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 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 42 (view)
 
You get blocked just for sending a message?
Posted: 1/5/2016 9:34:32 PM
No you don't get blocked just for sending a message. You get blocked because they no longer want any communication with you.

Honestly for the male whiners on here if you can't deal with the fact that you can no longer message a gal who doesn't want contact with you then you shouldn't be here. Be real honest about why you are so butthurt that you're blocked instead of claiming it's 'abuse' or 'wrong' for a gal to block a guy.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 78 (view)
 
What do you think about flirting when in a primary relationship?
Posted: 4/27/2015 12:14:03 AM
I have no issues with flirting with other guys if I'm in a relationship. If my bf at the time has an issue with it I just point out that he most likely sexually desires other gals, sexually fantasizes about other gals, and masturbates to porn so he's being a bit hypocritical to try to limit my sexual expression.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 305 (view)
 
I don't NEED a man! I WANT a man!!
Posted: 4/26/2015 11:51:35 PM
There may be a certain element of need for you and others but I don't operate that way. There's no need or even want. I'm more of a I can enjoy a guy when he fits my criteria.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Very interesting article that applies to ALL MEN!
Posted: 4/26/2015 11:43:22 PM


Online dating has gone nuts, its like all the women, feel that they are entitled to Alpha c.o.c.k

God help us.

It seems as though once women are past 40, it's the non-stop hamster working overtime to keep up the esteem. The reality is she is fading but the hamster keeps her "believing and hoping".

I'm starting to get the idea that western women are so damaged, that men will have to end up growing an entire replacement generation of women created from artificial wombs. They would be taught traditional values, and to be feminine in the true sense and not what feminists think it should be. It'd certainly give western c.u.n.tresses some competition.

You may speak for Australia but the US is quite different as studies show it's males who are most likely to be narcissists and arrogant. Also when it comes to online dating it's males who pursue unrealistic standards with 2/3's of guys seeking 1/3 of the most attractive gals while gals seek a variety of guys.

Considering how hateful and lazy most guys seem to be I highly doubt gals will consider this replacement generation competition. I imagine gals will see them as a blessing allowing them to escape the misogyny these guys spew. It's amusing that you speak of female entitlement while proposing guys create and rule human beings for the sole purpose to fit male whims.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 20 (view)
 
The Disposable Vagina & even Pizza doesn't get delivered for free
Posted: 4/14/2015 2:32:52 AM

Such as? If you agree to have sex, then you've gotten what you agreed to.

I showed how ala: 'You can agree to perform a job for X amount then get paid Y amount. ' No if you agree to have sex because of X and you don't get X you don't get what you agreed to.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 128 (view)
 
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 4/14/2015 1:56:49 AM
In these days of equality I find gender traditions are rarely updated.

A gal still generally does most of the childcare/household duties the only update is now she also contributes to half of the finances. Plus a gal generally is still the one expected to change her name to the husbands the only update is now guys can change his name to the wife (though he has the stigma of being seen as less of a man). So in my opinion a diamond ring is a fair exchange for the name change and unpaid uneven future work.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
The Disposable Vagina & even Pizza doesn't get delivered for free
Posted: 4/14/2015 12:30:04 AM
In my opinion most dating online and offline is about expecting immediate gratification and seeing others as disposable.


If the guys and girls are willing participants, how does that make the guys who are the bad ones? The girls are equally participating in hook-ups and bad behavior. Sounds like another typical "women are victims if sex doesn't lead to marriage" thread.

The guys may be the 'bad ones' by deceiving her to get her to participate under false pretenses or by disrespecting/degrading her an act she likely wasn't a willing participant in. Just because an activity is agreed upon doesn't mean bad behavior is nonexistent. You can agree to perform a job for X amount then get paid Y amount. You can agree to perform a job then be mistreated by your boss during/after the job.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 208 (view)
 
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/13/2015 3:41:07 AM

Hey Lurker, thanks. I may not be the popular choice but at least I dont jump on the bandwagon without contributing as shown in the courting thread.

Apparently we all have to share the same view else your not part of the 'gang'.

No problem Vicki. I just really liked how you single-handedly in that quote addressed all the backtracking and shifting.

To me you're the popular choice for not negatively labeling different preferences as somehow lacking or not as fulfilling.

Meh I have no interest in the respect of such people.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 205 (view)
 
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/12/2015 5:05:57 PM
^ Nice further show of evidence she was right. Even if you did the opposite and argue with her.

I do love that quote hence why I lurk and post gems instead of argue with non respectable opinions like yours.

No need to further respond, argue, defend yourself, etc....unless you want to further do the opposite of said quote.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 203 (view)
 
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/12/2015 2:32:30 PM

If you (not you) like rough sex then have rough sex but quit telling me that my sex is (without quoting every line ill try to recall the words you and others are using), tame, along one line, not like a rollercoaster, is not wild, is not unabandoned, lazy, predictable, every day ect. If that is your impression of me that is fine. I like what I like and you like what you like. Mine is as good as yours ok? So kindly stop trying to imply it isnt.


