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 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Butchering the English Language
Posted: 9/20/2008 5:11:56 AM
I have gone out with several women on this site who can barely read. They can still be just as nice and as good a person as others. It would be nice if they had someone else write their profiles. Then they could just provide a short section written by them so that you are aware that they are nearly illiterate.

In most cases the experience of dating someone who is very intelligent and well read isn't much different than dating someone who has nearly no education at all. It was actually a surprising fact to me. I suppose there are smart women who intellectualize everything, but I haven't met any.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Please tell me chivilry isn't dead.
Posted: 8/18/2008 6:24:42 PM
Chivalry as its common meaning never really existed except in works of fiction. So, I suppose, it couldn't be dead, just as the nuclear(nucular) family of 1950's television never existed. Chivalry in its literal meaning was some pretty harsh stuff. I don't think any of us would really like the "manners" of the people of the middle ages unless you yearn for the days of institutionalized rape and torture. I guess it is always ok to complain that you aren't getting what you want, but I wouldn't use the past as any guide for the way we should conduct ourselves in the present. The idealized medieval past is just as obnoxious as the anti-feminist idealized 1950s fiction, unless you really want me to have the car door open for you on your way back to the kitchen.

I have never really met a woman who really wanted a "nice guy" anyway. The only people who say that and mean it are the affluent and hardcore religious types.

Oh and Kharma is another misused concept. Kharma is a religious concept that has to do with how you move along your path to becoming a Brahman. So, by definition punishment won't come until the next life. I think the concept you want is what goes around comes around, or the christian concept of do unto others.. or a wiccan concept.

But I suppose there is no harm in saying whatever comes to mind, no matter how the meaning you convey has nothing to do with the words you use and you wish things were like a fictional past. Guys should be more chivilric like the knights were and the family should be more like the Cleavers were. So Hare Krishna, may peace be upon you, god bless and goodnight.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 7/10/2008 6:47:13 PM
Great song.
Don Williams - I Believe in You
http://youtube.com/watch?v=rktW3byqdOs

In that last post on should be one.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 275 (view)
 
AVERAGE SIZE for females....
Posted: 7/10/2008 6:37:06 PM
Dude, asking a stranger to change their hair color is about the creepiest thing you can do isn't it? It puts the lotion on it's skin or else it gets the hose again! And in a thread about big girls, you know, big enough that you could wear their skin and tuck your junk back. Ok, I've gone too far.

Oh and yeah chubby chicks rock, if it weren't for them the art of phallatio would still be in it's infancy!

They are also responsable for the invention of the myspace headtilt + cleavage to look hot and not fat pose.

I never feel guilty pigging out when taking them out to icecream. No ordering just a salad for me!

So, chubby chicks, write that you are "Average", write that you are "skinny", whatever, we dont mind, if you don't want us to know you wear a size 18, just divide by 2 and call it a 9 in MRSes. It is all good, as long as I can decifer the coad so as to avoid the spit-take when we meet.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Why give your number?
Posted: 7/10/2008 5:59:50 PM
Yeah, I don't have a bunch of friends on a friends list on a website targeted at middle aged professionals, oh no, my buddy list is small must be a problem. lol

lol, no, they certainly don't have to be hot, but it helps if you tell them they are doesn't it?
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Why give your number?
Posted: 7/10/2008 2:26:02 PM
I used to get tons of girls numbers and very rarely called any of them. I just got them to call in case I had a party or something and wanted to invite a bunch of hot strangers. Kinda like a party cold-call list, but I thought it would be kinda the opposite of a telemarketer. You know you always dread those calls, but I thought it would be nice to invite people. You know, call them up and say hey, wanna come to a crazy party tonight, there will undoubtedly be naked people crazyness, and Chris has had too many already, so somebody will probably go to jail. He asked me to call all the hot women I know, and the first thing I thought of was that hot girl that gave me her number last/the other night. Want to come have a few drinks and meet some really fun laid back people? (Insert popular persons name they probably know here) is already here.

Enough babbling for now.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Do you still believe in passionate love?
Posted: 7/10/2008 2:13:59 PM
I had passionate love on time. I think you have to be attractive and in shape for that. So, I don't see it happening for me again anytime soon. lol
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Have you registered to vote yet??
Posted: 7/7/2008 10:55:47 AM
Just because it isn't right and nothing will correct it doesn't make it a good place to be, not that that was my opinion anyway. I'm just saying it is corrupt and voting isn't how you change anything in this society. In fact, realizing that the system doesn't work as advirtised is the first step toward prosperity. You have to know how the system works in order to make it work for you. If the system is run by cronyism, become one of the cronies. If there is tons of money being handed by the fistful to upstarts trying to get into the war business, move to the front of the line and hold out your hand. Speaking of which, I wonder how my grant writer is coming with her tasks. You guys go ahead and vote for liberal socialists who will tax us to death only to give it to ultra liberal groups. I will stop shaving and wearing deoderant and start a 509c. The US is the land of opportunity, even if it is created by ignorance sometimes.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Have you registered to vote yet??
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:36:47 PM
Perhaps you should look up democracy. We are a far cry from anything represembling anything democratic. Which isn't a bad thing, last thing I want is average people running the country. What I do want is people who know what the hell they are doing, and that also isn't what we have or are going to have. I think the founders of this nation were very smart, they realized how incompetent politicians are and wanted to limit government. Too bad we applaud as we give them more control, power and money. It really is amazing how far we have let them go. This country doesn't even resemble what the countries founders had in mind and we are moving further and futher down that socialist path. Thats ok, I think that much of the heart of the country still knows what was intended and when spending and entitlement become unmanagable, we well still have them to bail out all of those who will be begging. Luckily this time it is completely man-made and not due to drought and poor agriscience.

