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 Author Thread: Why so many physically unattractive men on here??
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Why so many physically unattractive men on here??
Posted: 5/7/2018 11:24:57 AM
Troll job surely?
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Do you put on a mask when you meet someone new, just to try to make a good first impression?
Posted: 6/8/2015 12:18:19 PM
Yup everybody tries to put their best foot forward first.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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What your thoughts on open-relationships..?
Posted: 4/12/2015 6:33:14 AM
I think they can work for a smallish minority of couples, though, most people would end up feeling jealous and or conflicted etc.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 54 (view)
 
HeforShe UN speach by Emma Watson
Posted: 9/26/2014 3:05:16 AM
I thought it was a fantastic speech on the whole, I just didn't care much for the way she equated feminism with other: Discriminated against groups ( including men at least in certain situations). Why? Because, this is to some extent what gives feminism a bad name in some ways.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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How important are looks to guys????
Posted: 9/14/2014 5:20:38 AM
Contrary to what you've said here, I'd actually say MOST guys will actually fantasize MOST about: The Girl next door, their friends mum, the local barmaid with a nice big pair of jubblies etc. Why? Because that's how dudes are sensorally wired. The familiar fox raises the most...ya know!!!!!
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Is there such a thing as being too nice people
Posted: 9/9/2014 8:54:49 AM
If you allow your sense of loyalty to people etc outweigh your own self-respect yes OR if you often do stuff with the conscious or unconcious desire to gain some external reward (other than your own internal satisfaction), then yes, you probably are being too nice.

It's all about underlining motivations IMO.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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would you date a 28 year old guy who never had a gf
Posted: 9/5/2014 6:38:29 AM
I'm about 2 years older than you and pretty much in the same boat.

Have I given up, no! Though I have at certain points, at the very least put the whole dating thing on the back-burner.

I think what you really need to remind yourself of is this: Most women, who you've only just met are not going to know or even guess (at least not right away that you've never dated before). As much as female intuition can be a very powerful force, it ain't witchcraft.

A simple a point as the above is, it's sometimes a very easy thing for us 'green' fellows to lose sight of.

Last time I went for a big night out with my friends for example, this random female came up to me & said:

'Whoa, how tall are you?'

I said 'Nearly 6ft 6'

She said: 'I bet you get loads of girls don't you' *Playfully pinches my cheeks*

I smiled a rather ironic smile. If only she knew, LOL.....but then, clearly she DIDN'T!!!!
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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I don't believe I'm an alcoholic
Posted: 8/31/2014 8:16:29 AM
A bottle and a half of wine once a week isn't all that much (at least for a fully grown man).
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Hiring a prostitute to lose virginity
Posted: 8/30/2014 8:53:36 AM
Most women don't 'despise' virgins, more they tend to prefer more experienced men and they can be quite suspicious about the reason(s) behind a guy well beyond normall poppin age who still happens to be a virgin.

Also, with regards losing it to an escort/prostitute.....well, if that's the road you wanna go down (providing you use protection, are sensible etc) it's your call.

It might be a fantastic experience which gives you a lil lift or it might be something you have at the very least 'mixed feelings' about.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Is love a feeling or a choice?
Posted: 8/30/2014 8:08:23 AM
It's a feeling/strong emotional connection which is sustained and strengthened through loving, understanding actions/choices.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Disgrace for Brazil
Posted: 7/11/2014 1:23:44 PM
They basically need better players.....you can't blame the manager for that.

I mean, I didn't expect them to get mauled as heavily as they did by Germany, though, a heavyish beating still wouldn't have surprised me.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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38 and she has Zero relationship experience.
Posted: 5/10/2014 7:39:06 AM
If you are not prepared to wait for her....well.....next!!!
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Man I've not yet met has told me he loves me!
Posted: 4/13/2014 10:45:38 AM
RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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evolution and psychopathy
Posted: 4/12/2014 3:49:18 PM
'but it seems more and more these days that there are a lot of normal people getting messed up and doing messed up things out of desperation or because they have recently become mentally ill'.

I personally believe this is an illusion created by our 24/7, global media. In the past a helluva a lot of bad stuff happened that never even came close to making it into the news....or if it did make it into the news, it would likely only be regional news etc.

Nowadays, even fairly minor atrocities & crimes etc can become global fodder for debate/shock etc within minutes.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 46 (view)
 
NHS workers to wear £1,000 fat suits to work with obesity.
Posted: 4/12/2014 7:04:39 AM
Raionally speaking though, if each hospital only buys 1 or 2 two and passes it around it's employees for a year or so well, in the grand scheme of things, tis peanuts!!
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 45 (view)
 
NHS workers to wear £1,000 fat suits to work with obesity.
Posted: 4/12/2014 7:02:41 AM
But most nurses are fat anyway!!!!!

