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 Author Thread: 8 yrs and not married?
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
8 yrs and not married?
Posted: 2/18/2008 6:10:54 AM
OP,

Maybe getting off this website would help. Does she know you're here and what you're looking for?

Sorry but, as others pointed out, if the two of you are serious about salvaging this relationship you both need to seek out a counselor. Good luck to you both... And your children.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
why is she calling?
Posted: 10/19/2007 5:19:28 PM
^^^^^ OK, nevermind about my above post. I agree with you!
You DO have a point.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Does it take more willpower for women to be faithful?
Posted: 10/19/2007 4:48:25 PM

its true that women do get hit on more than men, however it's personal integrity and conscience that determine the outcome of going through with the deed...im not driven by impulse or infatuation, because my instinct to be loyal and honest far outweighs desire and temptation...


Very well put! And that's where it isn't gender specific. It is totally up to the individual's values, morals, etc.

Once again, communication is the key.

I'm tired of hearing how both men and women try to justify cheating. If you're so tempted that you're gonna bite, than don't waste your partner's time. Leave the relationship and let your ex move on with thier lives.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
why is she calling?
Posted: 10/19/2007 4:26:56 PM
but then she told me she wanted to see me more, she was mad a few times i was invited to meet friends and family and i didnt go , i know it upset her. but i told her i wanted to be there more but then it got to a point where she stopped inviting me when i really wanted to be there so the tables have turned.


OP,

I can't give you an opinion on why she's calling. As you stated above, she obviously wanted to be with you enough for her to invite you to meet her family. How many times did you turn her down? Did you ever finally meet them? What were your reasons for not meeting them?

Depending on you answers, I'd be more able to give you my 2 cents....

 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Don't Know What You Got....Till It's Gone
Posted: 10/19/2007 4:14:41 PM
Ah.. so very true. I should have listened to my instincts. But when I asked him about
some things, of course he would deny, deny. So,..I hung in there. It is very hard to
let go someone or something we love, like pets even. And, ya I guess I tend to think
about the good times...and not so much the bad. I need to focus on that more, Thanks
All comments are appreciated...


OP,
It's called "selective amnesia".

I've gone through it after I've done the breaking up. Especially when it's fresh and recent. You just tend to think of the good times.

I'd guess it's quite common since somebody somewhere coined the phrase to begin with....
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 141 (view)
 
What is the most important part of a relationship to you?
Posted: 10/19/2007 4:05:06 PM
Trust, trust, trust, honesty, communication, and trust.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Have you ever dated or would you date/marry a perfectionist?
Posted: 10/19/2007 3:53:53 PM
I could never do it. I'm too imperfect.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Venus Butterfly
Posted: 10/16/2007 8:19:10 PM
One finger in her vagina, and the other in her rectum?

I thought that was called the "bowling ball" technique.

Oh, sorry. That would be two in the vagina, and the thumb in the rectum.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Males rating pictures.
Posted: 10/14/2007 10:55:16 PM
The rating system is just bullsh1t. In general, the women rate beautiful women low, and the guy's rate handsome guys low.

You don't want a mercy vote, but you don't want a low vote from the insecure, either.

If I find someone attractive, say a 6 or above, I'll vote on the pic. If I don't find them attractive, I just don't vote.

JMO
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Tatoos or piercings you regret?
Posted: 10/14/2007 10:44:20 PM
My only 2 tattoos represent my children, one on each upper arm. As you go through life, your attitudes change. I don't want to get anything that I would be embarassed to show when I'm 80...

I AM thinking of getting one or two more, but just don't know what yet.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
What is something “kinky” you have been asked to do, and would you do it again?
Posted: 10/14/2007 10:36:53 PM

a girl i dated years ago she enjoyed having her backside licked and yes i would do it again


I thought this was a thread on kinky?

Honestly, like I said in a similar thread regarding fetishes, I've been into both for so long, that they don't seem like a fetish or anything kinky anymore...
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 51 (view)
 
The Truth about Men and Sex?
Posted: 10/14/2007 10:24:47 PM
I think it also has to do with where you are in life and what you're looking for in terms of the relationship. When I was younger, I would definitely jump at the chance to do it on the first date. But in doing so, I also learned that the sex "clouded my judgement", and wound up being in the relationship just for the sex even though the woman had the personality and intelligence of a rock. It didn't last long. But also back then, I didn't give a fu$k. I was just horny...

