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 Author Thread: She used a gift card to pay for her meal
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 193 (view)
 
She used a gift card to pay for her meal
Posted: 4/13/2019 10:14:23 AM

Great on the date!
She sounds cautious and may be a bit shy.
This could be why she refers to it as friendship.
I know the guys get their knickers in a twist over this word but don’t we all want to be real friends with our partner.
Both good things.
The guys are right though you may need to lead, but gently.

ETA....she used a coupon? I love her already lol


Me too - agree - about the bold part. :-)

Besides, didn't many men on here often discuss before, and always express, that they wished their dates would pitch in on the meal because there is equality in the 21st century? And don't the middle class (not the rich) men love or like women who are frugal? Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Being a woman, I would love to have the man on my date to pay for the meal, and I have no problem to share to pay for it either. And if I were a man, I would pay the whole meal for the first date at least, and I would appreciate if my date offered to pay her share too, but I would not let her to pay on the first date anyway. I think that means a traditional gentleman. That's my thinking anyway. I'm an old school and a little modern also.

It's a modern world now. People have changed; and they always analyze and criticize others so much. Wonder why it’s so hard to find a date. Anyway, don’t settle for a mediocrity – that’s most people’s goal, right?
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Turning someone down for sex
Posted: 12/23/2018 11:07:01 AM
There are lots of times I think and think and think there are good reasons why people swear WTF (having sex is the same as just f*cking in many cases). LOL
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Women Don't Know What They Want
Posted: 9/16/2018 12:21:05 PM
“Women don’t know what they want”,
That’s what many men think and say.
They often think most women want
Are free gifts and meals.
And many women think and say,
“All men want is
To have their d*ck in women’s pants”.
Oh my Goodness, wonder why
People can’t trust each other,
But only judge one another.
The result is to cause everybody bitter.

Deep inhale and sigh.
Or LOL.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Older gentleman with kids
Posted: 9/3/2018 10:58:41 AM
It's getting a little bit off topic here.

Trying to pinpoint out someone being desperate or not attractive, no matter it's true or not, is not smart. For what purpose? It's like in HS.

Smart people are the ones who find positive points in others and try to empower them.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 106 (view)
 
Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 9/3/2018 8:57:27 AM

I find that the most popular professional for woman here is something in the medical field. I see that in at least half of the profiles that I look at.

Ladies - is there a profession that is common for men?

"Business Management" :-)
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Modern dating
Posted: 7/18/2018 7:12:31 AM

"In these modern times of apparent equality…it does make me wonder if western women would be prepared to take up the traditional role of the man, risk being reject by letting the man, know she is interested and be persistent in getting him to date her>even if he rejects her?? court the man, pick him up for dates, pay for the dates, buy him gifts, open doors for him, initiate sex etc"

Ladies have you approached men you fancied and risked getting rejected?
Have you ever treated a male date to a meal?
Have you ever picked up a male for a date?
Have you ever opened the door for a male date and pulled a chair out for him?
Have you ever given flowers or chocolates to a male date?
Have you ever initiated sex with a male date?
Have you ever approached a man, that you were interested in and been rejected?
Is equality just a made up word and does not apply to the rules of dating?


If a woman were willing to do all the things above, she must have wanted to change her gender, wanting to be a muscleman, to have a penis. And vice-versa, if a man wanted to have a woman to do all the things above, he must have wanted to become a woman to have boobs and vagina.

Oh yeah, I've heard many men would want to be pregnant and give births too.

I heard a story in this small town in a foreign country, there when women went to give birth, the men stayed at home, did nothing, but got into the bed and held their tummy and groaned and mourned and screamed their head off like they were in a real pain. Ridiculous.

Equality is about equal work equal pay and about respecting each other; and when men and women living together, they need to contribute and participate the same amount of finance and housework as they compromise and agree with each other.

Nowadays, lots of women can mow the lawn, shovel the snow, change oil, fix cars. How many men are willing to fold clothes (not to mention doing the laundry because it's an easy job), to mop the floor, scrub the toilet weekly? If nobody does the cleaning in the house, it would be like a big pigpen eventually.