Perhaps hardships will have some people rethink "fairness". Most people have gotten pretty off-track about what they think is "fair" and what they are entitled to. Anyway, you can vote, and you may be fiddling as Rome burns or this may go on for a thousand years I really can't say.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
 
I am curious with gas now at $4 a gallon
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:17:56 PM
Well, now the starbucks drinking, trade your SUV for a prius, anti global warming, recycling everything in site, people have all started to do it, not just the blue-haired brittle-hipped and asian set. I think they all need a carbon footprint put right in their ass. What I want to know is if there is still a hole in the ozone layer or did we stop that by not using hairspray and not having our car A/C's pump out that ice cold air that we loved so much(I want my R12 back dammit, I miss being able to ice up the windows), like we were all told?

The name is also ironic, doesn't hypermiling sound like they would be going faster, or using some advanced NASA inspired technology? They should call it slowmiling, or maybe grannypeddling.

Maybe I should open a biodiesel/E85 scooter/ultracompact dealership or something.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Have you registered to vote yet??
Posted: 7/6/2008 5:58:17 PM
My point in that quote was that both candidates are running on the same platform. We have no choice and they have both admitted to just "playing political hardball" which aparently means just telling people what they want to hear.

How can voting help? Does a vote for someone you don't want to be your representative help in some way? I wouldn't want Obama or McCain to represent me in any arena, why would I want them to represent me in the country's highest office? I did really like the way that the Dems said they didn't care what Florida thought in the primary. Just shows how important everyone's vote is doesn't it? If you don't play along with the system, you won't be allowed to play at all.

Anyway, there is no point spoiling it for anyone else, you vote, maybe you'll get a cookie but when the cool-aide comes 'round, I think I'll pass. Rock the vote, buy an iPod and have a Coke and a smile. If I can just be the one dangling the shiny thing in front of your face while slipping the cards into my pocket and not the one putting the money on the table to play again and again, I'm happy.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
I am curious with gas now at $4 a gallon
Posted: 7/6/2008 5:44:25 PM
You haven't noticed the "hypermilers" yet? They are the ones who drive slower than everyone else and try not to use their brakes, that way you have to use Your brakes to keep from rear ending them as they are slowing for their exit five miles down the road. They don't think about what their few cents of fuel savings does to traffic as a whole, especially in already congested areas. The difference between driving reasonably and like a jackass doesn't save you much money at all. Not nearly as much as say, clipping coupons, not drinking bottled water, or not drinking a cup of coffee in the morning. Why not make a change that doesn't inconvenience everyone else on the road? I had a guy who was a "hypermiler" who worked for me for a couple of months. He drove a prius. I thought that was the reason to drive a prius, so you didn't Have to think too hard about how to save pennies on gas. No, this jackass would refuse to use the interstate, and would drive his already underpowered car with the objective of never having the gasolene engine kick in. We work in a service industry where response time counts and this jack ass thinks he is driving miss daisy, and the ironic part is that I told him that I would reimburse him for gas if he would just drive like a normal human being. I even assured him that just driving the prius was enough for him to never get laid and spend the rest of his life with a house full of cats playing warcraft in his tightie whities without the added push to piss everyone off.

You want to save gas, car pool, drive a fuel efficient car if you want, but drive highway speeds and slow appropriately, that means not coasting to a stop or avoiding using the breaks. It is dangerous and annoying. But if selfriteousness could fill a tank you could run forever without a stop at the station.

http://www.consumeraffairs.com/news04/2008/06/gas_prices274.html

That is what is driving costs up anyway, people trying to make a buck without considering the system as a whole. Too many spculating on the price of oil and buying any time someone in the middle east farts has caused this problem. We went into Iraq and destroyed their ability to produce oil, and the prices didn't rise like this. Production is rising, but so are prices, demand is not outpacing supply. Maybe having only a few in our society handle most of the wealth is a good idea, aparently its the common people who cause bank panics and drive up prices unreasonably. Who else would fall for all of the speculation.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Palm Coast?
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:51:24 AM
When I worked there (Palm Coast Data), everyone I knew went to this one tiny little bar in bunnel. Since then I have met alot of people who live in smaller communities. For normal people (non-redneck), some places are just a place you go to wait until death finds you.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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I am curious with gas now at $4 a gallon
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:47:34 AM
Oh, and it also reminds me how stupid "hypermilers" are and how much they annoy me, they are right up there with the students that speed from redlight to redlight. Luckily you will all whipe each other out, hopefully leaving us normal drivers to the street. If you were that concerned about money, you would clip coupons before driving like a jackass.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
I am curious with gas now at $4 a gallon
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:43:29 AM
I find myself reading articles and realizing how stupid most alternative energy sources are and why we don't use them. I have read some interesting articles that look more promising, like making gasoline from plain old air (can be done).