Lurker here. I just had to quote this gem as I found it hilarious that Charmin and Belle were acting as if they weren't being insulting acting as if their sexual preferences are better but it's okay if you want your nonreckless, boring, lazy sex/ that's just your preference.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 254 (view)
 
Women in their 30's not having time for men
Posted: 4/11/2015 6:06:04 PM

" Naturally. DID women ever REALLY need men, : After over 20 years of women saying that , men are doing the one thing the feminists never thought would happen , saying the same thing back . About time men woke up . They forgot one thing when they started the war against men , men are the ones that win the wars .


Egh seemingly guys have already been saying they don't need gals, gals are useless, etc. Feminists seem to merely turn it back on guys as an attempt to state gals can do for themselves unlike the much touted male notions that gals are nothing/can do nothing without men. In my opinion "I don't need you" is not a war cry unless you detest gals being independent.



It's not a war cry at all ' Lets see , the legal system is biased against men .

First off 'I don't need you' doesn't equate to making the legal system biased so it seems you're doing some logic leaping to twist this discussion so you can rant about your own agenda. Second off the legal system is biased against men, women, races, and classes depending on the scenario. To seemingly prop it's solely against guys is self-victimising and showing your own bias.


The entire social system is biased against men .

This extreme statement shows quite a skewed perception and again your own bias. So the slut double standard is biased against guys?


Corrupt family and divorce (reason why marriage is at an all time historic low in the USA) courts are biased against men .

This is a misleading statement family/divorce courts are seemingly generally biased against who earns more. Just because guys often fit that descriptor doesn't mean the courts are biased against men for being men.


The education system is biased against males ( if a young male shows the least bit of individuality they medicate it out of him so that he can be average like the rest )

First off, new knowledge of behavioral disorders being medically addressed is not bias. It may be zealous and mislabeling but it's not bias against men for being men. This is an issue of an active kid being labeled ADHD and medicated.

Second off the education system has repeatedly been shown to be biased against gals so there is gender bias both ways. Again to seemingly prop it's solely guys shows your own bias. Do tell me how it is biased against males when administration/teachers ignore boys sexually harassing gals?(1) Do tell me how it is biased against males when harassing, violent, threatening behavior is tolerated by boys because "boys will be boys"? (1) Do tell me how it is biased against males when assertive behavior by gals is often seen as disruptive and may be viewed more negatively by adults because girls' misbehavior to be looked upon as a character defect whilst boys' misbehavior is viewed as a desire to assert themselves.? (2) Do tell how is it biased against males when boys are far more likely to receive praise or remediation from a teacher than were girls? (3) Do tell how is it bias against males that boys usually receive more teacher questions than girls, boys are more likely to get follow up questions, and boys are allowed to speak over girls?

There is gender bias both ways though it is understandable you don't see it. Many teachers didn't see such until their lessons were videotaped and to quote one teacher "As a teacher, I was struck by the Sadkers' research on classroom exchanges and was forced to acknowledge the disproportionate amount of time and energy, as well as the different sorts of attention, I give to male students. (4)

(1) Bailey, S. (1992) How Schools Shortchange Girls: The AAUW Report. New York, NY: Marlowe & Company.
(2) Reay, D. (2001) 'Spice girls', 'Nice Girls', 'Girlies', and 'Tomboys"; gender discourses. Girls' cultures and femininities in the primary classroom. Gender and Education, 13 (2), 153-167.

(3) Sadker, D., Sadker, M. (1994) Failing at Fairness: How Our Schools Cheat Girls. Toronto, ON: Simon & Schuster Inc.

(4) Jones, K., Evans, C., Byrd, R., Campbell, K. (2000) Gender equity training and teaching behavior. Journal of Instructional Psychology, 27 (3), 173-178.


Those are the facts of the matter .

Those aren't facts but extremist and bias claims coming from a self-victimizing mindset.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Virgin female looking for virgin male
Posted: 2/1/2015 5:20:54 PM
I'm going to guess your question is 'Why would a virgin gal want to lose her virginity with a virgin guy before dating a non-virgin guy she's interested in?'. If it is my perspective on that is it is a matter of pride/ego. The gal probably doesn't want to 'waste' her virginity on a guy who's been around. The gal could also probably be taking a proactive step in lessening resentment by evening the playing field with both being non-virgins that way she doesn't feel miffed that she gave him her virginity. It's akin in my opinion to guys that want to up their numbers after finding out their gf/wife has more partners than him.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 79 (view)
 
Should you always go through with a meet and greet?
Posted: 1/29/2015 5:28:34 AM
I see nothing wrong with the '"This isn't going to work, sorry' approach. My time is my own I'm not obligated to spend it on someone so their ego/pride/feelings don't get hurt. I came to the meet and greet with an intention and if I know/think that guy can't fulfill it I see no reason for me to continue the meet and greet.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 269 (view)
 
Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 1/24/2015 10:34:21 PM
I find the gals who love sex just as much as men do are generally very very easily orgasmic and insistent on the guy doing what she enjoys. In my opinion gals generally don't love sex as much as guys because they're getting far less pleasure from it so the aforementioned type of gals who orgasm very very easily and demand what they want tend to enjoy sex as much as guys do thus they love it as much as guy.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Do women get bothered when you approach them in public?
Posted: 4/9/2014 7:11:39 AM
Some gals get bothered when approached in public likely due to the approach being motivated because the guy wants to have sex with her body, past experiences of most approaches being unpleasant, or because she doesn't want to be forced to interrupt what they were doing so they can socially interact under the pretense of politeness with someone who invaded their time/space for his benefit.

I think it's more suited to try to interact with others in a social setting such as hobbies/clubs so one can build something with people they are getting to know.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 74 (view)
 
Why do most men look twice their age after 50?
Posted: 1/19/2014 7:22:33 PM

Quite possibly they forget all about fitness. What is the first question a woman asks her friend about a new man she recently met?

Meh in my experiences/observations it's never his looks that's like the third question while the first question depends on her personality, social environment, and age. For myself it's been like this:
under 18: who does he hang with? (I find the question's meaning is to determine his popularity and social rank)
18 - 23: what is he like? (I find the question's meaning is to determine his personality)

24 - 27: how much does he make?/what does he do? (I find the question's meaning is to determine his stability and if he makes as much as her)

28 - 35: is he looking for something serious? (I find the question's meaning is to determine his commitment and desire for marriage)
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 134 (view)
 
Asking a Female Stranger Out. (Randomly)
Posted: 1/18/2014 8:48:27 PM
I'm done. But if you want to continue telling me what I meant, I wish you joy of it. Have a good evening.

LMFAO @ being done when called on your bs. I stated how you seem to feel, butthurt, not what you meant you're the only one telling someone what they meant recall:

"You act like being attracted to someone is a crime against humanity. "

"Newsflash: being physically attracted to someone is not something that is horrifying."
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 132 (view)
 
Asking a Female Stranger Out. (Randomly)
Posted: 1/18/2014 7:57:30 PM

Why in God's name would I be butthurt? That doesn't even make sense.

I already answered that question. Your illogical seemingly emotional defensiveness to my post to another user suggests you're butthurt. Nowhere did I state, suggested, implied, or made a point that being attracted to someone is a crime against humanity, that I expected a guy to ask her out based on something else besides her looks or that being physically attracted to someone is something that is horrifying...yet that's what you lept to.



I was responding to this from you:
"Essentially what you said is if they're attractive I want to date them which is wanting a piece of her based on nothing but her looks."

Which I thought was a strange statement considering the topic at hand was asking a random woman out that you saw on the street. No kidding it would be based on looks at that point - but hopefully it develop into something more as you got to know each other (or fade into nothingness if there wasn't enough there).

The full statement was: "That's a nice spiel however eliminating gals based on her attractiveness shows that the default position isn't to want to date and that meeting the looks standard is a preference. Essentially what you said is if they're attractive I want to date them which is wanting a piece of her based on nothing but her looks."

It's not a strange statement considering it was a response to another user that I even quoted in my response who was twisting and spinning basically saying a random guy isn't approaching a random gal based on nothing but her looks because "unless they are unattractive, I just want to date them by default."...which is basically saying if they're attractive I want to date them showing the default position isn't I want to date them so he is approaching based on nothing but her looks.


But I am genuinely curious as to how you think I'm being insecure here - because I'm not seeing it with what I wrote.

Completely understandable that you're not seeing it considering how you seemingly saw it fit to put that I was acting like being attracted to someone is something horrifying and like a crime to humanity yet still can't provide an answer as to where I stated, suggested, implied, or did such.

So you don't see insecurity in projecting nonsensical irrelevancy into others posts that weren't even directed to you. That you went to that I'm acting like being attracted to someone is like a crime to humanity seems that you perceived an attack in me stating he wants her based on nothing but her looks and was reacting defensively.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Why do most men look twice their age after 50?
Posted: 1/18/2014 2:03:41 PM
Possibly due to decades of not taking care of their physical appearance coming back to them. It seems there is quite a low youth/beauty standard for guys so most seem not to bother about caring after their physical attractiveness plus many probably don't think they are suited to as I find most guys have quite an inflated ego estimation on their attractiveness.

In my country, America, I find most guys tend to have that all used up look after 30.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 30 (view)
 
0 to Stalker in 2.5 days
Posted: 1/18/2014 1:29:38 PM
He's likely cray-cray.

I suggest changing his contact to CRAZY GUY so you know not to pick it up and checking out a guy further before releasing your message.