If men feel resentful with the current equality laws, make revolutions then.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 135 (view)
 
Has #Metoo invaded online dating?
Posted: 7/15/2018 10:23:04 AM

If I was to remove a rib from my body, the last thing I would be concerned about is some magical act of the rib turning into a woman. How does a guy do surgery on his own chest to remove a body part and live after that?


If - there was not your decision to remove the rib and turn it into a woman. It was God's

And yes, in real life, you can live with a rib removed. It's just not the same. It's hurt at the beginning. But eventually, you get used to it.



It would've been a bummer if Eve looked at Adam and thought "He's not my type. He's too short, not handsome enough...." and any other reason women give to reject a man.


LOL. That's why God made Eve and Adam's eyes closed before they ate the apple. They were blind, not so smart and naked, but they were blissful maybe. I'm not them, living in that time, I don't know exactly how they felt. I guess that's why there's a saying "Ignorance is bliss."
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 132 (view)
 
Has #Metoo invaded online dating?
Posted: 7/15/2018 9:22:02 AM

Women today behave very much more like men than their grandmothers. After all, they attend college to compete in careers (rather than to find a husband). They display interested in sex. They drink alcohol and do drugs. They are active in competitive sports, including as professionals.

Masculine energy and feminine energy are very much out of balance. It's like playing a game where you did not know the rules of the game and yet you kept playing. A relationship is the biggest game on the planet and most of us don’t know the rules anymore. I was born in 1951 and remember all that has been said and happened. No, women didn't burn their bra's in the mid 60's. However:

1. In a simple way, masculine energy is made up of, mostly, straight lines and angles. Feminine energy is made up of, mostly, curves and swirls. There seems to be a reason why men and women think differently but to long for this post.

2. Women's Liberation of the 60's brought about some needed changes. During the mid to late 70's the radical side became unsatisfied and began making greater demands. The majority women we happy with the gains made. The radical side began pushing to push to de-emphasis the need for men. Pressure was placed on women to "Not Need a Man". Men were only needed to impregnate women and then should be eliminated from the family equation. Unfortunately the national news media picked up and publicized this ideology. By the end of the 80's our entertainment system made men out to be stupid, fat dummies who were all failures at life. All men on TV sitcoms, commercials, movies, etc were male actors playing out how dumb they were and could only succeed if they had a woman in their life. Women were portrayed as hot, beautiful, intelligent and successful in everything and had no need for a man. They "endured" the men in their lives and usually rolled their eye's at every move he made.

Today most men under 40 have grown up with this mentality. Many feel if they are so helpless and incompetent they may as well live the part and let their base nature be their guide. The increase in violence, drugs and porn have only exacerbated the problem

Radical feminism (and our entertainment system) has taught men to "Be more wimpy" while women have been taught to exhibit more of their masculine side. We're now seeing the result of all of this combined together. The whole reasoning is to drive men and women apart. The radical side of feminism today wants power much more than they do equality.


I so agree with you regarding the aspects about men and women’s behaviours nowadays. But that’s the nature of life: with time goes by, things change, people change rapidly.

It’s inevitable. That’s the process or progress of Human Evolution, if you (people/anyone I mean) believe in Nature or the Darwinism. If you believe in God, then maybe God wanted/wants to improve his plans constantly. And he also gives human a free will… except not to be smarter than him. LOL

In the Bible, Genesis 2:18, God said “It’s not good for the man to be alone…” so, he made a woman out of the man’s rib …

… And when men use their power to abuse women and hurt them, they hurt themselves (their “rib”). And when women are too greedy, listen to the serpent (their evil desire), then they get punishments by God or get resentments by men.

With the science and high technology, plus all the studying/research in psychology, psychiatry and medicines of this day and age, we can’t never wish to go back in the “good old days” or stay still. And actually, I don’t think those old days were better than now. There was no media, things were hidden and hush hush. Lots of bad things were covered; nobody knew.

I see both good and bad in the old and modern days. We need to appreciate the good, accept the bad, and/or find ways to balance everything and improve our life/society.

