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 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Date walked out
Posted: 8/3/2017 11:35:36 PM
Probably her pimp or one of her johns calling. Your price wasn't right. Perhaps you should stick with the street walkers.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 52 (view)
 
What online dating does to people
Posted: 9/1/2016 10:21:46 AM
2016summer2016

Unfortunately, I have to agree with you, as I've more less come to the same conclusion. You took the words right out of my mouth. Your an intuitive smart man. Those like the first responder I think it stings to them because they know or at the very least suspect your right, probably because they've done it or know those who have.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
how honest are you? 2 part question
Posted: 6/14/2016 10:50:56 PM
As long as you stick with your story, that's the main thing.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Why does this happen?
Posted: 4/18/2016 7:07:19 PM
Ivanna,

At 61, he doesn't have much time, I mean viagras effect wears off after 4 hours lol. Maybe next time your on a date with someone you like and vice versa, just say "your place or mine"? Just a suggestion. But women pull this sh1t to. The world were living in now isn't normal.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Why does this happen?
Posted: 4/18/2016 5:12:00 PM
Probably because you didn't put out for him lol.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Dating Trend? Ladies please step forward!
Posted: 4/17/2016 1:19:42 AM
Achorus,
I'm sure many on here have had pretty much the same experience. I do believe some of it is the fact your on primarily a free dating site. So, it attracts all kinds. Perhaps you should try a site where all the users have to pay. I've found that if people have to invest money, they take things (in this case dating and finding a soulmate) more seriously. Unfortunately, it seems the whole dating world has become more complex. I have a tendency to think old (online dating) has helped make it this way. Old seems to have created a sense of complacency where many users of it are always thinking if someone isn't the one, there's always another potential suitor a mouse click away. Which even if true, I do believe is a self defeating attitude to have. It makes sense, because when people think this way, there not putting all of their positive energy and motivation into the person they should be focused on (their date). Their not really giving them a fair chance. This is what I heard on the John Tesh radio show as the number one reason many can't succeed in old. Don't follow Ladyinred's lead, as that's another defeating attitude to have the "lets be friends first ideology". It only complicates and muddy's the waters even more. I've heard of others who tried that out, or so they thought, only to see it all fail. Any healthy relationship should never follow one specific person's idea on the course it should take. Imo, people who say lets be friends first are just a controlling dictators trying to disguise themselves. I've always thought, for a friendship/relationship whatever you want think of it as to work, it should be kept as simple as possible. If you stick to your guns, you should find some like minded man who you like and likes you, and take it from there.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
where do i go from here
Posted: 4/10/2016 8:41:04 PM
jason,
The first two responders gave accutrate run downs for you in my estimation. But her indirect message I would say is, "I'm horny and you have a chance with me if you just want to play for now". Lol, you know most people don't want to look so pathetic as to have to ask for sex, and they won't. They'll give you hints.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Age limits on messaging
Posted: 3/23/2016 11:28:34 PM
Instructional,

Yeah, welcome to pof, "place of formality". I've never agreed with this anal rule. I figure as long as two people are adults, it should be up to them to decide. But I find here in Canada, many of us Canadians like to believe were so close to perfectly formal compared with the rest of the world. Yes, were overly pretentious imo. Another angle this rule could be argued, is that if someone were to live to a very ripe old age and still want to be on pof, and they were 14 years older than everyone else, they would be screwed. Yeah, what if an 85 year old were to try this out, but couldn't for the ife of him find anyone close to his age? It's age descrimination.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Sex! I am old fashioned and women dont like Taking things slow
Posted: 3/19/2016 1:40:52 AM
Too complicated of a logic. If I meet a woman who says that, I can't be bothered with them. And I hoped for relationships to with the right woman.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 26 (view)
 
I think I found somebody, Finally, but theres a problem.
Posted: 3/5/2016 12:15:02 AM
What is an able bodied blind person? Some blind people can get around by themselves using a cane or with the use of a seeing eye dog. I even seen one blind man on yahoo news who could move around using echo location as I think it's known as. The same technique that bats use in flight for navigation and hunting.