Because of the prices gas is constantly in the news, so it makes me wonder what causes it to be so high. Seems that we have a global surplus, and OPEC is willing to increase the amount they drill, but speculators are driving up costs. So, is this the same bad investing that is to blame that caused the dot com bubble? Perhaps it is just the stupidity of this generation of investors that is unintentionally derailing our economy and if it continues, our lifestyles.

This all also brings up the global warming debate (I think to stear us toward alternative energy rather than just finding more sources of oil). So, I read alot of articles about global warming and how it is and is not caused.

So, I guess this gas issue just makes me think and read more and be more resentful of stupid people that affect our lives.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Have you registered to vote yet??
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:18:23 AM
Is there a diffence in the two running for president now that they have won the nominations and now are trying to get people in the center to vote for them? If they both admit that their changes of position is "just politics", isn't that just admitting that they are both liars trying to get a vote? If they are both just lying for votes, then how can you choose between them or know what they will really do? Perhaps we should be allowed to vote for the lobbyists and special interest groups who are allowed to fund the campaigns, that way we will have more control over what actually happens in Washington.

Even if you did know the secret of what each of these guys really stands for and what their vision really is (other than lining their own pockets, be it literal with money or figurative with power), wouldn't your vote be washed away by all of the lemming voters who are voting as they are told? Lets say that there are many individual voters who aren't just voting as told. Is that worse? How many do you trust to see the best path for the country? They select the leader of our country with the daft skills that they have picked up from voting for truely important things like the next "American Idol".

I think that true involvement would require one not only to vote, but to find some truth in what those running are saying, and then manipulating some other group of people by making them appear more attractive to them. Can obama dance or sing? Can McCain dress cool? To win votes you have to stick what people really care about and say exactly what they want to hear, just ask Obama or McCain. They call it "changing strategy" from the primaries to the general election. Does Obama think NAFTA should be dropped? Only when he is talking to people who have lost jobs because of it. They should change their campaign slogans to "I agree with you".

Anyway, I think if I was going to vote I would vote for the one who is for change, the one who wants to do something about our dependence on foreign oil, the one who will not cut taxes to the rich, the one who is not like Bush.

It really is too bad that the only people who run for president are these clones or complete nut-jobs.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Why give your number?
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:48:10 AM
I think that for many instances you hit the nail on the head. If someone just seems to drop off the face of the earth, they found someone they like better and don't have to settle for you. People like that are worthless if you ask me, always jockeying for what they think is "better". What happened to commitment, romance, caring?

If they will let me post it, this is an accurate but sad assessment of the situation. http://www.laddertheory.com or ladder theory dot com.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
It GETS so Insulting....
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:43:26 AM
Maybe it's like I've tried to do in hiring, if you can't fill out an application or follow up, then you must not possess the skills necessary for the job. There are plenty of applicants on the pile who are more than willing to work for it.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Why give your number?
Posted: 5/25/2008 3:27:58 PM
I've given women fake names and numbers and information at bars before, basically because I don't want to tell them that I have a good job and tell them about things I do they may enjoy, because I'm just not interested in dealing with the type that approach me sometimes. That or I'm with someone who really is trying to meet someone and I don't want to seem interesting at all.

When I was younger, when I was hanging out with girls, I would tell them that I used women and basically was just an ***hole. The truth was that I was a virgin and looking for the right person, but anytime I would say that, the girls would take it as a personal challenge to try to have sex with me.

People are silly and complicated sometimes.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Why do guys think that just because i am online late at night that i want talk dirty to/with them??
Posted: 5/25/2008 3:22:13 PM
What makes it ok to have sex after chatting, talking on the phone, meeting in public, getting to know someone? The line at which a relationship becomes sexual is arbitrary for most and differest for just about everyone. Unless you base your decision that it is morally acceptible to have sex at a point in a relationship on religion, then you are just going along wth what you perceive as acceptible. It seems that in our society today there is a dual system in place, one where it is acceptible to have sex for pleasure without a relationship and another where it is only acceptible if you are "dating". Usually, people have been on both sides of this system at some point in their lives. Anyway, I don't think that people who go online for sex rather than pickups at bars or even dating a few times first are right or wrong, they just have different standards. I say that most people are hedonists in the framework of soial conditioning. They just do what makes them feel good and feel right but are limited by experiening the pain of perceived judgement.

Personally, I may talk dirty to someone online but not for pay because the other person may actually enjoy it. Paying for it is a completely different thing. Sometimes you just want intimacy and don't want to or haven't had the chance to build that type of relationship in the real world.