There are so many wars in the world: countries and countries, political parties, workplaces (employers and employees, or among employees, old and young), women and men, parents and children, siblings, relatives … even in your own selves.

I believe soon there will be wars between humans and robots/synths (automated, intelligent machines, etc.)
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 100 (view)
 
We lost another to suicide
Posted: 6/21/2018 9:58:04 AM

for me...it just once again proves that fame and fortune does not equate to happiness....


Perhaps, but I would much rather be miserable in a Mercedes, than a Mazda.


But the cost to maintain or repair the Mercedes when you get into an accident (it can happen anytime) will cause you much bigger misery than with the Mazda.

There are people who can afford to buy a Mercedes or a BMW, but they prefer to buy a Honda, Acura, Toyota or a Lexus. And they are happy with what they have.

There are people who seem to have everything but are never satisfied or happy with what they have. That's why they are miserable and depressed.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Girlfriend has sexual aversion
Posted: 2/3/2018 8:31:46 AM

I hear where your all coming from but no she never expected me to take care of her or her kids she wanted a partner in life. Everything was good until she started to get stressed by life and such then that killed whatever libido she had. I did push for sex after a few weeks cause I thought once a month was pretty low. That stress and constant fighting is why we both decided to break up.


Take your rosy glasses off. Listen to the older people’s advice from their own life experience.

Who does not have stress in life? Avoid the second breakup with the same person again. Save you a headache and heartache. You're single with no baggage. Find someone with no baggage.

Some men know how to play games with some women. And some women know how to play games with some men.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
So many angry single people
Posted: 1/20/2018 9:53:47 AM

I wish the angry ones would get marked up and booted off forever.

"Never wish them pain. That's not who you are. If they caused you pain, they must have pain inside. Wish them healing. That's what they need." - Najwa Zebian
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Get harassed at work
Posted: 1/3/2018 6:19:31 PM
I think this OP is more suitable in the Work and Employment Forum on city-datadotcom. There, you can get lots more replies about anything happens at the workplace.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Is my Boyfriend gay and in denial or am i paranoid?
Posted: 1/3/2018 7:50:21 AM
You don't need somebody to tell you a straight answer that he is gay, you can tell right away. It shows by the conversations, the look from his eyes, his lips, tone of voice and gesture.

It’s your choice to be with him or not. You just have to think how to break your decision to him. It’s not easy, but when it needs to be done, it has to be done.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
New person looks like an ex.....
Posted: 1/1/2018 5:54:24 PM
LOL. You really have sense of humor. This OP can be in both here and Humor forum. The more I read, the more I laughed.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
He's Homeless dating on POF for a place to stay :-)
Posted: 1/1/2018 5:46:28 PM
For some people: if you give them an inch, they will take a mile.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 26 (view)
 
boyfriend stood me up Christmas Day
Posted: 12/27/2017 9:26:54 PM
This story is just too funny. Why was he moving the fridge out of the house on Christmas day? What was wrong with it? If it was so, where was he moving it to? To the sidewalk? And by himself? Too weird.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Date cancellation
Posted: 12/27/2017 8:46:36 PM
Not.another.chance. Enough is enough.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Advice needed on chatting up a woman I like (from a female perspective)
Posted: 12/26/2017 10:36:16 AM
I felt headache and dizzy to see such a LONG paragraph. Could not finish the whole post. Just read 10 lines, maybe, and jumped to the very end.

If this long paragraph were broken up into proper paragraphs, it could be one interesting chapter in a romance novel, or a very worthy free advertising ad on POF.

Happy New Year!
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Droidery
Posted: 11/26/2017 9:15:52 PM
Relationship with human or robot? In everything when there's no respect, no consideration, no respect, no hard work, there's no success.

Watched Ex Machina movie?

When technology is too good, AI can be smarter than human and control human.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Help :( Did I get scammed???
Posted: 11/13/2017 3:22:59 PM

[bold]I run into scam artists all the time[/bold]. It is a very, very common thing in the OLD world for women to be out there trying to scam men. I have no idea if the opposite is that common, if there are as many scammers trying to cheat women.