And to Bamgrl68,
A public place should be safe for anyone to meet someone. If their that worried about meeting someone and all the negative possibilities, then their just being paranoid. And if anyone is that paranoid that they can't meet someone in a public place, then they should not be dating.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
I think I found somebody, Finally, but theres a problem.
Posted: 3/4/2016 4:12:32 PM
My oh my, that's a different problem I've never heard of before. Okay, I have to ask this, do you know for sure she's blind? You would be surprised at the lengths some people are willing to go to for their own stupid messed up fun these days. But first thing I thought of, is don't agree to go on a first date with her under these circumstances. I mean, if she's an able bodied blind person with a dog, or somehow can get around independently on her own, why should she need a friend with her just to supposedly describe you? I don't see why if she is able to be alone, why she can't meet you publicly at first and take it from there. In todays world, people have access to social media and other forms of being able to transfer pictures. If she really just wants to know what you look like, why couldn't she just settle on accepting a picture from you and have her friend/s describe you based on it? To me just the thought of having a tag along on a first date for the reason you described sounds a tad shady. If you were to meet her like I said and all went well, then maybe her having a tag along for a second date may work better. I think that even despite her disability, she should be allowed and able as an adult to form her own opinion of you by meeting just you. And if her knowing what you look like is that important to her, if she doesn't want to go entirely with how you would describe yourself, she could ask others around her to describe you for her if they were up to it, knowing that she's blind.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Are women on POF actually looking for a relationship?
Posted: 3/4/2016 3:55:58 PM
Op, your right! Many women are on here for the attention. The conclusion I've come to now after having online dated now for years, is that many women are liars. And if there's one thing more messed up than being a red faced liar, is that many of these women claim that men are liars. It's like their trying to defer guilt off of themselves and place it back on the people they misled and lied to. They complain in their profiles and have headline rants like: This sites pathetic, any honest men? Or, "Are their any normal men left"? I know some men are infact liars as well, but I now believe that some of those men are liars just because their sick of women's catty deceitful ways. You know the old expression, "what comes around goes around". I'm convinced that it's just a recreational pursuit of many women to delibaretley mislead men to see how much they can get away with. That I believe is just one reason. I think many women pull this crap to see what men are the most confident and able to stand their ground and not waiver in the face of their deceitful ways.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 579 (view)
 
who pays
Posted: 3/4/2016 3:32:07 PM
I don't think it's universal in any & all circumstances, that if a gal is into you, you don't have to spend a cent on her. It's circumstantial. For instance, if you ask her out to dinner on an Initial date, and you're wanting a raw split -- she can understandably lose interest without entitlement. You asked her out on an initial date. I think the POV you present in it's universal standing is more with college kids living on/around campus hanging out where guys (nor many people) aren't expected to have much bank to work with... or a gal being Clearly ga-ga about a guy, chasing Him and and/or asking him out. But picking up the tab? A gal can lose interest in many situations & circumstances -- with either the Entitlement complex, or not really having it.

norwegianguy456,

Your mistaken. You see, if a woman or man has an attitude and makes any issue of money, then their priorities are messed up. Someone who has humility and is a genuinely nice thoughtful person towards others would be able to appreciate the greater possibilities. People who make issue's with money under such circumstances are just displaying how dating in their view is a psychological game off one up-manship. If a woman were to approach me and express what seemed like sincere interest in me and asked me to join her for dinner, and if I liked the vibe I got from her, chances are I would accept on the grounds I just wanted to get to know her better. It wouldn't matter to me if she stated she would rather go dutch in advance, or even if it was decided at the moment of receiving the dinner bill to go dutch. I would just be greatful of the opportunity she presented me with. get it now?
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 528 (view)
 
who pays
Posted: 2/29/2016 6:50:44 PM
markmywords,

How could you be such a sucker? So I take it you haven't yet learned that if a woman is into you, you shouldn't have to spend a cent on her. And spoiling them likely won't make any difference, especially with ingrates like her. She obviously has a strong sense of entitlement. She thinks she's gods gift to men. And it should have been obvious after two dates with her that money is what matters more to her than anything. She didn't deserve any further attention. Jeez, after reading your query I'm begining to think I'm not so gullable as I once thought since I've often paid on first dates as well, but if a woman doesn't seem to care about money at all, or makes issue of money, I more less give up on them.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 82 (view)
 
