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 Author Thread: Why do men find it hard to be friends?
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 658 (view)
 
Why do men find it hard to be friends?
Posted: 12/10/2010 6:44:47 PM

Why is it immaturity? Perhaps, as one fellow stated about the woman that was mad at him for not buying her a ticket, it is a lesson learned. Every guy has a reason for not staying friends with someone that they are attracted to. It is no more a sign of maturity than a guy that plays paintball with his buddies. Throwing a tantrum when you don't get your own way, or keeping that safe person, man or woman, close by incase you have a bad relationship, is a sign of immaturity in my opinion. There are people that will string someone along just for such cases, or for other gain. This is done by both men and women.


I didn't make myself clear,I was referring to a woman wanting to be just friends but a guy wanting more then that and moving on it.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 32 (view)
 
anyone ever taken so long to get over someone?
Posted: 12/10/2010 6:37:59 PM
cat*eyes,there is hope my dear.I just met the most wonderful woman on this site.That person is out there but you must pick yourself up and get moving.....he's gone baby and he ain't coming back.Get busy living or get busy dying....your choice.Harsh words pehaps but true.

You can do it.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 52 (view)
 
stood up on my first date.
Posted: 12/10/2010 6:30:28 PM
Better then what I did,in 1974 I went overseas to Germany in the Army at the ripe old age of 19.Sent a letter to a gal I was seeing and never heard back from her so after awhile I just went on with it.

2 years later I go home and see her,ask her why she never wrote me back."You forgot to put your return address on the letter" she said.So we never got together seriously because I was a dumbass at 19.....ouch,lesson learned.I still wonder how she is doing and have not seen her in 33 years.

I would guess that a lot of times guys and gals are talking to more then one person as has been stated.It's just plan rude to stand someone up on purpose and that person is immature and selfish.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
 
anyone ever taken so long to get over someone?
Posted: 12/6/2010 7:22:23 PM
I don't know if you ever get over it completely,you learn to move on but there are times when I just can't help but think of 2 very special women.One died 25 years ago and the other I haven't seen in 14 years.I ruined the second relationship and learned a lot.

It's a matter of realizing you can't unscramble eggs,whats done is done and you must either move on no matter what or you will sit and wither away.Damn it's hard but it is absolutely necessary to get moving.

There is no easy answer.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
How can you tell a friend that you like them
Posted: 12/5/2010 8:32:57 PM
I will respond this way,many years ago some friends fixed me up with a gal they knew.She live d 5000 miles away and we became very close thru phone calls and letters,this was before the internet.

I had a photo of her and she had at least one of me so we knew how that went.I took a vacation and flew to Alaska to meet her and spend a couple of weeks getting to know her better.

It was a horror story,in person she was shallow and immature.I stayed for 1 week then I ran as fast as I could,never saw or heard from her again.Absolutely awful.

You can NOT get to know someone online only,it masks way too much of their personality.You have to take a deep breath and step back,meet this guy and see what he is really like.I'm not saying he is hiding anything from you on purpose,just that stuff will fall in the cracks and stay unseen.You are setting yourself up for a possible heartbreak.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 631 (view)
 
Why do men find it hard to be friends?
Posted: 12/3/2010 5:12:54 PM
Immaturity...plain and simple.I have been guilty of just that many times in my youth,but guess what.....I grew up.

Now I know that sounds harsh but it is the truth and I must say it is no fun to meet someone and really be attracted to them,then end up with them wanting to be friends only.That's when the maturity has to kick in and you separate the men from the boys.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 379 (view)
 
do you look like your pictures?
Posted: 12/3/2010 5:07:08 PM
The newest photo I have is from 2009 and I still look the same,unfortunately.....ha ha.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Delusional Expecting to find Love at this age?
Posted: 12/3/2010 4:53:34 PM
The young lady I am talking to on here is also looking for just that,she has never meet someone and went "wow".I have 3 or 4 times and it's a great feeling even if it doesn't work out.
Love can be found at any age,my father was proof of that as he married the love of his life at 72,she was 70.I had never seen him so happy with anyone and he was married to my mom till the day she died,he loved my mom and took care of her until that day.Over 40 years.

