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 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
how would you respond?
Posted: 7/9/2012 9:10:01 AM

Sigmund Freud knows why he did it and how you should respond!

As a toddler he had a fantasy about his mother and wanted to murder his father (this is normal for all toddlers). Therefore as a toddler he is supposed to perceive his father as a threat and panic that his father might castrate him for wanting his mother. This panic is supposed to surpress the inappriopiate desire towards his mother and lead to bonding with the father.


I fail to see how the oedipus complex is relevant to the OP.
To the OP, I can't say for sure how I would react, I suppose I would feel a little let down because although I would have "gotten off" there is more to the sexual experience for me than that part. (to make it relevant to me, I am speaking as if I where blind folded and discovered a woman to have sucked me off since I am gay) After discovering a woman to have done the deed I would just kinda feel awkward, not because a woman got me off, but because I'd be thinking "okay.... now what do I do? And I'd probably let my partner know how awkward that made me feel.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 7/3/2012 3:58:04 PM
Shit, I'm jealous.... I need a good 20 to half an hour if not more to recover.... of course I've been diabetic for over 15 years and I have really intense "throw me around the room" sex... I'm usually immobilized after a good pounding... so, on second thought.... I'm not really that jealous. :)
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 101 (view)
 
God loves gay people ????
Posted: 6/30/2012 6:55:25 AM
Interesting in theis god hates the gays conversation here.... Jesus tells us that he calls upon us to be happy.... well, it's awfully hard to be happy when you have a bunch of "Christians" telling you that what you do is sending you to hell...
Lets not forget to mention that study after study has shown that conversion therapy (therapy to straighten out those gays) is incredibly detrimental to one's psychological well being. WWJD?
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
weird fetish
Posted: 6/28/2012 11:37:33 PM

You have nice booty. I like it and you know it. This boy is weird. May be he is bi-polr. If any man touches my woman he has to answer to my irn fest. Move on.


Yah, what she describes totally meets criteria for bi-polar....
except not at all....

I think three dates is a good time to discuss sexuality, why should he bother investing more time in you, and vice versa for you if you guys are not sexually compatible? It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there like that, but at the end of the day, it is just a fantasy or a fetish, you would need to distinguish. If it's a fantasy, whatever, but if it's a fetish and he would want this to be a "routine" thing and it's a hard limit for you, then yes, do the both of you a favor and move on.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 252 (view)
 
does it matter if he is bisexual?
Posted: 6/6/2012 11:47:34 AM

Not one person, one example. More than 1 million couples in the US have one spouse having same gender sex on the side. (Found this out when I was going through my divorce...There are several support groups .) Most men in the groups described themselves as bisexual or "closet gay" but all preferred same gender sex over sex with a woman. Bottom line is that if she is not bi and he is, it is probably not going to go anywhere good.

I would suggest that there are more than one million couples in the US that have cheated and I would further suggest that the number far outweighs the implications you are making.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 249 (view)
 
does it matter if he is bisexual?
Posted: 6/5/2012 8:58:22 PM

My exhusband is gay and bekieve me, bisexual is just another way of saying gay in denial...

Ohhhhh, one person, one example.... yes, we ought to trust you, I'm sure your one example is much more thoroughly researched and validated than those nitwit psychologists and doctors and psychiatrists....
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 248 (view)
 
does it matter if he is bisexual?
Posted: 6/5/2012 8:55:59 PM

Like what? I'm curious? And do people really think like WHAT?

To answer your question, the general thought process that bisexual people are more likely to cheat, and that bisexuality is just a "cover" for being gay.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 242 (view)
 
does it matter if he is bisexual?
Posted: 6/4/2012 10:11:19 PM

But the better question is...is he FAITHFUL? Cause it doesn't really matter what sexual preference he has. It's whether or not they have the ability to be faithful in the relationship that matters. If he's faithful then you don't have to worry about him stepping out to get anal from some guy, cause he won't. Cause he's faithful. lol

Same can be said about a straight person... or gay, pansexual, hetero/homoflexible person... really any PERSON can be unfaithful.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Gays and Bisexuals
Posted: 6/4/2012 9:18:17 PM

Hmm no, I don't think so. I'm not saying you aren't attracted to both sexes. I'm just saying if you are attracted to, and have sex with, someone of the SAME sex, you are gay. If you are attracted to, and have sex with, someone of the OPPOSITE sex, whatever! You're still gay.


