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 Author Thread: Going on a date with NO intention of having sex
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Going on a date with NO intention of having sex
Posted: 3/20/2013 7:51:36 AM
The truth of the matter is that when a man and a woman go on a date only she knows if he is getting laid that night :)
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
How to show interest in a guy without pursuing
Posted: 1/24/2013 6:48:54 AM
send him your number
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
You've very sexy then nothing!
Posted: 1/9/2013 11:41:08 AM
How about when "they" message you first ... your respond with a simple thank you chit chat and nothing back? LMAO
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
how do I respond?
Posted: 12/14/2010 10:32:59 AM
here's an idea ... how about the truth? Put it out there so you both now know what the rules of the game are ....
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Any other women out there in love with a married man???
Posted: 6/30/2010 9:52:04 AM
Tuxgrl

Heard the song "God bless the broken road"? The best is yet to come!
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 36 (view)
 
He has young children
Posted: 6/30/2010 9:48:31 AM
OP ... totally understand your position ... just like single mothers ... you must accept the total package or move on. Good luck!
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Is marriage a burden or a blessing?
Posted: 6/30/2010 9:39:47 AM
If it's not there before the "I do's" then a piece of paper means nothing and won't change a thing. Sadly, many today feel it will ... lol
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
What's a Guy to do?
Posted: 6/29/2010 7:21:38 AM
OP Peppermint pretty much said it all ... just take things one day ... one step at a time as you are setting yourself up for a very hard fall
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
will I come across as a bit slutty?
Posted: 6/14/2010 12:21:43 PM
God for it girl ... you'll see each other at least 1 more time
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Do you want to be be friends/Meet their EX?
Posted: 6/10/2010 12:16:45 PM
OP ... of course if there are kids involved it's a different story ... IMO it's ok to be friends with the "ex" but those types of friendships are best kept at a distance. If the tables were turned how would your GF feel? Seems to me it's time for some honest conversation.
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 34 (view)
 
is it really okay for her to hang out with her ex?
Posted: 6/10/2010 11:58:35 AM
OP ... grow a pair or move on, she's more into him than you.
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
A Simple Yes or No
Posted: 6/10/2010 11:55:03 AM
OP a half truth is the biggest lie of them all. Ya didn't tell the entire story ... why? Did Scott do you in ... you bet'cha why is he telling Mary anything about you .... unless .... is Mary making a big deal out of nothing ... of course, what difference does it make where you meet someone and then date them? Seems there has to be more here than meets the eye ... JMO
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Is it ok to ask for your wedding ring back after divorce?
Posted: 6/10/2010 11:49:15 AM
OP ... three easy words: NOT SO MUCH
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 26 (view)
 
When is it too far?
Posted: 6/10/2010 11:45:33 AM
OP ... you know the answer to your issue but you're looking for someone here to justify why you need to hang around. Girl, you're a fill in a just incase ... from what I see in your profile you should not have any problems finding someone who is into you.
JMO
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Majorly screwed up, what to do...
Posted: 6/10/2010 11:37:22 AM
OP ... something has to be missing here or she just found a way to breakup with you and it's YOUR fault. No contact, not even over the phone ... use your big head this time and read your own posting and then answer it like you were telling someone else your opinion.
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
ye old cashier situation ..yeah i fell for one :P
Posted: 6/3/2010 5:45:17 AM
Dude ... grow a pair and ask her out
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Should I contact my ex?
Posted: 6/3/2010 5:43:29 AM
Way to much missing here ... things that make you go hmmmmmmm
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Cut ties...or bust him on his lies?
Posted: 6/2/2010 12:33:44 PM
OP, I think you already know the answer to your question ... how can you build a relationship (friendship or otherwise) based upon untruths? Ya can't and there will always that spot in your heart when you will question ... is he telling the the whole truth? ... my opinion, confront then dump. Maybe if he knows that had he told the truth from the get go you two may have had a shot but not any more. May save the next girl some issues, but I think not.

Good Luck!
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 61 (view)
 
When eating pu$$y
Posted: 5/28/2010 10:09:31 AM
Halls mentholipitis is the best
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
What should/could I do? Never had sex or any sort of relationship before....
Posted: 5/28/2010 6:21:52 AM
OP ... Rain and the others have given you some very profound and straight up advise. If there is one thing I would give you is to relax and take one day at a time. Things come to us in this life in due time. You cannot force the issue regardless of what it may be. The only thing you can control in this world is you. Find some help with finding yourself son ... one day you too will smile with tons of babes wanting to share with you.
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Breaking up... how considerate to be?
Posted: 5/26/2010 10:35:46 AM
Slip out the back Jack
Make a new plan Stan
No need to be coy Roy ... just set yourself free ............ cut it cold turkey!!!!!!!!!!!
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Anonomous letter-sis-in-law-cheating?
Posted: 5/26/2010 10:32:02 AM
This is turning out to be a good one ..............

