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 Author Thread: A recent hookup left me bruised and sore all over...is that normal or just weird?
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
A recent hookup left me bruised and sore all over...is that normal or just weird?
Posted: 4/11/2013 2:49:13 PM
I think I missed something. I thought the sex was enjoyable and yet your concerned because of the bruises? If the idea is to have less bruising then have less enthusiastic sex. Bruising sounds a little bit out there but if it wasn't painful then maybe a little less forceful thrusting is a consideration.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Womens views on FWB???
Posted: 4/11/2013 2:41:54 PM
I'm not sure why men are always accused of taking advantage of women in a FWB relationship. Both people enter into the relationship with their eyes open. It's about mutual sexual satisfaction with a friend that for some reason doesn't go beyond the friendship stage. Are men looking for easy sex and women looking to entice a man into a deeper relationship? I have never had a bad experience in this type of relationship as long as we are both completely honest. I truly think that this type of a relationship can produce a really strong friendship and meet the needs of both people. At least it has for me.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Womens views on FWB???
Posted: 4/9/2013 2:05:38 PM
It's really very simple. When you enter into a FWB relationship you have to understand right up front that as soon as you or your friend start developing deeper feelings you have to walk away from the benefits in order to keep the friendship. Too many people enter into this type of a relationship only to lose the friendship. If your adult enough to be able to compartmentalize your feelings and not cross boundaries this is a great way to enhance a friendship.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Men over 50 and sex
Posted: 4/8/2013 8:53:10 AM
A mans overall health at 50 is a reflection on lifestyle choices he made in his 20's and 30's. Look at guys that are active living a healthy lifestyle and you will find a partner that won't disappoint you in the bedroom. This is one of the reasons why a healthy active man in his 50's gets a lot of attention from women. With obesity at record levels any guy out there looking for a partner that takes care of himself will really stand out. That is just one aspect of being an attractive but with women entering their sexual peak it is a big one.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Do all women over 50 cringe when they hear the word SEX !!
Posted: 4/2/2013 5:17:17 PM
I think women in their 50's are inundated with sexual innuendos and tacky pick up lines. Some women are experiencing a surge in their sex drive but never the less have to deal with unwanted advances and game playing. Why not just treat her with respect and follow her lead. A woman with a high sex drive is more likely to respond to a man with good intentions than one simply looking for just one thing.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Orgies?
Posted: 4/2/2013 3:28:21 PM
You don't get invited to an orgy. You get invited to an adult party where things get very interesting.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Calling out your name during sex?
Posted: 4/1/2013 6:58:54 PM
She is trying to let you know how much she is into you. Just talk to her and let her know how distracting it is for you. Let her know how much you like dirty talk and I'm sure she will change for you.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Where do you draw the line?
Posted: 3/27/2013 8:27:29 PM
I've always been open to just about anything. I end up drawing the line at how much trouble I can get into if the police catch me.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Husband wants to watch
Posted: 3/25/2013 1:32:43 PM
A lot of men like to fantasize about their partner taking on two men. It sounds like your husband is far from actually living this one out. The mixed signals he keeps sending you could be a way of testing your commitment to him but seems like mind games to cause nothing but problems. I suggest you keep this in the fantasy stage than even suggesting to take it further because your husband couldn't deal with it in reality.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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To swing or not to swing
Posted: 3/4/2013 3:51:17 PM
In my experience you are better off laying out your lifestyle day one so there are no surprises. The vanilla world doesn't take too well to feeling deceived or manipulated regarding this interest. Be honest and let women decide if they want to contact you based on whatever else you put in your profile. The lifestyle is only one aspect of a persons interests.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 154 (view)
 