So let me get this straight... er gay? ummm.... straightgay?

So you take the definitions from the dictionary but only determine one as relevant, but the other definition is not?
If you are going to use the source, you have to use the whole source, not just part of it.... unless your a Christian I guess.....
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Gays and Bisexuals
Posted: 6/4/2012 9:11:53 PM

ffs first homos start calling non homos homophobes, and now the homos are bisexualphobes. wtf is gonna come up next? heres a clue , keep your sexual preferences to yourselves, noone cares and its noone elses business, it doesnt matter what our mental issues are, if you make a big deal and parade yourself around like a freak, youll be seen and treated accordingly, what you choose to do in the bedroom is your own business noone elses. why all the focus on who u stick ur****in or whos snatch u munch? when did society start to attribute a persons value and self worth upon who or what they choose to have sex with as opposed to their personal virtues? seems some clown will always start something to get ppl riled up about just to make themselves look or seem more important than they truly are. personally i think homos just act like that for attention , i mean, really, they are still the same as everyone else, just they lack mental strength to create themselves naturally and choose to just fall into a limp wristed passive aggressive misunderstood and uncared about group who only got attention because of infantile temper tantrums and gay pride parades, if they were really proud there would be no need for a parade. and they wouldnt try so hard to get acceptance from the very people they hate the most .


Lets look at the mechanics of what you are suggesting...
I am a gay male, that is, I am a male that is attracted to other men. Society tells us we need to have "partners" wives, husbands, significant others... what have you, and for the most part, people do like to be with other people, it is embedded in our DNA some can admit it, others cannot... whatever, we do though. So, if I am not making it obvious, or advertising the societal expectation of what a gay man does, and other gay men are not doing the same, how do you expect a gay man to find another partner?
Maybe in bigger cities it's different, I understand in Europe it's different (Of course they are light years ahead of us societal speaking) but if I started flirting with every man I found attractive in my podunk hick town, I'd get the ever loving crap beaten out of me. so rather than risk that, and not because they are homophobes, but because apparently to men, our society has deemed it an insult for a man to express attraction to another man that happens to not be gay.

In summation, it is easy for you to suggest such things as I can imagine without looking at your profile, that you are probably speaking from a privileged position, and have no idea of the repercussions of what you suggest.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Can guys be bisexual?
Posted: 6/4/2012 8:54:28 PM
Without sounding like a gay basher, I'm just going to say NO! This is one of those issues that their isn't straddling of the fence... if you like to either give or receive ANY kind of pleasure from a man then... you are gay!


It's interesting when people make these broad statements they know nothing about as if it was factual, then when called to defend their point you don't hear from them again....
Guess it beats admitting you may have been wrong....

P.S you don't sound like a gay basher.... but you do sound pretty ignorant of the subject, perhaps further discussion can enlighten you...
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 240 (view)
 
does it matter if he is bisexual?
Posted: 6/4/2012 8:46:44 PM
there.... is..... SO MUCH STUPID........ in this thread, it's hurting my brain...... People really think like this??? How do you get through life?
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
 
rough sex?
Posted: 6/4/2012 8:39:03 PM

I dont like it.


What you should do seems pretty simple to me... dump his ass, obviously, doing it is another challenge, otherwise you would have done it already. If you don't mind me asking, why haven't you already?
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Can guys be bisexual?
Posted: 5/8/2012 9:34:02 PM

if you like to either give or receive ANY kind of pleasure from a man then... you are gay!

so define "like to" and define "pleasure" while we are at it... define "giving pleasure" or "receiving pleasure"
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Can guys be bisexual?
Posted: 5/8/2012 3:31:48 PM

i think thank god i ant gay

so do we Woodsaw... so do we.
on topic:

