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Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
Animal Magnetism - just a fun question
Posted: 6/21/2008 7:20:23 AM
Without question, Sam Elliott.
Charles Bronson
Bob Seger
Conway Twitty
Blake Shelton

Rugged good looks and a voice to match.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
Beer with me. Share your favorite recipes using beer.
Posted: 6/21/2008 6:40:32 AM
Shrimp Batter

Shrimp (peeled and deveined) (1 to 2 lbs.)
1/2 cup beer (your choice)
3 tbsp flour
1 1/2 tbsp cornstarch
1 tbsp cornmeal
3/4 tsp baking powder
3/4 tsp salt

Mix all ingredients thorougly. For a lot of shrimp--triple batter.
Coat each shrimp with batter and drop into very hot oil. Fry until
light golden brown or your desired crispiness. Doesn't take long at all.
The coating is crispy without being heavy.

This is a recipe I've had for many years and used many times.
If batter is too thick, add more beer.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
Blame Card's
Posted: 6/14/2008 1:18:50 PM
We do tend to lay blame on others for things we do wrong or for things
that go wrong in our lives....regardless of it being relationship/marriage,
work, or whatever the situation may be.

Until we can accept responsility for our actions, it will always be someone
else's fault. After all, none of us want to be thought of as a failure.

Maturity, Communication and Experience are great teachers.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
Is it my PC or the site itself?
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:52:35 AM
I've noticed the same.

IM users not showing below pics.
Same pics as yesterday, as if screen is frozen.
"Viewed me" one showing online or as IM user.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 36 (view)
I wrote this on my profile...
Posted: 4/20/2008 7:12:15 PM
@ OOOfirefighter's reply.

Epilepsy is not a death sentence. There are many meds on the market
today to help control seizures. Those who don't understand it, fear it
as well as talk out of turn.

Your seizure disorder has little or nothing to do with why you don't
get responses. This particular subject (replies) comes up often in
the forums.

The fact is, we all have preferences of some sort. You are not going
to appeal to every woman, just as every woman is not going to appeal
to you.

Don't throw in the towel just yet.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 39 (view)
A woman needs a reason to cheat while a man only need the opportunity and a safe place
Posted: 3/20/2008 10:55:11 AM
That is a quote that has been around forever. The saying has nothing
to do with cheating. It simply had to do with men just looking for sex.

"Women need a reason.
Men need a place."

Male or Female....Neither have a reason to cheat. They only have
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 34 (view)
Things a Woman Should Never Do in the Company of a Woman
Posted: 2/28/2008 7:17:51 PM
Things A Man Should Never Do In The Company Of A Woman...

Ask me if I've ever read "Things A Woman Should Never Do In the Company
Of A Man"
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 41 (view)
Skin-to-skin contact and the benefit of human touch
Posted: 2/27/2008 5:59:39 PM
"There is nothing more healing to the human spirit than touch."
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 57 (view)
Taken over by the dark side...
Posted: 2/3/2008 5:40:05 AM
Once the seperation occured, there was no turning back for her.
If the marriage was worth saving, you work through the issues
together, not seperate for six months and regroup.

I think she's probably stronger than you believe. If she wanted
to be with you, no outside influence would stop her. You can't
blame others because she doesn't want to come back to you.

Sounds as though she's had a taste of freedom and likes it. I think
she's made her decision, but hesitant to tell you.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 82 (view)
ok, here's the question........
Posted: 1/23/2008 2:46:22 PM
Agreed, the original post was confusing.

Regardless of what it is called....first meet....first date...whatever, you
should not have nor been expected to pay for her child's meal.

I personally would have politely thanked you for the offer, but would
not have allowed you to pay.

Now having said that...the remainder of time spent together, whatever
happened, should have had no bearing on the $45.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
the one that got away
Posted: 1/13/2008 6:32:53 PM
I have sweet memories of one in particular...I think we let each other get away.

We remained friends and three years later we still stay in touch.

It was "A Time and A Place."
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
I need help
Posted: 1/13/2008 10:58:10 AM
If you are shipping out to Iraq, there won't be a relationship anyway.
He sounds very selfish, thinking of only himself and his friends.

IMO he is using you, perhaps for your benefits and his convenience.

