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 AdventurousDan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Willing to relocate for a relationship/help with the message
Posted: 7/6/2015 1:06:47 PM
Thank you ladies but only 3 posts :-(

Removed the sunglasses pic and added a selfie from my desk. I changed the profile pic, will need some newer full body action photos I suppose. I do have a half-length gym pic and a full length of me standing next to the nutcracker. I also state that I'm fit in the body type. I don't want to look like a show-off either.

I already had stated that I have a daughter in high school living with me half time. Not sure how your attention span missed that in the section about me.

Just picking up and moving somewhere in "hope" that the girl of my dreams is in that location seems a bit desperate. Seems my approach of finding the right girl, in the right situation and then one or both of us relocating makes more sense. I live 200 miles from Minneapolis in a rural area so the pond holds few fish here.

More comments/help welcome!
 AdventurousDan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Willing to relocate for a relationship/help with the message
Posted: 7/1/2015 8:37:26 AM
Ladies, please help me out. I live in a rural area that has very few eligible women around. I'm willing to relocate (eventually) if a relationship developed to that point. How do I say that in my profile without scaring off the right girl? Also, is my main pic bad because of the dark glasses?

Thanks for your constructive comments and good luck everyone!
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Am I creepy or something??
Posted: 12/10/2013 7:18:36 AM
Need photos of you smiling! Serious pics seem creepy, but again I'm a guy so who knows?

Profile is too brief. Tell something about yourself. Everyone likes to walk on the beach dude. Stand out from the rest. It seems too generic. Women enjoy humor and a lighter side.

The shirtless pic is a total no-no.

As for your messages........yikes!!! Would YOU respond to you?
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Short men DON'T deserve love...
Posted: 10/8/2013 6:22:11 PM
As an undertall guy I'd respond but learned long ago to never have a war of wits with someone who is unarmed.
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Won't tell me his last name
Posted: 8/2/2013 1:22:17 PM
Unless he is in the witness protection program, there is no logical reason for not providing a last name by the 3rd date. First or 2nd date maybe. #3 and he is hiding something. Ask him why, if you don't like his explanation then tell him that it was nice meeting him but you are moving on.
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Won't tell me his last name
Posted: 8/2/2013 10:49:49 AM
Ask him directly why he is unwilling to tell you. I would not accept a tip toe answer around that question. Fine, if he doesn't want to tell you he should at least be able to provide an acceptable reason why he won't tell you.

If you have his cell # you can go to spokeo dot com or other sites and dig up the info. You might want to do that BEFORE he gives you a name just to see if he is being truthful. Trust but verify.
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Confused and trying to play it cool
Posted: 7/9/2013 12:13:41 PM
Go with your gut.

If you don't then yes, you are indeed crazy.
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Is he interested!?
Posted: 6/10/2013 7:12:09 AM
Good luck and keep us posted.
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Is he interested!?
Posted: 6/7/2013 1:40:47 PM
I know this sounds really simple.........because it is ~

Pick up your phone and call him, do not text. Tell him you are free tomorrow night and was wondering if he would like to join you (fill in the blank)

If he is busy, suggest another day. If he dodges you, just tell him that you will wait to hear from him sometime. Then move on because he isn't interested.
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Too churchy and
Posted: 5/31/2013 11:29:56 AM
You should thank her for the compliments and move on!
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How much of a difference do pictures make?
Posted: 5/17/2013 7:27:46 AM
Keep your pics current and only of you. I dislike seeing pets, group shots etc. You have a dark pic and a couple of group shots. Replace them with better quality close ups and body shots.

We all look at the pics and decide if the vision we see is someone we could imagine being seen in public and waking up next to in the morning. Let's not kid ourselves! Most guys, myself included want someone that is attractive. I don't need a stunning beauty that turns heads but she must take care of herself and have "some" attractive physical attributes.

I have been pleasantly surprised more often than not when meeting someone the first time. Usually they are more attractive or similar in person, although if the pics don't display a body shot that often meant a wide bottom. Not a dealbreaker necessarily, but at least I can visualize without setting a physical standard before actually meeting her. Conversely, I have been told my pictures do not do me justice. I am not at all photogenic - some people have that quality and many of us don't. It took a number of pics of me to find one I am willing to post.
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 16 (view)
 
My turn to face the firing squad...:)
Posted: 5/15/2013 1:52:26 PM
Good job ~ Without better photos though.........................

Stay persistent - there are about 10 guys to every girl out there in Northern MN................it will work though....trust me.
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
No nibbles, so re-written my profile - could do with an opinion
Posted: 2/27/2013 9:31:12 AM
Lose the pic of you in the dress. Yes it is funny, but you have 3 pics of yourself and one of your dog. Your self pics have you, you holding a beer, and you in a dress. That tells me you like to drink and are a cross-dresser.
 AdventurousDan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 14 (view)
 
em I ugly or is my profile just that bad
Posted: 2/26/2013 5:30:03 AM
The biggest problem I see is the grammar is terribly poor. However, that may be good if the girl you are seeking isn't a scholar I suppose. Find a friend that will help you with the grammar part of your profile then work on the message inside of it.
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Profile help for Dan
Posted: 2/25/2013 6:08:07 PM
Well I have gotten a number of replies to my emails...................did a bunch of tweaking here and there, but no major overhaul. In hindsight, I think my batting average is a lot better than most guys for getting responses. I have learned to think through the initial email and make that more interesting than something generic.

Thanks again for the help - anyone else out there that wants to chime in, please do so!
 AdventurousDan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Profile help for Dan
Posted: 2/24/2013 3:19:38 PM
Those are great comments! I mentioned the views perhaps "tongue in cheek" but also just to bump up the thread for more reviews I guess.

I am a CPA but am reluctant to say that in my profile because I don't want to be stereotyped like other accountants. I am really not a typical accountant. I tell people (once I am comfortable with them) that I am a pornstar trapped in a CPA's body. Perhaps I could incorporate something like that in my profile, but obviously won't use the term pornstar! Rockstar Maybe! what do you think of that?

Not sure how I can get away from the judgmental and lecture-ish part some of you mention. I get the part about it being long but not interesting enough to be captivating. Suggestions?

Again great feedback, I appreciate it!
 AdventurousDan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Profile help for Dan
Posted: 2/24/2013 11:54:35 AM
94 views and not a lot of input LOL.

bump to the top
 AdventurousDan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Profile help for Dan
Posted: 2/24/2013 6:36:39 AM
Yes I wondered if I put too much out there. I know that I am being picky. Dating is a tremendous effort and I really want to pass by the women just looking for someone to take care of them but I certainly don't want to sound like a d*ck nor judgmental.

What about the pics? I don't think I'm a toad......which one should be the main profile pic?

Thanks for the feedback......please bring on more!
 AdventurousDan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Profile help for Dan
Posted: 2/23/2013 11:23:06 PM
wow 42 views and only 1 person posted :(
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Profile help for Dan
Posted: 2/23/2013 1:03:35 PM
I don't know where it says "outlook"???????
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Too much?
Posted: 2/23/2013 12:39:23 PM
I thought mine was too wordy.............wow. You wrote quite a story. I didn't read it, but my attention span is pretty short too. Seems like there should be a happy medium somewhere with these profiles. My vote right now is that yours is too long.
 Adventurousdan99
Joined: 12/13/2012
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Profile help for Dan
Posted: 2/23/2013 12:37:04 PM
The usual.......not getting replies to emails and messages. I just updated some photos and edited some things. Let me know what I should add, delete, or modify. Wondering if I am putting too much out there! Thanks a bunch everyone!
 
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