Of course a guy can be bisexual, although there is a bit of a misunderstanding about what "bisexuality" is. Don't confuse it with "pansexuality" and some newly understood terms I came across of homoflexible and heteroflexible.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 304 (view)
 
guys who don't like blowjobs
Posted: 4/28/2012 1:26:03 PM
interesting... I skimmed through some of this... so I didn't read it all, if I repeated a point, I am sorry. RE: the guys that don't like blow jobs must be gay.... I know of many men that enjoy getting blow jobs, and I can assure you, they where quite gay. so... um, there goes that idea. RE: insecurities, trauma... lol, God... everyone's a psychologist... Dr. Phil made that happen... Some people like chocolate cake, some don't... some people like vanilla sex, and others don't. Some people like winter, some like summer.... the point is.... different people prefer different things.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Gays and Bisexuals
Posted: 3/6/2012 10:35:18 PM

All bisexual means is that you are attracted to people regardless of gender.


Not exactly, sexuality is not dichotomous, it is fluid and runs on a spectrum. There are more than two genders.
"Bi" simply means two
So a bisexual would mean they have an attraction to two genders.
Gender is about self identification, and how others identify you. It's a very tricky and complex state of being... I'm not sure I completely understand it though, so I could be wrong.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Gays and Bisexuals
Posted: 3/6/2012 10:31:08 PM
This subject is really a bane of mine...
I have never met any gay/lesbian people that hold any dislike or hatred for bi people, but then again I do live in a small community.
One's sexuality is not a determining factor as to whether I like them or not, there are certainly more types of sexuality than the three anyways....
It actually gets me infuriated when people say "pick one" or "they just aren't fully out" they don't need to pick one, they can have either...
I also hate it when people think a bisexual person is more likely to cheat..... goes to show how smart these prejudice people can be....
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 213 (view)
 
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 2/11/2012 8:24:01 AM
domo.... I think I love you
It's too bad you don't have the parts :(
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Too strange? Wierd sexual fettish? Just not normal and gone too far!
Posted: 2/6/2012 4:31:47 PM

Psychology is great as long as you discount freud. The wacko had a obsession with his mother. And Carl Jung went on to prove most of his theories wrong. All his theories are really used for is by law enforcement to catch sex offenders. The mark of an educated mind is entertaining a thought without accepting it: Aristotle

discounting Freud would be discounting 90% of everything we know about psychology.... The idea of any science discipline is to disprove previous theories.... A theory is not sound if it cannot be proven, nor dis proven... Freud may have been off on a number of things, but many of his ideas still hold true, or not dis proven... Although many would disagree with this particular line of Freudism. There are people that identify as "Asexual"
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Bromance?
Posted: 1/31/2012 10:10:07 PM
Hey OP, I am familiar with what you are experiencing, It happened to be my first step to coming out of the closet, but that was me. Bi-curious does not mean you are on your way to being gay or not, it is just that... CURIOUS. sounds like you are open minded and in touch with yourself enough to question these things, and with how "liberal" our society is becoming, it does not surprise me to see many more people asking themselves these same questions. In my experience, finding a friend (especially a close friend) attractive tends to dissipate. there are a couple of my close friends that identify as straight that I found attractive at one time or another, the more I controlled this feeling the less attractive they became to me. eventually, being around them was just like me being around my brother. A few of my straight friends have experimented, some with me before I came out (even knew myself) most of my friends that did this with either myself, or with others just decided after trying it that it wasn't for them... they where curious, they tried it, and they didn't like it.
As it was said earlier though, don't label yourself, labels aren't really very helpful in the real world. This Kinsey scale that has been mentioned is really for labeling participants in studies and whatnot just for "operational definitions" any psychologist will agree with that. If you must though, think of it more like a continuum, some people are a 3 or a 4, but most people will fall anywhere in between certain numbers.

