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 Author Thread: My Matches suggestions
 laurdust
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
My Matches suggestions
Posted: 8/19/2012 11:16:02 PM
This feature most definetly needs some real improving! Least for me it does! Lol
I really think someone here is just throwin a dart at ANYbody for me!
 laurdust
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Suggestions to make the site better
Posted: 8/19/2012 11:06:58 PM
I'd suggest more options for what your looking for-and particularly NOT looking for to eliminate alot of the 'ego-busters!
 Laurdust
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Need an HONEST profile review
Posted: 12/29/2011 12:26:53 PM
Thank you Samaa
Truer words couldnt be spoken.
Based upon your photos you shouldnt have any problems on here either, though Im pretty sure you mustve had a creep or 2 checkin you out once or twice, havent you?.... I call them that fittingly, because they somehow 'creep' into your viewed me list totally unexpected & uninvited (wish there was some kinda extingish button for those too) leaving you going omgosh what in the world were THEY even thinkin! Let alone what you may have in your profile as to what your even looking for-they seem to think , or just totally disreguard entirely how they can adversly affect your own self-esteem!
Not to toot my own horn or anything, but the kind of guys that Ive dated in the past (off-line only) all had pretty much the same thing in common, and that was that they were all pretty much good-looking guys. Only on these sites, Im getting alot of ...well, to put it more mildly...the kinds that make Shriek look like a Fabio!
Ive tried many different photos of myself, and as 1 person had already put it, I looked like 2 different people in them! I guess I must just photograph like a chamelion or something, but Ive tried many different ones too to no avail..(same results!)
Since posting my original question, I have changed...more like ommitted several things, based upon alot of the neg. feedback I received here. (though, I prob shouldve re-checked it out 1st - before I posted the question) ... Whew, thought Doris Day there was going call out the pof police on me for the few copied& pasted music tunes! lol But I also DID have 'various' other pics as well too depicting (what I had thought) were my other attributes as well...was informed that they made no sence

 Laurdust
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Need an HONEST profile review
Posted: 12/28/2011 5:29:02 PM
Holycowwow?
Youve obviously never seen my viewed me list...youd be insulted too!
 Laurdust
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Need an HONEST profile review
Posted: 12/28/2011 8:42:54 AM
Oh brother! A How-To Guru
Guess you mustve obviously been studing those...hows THAT workin for ya?


EVERYONE knows (or should anyhow) that honesty's the BEST policy! If you cant just BE YOURSELF when creating a profile...why bother?
Dont need me any Shirley Temple copied & pasted boring profile-there dime a dozen here!! IE: Im a happy go lucky, glass is always 1/2 full, PERFECT person...GEESH! Gag me with a spoon already!
 Laurdust
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Need an HONEST profile review
Posted: 12/27/2011 11:10:39 PM
'Most' of the guys who put dating on their profiles, are usually just looking for a good time and I as a rule I generally see that as a red flag

Dont know who this ms-purity is, but we're bettin shes probably more your type. The photo your referring to was to part of a JOKE! I certainly didnt "supply" one (or I sure wouldnt need to be here now would I?)

Dont know what your even referring to as far as the hints, tip & guidelines go...but Im pretty sure I DO know how to date.
While I appreciate any input I can get here, I do know I certainly dont need any advice from some clown wearing a fake mustache no less

thanx for proving my case too
 Laurdust
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Need an HONEST profile review
Posted: 12/27/2011 9:01:22 PM
I find FB not very user-friendly as far as a profile page goes....
There are various pics pertaining to descriptions of me ie: a grandson, being into sunset photography, and yes a very pertenet & funny joke as to what I happen to be attracting on these sites-whats not to get???
Ive had many descriptions of myself posted before...it didnt help
but thanx anyway...
 Laurdust
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Need an HONEST profile review
Posted: 12/27/2011 6:23:51 PM
After 100's of pics posted & MANY profile changes, I need to know WHY I only get 10-20yrs OLDER guys that put their ages up as 57-60. Neither do they seem to care or even bother to read what Im looking for

I end up with alot of this> instead making me>
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
you hear what you wanna hear then it gets crashed!
Posted: 6/28/2009 12:23:23 PM
Sometimes Reality doesnt always appear Rational either. I played by those rules of rationally too, using my minds better judgement to pick & choose who'd I even go out with. It was only through HIS persistence that I chose to. Not only was I shown true admiration and affection from him, I also fell in love with him as well. Only the happiness that I thought I had been sharing with him had turned into my totally unrational reality...
Love is like a seesaw, ones up in the air-while the other decides either to just sit there holding it down-or jumps off it entirely slamming your real owlity right to the ground!
The key is to play (or balance) the board.
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 77 (view)
 
New Serious Member Feature.
Posted: 4/25/2009 11:53:52 AM
Include filters for who's allowed to view your profile, and Ill sign up tommorrow!
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 75 (view)
 
New Serious Member Feature.
Posted: 4/24/2009 8:37:34 AM

well, if my mail and potential matches don't improve, there's no need for me to even have a free profile on here.
Ditto to that! In fact mine have been getting alot worse too! I also agree that we long time fishies deserve free upgrade as well. We're obviously the serious members!
ALSO their should be a completely separted chat room for USERS only looking for some cheap thrills as well! Those definetly dont count as being serious!
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 48 (view)
 
How to tell if he's in to you ...
Posted: 2/19/2009 10:20:11 PM
Sorry Meeso......that only means he Onto you not Into you!

