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 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 4/4/2013 8:45:56 AM
Conquistador:
It is not even close to being those things... I shower 2x more than he does...sometimes he goes 3 days without showering and I would still do him...
He is also a smoker and doesn't brush his teeth a lot. You would think I'd be repulsed but we just don't really kiss much :(
I also know what I am doing and he told me when we first met that he never liked certain things until I did them... I also have a bunches exes who would jump at the chance if there ever was one.

Hayley1804
I have kind of given up on getting sum. He told me once that he likes initiating and if I would give Nima chance, I'd get more booty.
Sometimes I won't initiate things for a month to see what would happen... And I think he either didn't initiate or I got sum one time...

I don't think I have a sex addiction. I just like having sex with my man...
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 187 (view)
 
How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 4/3/2013 7:51:31 AM
I always warned my bf's that if they cheated on me then I would have sex with their brother, or best friend...
One time I dated a guy with a twin... Now that would have been really awful.

Never had to follow thru though..l never been cheated on that I found out....
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 4/2/2013 7:11:51 AM
Thanks for the advice... I guess I was hoping someone was in this situation and somehow it improved.
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/29/2013 4:43:42 PM
Haha that's funny you asked. I read that story too so he was not allowed to watch. I made him hold my hand the whole time.
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/29/2013 4:27:18 PM
I don't think he is cheating on me:
1. He is on the shy side.
2. He doesn't go anywhere... He is at work or home... He never goes out with friends... Doesn't have any


I resent that anybody would say I trapped him.
He moved from his apartment into my house that I bought. I didn't ask him to.
No I didn't want an abortion... That doesn't mean I trapped him.
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/28/2013 8:47:45 PM
I have an 8 year old from a previous relationship.
He has a 5 year old relationship.
We have a 2 year old together.

Up until recently, we had full custody of his daughter and so we had a very full house... Very Yours Mine and Ours
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/28/2013 8:30:51 PM
Thanks QT3.18

He mentioned to me one time that he was sexually abused as a child. He wouldn't give me anymore details and I don't want to bring it up again.
I'm kind of afraid that it's something to do with that...perhaps like a subconscious thing.

I just really don't think he will talk about it with anyone, even a dr. He thinks that it's private business and is just between him and me.
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/28/2013 7:56:39 PM
Actually this is my first time posting with this account. I closed my old one when I met my bf.
I joined just for the forums.
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/28/2013 6:03:29 PM
So you say I don't compromise or aren't trying to import from Uk

So what would you think would be a compromise?

I would like it every day
He would like it once a month.
Average those 2 and it would be every other day...
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/28/2013 5:49:03 PM
Tnt144

All I meant was I am about the same as when he met me so if it was fine then you would think it'd be fine now.

I don't nag, but if I try kissing on him, he will most likely tell me he is too tired.
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/28/2013 5:35:42 PM
I only Wei 5 lbs more than when I met him... Really don't think that's it. Was never skinny.
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/28/2013 5:34:52 PM
Import from UK I think you are being a little harsh.
I wanna talk to a therapist to see if there's some way we can compromise on this situation.
He is perfect in every other way but this one and it's hard for me because I really would like to be with him every night...
 Notinterested5891
Joined: 7/29/2012
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Bf rarely wants sex
Posted: 3/28/2013 5:21:56 PM
My bf is unlike any guy I ever dated.
When we met, we only saw each other weekends so we always had sex just on the weekend.
I got pregnant and so maybe it slowed down more due to me feeling like a big house after 6 months or so.
I thought that it would get better after the baby.
It hasn't. My bf rarely initiates sex. If it was up to him once a month would be ok.
Ive never been with a guy who didnt want it all the time.
Every timeI try to talk to him about it, he gives me an excuse. When I solve the problem, there's a new excuse.
I know he is not cheating on me.
I'm 27 and he is 34 if it matters.
He tells me he won't go see a therapist with me.
Every time I try to talk to him about it, he basically tells me he is how he is and he won't change :(
 
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