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 Author Thread: Touching a man´s butt?????
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Touching a man´s butt?????
Posted: 9/21/2013 4:04:35 PM

My BF says he doesnt like it when I touch his butt too much , he says It makes his feel like a woman... I dont know maybe I suck at it lol ,what do you people think about this??? Is it normal or what??????


I would take that as a compliment and so should he...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 174 (view)
 
Do you care about a womans number ?
Posted: 9/1/2013 5:47:20 PM
Not really… I care much more about my number!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 110 (view)
 
How male circumcision hurts women
Posted: 8/24/2013 4:23:16 PM
I've heard lots of discussion and different points of view, but I've not heard how male circumcision hurts women.
In the end it's a parental choice like it or not...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 21 (view)
 
CFNM
Posted: 7/27/2013 3:37:28 AM
For the most part, cfnm will fall into one of these two categories… The "stripper" scenarios which are more about exhibitionism and "F/m" scenarios which are more about women controlling men. And for the most part, each has it's own particular audience!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 7/19/2013 7:06:59 AM
Porn is simply male fantasies portrayed as reality. The industry only produces what's profitable... And in terms of porn affecting peoples sex lives??? Of course it has!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 55 (view)
 
How to date while in recovery
Posted: 6/8/2013 11:58:43 AM
She can't address what she refuses to recognize…
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 43 (view)
 
How to date while in recovery
Posted: 6/6/2013 5:10:34 AM
I've made my point. Thank you Belle...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 34 (view)
 
How to date while in recovery
Posted: 6/5/2013 1:20:21 PM
If you work in a rehab you should know better. You originally said: "One can be active and go to AA and do all things by the book, and still not change the behaviors that led to such". But then you walked it back to "people who seemingly went through the process,".

Those are two very different statements!!! They're not even close in meaning. The program is as simple as it is perfect. People who work the program address the underlying reasons why they used. And if you're not changing those behaviors that led to such, then you're not working the program...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 32 (view)
 
How to date while in recovery
Posted: 6/5/2013 7:10:21 AM

Belletresor "One can be active and go to AA and do all things by the book, and still not change the behaviors that led to such"


That statement is completely inconsistent with the teachings of AA. How did you come to that conclusion???
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 181 (view)
 
What is the magic of cumming inside?
Posted: 5/29/2013 8:14:19 AM
For me the answer is simple. It gives me the emotional connection I crave. Makes no difference if I'm wearing a condom...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 98 (view)
 
How male circumcision hurts women
Posted: 4/16/2013 4:35:57 PM

Just___Jim:
Yes, this is a very strange thread as maybe imo where it who hurt a women as the man who has had a circumcision and has premature ejaculation the extra skin would help in that respect to keep his erection longer in satisfying the women in her orgasm and fulfillment.


I don't know that there's any correlation between being circumcised and premature ejaculation. For 28 of my 30 years with my wife, sex lasted till she was satisfied. Then she'd say the the 9 words I loved to hear most... ."I can't cum anymore. Use me for your pleasure"
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Motivation to exercise after 40
Posted: 4/15/2013 4:00:27 PM
I'm 55 years old. Three - four hour workouts 6 days a week are the norm for me...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 88 (view)
 
acting in adult films
Posted: 4/13/2013 2:11:11 PM
I'm curious... How many people in this "thread" have actually participated in making adult videos? How many of those make a living from it?
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 406 (view)
 
The Kinky Test
Posted: 4/13/2013 2:14:17 AM
<---======= Doesn't need a test to tell me how kinky I am. I can see it in her eyes, lmao!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Well I just said NO to a offer of friends with benefits
Posted: 4/11/2013 12:05:23 PM
<---======= Knows that I'm not emotionally equipped to handle a "friends with benefits" relationship...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 38 (view)
 
aaaarrrrgggghhhh!
Posted: 4/11/2013 11:45:38 AM

azoutdoors50: So I don't want to lie in my profile so I am listed as separated. It seems no women want to date "married" men.