Sorry........couldn't resist.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Contact allow: Sort by Education
Posted: 4/12/2014 6:56:40 AM
Maybe join a graduates only or professionals only dating site.....I mean they have just about every other permutation.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
:) + Man + :( :( = ???
Posted: 4/12/2014 6:50:17 AM
(:) <<<<<<<<<<<<<Watch out for this though, definite bipolarity right there!!!!!
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
:) + Man + :( :( = ???
Posted: 4/12/2014 6:48:36 AM
I think you are MASSIVELY over-thinking this....emoticons are more cultural as opposed to being indicative of whatever emotional landscape a person has or hasn't got IMO.

:)
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Do women get bothered when you approach them in public?
Posted: 4/7/2014 5:23:18 AM
I should have also said flirtatious remarks tend to work better than compliments (though the probability of failure is higher) since: A) Flirting with a girl you have only just met communicates to her you are confident, fun, daring, not an obsequious 'nice guy'etc & B) If you do want to compliment her later, this flirtation lays a much better base for it's reception.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Do women get bothered when you approach them in public?
Posted: 4/7/2014 5:16:58 AM
From a 'player' perspective, many women, especially really good-looking, outgoing ones will always tend to have their '**** shield' up to both protect them from MOST guys & also to TEST guys who they think might just have enough alpha-male potential to melt their proverbial ice berg.

So, the answer really lies in who you are & HOW you approach.

As for me personally, I think if a woman is really mean or icy towards just because I had the temerity to pay her a compliment or whatever.....well, she's probably a fairly low class hoe who isn't worthy of my time anyway.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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What does it mean when a girl tells you , you have no game
Posted: 4/6/2014 11:49:16 AM
My interpretation:

You do in fact lack 'game'- 78.4% probability.

OR

She was 'gaming' you- 20% probability.

OR

LEPRECHAUNS!!!!!!!- 1.6% probability.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Little physical attraction after 2 dates
Posted: 4/3/2014 5:39:38 AM
Sounds like you are not really into dude, reject her NOW rather than potentially stringing her along is the thing to do.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Gay Weddings
Posted: 3/28/2014 5:47:11 AM
If it was a close friend, sure.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Is lack of relationship experience a turnoff for most women?
Posted: 3/14/2014 8:03:45 AM
Generally speaking, yes.

Just avoid the whole issue until you are asked about it specifically OR it naturally comes up etc.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 204 (view)
 
Paedophiles...Should We Be Publicising Their Whereabouts?
Posted: 2/27/2014 7:20:30 AM
Viscerally speaking, I think it FEELS like the sensible, rational thing to do though, however, ultimately I think publicizing details of such offenders can generate more problems than it cures.

How so?

Well...let's see now:

-More scope for vigilantism (which I don't have any great problem with generally..but, such activity almost always affects innocents as opposed to guilty moreso). Both in terms of innocents being targeted & the PARANOIA such attention can breed.
-Very, very low scope for reformed offenders ever going straight/leading a normal productive if EVERYONE knows about their past.
-Naming & shaming IMO shifts the focus away from the biggest problem ie: Unconvicted child sex offenders, it just feeds the: If we all know who & where the boogie men are we are safe, which is counter-productive/can lead to a false sense of security!

In short, I think we should either keep the worst sex offenders locked up indefinitely OR if we are going to release them back into society OR give them at least a half chance of re-intergrating.

Also educating young kids on how to deal with & or report sex offennders is key.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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After getting dropped in that freind zone should I keep seeing her or break it off?
Posted: 2/27/2014 7:02:53 AM
Unless you enjoy being emotionally kicked in the groin you should definitely cut ties dude.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Why Is Dating, or Any Human Contact Difficult to Achieve for Some People?
Posted: 2/17/2014 5:53:32 AM
It's a social thing mostly.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
What's the best way to deal with my FWB situation?
Posted: 2/15/2014 6:22:57 AM
Dudes can often be super-retarded when it c0mes to this kind of situation.

Tell him you won't accept just being his **** toy & the ball is in his court.

Put yourself & this poor chump out of your collective misery!
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Why does it seem like average-looking guys get overlooked?
Posted: 2/12/2014 7:26:20 AM
It's a statistical/perceptual phenonomenon, ie most guys are are more or less average looking, therefore their are more people who fall within this range who notice it/experience it.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Is the friendzone even real...
Posted: 1/28/2014 5:52:33 AM
Friendzone is just a euphmemism for: It's never going t0 happen!