If in 5 years, he hasn't changed the way he treats you, why do you
think that is going to change?

Best Wishes to you in Iraq. Thank you and return home safe.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
Men living by woman rules
Posted: 1/12/2008 4:28:44 PM
"Men living by woman rules."

That means if the man wants to see his next birthday, he should avoid
confrontation, otherwise grow some gonads...

I dislike door mats...keep tripping over the damn things.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
being attracted to someone who...
Posted: 1/12/2008 2:06:49 PM
I totally agree with "rain"..msg #4.

It's an emotional roller coaster and a no win situation . If you choose
to go down that road, someone is going to get burned and my guess is,
it will be you. Don't open your heart to that kind of pain.

If he is unhappy with every aspect of married life, then he needs to
make a choice to stay or go. Until you see if his marital status changes,
don't get involved.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
Strange Behavior ffrom a Significant Other?
Posted: 1/12/2008 11:35:41 AM
I think you should get rid of her and get a dog.

OH, WAIT! Sorry, it took me a minute to catch on...

Whatever mood we are in, I think dogs, in particular, are in
tune with us. You can't go wrong being an animal lover.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
From friends to lovers. Can it work?
Posted: 1/11/2008 4:15:34 PM
I personally have not experienced this "from friends to lovers,"
so I can't comment if it will or won't work.

I can't imagine becoming involved in a relationship with a friend
I've known for years. I'm not sure I could do that or if I would
be comfortable with it.

After reading prior posts, it's good to know that it has worked
well for some.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 23 (view)
Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 4:02:28 PM
Who has the bad attitude?

I would guess all of this is a moot point if he blocked you.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
Just Take it on the Chin?
Posted: 1/11/2008 3:51:03 PM
I firmly state my opinion on the subject, allow the other person to do the same.
If voices start to raise, I will say, let's leave this until another time.

Usually by the time the smoke has cleared, we forget where we were going
with it anyway.

Never back a redhead in a corner.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
Lies, deception and abortion not a miscarriage
Posted: 1/8/2008 5:54:47 PM
I wasn't assuming anything. When a person makes a post, there are going
to be different questions as well as differences of opinion. It won't always
be to our liking.

As I said, I'm sorry for your pain. Together or apart, I hope both of you
can begin the healing process.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
Lies, deception and abortion not a miscarriage
Posted: 1/8/2008 5:01:09 PM
The title...."Lies, deception and abortion, not a miscarriage," brings this

You stated that she started seeing someone within two weeks. That is
much too soon following abortion or miscarriage, unless she didn't
grieve for the loss either way.

Could she have already been seeing someone else, as in cheating on you,
and this baby was not yours? Could that be why she didn't want you around?

I understand the anguish you feel and I'm sorry she has put you through this.
Seems you are much more hurt than she is.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 57 (view)
how do i prove myself?
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:43:18 PM
Regardless of the severity and/or the treatment of STD, you were absolutely
right in telling him. I don't think you owed him any explanation of how many
men you slept with though. Why did you feel the need to tell him how many? Were
you hoping to get a jealous reaction and it backfired on you? Were you trying
to prove to him that you are desirable to other men, that you have no problem
getting other men's attention? Sleeping around is not the answer to loneliness.

It sounds to me as if he is trying to put you on a guilt trip. Don't allow him
to do that to you. If he is telling you that you have to prove yourself, he is
simply keeping you hanging on to false hope, when in reality he is
done with you.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
Paranormal/Demonic Activity
Posted: 1/7/2008 7:40:05 PM
OP.... From what I'm understanding, all of this happened 10 years ago?

Just curious...what's happening with you today?
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
New years resolution is to forget about my damn ex
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:16:12 PM
I'm not sure changing jobs is the answer.

I worked in an all female office for 5 years, the time came when I had
to hire a replacement due to one of my staff leaving.
I hired a girl....we actually became close friends. I knew she was going
through a divorce, had children and so on. She probably mentioned
siblings in passing.

About three months into our working day her
twin brother walked in the office......that was it for the next 3 years.

It was fun while it lasted.