I also suggest ignore the guys that are telling you that your criteria such as being good looking is shallow as I highly doubt the ones telling you this message gals they don't find attractive and most likely guys who approach you/message you are doing so because they find you attractive so in my opinion you place yourself at a disadvantage where not only are you the more attractive one but it seems the one with more character as you were willing to overlook looks something he didn't. I find this telling gal is simply a way for less attractive guys to get gals that are more attractive than themselves by cloying on emotions by using guilt and shaming them.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Im 28 and starting to feel hopeless about finding someone
Posted: 1/18/2014 1:02:02 PM

It's called experience.

Also realize that the Research that indicated that men was at his prime at 18 only accounted for masturbatory behavior. As you age, you start having sex not so much with your hand but with women. And develop a way not only to attract women, but to please them. So along the way you learn and get much better.

Seems more like it's called bias and twisting on your part.

I wasn't talking about prime in regards to sexually pleasing a partner. I was talking about prime using the common definition such as in the general optimal sexual attractiveness, health, and sexual fertility of a male's life.

Meh considering the studies I've seen on the orgasm gap and things like how much oral guys give vs how much they get* it doesn't seem that as guys age they do much in developing a way to please gals if anything going by such studies it seems it decreases as 18-21 and 25-29 are the best ages where there was only a 3% difference. Though I can see them getting much better sort of like there being less sh*t in a milkshake then there was before however that doesn't change how it's still mostly sh*t not a milkshake (going by how no matter the age range guys still get more they they give).

*
Graph http://blog.vixely.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/men-receiving-vs-giving-oral-sex1.png
Article http://vixely.com/2011/10/11/sex-stat-women-give-more-than-men/
Study http://www.nationalsexstudy.indiana.edu/
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 130 (view)
 
Asking a Female Stranger Out. (Randomly)
Posted: 1/18/2014 12:48:04 PM
No kidding. And you'd expect a guy to ask her out based upon how she handles her 401k? What charities she's involved with? How she treats stray animals? You act like being attracted to someone is a crime against humanity. Tell me, if you see someone across a crowded room and want to get closer, is it because of his stunning personality, or his well hung intelligence? Because you know, those things are easy to see from a glance from far away. Newsflash: being physically attracted to someone is not something that is horrifying.

Do tell how am I acting like being attracted to someone is a crime against humanity? Show me where I stated, suggested, implied, or made a point that I expected a guy to ask her out based on something else besides her looks or that being physically attracted to someone is something that is horrifying...oh that's right you can't because I didn't.

I did state that a random guy approaching another random gal is asking her based on nothing but her looks in regards to someone arguing otherwise.

Seems like you're butthurt and projecting your issues and insecurity onto my post.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 50 (view)
 
What does it take for you to Block someone on POF?
Posted: 1/12/2014 6:23:57 AM
Being a bitter resentful misogynist and/or a self-entitled narcissist who thinks his sole/main flaw is being (too) nice. I tend to read/post in the forums so I just block any guy that fits or seems to fit that descriptor based on his forum posts.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Im 28 and starting to feel hopeless about finding someone
Posted: 1/12/2014 4:46:10 AM

Past his prime? Ha.

I would say a man's prime is 49. So the OP has a long way to go. Without having to pay for it.


You're a much older male so there's some bias in your consideration of what is past prime for a male.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 115 (view)
 
What you've learned about online dating after 90 days...
Posted: 1/11/2014 7:10:16 PM
1. That most guys are bitter resentful misogynists who are quite self-entitled thinking their unwanted uninvited attention deserves to be appreciated and really narcissistic to think their sole/main flaw is a self-congratulatory one of being (too) nice.

2. That the forums are more interesting than the male profiles and whiny/hateful/woe is the poor menz male posts on the forums are actually a great derail from the male profiles.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Im 28 and starting to feel hopeless about finding someone
Posted: 1/11/2014 6:14:58 PM
I can get feeling a little bit down since you're way past your prime and reaching 30 however feeling hopeless in regards to you "finding someone" is a bit much since as you're a guy you have way too may options in my opinion.
If you're hoping to find someone for sex and your definition of success is sex then there's prostitutes.
If you're hoping to find someone for a relationship and your definition of success is a pal you can have sex with then there's escorts to cater to your whims and wants.
If you're hoping to fin someone for marriage and your definition of success is a gal that is younger and hotter than you then there's mail-order brides.