Too "busy" for you....Can mean their 'busy with' someone else!
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 100 (view)
 
Are men the true romantics?
Posted: 2/19/2009 9:52:26 PM
Translation meaning - once he actually comes around to getting to 'know you' better as a REAL person (not just his idealized one)thier romancing routined 'script' then becomes old to them! Then the only way for them to renew their romantic ways is to start anew with A NEW!

Women will always be the true romantics! Without us they wouldnt even have a clue!
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
 
I finally figured it out
Posted: 12/2/2008 5:34:02 PM
Lol, yeah I agree there too. To end up being alone the rest of your life is one thing....but to die alone becoming Friskies to your own cats is just too creepy to even think about!
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 807 (view)
 
why do men think they can use women for sex?
Posted: 12/1/2008 3:39:59 PM
uh, oooook.....


I have player written all over my profile

Also..

That guy must have been really good to fool that woman,, I think not, she is not stupid,, she knew what she was doing.........

HE as well too! Hes got all the equipment here-he just wont account for it!
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 805 (view)
 
why do men think they can use women for sex?
Posted: 12/1/2008 3:15:27 PM
Rd, I think MissMew was trying to point out your double standardized statement of suggesting that the OP shouldve took more responsibility for what had happened or came to be. By your own acknowledgment, the OP DID say NO sex on the 1st date-So pleeeeease just to help clear this all up once & for ALL -for all womankind out here ...WHAT PART OF NO DID'NT HE GET to even begin with? This IS 'our' (as women)whole point! Men are not showing any respect for a womens decision!!!
SHE made the 'decision' to even BE with HIM to begin with! Then he begs, compliments,romances, cuddles, arouses, wines &/or dines...Yes even practically bends over backwards too sometimes, making her feel like he just could be 'the one' for her-JUSTIFING her 1st decision!
...then oops! Here comes Mr Wong to put a damper onto everything .Guys will insist most times that he CANT even help it. So, as a woman(not having one)we try to overlook it, or be more understanding towards what your (false?) intentions really were(see actions above)by the fact that you also wanted to be with us too(false?)-Even at the expense of our own decision not to even go there! But by then, youve already convinced us by now too, that it would all be just so great...if only ...
Its only AFTER a man tosses a woman like a used condom, does she get to realize that YOU were never even with her to begin with!-Only Mr Wong was!> :bananna:

 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 789 (view)
 
why do men think they can use women for sex?
Posted: 11/30/2008 4:51:12 PM
True Cf, but during that 'game' they still wanna get themselves some points & be able to score too, right? Why would they just wanna "walk away" without ever even know the score or if theyve even won for that matter? Was the whole game even ever worth playing then?

Sounds like a short-circuit there to me...
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 787 (view)
 
why do men think they can use women for sex?
Posted: 11/30/2008 4:20:51 PM
No Demand=No Supply
All Im saying Rd is that maybe 'WE' ought to be deMANding all the deMANd!

And Im NOT "blaming" anyone species here either! Like I had originally stated "In Our Soceity these days".

 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 786 (view)
 
why do men think they can use women for sex?
Posted: 11/30/2008 4:20:51 PM
No Demand=No Supply
All Im saying Rd is that maybe 'WE' ought to be deMANding all the deMANd!

And Im NOT "blaming" anyone species here either! Like I had originally stated "In Our Soceity these days".

 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 784 (view)
 
why do men think they can use women for sex?
Posted: 11/29/2008 9:21:03 PM
Your statement makes sense, but if you really look at it, it's not true, men may control the (sexual industry) however it's really woman who have the control.. all women need to do is say no, and the sexual industry will fail,, because without her what do you have,,

NO MEN!!


men won't be able to seek that porn, if woman didn't perform.....
Its precisely WHY alot seek it too!

Lets not fail to mention here that those 'performances' can provide a good source of income for some as well! Respect for oneself oftentimes takes a backseat when it comes to making ones living today. Which is kinda sad, really but true too..
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 780 (view)
 
why do men think they can use women for sex?
Posted: 11/29/2008 2:50:13 PM
RD is right on about this!