Putting out too soon????
Posted: 3/4/2013 3:04:56 PM
If a woman chooses to be my partner why on earth would I have anything but positive feelings toward her. She's paying me a wonderful compliment and how long or short our relationship lasts will have nothing to do with when we became intimate.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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STD check anyone?
Posted: 3/4/2013 3:01:18 PM
I agree with you completely. You can't see every sign of an STD from a physical inspection. A combination of regular STD testing, condoms with untested partners and yes keeping your eyes open for any physical sign is only smart.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Sex in the Weirdest Places!!
Posted: 2/28/2013 1:03:12 PM
It's entirely about pushing our limits and experiencing something new. There is an incredible adrenalin rush when we can be discovered at any minute. That is why sex in public is such a turn on. Try inside a busy bar or restaurant. How about in a hot spring at night (no kids around)? Just pushing the boundaries
and being adventurous is an incredible adventure!!
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Just a fun question
Posted: 2/27/2013 3:48:27 PM
I prefer totally hairless. God made womens bodies incredibly beautiful and I see no reason to cover any part with hair! Now if it was possible to get rid of the hair painlessly and easily!
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Wearing Panties For Sex
Posted: 2/26/2013 4:53:44 PM
Um No on the panties. It just doesn't feel comfortable to pull the panties to the side and slide right in. There isn't enough skin on skin for my taste and the edge of her panties rubbing against my d**k hurts when I pick up speed. A much better option in a skirt with no panties......talk about hot!!!!
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Casual sex and FWB
Posted: 2/23/2013 3:19:40 PM
In my experience either gender can have sex without emotion. I think the real key for women is to have enough trust in their partner that they won't be put down for being sexual. Believe it or not once some guys have sex with a woman, they feel entitled to be disrespectful or rude. These guys are idiots and don't have a clue. An emotional connection isn't necessary but consideration and respect is.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Sex and relationship
Posted: 2/14/2013 5:24:25 PM
There have been several astute replies to your message. Keep in mind that a woman describing herself as having a very high sex drive sounds like a woman into casual sex to a lot of men. As we all know a high sex drive does not equal indiscriminate sex. Make sure anyone responding to your profile understands the difference.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Explaining High Sex Drive?
Posted: 2/13/2013 3:16:04 PM
I think it is a huge compatibility issue. Early in a relationship when things are hot and heavy neither person can get enough of the other. Flash forward 6 months and one of you is topped out and the other one is horny all the time. I've encountered this issue several times and it was at the root for every failed relationship. I kept feeling rejected and she thought I was addicted to sex. My advice is to be honest from the beginning so there are no surprises later on.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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How to find out penis size
Posted: 2/11/2013 9:08:25 PM
I was in Las Vegas with a group of friends for March Madness. We were hitting a bar and came across 2 women and a man. The three of them were obviously very familiar with each other by their banter and actions. I talked to one of the women when she asked me if she could see how big I am. I said sure and freaked my friends out when they saw this woman looking down the front of my jeans. Everything worked out and i got the chance to check her measurements as well.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Sex Face
Posted: 2/7/2013 10:01:32 PM
I've always referred to it as a fu** face and each womans is different. I would feel really strange if she didn't make any facial expressions when she came. It is a very intimate look at a persons personality.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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whats with a threesome??
Posted: 1/31/2013 7:34:29 PM
A threesome is the logical extension for open minded sexual people. It adds another element for more fun and pleasure. The key is the people involved and can be incredible. If 2 is good 3 is better and so on. Once a person has accepted the idea that sex is only limited by our own imaginations there is a whole new world to be discovered.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Women viewing porn
Posted: 12/20/2012 3:54:37 PM
I don't have any problem with it. I actually like the idea that a woman is open minded and looks for ways to enjoy her sexuality. Why not ask to watch some with her to see what she enjoys. You might just enjoy all the benefits of this hobby with her.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Is a friends with benefits relationship a lure for women as much as it is for a man?
Posted: 12/19/2012 6:57:55 PM
No matter how many friends I have there is still a place in my heart that can only be filled by a special woman.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Is a friends with benefits relationship a lure for women as much as it is for a man?
Posted: 12/19/2012 6:02:49 PM
A FWB is a friendship where we also engage in sex. If the question is if it is the same as a marriage then clearly it is not. A FWB is not a booty call or a one night stand or a f**kbuddy type relationship. It is a relationship based on friendship that includes sex. I wonder if all of those critics have ever had sex with someone they didn't love?
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Slept with 36 women....
Posted: 11/5/2012 3:01:30 PM
I am firmly convinced that you never ask or answer the number question until you know the answers won't change the way you feel. I enjoy hearing a womans number so I have some idea of how experienced she is. I have a much harder time giving my number so I don't ask and hope she feels the same way.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 107 (view)
 