But not like that,he was like a little kid with his second wife and she adored him.It was a lot of fun to see.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 46 (view)
 
False Teeth ........
Posted: 11/28/2010 6:16:47 PM
Here is my experience.I was hit in the face with a solid object in 2000,breaking my nose,the upper part of my jaw and knocking out my 2 front teeth.
Implants are about $1500-2000 each and they are not maintenance free,they have to be cleaned a few times a year because the pin goes into your jawbone.Imagine an infection caused by lack of cleaning progressing into your bone structure.

A bridge will cost $6000....yea you read that right, so right now I have a partial,it is small and unnoticeable and absolutely awful to wear.Not because it doesn't fit,it does and it is fairly comfortable but I hate it.I can't explain it but I have assured my dentist I will never were a full set.

So I will see him on the 6th of Dec and we will talk about it again.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Turning 50....does everyone experience a twinge?
Posted: 11/28/2010 5:44:51 PM
55 bothered me for a while,but it had a lot to do with getting hurt and having to put an adventure on hold for a couple of years.But I'm all better now....really....phooey.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Over fifty ~~ best sex in or out of a relationship?
Posted: 11/28/2010 5:40:06 PM
Oh good grief,the last thing I need is more testosterone.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Dumped in Minnesota - Why Do Things Happen This Way?
Posted: 11/28/2010 10:00:31 AM
You just learned a hard lesson,I must say I am really sorry that this happened to you.
1)Never put your life in someone else's hands,always have an emergency fund and a vehicle of your own.
2)Never move across the country for "him" or "her",do it because you want to not because they want to.

I lived in my car for 2 months because of a similar situation and 1 time I let my ex have all the vehicles in her name,guess how that worked out.

Keep your head up,you will survive and prosper and are better off without this fool.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Dreams of lost loves
Posted: 3/16/2009 9:09:56 PM

I have been plagued with these wistful, yearning dreams for decades. They aren't memories; they are seeing the person again now, taking up where we left off.

Have you ever heard of lucid dreaming, where you wake up inside the dream and direct what happens? Maybe in the next dream I'll ask for a message.

I'm very reluctant to call on the phone to ask "What do you want?" The dreams are always sweet and I am sad to awaken from them.

Maybe it's just a sad commentary on the state of my current life? Are these dreams a substitute for a satisfying relationship in my walking around reality?

Callothewild


Just happened to me the other day,it was sad but comforting to see and talk to that person,but of course then we awake.I am at the age where I wonder how past loves are fairing in life.......are they happy and fullfilled or sad and pehaps bitter about life.It's hard sometimes knowing you can't go back and change things.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Are grand love affairs a myth?
Posted: 3/16/2009 8:46:13 PM
Like my grandparents. They were in their 80's and he'd still stand and sway with her in the living room and kiss her and tell her she was still his beautiful girl. Their relationship is what has kept me believing in love. One day I'll find the man who is the last of my grand affairs and grow old with him.

My grandmother died very suddenly when I was young and my grandfather never got over it,I didn't know them that well but he didn't last long after that.The same with my dad.
The problem is we get tired and cynical as we get older sometimes and fail to give up the hurts of the past.
So yes,yes ,yes they do happen,you have to take a chance and open your mind and heart.You might get hurt,but the rewards are great.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Is it possible to love someone with differing political views?
Posted: 3/16/2009 8:31:51 PM
It's like any other aspect of someones personality,I am going to use extremes here for examples so bear with me.
Conservative,christian,pro life is probably not going to get along with pagan,liberal,pro choice.I mean that is obvious.
We all have beliefs and you have to be careful about playing what I call "the overlooking game".That's where you say to yourself,"well that's(fill in the blanks)not that big of a deal".
Well in 6 months or 10 years it can get to be a real big deal and cause for divorce whatever it may be and politics are no different,you have to be open and honest and if you can't meet in the middle....you have to be able to walk away for the better good.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/16/2009 11:23:26 AM
I used to get asked that,I got married at 47 and it lasted 3 years. I tell people it's like getting run over by a bus,once was enough,thanks.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
why am i still arguing with my father 4 years after we buried him ?
Posted: 12/8/2008 9:56:38 AM

why was'nt he able to show it then


Who knows? Why did my mother give me up for adoption? She say's because it was too much for her,she's a mean and spiteful woman who gives my sister hell because she will put up with it and I won't.