Ya never know......a friend of a friend of a friend.....
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
Ouch log
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:03:51 PM

Hang in there! Allow yourself time to grieve. Go through the emotions,
the hurt, the anger and etc.,....once you have done that, then you begin the healing
process. When all is said and done, you'll be a stronger person.
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Msg: 156 (view)
CHEATING as a self defense, protection tool....
Posted: 1/5/2008 10:55:22 AM
Every cheater thinks he/she is justified.

In reality, there is no justification for cheating.

If, at the end of the day, you can live with what you've done,
then you have no conscience. If there was no guilt, you woudn't
be making this post trying to justify a bad choice.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 69 (view)
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:57:05 AM

I understand what you are going through. I have already lived it.
Be it sex or intimacy, you crave the attention, the affection, the touch,
the hug, the kiss.
In my case, which had nothing to do with alcohol, I was married for
many years to a man who was cold and distant. That was his nature.
I mistakenly thought if I showered him with with all of the above, I
could surely bring out those same things in him that I craved.

There is a quote I like and for me, it says so much.
"There is nothing more healing to the human spirit than touch."

If only he had offered that, I would still be there. Now that I've been
single for some time and occasionally I revisit those years, I wonder why I
stayed 26 years. It took me a long time to realize that I couldn't fix
it....I couldn't fix him.

"The only thing worse than being alone is being with the wrong person."

I often read in these forums...."what goes around, comes around."
Perhaps in my case it is true. My ex remarried and he married a woman
exactly like the man he had been (cold and distant). He finally "gets it."
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 107 (view)
Mars-vs-Venus,is it real or just BS?
Posted: 1/3/2008 11:55:16 AM
"Mars-vs-Venus,is it real or just BS"?

No truth in that.


There is some truth in that.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
Another year has come and gone... NOW are you desperate?
Posted: 1/1/2008 7:54:49 AM
Well, I'm a redhead, so orange is not my color..

Can't imagine ever being so desperate that I need to wear
something indicating I am.

Isn't being on a dating site advertisement enough?
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 164 (view)
What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 12/26/2007 1:02:03 PM
"Having sex" is the universal, quick fix, cure-all for everything, and
"making love" is deeply shared emotions, a slow burn.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
Jump in or a slow submergence???
Posted: 12/26/2007 11:08:30 AM
For me personally, I don't see that either way makes a difference in how
long a relationship lasts. When it's done, it's done!

I think probably when I was younger, I had a tendency to jump in and
perhaps that was the thrill, the new and exciting.

With age and experience comes maturity. As we mature, I think we
look for different things in a relationship. Knowing more what we want
and don't want, we take our time finding it.

That's not to say either way is right or wrong.

But hey, if I meet the right man, I'm all about jumping from the first
floor window....
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
What is this thing you call more .
Posted: 12/23/2007 9:29:19 AM
This thing called more is, checking our worries at the door at the end
of the day, breathing a sigh of relief when we hold each other, that the
day is done and the night is ours. Shutting out the rest of the world
for a time.

More is on a regular basis, not occasionally.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
the ex died
Posted: 12/21/2007 4:52:15 PM
My question to you is....Why DO you feel like you are running in mud
and not able to get back your life?

You didn't seem to learn anything that you hadn't already suspected,
so what has you feeling so foolish?

I guess I wouldn't base too much on what the first wife says, I mean
after all, he is deceased and there is no one to verify yah or nay to
what she says. She could have told you these things much sooner.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 48 (view)
How do I talk to him after scorning him. I am hoping to add some new tricks to my manipulation bag so that I can walk on him some more!
Posted: 12/16/2007 7:31:06 AM
What I find interesting about this is.....the OP accepted a ride home with
the guy "closer to her age," they dated for a while and that is done.
Perhaps to make the older man jealous and it has backfired in her face.

Now that she has no one, she has decided that she loves the older man.
Didn't she know she loved him before dating the guy "closer to her age?"

Sounds to me as though she is seeking attention wherever available.

The "older man" is done with you and rightfully so.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
I'll call ya right back
Posted: 12/15/2007 12:12:06 PM
If he says he will call right back, I would expect him to do exactly that.
If I tell someone I will call them right back, I will do it within the same
day and apologize for having to hang up quickly, though I don't feel the
need to explain why.