But, I suppose you weren't asking really about what guys really think when they are doing that. You are just complaining that they don't think exactly like you, unless you have had cyber-sex, then you are just a hypocrite. I don't usually approach women online, because there do seem to be plenty that are willing to approach me with those same intentions. In fact, it seems that sex, online or otherwise, is something that a majority of women seek, I would say just as much as men. The difference only seems to be that most women will only find a smaller group of men acceptible partners whereas men seem to be less picky.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 102 (view)
 
Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 4/28/2008 7:04:02 AM
Women do quite often send the first email, if you don't see that happening, then you should revise your question. Why don't women send YOU the first email?
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Should we stay on POF after finding somebody?
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:50:06 AM
POF is a dating site, if you aren't dating, should you still be here? Sure, if you are a cheater or a troll. If you have made friends on this site, then you would be able to contact them through social networking sites which are geared toward contacting your groups of friends, not potential dates. If you have "friends" and the only place you can contact them is on a dating site, they really aren't your friends. Most sites like to have people keep their accounts active because they want to show numbers to their advirtisers and potential sign-ups, but I think that is unethical and messed up, to lure people in by saying that it is a dating site, when really a bunch of people are using it for social networking.

Also, the forums on this site are geared toward dating. Are you really so uninteresting or uninformed that you can't spend your time on a forum that has some subject matter that is a little more important. Sure dating is one part of life, but if it is all you can talk about then you have a pretty sad existance.

You may think you want to go to the get-togethers and things posted on this site, but again, this site is supposed to be for singles, and if you aren't single and are going to single mixers, then you are either looking to cheat or you are desperate and have no friends.

You may also think that your input is relevant to discussions because you have already "found that special someone", but really, no it isn't. If you aren't dating, who cares what you think about why men don't date BBWs or what sign is best to pick up at a bar. If you aren't single, your input is not relevant unless you happen to be a sociologist and not just an ass with no life.

If you aren't dating but spend your time on dating sites, then there is something wrong with you. Find something more interesting in life, or just get a life in general.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
First Meeting Coffee or??????
Posted: 4/26/2008 11:54:48 PM
I think the appropriate response to someone who says dinner or drinks only is that you expect oral or sex only, at the end of the date, no hand jobs. If you want to reduce it to money, then lets make it an equitable transaction. Lets be honest, anyone who cares about the amount spent on a date or wants a "sugar daddy" is not going to be a good conversationalist or good for much else. This thread has made me think I should take my next date to Mickey D's. What do you think ladies? I'll even let you order a number if you are good, not even make you order off the dollar menu.

If it worked out with one of those girls, I'm picturing white-out on wedding vows, so they read, "for richer, and for better, until death".
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 128 (view)
 
How do you feel about giving panhandlers money?
Posted: 4/26/2008 11:42:15 PM
If Al Gore uses Futurama to explain global warming, then I will go with the SouthPark solution to the homeless problem.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=ALRF5RmHVlQ
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Annoyed by Prostitution in the news
Posted: 3/24/2008 7:27:29 PM
One thing is proven by these sorts of scandals, there is no great underlying conspiracy behind our government, they can't even keep who they pay for sex a secret.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 22 (view)
 
What song would you dedicate to your Ex???????
Posted: 3/24/2008 7:21:12 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=swQVFy5HHac&feature=related
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Annoyed by Prostitution in the news
Posted: 3/22/2008 8:47:40 AM
I figure you have to calculate dinner at about $50, gas, movie or activity, you are talking about $100 and it isn't a sure thing. Locals in the 7 or 8 range go for $150 - $200/hr. Although I have never checked to see if those ads are real. But at that rate, it sounds resonable. I did have an ex girlfriend that I gave $20 to for the full service. That was pedicure, manicure, massage, and whatever else. We just called it "gas money". She is living with my brother and his wife now, and he wonders why it is awkward for me to visit. He actually thinks it is becasue I have something against the girl. She is just slow. But like someone else said, its really just the banjo music that plays as I slow down near his condo that keeps me away. I have been in some strange and backward relationships. Maybe the stereotypes are true. I guess I have never technically paid for it, but I don't see how these types of personal crimes affect anyone else. I guess I am mostly libertarian about those sorts of issues. Why should we waste taxpayer money to arrest people for that? Mostly prostitution laws are used to keep the disease spreading crack-whores off the street, but I think we should just enforce the laws against crack, or maybe a law against prostitution without a checkup and a disclosure rule. The laws are alot like hate-crime laws, I think we need equal application of the law and to criminalize the acts we want people not to perform, not those acts associated with it. We are moving toward a scary circumstance, when new phrama and herbal suppliments are illegal until proven safe, where actions are illegal until they are approved and the laws that are passed by congress are not enforced. If we keep going, we will have to take the cold medicine before we leave the pharmacy so that we don't deliberately get high on it. If you wan't to get high you have to get a prescription, then the doctors get to monitor your high I guess, and switch you to the newest recreational drug put out by big pharma. Anyone notice how little anti-depressants get prescribed once the patent runs out and there is a generic available.

Oh, and to appease the ops with acceptible topics.

- Hey, where are all the girls who like my particular deformity?
- Why can't I get someone to love me? My kitty loves me.
- I'm going to host an event for POF to get more click-throughs to pay sites
- What color aura is best to get me laid?
- Why don't people respect me even though I've ****ed up my life in some way?

http://youtube.com/watch?v=h4AuN6pN1kY
(I don't get it either, at least star wars kid was funny)
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Annoyed by Prostitution in the news
Posted: 3/20/2008 9:58:00 PM
I'd love to have a Thompson. I'm still too cheap to spend my money on real guns.