MEN What's up with the dick pics??!!
Posted: 1/11/2016 5:58:12 PM
Op, Your profile is somewhat provocative imo. First off, your on a dating site, you state your seeking a man, but then say your married and your status is your not single/not looking. Confusing. Your pictures are nice, but you do imo once again have bedroom eyes and some of your poses look tantalizing. So, some men may just read into you as someone to fool with in a provocative way. But I agree with you that pic's of this nature should only be game for a more serious relationship.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 155 (view)
 
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 7/4/2015 10:32:34 AM
running,

What are you talking about? What's me going down on women got to do with the op's question and how I answered it? Were not discussing oral sex here duh!!! And I'm assuming since your on pof your single as well, so lay off! And you can in a way take back an asked question if you immediatley recant before they respond. You can simply state "I shouldn't have asked that" you don't have to answer. Then if they still answer, they voluntarily gave up the information.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 153 (view)
 
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 7/4/2015 7:30:55 AM
If a woman has slept with the neighborhood, fine! The thing is I don't want to hear about it. Rumors can just be rumors. It's just one of those things that's best kept private. Think of it like you find out something about a best friend or admired and loved relative that could well be a deal breaker. Then your wallowing afterwards thinking that if you hadn't found out whatever you found out your relationship would still be a good one. But now you found out per say your brother shot and killed many people while serving for his country when you somehow may have thought he never had harmed anyone else. Once the secret is out it changes things for good. And I've heard first hand of that scenario I used as an analogy going down. I don't know if it's a good comparison or not, but I used it anyway.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Having Sex with Ugly Girls for Practice and Technique
Posted: 6/22/2015 11:19:49 PM
Bbarker88,

Nice attempt at your devil's advocate game. But I've still seen much better lol. You see people, I'm pretty sure that's what it is, he's playing the role of the bad guy, or trying to. One has to think like the devil to play devil's advocate.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
If you personally owned POF what would you change about it?
Posted: 5/29/2015 9:53:44 PM
Get rid of these anal age block restrictions. Where two adults who I believe are 15 years apart can't communicate. I think that's stupid. Adults should be allowed to communicate. And if one doesn't want to communicate back, that's their perogative. As well, change up how these forums posts work. Where after so much time has passed on a thread it auto deletes. I'm sure there's a way to make that possible. So then if someone comes up with a similar thread idea, they could post it without all this harrasment of having posted a redundent thread. I find some of the forum posting rules to be overly stringent.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 43 (view)
 
how long do you take before asking for a number?
Posted: 5/19/2015 9:06:16 PM
The only numbers I like getting are their measurments. Frankly, I think getting numbers is pointless. It just opens up the door to playing text or telephone tag, a game that many online daters seem to do well if you enable them to. Now if I meet someone online I usually offer up my number first. So that way if they choose to call or text, they can. And if they don't, then I know they weren't all that serious about meeting me or perhaps anyone and their indecisive and hesitent. And I've found out from trial and error those people are more headaches than their worth no matter how much you hope and try to make things work with them.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Knowing if this girl is single
Posted: 4/27/2015 11:52:32 PM
Oh brother....lol. If you don't want to straight up ask her, you can go the not so direct approach by asking her something like this:

Presuming she goes alone, hey Kelly (that's what I'll call her) do you ever come with any of your lady friends or your bf if you have one? Most smarter intuitive women will know why your asking that question, to find out if they have a bf and are therefore single. For that matter, I think I would much rather go the more direct route by just asking if their single. If she's mutually interested in you, she may take the initiative to express her interest back in you. If she is single and doesn't express much of an interest back by maybe not giving a friendly laugh response to your question and or lacking a smile, it could be that she's just shy. But regardless you should be able to find out if she's single or not.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 18 (view)
 