But now that I'm looking for long term, I'd need to know the woman on a deeper level before the sex. I've learned that the sex is better and more comfortable when we've built a foundation. I'm not talking months down the road, but definitely not before the both of us are exclusive and feel comfortable.

Another point, and it's strictly my opinion, that if the woman is gonna look to get laid on the first date, then am I to believe that that I'm so special that she wouldn't do it with the next guy? I'm D & D free, and intend on staying that way. To be honest, I'd lose interest in her. It's just not what I'm looking for anymore.

If I'm that horny, I'll use my right hand. And If I want the sensation that I'm with someone, I'll use my left...
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Best sex
Posted: 10/14/2007 6:44:24 AM
WTF are you talking about?
Sorry, haven't had my morning coffee yet.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
y do woman say looks dont count its whats in side that dose
Posted: 10/12/2007 10:05:04 PM
OP,

Here's my take on it. This goes for any woman OR man looking for a true relationship. I'm not talking about the few shallow people we all come across now and then. There are always exceptions.

We are looking for both. You need the physical attraction. But that is still subjective. What keeps you hooked is the inside. People's looks will fade with age, but the basic "core" of a person will not ever change till the day you're dead and buried.

That's what keeps you hanging around. That's what everyone means when they say they're looking for their best friend.

Do you choose your friends solely on their looks, or do you choose them because of their personalities...

It's been said time and time again by both sexes, how some hot looking guy/girl doesn't look that hot anymore after you begin to know them. They have ugly personalities, and they become an ugly person in your eyes. It's happened to me more than a few times.

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"
"Beauty is only skin deep"

... Both are cliche' and well known statements, but true none the less.

2 cents worth


 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Why is it he/she and not you?
Posted: 10/12/2007 8:47:38 PM
^^^^^^ I was trying to find a way to word it, but you pretty much said what I wanted to say, word for word.

It may have been things that she did, or things that we did. But I was the catalyst that got the ball rolling to end it.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What turns men on!
Posted: 10/10/2007 2:03:57 PM
Honesty, a kind heart, a positive outlook, ethics, morals, great head......

.....on their shoulders.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
sex
Posted: 10/10/2007 1:13:17 PM
For me, the answer would be no. Sex is way too important a bond to do without. It's the ultimate act of love.

OP,
You're not mentioning if it's by choice, or by other circumstances. Can you elaborate a bit more?
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 46 (view)
 
does your mind wonder while makeing love?
Posted: 10/9/2007 9:24:59 PM
Tantric7777.....

Good "won" !

touche !
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 43 (view)
 
question re: the male crotch grab
Posted: 10/9/2007 9:21:14 PM
^^^^ I know what you mean !
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Ultimate Guy Question
Posted: 10/9/2007 8:24:25 PM
As far as part I goes, it happens to the best of us every now and then for different reasons. If ANY guy on here says it's NEVER happened to them, they're full of shit.

I could give a crap if it were Nicole Kidman or Angelina Jolie. It's not always the woman. There's alot that has to go on between the big head and the little head.

Also:
Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Medication, Excessive smoking, Excessive drinking, Lack of exercise, Bad diet, Too much caffiene, Age... the list is endless. Just about as endless as the amount of threads that ask the same question.

As far as Part II goes, she's NEVER left unsatisfied. It's all about priorities. Not to mention hands, fingers, tongue, mouth, and toys.

As far as what's a girl to do? Be understanding. Don't blame yourself. We're only human, and not 18 anymore.

OOPS, I'm not posting in the "OVER 45" forum.... Maybe some of you guys ARE 18.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
does your mind wonder while makeing love?
Posted: 10/9/2007 7:47:40 PM
No, my mind doesn't "wonder" while making love.

But then again, my mind doesn't "wander" while making love either....

Unless, of course, I'm "wondering" why I'm making love. Then my mind will "wander".

I'm "wondering" why I said that.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 42 (view)
 
question re: the male crotch grab
Posted: 10/9/2007 7:41:16 PM
I don't know why. Maybe it's because I'm Italian. We do everything with our hands. We even talk with our hands, haven't you heard?
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
blind leading the blind
Posted: 10/9/2007 3:57:12 AM
I don't know. You'd have to ask Adam and Eve....

Then she taught her son.

Think about that..... as I watch for the lightning bolt from above to strike me.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Are you guys parinoid about your hair, or lack of?
Posted: 10/8/2007 9:24:26 PM
^^^



If i still had my long blonde hair it would be so much easier being a shy person to meet ladies :) as a teen i no problem getting the girls just because of my hair alone (at least long enough to get to know me and get hooked on my peronsality too).