Also, with regards the niceness thing, yes, lots of women will overlook a 'nice guy' in favour for a 'bad boy' etc....though, that really comes down to the girl.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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I'm rather confused as to why people seek relationships.
Posted: 1/10/2014 4:49:16 AM
If that's honestly how you think.....well....what's the point in pretty much ANYTHING really?
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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I guess I'm not good looking? Or what?
Posted: 1/7/2014 10:08:24 AM
You basically need at least a few happy/smiley pics (no you are not ugly) + re-do your profile & remove ALL negatives!

Also, the emphasis on 'gaming' is also not in all fairness going to do you any favours.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Too unrealistic and/or setting myself up for failure?
Posted: 1/6/2014 12:15:57 PM
That's what I was just thinking..... LOL!!!

I wonder if that means autistics are even more nymphomaniacal!
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Speed dating and online dating
Posted: 1/5/2014 4:51:52 AM
I've always quite fancied the idea of speed dating.... I'd imagine it'd kinda be like a really fun, informal job interview + basic human psychology/human nature would take care of the rest of the 'connection'.
 SergeantSnugglemeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
24 reasons dating isn't for you.
Posted: 1/5/2014 3:09:57 AM
Weeeeelll damn.....I'd say least half of those are at least semi-applicable to me ......still not gonna stop me dating though.......eventually!!!!!!!
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Advice to your younger self
Posted: 1/3/2014 11:30:24 AM
Go with a flow just a lil bit more.

Think less, do MORE!!!!
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Trapezius muscles /upper back
Posted: 12/20/2013 2:29:25 PM
Shrugs for traps.

Rows & or pull-overs for lats.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 4 (view)
 
The Appeal of Sad Songs
Posted: 12/19/2013 8:46:55 AM
Certain songs have always struck a certain 'chord' with me, they just tend to carry much greater resonance if & when the feel & or lyrical content of such tracks in some way pertain to my present situation/feeling.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Too unrealistic and/or setting myself up for failure?
Posted: 12/12/2013 5:27:45 AM
I think you likely need to at the very least consider 'broadening your horizons' with regards how you approach socializing & or your view of such activties.

Also, with regards the wants to be intimate but is an introvert, that's totally normal, I'm very much the same in that respect.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Need help, truthful not brutal please...
Posted: 12/4/2013 4:38:41 PM
Remove ALL negatives.

'Can't stand football..! Many have tried to show me the path to football, but "blah"..
...And like thousands of other Britains; I pay for the gym - but attendance is low!'

^This segment in particular needs to be completely axed or massively re-jigged^

Be truthful, yet playful.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Why some people prefer online dating than the old-fashioned way
Posted: 12/4/2013 12:26:21 PM
Lots of people are shy (especially when it comes to making an initial approach) & or they've grown tired & disenchanted with the 'bar scene' etc.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 429 (view)
 
What puts you off messaging someone?
Posted: 11/27/2013 1:55:02 PM
'If you wanna know just ask'

Mono-music genre lovers.

ZOMG!!! I'm such a barbie doll types.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 15 (view)
 
When should i admit i have autism?
Posted: 11/26/2013 9:30:56 AM
I'd say keep it to yourself until if & (if it ever) it comes up naturally in your communications with a lady you are interested in.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Your Definition of Intimacy
Posted: 11/25/2013 7:34:58 AM
Sense of general closeness/feeling the freedom to express vunerabilities without fear of fear of harsh judgement/understanding/reciprocal warmth & affection.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 107 (view)
 
Should I move out of my parents house?
Posted: 11/25/2013 7:10:57 AM
If it was me I definitely would, I mean you can afford a beamer & make considerable monthly savings + have a decent social life etc....I'd be outta there!!!!!!!!!

I don't understand it tbh.....but hey...you are indian.....different culture, different life path/expectations etc

Would your parents disown you or something if you did move out?
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Intimacy & Measurment of Success
Posted: 11/25/2013 6:56:26 AM
People are generally sheep.

People are can often be rude/thoughtless.

Certain people will always agonize over the reason/reasons behind anyone or anything which is outside of the norm.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Would you hire a escort to gain sexual experience
Posted: 11/24/2013 7:00:44 AM
I haven't but I am seriously considering it.

Sometimes the idealism of youth makes way for the pragmatism & (in a sense) open-to -dventure mindset that tends to come with being a bit older.

I think as long as you don't view losing it to an escort as some 'magic bullet', maybe it might just be the ticket for you.

Good luck either way:)
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
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Is music important?
Posted: 11/24/2013 6:16:33 AM
As long as she is fairly ecclectic & we have certain musical preferences in common, it's not the be all & end of compatability.
 SergeantSnuggleMeister
Joined: 8/18/2012
Msg: 121 (view)
 
Are introverts only attracted to introverts?
Posted: 11/24/2013 5:48:28 AM
As an introverty myself I tend to be interested either in others who are introverted or people who are least a bit more outgoing than myself to balance things out. An extreme extrovert would definitely drive me nuts.
 
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