That's not been my experience at all. A few have asked about my "status", but it hasn't stopped me from dating...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 438 (view)
 
How to find out penis size
Posted: 4/10/2013 2:36:51 AM
There's only one accurate indicator of a man's size. Problem is it's not going to help answer the OP's question. Size is usually passed down from father to son. That is the only known indicator of a mans size...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Lowered Expectations
Posted: 4/9/2013 3:46:07 PM
Managing your expectations and the expectations of others is a valuable skill. People who master this skill learn how powerful it is to their success and the success of others. People who don't, usually learn the difference between expectations and reality is resentment!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Why people Lie about their Sexual organ and Physical attributes???
Posted: 4/8/2013 2:37:58 PM
<---======= Current photo. Taken 03/28/13
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 26 (view)
 
So....How many of you actually meet someone IRL from here?
Posted: 4/8/2013 2:17:29 PM

LunaSea223:
I've met some really nice guys on here and a few are still friends.... Biggest problem for me seems to be the distance involved... Good luck!


I like the "update" on your profile...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Blue balls: Your experience with it?
Posted: 4/8/2013 1:44:14 AM
Blue balls??? It's part of my lucrative job description, lol...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Men over 50 and sex
Posted: 4/7/2013 2:42:06 PM

blueeyedblon3000: Is it just me but it seems like men over 50 either have issues with erection or have very low sex drive ? Especially the 55+ category. I'm attracted to older guys but sex is also important to me. Should I even bother to date the 50+ category ?


I can only speak for myself. It doesn't have to be that way. Staying physically fit and in shape is so important. Especially for men who wish to avoid potential heart problems (blood flow), diabetes and many other complications caused by being out of shape. Cardio for men is natural viagra. Diet is also important as are hereditary factors. I'm 55 years old and very capable!!! And that's no accident...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Why do Men of a Certain Age HATE Facebook?
Posted: 4/7/2013 2:08:51 AM

Miss W: WHY do many men of a certain age HATE Facebook?

However, it has been my observation that many men in my age group are threatened by it and see it as the work of the devil. I am just curious as to WHY? Please enlighten me so that I may understand. Thanks!



At 55 years old, I'm in your age group and don't share your perspective. I love facebook. Been on it for years and so have most of my friends (our age group).
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Hmmm red flag ?
Posted: 4/6/2013 3:44:50 PM
Sounds more like you'll be walking into "robbery"!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What would you have done?
Posted: 4/5/2013 11:56:14 AM

moonchildmn: The night before a first meet, you get completely wasted with your friends. So, drunk in fact at 7:00 the following evening you still are physically sick, crabby and bring your D game because you really don't care and you drank too much Scotch the night before. He was in is early 40's, not 25. Would you cancel with an explanation and an apology, cancel/flake or show up and present yourself as a complete train wreck?


You just got a first hand view of this persons "decision making skills" and they don't seem very healthy. I personally would "hit the next button" at this time...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 112 (view)
 
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 4/5/2013 11:32:23 AM
That's an good question. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Well here I am
Posted: 4/5/2013 6:11:31 AM

Madailein: when walking with a man would you not want to hold onto his arm?


I love when a woman holds my arm as we walk. It's subtle but communicates a lot to me!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 279 (view)
 
Dating in our 50's
Posted: 4/4/2013 5:12:25 AM

Firefly1954: Most men on here, over 50 are looking for "younger women" in their 30s and 40's


I don't know about most men on pof, but I'm 55 and not looking your young women. I'm looking for someone within 5 years (up or down) who's in the same phase of her life as I am. To those who say "age is just a number" I say "nonsense"!!! (It's a rationalization)

Keep on looking cause there are plenty of real men who are looking for relationships and friendship first with women their age!!! And one more point I'd like to make. Many women in there fifties and older are absolutely"Stunning"!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Well here I am
Posted: 4/3/2013 11:39:23 AM

MoonVirgo: This is my first time on an on-line dating website. Should I be scared?