I hope this helps
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Questions about escorts.
Posted: 1/26/2012 10:17:32 PM
OP, first off, before a physical attraction can be made, you need to give her a reason to look, your attitude says it all. there is nothing worse than a person with no confidence, and society tells us that men, in particular should be more confident.
but secondly, and more importantly, when I was straight, the "fat chicks" where always nicer, more fun, and knew how to have sex way better than the skinny ones. and they where way smarter... maybe just a coincidence, but that would be quite the coincidence....
Just sayin'
Seriously though, I know it isn't easy, but try to be more confident, and there really is nothing wrong with a big beautiful woman.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
How do you know when someone is flirting?
Posted: 1/18/2012 10:44:24 PM
Oh my... I forgot all about this thread I made heh....
Lots of good points here, As it has been mentioned, a lot of people seem to be flirtatious just as a normal means of communication. So that leads me to one option... Just gotta respond in like.... but that's my second problem :s how do you flirt? I'm not an especially witty person, and not very quick on my feet, especially when I feel like I may be getting flirted with... (I get really nervous) how does one overcome that? Bout the only pick up line I know is "Nice shoes, wanna ****?" and that doesn't usually go over so well....
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 132 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 11/28/2011 9:40:29 PM
I don't really understand the big deal here... This is really just a variation of domination...
People like to be dominated in many situations, this includes sexually.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 111 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 11/10/2011 4:48:57 PM

WHO the HELL is ANYONE to decide who should have an orgasm or not?

Yes in deed, who is anyone to to decide who should or should not have an orgasm?
It goes both ways, and if the participants are willing no one is in the wrong except the people trying to force their beliefs onto anyone else.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 93 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 11/3/2011 4:36:56 PM

and yes, a 20 yr old is barely more than a child for someone your age.

Are you suggesting that what you think is appropriate for her is what she should be doing? Because it seems like you do not approve of what she wants to do, and as such, you play the "innocence" card... talking her out of this, and into the norm, is that not also taking advantage of a young person's innocence?
This goes both ways people. If this is something she is curious about, she has every right to get into it. She can stop whenever she wants.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 83 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 10/30/2011 10:20:05 PM

Ted, you either ASEXUAL or your not, there is not " Im rather asexual" you either are or you're NOT.


You are creating a false dichotomy here. This is why our society is screwed up about sexuality. Don't ever think for one second that you have ANY business telling someone what they are or are not sexually.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Is masturbation a form of homosexuality?
Posted: 10/26/2011 6:19:02 PM

I've always wondered if gay people do that. Logically it's makes sense. If you are turned on by same sex body then you should find arousal in your own.


Well, I can tell you I don't do that regularly. And when I do, (as of recently because this topic got me curious) it is not sexual attraction to yourself (for me anyways) I can't speak for everyone else though.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 69 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 10/26/2011 6:09:44 PM

The milder interactions with people are okay, like having a meal together, going for a walk, discussing books and TV shows; dating stuff. It's the things like sex and living together and marriage which I wouldn't be comfortable with.


To my understanding about being asexual, there is simply no orientation, as in sex is unappealing, people who are asexual do have a sexuality ie. they jerk off, but not over any particular gender or person. I admit, I do have a hard time wrapping my head around the idea, I figure it's one of those things you have to experience in order to understand it fully. Is it like a sexual anxiety or something? are you just not interested, or does the thought of these kinds of interactions give you anxiety?
I'm just curious.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 68 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 10/26/2011 6:04:35 PM

Are you gay? Why would a normal guy with normal testosterone and all the other right chemistry not want sex? I'm confounded!


I fail to see how being gay has anything to do with being asexual...
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 41 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 10/22/2011 11:52:38 AM
I don't have to. By putting this thread on a public forum, he is opening it to all kinds of comments. Including whether people agree with it or not. You don't get to decide what answers you want. Same goes for all threads. People are giving opinions, maybe some could be more politely phrased, but that's life.

And as a result of this, people are, in fact trolling. That is why many responses are not getting addressed, as was my prior point.
They aren't really looking for responses to their posts, they just want to express anger and close off at that.
Not everyone, mind you, but most.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 39 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 10/22/2011 11:45:25 AM

No they aren't. They are giving their opinions on the thread. It doesn't mean they have to agree with the OP.


Nope, they don't have to agree with what he is into, but he was not asking that question. If you want to discuss whether you agree or disagree with this kind of thing, then create your own thread.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
How do you know when someone is flirting?
Posted: 10/22/2011 11:32:52 AM
So, I have a number of problems that seem to keep me from meeting anyone, and I don't know how to get over them.