It's all about forgiveness,a very hard thing to do..but an important thing to do for your sake.The things that happen to us in the past get dragged into the present a lot and it's like swimming with an anchor around your neck.

You will never know why he did certain things,there may never be any answers but in the end you have to make the choice to forgive and forget or not,go to his grave site and tell him all of your hurt,your worries,your wants and hopes.

Then say goodbye and try to move forward,it won't be easy but it is possible.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 34 (view)
 
To improve your marriage -- be quiet (Really ????)
Posted: 12/8/2008 9:25:16 AM

I see, Safn, YOU inform, she "rattles [sic] on". Spin it, doc. And feel superior.


Apparently you missed the tongue in cheek aspect of my post,as I said we have known each other for a long time and I was being a pain.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 32 (view)
 
To improve your marriage -- be quiet (Really ????)
Posted: 12/8/2008 9:05:56 AM
I tell my lady friends that (and this is a generalization) men talk to convey information ,women more to convey emotions.Now save the hate mail as I said this doesn't apply 100%

It does apply to me a lot,I have a friend and she will rattle on about this and that ,we have known each other for 13 years,and basically talk and talk and not say anything.

Then I look at her and go "what's your point?" and she will say "I guess I don't really have one." No kidding?

Followed by what a pain in the neck I am and laughter. I don't advise doing that with someone you just met,she'll shoot you.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Break ups
Posted: 12/8/2008 8:45:30 AM
If you want the cold hard truth(just my opinion) here goes,guy #1...never had any intention of calling or met someone else.

Guy#2....didn't get what he wanted fast enough so said to hell with it.

Sorry,but that's what a lot of young guys do.I am just as guilty of this when I was younger,but a lot of women have done the same thing to me..oh well.

we live and hopefully learn
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Missing Something
Posted: 12/8/2008 8:36:35 AM
It's your responsibility to stay loyal and care for her in the last days of her life.I have been by myself for 2 years,you can handle it for a while longer.

You know what the right thing is,now go and delete your profile,talk to this other person and tell her what you have to do.

And then do the right thing and make this the best year you can for your wife.I understand the loneliness and need for the touch of someone,but you can handle that if you want to.

The choice is yours.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Before meeting - Is the idea of requesting referances unthinkable?
Posted: 12/8/2008 8:06:08 AM
References,no you just have to be careful especially as a woman.When I met my ex for the first time (we met online) in person it was in a very public place with lots of people around.

And her neighbor in the parking lot,just in case. I found out about that a few months later,was I offended?

Not at all,I told her that was a very smart thing to do.

Ladies have someone you can trust sit in the coffee house while you meet your new guy and after he leaves ,make sure he left and have your friend escort you out if your worried.

Get a prepaid cell phone and give him that number, if he turns out to be a creep, toss it in the river. Just common sense.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Why do We Keep Attracting the Same Kind of Person?
Posted: 12/8/2008 7:55:33 AM
Your not really attracting the same type of person so much as you are attracted TO the same type perhaps. As girldiver said reach out a little farther and see what you come up with.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Are grand love affairs a myth?
Posted: 12/8/2008 7:50:50 AM
Earth shattering love does exist... so much that even 15 years later, my breath would still get caught in my throat at hearing his voice and my heart would race in anticipation of him walking through the door


And if she walked through the door right now after 14 years I would have a hard time keeping my composure,the tears started just writing that.

Don't give up,any of you. I know it will happen again....I know it will.

My dad married the love of his life at 72, it may come to you and not stay, but it's the most wonderful feeling.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 376 (view)
 
Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/7/2008 5:51:04 PM
Guys, your comments about older gals were lovely and much appreciated. Now here's the kicker question: When you do a search, what is your top end age parameter? Do you really put in your own age or slightly older? Come on now, we are all adults here and in this stage of my life, I know I would appreciate some honesty.