I am one that follows through on what I say I am going to do and I'm
sure that's why I expect the same courtesy.

Be it male or female, it's still a matter of common courtesy.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
After two months of hope, and then nothing....
Posted: 12/15/2007 5:57:00 AM
First of all, I think I would question whether this sister really existed.

Next time a blind date is suggested, ask for a number to call the
person and make your own arrangements. If you had done that,
rather than depend on the friend to set you up, you might be the
new boyfriend now.

Time is on your side, you'll find a girlfriend.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 43 (view)
Help ! I need your opinion........
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:34:33 PM
I don't know her story to be true or not. I simply cannot imagine anyone
making up a story of this magnitude. I have been in her position, it's all
too familiar.

From what I'm reading of your posts, it sounds like he had a traumatic
brain injury, slipped into a coma which is not unusual with this injury.
If he had a bleed in the brain caused by the brain being bruised, they
may have done surgery to stop the bleed if it didn't slow on it's own.
The brain swells and it takes time for the healing process to begin.

It is very common with this type injury that he will have memory loss.
Most psychiatrists that work with patients after brain injuries will tell
the patient that recovery is a slow process....they will gradually start
to remember, but they will never remember the accident. Usually
within a year or two, the memory will return all it's ever going to.

The person who has suffered the brain injury has no concept of time
because of the memory loss, something he may talk about that actually
happened 5 years ago.... he will think it just happened and talk about it
as if it did just happen.
This injury causes a great deal of confusion in the patient.

Rehabilitation is a long, slow process.

There is no question she feels torn and rightfully so. The best thing
you can do for her right now is be her friend, listen to her and leave
the relationship and/or future with her out of it.
There will be time for you all to sort things out later.

Good Luck!
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
Question for women 40-50 looking for a long term relationship?
Posted: 12/10/2007 4:37:50 PM
I'm sorry you've had this experience with four different women.
Certainly they are not worth wasting anymore time on.

I can't speak for all women on this site or any site, but I feel sure
there are some that are just content having the attention of a man.
They may be e-mailing off and on the site with numerous men,
enjoying the attention and never have any plans to meet.
It doesn't necessarily mean they are hiding anything.

I am one that knows within a few e-mails (personal) and perhaps
a couple of phone calls if it's someone I want to meet. It doesn't
take me long to decide one way or the other if there is any interest
on my part.

I can understand wanting to know some things about a person
before meeting, but 4 months is way over the top.
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Msg: 14 (view)
Why are people scared of mental illness?
Posted: 12/10/2007 1:54:56 PM
There are varying degrees of mental illness.

I don't think it's being "scared" of people, but mental illness does
shed a whole new light on what it can do to families and a spouse.

Again, I think it depends on the diagnosis and it's severity.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
Does a dying person still deserve love?
Posted: 12/5/2007 2:27:06 PM
Your question was..."does a dying person still deserve love?"
When you are in love or love someone deeply, whether they are
dying or not, you still love them. Many people are still in love
with a deceased spouse years after the death has occured.

You next question was...Should you tell that person you may be
entering into a committed relationship with?
I believe the person has a right to know, perhaps understand what
the illness is, how it eventually takes a toll, what they can do to help
make the dying person's life as comfortable as possible and offer
as much support as possible.

On the flip side of that, I would not tell the person anything based on
medical literature alone. Often symptoms can mimick numerous
diagnosis. I would definitely have a medical doctor/facility confirm
and perhaps have your partner participate in a meeting with someone
qualified in the field.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
E-mail and virtual relationships
Posted: 12/5/2007 11:17:45 AM
I would imagine it all depends on how long you have been communicating
(e-mailing) with this person. I think you have to give it some time. E-mails
and then perhaps phone calls, (sharing the expense) get a better feel for
the situation if it hasn't been long enough actually make a decision.
Have you talked with her about chatting by phone or the possibility of

Here's another thought....suppose you get to the point that you talk on
the phone, getting to know each other better, then decide to meet.
What happens if everything clicks between you, you both decide that you
want to pursue a relationship. Long distance relationships don't work
forever, but you know you want to be together....that brings other
important issues into the mix.....the first being, one of you would
have to relocate.