Call it whatever you'd like, but I'd be very cautious when meeting people you don't really know. There is an inherent degree of risk that goes with dating...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 181 (view)
 
How to approach the subject of ED without being obnoxious
Posted: 4/2/2013 3:20:50 PM
juliannaQ: many men get stiff but the problem is that they cannot maintain an erection for any period of time.


Aside from whatever medical issues a man may have, this is one of the reasons why it's so important (especially for men) to say in good shape!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Average body type
Posted: 4/2/2013 2:00:16 PM

mmmkayyy : I am looking for what a guy sees as "average"


For me the word "average" in regards to a persons weight means "height / weight proportionate". Basically what you stated in your original post: "when a person's BMI is within the "normal" range."
Roy
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 35 (view)
 
guys who dont like dirty talk?
Posted: 4/1/2013 4:44:54 PM

Hmmmm I can understand if he doesn't like dirty talk... but guys like to hear that they are pleasuring a woman!!!! Don't they?


Like to hear??? That's what we live for!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 163 (view)
 
Fear of getting naked?
Posted: 4/1/2013 3:26:13 PM
My views on this subject are simple. I believe women choose to focus on their imperfections while men choose to see their beauty!!! And just so this doesn't come as a surprise to the ladies, we already know you're not perfect. We also know that we're far from perfect too. It's not perfection that we seek. What we seek is beauty!!! Your beauty!!! And that beauty is enhanced 10-fold when you're committed to us!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Cheating...forgive?
Posted: 3/30/2013 11:08:34 AM

bucsgirl: I can't think of any situation where I would forgive someone who cheated on me.


Having personally experienced being cheated on by my wife during our 28 years together, has taught me a very important life lesson. That until it happens to you, you don't know how you'll react to a certain situation...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Question for Men! Help...
Posted: 3/29/2013 4:06:15 PM

Belluvthebawl: He did what it took to get you......now, is he doing what it takes to keep you?? My point.....just tell him that you miss his phone calls!! Text him right now and say "I sure miss hearing your wonderful voice". Hopefully he will get the hint.


I like your insight!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Woman's advice. What kind of sexy pictures do I send?
Posted: 3/29/2013 2:24:38 PM

she is asking that I reciprocate and send her some pics back. But, I have no idea what kind of pics to actually send


Am I missing something??? Why aren't you asking the "source"??? (you know, the person that's actually asking you for the photos...)
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Lying about one's age
Posted: 3/29/2013 11:47:17 AM
My profile says I'm 57... But I'm 55 and have posted that several times in the forums. Go figure, lol...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Faithful
Posted: 3/29/2013 10:42:32 AM
I've never cheated!!! That includes the 28 years I've been with my wife and the two relationships I had before we met. On the flip side, my wife has cheated on me. Her unwillingness to "own her actions" for 10+ years helped end our relationship...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 88 (view)
 
Cheating...forgive?
Posted: 3/29/2013 9:37:41 AM

My question is should I forgive?


The simple answer is yes you should forgive him. But forgiving has nothing to do with "forgetting". My vantage point is one of 25+ years of continuous recovery. It's nice to know there are others on this forum who share my vantage point too. One of the first "suggestions" we're given (when we find the rooms) is "no major changes during the 1st year of recovery" (if we can avoid it). If he didn't take that suggestion the first time (he got into a relationship with you. That's a big change), and wishes to repeat that mistake again with you, you should see his actions for what they are... A big warning to you!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Cheating...forgive?
Posted: 3/29/2013 9:23:40 AM

spacecakes113
"Dating is such a exhausting pain in the ass so I think I may take a breather for awhile."