I put in 63

As I have said there are some absolutely gorgeous ladies here older than me.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
The habits your ex had that make you glad its over.
Posted: 12/7/2008 5:20:40 PM
Mine wouldn't keep a job,ok I said at least keep the house picked up while I work...that almost got her kids taken away once when the cops saw the house and almost got us thrown out of another place we rented.

That we rented because she neglected to pay her mortgage and lost house #1,that cost me about 10K

Did I mention the job thing? 3 years,until we literally couldn't pay our bills and eat,it was one or the other.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 209 (view)
 
Do I ever miss physical touch!
Posted: 12/7/2008 5:00:12 PM

..Oh I quite agree with you daylillie, ain't nothing going to replace that feeling of a man's hands on your body, his lips brushing yours, his warm breathe in you're ear...


...maeflowers


Easy now....my hearts all a flutter,whew.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 208 (view)
 
Do I ever miss physical touch!
Posted: 12/7/2008 2:05:35 PM
However, I don't believe that kind of contact will replace the desire to be physically close with a man, on a regular basis. It just isn't the same thing, and I don't mean sex.


A million years ago I dated a gal who was sexually fairly aggressive,but you know what I remember most about her?

Walking up behind me as I sat on a bar stool and putting her arms around me and resting her head on my shoulder.That was 31 years ago and I still remember it for some odd reason.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime?
Posted: 12/7/2008 1:58:03 PM
Well I tell everyone that I am the outdoors type,jeans and clean shirt.(key word fellas is "clean")And that's what I'm looking for,a gal who's not allergic to the outdoors and won't faint if she gets dirty."Ewwww,I have nature on me" was a great line I heard
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 26 (view)
 
AARP: To join or not to join?
Posted: 12/7/2008 1:41:42 PM
I know there are other organizations besides AARP,I remember reading about them some time ago,you should be able to google them and get some info.As for AARP? Waste of money to me,their so called benefits stink.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Did the news today make you feel old?
Posted: 12/7/2008 1:36:22 PM
I remember a few years back a gal my age and I were telling a young guy I worked with what it was like when we were growing up(he was about 23.we were about 49)and with a straight face he said "what did you do when the dinosaurs came around" and without missing a beat I told him" we just threw rocks at them and they would go away". I thought she was gonna slap him.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Dermal fillers?
Posted: 12/7/2008 1:24:21 PM

As for aging gracefully, that is easy for a man to say as he tut tuts that and then goes for the 20 year old.


With this mug? 20 year old car maybe.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Caveat Emptor
Posted: 12/7/2008 1:18:32 PM


I think a danger online is that we build someone UP in our minds to be something they cant compete with in real life. We imagine how we want them to be with us, vs how they would really be and so when you finally met you can be let down and not understand why...but basically you mindfvcked yourself...


...Ah yes, you explained it perfectly.....it's all part of the fantasy....and I think one of the reasons people don't want to meet is because that would mean the fantasy would be over. It's an adrenaline rush....all that mystery, that excitement...its what may people feed off of...the "proverbial love junkie."


Very true from the both of you. Boy I fell into that one time many years ago,what a disappointment, but you live and (hopefully) learn.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 185 (view)
 
So you don't want to get married again, now what?
Posted: 12/7/2008 12:26:59 PM

I would like to have a nice guy as a companion, maybe lover, definitely best friend - possibly not living together until we've know each other a long time (at least a couple of years


Very well put,I must agree.I have moved in together much too fast in the past,I think next time I will keep my own place a lot longer.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Marijuna and relationships
Posted: 12/7/2008 11:50:36 AM
Don't you two (and others) mean.... live life the way I think it should be lived???


Not at all.If you want to smoke a little in moderation,fine. Unfortunately most of the people I run into don't.

If you need drugs to expand your mind or to be at peace with yourself,ok.

If you need any kind of mind altering chemical to be happy and productive,fine with me.And I really mean that.

Every single member of my extended family except my sister and myself,including our parents has been addicted to something,alcohol, crack,cocaine,pot...you name it they do it.We were lucky,our bodies can't tolerate the stuff,it makes us ill.

And what wonderful relationships they have had,if only you knew.

Now look around you,there's a great big ,beautiful world out there. And I simply know way too many people personally that stumble through a life centered on drugs and they miss out on so much.

