, you and him are the only two people who really know where your relationship stands.

Anyway, why i agree with C Deacons point of view, After the dating thing and you are actually in a relationship, you should be pretty sure of your other halfs intentions by this point, and if you arnt, you have no bussiness being in a relationship.
Men think about Sex a lot.. This is a fact. But when women use it as a form of "Jerk Filtering" this is picked up by us men.
Dont get me wrong. i dont expect to jump straight in bed with someone, and i dont mind them "Holding back" but if it goes on too long, ill begin to have doubts.
An Ex and myself went for 4 months before we had sex, presumably to see if i would stick around and making sure she wasnt making a mistake, but by the 4th month i have to be honest, i was beginning to lose interest as in my oppinion, she was being too cynical about our relationship. i mean, how am i supposed to feel if she still doesnt have enough confidence in our relationship after 4 months? Also, she always used sex as Emotional Blackmail after that.. i should have guesed, but you live and learn.

The bottom line is. Sex should be a part of a relationship both parties enjoy to its full extent.
It shouldnt be used as an end goal, a way to filter people, or simply a means to get your own way. If left too long, it can unintentionally become one of the above, and us men do notice these things.
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