Do men really care if a woman has an orgasm????
Posted: 10/29/2012 5:38:50 PM
I can't help but think only an idiot doesn't care about his partners satisfaction. It's real easy......the more the woman enjoys the sex the more likely she is to want more. If the man puts in the time and effort to blow her away the more likely she is to want sex often. In other words to better it is for the woman the more the man gets to have.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
first time with someone new?
Posted: 10/9/2012 5:33:33 PM
For me it all depends on the situation and how we met. If I have the chance to talk to a woman and find out how open minded she is I can usually predict how good the sex will be. Some women are very inhibited and pushing their limits the first time we get together is a little harder. I have also found that the more experience a woman has with various partners, the more in tune she is with her body and expressing herself sexually. How comfortable is she and what are her limits. Is she truly ready for all of the things I'm about to do to her?
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
acting in adult films
Posted: 10/2/2012 3:51:32 PM
I would never think of a woman as damaged simply because of something she had done. I wouldn't think less of her and I certainly wouldn't have any problem talking to her to get to know her better. We all make choices in life and can't set our limits by what someone else might think about us. We all have the right to live our lives any way we see fit as long as we don't harm anyone else. Participating in an adult film clearly falls into this category. I really wonder why so many people react first by attacking a woman simply asking a question rather than offering the reasons to and not to participate.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Question about sexuality
Posted: 9/26/2012 1:55:50 PM
Women have the ability to feel an attraction to the beauty of a woman without the the baggage society places on being gay. I know several women that are comfortable letting another woman have their way with her. It's not really reciprocal but is satisfying to each of them. I consider myself completely straight but over the coarse of a MFM 3some, the other male started paying more attention to me. I have alway been very open minded and just focused on the woman. The other man was satisfied with performing on me and the woman was satisfied with my attention to her. In the end I was also satisfied by his efforts so it was a win,win,win. I would never pursue a man but allow their attention during certain circumstances and I consider myself completely straight.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Hit and Run
Posted: 9/20/2012 2:14:50 PM
You felt an incredible attraction and acted on it. The only blame or fault is with your partner if he intended to deceive you so that you would have sex with him. Why beat yourself up for having feelings and acting on them. Keep in mind that what happened to you would have happened no matter how long you dated him if his only intent was to have sex with you. Too many men think that they have to lie and mislead women for sex.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 152 (view)
 
has anyone actually participated in a threesome?
Posted: 9/18/2012 3:21:43 PM
I have enjoyed many threesomes and still do. I have been invited to join several couples in bed and it is always a great experience. In fact I have never had a negative experience from a threesome. I know it all depends on your partners. For me it's all about the sex and making sure that everyone is included. When I'm with a couple the other man and I focus on the woman to make sure she gets twice the attention. If everyone is open minded and doesn't bring a lot of emotions into the fun it is a great experience for everyone.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Totally weird question Guys....
Posted: 8/26/2012 1:33:47 PM
Definitely a head scratcher. I have no idea why a guy would say this, it doesn't make sense.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Ladies That hate recieving oral sex
Posted: 8/22/2012 1:39:11 PM
Most guys love the look of a completely shaved ****, and the idea of exploring with our tongues is a huge turn on. Men can manipulate their tongues much better than they can their**** so it's logical that we can please a woman as well with our tongues as we can our****. I know there are women that don't like it or are indifferent to it but keep in mind men enjoy exploring!
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 32 (view)
 
like bi guys
Posted: 8/22/2012 1:30:49 PM
You would be surprised by how many women have this same fantasy. As a straight guy I have found that if I focus on the woman and let the guy do just about whatever he wants to me, everyone is happy.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 36 (view)
 
sex toys and breakups
Posted: 8/22/2012 1:27:01 PM
I faced a similar dilemma years ago. I had a pretty extensive "toy box" that included every different toy I could find (I think of toys as sexual enhancements). My problem was dealing with the different reactions I would get whenever I pulled out the box. It went from OMG your not using that on me, to let's try that one. I eventually ended up with a toy starter kit and an advanced toy kit.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 155 (view)
 
Is Analingus the new Cunnilingus?
Posted: 8/21/2012 4:35:32 PM
Relationships are always a matter of compatibility. The sex part and what you as a couple enjoy comes with time and exploration. Open minded people are open to most things unless they have had a bad experience. Anal sex is like that. Look for open minded men that don't already have a long list of things they don't want to participate in.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Is there something wrong with both partners getting tested
Posted: 8/8/2012 1:17:39 PM
This is the smartest thing you can do to assure you stay STD free. Keep in mind that what your getting is a snapshot in time and depends on being monogamous.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
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Gangbang
Posted: 8/8/2012 1:08:41 PM

Also, it's beyond creepy to think that a parent would think it's perfectly fine for their children (grown, of course) to participate in gangbangs. Too sleazy


Creepy and sleazy, at least you came with an open mind regarding something you yourself admitted you know nothing about.


There are a lot of people on here who seems to think that if someone isn't willing to try something then there is something wrong with them... Advocating heroin is an extreme example to show, that just because you CAN do something, doesn't mean you SHOULD... And, also, like a Gangbang, it's one of those things that you can't simply UNDO....


I guess I missed the replies where anyone said there was something wrong with you if you did not participating in gang bangs. The issue I have is when someone wants to denigrate an activity they know nothing about. I thought the idea that simply because we can do something doesn't mean we should do it, is something we learned as small children. The fact that you feel the need to remind us of the obvious in your argument seems silly.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 146 (view)
 
Gangbang
Posted: 8/7/2012 9:30:31 PM

Some people don't need to stick their hands in a fire to know they'll get hurt...
Other people are just stupid and have to learn the hardway...



Sometimes you don't need to experience things...

Why not go and bang heroin for a couple of years?
If you haven't experienced it, why not? Lot's of people do....