Really, what a man should do is, be a man and not be controlled by the concept of sex,, when a man can do that,, I think,, he would gain the respect of a woman, and not be seen as anything but a man who is in control and in charge of who he is,, and won't submit to sex, or anything else in life to gain self satisfaction at the expense of a woman.. JMO


Unfortunately though we live in a soceity wherein the "Concept of Sex" is and has always been controlled and ruled by the men.
Porn, sex, and prostitution will always be in high demand, as long as men consistly will seek it out, hence sex DOES sell..
Women (like men) will compete with themselves for the oposite sex. But alot of us can just plain lack this type of inventiveness of oneself. Neither would alot of women even want to portray or see themselves as being anything other than someones mom, sister or daughter, rightfully so, than to have to be perceived as anything of less a value than a mans ideal sexual mate. Therein lies 'the conflict' for most women..(duo identities!)
So it would seem to me that its up to the men to reverse or to even to solve these conflicts in women. Dont 'CREATE' them!
In other words, let a woman be a woman! By valuing her worth-not by just what she could do for you sexually above all else! Stop promoting the all sex sells engimas-then see what happens!

When we submit ourselves to you-by your own setup of standards of how a woman should be for YOU (that competing thing can also apply here)only to have you then throw it back in our faces by checking out on us-is about as humiliating for a woman as it is for a man to be laughed at!!
(Thats far from being a matter of some spilt milk too!)
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 773 (view)
 
why do men think they can use women for sex?
Posted: 11/27/2008 11:39:13 PM
I recently read another post like this. In it was stated (and by alot of the guys too, btw)that men who only want sex from you ,are only thinking of you as second rate to even begin with! That in 'their minds' they are thinking, well shes good enough for sex, for now 'WHILE' their still waiting on thier perfect ONE to come along!! Whats up with that kind of thinking??? Do 'most' women think THIS way?? I tend to believe women are more discerning as to who theyll decide to even bed with to BEGIN with! And Im sure there mustve been 'something' there for the OP then, as well too. I think it just sux when a guy will make you believe or decieve you into thinking that you ARE all that for them -when it was ONLY about sex to even BEGIN with for THEM! Sorry but IT IS guys like this that have NO scrupples!!!I believe it is all chemical too. Sometimes when a man gets into you...he really can get into you! Like a chemical addiction withdrawals can be a b**** too
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 313 (view)
 
Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/9/2008 7:36:30 PM
Well thank-you there Jimbo, but I didnt sneeze either I was just commenting on how some guys without having any particular strategy or seemily any intelligence can just murmer a few words just to get what they want...seems pretty senseLESS.

As me for me, well yeah, its sad but true too. Still striving to do better though
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Re: What's with the chronic LOW ratings of pictures?
Posted: 11/6/2008 2:33:36 PM
Disclaimer:
No disrespect was meant to 'the moderator'...just totally agree with Dakota 923's post there.
Ive tried changing my pic's about a dozen times now too-it is what it is I suppose...
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Re: What's with the chronic LOW ratings of pictures?
Posted: 11/6/2008 2:09:45 PM
Oh yeah, that ALL makes it soooo much better now!
(You didnt check either-there were no 10's even in that 'catagory'! )

..... guess we just need some
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Re: Ratings - true or false
Posted: 11/6/2008 10:45:45 AM
Why does my total number of ratings keep decreasing?
when a user deletes themselves from the system thier votes are removed, so that is why you are going down.


Didnt realize so many users were deleting themselves!
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Re: What's with the chronic LOW ratings of pictures?
Posted: 11/6/2008 10:32:28 AM
Yes, I d have to agree too! When out of 6 votes, you only average a 2 or a 3, whilst 1 person can rate you as a 10-Id say theres something wrong with the whole system here!
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 303 (view)
 
Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 10/29/2008 1:04:32 AM
Heres a thought for all of you... ...... Im 53 , been married once, even had myself a few relationships too through the years....Not once, not even the father of my own 2 sons, had ANY man ever told me that he actually 'loved me'!
...then again, I AM attracted to intelligent men .....
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
What next? Move on or hang in there?
Posted: 10/18/2008 12:52:17 PM

If a relationship does not move, grow or change, like water, it stagnates.
Good answer there!!
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
POF has done what I requested
Posted: 10/18/2008 12:30:12 PM
Sorry Apple, but Id have to agree with Blaze there. You cant even get to the secondary (least I cant) without having the initial WOW factor involved 1st. (Though I have found, an awfully lot of those ARE shallow & self-centered too. )Thats just how IT IS-with anything that we are 'trying to buy'online-(Lol). What disturbs me the most though on these dating sites, are how alot of these guys who would never even dream of approaching you in the 'real world' (and rightly so, I might add, lol) will suddenly believe that their some kinda stud muffins on here! They will totally disreguard the' seeking handsome', if they also happen to be successful, thinking somehow the secondary will override the 1st! Im referring to alot of those who will refuse to even post their pictures up-yet will tell YOU how great they think you are for THEM!! LOl. (Sure-Ive always liked Casper-but I never wanted to date him either!!!)Some are even well...(hate-to even say-it here) just plain dellusional-is all I can say!
I DO however agree totally agree with your last point-and I am still holding out for the 'eventually' too! Just doesnt seem like as big a world as I thought it to be!!
 laur2u
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Found My Fish...Wedding is June 14th
Posted: 5/26/2008 10:02:48 PM
Very happy for you swell chick. Good Luck!
 
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