Building trust and confidence in/with that person is extremely important,
be it the person in your city or a distant relationship. Eventually a person
reveals enough about themselves that you will know definitely one way
or the other if you want to meet. That's why time is good in the e-mail

You stated in your post that she has been supportive and friendly.
Sounds as though she may have a good head on her shoulders, you seem
to find her trustworthy. Those are good things you should be looking

Maybe you should discuss these things with her rather than wondering
"what if."
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 58 (view)
Please help me bang my head on the wall more!!
Posted: 12/5/2007 4:51:59 AM
You like all the things he does for you, you just don't like him.
Is he only wonderful because of what he does for you?

I think even if he were willing to change all those things about himself
at your gentle persuasion, you still wouldn't be happy, you wouldn't
feel anything more for him than you do right now.

You're afraid to let go because as you said...."he treats me better."
You don't want to lose that.
Don't stay with him just because he does nice things for you.
He deserves to be with someone who will truly appreciate the
man he is.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
What the h*ll do I do...? 5 years and now what?
Posted: 12/3/2007 4:58:33 AM
This woman can only control you if you allow it. She has shattered
your self esteem. You are seeking help with these issues. You are

You are now in a position to do some of the things she would never
allow you to do, such as seek outside interests, do things with friends.
If you continue on the path you've been on and stay with her, you will
find yourself back exactly where you were in the past.
Please don't repeat history.

I also think it's important not to allow her to use the children as a
pawn or bargaining tool in the relationship. Take a stand. Say NO!
Work hard to get your life in order, fight for your children. You will
see that you don't need her and far better off without her.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
Going stag
Posted: 12/2/2007 7:31:51 PM
I've always worked for companies that have done both. The last company
I worked for 11 years started out with employees and spouses, a few years
into that, just the employees and owners enjoyed the christmas party and
since that time it became employees/owners only. I thought it was more
fun....even the owners were on their best behavior with the spouses around.

Our summer company picnics, boating, tubing, skiing and so on started
with families as well.....ended with employees only.

Either way worked for me....but I have to say it was more fun alone.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 40 (view)
Say they're taken, but always online
Posted: 12/2/2007 10:21:46 AM
I think there are any number of reasons that can happen, but I am inclined
to believe, more often that not, it is a polite brush-off.

I think showing respect for your lady and others as well speaks volumes
for you as a man. Never toy with a person's emotions.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
Posted: 12/2/2007 10:05:48 AM
You are committed to the relationship, he is neither committed to you
nor the relationship. I think you know he cannot be trusted. You have
found that he is on two dating sites and a gay site, yet you choose to
believe that he loves you and wants to marry you.

You had the money to move in with him, surely you can raise the money
to move out.

Don't stay for the wrong reasons. It never ends pretty.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
Need input
Posted: 12/2/2007 4:43:11 AM
How sad for the children that she would expose them to that way of
life again. They deserve a fair playing field while growing up.
They also deserve a mother who will think of them and not herself.

You are right, she will do the same thing again. Please don't allow
her to use you. If you get involved again, it will only bring you
more heartache. I can't imagine anyone wanting to go through
that time and again.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 522 (view)
Joke of the day !!
Posted: 12/1/2007 9:14:27 PM
Open mouth, insert foot.

That is too cute.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
What is the funniest / cutest 1st email you've received from someone?
Posted: 11/30/2007 2:23:12 PM
I had two very sweet e-mails from two different posters (both out of state)
thanking me for posting a reply to their thread, staying on topic, answering
the specific questions and "getting it." (understanding the point of the post)
Sweet of them to acknowledge me.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 17 (view) people ever write letters anymore????
Posted: 11/28/2007 7:19:10 PM

It is indeed a beautifully penned love letter. Bull Run is not far
from my home. Civil War history runs deep in this state.
Joined: 7/18/2007
Msg: 6 (view) people ever write letters anymore????
Posted: 11/28/2007 5:40:27 PM
For sure, e-mail and IM have spoiled us.

Personally I love to write. And I love seeing something
actually handwritten in my mailbox, be it a card or letter.
It's almost a thing of the past.

As I was reading the thread, it occured to me that I rarely
see anyone write a check anymore. I'm guessing that bill
paying online has replaced check writing.
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