OP tell the "sis" to give the letter to the BF ... let him explain it and if she knows him as she should because of talk of marriage she will know from his answer .... JMO
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
To many lovers yes or no
Posted: 5/24/2010 12:36:26 PM
Hell ... I'm old and gray ... when the mind goes ya can't remember so it's all good as long as it keeps staying up for the ride
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 68 (view)
 
MORNING WOOD
Posted: 5/24/2010 12:30:39 PM
gezzzzzzzzz get out of bed and go take a leak ..... then
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
feeling insecure
Posted: 5/13/2010 9:28:06 AM
OP ... girl you've said it yourself previously ... insecurity quickly turns into jealousy and for you two being together the few months you have should be a very big concern. If he is of the same age group as yourself I think you two need to talk about how all of your other relationships ended and why. It seems to me there might be a common thread here that the both of you are over looking. Realizing you can not be attached at the hip so to speak ... someone needs to realize that insecurities and jealousy in any relationship is a killer. JMO, I would seek clinical assistance for the both of you. Your relationship is young and should be the best of the best now ... it's NOT going to get better like it is.

Good luck to the both of you!
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Having sex vs Making love
Posted: 5/11/2010 5:48:40 AM
OP ... JMO, I think he's just trying to say you two are having more than great sex ... don't look too deep into it
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Gay sex but claim to be straight?
Posted: 5/5/2010 10:02:02 AM
JMO … it seems this thread is getting a little off track. I think the OP was more into personal growth and happiness of those who partake in different activities rather than stereotyping someone or exploring their geniality. I believe just recently there was a big country and western artist that came out of the “closet” and she has stated what a relief is was and how she feels so much better about herself … just my opinion … but I feel that was the target of the original post …

“Personally I believe they are and would be much happier and at peace if they just admitted who they really are and lived out in the open.”
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Need advise. Good read also =)
Posted: 5/4/2010 12:20:54 PM
OP ... 83 is spot on ... if you're a friend then be one. It has been said before that the best relationships start as friends and then move to best friends. Just make sure you are not assuming things just because your little head is out thinking the big one. Then there's the drama ... that sometimes goes away with age but some in this world require drama to feel alive ........ I'd be very careful! Now go be a friend!
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Help for a clueless flirt.
Posted: 5/4/2010 12:15:15 PM
Mini ... Princess Diana could make jello shake with her eyes ... eye contact, eye contact, eye contact
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Gay sex but claim to be straight?
Posted: 5/4/2010 10:55:45 AM
OP ... I believe that one must find their place in this life. To perform or to allow sexual acts with the same sex is at best bi-sexual. Personally I believe live and let live even though that's totally not my thing. We must admit to ourselves who and what we are be it a sexual thing or an addiction to be able to move forward in life. JMO
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Help for a clueless flirt.
Posted: 5/4/2010 9:57:06 AM
OP, David's got it ... ya gota hang in there and keep try'en ... one thing though that gets the door open is eye contact with a slight smile and maintain eye contact with a smile as he tells you all of the wonderful things about himself ... you'll figure out what to do next.
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
sexually frustrated
Posted: 5/4/2010 9:48:37 AM
Not sure why I'm posting to such an old posting but ... OP, if you are still having the problem ... give him head first and then get him back hard and he will go all night looking for his second. JMO Or try a little too much
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Sex Maniac???
Posted: 5/4/2010 9:30:51 AM
You go girl ... enjoy the fun and new found toys ... that's what life is all about
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 174 (view)
 
do men like getting more then giving
Posted: 5/3/2010 12:35:38 PM
It is always better to give tna receive as it will always "cum" back to you 10 fold
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
How would you call this :
Posted: 5/3/2010 8:57:21 AM
OP I agree with SASSY ... he may just need a break. LDR are killers even at 2 hours away ... I drive that much to and from work every day ... sometimes ya just need a break to relax and recharge ... give it time ... JMO
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Surprise....
Posted: 4/28/2010 8:25:31 AM
That's one hell of a surprise for sure ... IMO the best thing is to be straight forward and open with him. This is not your fault nor his it's called life. You both played the game and now it's time to pay. Any man worth his salt will stand up and be accountable if given a chance to. Don't wait, sit him down and tell him. Together you two will be able to figure things out.