All of these options can be done online.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 118 (view)
 
Asking a Female Stranger Out. (Randomly)
Posted: 1/11/2014 3:33:49 PM

You guessed it, I'm going to say yes. Based on what? The fact that she's female. Hell, I'd accept if there was a possibility of it being a man. In that case, as soon as I found out it was a man I would say, sorry, I'm not gay, so this isn't going to work. But, anyway, I would want a date with someone based on absolutely nothing, just to give it a try and see what happens. So, actually, wanting a date is more of the default position than not wanting the date. Approaching the stranger is therefore merely an outward expression of the DEFAULT position of wanting to date as many women as possible, preferably ones that meet their standards. So, really, the women who should be offended, from this point of view, are all the ones I DON'T approach, solely based on looks. You have to give me reasons NOT to want to date you to scare me away, not the other way around. It doesn't work that way. Once I look at a girl, she might be ruled out based on looks, just because that's the only information I have when I first see her, so that's all there is. So, unless they are unattractive, I just want to date them by default. So, think of it as if it was her looks that made me want to date her is just looking at it from the wrong perspective altogether. The only role her looks played was to keep her in the pool of women that I want to date. She didn't get eliminated because of her looks. I already wanted the date before I even saw her. It's just that that desire didn't go away when I saw her.

That's a nice spiel however eliminating gals based on her attractiveness shows that the default position isn't to want to date and that meeting the looks standard is a preference. Essentially what you said is if they're attractive I want to date them which is wanting a piece of her based on nothing but her looks.


Wow. Imagine a woman having to endure such a torment as a guy asking her a QUESTION. Just based on her looks. Woo hoo. Man, I mean, it must really suck to be a hot girl. I feel so bad for them. Can you imagine?

Meh it's generally what the torment a gal has to endure after the question when the answer is no that it sucks to be a hot gal or really any gal as guys in my observations tend to be quite narcissistic thinking their unwanted uninvited attention should be oh so appreciated and that she should be grateful.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 249 (view)
 
Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 1/11/2014 3:16:11 PM

I don't know if it's that easy. If it was, there wouldn't be so many guys having dry spells or sexual frustrated.

I'm unsure why you seem to be equating "a guy being able to skate by without pleasing a gal sexually" = "guys can go without dry spells or sexual frustration." Just because a guy can skate by on being doesn't mean that he can go without dry spells or sexual frustration.

Let me clarify for you: A guy being able to skate by without pleasing a gal sexually means when he has sex he can easily because from those he is having sex with it seems many/most gals put up with that or are conditioned to accept it. It does not mean that guys aren't going without dry spells or sexual frustration.


I think guy's would have to do less work as far as approaching and courting and more girls would be initiating towards a man if he is great in bed and tries and takes the time to get the girls off even if it's just a hook up.

What you think is sort of a reality from my observations as it's more of the guys that are good/great in bed tend to be on tap for the gals in relationships.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 243 (view)
 
Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 1/10/2014 2:11:45 AM

But it doesn't make sense even if a guy is naturally a selfish guy. That's why it baffles me.


It doesn't baffle me as I often find guys aren't logical that despite how guys tout about how logical they are, especially in comparison to women. In my experiences/observations in regards to sex guy live in the moment they're not thinking about ahead of time so he's not thinking about if he does badly how will it affect him he's thinking yay I'm getting some.

As well as perhaps it's my age range but I find society is more of a hookup culture and guys can easily skate by without pleasing a gal sexually as there will be tons more gals that are willing hookups and the sexual shaming of female sexuality. Guys can even skate by in relationships as again perhaps it's my age demographic but I find gals are quite sexually shamed if they open up about being sexually dissatisfied as if gals are solely/mainly supposed to seek intimacy from sex not sexual pleasure. Quite often I hear a gal lament about a boyfriend being bad in bed and wanting to dump him and she gets insulted and told if she does she deserves a bad boy/jerk/***hole to beat her up...o.O.. More often I hear complaints about using sex as a weapon and she should be dumped when I advise the gal to not have sex if she's not getting pleasure from it in response to the insults, ill wishing, and sayings of how if sex is so important to her she doesn't understand relationships. The sex as a weapon bit is odd to me it seems it's shameful if sex is so important to a gal that she wants sexual pleasure from it but it's not shameful if sex is so important that a guy will dump a gal if she's not putting out? o.O
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 164 (view)
 
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 12/27/2013 7:25:22 PM

Just so you know, girls here on POF are more picky when it comes to appearance that they are IRL. IRL you can use your charm, wit, and intelligence to make up for what you lack in appearance. So IRL go ahead and approach an "attractive" woman. If you actually have something to offer, they will usually give you the time of day. Here on POF I have been shot down by some pretty "attractive" women. However I don't let this bother me, because I have had more "attractive" women IRL show positive interest in me than a lot of the girls that don't give me the time of day here.


LMFAO @ this. Amusing how it's being more picky about appearance for an attractive gal to turn down an average guy...yet nothing on the average guys pickiness for wanting a much better looking partner. Male logic is so funny and exactly when I tend to feel no sympathy for guys when they whine about gals income standards.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 229 (view)
 
Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 12/27/2013 7:18:32 PM
Yes there is a certain type and they're generally degraded by misogyny and patriarchal norms as 'sluts', 'whores', and etc. In my opinion more (heterosexual) gals would be more into sex or as into sex as guys if they orgasm as much as guys did which seems unlikely considering how studies suggest guys are generally selfish in regards to sex.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Income Level and Dating Expectations
Posted: 12/27/2013 6:32:12 PM

Do you think dating expectations and income ARE strongly related / influenced?