POF Contact Us
Posted: 4/15/2015 8:04:23 PM
No no no, there's no need to go that route. Like I said in my second last post, pof I still consider a good service overall. I just don't like it if I think something I enjoy ends up on a road to possible ruin. I've never been one to shy away from speaking my mind on things that matter to me. I'm not gonna make a stink much more than this just because some prudes won't allow us men to show off our physiques and feel the need to babysit adults who embrace and appreciate the concept of freedom of choice.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
POF Contact Us
Posted: 4/15/2015 2:49:43 PM
Well, if they want too show their genitalia they deserve too have thier accounts deleted. But women could end up posting pictures of themselves in bikini's that may end up showing a bit more than expected to, yet I still view profiles of them in bikini's. It's a stupid double standard period. I don't like ranting like this, but I just find it annoying when people create something good and then begin to ultimately spoil it in ways by pushing too many stringent rules. And here I am a Canadian knocking many of my fellow Canucks on this, since we seem bad for doing this. It's like we feel the need to be perceived as so perfect that it disgusts me at times. It just baffles me why we care so much about what others may think.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
POF Contact Us
Posted: 4/14/2015 2:37:34 PM
Of course I would not expect them to allow topless photos of women duh!!! But if women can get away with posting revealing body shots (wearing bikinis) I don't see what the problem is with men posting shirtless photo's. You know what I mean. I just don't get why so many Canadians are so particular about some things, I thought Canada was suppose to be a free country, yet we have rules and regulations it seems being jammed down are throats and coming out are a^*'s. I felt it was going too far when they put all these age block restrictions in place a year or so ago. If two adults over 18 who are 15 years apart want too talk they should be allowed to! I think overall pof is a great site and service, but this is going too far. And here we tell are troops serving and fighting for Canada thet it's for our freedom...please. And I wouldn't be surprised if I somehow were punished for making this post. It's funny how dictators don't like being told their dictators.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
POF Contact Us
Posted: 4/13/2015 9:14:49 PM
All I would like to know is why have I noticed on a few occasions that some female users were ablt to have bikini photo's of themselves posted on their profiles, when male profiles without shirts, the picture is deleted? What's so bad about a man without a shirt on? Why is there this double standard?
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Let's be friends
Posted: 3/12/2015 10:30:07 PM
She probably just lost her nerve over thinking it all. It's baffled me before when I've heard of this. The way I see it, people sometimes make too much of intimacy, they worry about how it could change things. However after reading your thread I noticed how you like many seem eager to rate your date. You mentioned so many times how the date went so well. Whenever I read this or hear it talked about "the great date", I always have to wonder "what makes a date great to this person"? I actually try not to do that "rate a date". I don't know for sure why, I guess I figure it doesn't neccessarily matter what I thought of it so much wether it was good or not so good. I just tell myself if she likes me I'll know it, and take it from there. As far as friends first go, if I hear those words, I have a tendency now to write them off. Especially if it's how they approach me, asking me if I would like to be friends first. It's never worked for me in the past when a woman said that. I figure, no good friendship would start off by someone dictating to me or anyone how they think the course of a friendship should go.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 84 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 3/9/2015 4:58:48 PM
Just do your next conquest a favor.....don't assume your hard on is enough.

Awww, I never have assumed that. That's why like I said in a previous response I love to focus on doing oral and fourplay. From some of my experiences and going by what I've heard from other men, it seems it's often women who are timid or even reluctant in some cases to do oral on a man. Which is a dissapointment, if they won't reciprocate. And on a few occassions I've had lazy lovers who just seem to think that if their naked and laying there with their legs spread or bent over that, that should be enough effort on their part. That's a major dissapointment, because then their the ones assuming not myself.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 3/9/2015 1:34:28 PM
Next time Salty instead of flowers why not just
leave some cash on the nightstand! : )

Hearton64,

Why would you put a man up too that? You think I should have paid her for her time, as if she were a prostitute? I thought flowers would mean more to her. Money offered in a situation like that can have nasty ramifications, unless it's agreed upon straight up before anything happens. I've heard of at least one scenario like that where money was offered after sex, I take it as a sarcastic gesture and the s^1t hit the fan big time. And how could a man with "Hardcore ED" as you put it really have any upper hand on a man who could get it up fast and have an erection you could hang a full ice cream bucket off of? Any man with ed, is restricted to using his mouth, fingers and perhaps a toy to get a woman off, as no limp di^k can go into a vagina.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 3/9/2015 8:29:20 AM
" It just sort of stumps me how any man can suck at sex as long as he can get it up". ..salty_blumist

Seriously? I'm embarrassed for you.