If women are indeed more naïve (an unproven hypothesis), perhaps it’s because women are driven more by emotion while men are driven by lust?

No wait, that wouldn’t work. That would make the men more much more likely to fall victim.

But then, maybe more men do fall victim, and are just unwilling to admit it? Now that sounds more likely to me, the men will be too proud to admit they got taken, whereas the women will come on here, admit it, and expect to get sympathy.

For the bold part, I hope you never fell to be a victim. I think you are a very smart man. For the rest, I think you are right.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Help :( Did I get scammed???
Posted: 11/13/2017 2:45:09 PM
I wonder if you had ever watched Dr. Phil (a tabloid talk show in America)? Or is there some talk show similar to it in your country? I remember there were quite a few episodes in Dr. Phil about some young and old women got scammed by men on the online dating sites. I had never seen any episode showing men got scammed by women.

On the show, I saw a few women were so blind to the point they kept sending thousands and thousands of dollars to the men they were “falling in love” with even when there never met face to face. They just met through pictures and sweet messages. This one 60 something woman even emptied her bank account for some guy, so he could come to see her as he said. Her daughter and son found out and questioned her. And she still tried to defend that guy. She said they did not understand her, and it was none of their business…

I don’t understand why some women are so naïve.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Can forum posting be beneficial to prevent Alzheimer's?
Posted: 10/14/2017 6:28:38 PM
Diet and exercise can be beneficial to prevent Alzheimer's, not forum posting.

From my experience, whenever I spent too much time in the forums to read and post comments, I felt headache afterwards because of the long time sitting and facing the PC screen, and my eyes would feel tired and blurry. And that's not good for my health. Also, sometimes I felt depressed because I learned there were/are so many problems and crazy things in the world.

Of course, I learned lots of good things. But that does not help to prevent Alzheimer's. That disease is genetic.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Let's Bring Some Parents To Their Senses
Posted: 10/14/2017 5:53:58 PM
Eventually, I learn that nothing is weird anymore.

The first time, many years ago, I learned someone in this real life with the name Jesus, I was thinking when someone called that person "Jesus", it would sound like too extreme or swearing.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Receiving gift on third date
Posted: 8/19/2017 4:53:59 PM
He gave you a book on cool types of photography as a gift when he learned that you were/are an amateur photographer, the same as he is - how thoughtful of him.

Just read the book, pick some useful tips in it, take a cool picture of him or in the nature and give it to him as a gift. I believe he will be very happy and appreciate it.

Don't worry and analyze things too much.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Sleeping with someone on the first date...are they LTR material?
Posted: 8/17/2017 9:39:03 PM
I read somewhere someone said like this: "Some men pretend to give love to get sex. Some women pretend to give sex to get love."

To me, having a rushed sex (sleeping with someone on the first date) is because that person is either hormonal or pushing too hard, trying/hoping it will make a LTR, because that person is desperate.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Effort in a relationship
Posted: 7/11/2017 12:58:30 PM
OP:

I don't see this relationship is going to work. From what you describe him, I don't see he is an exceptionally good man. I think he is an okay man in the society. He is good with his brother, and that's good for his brother. You cannot and should not interfere with that brothers' relation. You cannot make him to put you over his brother. But in the relationship with you, he seems cold to you. It sounds like he doesn't care. He doesn't put any effort into building this relationship with you. He just takes what he can.

You, like most women (including me), want to love and to be loved and want romance sometimes. Most men are realistic, and nothing wrong with that. Some men may be more understanding than some others and will give effort to make their partner happy. Some may be testy. Some may ignore what their partner wants because they don't care.

Well, right now you need to take care of yourself and your son. You need to find a place to live near where you work. If he does not buy gifts, flowers, and cards on special occasions for you, you buy those for yourself. If he does not love you, you love yourself. Who cares. Relationship is not just kissing and effing.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Filters
Posted: 7/9/2017 11:49:22 AM
Yeah, as one of the posters here said educated men cheat too. That's true. And a CEO could become a homeless also. It happened.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Love spells that work
Posted: 7/1/2017 7:41:39 AM
Scammer.