So when I say get busy living or get busy dying I mean just that,I have watched too many die a day at a time.The cemetery up home is full of people I knew who died too young.

And yes cdn*guy I know some people who do things in moderation,I really don't even think pot should be illegal.I just wish I could convey the the wasted potential I have seen in people I know(some whom I love very much) who don't know how to moderate.The wasted lives and the despair of drug and alcohol use.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Can you be too independent for a relationship?
Posted: 12/7/2008 11:26:56 AM
I like to think I am very independent,I have absolutely no interest in owning a home ,I feel that I can come and go as I please however in a relationship I feel it's just good manners to tell my SO when I will be back .

Marriage? Already tried it ,thanks. It honestly means nothing to me and someone would be hard pressed to get me married again.

Long term relationship? Would love to with the right person,but I'm not your 10 year old so you need to understand that I am not in the habit of explaining my every move to someone.

I like an independent woman who has her own interests and can understand the need to go do your own thing.As a side note I don't hang out in bars,don't fool around and usually can be found in the great outdoors,by myself.

Now I do understand what dogs a lot of us guys are also,so I feel it's important to really know your SO. Trust and all that.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 34 (view)
 
loss of a child
Posted: 12/7/2008 11:02:33 AM

She'll always want her daughter back...that won't go away. People might expect her to 'get better' or 'move on' or whatever, but they don't understand that there is no consolation at all for losing a child.


Well said.


I never had any children.Having said that the closest I can get is the death of a woman I loved. But here are some facts as I know them.

She's not going to just get over it and move on. That's utter nonsense.

Let her talk...and listen. And be prepared to do this for a long time. Be aware that she may get angry and take it out on you .It's usually not personal,you're just there.

Try to get her professional help,either through her family or on your own,but don't push too hard.

I find that people will go one of 2 directions,sometimes they will reverse course but not always. They get better with time or they self destruct,be prepared for the latter and pray for the former.

I still miss her every day after 22 years,and she will too.That's something that will never go away.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Are grand love affairs a myth?
Posted: 12/7/2008 9:55:28 AM

But it also reminds me of the expression that I forever be diametrically opposed to. "It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved".

There is not much worse that I can think of than finding that grand love affair and then having it end, forever. And it can end. I wouldn't wish the anguish and despair of that on my worst enemy.


Sadly they can end,I messed up the one that means the most to me,but I have to say at least I was there,if only for a few wonderful years.But verityone I also go by the old saying "you can't unscramble eggs" and you truly can't.

So I move forward in anticipation of the next time it happens.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Do you think your best is ...
Posted: 12/7/2008 9:49:33 AM
The thing of it is,you never know. oldsoul,you have some very fond memories of the things that were the best for you.

But you just never know what will happen next,same for you maeflowers. Someone may come along and rock your world, it happened to my dad at 70.

I also have some beautiful memories of the past,I have seen and done some amazing things and been to places that will take your breath away.

But tomorrow ,something might happen to make that all pale by comparison.........you just don't know.And that's what's so groovy about it(yes,I said groovy)
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Marijuna and relationships
Posted: 12/7/2008 9:26:19 AM

You go girl! I have been reading all the comments and I must say most of them speak from little or no experience, or just bad attitudes! Pot is not the devil here! Mis-information is. I, like MsMicki, smoke pot and lead a full and rich life. I don't owe anybody money, I work from home with a great company, (no drug test here!) and have to be very focused to do so. I don't go ut drinking and driving. Which can not be said for people at a bar. You don't see someone putting back 5 joints and then go driving! We are happy just to take a hit or two and watch you drunk people get stuck on stupid!

Pot has many uses other than just getting high. So everybody back off! If you don't smoke pot, fine. But don't sit there in judgement of us that do. Maybe you need to smoke a fattie!


Hate to pop your bubble but my brother was a dealer,I smoked my fair share in my younger days but I grew up,I also don't drink and drive,I rarely drink at all.

If you want to walk around and bump into walls and endlessly repeat yourself when talking to someone and forget where you are or what your doing 27 times a day,go for it.

But to people who are straight,you look like an idiot doing all these things.But that's what freedom is all about,making choices.