Oh, and I think that photo of you DC is a really bad idea. I mean, soft flourescent lighting? Couldn't you use a better looking gun range? At least picked a better shot, maybe an action shot. Now, I do like the photo of the cat, does that just have a short focal lenth and the light happend to to be on the cats face, or did you get lucky with the fash? Or was it all done in post processing with photoship? Also, looks like you had the taste not to include a gym photo. Looks like you thought about what you put on there.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Annoyed by Prostitution in the news
Posted: 3/20/2008 3:31:28 PM
Some girls like guns. This is a photo of my .357 Magnum http://www.brainatrophy.com/index.php/photos?page=inline&id=67
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Are you a great kisser?
Posted: 3/16/2008 6:10:58 PM
Sounds like someone needs to set up a kissing booth and be the judge.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Annoyed by Prostitution in the news
Posted: 3/13/2008 9:43:05 AM
As many of you probably also read, the media has been reporting about this prostitution scandle with Eliot Spitzer using prostitutes like its some big deal. There have many takes on this, people upset that he would use a prostitute, people upset that prostitution is illegal, people upset that his wife had to stand by his side, people upset that the FBI spent time investigating this rather than doing something more useful.

Personally, I was upset by two things in this whole situation: that politicians have the money to afford $4000 for a single lay and that there are women out there who can sell their **** for $4000. On the one side, it leads me to thinking about government corruption and how luck of birth and knowing the right people can get you enough money that you can do something as silly as paying $4000 for some strange while hard-working people have to scrimp to get by. On the other hand, with my work experience, and education in what I do, I can't compete with what this woman because of her genetics and ability to wash off (hopefully) and resell her product. The idea of $4000 p**** really got me thinking. I mean just what does $4000 **** look like? I was betting that just like organic produce, it is the same as normal **** it just comes in a prettier wrapper. Anyway, I decided to ask google. I typed in "$4000 ****", and the first thing that came up was laser-vaginal rejuvination. For some reason that process has struck me as similar retreading tires. In that same line of thought, I continuted, if retreaded **** is $4000, then maybe I've just been getting such a good deal on the low mileage **** that I didn't realize its resale value. That was enough to calm my agitation over government corruption and genetics causing people to have such an edge over me.

What did you guys think of this scandal? Did you go through a similar though process, or am I odd?
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Do Guys REALLY Understand The Difference Between Dating A Single Mom & Dating A Single Woman?
Posted: 3/13/2008 9:23:19 AM
You make alot of assumptions in your original post about what guys should know. Like that guys should know that because you are a single mother that your child comes first, or that you can't do one thing or another because of it. Many women find ways to do what they like even though they have a kid. I can say from dating a few single moms, that you are applying a stereotype that, in my experience, doesn't exist. Most single mothers aren't shy about bringing the trash they sleep with around their kids. Too many times have I seen the philosophy that the new guy is "daddy". Makes me want to strangle a skank when I see that. I would if I didn't know that it would turn their deviant asses on. The assumption that a guy should know how a single mom is going to run her life is only as valid as the assumption that single moms wouldn't be single moms if they had better judgement and reasoning skills. Actually, I think the second assumption is more likely true because if your "baby daddy" didn't get hit by a bus, there were probably some pretty bad decisions made, and you are probably the type to continue to make them as pregnancy Usually isn't due to One bad mistake, it is that one Lucky bad mistake in 50 other mistakes that didn't result in a new precious welfare snowflake. On second thought, if he Was hit by a bus, he probably stepped in front of it to get away from his skank ass, ****y "baby momma", because he knew he was about to have to pay a million dollars over the next 18 or so years for the whore he decided to go bareback with because he was so drunk he couldn't tell what the **** he was doing so she could **** everything that gets her hot that happens along and never have to take any responsability for her own derranged actions.

On the side of sexism and the need to feel persicuted, I had a long online talk with my ex about her current situation as a single mom the other day. (Not my kid, I won't have any unwanted kids as long as there are condomes, morning(mourning?) after pill, and most extreem, RU-486) It was really interesting, she went on and on about how she is persecuted and single moms make less money than other women or single dads and how women are less likely to get a job they are equally qualified for. She conceded that single moms may chose a lower paying job so they can be closer to home, to get better healthcare, or a variety of other factors that lead women to chose to be paid less than men in general. Also, that, as a single mom, she may have to take more days off than another equally qualified applicant, but for some reason she insisted that this is unfair descrinination. I actually had to explain to her that law and ethics only dictate that you can not discriminate only on sex,race,religion. You still don't have to hire a woman for a heavy lifting job the same as a man, unless she is a big butch chick that can do the job equally well. To me it seems completely reasonable that there is this type of discrimination and is not sexism at all but basing a hiring decicion on work availability and employee costs but it did remind me why she is my ex. She hasn't spoken to me since that conversation because I wouldn't agree that she was in an unfair position. If she were black, I think she might implode with all of the perceived discrimination.