Hey shylent, check out the women who voted your pic a 10 on your profile. You've got no reason to be paranoid. I'm sure you're doing fine.

As far as me paranoid? Nah, don't think so...

I've been going bald since my early twenties, so I'm used to it.

If a woman isn't interested in me for it (or lack of it), than she can move on. To each his/her own.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 154 (view)
 
Women poking guys in the ass...
Posted: 10/8/2007 1:18:09 PM
^^

YOU ARE GAY. Plus not RIGHT> Go visit a MALE BROTHEL


Aw, c'mon dude. I know you have a copy of "Brokeback Mountain" somewhere in you DVD collection.

I get that you're narrow-minded and closed-minded, but are you homophobic too?

BTW, how many times can you say "fun" in your profile?

Live and let live, brother....
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 52 (view)
 
What *IS* off limits in the bedroom for you??
Posted: 10/8/2007 10:36:44 AM
Nothing is off limits in the bedroom as long as you BOTH are into it.

But yes, I do draw the line on scat and golden showers....... and bestiality.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 150 (view)
 
Women poking guys in the ass...
Posted: 10/8/2007 10:27:04 AM

I bit the b.itch about as hard as I could w/out drawing blood


... THAT wasn't too cool.

Yes it's been done to me. yes it's enjoyable, yes I would do it again.

A closed mind is a terrible waste. Geez, there is SO MUCH fun that can be had in the sack!
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Does finger work need mental preperation?
Posted: 10/8/2007 6:15:31 AM
So it is true that a woman needs to be revved up and ready to go before you can manipulate her vagina?


Msg 6 Response:

Out there.. whoever gets involved with me.. I PROMISE that I will never utter that phrase.


To which I say:

 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Is it cheating or no
Posted: 10/8/2007 6:07:17 AM
Yes, it's cheating.
He's unsuspecting and she's being deceitful.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Why is it?
Posted: 10/8/2007 5:56:13 AM
BTW, I just now read your profile, and I have to agree with Messages 7 and 8... What's up with that?

If you're just dating, or the relationship is just in the "discovery" phase, than I can see you still having the profile that you do. But if you're calling him your boyfriend and the "L" word is coming into play, maybe you should change your profile to reflect the fact that you aren't really looking right now.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Why is it?
Posted: 10/8/2007 5:52:45 AM
Even if you have to ask "just once or twice a month" is too much. Some men don't verbalize, but you should definitely see it in his actions. Maybe he's showing you love and getting "pissed" that you keep asking.

Maybe instead of just asking the question "do you love me", you may need to re-phrase the question.... " I don't feel you love me because you ______ (insert here)". Then see what his answer is.

As is with ALL relationships, COMMUNICATION is the key.

Not to be insulting here, but you seem insecure and whiny. But than again, you haven't touched upon what he does or doesn't do to make you have to ask the question. Elaborate please.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Sex : Does it make or break the interest?
Posted: 10/7/2007 4:04:48 AM
IMO if you're truly looking for a LTR, wait a bit for the sex. Learn to know about the person on an intimate level.
In my personal experiences, sex too early would always "cloud my judgement". That would have the tail wagging the dog.

But that's just me.

2 cents worth
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How do you feel about table for one?
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:11:00 PM
I've never had a problem eating at a restaurant alone. It's just food.
I've never had a problem going to a movie alone. It's just a movie.
I've never had a problem having sex alone.... Oh SH!T, too much information!
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
The thrill of seduction!
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:00:19 PM
They would be all hooched up and sit at the bar waiting for a John.


I'm a John and they never waited for me!

Maybe they should've called my name!
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
so is it so terrible to call a guy pretty???
Posted: 10/6/2007 5:01:19 PM
Don't ever call me pretty.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Are guys turned off by a girl that won't put out on the first date? And why?
Posted: 10/6/2007 8:52:42 AM
No, I wouldn't be turned off at all. In fact, the turn off for me would be if she does....
I'm ultimately looking for long term. IMO, that's not "long term" material. But like I said, It's only MY opinion. Live and let live.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
what is better..fancy dates or casual dates?
Posted: 10/6/2007 4:51:45 AM
By "first date", do you mean after the obligatory coffee at Starbuck's?
That, to me, is the "interview" from which you see if there is any connection at all.