For some people. Me included.


Do you avoid/be wary of people from certain cities/areas because of where they live, or because of how much they make?

Yes. I don't consider guys that make less than me. I do consider it tit for tat since I find most guys wouldn't consider gals that are less attractive than themselves, especially as I find most guys try to get gals that are more attractive than themselves. So I see no point in giving a guy a break when he wouldn't give me a break on factor he considered important. To me it's like a gal not dumping a guy for being bad in bed when he'd most likely dump her behind so fast if she started 'withholding'/'denying' him sex.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 885 (view)
 
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/23/2013 8:41:50 AM
Maybe you might want to read her post over again if your sole purpose isnt to defend everything she posts regardless of its content. While her overall post wasnt about double standards, she used examples of double standards to try to prove that men use sex as a game of power and control. The correlation she tried to make between the two issues made absolutely no sense. A man calling a woman a slut for doing the same thing he does is not him using sex to control her. If anything, the women will continue sleeping with whoever she wants, but she will just be an expert at hiding her misdeeds. Bottom line is that men on a large scale do not use the promise of sex to require women to do A-Z in order to score.

Maybe you want to reread her post again if your perception isn't sex can only be used as power and control in only way way that being using the promise of sex to get someone to do something.

The correlation she made between the two issues made sense if the point was sex being used as a game of power and control which at the time it was with your "men do not use sex as a form of power and control". Slut-shaming is a way of using sex as power and control as it's trying to control female sexuality with shame, so is rape, and punishing those aka stoning that don't adhere to the sex rules. Seems you only think sex can be used as a power and control in only one way that being using the promise of sex to get someone to do something and that is completely untrue as that's not the only way sex is and can be used as power and control. Or you're changing it up after being called on your bs and now limiting it to the form only being promising sex in exchange for certain actions.

Some gals will continue sleeping with whoever they want, others will feel shame/guilt/regret over their actions and try to adhere to the male ideal of what's not a slut. I find it's really a toss up.

Nice on changing up your bottom line from guys do not use sex as a form of power and control to guys not using the promise of sex to require gals to do A-Z in get sex. Seems her post got through to you and you now know that guys do use sex as power and control unlike how you previously claimed and are now just listing the a way they generally do not use it for power and control.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 882 (view)
 
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/23/2013 1:18:04 AM

And perhaps this is where the disconnect occurs? Men don't understand-or maybe envy?- why women aren't making more use of their ability to obtain sex with a snap of her fingers?


I agree that this is where the disconnect occurs as guys seem to see this as something enviable perhaps they'd understand why gals aren't using this ability if they saw it as being able to easily get an act one tends to not want (most tend to want relationships and if it is sex it's with those they connect with), generally doesn't enjoy (orgasm gap) and comes with the risks of rape, pregnancy, STDs, and STIs (gals are twice more likely to get an STD than give one).

So perhaps if guys saw gals ability as going to a really repulsive prostitution that could kill and anally rape him and if she didn't then she get all/most of the sexual pleasure then they'd see why this ability isn't seen as envious to gals.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 881 (view)
 
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/23/2013 1:13:33 AM

"1. Double standards suck. Yes its wrong for men to call sexually promiscuous women sluts when a man can sleep with many women and not earn a derogatory label. But what about the double standards that go against men? Is it fair that a woman who physically assaults a man be given a pass but a man who hits a woman be labeled a monster? Is it fair that a man who gets a woman drunk to have sex be labeled a rapist but a woman that does the same thing to a man be given a pass? My point is double standards between the genders exist, but if you are going to point out one side, you have to be willing to acknowledge the other side. "

Yet her post wasn't about double standards it was about showing you that guys do use sex as a game of power and control. Seems more like your post is about evading being called on your bs that men don't use sex as a game of power and control to whine about the poor menz.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 826 (view)
 
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 10/15/2013 9:44:34 PM
I find this fat gal is going to be as desperate and she or any other gal will have sex with any drunk ass guy quite amusing. It's a nice stfu to all the American guys whining about how hard it is to get sex since it seems all they need to do is get drunk and it's a really nice stfu to all the American guys whining about what unrealistic high standards gals have since (fat) gals are oh so desperate and willing to take any drunk ass guy.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
How to trust again
Posted: 9/30/2013 9:36:51 PM
In my opinion it's suited not to trust when the it comes to guys especially in dating. Perhaps just go in with the expectation of having fun and keep that guard up so you can bail when the games start or when as most likely his actions don't match his words.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 659 (view)
 
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 9/26/2013 8:14:50 PM
Gals can really get laid whenever they want however I'm not seeing this as having any use unless the gal is charging for the sex since statistics and studies show most heterosexual sex does not result in an orgasm for a gal and guys tend to get more pleasure than they give.