First off, I have zero "gaydar" none at all, If Richard Simmons walked up to me on a unicorn on a rainbow path I wouldn't know he was gay. I don't think this is fixable, so whatever, I'll move on.
Secondly, I can't tell if someone is flirting with me, being gay in a fairly conservative city, you have to be more certain of these things before you act. I have no idea how to tell if someone is showing interest, or if they are being nice, or if they are just chatty... What do you guys take note of to determine if someone is flirting with you?
Thirdly, and this is possibly the biggest problem... I don't have a clue how to flirt back. I guess I just don't understand it... why flirt? It's like a game, I don't like playing games like this.... most people claim they don't... Is there a difference between flirting, and playing games? What is the difference? Why can't we just be like
"hey I like you"
"cool, I like you too"
or
"I don't really like you that way"
why the covertness, the sneaking, trickery and tomfoolery?
I just don't get it, can some people explain?
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Is masturbation a form of homosexuality?
Posted: 10/22/2011 11:14:05 AM
Hey, no problem.
Tried to keep it PG for ya
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Deepthroating help!!!
Posted: 10/22/2011 11:12:25 AM
I find breathing in while you go down helps, breath out coming upwards and repeat, also loosen up, you will tense up because you know the gag reflex is coming, it's hard to do, so practice, practice, practice. When I was practicing on a dildo I also found rubbing your throat like a light massage where (my) Adam's apple is helped with my practice. Sounds like Ms. Mickey has some good advice too, I'm gonna try that next time. I'm currently no expert, but I'm definitely getting better.
Good luck.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Is masturbation a form of homosexuality?
Posted: 10/22/2011 11:02:52 AM
Well, I tried it, I did not feel any gayer... I was n't looking at me like "hey I wanna tap that" like I do when looking at someone who peaks my interest. It kinda felt a bit liberating, like a weight lifted from my chest afterwards... beyond regular feel good sensation from said release, there was something else, I can't really describe it....
I think everyone should try it.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 10/22/2011 10:57:25 AM

I'd really like to know how denying a woman her orgasm is practicing chastity. It's not the definition of chastity I'm aware of. Certainly, you getting your rocks off is not practing permanent chastity. Honestly, your idea is just plain bizarre.

To be blunt ma'am, what is bizarre to you is perfectly normal to another. I would suggest his refusal to respond to most of these posts is because frankly, they are trolling.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 36 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 10/22/2011 10:51:16 AM
Motown is partially right.
any kind of relations you are looking for that are not just plain ol vanilla will be met with much hostility here. Fetlife is a good place to meet new people, but it's not really geared towards "dating" or anything like that, which is unfortunate. But, I was surprised at the amount of "kinky" people live in my small community, you likely would be too.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Is he cheating
Posted: 10/22/2011 1:19:35 AM
Depression does cause irrational thoughts ie: he is concerned about his mess even though you obviously are not concerned.
depression does also affect libido, as does most medications. I would agree that a visit to his doctor would be in order. No younger man likes to consider the idea of "help" in that department, and is likely the reason he is resistant to the idea.

As for cheating... pfffft, I have no idea :/ way back in the day of dating girls, one of my g/fs had been cheating on me for like 6 or 7 months before we broke it off.... so I'm kinda clueless in that department.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 10/22/2011 1:12:06 AM

I'd like to answer this one because he is being civil and respectful.
Ok, realistically, one cannot expect a person to go forever without an orgasm. So what do I mean by permanent chastity? It COULD be a number of things:
1. permanent orgasm denial - which might be intriguing to some including me, but not practical
2. being kept locked in a chastity belt full time - which IS a turn on to me
3. making the partner surrender all capabilities of orgasming over to the other partner.

The topic of this thread was NOT one of "women only". Men could be kept in such a condition. Go to any bdsm site and you'll see a considerable number of men who either ARE locked in a chastity belt or WANT to be locked in one. (Yes, I got contacted by a man also, but I'm not into that.)

Note: all actions performed are MUTUALLY CONCENTUAL; nothing is performed against the will of the other person.


