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 Author Thread: What did he mean I didn't think you toward that direction
 Dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 7 (view)
 
What did he mean I didn't think you toward that direction
Posted: 1/4/2019 8:48:39 AM
It almost sounds as if he is saying he did not think you were into him based on past experiences of your history together. Now that he know this new information gauge his reaction going forward. Still his personal situation is a minefield. You would likely never be anything than an affair for him.
 Dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 11/6/2018 11:53:05 AM
I think pulling out and doing it on the face is strictly a product of the porn industry. You have to see it to know it happened when you are watching. Why would anyone pull out of where ever good place they are to jerk on the face/back, breast?
 Dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 8 (view)
 
I don't get the gag ball in the mouth
Posted: 8/12/2017 8:19:37 AM
This is my curiosity, after doing research it was the only part I didn't understand its purpose. I guess to keep them quiet makes sense. She never said anything about it one way or the other, it was not an interest for her. But for me it was a huh moment. I like the mouth free, and like to hear any sounds coming from her if she likes what I am doing.

Blindfolding worked well. Little tie off worked well. Just wanted to get up to speed on all parts.
 Dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
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I don't get the gag ball in the mouth
Posted: 8/11/2017 7:32:40 AM
I dated a woman earlier this year that was a little into being tied up. That was some new ground for me. I tried to get up to speed pretty quickly. One thing I do not yet get is this gag ball in the mouth. If any of you are into that can you explain that to me. As far as I am concerned that cuts out one very good opening! I also didn't get the hoods over the face. Though in all the things I saw/read it seems to be women doing that to guys or it might just be dumb porn props. I kind of like watching the expressions on the other's face.
 Dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I really messed up.
Posted: 8/20/2016 8:55:28 AM
I am guessing you will have go back to the ex if you want someone to stroke the ego, or the new breasts, becasue the good guy is done with you.
 Dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Would you have a cyber sex relationship with someone if you weren't dating anyone else?
Posted: 7/31/2016 8:06:10 AM
All you really have done is replaced watching porn, if you do that, with watching a real person while pleasuring yourself.

Sadly no one has a relationship with someone they have never met, no matter how much they tell themselves otherwise.

And there is always a repeating theme, he was going to come here, but finances got in the way. Likely he was never going to come he just told you otherwise to get you to take off your clothes so he could see you play with yourself. That was his replacement for porn.

Sorry is this is harsh, but people don't remember things are not told bluntly.
 dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Am I being used or what here?
Posted: 7/8/2015 6:22:26 AM
I have seen people divorcing go into a wait zone to try to force the other person to pay for the lawyers. If both take the same stance it can be years. I would be careful offering to pay for legal fees as they can balloon if the situation turns into a fight or they start contesting things.

It is possible she was married for a long time and this is just a way to keep from having to make those decisions again anytime soon.

But in general people who take years and never have a solid reason why something is taking a much longer period of time than normal have some issues. Maybe not likely cheating with the ex, if that was going on they could easily go back together. By the time a divorce is in the picture people are well past done with each other.

I dated a nurse once that was a little evasive when it came to money matters. I later discovered very much by accident, she had a car accident, that she was not paying her bills and had creditors calling her. Had very bad credit, etc. Thankfully I never loaned or gave her money.

I say being skeptical at this point is reasonable. And if continues fact check what she is telling you.
 dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Penis envy and women's views re: the penis
Posted: 5/28/2015 7:04:30 AM
The only time I am certain a woman envy's is when we are on a hike in the woods and she needs to go to the bathroom. I have had a few tell me while squatting in the bushes they wish they could go like a man when out in nature!
 dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 114 (view)
 
Can guys be bisexual?
Posted: 8/18/2014 7:13:15 AM
Long-time friend came out to the world he was gay a number of years back. He and I stayed friends due to a mutual hobby and we have had a number of discussions about his decision over the years. My friend always said no one was 100 percent straight. I absolutely DO NOT agree with him. I always though it was a good ploy to see if I was interested. But I was not and I have never had any interest in the same sex. I just don't think about.

I do think this thought process has come about more because people who are struggling with the decision use it as good public relations about themselves and sexuality. My friend is very up front he dated and had sex with women to appease his mother, the world, his work friends, etc. But he always knew it was wrong for him. Yet in my personal life, he is the only man I have ever heard say this statement. (I read it a lot on this forum, but I don't experience it in the world or conversations.)

I find most men have a real aversion to sex, or the thought of sex, with their own gender. (Or at least they say so.) If they do not have this aversion then they are struggling gay or that smaller group of people that are truly bi-sexual. I do believe they exist but my life experience has not proven them to be the majority.

In life I have found most people are one way or the other and those that are bi are often on the fence or not ready to come out yet.

I also believe a number of people, probably more than I realize, are so into sex they will try anything.
 dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Hey there messages how are they generated?
Posted: 2/2/2014 1:07:53 PM
Well to the last message I got, something like this:


Hi back, thanks for your message. I looked over your profile and you seem nice, I would enjoy getting to know/talking with you. I live in xxxx. We seem to have some common interests, music, traveling, hiking and the outdoors.

One or two right after I first noticed the pattern were either: hi back. Or in one case I said high back, tell me a little more info about you?
 dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Hey there messages how are they generated?
Posted: 2/2/2014 7:27:49 AM
Thanks I got it and that is exactly what the message said. I knew these were always exactly the same message and I got them from to many people for it to be random.

I did try the Hey there :) reply back once or twice. Sad part was I actually wrote a few responses to people before I noticed the pattern. Always found it odd that if you sent that message and then I responded you would have no reply.

Oh well, live and learn.
 dougtwo
Joined: 1/29/2013
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Hey there messages how are they generated?
Posted: 2/2/2014 6:43:56 AM
After reading the thread about one word messages, I have a slightly different question for female members of POF. I get a number of "Hey There :)" messages. More than 50 percent of the time I respond and get nothing. Is this message generated when you click "I would like to meet" or what ever its called feature? I have dated a few women that say they have a different option to initiate contact than the men do (and perhaps upgraded members have even more options). I find no way to generate that message on my side.

So my question: What can you tell me about what generates the specific message? If its automatic from clicking the like to meet feature I think I will quite responding to them, but if it takes a conscious decision to send then that is another matter. I guess the other alternative is the messages are send out a bunch of guys and they only respond to one or two of the group that reply.

Any thoughts.
 
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