Okay, I'll tell you all this. Many years ago I derived that synopsis from a close female relative for whom I was able to overhear a conversation that she had with a female friend, regarding men and sex. She's (my relative) many years older than me and her husband at the time I think was around about 12 years older than her. What I recall hearing her say to her friend was that "As long as they (the man) can get it up". Probably because her friend had doubted this and that about the male performance. And from that conversation I came to gather that my relatives hubby was likely unable to perform at all at times simply because he couldn't get it up, or had troubles doing so. So there you go surprise surprise people, it came from a woman. So now what are you all going to do take jabs at my relative?
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 3/8/2015 6:50:11 PM
But since your main objective seems to be to
Get your sexual needs met it's not surprising
you can't handle more than ONS's.

I just hope the women you're convincing
you "care" don't care either.

That way no one gets hurt.

Well, I perceived those as rather hurtful words. How do you figure I can't handle more than ons's? I've at least twice had relationships that started after ons's. So that just goes to show that some women I've been with do care. So there! It never ceases to amaze me how it seems a natural inclination by the majority of women to detest men who just want to enjoy an adventirous sex life. If a woman just wants me for sex and she's decent and respectful about it, that's alright with me. Unlike most women who like to whine and complain claiming too have been used for sex, I don't see it that way, we just made ourselves that much more useful to the benefit of us both. And we didn't need to stoop to using some inanimate object to pleasure ourselves.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 3/8/2015 1:29:31 AM
Sue Johanson really said all that? Lol, maybe she's going a bit senile these days. I have a hard time believing Sue would have said some of that. A guy has to have a really big penis to be a good lover...lol. I never forget a woman has a clitoris, in fact It's usually the first thing I pay attention to when I head south on a woman. I've been told I know what I'm doing. And for all of you who want to doubt me still that I don't really care at all for a woman who I have a ons with, on one occasion with that one woman I've made reference to a few times already, I actually bought her a bouquet of flowers afterwards and left them on her door step with a short note attached. Do you think I would have done that if I really didn't care for her at all?
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 3/6/2015 10:28:25 PM
Oh good lord....just admit all you "Care" about it getting laid and stop with the line of bull!!
Not one person is ever going to believe you "care and respect" about some chick you just met in a bar....you actually have to get to know someone (for longer than a few hours) to be able to figure out if they are worthy of being cared about and respected....

Friggin classic player talk you got going on!!!

MsMicki, you can call me a bulltweeter and player all you want. But it's true about me. I'm different than most others and like a friendly dog, can take a liking to a nice person rather easy. And if I sense she likes me and I'm attracted to her, I'll suggest that she should take me home with her lol. Sometimes I'll sauce it up and offer to do nice things like a massage (body massage), or tell them I'm a great cook (even though I'm far from a red seal chef) lol. You see, I make great omlettes and bacon cheese burgers, but I don't tell them about the burgers; I prefer to keep that a secret until the day I make them a burger. And the one woman I was making reference to that I said I really came to like, we were still good friends afterwards. However, I knew or suspected she was only looking for a ons. That's my story and I'm sticking with it! Besides, it makes no difference to me if none of you want to believe me, as long as I can convince the woman who's pant's I want in, that's all that matters.

@BelleAtlantic

I can't believe I'm having this debate with a woman who seems to know so much about vibrators and dildo's and seems so obsessed with them that she would probably rather see the statue of liberty holding one of them instead of a torch.You don't know what problems are with a man in bed until you end up with a man who's suffering from ed. Trust me on this, I'm good friends with Sue Johanson and if there's one person who know's just about everything about sex, it's her.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 3/6/2015 6:12:27 PM
@BelleAtlantic

Sure you care about her, right up to the second you "cum", then onto the next ONS

Who are you to speak for me? All you know about me is what you make of what you read that I write. I've actually really come to like one woman I had a ons with. I've never stopped thinking of her, and there have been some others as well, and unfortunately some I wish I could totally forget about.

She was just too lazy to try to figure out how to use the toy

And who are you to speak for a woman you don't know at all? You never can know the whole story unless you hear it directly from the person explaining it.