Anyway, another problem with your assumption is that when a guys say it is ok you having a kid, they are probably thinking, what does it matter if the girl you are using for sex has a kid. It just means she is more desperate and will put out without too much fuss.

Personally, I think it is more sick for single mothers to be out shopping for baby's daddys because they "won't just let anybody around their kid". That is just not an element that should be involved in a sexual relationship.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Cell phone echo leads to personal revelation
Posted: 3/9/2008 12:16:53 PM
The other day, I was called by someone about work. The call had that one second delay. Usually it is distracting and makes very difficult to hold a conversation. This time, I just ignored it and continued talking as I normally would, I could hear myself talking. It struck me during that conversation just what an a**hole I really sound like. I thought to myself, if I always sound like this, it is no wonder that I am single. Anyway, I just thought I'd share a little personal epiphany that was gained by a bad cell phone connection. Have any of you experience something similar. Walk by a mirror on a wall and wonder to yourself who let the fat homeless person into the building, or just startled yourself?
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Do Guys REALLY Understand The Difference Between Dating A Single Mom & Dating A Single Woman?
Posted: 3/9/2008 4:41:25 AM
Yeah, I think guys understand the distinction. You know single moms put out right? Oh, and with a single mom, you can get a much hotter girl than you normally could. Say you are a fat guy and can only get maybe a girl who is a 3, you can easily get a 4 or 5 if she is a single mom, and you know what I always say, 2 5's is a 10.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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What do you think of Daylight Savings Time?
Posted: 3/9/2008 4:36:25 AM
I think women who dig daylight savings time are hot.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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nice guys who are romantic?
Posted: 3/9/2008 4:32:27 AM
If a girl liked a p****y, she would be a lesbian. If you are Mr. Nice Safe, then you are boring or just a good meal ticket. Buy a motorcycle and get a forearm tattoo and you will have more success. I think the trick is to just enjoy your life enough that women will be envious and want to join you. Also, girls are more attracted to biceps than a door being opened for them. Unless you don't seem like the "type" that would open a door. You just have to remember, that if you do things that are romantic, you are really going to have to offset it with something masculine to remind the girl that you do have testicles. Like be romantic, but still be a competition fighter, or pro-bull rider or somethin. It's alot easier to not screw up like that in the first place, then you won't have to worry about being brain damaged by a punch or gored by a bull.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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The POF Experience
Posted: 3/6/2008 7:39:21 PM
Analogies always bug me, I always continue thinking about the anology way too long. Like this fishing thing. Are we the fishermen? That seems predatorial and in the end you skin and eat the fish, or catch and release either way, it doesn't sound like what I'm looking for. Some people have extended the metaphor to being a fish looking for another fish, but don't most fish go through huge lengths to brush up against their mate, spawn and die. Again, doesn't sound very romantic. Where did we even get the expression, "there are plenty of fish in the sea"? I mean, I've heard of shepherds and sheep or farmers and cattle, but fishermen and fish, and if that it comes from something literal, just what is a good fish? I hope it is one without teeth. Although, I have read a website about how to seduce a dolphin. Another thing, I can't get the image of coral and large shoals of fish spawning. Have any of you "accidentally" clicked on a bukkake film out there on the internet? ew.

Why couldn't we talk about finding a swan or a wolf or some other more monogomous animal, warm blooded seems like a nice addition as well. So, we should start using the frase "there are plenty of Swans on the pond", or something more analogous.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Are woman interested in money more than a good a descent relationship.
Posted: 3/3/2008 1:29:34 PM
I think the knee-jerk anti-housewife attitude is as just as sexist as those who believe a womans place is in the kitchen. Whether or not you like it, we all depend on others for things. Our society relies on division of labor. Why wouldn't this be the same in the home. I don't think a housewife is less of a person or has less rights than a wage earner. I think worldly and intellectual persuits are valid desires of both men and women. Just because there is a division of labor, that doesn't mean that one has to be a child. I have great respect for women who give up education and travel in order to raise children and keep a home as much or more than those who venture out into the workplace. It seems that hardworking homemakers have to receive slack from other women more than anyone else. If someone truely has a beliefe and a lifestyle, then they are not necessarily opressed.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Are woman interested in money more than a good a descent relationship.
Posted: 3/2/2008 10:32:48 PM
I think that most people in our society aren't given a clear example of a happy lifestyle. They are also not provided a sense of duty and responsability that is necessary for people to stay together for a long time. I think most people that I have met are guided more by hedonistic values than anything else. They want a man with money so they will be provided with pleasures. Even those who want a relationship for love are often misguided in this same way.

Most people grow up seeing the only examples of "true love" as those on television which are usually displays of romantic or sexual love rather than "true love". "true love" has become a fable, some etheral fairy dust that someone should posses in order to stay with a partner. It is has become synonymous with constant pleasure or ecstacy. They don't look at the simple definition of "true love" as "faithful love" or one that is enduring. They need to look at the old couples to see what succeeds. That or look at the lifestyles of devout religious groups with low devorce rates. It is a common complaint with the current generation that they aren't willing to work for anything, they simply want everything given to them. These people, raised without the will to work hard, and not knowing how satisfying, in the long term, the payoff and the work itself can be, are reduced to relying on TV and their own base animal instincts to try to make themselves happy.