Fake and Contradictory profile:
1. Location: Calgary, California. Calgary is in Alberta, Canada, not in California, USA.
2. Education: high school and Profession is a nurse
3. Profession is a nurse but not ambitious
4. About Me: does not tell anything about the person. Just a dreamy love poem.

Most people are smart and realistic. OP thinks she could fool people on here.

She is bored.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Black girls dating white guys. How common is this?
Posted: 6/30/2017 6:57:47 AM
ohenryx:

I still think about her from time to time.


Have you ever tried to look her up on FB and contacted her?
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Stay at home mom
Posted: 6/28/2017 7:10:25 PM
I think it's not a good idea. And think carefully about making goals and plans for your life. This is 2017.

First, being a staying at home mom is not easy.

Second, you are a college graduate and have multiple certificates from different programs, why wasted so much money and time and now just want to stay at home and don't want to work out side of the house/home?

Third, I heard someone made a joke about the "golden rule" like this: who has the gold makes the rules. This may sound bad; but think about it, it's true. That's reality. At this day and age, if you don't work and earn money to contribute to pay the bills together, you have no say. And eventually your spouse will feel you are like a burden, and feel tired of you.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Asking Where I Stand?
Posted: 2/22/2017 9:00:35 AM
So I guess she just wants to keep you in a friend zone or as a spare. If you like her so much, be straightforward ask her a simple question where you stand. If she does not give you an honest answer, move on. Don't waste your time.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Asking Where I Stand?
Posted: 2/21/2017 8:51:06 PM
Is she Asian? Usually Asian girls are shyer, or it's the cultural thing. Mostly, they wait for the guy to make a first move. Just be honest and straightforward to tell her that you want to know where you stand.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Found vagina selfies in girlfriend's phone - A Good Mood Transformer
Posted: 2/13/2017 9:36:31 PM
This thread is very interesting/funny. It can totally change people's mood from debating (arguing mood) about Donald Trump in the Off Topic to rolling on the floor laughing.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 28 (view)
 
how can we be depressed when we laugh at you?
Posted: 2/12/2017 9:43:09 AM
@Walts:


And now, we can put Nycko in the pile of spare parts along with the Wolf, JohnnyBoy, Dipsy and that other pot stirrer from Alberta.


You are very immature to say you can put this person, that person in a PILE of something. In this forum, people debate issues and/or express their opinions. Many people speak up a lot; others speak up less. Everyone is different.

I find it is so interesting or weird, if not to call stupid, that in the USA millions of people voted for Donald Trump, and now they are not happy with him. And in Canada, it happened the same thing. I don't know if people in the USA would like Justin Trudeau to be their president. I don't think so. But from many news I read on the internet, I saw in the Comments/Reactions that so many Canadians expressed that they wished Trump to be their PM. I don't really know which one is better or worse. I don't like discrimination, racist, sexist, wars. I like the whole world to have peace and good economy. But how can people have that when in each nation, each province, city, family and in a single person, there are so much conflicts. I just know that being a top leader of a country, a big organization or a company is not easy.

In my post #22, I expressed my opinion that the OP sounded childish because he thought he could pissed people off and he laughed hahaha. What was wrong with what I said? And you said "and that other pot stirrer from Alberta". You have no rights to categorize people, especially in a mean way.

You can go to drink more whiskey and call people names, and somebody will put you in the PILE of drunkards. There, you can get mad at me and continue to call me name. I don't care. I will ignore you. But that does not mean you win. It just means you are a small man who likes to have the last words. Anyway, people on here know who's who.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Help Coconut!
Posted: 2/11/2017 5:33:15 PM

I love it. My post worked. it pissed many people. Hahahaha.


Sounds so childish.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 107 (view)
 
Found dead, eaten by cats
Posted: 2/5/2017 5:40:49 PM
Worrying is inevitable in most of everyone. But making a plan is better than worrying.