@ Hearton64

I know condoms aren't 100 % safe; I learned that first hand when a few of the regular sized ones I use to go with broke on me lol. Now I by the extra larges. But condoms are about the equivelant to wearing a seatbelt when you drive a car, they supposedly make you that much safer if involved in an accident, but don't offer total protection.

AND I blew him in the first date!
How's that for risky behavior?

All I can say to that is TMI.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 3/6/2015 2:19:37 PM
Yeah it's a real shame that you think instead
we should risk disease,reputation and not even getting off
with strangers so you can get some more easily?

Oh brother. Living each day of out lives is a risk. When your out on the street, you could be hit by a vehicle, or be in a car accident. Are you going to quit walking on the street or driving because of the risk's involved? Or never get on an airplane because of all the potential dangers that could coincide being on a plane? If your that worried about std's, that's why there are condoms.

@BelleAtlantic
a one-night stand is just risking it with someone you don't care about

If I choose to have sex with a woman even if it could just end up being a one time thing, I do care about them. I mean,if I'm attracted to them and vice versa and they seem decent enough and are nice to talk to and be around, then I can respect them. Sometimes it dumbfounds me how some other people are so challenged this way to appreciate others and not be able to take them at face value.

And if your gaurenteed an orgasm everytime you use your bob, good for you. But for all of you women on here who sing the praises for the "BOB", I know one woman once told me she couldn't get herself off with one, and that the real thing was always best for her. And I can't recalll ever seeing anyone else misspell the word "cum" lol, your a first.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 3/6/2015 11:46:57 AM
InnerGorilla,

I like that name by the way lol.

Hehehe. Maybe women should go to bars with a sign around their necks that say, "I'm in heat." And men will have to have their sex card.

I once seen a chick out at a bar wearing a t-shirt that read:

"Fvck this I'm going home to masturbate"
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 3/5/2015 10:14:48 PM
Della,

Well if your really that into toys then all the power to you. I just can't fathom having to resort to toys to satisfy me, I prefer flesh over plastic anyday. I believe there could never be a toy made (at least not for me) that could ever come close to feeling as good as a real woman's vagina lol. The funny thing is, I've heard this from other women as well. But it seems so unladylike, since so many women seem to be looking for a romantic emotional connection from men in the lead up to and during sex. Some of you are so particular on this point you'll hold off of having sex for sometime before your convinced a man may be the right man to have sex with. So if your resorting to using a toy, your going without any human connection at all. I think it's a shame in a way that some people would rather share themselves with a sex toy rather than another person. This is why I just can't understand why some would be so opposed to a one off sex experience like a one night stand; I mean even if there's no so callled emotional connection, at least your able to experience real sex with another person rather than a dildo, vibrator or pocket pvs$y if your a man.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 3/3/2015 8:04:40 PM
The good old “hard on” has long since gotten some serious competition thanks to the adult toys industry. Saying, any woman looking for just that definitely does not need a man in this day and age!!!

So what are you saying then, you want a man who can some how make his hard on to vibrate like a toy? Or you want a man who will feel more like a dildo than an actual man made penis? Lol. Doesn't sound to realistic to me. Sounds like a case of what I've come to call "technology corruption". Perhaps you should just stick with your toys if that's really what you want.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 240 (view)
 