Thanks for your response.
I figured you would acknowledge permanent (literally) is not realistic, and I get what you are looking for now. You are right, it is no different than many other things I have seen. Orgasm restriction is pretty popular, you can visit virtually any kink gear site and get chastity devises of multiple variations, from but holes, to vaginas, to penises. It, to my understanding, would be a variation to sensory deprivation, which is quite common ie. blindfolds, plastic wrap, vacuum bags etc... The deprivation of said sense (be it orgasm, sight, hearing etc...) seems more intense when the sense is allowed to occur. I can see this as being quite a turn on for both involved. It is, like any other form of BDSM about a willing surrendering of control.
Often times in my experience and observation the chastity is not exactly "long" term, but it can go on for a few hours. It seems you are into the increased duration, have you done this before with varying lengths of time? If so, do you notice a more intense "release" from your partner with the longer termed chastity?
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Is masturbation a form of homosexuality?
Posted: 10/21/2011 3:12:15 PM

What's the difference between a man looking at himself in a sexual act and getting turned on and him looking at another man naked in a sexual act and getting turned on?

The difference is we are looking at an action, and a response, but we cannot be sure which is which.
Is the looking in the mirror at yourself the action, and getting turned on the response?
or is getting turned on jackin' it the action, and curiosity is the response?

I can imagine you would wonder why someone would be curious to see themselves while getting off, but there are reasons that could explain why a heterosexual man would want to see themselves jack off. These can include getting comfortable with their body. perhaps it builds a more positive body image. gets one in touch with their body just before they orgasm. Or maybe, his girlfriend giggles or smiles when he orgasms every day so he wants to see what's so damn funny....

I don't think very many gay people get "turned on" by their own bodies, but maybe people do. Like I said, I have never done it before... but I will try that out tonight....I'll let ya know
I'll skip the details
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
permanent chastity
Posted: 10/21/2011 3:02:47 PM
The idea is kinda weird to me, but Who is anyone to judge the intentions here? He is honest, upfront, and not hiding anything it seems. In regular sexual relationships there are also unfair exchanges of sexual gratification. Maybe the women who post here experience differently due to their confidence, and resilience, but in most cases regarding women my age and younger that are sexually active, the guy finishes, and thththththththat's all folks, "make me a samich and get me a beer I'm havin' a smoke." So, is this any different?
It seems (correct me if I'm wrong OP) that sex still occurs once the relationship is established, just not the orgasm.
I would be lying if I said I wasn't curious about the why's and the how's though.
Are you talking like never ever kind of thing, or do you mean long term, and by long term, how long?
I ask because you mention both on this thread, but your profile indicates forever-ever.
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Is masturbation a form of homosexuality?
Posted: 10/21/2011 2:45:22 PM
I suppose it would depend on "why" you are looking at yourself in the mirror while jackin' it.
Does the mirror just happen to be there?
did you seek out the mirror?
depending on those answers, more questions must be asked
like are you curious? If so, what are you curious about?
Is this a common thing for guys to do? I have never thought about jackin' it in front of a mirror, I'd feel a bit weird, and I am gay.... but I do get a bit of performance anxiety...
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Little help?
Posted: 10/6/2011 11:22:03 PM
Not sure If I'm allowed to "bump" this, just wondering if there are any new people on the forum to review this... still getting zilch for responses :s
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Gay but Confused
Posted: 10/5/2011 11:48:42 PM
I'm seeing a lot of advice that SOUNDS easy and logical mostly coming from Straight people who will never understand fully what you are going through, or women, who frankly, don't have quite the same problems as men have coming out about their sexuality. I'm not trying to be critical or insulting, but this kind of advice is best seeked from people that have experienced or are experiencing similar problems, not from privileged positions.
I am a 32 year old who was born and raised in a small Podunk town, the dirty little ass-hole of Ontario if you will.
Coming out was a big deal, my mother never took it well, and I was not fully out when my dad passed away, may grandma is cool with it, but she's a brit so that doesn't really count There is some true and valid advice here, If they won't or can't accept you for who you are, you don't need them in your life. That's easy for me to say because yes, as a Canadian I am protected from discrimination based off of sexual orientation, so this probably does not affect me in many important ways such as career and social activities. My biggest help was having a friend that came out before me, and perhaps having one to come out with is also helpful (also my friend that came out was nearly 6 feet tall, about 220 lbs in grade 7 and had a black belt in shodokan...) I would suggest coming out to people you trust and maintain that reason for trust. Be open about it, and willing to engage in conversations about it. One of my religious friends used to pray for me every night for me to find the right woman. We talked about that, and he honestly thought he was doing me right. I explained how I felt it would be like me "praying" for him to find a nice man to settle down with, and just like he is happy with his heterosexuality, I am happy with my homosexuality. We have known each other since grade 3 and we have never been closer friends. One final piece of advice I can give for now (since it's 3 am and I just got off work) realize that words only have power because you give them power, it sounds cheesy, I know, but it has helped me out. Someone calls me a faggot I say "yes, yes I am" doing so makes their words meaningless, in other words... They got nothing.... Same goes for in friendly "jabs" another friend of mine used to say "still gay?" whenever we would talk, that's how we would start out our conversations, eventually one day I said "yep, still straight?" we joke about it still to this day, but they are just that... jokes, don't create hostility where none is intended. I hope this has been helpful in some way or another cause that was a lot of typing
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Too strange? Wierd sexual fettish? Just not normal and gone too far!
Posted: 10/5/2011 3:10:28 PM

