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 Author Thread: Does intelligence turn you on?
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 145 (view)
 
Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 7/29/2009 9:14:31 PM
I guess one question that comes to mind is, what defines intelligence? Academic achievement? Knowledge about the world? Valid opinions?
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
a non-romantic relationship question
Posted: 7/29/2009 12:56:17 PM
yes, you could be wrong. It has nothing to do with concern over my job.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
a non-romantic relationship question
Posted: 7/29/2009 7:32:55 AM
Well, thanks to everyone for your replies! Some great advice out there!
I guess on some level I still like her, but I can't seem to get over the age difference. I just feel creepy about it. Plus from seeing friends relationships crumble because of the co-worker thing, I think it's best to avoid that. I suppose I'll just do my best to get over being nervous around her and treat her like I would any other of my friends who play hockey...edited for content of course.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
a non-romantic relationship question
Posted: 7/28/2009 11:55:07 PM
Ok, here is the scenario. About four months ago, I met a girl who works at the local hockey rink. I initially wanted to ask her out. That changed when I found out that she was only 19. Legal, but a little young for my taste. (I'm 24)
Anyway I now work at the same rink. She has been working there much longer than me. Needless to say, it would be in my best interest not to get on her bad side. I really don't think I'm off to a good start. Although I no longer have any romantic interest in her due to both her age and our status as co-workers, I am for some reason still really nervous around her. We play hockey in the same leauge but different teams. For the past couple games, it seems like we are targeting each other not in the friendly spirit of competition, but in the "I'm about to make you look like a fool" sort of way.
My question is, how would anyone reccomend handling this situation? As stated, I have no interest in dating her, but being her "friend from work" would be nice. Any thoughts as to why I'm still nervous around her?
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
SNO-KING GROUP M&G / Bowl & Skate Plus more Event - Lynnwood, WA. - June 20th
Posted: 6/18/2009 12:25:38 AM
This sounds like a lot of fun! I'm definitly in! I'm looking forward to meeting some great people as well! I'm not much of a bowler, but I'm all over the ice skating!
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 7325 (view)
 
Hockey anyone?
Posted: 5/24/2009 11:38:50 PM
I was obviously refering to Team Canadas captain. Everyone knows that Iginla plays for Calgary.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 1144 (view)
 
May 24/09
Posted: 5/24/2009 1:28:09 AM
my original playoff prediction was New Jersey over San Jose in five games. Then it changed to Vancouver over Boston in six games. Now, I'm thinking Pittsburg over Chicago in four games.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 7315 (view)
 
Hockey anyone?
Posted: 5/24/2009 1:25:12 AM
Crosby has great leadership skills on the pens, but the honor of Captain ought to go to a more seasoned veteran. Iginla would be a better choice in my opinion.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
July 4th party
Posted: 5/24/2009 1:23:21 AM
its a nice idea. I'd like to do more than just ship food. But NC is a bit out of the way for me.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
A What if scenario
Posted: 5/24/2009 1:20:45 AM
Resident Evil scenarios are a good idea. I'd hit the road with as much fresh water and ammunition I could muster. A nearby Army base would be a good place to stock up at.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
I'd appriciate a review
Posted: 5/23/2009 10:46:54 PM
yeah i think i did overdo it a bit with the hockey pics.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
I'd appriciate a review
Posted: 5/23/2009 9:50:15 PM
I've never taken these sites seriously, but I'd like an honest review of my profile. Suggestions are greatly appriciated. Alot of people have viewed my profile, but I've recieved little to no actual responses to it. What would you change about it?
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
How many dates before......???
Posted: 5/23/2009 3:28:29 AM
There is no set rule. All relationships are different. You should make this decision based on your emotional connection, not a number of dates. I've had one relationship where I dated a girl for almost 2 months before we slept together. Another relationship, we did the deed after 4 dates covering a timeframe of roughly a week and a half. It all depends on the level of trust between the two involved.
Now this is just my opinion, but a girl who puts out on a first date is a bit of a skank. How much self-respect can a woman really have if she trivializes sex in such a way.
Thats my basic philosophy on the pursuit of sex with someone I date. Kissing however is completly different. There is a rule for this one. I always attempt a kiss on date number 3. Otherwise you run the risk of being put on the "friend list". Once you are friendlisted, you are pretty much stuck there.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 7301 (view)
 
Hockey anyone?
Posted: 5/22/2009 2:49:05 PM
I really think the Pens have a legit chance this year! Now only if the Blackhawks turn the game on, we'll have a decent setup for the finals.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
need a female opinion
Posted: 5/22/2009 10:18:04 AM
We did not meet through a mutual friend or friend of a family member. We play ice hockey in the same league. She is on another team and we are currently competing in the championship series.
Thanks to all for your replies!
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 7298 (view)
 
Hockey anyone?
Posted: 5/22/2009 1:31:07 AM
good lord! I'm still in awe of that no-look backhand goal he scored in the 3rd per!
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
need a female opinion
Posted: 5/22/2009 1:29:15 AM
I'm 24. I've become interested in an almost 19 year old. The age difference is the only thing that is keeping me from actually asking her out. Yeah she is 18, but being 24, I'm concerned that I may come off as creepy or sick.
Thoughts ladies?
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 1427 (view)
 
Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:19:26 PM

That's an easy one to answer. Women who are independent don't look to men for anything therefore the man's needs aren't met. There is no attention given to the man and also no necessary respect given. The woman thinks she can do everything herself and doesn't look to the man for leadership. The man has been made to be the leader and when he isn't allowed to be, he's not comfortable. The woman doesn't realize her role in that she needs to be submissive to the man's intended role as the leader. The man does need to respect the woman's decision to let him lead as well. When a woman takes over the man's role as the leader everything is messed up. No man in his right mind wants that.

wow...
Dude, you are giving the rest of us guys a bad name with your brutally flawed logic. Just because a woman does not need anything from a man does not mean she can't want something from a man. Furthermore a woman can do everything herself and there is no reason why a man should provide the leadership when its not needed. Your point on the woman having to be submissive sounds striaght out of the 1920's. It was wrong then and its wrong now. A relationship is a two-way street and either party being a submissive negates this. Relationships dont even require a leader. You cant expect a relationship to be healthy when you don't even respect your partner.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 1349 (view)
 
Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 6/15/2007 11:15:03 PM
I see this changeing very soon. Just look at the war in Iraq. I was there for a year and I can say for a fact that the line between combat MOS's and non-combat, has become blurred. For example, I am in a field artillery unit, but our main duty in Iraq was combat escort patrols in support of logistical operations in Northern Iraq. Female soldiers, although greatly outnumbered by male soldiers are out on the road just as much as anyone. And from personal observation, females can fire crew-served weapons just as efficiently as male soldiers. I've seen many female soldiers step up and perform exceptionally under fire.
 13barmor
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 1330 (view)
 
Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 6/15/2007 8:42:01 AM
I'll have to disagree here. Women are just as capable of providing structure to our society as men are. Personally, I prefer independant women. I like a woman who knows how to take care of herself. Ambition in a woman is a huge turn-on for me.
 
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