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 Author Thread: Does sex get better after you hit 40?
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Does sex get better after you hit 40?
Posted: 1/23/2009 7:16:54 PM
Are you kidding me?
Sex after 40?

Sex after 60 is the very best! I have never had so much fun and satisfaction as I have now. I can't believe that I thought what I had at 40 was good. It was so-so. You have no idea the freedom that life experiences bring you. I can be honest about what makes me feel good, and I am not afraid to ask what makes my partner feel good. Viagra? who needs it?

You guys at 40 have so much to look forward to.......
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 267 (view)
 
Do I ever miss physical touch!
Posted: 12/27/2008 5:24:41 PM
OMG yes...

I am a very tactile person, I love to hug and be hugged. Doesn't matter who it is, family, friend, lover, I even hug my ex when I see him. Human nature is conditioned to want closeness to another, human or pet.

I miss being touched (caressed) more than anything. There is something very basic about being touched and touching. It shows that we are social animals at heart. I do relaize that there some who would prefer not to be touched, and that is their choice.
Living alone for the first time in my life(after two marriages and a couple of relationships), it's the one thing I miss more than anything. The thought of never touching someone or having someone touch me again, breaks my heart,
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 163 (view)
 
How to forget someone? How to let go?
Posted: 12/13/2008 10:40:23 AM
Re: Metallica87 (message 155)


[Stage 1 - sadness, depression, crying, heart-broken
Stage 2 - angry, still hurt but mad at yourself for letting your heart go to someone who would just trample all over it.
Stage 3 - numb, looking ahead but afraid, trying to refocus and recenter yourself, trying to make sure and remember everything you learned from the relationship
Stage 4 - liberated, happy, free, energized and in love with yourself]

You are so right about the stages that one goes through after a breakup. It took me 3 years after my husband ended our marriage of 26yrs, to get to #4. Each of the stages was so hard, but eventually I came to realize that I was healing and that I didn't (couldn't) hold a grudge any more. It's been 5 years and now we truly are good friends, we have both moved on to other relationships, and I find him very supportive and caring. I no longer love him as I did, but as a friend. I will never regret the relationship we had, and will always cherish the good times.
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 34 (view)
 
How to forget someone? How to let go?
Posted: 9/27/2008 12:02:14 PM
^^^^ message #40 Great post!

I know it's possible to remain friends with an ex, because I have a great relationship with mine.
He was the one who wanted out of the marriage (after 26 yrs) and I was hurt and angry. It took me a long time to get through the grief and questioning why?, but being someone who never holds a grudge, gradually began to realize that I could be on my own and enjoy my independence.
Now I realize that his decision was the best thing for both of us, we had lost the passion and communication skills that we had in the beginning. Being his friend feels right, I can talk to him about things that we never could before. I like him and he likes me. I guess you could say I have let go of him.
I believe you have to work through the grieving process one day at a time and be patient. It helps to be active and keep in touch with close friends who can support you.
It's healthier if you can remain (or become) friends with your ex, (unless there was abuse, of course)....such a waste of energy to continue the animosity, life is way too short.
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 1238 (view)
 
Why are older women not into younger guys???
Posted: 9/8/2008 11:21:10 AM
^^^^message 1229^^^^

Summer Lee, you are absolutely right!
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Help! I'm gonna be 60! LOL
Posted: 8/17/2008 1:53:14 PM
Hey Rossal!

How you doin' hon....I wish I could make you feel better about turning 62, but you know it's all in the attitude.... I turned 62 eleven days ago, ( I know, I know... it says I'm only 60 now, long story) and to be truthful my life began at 60.....they say life begins at 40? .....BS..... I have lived more life in the past two years than at any time in my past. Trust me, you look fabulous and if you have the right attitude, life will be the best you've ever had.