so i second that guess im a plain jane cause that is NOT "HOT" something is off mentally an emotionally..

the wheel is spinning but the hamster is dead..


These people often times have a perfectly well functioning hamster in their wheel, and just because you find it "not hot" does not mean otherwise. I find plain ol vanilla sex "not hot" does that mean there is something wrong with those that do? I also find heterosexual sex "not hot" the same applies. It is a little offensive to say something like that, and is a significant attitude that perpetuates the walls people build around their sexuality. Just think, if these walls weren't up, kinky people could leave vanilla people alone, and vice versa :) I know it's not something people do with malicious intent, it's just socialized into us.
I can tell you I had a most excellent and traumatic free childhood, and I have some kinks in me. As long as your kink does not prevent you from leading a normal life and does not cause distress, there really is nothing wrong with them save a few such as pedophilia and whatnot, obviously, other concerns take precedence.
But I digress


can you exsplain why&what bells an lights go off in your head or body that says wow a turn on

It's difficult to explain, much like me asking you to describe how it is you can describe what bells or lights go off when you are having sex, if you compare, there really isn't much difference
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Should I leave the fact that I'm half-gay off my profile?
Posted: 9/25/2011 5:52:43 AM

OMG just read your profile...you are not half gay...you ARE gay

So you know that he is sexually interested in only men by reading his profile eh? funny, I got a very different idea...

OP:
Seems what you may be experiencing is
"straight curious"
You know the idea of bi-curious right? people that may or may not be bisexual or gay but are curious about it.
Sexuality is not something you just are or are not, it is certainly not black and white. Sexuality runs along a spectrum. Sounds like you know what you want, and what you are looking for, though your profile does seem a bit long, maybe it's just the rush, rush, rush of the Western world, we certainly are in a state with our view of many things in the Western world... but I digress...
I'd consider leaving it out of your profile and mentioning it on a more personal level. My reason for saying so:
Well, it hasn't worked so far /shrug
Best of luck to ya.....
(but it's not all it's cracked up to be ;)"
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
straight women and bi men
Posted: 8/20/2011 3:12:04 PM

As one poster on here has been heard to say ...

Don't be greedy ... pick a team.


Why?
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
straight women and bi men
Posted: 8/20/2011 3:11:12 PM
Here's the thing about bisexuals... They can be turned on by either males or females. That does not mean they need to have sex from both of these genders... People worrying about a bisexual cheating on them is a kin to anyone worrying about anyone cheating on them. Bisexuality does not mean "cheater"
 dancingqueen1105
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Is it weird or gay to........
Posted: 8/5/2011 6:40:16 AM
up to his neck in a vagina.... yah, totally gay...
er, um.....
 
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