In my opinion getting laid whenever one wants is pretty much useless when it's a 30% chance of having an orgasm and comes with the risk of rape, pregnancy, stis, and stds.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/21/2013 4:07:13 PM
No more than the fixation you have that if it in a surveys, studies, or research it has to be true. For me, I question everything, I take very little at "face value", and in doing so I usually learn something new in the process.

I don't have that fixation. Nowhere did I state, suggest, imply, or mention that "it has to be true". I did state my my observations/experiences backing it up with studies for naysayers saying 'it's only your experience' or I cite studies to show other claims they are touting as facts aren't supported by factual evidence.

It seems the only people it bothers are those who make claims touting it as facts or applicable when it isn't supported by factual evidence.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/21/2013 3:08:11 PM
*** edit
I see you meant the latter estimation 'as women think they are' to be the estimation for the former as well.
***

<div class="quote">I used "as stupid" meaning underestimating. But you see only what you want to see despite the contrary. Just like people will do with surveys, studies, research; interpreting it, intentionally or unintentionally, to suit themselves and agenda.
"as stupid" is a comparison if your the intention was underestimating then "aren't that stupid" or "aren't so stupid" would be suited. I wasn't only seeing what I want to see despite the contrary as there was no contrary since"as" is a comparison.

Nor was there any agenda but it seems you have one with your fixation on dismissing surveys, studies, research, etc that counter your experience-based claims. Not unsurprising though.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/21/2013 2:05:00 PM

No, actually that's not what I said at all. In Message 181 I wrote:
men are not as stupid and women aren't as smart as women they think they are

I have not called women stupid and how you thought I did is beyond me. Perhaps I missed some necessary punctuation? Try reading it without "men are not as stupid and".

I didn't say you called women stupid I said "you stated guys aren't as stupid as gals" and you did ala "men are not as stupid". You're using the term "as stupid" meaning you're comparing stupidity and since gals are the topic gals are the only logical implied option for who guys aren't as stupid as.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/21/2013 12:52:34 PM
You mentioned guys being stupid and get played as well, to which I and other since have agreed. As to the belittling, you seem to be doing quite fine on your own and the only guys this would bother are thin-skinned.

I stated guys and gals being equally stupid while you stated guys aren't as stupid as gals. Unlike you I haven't done any belittling as I stated the gender stupidity was equal. Though do tell what belittling I've done?



I notice, too, that you also had nothing to say either way about my mentioning female gender superiority. Is that something you've observed and familiar with in the real world and forum threads?

I did say something about your mention of female gender superiority you even quoted it: "Perhaps those gals you know in the real world and the gals in the many threads here remarks were 'meant as somewhat of a humorous remark".

As for your question no I haven't observed anything familiar in the real world or forum threads of many gals touting female gender superiority. I haven't even observed some some gals doing this it's only been a few gals and by few I mean 1 or 2 and she's shut down fast by gals saying it's equal and guys saying guys are superior ala guys invent everything/guys built civilization/gals only offer a hole to bust a nut in/gals only have their looks. Any time there is gender superiority in my observations it's almost always a guy as I see way way way way way more guys touting gender superiority than I do gals. It seems the only place I could get such an experience of many gals touting female gender superiority is in a misandric feminist environment while I could get the many guys touting male gender superiority in any environment (yes even the misandric feminist environment as for some reason guys tend to bombard those).
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/21/2013 12:14:58 PM

. Your *hopes* certainly could have PLAYED you.

Yep. Most of the time when I hear a guy/gal complaining about being played it's their hope playing them not another person.


The irony is, people who are seen as "players" from afar, tend to not be the people who plays other PEOPLE.

Definitely my experiences and observations. The good looking guys I know are called players because they're surrounded by gals however in my experiences/observations good looking guys generally aren't players in the sense of being a manipulator/liar/deceiver as they don't have to be since they easily attract gals often to the point where gals pursue them.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/21/2013 5:09:41 AM

100% agreement on the point. As to my "guess," it was meant as somewhat of a humourous remark. And your observation of the belittling a gal's estimation of their intelligence, I know women in the real world with female gender superiority who belittle the intelligence of men and I've read many threads here from women here as well doing the same thing. Both genders are guilty of belittling.

Perhaps those gals you know in the real world and the gals in the many threads here remarks were 'meant as somewhat of a humorous remark'.

Amusing you claim both genders are guilty of belittling when the only one doing the belittling here are males this thread responses itself make it out as if gals are the sole/main ones to fall to players. In my experience both genders are guilty however guys tend to belittle gals intelligence far far far more than gals belittle guy's intelligence as it's a norm to think guys are smarter/more intelligent than gals and gals are dumb.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/21/2013 12:47:08 AM

Touché, Walts,

Touché he somehow got me citing studies that gals don't make less rational decisions because a guy is hot to mean gals generally aren't attracted by the looks of a guy.


only a guess: men are not as stupid and women aren't as smart as women they think they are. It's only a guess though.