Does Friends first ever really work?
Posted: 3/2/2015 9:30:23 PM
Friends first is a joke! That could only work on the more gulable desperate types. The key thing for any man to ask himself here when a woman says that, is if she knew you had enough money to swim in, do you think she would dictate to you like that? I say no way! Just look at the likes of some old goat like Donald Trump who has women around him whenever he want's. I would be willing to bet all of his billions that no hopeful woman with an interest in him would dare say that to him or someone even with 2% of his net worth.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Driving Over 100 Miles for You?
Posted: 3/2/2015 9:23:11 PM
Well, I figure any man who drives 50 miles or more should most definitely deserve a good round of hanky panky for sure. If a women drove some distance to meet me, I would be glad to please here. And it would depend on how much fun we had if I would want to make the trip again or if I would want her to once again.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Bad online dating experiences
Posted: 2/24/2015 12:13:06 AM
Well, what's there really to be gained from this thread? I mean, did you just feel like starting some gossip drama? You must have. I like being nice to people in the hopes I can positively influence others. I can recall not to long ago I sent a woman a warm friendly complimenting ice breaker message. But all she seen fit to do was reply back with a disinterested reply. I wasn't asking her anything. She wished me luck in my search. And I enjoyed telling her I wasn't interested in her, but since she was new I thought I would welcome her to the site. But since I didn't like her reply, I enjoyed telling her to "fvC^ 0ff"!
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Developmental stages in online dating?
Posted: 2/21/2015 11:14:08 PM
I can think of two women in my area who have now been on pof for years and they both have stubborness in common. The one tells at leats one blatant lie in her profile, claiming to be a non-smoker, when in fact she smokes fairly often. And her profile hasn't changed at all in the last three years with the exception of one picture added. The other has changed her pictures often, but the profile write up has pretty much stayed the same. Many other women I've noticed constantly come and go. Some are only on pof for a matter of days before they for whatever reason just give up and delete their profiles. The others may stay a while longer until their profile goes dorment or delete it also, and then return with a new name and slightly different profile as a new user. After all of this and other stuff I've learned about female nature, all I can say is now it makes sense to me why some people on here just use this site to hook up. It seems pointless to converse for prolonged periods only to meet and find out why your date is single and likely will be for a long time. But it seems like there's no way of being able to know this for sure unless you meet them. I'm one who believes nobody should judge someone entirely by what you find out conversing online, unless it's something major (like finding out their married).
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
sex/relationship
Posted: 2/20/2015 5:40:10 PM
Op, I hope your not dying literally. And that's your way of saying your desperate...lol. Regardless, do you know if beards and facial hair go over well with women in the UK? Because I'm under the impression that most women in Canada don't like lots of facial hair. I suggest you take Eric's advice and get a profile review. Your profile imo is okay, but just okay. I notice you have sex listed as one of your interests lol. I know you may think it could come accross as humorous and to some maybe. But I think many would view listing sex as an interest as being juvenile. I have troubles seeing how anyone wouldn't be interested in sex.

PS:

Clubby, if you would like some additional info from me, a man who's had a few one nighters over the years, you can message me at: oceanlust@yahoo.com
I would be glad to try and help you out if your up for it.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 2/19/2015 2:27:31 PM
So, you're saying that all the guy has to do is get a hard on, and from there on it's the woman's responsibility to make sex into something worth while?

InnerGorilla,

Is that what it sounds like I'm saying? Well, lets face it women have it much easier than men do this way. If a man can't get it up he's screwed, or better put not screwed lol. But if a woman's having trouble getting aroused all she has to do is apply some lube, and problem solved. And like I stated in my first reply, all of what men do or are expected to do as far as thrusting goes and so on.

@ gtomustang

Don't worry about me mate, I don't have any problems getting laid. Some women like my attitude and those who don't I don't care if they don't. As long as I do my part in the sack, and make them real happy, I'm happy lol.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 2/18/2015 6:39:23 PM
petula1908
Just because a man can get it up and get it off does not mean he is good at sex.
Any idiot can do that.

Oh really now... any idiot can do that lol. Well if that's the case, then who's idea was it to come up with this little blue pill called "Viagra"? Or did someone think that men should take it to get an erection so he could have some place to hang his hat? And I'll add, it's a woman's responsibility to know how to perform sexually. And if she can't, then she souldn't be having sex with a man. And if their not into a man like you said, then why would she be having sex with him?
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Bad sex vs no sex
Posted: 2/16/2015 9:19:08 PM
runningout,