Your comments are a little bewildering. So your advocating doing nothing or your suggesting doing heroin for a couple of years? I think we all make choices in life and I prefer being active and certainly not using drugs. I've noticed that you like to use extremes to make a point and suspect that simply letting adults express themselves the way they want doesn't work for you.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Is there a correct way of mentioning sex in a profile for a relationship?
Posted: 8/6/2012 5:15:14 PM
I'm a firm believer in putting anything that could be a deal breaker in your profile. Why not lay it out there and let women decide if they want to contact you. Keep in mind that if you have something on your profile others would view as extreme, women will see it when you contact them.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 140 (view)
 
Gangbang
Posted: 8/6/2012 5:02:03 PM
Hmmm.......consenting adults engaging in a sexual activity behind closed doors. If it's not sex would you describe what they are doing as playing cards, twister, or maybe a board game? So you have enough experience with perverts to know you don't enjoy them? Maybe you just didn't have enough experience?
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 91 (view)
 
Group Sex
Posted: 8/6/2012 4:55:59 PM
Group sex is one of those things that many fantasize about but few actually experience. It can be an incredible time but depends completely on the people involved. If everyone is active and engaged it's terrific, if one or two people sit back and wait for the action to come to them, they get disappointed because people are preoccupied with what they are doing.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 137 (view)
 
Gangbang
Posted: 8/6/2012 2:42:17 PM

It's all about objectifying and getting off on the perverse


I know there are times when the woman comes to think of men as simply "walking penis's" but I think this is a defense mechanism to prevent feelings from developing. Perverse?? I'm not sure I see how sex is perverse?
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 27 (view)
 
eye contact
Posted: 8/2/2012 1:10:08 PM

From a female perspective, it definitely freaks me out if a man is staring too intently without me knowing his feelings for me. If we are long-term partners -- this makes sense; if a FWB was looking into my eyes, I'd be creeped out. It'd make me think there was more to it than that.


I agree. Eye contact at the moment of climax is a shared intimacy that is best left to close partners. FWB usually know of intimacy how close the relationship is and can make the friendship closer. A FB or one night stand is all about the pleasure and not the emotional intimacy that comes with eye contact. A lot of people believe that sex in and of itself is the height of intimacy when there are many things that increase it.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
eye contact
Posted: 8/1/2012 8:46:02 PM
Definitely creates a feeling of intimacy and connection but not for every time. Like making eye contact with a woman in a mirror having sex.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 79 (view)
 
3somes
Posted: 8/1/2012 8:41:33 PM
Don't do it unless you are 100% comfortable with him doing a younger woman. A 3some is no place for insecurities in a relationship. More people are incorporating 3somes into their relationships. With this increase in experimentation comes relationships either more secure or torn by the event.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Videotaping Sex
Posted: 8/1/2012 8:18:03 PM
Talk about an incredible walk down memory lane. They are just for me and brings back incredible memories. It's amazing how much of the details we forget over the years. Watching the old videos brings back all those images and feelings. I'm still in touch with some of my old friends and they enjoy watching as much as I do.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 36 (view)
 
man on top 69
Posted: 8/1/2012 4:42:04 PM
Woman on top is definitely better. From there she can move right into a sitting position!!!
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 123 (view)
 
Gangbang
Posted: 7/31/2012 1:29:41 PM
would you be as open-minded and positive about a GUY who wished to express his sexuality via "pulling the train" taking a line-up of guys on, anally or even a line up of women with strap-ons doing him?


Of coarse! If a man wants to do the same thing, I have no problem with it.


If having a group of men lined up taking turns f*cking her OR having several men f*cking her in every orifice at the same time is the only way a woman can "experience a level of pleasure she can't find anywhere else"......I would think maybe a visit to the shrink might be in order. I mean seriously.......get f*cking real? What is she going to do when she no longer finds the gang bangs "pleasurable"? Start looking for Donkey's?


Let's be clear. A woman is engaged with several men is a sexual act that both she and the men enjoy. Extreme, yes, but certainly not something that anyone else can criticize when they are completely unaffected. Why on earth would you as a woman, perpetuate the double standard where women are held up to ridicule when they engage in an adult activities with other consenting adults. You make the leap to Donkey's to emphasize your argument when we are talking about consenting adults behind closed doors.

I don't mean to put you on the defensive. Can't you see that anytime a woman is criticized for being sexual all women pay a price?
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 118 (view)
 
Gangbang
Posted: 7/30/2012 5:17:28 PM
You can paint a picture like that to be as ugly as you can imagine. There are women expressing their sexuality through gang bangs that experience a level of pleasure they can't find anywhere else. Keep in mind that women are taking the initiative sexually and looking to experience things some people would find objectionable. It doesn't make it wrong for everyone just some.
 
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