His response of what he though my studies showed counters your guess. However your guess is understandable as its quite ingrained misogyny in society and male gender superiority that many guys think they are smarter than gals and belittle gal's estimation of their intelligence. I find way more guys aren't as smart as guys think they are than I do gals. If guys weren't as stupid I doubt there would be so many complaints of gold diggers, nice guy laments (thinking his only flaw is being nice/thinking he just has to be nice to get a partner), and such. When it comes to being played my observations show guys are just as stupid as gals.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/20/2013 3:49:23 PM

But,but, I thought your surveys and stats show that girls generally aren't attracted by the "looks" of a guy?????? And this opinion is based on your "observation" is it????? Hmmmm, sumttin to think about I guess. I stand corrected.

You thought wrong as my studies and stats show that gals don't make less rational decisions because a guy is hot. It said nothing about gals attraction so how the hell did it show that gals generally aren't attracted by the looks of a guy?

Sumttin to think about is how did you get 'gals don't make less rational decisions because a guy is hot' equates to 'girls generally aren't attracted by the looks of a guy'? o.O

Care to explain how you got 'girls generally attracted by the looks of a guy' from me talking about how their rational decision making, memory score, and cognitive abilities aren't impaired by the attractiveness of a guy:
Egh no my experience/observations say otherwise as well as studies show it's guys that tend to make less rational decisions, score lower on memory, and have impaired mental cognition based on the attractiveness of the gal while for gals the attractiveness of the guy has no effect on gal's ability to make rational decisions, memory score, or memory cognition.
http://webcenters.netscape.compuserve.com/homerealestate/package.jsp?name=fte/prettywomen/prettywomen
http://www.japantoday.com/category/kuchikomi/view/men-act-stupid-when-talking-to-beautiful-women-study-shows
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=why-interacting-with-woman-leave-man-cognitively-impaired
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/20/2013 3:36:19 PM

In your "observations" have you ever seen a "ugly" player?????

Yes many many many times in my observations most players are ugly with some being average and a few being good looking. The good looking guys weren't players as they didn't have to be since they were sought and heavily pursued by gals =and use to gals being the initiator/aggressor or doing such heavy hinting that there was no need for games as he knew going in he can initiate and get what he wants.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/20/2013 3:23:16 PM

Lol would probably believe that coming from the ladies!

Not unsurprising as going by the misogyny, sexism against gals, and belief that having a vagina = being stupid.


Seriously they don't half pick some dodgy characters and then when it all goes to pot suddenly, they have a massive fit wondering why guys are so bad? Well try spending a bit of effort looking for the guys with a good personality and social interests rather than one that's got washboard abs and a Brad Pitt face.

Probably for the same reason guys who wonder why gals are so bad don't spend more effort looking for gals with good personality and social interests rather than the (much) younger gal with supermodel/p*rn star looks. That reason being many people tend to want physical attraction in a romantic/sexual relationship unless this guy with a good personality and social interests is cool with a sexless relationship.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/20/2013 3:20:38 PM

Nice of you to "think" that at 22 years of age. But, at 52, I have seen with my very eyes, the first step the "player" takes. It's basic, and it involves the "look" of him,catching her eye and then gentle "approach". And yes, I also stated women are the emotional beings that they are, which the good player preys on. But, it almost always starts with the visual. Especially with the bambis of your age group, and then later in life, with the older ones,cause it's rare for any man over 40 to be "good looking" and "in shape", so, if they ever do get approached by a "good looking" man, they are not telling him to go away.

Quite telling that you seem to be an ageist as well as think your experience is more credible than a factual credible peer-reviewed study. So it seems the your way of support is to use your age and opinionated experience of what affect gals rather than factual evidence of how gals response to guys looks when making decisions. Okay then.


And for future reference, you have no clue what I will spew when actually ranting. I, personally, love listening to words of wisdom from the younger peeps. Keeps me on my toes.

Seems you're unaware that citing studies /= words of wisdom from the younger peeps. Okay then.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Why do women fall for players?
Posted: 6/20/2013 6:36:44 AM
There are no female victims of players.

Not in your opinion. If there were no victims then they would be no players which comes with the negative definition of tricking someone and most often are liars, cheaters, manipulators, and deceivers.


Women are grownup children, they refuse to take responsibility for their actions.

Gals are no more grownup children than guys are and to state otherwise is again more telling misogyny on your part. Acknowledging someone's actions of deception is not refusing to take responsibility for one's action of falling for the deception. If a person was deceived by someone stating that person deceived them is not refusing to take responsibility for one's own actions of falling for the deception.


That's why they will not say they fell for a guy becasue he was handsome and insta-moistened the vagina.

Probably because they didn't as my experiences/observations and studies show gals don't fall based on looks that's more of guys area as guys are more visual. http://news.menshealth.com/do-men-fall-in-love-faster/2011/09/02/
 
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