In the last five years I recall ending one relationship after a few in the sack sessions. And because the sex sucked was only one of a few reasons. But I find this interesting coming from a woman; I mean a woman claiming a man presumably sucks at sex. This will probably sound naive me asking this, but how can men suck at sex? It just sort of stumps me how any man can suck at sex as long as he can get it up. And I like to hear every women's reason behind saying this. It's often men who are expected too do the most as far as sex goes (correct me if I'm wrong). I say that because it's usually the man who's able to be in control, unless the woman gets on top and sits right down on the man and more less pins him down that he's unable too do much. But if the woman is on top and sqauting or elevated slightly, men are usually still able to thrust. But that said, it's us men who do the majority of the thrusting, as it's more a male thing. So do you see where I'm coming from? I haven't ever heard of sex being done any other way, as it's the thrusting sensations that create the added stimulations to both partners genitals. That keeps both aroused and should ultimately lead to orgasm, hopefully for both. So with men doing all this, how can we suck at sex? Are you insinuating a lack of intimacy, in the form of kissing and touching in the act? I'm fairly certain I already know what constitutes lame sex from a male standpoint, when the woman is just lethargic and figures after she's naked and laying spread or bent over that should be enough to satisfy her partner.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Hate being lead on.
Posted: 2/12/2015 6:28:14 PM
Get a profile review done, in the profile review section. Your profile imo appears rather slack. It's good you have pictures, but they aren't good ones, have ones that show your face and body better. And your profile is short. Take some time and put some effort into it. See if that gets you any better results. Or even take a look at my profile. My profile gets me replies. Sometimes from women I didn't even contact first. So, there must be something good about it... take note.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
reality check
Posted: 2/12/2015 6:18:16 PM
bearcat444,

What a brilliantly written thread. I think were kindred spirits, as I totally agree with you. It's unfortunate that many others (women more so I believe) Just think too much the opposite and want dating and courtship to go the way they think it should go, I mean dialogue wise. I just don't see why some people put such an emphasis on getting to know someone as they often like to put it. Many who think this way are just so focused on certain personality characteristics that they conider important for a mate too have, that they end up overlooking other vital characteristics too have too make any relationship work. Your idea of discussing sex very early on is a smart idea. The only thing I think that could possibly be better is just deciding too go for it and have sex. But op, the strange twist in all this from what I've heard and experienced myself over the years, is that many people who think like your saying; you know sex first, or discuss it early at least, are often not looking for relationships. Yeah, most are wanting sex, just sex...lol.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 83 (view)
 
First meeting experience.
Posted: 2/9/2015 11:52:30 AM
If you can't be bothered trying to bed us old women, then why do you care what we do? It shouldn't matter to you one way or the other whether we become "more realistic" or not.

Well as it has turned out over the years I've met at least one woman who was very attractive that told me she was 32. We had lots of fun together if you know what I mean. Then I found out at a later date that she had lied to me about her age. She was 40. And this was when I was in my early thirties. I'm not opposed to being with more matured women if they qre attractive and nice. I stated that in my initial thread response after I said that I find women in their late thirties as being old; then I said "however their not too old to have fun with". I likely wouldn't be at all interested in them for a relationship. I would send you a post card like you requested, but I don't have your address.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 62 (view)
 
First meeting experience.
Posted: 2/8/2015 6:22:29 PM
Ahhh, I've had my share of hot women over the years. I can't be bothered trying too bed older women unless their nice people and don't have this air of arrogance that many women do. So no I'm not saying these older women need to lower their standards, just be more realistic. And fyi ouija2025, I am very physically fit. I often play ice hockey and then hit the gym in the same day and work out hard. I wish I could post a shirtless photo just to make you eat your nonsense words...lol, but pof won't allow it.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 57 (view)
 
First meeting experience.
Posted: 2/8/2015 4:20:25 PM
Har har really now? I'm not the athletic body type? Lol, it's too bad that on pof here they seem too allow women to have pictures in bikini's, but won't allow shirtless pic's of men. Because I use to have a shirtless photo posted showing off my 40 year old physique. And I got lots of compliments and still do, by men and women I'll add. I think what pic's I do have are good ones however for body shots. Most do say I have an athletic build. So oija2025, maybe you just didn't have your glass's on or perhaps you should get them or your contacts checked.

And VolkanoKing, I happen to get lots of compliments on my hairstyle lol. And some chicks do dig a bald man in a ball cap. I take it since I seem to have struck a nerve with some of the female pof'rs on her that what I said however hard too take was perceived as true. As the saying goes, "the truth hurts". So you older women instead of playing hard too get, should seriously consider playing easy to get when you have more youthful women to compete with for wether it be companionship or physical affection. You should just make the best of what you still have for men to like, before your so old that men won't want you even just for sex.
 
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