After that, a casual first date would be preferable. A place that lends itself the opportunity to learn more about the other as a "person". A museum, the aquarium, the zoo, an amusement park, a fair, even window shopping in a quaint small town. These types of dates seem to spark up varied conversations, as well as giving you the ability to see how each other acts in a public surrounding. I can learn alot about someone by how they treat others. It may seem boring to some, but it works for me.

Even if you find that the "sparks" aren't there, at least there will be a good diversion until the end of the date... Only the ride home will suck!
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Why Are All The Good Ones Taken?
Posted: 10/4/2007 9:30:23 PM
^^^^ I hope you did too... Keep us posted.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
He Broke my heart.....
Posted: 10/4/2007 12:46:13 PM
^^^^

Now what do I do...I trusted one more time.....and got screwed


Don't ever feel that you can only trust "one more time"...

We've all been there, man, woman, older, younger. I've trusted and been deceived a few times, but I always go into a relationship knowing that everyone is different, and one day the right one WILL come along. With each old relationship is a new lesson learned. I wish all of us luck...
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
should a man call a woman hot or beautiful????
Posted: 10/3/2007 11:08:23 AM
A woman in an evening gown can be called beautiful.
That same woman in a french maid outfit can be called hot.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 23 (view)
 
full body massages- give or get?
Posted: 10/2/2007 1:21:00 PM
Love to give for sure. Head to toe.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Are vaginas all similar looking?
Posted: 10/2/2007 1:15:49 PM
Not at all....... Vaginas are like fingerprints, no two look alike, or taste alike....
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Should me being a breast cancer survivor freak guys out?
Posted: 10/1/2007 7:50:27 PM
No, it wouldn't freak me out.

And I would tell someone sooner than later. Than if he bolts, at least you know YOUR time wasn't wasted on a shallow ignorant man (little boy).

BTW - Wear the affliction you've overcome like a badge of honor.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Why are you trying to sell me the engine b4 I go to the showroom?
Posted: 10/1/2007 7:35:00 PM

Hey, I am a male and I never once "pushed" for sex.


Very true, but sometimes when I'm alone I have to "pull" for sex...
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 67 (view)
 
How to treat a penis - what everyone needs to know!
Posted: 10/1/2007 7:28:03 PM
^^^^ It's called having fun with a post....

BTW - Would you mind translating what you typed?

 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 101 (view)
 
Penis Pride
Posted: 10/1/2007 7:14:03 PM

If I had a dollar for every time a woman told me she was average or athletic and ended up larger in person, I'd be rich. One actually told me that she was a triathlete.


Maybe what she meant was that she was the size of "three athletes".....
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 203 (view)
 
Expain the phrase My children are my top priority?
Posted: 9/30/2007 7:15:40 PM

Yes, I dont have children, BUT I certainly wouldnt be stressing the fact when I'm looking for a relationship that my career/pets/family etc.


Please understand first and foremost, I'm NOT being negative at all about anyone who has a problem with these statements about children.

I'm simply stating that unless you've been fortunate enough to witness the miracle, you will NEVER understand. For those who have not had the chance, either by choice or by other circumstances, from the moment of birth, your very existence and outlook changes on life. That's about as simple as I can put it.

I'd bet a paycheck that any "parent" would agree with me on this.

It always comes down to the same thing... EVERYONE needs to compromise to a point. Weather you have children, or you don't.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
 
DOES THE G-POINT REALLY EXIST
Posted: 9/27/2007 1:11:44 PM
Yes. I've used my middle finger inserted in her vagina palms up. Bend you finger a bit and slide your finger in about 2 -3 inches feeling the "roof". It feels like a little harder or rougher than what surrounds it. Rub with slight pressure either back and forth, or in a small circular motion. Make sure she's wet. And keep at it, don't stop. Just keep asking your lady how it feels best. ... Oh, and TRIM YOUR NAILS!

Happy Orgasming

Thus endeth the lesson.....
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Which way do you fall first Emotionally or Physically?
Posted: 9/26/2007 7:39:01 PM
The physical attraction is the bait and hook, but the emotional attraction is what reels me in.
 john52758
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Eyebrow tattoos?
Posted: 9/26/2007 1:31:29 PM
Hey there ladies,

I recently commented to my co-worker (a woman) that I noticed a woman we'd passed by, that her eyebrows almost seemed too perfect. Without skipping a beat, my friend said that it's quite common now to see some women who shave their eyebrows and have them tattooed on. She also said that some women do this with lip liner too.

I was wondering if this is becoming a common practice. And if so, what are the benefits or reasons for it. I'm not commenting either pro or con. I was just wondering.
Thanks...
 
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