I like the idea in Post #16. If someone has medical problems and still wants to live alone at home, s/he can register with the Lifeline Medical Alert Systems. There are so many Medical Alert Systems out there. Someone will know you are in trouble right away when you press the button on the Medical Alert pendant.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Possibilities of evolution
Posted: 2/5/2017 3:34:19 PM
I think one of the possibilities of evolution is there would be more AI's than human beings. Human beings eventually will be endangered. AI's will run/control the world.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 105 (view)
 
Found dead, eaten by cats
Posted: 2/5/2017 8:33:37 AM
After reading many posts here, I feel funny when I ever think if I would be dead alone and what would happen afterwards?

I agree with some posters’ saying: When you are dead, you are dead. Why would you care about your body, or what would anyone think about you? And I like the humorous thoughts also.

Everything has a beginning and an end. People were born to this world, and when they get old and sick, cannot take care of themselves, and have to die, sooner or later, to yield space for the young people to live. That’s the nature of life.

It is very sad that so many people are living and thinking to kill themselves or thinking about the day they would have to die. And the day they are going to die, they try hard to cling to life, to want to live longer.

No matter one is religious or not, I find this youtube is very helpful to me when I am living: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3KEMDepPRNY

I learn to think positively, to be mindful, to live by the moment, not to worry to much about tomorrow because when you worry too much, it still does not help; it just makes you crazy. I try to live each day to do useful things, to think of happy things; and if I die tomorrow, I won’t regret anything.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Is this normal?!
Posted: 1/28/2017 12:23:00 PM
There are men and women who are emotionally unavailable. Look up Google for the signs and what to do with them when you fall in love with such people.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
How do you find the motivation to work out?
Posted: 1/21/2017 4:36:13 PM
My motivation to work out is to keep myself in shape and have a clear and positive mind as much as I can. I push myself to work out 15 - 30 minutes every second day at least, before going to or after work. I do find it's hard to start to work out a lot of times. But as soon as I can start on a rowing machine, a glider exercise machine or a bicycle, with the music on, I find it's easy to keep going. And I feel good afterwards.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 28 (view)
 
What do you give up for the love of money?
Posted: 1/15/2017 1:01:30 PM
To OP:

IMO, money is not everything, but it is very important.

Without money, you cannot afford to even meet the bottom line in the Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. You can have air, may have water (not clean water in many countries, such as South Africa, or some countries in Asia, for example), but may not have enough food to fill your tummy. When you don’t have money, you cannot buy good enough clothes to keep you warm. When you don’t have money, you cannot afford to rent a room or buy an apartment or a house to live in.

How do you make money and not to be accused as an evil? By working hard to earn it.

Many people say “Money is the root of evil” or “The love of money is the root of evil”. In my opinion, money is not the root of evil, or even the love of money is not the root of evil. When you love money, you work hard to earn it, there’s nothing wrong with that. Only when you rip somebody off, to rob their money, or to bully others to work their sweat and blood for your benefits, then you are an evil.

I do agree with the saying “Idleness is the root of evil.” When someone is too idle, s/he does not know what to do, or find something good to do, that person may be too lazy or think of crazy things to do.

You ask: “What do you give up for the love of money?” Somebody may give up the family or country for the love of money. Everything happens for a reason. For example, many people in Philippines left their families, their country to other countries to work for money. At the beginning, because they were living in poverty, they would have to find way to earn money to support their families, so they left their families and earn money and send money back home to support them. They work two three jobs to earn more money, and they can send more back home again. Their intention is good. But when they work a lot, then they cannot spend time with their families. You cannot blame them. Everybody is different.

There are people too damn lazy, don’t want to work and are big expenders. When they have some money from some source such as welfare... and they spend it all in a blink on booze, drugs, gambling, and have not more money for food and whine and blame on somebody else not to support them. And they even hate rich people.

Yes, I agree that there are some people very unfortunate. They were born in very unfortunate situations and could not get out of those situations no matter what they do. And that’s not my fault for their unfortunate situations. I did not give births to them. I did not rib them off. I did not bully them.