Since many people operate on this animalistic level, we can explain the selection of men with money as sexual partners or with good genetics easily in terms of animal behavioralism.

I think that following our nature by its design will never lead to satisfation or fullfillment long-term because we are not strongly monogomous animals but we do have that psychological need for family groups and monogomy societally. I think we can only achieve satisfaction by conditioning ourselves psychologically to want an achievable paradigm. For some, strong religious backgrounds may provide this paradigm.

Personally, I think that once you have dated someone you will go through that "in love" stage, and move on to friendship and love on a deeper level. The friendship and actually liking the qualities and interests of your partner are critical. Once you are there, you can get married, but at this stage your love for each other should be completely unconditional. You should know each other well enough to know that you are willing to offer that vulnerability and commitment.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Pictures.
Posted: 2/9/2008 7:11:43 PM
I clicked on this thread thinking it was going to be the same old thing, but it seems it isn't. If you really want anonymity you could leave out your photo and a discription, that way no one will recognize you in real life. The problem is that what makes contacting you any better than selecting a name at random from the phone book? Your profile is how people know you, for good or bad. The excuse that you couldn't get one online means that you are either slow, or trying to hide something. Since you can scan a photo at any copy shop and most 1 hour photos will give you your photos on a disk. Hell, for $20 you could probably sit for a portrait at one of those cheap department stores and get it on a disk. I guess you may just not be able to afford, at the high end, $20, in which case, you probably should give up on dating. I used to get tons of offers online when I had a webpage up, seems that the more content I put up the more people contacted me. Also, the more you put out there about yourself, the less likely you are to be rejected in a real world meeting.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Sex on the 1st date
Posted: 12/24/2007 7:29:31 AM
I think guys get a bad rap on this. It is actually more complicated than you think for the guys. I have been on a couple of dates with people that I have met online and elsewhere and have to say that several times not being after that one thing has led to my downfall. When I first started dating I was completely abstinant, which means you extremely rarely get past a first date, if you do, it is with a person who likes a "challenge". When they realize there is no game, that is it. So, I adjusted my philosophy and had a few bad relationships. I have been dating again, and not having sex as soon as it is offered has caused more problems than not. Of course, there are many different types of people, but it seems the majority of them expect that if there is attraction that there should be sex immediately. If not, they lose all respect for you or interest in you.

I have never met a person for the first time with the expectation of having sex, but have found that the majority of women thus far have been expecting it and aggressively persued it. It has been them who have only wanted one thing.

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that, in my experience, it is both sexes who persue sex aggressively and put a huge importance on it. If you are one who likes to take it slow and maybe even get to know someone and form a relationship based on something more profound than genitalia, you are probably in the minority. Personally, I have decided to just go with it and be as sexually liberal as the people I have met, and hope that I can make a connection on a deeper level. It is just very important to me to be safe and optimistic.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Good places to camp around the state
Posted: 11/14/2007 11:00:50 PM
I thought I read on the website for Ft. DeSoto that they have first come first serve no reservation camping as well. Is that usually filled pretty quickly?

I went to the Dali museum awhile back. I wasn't very impressed. There really weren't all that many works displayed. I was surprised by the size of some of the pieces that I recognized. I never paid attention to their scale in books. I also didn't remember much about Dali when I went, so the Valasquez reinterpretations threw me a bit. I'm not a big fan of Valasquez, at least not as much as Dali was aparently.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Good places to camp around the state
Posted: 11/13/2007 11:02:51 PM
Yeah, I have been searching the internet as well. The internet hasn't gotten smart enough to really give me the information I am looking for yet or at least I haven't figured out how to coax the right answers from it. There are many places that look inviting on the internet, that turn out to be a bit of a let-down in real life. Not that every time out isn't fun, just that time is always a limited resource for those of us who still toil for our supper. Actually, I'm not sure what my boss would say if I just started taking random vacations. Maybe I should give it a try.

St. Augustine definately has some pretty places to camp and just take photos. The coquina beaches always seem exotic looking to me and the bright greens on the rocks in spring provide a really nice contrasting backdrop. I am obviously not the only one who thinks so. It is rare that you don't go out there and see someone taking a photo.

I was looking at the website for Fort DeSoto park recently, sounds like a nice place to check out. I haven't been to the Ringling museum down that way, I was thinking maybe I should check out a museum and then camp. Maybe take a 3 day weekend trip or something.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Good places to camp around the state
Posted: 11/6/2007 4:34:35 PM
Yeah, I have canoes and can take a small boat with me, but from Gainesville, I don't know if it would just be cheaper to rent something once there. Either way, the difficult part is finding the time to get out there. Does anyone keep a photo/travellog of that sort of thing that you know of?
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Good places to camp around the state
Posted: 11/5/2007 9:04:02 AM
That photo was actually taken at the lower Ocklawaha near Davenport. Yes, I have spent lots of time camping at the Ocala National Forest. Even though they have put in campgrounds, there are still some nice places to go there. I do have tons of photos canoeing on the Santa Fe though. Ginnie has some pretty springs, but I don't really care for the development and how crowed they are with poeple during the warmer months. I prefer, if someone has to be a drunken jackass, they be myself or one of my friends. Also, their prices are pretty high if you ask me. I remember when nature was free!