My thoughts exactly. I find the whole process daunting. Especially for someone like me who's very shy.
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 623 (view)
 
Men Shaved???
Posted: 3/26/2013 11:00:56 AM
There's no part of my body that's not trimmed or shaved...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 169 (view)
 
Do men really screw anything? Looking for honest answers.
Posted: 3/22/2013 12:03:59 PM
I can only speak for myself and the answer is no. I won't "screw" anything, lol...
I'm 55 years old. Separated 2 years and can count all of the women I've ever been with on one hand without using all of my fingers. And proud of it!!!
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 68 (view)
 
acting in adult films
Posted: 12/5/2012 12:32:34 PM
ajoe333 Wrote: It will also put you in a world that is difficult at best


That's not been my experience at all...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Do men really care if a woman has an orgasm????
Posted: 10/26/2012 11:28:28 AM
More then you'll ever know. Satisfying my partner is more important to me then being satisfied myself. My orgasms satisfy my physical needs. My partners orgasms satisfy my emotional needs to please her.
If she's happy, I'm happy. It's that simple...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 50 (view)
 
are bellies sexy or not
Posted: 10/11/2012 1:27:17 PM
A flat stomach is very sexy...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 54 (view)
 
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 10/11/2012 12:28:22 PM

IDK but I was seeing a guy that would stay hard the whole night and never wanted to cum until I was finished (and I mean completely finished as in me cumming several times). . I still wonder how common it is for a guy to be able to hold his cum like that? I can't even "hold my cum" like he could? Lol


I have no idea how common that is for other men, but that's the way I've always been. I'm pretty much satisfied with one orgasm and have no problem controlling my excitement during intercourse. Oral is a bit harder for me to control myself and a woman's hands make it virtually impossible for me to remain in control so I have to be careful in "those" two areas. I have no idea why I'm that way, and I don't care why either. As long as my partner is satisfied, so am I…
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Fake it or Make it?
Posted: 10/8/2012 12:26:41 PM
The survey says that 1 in 3 men report faking an orgasm during intercourse. With the number one reason for faking it was to end intercourse in a way that wouldn't upset their partner due to the males inability to orgasm. Virtually all men in the survey that reported faking orgasm during intercourse note that their inability to "finish" had nothing to do with their partner. And faking it was preferable to hurting their partners feelings.

As most men can attest, women will tell us that it's alright if we can't "finish" and not to worry about it. But we learn through experience that it's usually "not" okay as most women tend to feel it's their fault as they wonder if we don't find them attractive anymore. In truth it almost never has anything to do with the partner we're with or our attraction to her.

I personally experienced this and agree that faking it on those rare occasions is preferable to not faking it...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 37 (view)
 
acting in adult films
Posted: 10/5/2012 10:51:00 AM
Then there's the "mom & pop" side of the porn industry. You no longer have to have sex with strangers in front of strangers with video cameras to be in the industry. Personality based sites have become very popular over the years with many of them being very lucrative…
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Porn And Unrealistic Expectations
Posted: 9/30/2012 5:35:38 AM
Two things you should know about porn. Especially internet porn as adult sites drive the adult industry at this time.

The first is that it's not reflective of reality. It's a huge distortion that you should be aware of. And the second is that internet porn is driven by male fantasies. From common vanilla to the darkest of all fantasies. Internet porn is more of a window into mens fantasies then it is anything else. Some hidden and some not so hidden. The largest single most important demographic that drives the adult industry is white american males between the ages of 18-30 as they are the ones most likely to take out their credit cards and purchase adult site memberships. What ever that demographic wants is what the porn industry will provide. The industry simply gives men whatever they are willing to purchase.

p.s. In regards to porn site purchases, women are statistically insignificant when compared to their male counterparts...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
held down or let up?
Posted: 9/26/2012 2:26:03 PM
Held down is best for me. Deep kissing while she'd doing it excites me even more. And if she plans to continue stroking me after I finish, it's best if she has me tied spread-eagle so I can't stop her...
 
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