You say: “Let me ask you, do you feel any happier with a bigger home and more money? Or has your greed surpassed even the most basic of human emotions, to help each other and love your neighbor as yourself? My question to you is will your money buy you emotional, intellectual, mental, physical richness? Do you feel any more free now that you have tons of money versus when you had tons of time?” Let me answer you this way: I’m not greedy of money. Whatever I have today, I worked hard to earn it with God’s blesses, and I do give back by donating to some charity organizations and volunteering to serve in some homeless shelters. I don’t have tons of money, don’t have a very big house, but I do feel much more free now than when I had tons of time (when I was unemployed) or when I was little living in a big family lacking of food and clothes and feeling different than many of my classmates. Now I feel equal with my colleagues and I feel confident.

Yes, money can buy you emotional, intellectual, mental and physical richness. Without money, you are poor, you feel insecure, you cannot go to college, university, you cannot see a dentist for a dental treatment, you may have bad teeth, bad breath, or you cannot see an eye doctor for an eye checkup and cannot have eyeglasses or contact lens even when you have a bad eyesight.

Even Monks, Nuns, Pastors, Priests, Almighty Mother and the Pope need money to run/operate their temples and churches.

When you have a job or your own business to earn money, and you know how to manage it right and think about your loved ones and the less unfortunate people, then that’s good.

It’s a long post. My points are:

1. Many people can give up their country and/or family for going far away to earn money
2. Money is not the root of evil.
3. The love of money is not the root of evil.
4. Idleness is the root of evil
5. Lazy and jealous people are evils
6. When you need/want money, you work hard for it, there’s nothing wrong with it.
7. Learn to balance work and personal life.
8. Help others when you can.
9. Don’t feel guilty when some lazy, jealous people accuse you as an evil when they see you are in better condition than they are. You are not an evil.

THE END.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 165 (view)
 
Fake News is the point - its the new truth
Posted: 1/2/2017 8:57:48 PM
Message #7:

"Who do we trust?
How do we know?...
We all tell lies...
So when you think about it like that it's a wonder we trust anyone at all." - From the movie The Honorable Woman

LOL
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 258 (view)
 
Dating Someone That Has Nothing
Posted: 12/11/2016 9:45:00 PM
Dating someone that has nothing for fun or to void the loneliness for a short time is okay, but not for a long time because it would be too tired.

When you date someone and plan for a long term, you would have to think about a lot of things.

Are your parents VERY RICH? I mean rich to the point when they pass away, and you will inherit their wealth and can live off of it for the rest of your life.

The day of 1950, 1960 is over. At that time, rich men still looked for beautiful sweet girls from rich family. They would not want poor girls who had nothing (financially) to offer. Prostitutes can be sweet, fun and give good sex. Middle class men were okay with sweet, fun girls from middle class families or with girls from poor families but willing to do all the housework, to be good housewives.

Eventually, people change. Both men and women are more ambitious (or greedy); they want more and more of everything, and women need to go out to the world to work to earn money to contribute to buy a big house, nice car and beautiful clothes as they want.

As a woman, I understand the housework is work. But working outside of the house, in a big or small company, you have lots of stress sometimes too. And when unfortunately you lose your job, and your partner never works outside, it would be very worrisome, very depressing.

Most people or no one want to work so hard for some looser, bummer, couch potato who does nothing to contribute to the life they share together. That is too much of a burden.

And I see it this way: In this modern day, if you don’t work outside of the house, your partner will look down on you. S/he will see that you are lazy, you are behind, you have no motivation, no ambition; s/he will be tired of you.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 54 (view)
 
How would you handle?
Posted: 1/31/2016 12:34:42 PM
After a few years of the birth of my first child, I had a second one. And more than once in a while, I called my second child with my first one's name. It was not that I loved my first one more than my second one. I loved and love the second child very much. Eventually I did learn to call the right name of each child. I think when you call someone's name for a long time, you get used to that name, and it is stuck in your mind.