A small boat and beach camping sounds like a perfect trip. I know alot of places don't allow beach camping, can you just take out a small boat and camp on a small island someplace down there? Also is it better to try to rent a boat or BYOB. Better to go in winter or summer?
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Good places to camp around the state
Posted: 11/4/2007 11:25:20 AM
When I was younger, I used to camp in the local national forest. Primitive camping seems to be the best way to get to know an area. The area was natural. Those places that I used to camp have now been turned into campgrounds with facilities. I don't mind camping in those places too much, but I prefer to get off of the beaten path a little further. The problem is, who has time to scout new places to camp? Maybe you guys can help me out. Where are good places to camp to enjoy nature that are free of amenities and fees that perhaps offer a unique experience? National forests have gotten more strict in most places where you can camp because of erosion concerns and probably to get their fees from the campgrounds. I enjoy canoeing and exploring the waterways around the state. What are your suggestions of places to try?

I have tried most of the local places, I live in Gainesvile. Also, if someone is interested in going on a camping trip, let me know. My friends don't appreciate primitive camping as much as I do.

I have recently wanted to go on a camping trip to the keys, but don't know the area at all.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Your weight or age Y lie both woman and men
Posted: 11/4/2007 11:08:18 AM
Grafitti implies that you don't own what you are painting on, and usually a style of content. Temples are certainly painted and decorated. They also may not look as good as they once did over time. Really there is no objective argument against or for tattoo. They all require your own personal moral judgement and are either based on religion or societal context. You can say that there are different religions that are less accepting of the practice and a display of a tattoo may imply that the person doesn't hold that group's values. There also may be other things conveyed by the choice of the tattoo itself. I know a woman who has a biohazard tattoo at the normal tramp-stamp location. This was probably a mistake of her resoning. She says that it was because she has been bitten by many poisonous creatures (spiders, snakes, etc) and survived. But biohazard implies an ongoing contagious threat. So I say one who ventures where you see that logo, deserves whatever they contract. Perhaps if her reasoning is true a skull and crossbones would have been more apropriate. Most people tend to get clip art tattooed on their bodies. This always confused me. I mean, clip art on the computer gets old fast, why would putting it on your body be a good idea? I have also seen some really interesting pieces on people and it does imply something about their lifestyle and personal choices, but since it is en vogue, it doesn't mean a whole lot.

I think this site should allow many more photos of a person. I think that the cats and dogs and boats are important to know what a person really is about. We should also have a place to put a date on the photos, so that we know just how recent they are. Maybe a link to a personal website is the solution. I used to have a link to a personal website and got much better responses, but had to take it down when my boss found it. Maybe I'll try again with less identifiable (searchable) information.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 11/4/2007 10:45:32 AM
The anonymity of the internet obviously encourages people to say what they really think. I think that is a good thing. Would you rather have someone be rude up front, or lie to you and use you before you realize what they really think of you. Normally complaints like this are really that you don't like the rejection that you receive. Luckily most of the reasons that people judge you superficially can be changed. If you are overweight, you can diet. If you look bad in a photo, you can usually change your clothes put on some makeup and change the lighting and there will be a 100% differernt.

We all judge based on looks. Most people don't want to find a new person to sit on the couch with and eat junk food. When someone is completely out of shape it implies a sedentary, or at least not very active, lifestyle. Personally, I would much prefer someone be candid. I have, in my life, varied in attractiveness, and understand the difference in the way people treat you. It truely is much harder for less attractive people to gain anything. This doesn't only apply to dating but working and any place that someone else may have some control over your destiny.

An interesting component of the way you are treated because of looks is the way that your actions are percieved. An attractive person is considered confident. An unattractive person is considered an ass or****. An attractive person may be percieved as flirty or friendly where an unattractive person is percieved as creepy. It really is interesting how much our judgement of looks affects the way we perceive each other.

So, my advice is, if you are fat and people think you are an ass, don't change who you are, hit the gym. You will see how you are really just "confident". If you are "creepy", hit the treadmill and you will become "sweet" or "flirty".

If someone is rude to you, just thank them for letting you know they were not a person you would have been interested in. You could have wasted a bunch of time, if they would have hidden what they really thought.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Your weight or age Y lie both woman and men
Posted: 11/2/2007 2:50:30 PM
Someone once gave me the answer to that one.

The egg came before the chicken, because not only ckickens lay eggs, so do proto-chickens if you are into evolution. If not, it still stands to reason that the chicken wasn't the first egg laying animal.
 nephilim
Joined: 4/3/2005
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Your weight or age Y lie both woman and men
Posted: 11/2/2007 8:46:50 AM
Like anything else online, remember caveat emptor; buyer beware. If there aren't many photos, or they are all from the neck up or at odd angles, then there is a reason. In this day and age there is no valid reason not to be able to get full body photos and put them online. If it isn't in the photos, assume it is being hidden for good reason.
 
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