Personally, I wouldn't trade my life today for anything... I take better care of myself, I'm healthier and have way more fun than I've ever had

The way I look at it....it is what it is and you can't change the date, but you can choose to live your life one day at a time and enjoy every minute of it. I hope you have a great birthday on the 29th Sept ( which is actually my Mom's b'day)..... write me....k?
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 198 (view)
 
What is your favorite type of sex?
Posted: 8/12/2008 5:18:55 PM
^^^^^^ message 229"
:quote: When she's sprawled there all a glow, breathless, giggling, and naked across your bed cause her legs are too rubbery to stand up on and her body is totally exhausted but still wanting more. No word are necessary because you can tell by the look on her face replaying the past events, trying to figure out what of the many things you did to her over the past four hours ranked in the top ten intimate and mind blowing things she has every done. She would probably tell you if her racing mind could form words or she could remember her own name. Ahhhh but that will only happen long after she crawls over and puts her head on your chest and sleeps away the next twelve hours a purring."



Wow...Bubble boy......You hit the nail on the head.....perfect description!
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 171 (view)
 
Get a grip of the reality of your age
Posted: 8/10/2008 4:41:40 PM
^^^^^^^^^Oh yes, I agree...

I feel more attractive and younger than I did in my 30's and 40's when I had a full time job, two teenagers and a husband to take care of. I felt then that I had the troubles of the world on my shoulders and that 'I' was not important.

They say life begins at 40? BS. My life began two years ago, and I am having an amazing time. I am healthier than I have ever been, I have many good friends. I have a great job, am financially independent, enjoy a great social life and I am seeing an amazing guy who's 49. My sex life has improved 100%, (even though I was married twice). I know myself better, I know what I want and I'm not afraid to say it. I didn't go looking for a younger man, but there he was.

I wish I had known back then how good life could be, I don't like to think that I wasted a good deal of my life on inconsequential 'issues', but that is hindsight, and I can only go forward. I have no doubt that I will live a long life and I am looking forward to it.
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Do people really have time to date??
Posted: 8/10/2008 4:00:46 PM
I am in a new relationship with a man who has a 15 yr old daughter and a 19 yr old son. He is also in a profession with very rigid schedules. We discussed right up front (and agreed) how our relationship would be, in the sense that he is very involved in his children's sports and as a coach has to be at all their games and practices. My children are grown and one is married so I am totally un-encumbered, whereas he is only available at certain times. I remember what it was like when my children were in their teens and how demanding they were. As long as I know he wants to be with me whenever he can and enjoys being with me, I am ok with his priority being his children at this point. If I were to make unreasonable demands on him now, our relationship might not survive. Maybe that makes me sound too accommodating, but he is a very decent man and just "rocks my world", so I accept that he has responsibilities that don't include me. I certainly don't feel "used" since I also have a busy life and many good friends, so there is a happy balance. I believe compromise is an important part of ANY relationship.
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 69 (view)
 
His Daughter Was in Charge
Posted: 8/8/2008 5:01:01 PM
^^^^^^^^(Robin64).
I am in a new relationship with a man who has a 15 yr old daughter who is not aware of our relationship at this time. He is also in a profession with very rigid schedules. We discussed right up front (and agreed) how our relationship would be, in the sense that he is very involved in his child's sport and as a coach has to be at all her games and practices. My children are grown and one is married so I am totally un-encumbered, whereas he is only available at certain times. I remember what it was like when my children were in their teens and how demanding they were. As long as I know he wants to be with me whenever he can and enjoys being with me, I am ok with his priority being his child. If I were to make unreasonable demands on him now, our relationship might not survive. Maybe that makes me sound too accommodating, but he is a very decent man and just "rocks my world", so I accept that he has responsibilities that don't include me. I certainly don't feel "used" since I also have a busy life and many good friends, so there is a happy balance. I believe compromise is an important part of ANY relationship.
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Is there too much age difference?
Posted: 10/18/2007 12:23:42 AM
^^Message #22 (Bethlet)

I wholeheartedly agree with you....... I'm currently dating a 45 yr old and having the time of my life. Age is just a number, attitude towards life is what counts.

Where does it say we have to be with someone within a specific age range? Everyone is different, go with your heart and enjoy.


Lizzi
 ~lizzi~
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
 
not sleeping together
Posted: 10/10/2007 8:19:01 PM
^^^^^Message 10 ( Rys)

I resent that remark!!!!
 
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