You can remind your boyfriend your name is as your name, not the name of the other person. And ask him what the reason why he called you by the other person's name in a casual way, not a jealous way, to see what he says.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 37 (view)
 
The Disposable Generation of relationships...Your thoughts?
Posted: 12/25/2015 5:16:08 PM
Regarding post #14:

"Virtual reality is cleaner and safer way to experience companionship imo"

If anyone really believes that having a robot girl/boy friend is better than with a real person should watch the movie Ex Machina.

You think you (I mean anyone) are so smart, you can create a robot, program whatever into it, to make it to be smart and beautiful enough to serve you and please you. Or you have a lot of money and buy one home and make it to do whatever you want, and you would have no problems. Wrong. Robots/computers and human are screwed up sometimes the same. For human, when you are screwed up, you have to go to see your Doctor, Counselor, Psychologist or Psychiatrist. For robots, when they are screwed up, you have to spend lots of time to study and fix them if you are a geek, or you have to spend lots of money to pay a professional to fix them for you. And as in many A.I. movies, when the robots are very smart, or human abuses them, they know how to react. They either revenge or collapse. That makes human scared or having headaches.

In life, if you want good things, you have to work hard for them, you have to treat things/people right (with gentleness and respect) and they can last and treat you right. You reap what you sow.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 56 (view)
 
something that has me slightly concerned...
Posted: 10/12/2015 3:57:41 PM
Many posts on here give me a LOL.

Laughter is the best medicine.

This site is great for many people to pass their time.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 138 (view)
 
Men happier married vs Women happier single - according to research
Posted: 10/4/2015 11:14:15 AM
In my opinion, I don’t think “men are happier married” and “women are happier single” in general.

People don’t have to be a rocket scientist or to have a PhD degree to figure out both genders would be happier to be married to the right person, and they would be better/happier to be single if they were married to an evil and living in hell.

Most of the times men and women cannot get along because they have different thinking, and/or they put their egos above others. They don’t try to understand others, or don’t want to compromise. Everything is me, me, me. That’s the problem.

Many of you might have known, or not, but I find this link is quite interesting and want to share:

http://www.tickld.com/x/why-men-and-women-think-differently
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Interracial Dating
Posted: 9/26/2015 12:06:53 PM
First, it is 21st Century now, whoever is still racist is behind and uneducated.

Second, you’re 27, you’re supposed to be an adult; you’re supposed to be able to do what you need and want.

When you still stay at home, living under your parent’s roof and are dependent to your parent, you still are like a child or a kid to him/her. And when you are a kid, you will be treated like a kid. When you are an adult and act like an adult, you will be treated like an adult.

Being an adult is to be grown-up, independent and responsible mainly and should get out of the comfort zone (the parent’s house to save money on rent, food, etc...), to live on his/her own and dare to face challenges in the world.

Nowadays, there are so many grown-up children still live at home. They just want to take advantage of their parents and criticize, talk bad, negative about them and blame on their parents for this and that. They don’t want to know how hard their parents worked to earn what they have or to be where they are currently. Those grown-up children paint visions, have lots of dreams and “ambitions”, but they don’t have courage and plan to move out to the world to act and achieve their dreams. They are cowards and ungrateful.

Dreams and ambitions without actions are useless.

“Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world.” – Joel A Barker

“Ambition is not what a man would do, but what a man does, for ambition without action is fantasy.” – Bryant H. McGill
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Does setting boundaries indicate lack of trust?
Posted: 9/18/2015 9:18:17 AM
Boundaries in relationships are like policies in business, or rules for games. They are guidelines for people to collaborate and work things out to be better. Without rules and guidelines, things are not clear and people can easily be confused. Whoever violates the rules needs a reminder to get back on track or to get out of the team.
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I am a burden to him?
Posted: 9/10/2015 7:46:11 AM
Your bf just wants you as a spare tire. He wants to have all the freedom for himself, time to see other people, but he does not want to break up with you because in case when he does not have someone, he would come to sleep with you and have sex and comfort. And when he finds someone else again, he'll leave you again. That's it.

Remember that no one can take advantage of you unless you allow that person to. It's your life, you need to be in charge of your own life.

He said you are a burden to him, you should leave him a lone, be on your own totally. Don't let him to take advantage of you and control you. Be strong and move on.
 
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