I really don't care if anyone smokes,I just don't want to be around them because the simple fact is they can't keep up with me high,mentally or whatever.


Read the above post on my ladyfriend,I'm not kidding this is one brilliant woman......unless she's high. And then she turns into a simpleton as does everyone else I have been around in that state.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Are grand love affairs a myth?
Posted: 12/7/2008 8:59:16 AM
Oh absolutely.Being with someone who just makes the room brighten up when she walks in,boy I miss that.

But it will happen again in time,I have patience and won't jump into anything.So don't give up hope,the right person is out there for you,my dad married his when he was 72 and I never saw him happier.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
“Mr Nice Guy” is getting fed up!
Posted: 12/7/2008 8:53:35 AM
Hmmm,my ex wife comes to mind we are broke and I mean food pantry broke and she refuses to get a job........for 3 years."Why should I have to work,you have a job".

Those were her exact words.After the separation she still didn't work for over a year and was living in an apartment with no electricity.Go figure.

Talk to the family,you are doing a good thing but she is either overwhelmed or taking advantage of you.

You can't save the world and talking to the family about the $126 is not out of line at all.You also need to take care of yourself,first.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
when I'm dead (maybe) LOL
Posted: 12/6/2008 6:10:41 PM
Your too old the day of your funeral.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 122 (view)
 
Does he have to hump my leg for me to get the point?
Posted: 12/6/2008 6:08:24 PM

Well, for starters, not all men want, or need, the sex to be the start of a relationship. In fact, some of us older farts are more concerned with having met someone with similar interests, similar ideals, and similar goals for the long term. Yup, I will admit that sexual fantasy comes into play, and compatibility is another concern, but that enters after the brain has already accepted the fact that a new friend is someone we can relate to and have a fun time with.


Doggone,wish I would have said that.For me that's right on,I like sex as much as the next person but there are 24 hours in a day and I have to have something to do the other 23 hours and 57 minutes.

and callothewild I like a strong no nonsense woman ,I get tired of people beating around the bush,just spit it out and tell me like it is.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 177 (view)
 
So you don't want to get married again, now what?
Posted: 12/6/2008 5:54:12 PM
I don't know,I like having someone around but I also like having my own place ,even if I'm not there much.Just need time to myself sometimes.

But as far as actually getting married again? I doubt that will ever happen.

Chocolatebrowne I was just over by where you live,I was waving out the window at you.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Define Love at this stage
Posted: 12/6/2008 5:24:50 PM
I wrote this in another thread once,I saw an elderly couple in a fast food restaurant,had to be at least in their late 70's.

Her with the lost tragic look of dementia as he fed her and wiped her face with a napkin,smiling and talking to her the whole time,you could see the love on his face.

One of the most beautiful tings I have ever seen.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 157 (view)
 
is it harder to date as we get older?
Posted: 12/6/2008 5:10:06 PM

If you ask someone to go for dinner and drinks is that not considered a date? I agree that when I am asked out from someone on-line, such as POF...to me that is a "meeting" nothing more....if asked out again, say for dinner and a movie...thats a date.



Lets see,I should be passing through where you live in late 2011,I'll buy you lunch.Hmmm,boy that second date's gonna be hard to do but if I survive the trip I'll be back thru in a month or so...........did I say if?
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 451 (view)
 
Men over 45 and facial hair
Posted: 12/6/2008 5:03:41 PM
Or do what I did,be under the hood of a car when it backfires through the carburetor,instant trim up.


My head was smokin'
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Criticism in a relationship
Posted: 12/6/2008 4:54:20 PM

You just happened to contact a woman in here with some 'issues' and an 'attitude', sir. I hope you don't think that is how it is everywhere on this site. For every story like you've given, I can give you ten of the opposite. It's just that the good ones are rarely discussed.


Oh no,not at all.I have seen aspoken to some wonderful people here.I just wonder how in the world she though she was going to pull that off .

I would rather not get into specifics out of politeness.
 safn1949
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 157 (view)
 
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 12/6/2008 3:46:48 PM

what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas


Doggone it I forgot about that,so no photos of you in your slinky dinner dress I suppose.
 
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