Good luck!
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Is my male FWB feeling more?
Posted: 4/26/2010 9:33:32 AM
OP ... I guess you need to decide what you need out of your situation. From where I sit .. "Friends" with "Benefits" hmmmmm ya got the benefits part right just maybe not as often as you might like but I guess I need to ask where is the "Friends" part? How often do you hear from your best frineds? Once a day? Twice a week? or once every couple of months? Again my opinion is that you need to redefine what FWB means and then decide if that is in fact what you want and need at this point in your life.
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Creepiness
Posted: 4/26/2010 9:15:28 AM
I'm wondering why this thread was not deleted?
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
here is something to make you shake your head
Posted: 4/23/2010 1:28:50 PM
OP ... ya did good ... go wipe that "sucker" sign off your head and move on ... of course she was counting on your feelings for her to get what she needs ... you may want to also re-think your friendship if it was so easy for her to ask/impose on you JMO
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
My hot landord...
Posted: 4/22/2010 7:51:56 AM
Ya never know ... you might be able to make a deal on the rent

Seriously ... I agree with clam ... let it go ... wait until you get a new place
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Having sex while asleep?
Posted: 4/22/2010 7:18:36 AM
I think you've been possessed and should look up "Exorcist" in the yellow pages


Screw that .... have fun! You might want to see if your SO has a friend for a "sleep over"

 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Figure this shy girl out?
Posted: 4/21/2010 7:34:51 AM
OP ... you have your answers in your own questions ... she's not interested. From all you have said what makes you think she's shy or into you? Seems to be a no brainer to me ... JMO
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Supporting your partner
Posted: 4/21/2010 6:55:10 AM
I want to thank everyone for their advice. I guess I need to say upfront that there is no hidden agenda on my part, we decided that many years ago! I realize also that she is the one who is making herself look bad to those who truly listen. I have told her just how bad and negative she sounds and that I do not want to hear it. If there is an issue it's her man she needs to address and not the entire world. I'm not sure how she's going to react now but I hope she at least tries to resolve her issues with her husband. Thanks again everyone.
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Supporting your partner
Posted: 4/20/2010 12:04:32 PM
Angel I could not agree with you more! If it were me she was ****'en to I would not feel as bad but it's the whole world.
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 671 (view)
 
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/20/2010 11:30:08 AM
Current GF loves for me to go down on her but forget it when it comes to her to do me lol It does bother me but it's not the end of the world.
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Supporting your partner
Posted: 4/20/2010 11:16:22 AM
I have a question for the ladies in hopes of clearing my mind on an issue that has come up with a friend of mine.

I am best friends with a nice girl who is married to another friend of mine. I have known her for years and him for only about a year. Here’s the issue;

It seems the two of them are having some issues … I understand that being her friend she needs to vent … but she tells everyone around her what’s going on and just how bad he is being. Most others fail to realize the there are two sides to every story and it is really putting him in a bad light. It’s almost like she’s seeking pity attention. Of course he is no where around to defend himself and to be honest I do not feel he really should. I have tried to explain to her that it is not in the best interest of their relationship to always be talking bad about him. If she feels the need to, then do it in private so as not to give others the wrong opinion. I feel she should at least be supportive of him in public and then go behind closed doors and tell him how she feels.

My question is … is it appropriate in your mind to correct or to point out issues with your partner in front of others even if they are really out in right field so to speak? Then finally … should I tell him what is going on or do I just keep my mouth shut?
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
 
giving oral for the first time
Posted: 4/19/2010 9:22:36 AM
Just remember that the underside of the head is where all the buttons are ... once you get past that ... you've got it licked
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
sex before marriage for people over 60?
Posted: 4/16/2010 8:05:49 AM
It has been my experience that most women over 50 are ready willing and very able they just needs to feel comfortable and it's all good. A little respect and honesty goes a long way. If marriage is part of her deal before considering sex then she/he must be upfront about it ... who buys a pair of shoes without trying them on for size? JMO
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
how far away is to far?
Posted: 4/16/2010 7:59:54 AM
It's about an hour's drive for me but would consider more for the right one
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Any okay way to encourage a guy to buff up?
Posted: 4/5/2010 10:50:39 AM
Sounds easy ... ask him to join you at the gym or walking you both will benefit
 
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